Being sent to work in a foreign location by the company, it's hard to bear the long stay, should I continue?

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

I see you're going through a rough patch at work. It's tough to be in this situation. As for the transfer, it's a big responsibility to move to a different place. It's not ideal if you're just sent somewhere else to work. Did your boss ask for your opinion or just tell you to go? When we're familiar with our environment, it takes time to adjust to a new place and people.

I'm not sure how long the questioner has been working abroad. Has he tried to get to know his new colleagues? Maybe you've been a bit aloof, which has made it harder for you to fit in and get invited to activities.

It's tough to be alone in a new environment when there's no social interaction. It's especially hard when you know everyone else is participating in activities but you're not.

I'm not sure what to do. Should I quit or just keep going? I'm really torn.

1. Be proactive.

The questioner didn't mention much about his social issues in the description. He just said he has no friends in his new environment and no one invites him to activities. When you don't have friends to interact with in a new environment, it can also make you lose interest in the job.

During this period, has the questioner taken the time to observe which colleagues are more friendly and easy to get along with? If so, it might be a good idea to take the initiative to show goodwill and let others know your thoughts. When you treat people sincerely, they will often return the favor with friendly relationships.

Once the social issue is resolved and there's no issue with being responsible at work, the questioner will gradually adapt, rather than just thinking about changing jobs or feeling that this job is a challenge.

2. Know what you need

The questioner is trying to decide whether to stick with the same job or resign. It seems like the environment at this job is what's bothering them. Does the current job make you feel stressed? When we feel stressed and unhappy at work, it's important to think about whether we can make a change. Long-term stress can affect our lives outside of work.

If you're thinking about whether to stick it out or move on, you can talk to the leader who transferred you to see if you can go back. If not, we'll move on to the next issue. The questioner said the new environment isn't good and the lack of social interaction is really tough. If they switch to a new job, which is a new environment with new social interactions, how will the questioner handle it?

Could you apply the same methods to your work situation? Only you know what you need, so first think about what you want, and then decide whether to stay or resign.

3. Set yourself a small goal.

They're not happy about having to adapt to a new environment and socialize, which is making them dissatisfied with their current situation. But they're also worried that quitting their job and becoming unemployed will make them more anxious. Anxiety is an emotion that arises when you feel like you have no control over the future.

Given our concerns about losing our jobs, and the fact that we've been sending out CVs for six months without finding anything suitable, could we take a step back and think about whether our requirements are too high?

We can set ourselves a small goal and ask ourselves why our desired position didn't accept us and what the probable reasons are. Can we see from these reasons a direction that is more in line with our goals?

If there's no better position yet, why not set a smaller goal? You could try integrating with other people, even if it's just one proactive sentence a day. Once you've solved the problem of anxiety, you'll be able to move on from your current situation.

I hope this helps the questioner. Best wishes!