Being pregnant before marriage, and my boyfriend acts as if he knows nothing, what should I do?

I want to give you a big hug because you are sensible, filial, and you love the other person with all your heart. I can't even imagine how difficult it must have been for you to encounter such a thing during pregnancy.

First, I'm not sure how old you are. If you're in your 30s, you need to decide whether to have the baby. If you're in your early 20s, you can decide whether to...not keep it.

But if the pregnancy lasts long enough, it's not appropriate. Your boyfriend is irrelevant. Your body is the most important thing.

Second, your boyfriend is a scumbag, period. You've done everything you could, and if you still want to consider marrying him, you're crazy. There will be problems in the future, no doubt about it.

You feel like you never graduated when you have to compromise for the rest of your life for a child that hasn't even been born yet.

Third, you have the right to choose who you want to be with, fall in love with, marry, and have children. It is your physical and mental health that matters most.

But when you get to know each other, you have to identify and choose what kind of person he is. You need to recognize that your usual tolerance and withdrawal towards him have created his willfulness and arrogance, and that he doesn't take you seriously.

From the very beginning, it's clear that the relationship and love model is wrong.

Let me be clear: this pattern also has to do with your personality, habits, and hobbies, and even your original family. It is a simple fact that whether in a relationship or marriage, both people are independent individuals. And let me be equally clear that the man cannot be left to his own devices.

However, when it happens to you, it is a painful and helpless reality. This is the end of the online help. You must consider the specific situation comprehensively. After all is said and done, you should become an individual who loves and is loved, rather than one who constantly gives in to and sacrifices for others.

Hello, topic author. I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. I'll give you a warm hug to try to help you feel better.

Even the most level-headed people can misjudge people and encounter the wrong kind of people. It's a pretty common occurrence.

When this kind of thing happens to me, I feel angry, hurt, anxious, and panicky, and that's natural.

But my boyfriend's avoidance makes me even less tolerant and more angry.

The questioner thinks of her boyfriend in everything, but he doesn't seem to appreciate it at all.

Love isn't about one person giving and making endless compromises.

But with mutual respect and affection, the two of them work hard together, looking forward to the future.

Love others and love yourself even more. If I can love myself, I can love others.

Even if others don't love me, I can stand on my own two feet with my own love and support.

Instead of dwelling on the fact that he doesn't love me anymore and feeling like I'm floundering on my own, I need to focus on moving forward.

So, if you're suffering because of a broken heart or cheating, it's likely that you've loved the other person too much and lost yourself in the process.

No matter what, we have to keep loving ourselves and have confidence in ourselves. No matter who leaves me, I have the courage to say goodbye easily.

When it comes to loving yourself, it's not just about loving yourself and becoming selfish. It's also about not compromising yourself, being decisive when you need to say no, and having the courage to leave if you don't feel good.

I hope the questioner can get out of the situation as soon as possible!

I just wanted to say that I love you and I wish you all the best in life!

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

After reading the original poster's description carefully, I feel that this boy is irresponsible, and his family also lacks a sense of responsibility. But if it is really for the sake of the child, think carefully about it: will you be happy in the future?

I'm so excited to tell you something! From a psychological point of view, complete love is made up of three parts: passion, intimacy, and commitment. They are all absolutely essential, but the proportion of the three allocated by different people will differ. This difference is also a manifestation of each of our different views on love, which is so fascinating!

For example, some people value passion more, some value intimacy more, and some value commitment more. There is no right or wrong, just different—and that's what makes us all so unique and special!

But your boyfriend is completely lacking in the commitment department, which means there's plenty of room for improvement!

When we fall in love with someone who is not related to us by blood, it's like we want to be the best for them, give them the best, worry about them, and worry for them. The person we fall in love with is not just anyone, they are a god-like being!

This is the initial passion of love! You'll be infatuated with the other person, think that everything about them is wonderful, want to be with them all the time, and there's a subtle feeling between you. This feeling is very beautiful!

Love is just such a wonderful feeling!

This feeling is absolutely amazing! It's like nothing you've ever experienced before. It's hazy and beautiful, and it feels particularly wonderful.

But one day, as you get to know this person better and better, you'll discover a whole new side to them. The mystery and haze will gradually disappear, and so will your wonderful feelings about them.

As time goes by, your passion for him will fade, and he will no longer seem so perfect and mysterious in your eyes. You may even ask yourself,

How could I have fallen in love with someone like this in the first place? Now that I look at him, I see only his flaws, and I'm excited to work on them together!

It's fascinating how, when we're in love, we see our partner as the most perfect person in the world. But after the initial excitement fades, especially after getting married, we often find it a bit...boring.

This is actually related to the fascinating law of love development. When it comes to love, we often imagine the perfect partner. Before we fully understand the other person, we fantasize in our minds that they are the ideal one, which is a form of self-satisfaction.

When we are in love, we are actually living in a state of self-illusion — and it's a wonderful thing!

It's like when we admire someone. The further away they are in real life, the more we will fill in all the good things in our minds. But one day, when you really step into his life and get the chance to learn about the little things in his life, you suddenly discover that he also has so many flaws, and some of them are even unbearable to you. Gradually, you no longer admire him so much.

If you want to have a long-lasting love, you need to accept the reality that the beautiful feeling of love won't last forever. But here's the good news: once you enter each other's lives, this feeling will gradually fade away.

Be prepared to accept the other person's shortcomings and imperfections. It's only by accepting the ordinary and some imperfections that you can go further!

But are you ready to take the plunge and continue in this kind of relationship?

Absolutely! Love is truly wonderful and pure. But intimacy needs to be nurtured and managed. We need to grasp the three important factors in intimacy: passion, intimacy, and commitment.

Passion is the spark that ignites a connection with your partner. Passion is the sexual component of love and an emotional fascination that makes your heart race and your skin glow!

Your personal appearance and inner charm are key to igniting passion!

A girl doesn't want to do anything because she has a stomachache and can't muster the energy. But then, a phone call comes in! When she finds out it's from her boyfriend, she instantly feels like she has a spring in her step.

The girl's incredible transformation from boredom to joy is the power of passion!

Intimacy is all about those warm, fuzzy feelings that come from being in a romantic relationship. It's about liking and appreciating your partner, taking care of them, expressing yourself, and communicating with them on a deeper level. It's about building a strong, loving bond with the person you love!

When you have something on your mind, you can talk about it with your partner, who will not accuse or criticize you, but instead accept and support you unconditionally. It's so great when you feel that there is a need that has not been met, because you can tell your partner what your need is, and your partner is willing to try their best to meet your need! This is intimacy.

Commitment is all about making the choice to stick with your relationship through thick and thin. It's about having faith and trust in your partner and being there for them through good times and bad. It's about having the expectation of love and being open and honest about it. When you're committed to a relationship, you feel secure and you have shared expectations.

You have principles in your relationship that you both need to adhere to, and you have shared expectations for the future. You plan to go on trips together, go to the movies, go out to dinner, and participate in a public welfare activity...

With commitment, you'll feel totally secure in the relationship. A sense of responsibility will prompt you to take the initiative to repair the relationship after an argument, to find the cause of the conflict, and to create some surprises in the ordinary days.

I believe your boyfriend is capable of so much more! I think you deserve a relationship that is passionate and exciting. If I were you, I would definitely consider leaving, but remember, you have the power to make your own choices and face the consequences.

Best regards!

I'm angry for you. It's wrong to find someone worse than a scumbag. No one in his family understands.

You're to blame. You're too humble and passive.

You can't be humble anymore. You have to fight for what you want. Don't marry him without a fight. Talk to his parents. The child is their son, and they must take responsibility.

Also, be careful. Go to prenatal checkups and keep evidence of all the related expenses for the birth and beyond. If you two can't get married, they will have to pay for some of these expenses.

After marriage, you must work hard to maintain your marriage. You must be independent, inspire him to feel responsible, and make him respect you.

Before marriage, you were passive. After marriage, you must find a way to take control. Don't believe in men's promises. Have your own opinions and raise your children well.

Work hard to enhance your personal charm and self-confidence. Have your own career.

And you must have a way out.

Good luck!