Blaming yourself for being unpromising, unable to let go, how do you get over the pain of a broken heart?

Hello, I'm Fei Yun, your heart exploration coach.

I can see how much you're hurting, trying to hold on to a love that might not be there, and ultimately proving your initial point. You're going through it alone, with no one to understand or share it with, except yourself, slowly, as you stand up again.

Being in love is a choice that allows us to grow and become stronger. I'm here for you and I'm willing to walk through this difficult time with you.

Love makes us blind and selfless, and it can make us fall deeply and irretrievably.

As you said, holding on to a hopeless love and knowing it, all of this shows that you still have a clear idea of what happened in this relationship. Even though you know it's hopeless, you still try your best, and in the end, you are "covered in wounds." This is the magic of love, which "attracts" people to "fly towards the fire like moths" and "risk their lives without hesitation."

There are two kinds of beauty in love: the perfect and happy kind, which is enviable; and the poignant kind, which is heartbreaking because you love but can't have it, and is therefore even more captivating.

Some people say that love makes you irrational. It's not about logic; it's about feelings. So don't be too hard on yourself. We've all been hurt by love at one time or another.

I can also see your strength and clarity of thought. You've learned from your experience and are trying to adjust to move on from this period of grief as soon as possible. My dear, give yourself time and allow your grief to flow naturally.

Breaking up is also a kind of separation, and it's an important step in our personal growth.

I think the best way to honor love is to learn from the relationship and grow as a result.

Everyone we meet is there to help us learn important lessons in life.

The same goes for love. Love is actually a replication of the parent-child relationship. What we seek in love is "ideal parents," longing for unconditional love. So, unconsciously, we use love as a kind of therapy, just to repair the mistakes of our childhood.

We look for a partner who reflects the ideal type of parent. Love isn't about finding someone to accompany us for the rest of our lives. It's about understanding that we're independent people, and our partners are too.

Being in love is a process, not just an outcome. You're ending this relationship with him and saying goodbye to this person. This experience has become a part of your life, and you're sad not because of him, but because you gave your heart and soul to love.

"Many people think that the purpose of marriage is to find a rational other half to complete themselves, and they want to use marriage as a way to deal with their own incompleteness and things they cannot solve independently. In the end, they can only end up in discord." - "Becoming a Better Version of Yourself After a Breakup."

When we experience great joy or great sorrow, our senses are very acute. You can put your various feelings into words, whether you publish them or keep them in your diary. Either way, they're valuable assets that belong to you. First of all, this is a way of self-healing by talking to yourself.

Use the timeline to look back at this relationship in three, five, or ten years' time, and you'll see that your feelings will change. Growth is a process, and it will bring up all kinds of emotions. Be grateful for everything that happens, and let it flow naturally.

I hope this is helpful to you. Best regards, [Name]

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When a loved one leaves or a hopeless relationship ends, people feel heartbroken and at a loss for what to do when it is just over. They don't know how to get over it, and they can't find a panacea for heartbreak.

I am certain that the following sharing will support you in your suffering from heartbreak.

1. You must maintain a regular routine. If you cannot do it on your own, invite someone close to you to accompany and supervise you.

When you're going through a breakup, it's normal to feel a powerful sense of loss. You might even feel like your heart has been ripped out of your chest. It's not uncommon to feel like you can't maintain even the most basic daily routines. Not being able to get up, go to sleep, eat, or work normally can make you feel even more out of control.

You must maintain a routine in your daily life if you want to avoid collapsing completely. It's not easy for someone who has just broken up with someone to complete these usually very ordinary tasks.

You should definitely invite the people close to you to encourage, support, accompany, and supervise you to maintain a normal routine at least in your daily life.

2. You need to give yourself time to mourn the relationship. A ritual farewell is the best way to honor the past.

Hopeless love cannot be retained, but you must care for, nurture, and heal a wounded heart.

It's only natural to want to understand and get rid of the pain, but this only makes it worse. The only way to relieve pain is to face it head on.

When you face the pain, it stops hurting so much.

You need to give this relationship time to mourn. This will help you recover from the pain more easily. If you try to deny and forget the love you felt so deeply, it will cause the love to rebound even more violently.

After some time has passed, you can move on to a real goodbye. Go to places you really wanted to go with your ex and do things together.

You will find a way to respect the relationship in this farewell by giving these unfinished matters a place to rest.

3. Use exploratory narrative to get over a breakup.

Life is not a series of results. It is a continuous process.

You may think this relationship is over, but it's just a chapter in your long life story.

You may not be able to thank the breakup for happening right now, but if you change your perspective, you can create a different story. This wrong relationship will show you what kind of relationship you should avoid and what kind of person is truly right for you.

A person with a positive perspective will feel that "although I have lost my love, I have said goodbye to the wrong person, and I still have a chance to find the right one." A person with a problematic perspective will feel that "I have been dumped, and everything could have been worse."

You can face the unknown with the same probability and believe in positive possibilities. You can create the future you want with positive thoughts.

I am confident that the above sharing will inspire you.

I am a psychologist who does not explore human nature. My focus is on the human heart. I wish you well.

Hello, questioner! I'm Jiang 61.

First of all, thank you for trusting us enough to tell us your problems and seek our help. You ask, "How do I get over the pain of a broken heart when I blame myself for being unpromising, unable to let go?" I've also read your description of this relationship, and I feel very sorry for you. I want to give you a hug and offer you comfort.

Let's look at how we can get out of this together.

Hopeless love

1⃣️, The End

You said, "Finally, it's completely over." It seems like you're feeling some relief.

You say, "I'm holding on to a hopeless love," which makes me think you love with a lot of pain and in a humble way.

It seems like you understand him, knowing that the other person's heart has long since left you. But it also seems like you don't understand him, always hoping that things will turn around after hard work, only to be disappointed.

You blame yourself for "not being able to take it up, and not being able to let it go," which leads to sadness and unhappiness. I finally understand that you haven't let go at all and haven't been relieved.

2⃣️, unwilling to accept

You said, "It's over. From last night until now, my eyes have been swollen from crying and my vision is blurry. I finally understand why Lin Daiyu in Dream of the Red Chamber is always crying. If you aren't in love to the core, how can you be heartbroken over the other person?"

A past with a story

You know the past can't be undone, but you're still heartbroken and in tears because you had a deep, unforgettable love. You were deeply involved, but he pulled away without a trace. It's clear you gave too much in that relationship, and your love was more than his love for you.

? Heartbroken

If I had to describe your current feelings in one word, I'd say you've been heartlessly cut off from the love you've given your all to. It's caused you to be heartbroken and torn apart.

So, you're not ready to accept it.

3⃣️, reflect

You said, "Should I start thinking about how to get over it as soon as possible? It was never going to end well, and I've been trying for too long. Is there any quick fix for a broken heart? Loving someone can be so painful..."

Take a deep breath and think calmly.

Once you've accepted that the relationship is over, you start to think things through, hoping to help yourself move on from the breakup.

It seems you're confused about a few things.

One of the things you're confused about is why loving someone can be so painful.

2. What's causing your pain?

It's clear you've been through a lot, from ending a hopeless love to reluctance and reflection. It's important to figure out what's causing the pain.

1⃣️, your own world

It seems like you're suffering because you're living in your own world, while you think you're living in his world.

My sentence structure:

I say you're living in your own world because you start and end your sentences with "I." You talk about your thoughts and feelings in the "I" sentence. Does he know your thoughts and feelings?

If he knows, how does he respond? If he doesn't know, you're just thinking in your own world with no results. That kind of thinking is meaningless and also makes you worry about the unknown outcome.

Take care of your feelings.

People who live in their own world are more focused on their own feelings and less aware of other people's emotions.

Have you ever thought about how he feels when you're trying to win him back? It's not just about you. His heart is no longer with you. What's the real reason?

Have you ever considered this?

If you're always focused on your own feelings and not paying attention to what others are feeling, you'll end up making decisions based on wishful thinking, which will make you miserable because you won't see a way out.

2⃣️, Unperceived love

What is love?

Love is mutual affection between lovers. It's not about possessing, controlling, or changing others. It's about selfless giving, but not about making oneself live a humble life. It's about achieving mutual success and becoming a better self.

When you give, the energy of love flows freely between two people in love.

Love is only love when you feel it.

Love needs to be expressed. It's not just about saying "I love you," but also about showing it in other ways.

For instance, a hug, a supportive look, and other forms of silent encouragement and understanding.

Love needs to be shared, and it's only when the other person feels the love that it has an impact. For example, no matter how much you do for someone with all your heart and soul, if there's no feedback from the other person, it shows that that's not the kind of love they want, and the love you've given is ineffective.

If you don't understand that love needs to be given and received, you're only giving one-way and getting no feedback, which causes suffering.

3⃣️, ineffective communication

If you communicate effectively at this time, express your feelings to each other, be understanding of each other, and reduce your expectations, your worries will also be reduced. Obviously, in reality, you lack effective communication, so you keep giving each other hope. When there is no hope, you feel exhausted and tired.

3. What to do

1⃣️, face reality

You realize that love is hopeless, so you think about what you should do. It's best to face reality and accept it.

Facing reality helps you see yourself and understand other people's perspectives. Accepting reality lets you move on from the past.

You can start fresh and begin anew.

2⃣️, don't let time slip away

Don't let the past hold you back. Let go of what's left of those wasted emotions, stop the bleeding in time, gather strength, get ready, and greet the next relationship with a new outlook.

3⃣️, learn to see things from other people's points of view

Empathy isn't just about considering your own feelings. It's also about changing your position and standing in the shoes of the other person to think about the same issue. You'll feel differently and understand the other person's thoughts.

To handle relationships, you have to think in both directions. Instead of just looking at things from your own perspective, you have to consider the other person's point of view as well.

This way, you'll understand what others mean. If you handle things with your partner like this, you'll be better at loving and being loved, and you'll get the love you want.

4⃣️, Effective Communication

Effective communication

Communication is basically the exchange of information. It's the whole process of sharing a message with someone in the hope that they'll respond as you expect. If you get a positive response, you've effectively communicated.

Communication includes both verbal and non-verbal messages, with the non-verbal part often being more important than the verbal part. Effective communication is really important when it comes to dealing with close relationships and complex social relationships.

Here are the steps to effective communication:

Step 1: Talk about your feelings, not your emotions.

Step 2: State your needs, not your complaints. Express that you are angry, not that you are angry.

Step 3: Speak up about what you need, not just what you don't like.

Step 4: Share your vision for the future, not just complain about the present. Focus on the end result, not just the immediate situation.

In the past, you didn't communicate effectively with your partner, which made you feel tired, misunderstood, and rejected. You felt aggrieved and sad. Learning to deal with conflicts in intimate relationships and express emotions through effective communication will make your intimate relationship closer and stronger.

Topic master, I'm going to wrap up here. I hope you find this helpful.

If I may, I would like to introduce you to this little friend.

Greetings!

Your question brings to mind a poem by Roy Croft, entitled "Love."

I have a great deal of affection for you.

Not only for your physical appearance,

In addition,

When I'm with you, I feel a certain way.

If I may be so bold, I would like to inquire as to the nature of my appearance.

I have a great deal of affection for you.

Not just for the things you do for me, but also for so much more.

In addition,

If I might make a suggestion, I think you should consider...

If I might make a suggestion, I think I can help.

I hope you know how much I love you.

Perhaps it could be said that you evoke certain feelings in me.

If I may be so bold, I would like to suggest that the truest part of me...

Love is an attachment, but it is also full of passion. While we love the other person, we are actually loving ourselves more. We need to be cared for, crave recognition, and need to be seen, appreciated, and liked for who we really are. We crave oneness with the other person, becoming one with them... Many of our deep-seated needs are met in a romantic relationship.

It is natural to experience pain when a love that seemed hopeless comes to an end. Not only do we lose the lover, but we also lose a part of ourselves in the eyes of the lover. This can have a significant impact on our self-worth, identity, and self-esteem.

Sadness and joy are part and parcel of the human emotional experience. It would be unreasonable to expect anyone to be immune to pain. Sometimes, people's emotional growth requires a certain degree of setback. After a period of emotional attachment, it can take a while to recover.

While the relationship may have come to an end, it is still important to continue developing yourself. You can use this opportunity to explore aspects of yourself through this relationship that has ended.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the kind of person I tend to be attracted to.

I'm curious to know what kind of qualities attract you.

I wonder if I might inquire as to what my emotional pattern with my lover is.

In a romantic relationship, I wonder if I tend to seek intimacy or if I prefer to keep my distance.

I hope you can find the strength to rebuild yourself in this relationship that has come to an end.

I wish you the best in your future endeavors.

I can relate to your situation. I've experienced something similar. You've lost a love that was special, but it's over now. You gave your all, but it wasn't enough.

It's really tough when you're in love and then get rejected. It can feel like it's all over. It's hard to move on from unrequited love.

A lot of people will blame themselves, just like you, and think that if they work hard, they'll get a good result. But that's not how it works out, which is painful and frustrating.

Some people believe that love is a chemical reaction. They say it can only be completed when you meet the right person and react.

This might sound a bit far-fetched, but it actually explains the truth of love to a certain extent. Because often, what inspires us to love is what we want deep down inside.

But what we want isn't always what the other person wants. As the ancients said, "Passionate love is often frustrated by unresponsiveness," which describes this situation.

If one person is feeling passionate but the other person isn't reciprocating, it can lead to emotional pain. This isn't something that can be achieved through hard work.

Love often doesn't make sense. A good relationship is a two-way street.

If only one person is feeling it, it can easily become a one-sided relationship. The person who isn't feeling it can end up feeling unwanted.

A good relationship is a combination of passion, intimacy, and responsibility. If someone in a relationship only enjoys the passion and intimacy, but is unwilling to take responsibility for you, then that person is not worth your devotion.

Passion is the beginning of love, intimacy is the development of love, and responsibility is what keeps love going strong. When a person's heart isn't in it, they won't want to take responsibility for you.

There are plenty of men who are perfectly capable of being nice to women, they just don't do it to the women around them.

You're wondering how to get over a broken heart. The Little Tigers once had a very popular song called The Broken Hearted Alliance.

There are a few lines in the lyrics that I think are very well written. They tell you to cross out his name and tell yourself he's in the past.

You need to start planning your life now and in the future.

Some say that the best way to get over a broken heart is to start a new relationship. But love doesn't just happen.

When we say that love is about fate, what we mean is that the passion of two people must burn simultaneously and on the same wavelength. True love is when you meet someone who is willing to be intimate with you and take responsibility for you because of their passion.

So, we can do something else when we're heartbroken. Think about how much time and energy you've already spent on him. Unfortunately, that's a lost investment. It's better to invest time and energy in something that's beneficial to you.

After you've had a chance to process your emotions, take care of yourself. Wash your face, eat a good meal, and get a good night's sleep. Then, reflect on your interests. Which activities bring you joy? Make time for them.

You could listen to some music, go for a workout, go shopping, or buy some trinkets you like. There are many, many more options out there if you look hard enough.

Either way, it's worth finding the joy in it.

The river of hearts is flowing, and the world is full of possibilities because we have hope. For someone who has just ended a relationship, our hope is that a new relationship is on the way.

There's an old legend that says we were all androgynous at the beginning. We all have two sides, one male and one female.

Such a human being is so clever that God feels threatened. To take advantage of the fact that humans fall asleep at night, he uses his supreme divine power to split everyone in half with a magical axe. Half are men, half are women.

So, as we grow up, we all have to find our other half, the person we were once separated from. Only when we truly find our other half can we become complete and start a real love and life with them.

If the person you find isn't really your other half, you might end up heartbroken if you fall in love or even separated if you get married.

This legend is telling us that if your love doesn't last, it probably means he's not your true other half. The journey of finding a partner is something that men and women are doing.

If you're looking for your true other half, you can also start a new journey to meet your true other half.

Love is always a two-way street. It's not a one-sided effort.

I hope this helps. Just remember, the world and we love you.

I am grateful for your invitation.

Experiencing heartbreak can feel like relinquishing a heart that no longer has a home.

Without a host heart, one may experience feelings of loneliness, fear, and isolation.

Could I suggest that you ask if you can find a new host, or that you take back this heart and place it in your own body until you find a host?

I believe the answer is yes, but it may require some time.

It might be helpful to give that heart time. Perhaps it could be allowed to feel lonely for a while, to experience pain for a while, and to feel confused for a while.

If I may suggest, you might also consider finding someone to keep you company, talk to, and seek understanding.

If I might suggest, the principle is:

When you are heartbroken, it can be helpful to allow yourself to feel the full range of emotions that you are experiencing. Seeing her sadness and allowing her pain is like taking her in.

If she is temporarily reluctant to return to your embrace, you might consider finding someone who is not necessarily a lover to resonate with her on the same frequency. This could provide her with a place to go.

Once she has received understanding and approval from others, she will be able to express her emotions and feelings, and feel more at ease.

At this time, she also knows that you are there for her and that she can return at any time.

1. One way to approach a relationship is to try to be responsible for it and do your best to make it work, in a way that is true to your heart.

At last, it has come to an end. You are clinging to a love that seems hopeless, aware that the other person's heart has long since turned away from you. You believe that if you work hard, things might yet turn out for the best. You feel that you must take responsibility for your own shortcomings and find it difficult to let go.

You may feel that your partner's heart has long since stopped beating for you, but you are reluctant to let go. You are committed to maintaining your dedication and persistence in this relationship.

Perhaps if we give up too quickly because the other person doesn't like it, it might suggest that we don't love him as much as we should, or that we're pretending not to.

This may not be the most effective way to handle the situation, as it could be perceived as denying your own feelings and not showing a cool-headed approach.

If there are issues in a relationship, it's important to address them.

Otherwise, how can you be sure you're making the right decision?

Could this be perceived as a sign of failure?

Perhaps it would be more responsible to take care of your feelings, avoid any regrets, and show that you love yourself.

It may be the case that a person is able to let go of a relationship because they are using their mind to fall in love, rather than their heart.

Perhaps it would be best to be true to your heart and to the person who let you down.

2. Having had a profound experience, the pain of losing it is quite intense.

It's challenging to move on from this. From last night until now, my eyes have been swollen and my vision blurry. I've come to appreciate why Lin Daiyu in Dream of the Red Chamber is often seen with tears in her eyes. If you aren't deeply in love, it can be difficult to experience heartbreak over the other person.

Lin Mei Mei was a jiangzhu herb in her previous life that was carefully tended to by Baoyu. In this life, she feels a sense of obligation to repay him with her tears for his kindness to her.

If you love the other person deeply and are not sufficiently cared for, how can you simply abandon this source of joy?

Perhaps if the other person never loved you, or if the bad experience you had with them was not so intense, you would not feel so much pain, and you might even consider moving on.

Perhaps it could be said that the pain of losing it is even deeper because it has been received so intensely.

The tears you shed may be a reflection of unexpressed emotions.

It may be helpful to recognize that this particular form of love is no longer a viable option at this time.

If you feel the need to cry, I will be there for you. I will give you a tissue if you want to wipe away your tears or let you cry if you prefer.

3. The pain of a broken heart can serve as a testament to the depth of your love for someone, and it can also provide a backdrop for the light of the future.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider how to move forward as soon as possible. It seems that there was never going to be a positive outcome in this situation. I pushed myself for too long. Is there a way to heal from a broken heart? Loving someone can be so painful...

Could I ask whether you allow yourself to suffer?

If you don't allow yourself to grieve, you might be doing yourself a disservice.

If you can get over it quickly, might you have some doubts about whether you really loved?

It is possible that the outcome may be uncertain.

It may be helpful to remember that the results we see are only the end of a process.

It is difficult to predict what the future holds, whether in a few months, years, or even decades.

I'm not suggesting that you give up on him, but I do want to acknowledge the pain you're experiencing. It's important to recognize that your heartache may subside after a few months and that, with time, you may even find yourself grateful for this experience. It's often through difficult endings that we find the strength to embrace new beginnings.

If you feel truly and genuinely miserable, it might be helpful to acknowledge that you are miserable. Staying with your heart, keeping her company, letting her feel your warmth, and giving her hope could also be beneficial. This might help her to know that every cloud has a silver lining.

I believe that to truly love someone is to love yourself.

When you lose something, it can sometimes feel as though you've lost yourself. It's natural to feel the pain.

Consider allowing your pain to serve as a witness to your experience, and as a foundation for your future. Express your gratitude to her.

I hope these words can offer you some warmth and support during this challenging time.

My name is Yan Guilai, and I'm a psychological counselor. I hope you're doing well.

Dear question asker,

After reading your question, I am overcome with a sense of sadness and concern. It is evident from your description that you have been crying since last night, and your eyes are swollen. This must be a profoundly disappointing experience for you. I am deeply troubled by your situation. I offer you my support and encouragement.

Indeed, it is inaccurate to say that you are merely disappointed; you are, in fact, experiencing a profound sense of desperation. I empathize with your situation, as I can relate to it from my own experiences. I am reminded of a pivotal moment in my life, thirty years ago, when I endured a similar level of pain. I recall that night vividly, even to this day. My heart was deeply wounded by a multitude of painful experiences. It is my sincerest hope that you will not have to endure such agony, but it is important to recognize that the course of events is ultimately beyond our control. I extend my support and encouragement to you through a renewed embrace.

You indicate that you hold yourself responsible for being unworthy. It is unfortunate that when love is profound, there is little that can be done. Those who are in a state of distress when love changes often experience a sense of shock. It is understandable that you do not believe that this could occur. As you stated, you persisted in forcing the situation, did not accept that it was real, and believed that with your own efforts, a positive outcome would result. This is reminiscent of the misguided actions that I engaged in when I was similarly misguided.

Your display of genuine emotion is a consequence of your misguided romantic expectations. I empathize with your self-blame for being perceived as unpromising. In my own experience, I initially felt similarly unpromising. However, I was unable to accept this reality. It was only when I was confronted with the other person's actions and their impact on me that I came to recognize the irreparable nature of the situation. This realization is a significant emotional and psychological cost.

It is likely that your emotions will continue to fluctuate. It is challenging to persuade someone with words alone. The most effective approach is to navigate the painful process of going through this difficult time independently.

What is the nature of this process? I will present my perspective based on my personal experience.

First and foremost, it is imperative to recognize that self-blame and self-anger are inevitable consequences of a lack of mutual trust and belief in a relationship. When such a foundation is absent, it is natural for individuals to seek alternatives that align with their expectations. This can manifest as feelings of resentment and frustration, particularly when there is a perception that one's partner does not value them as much as they believe they deserve. It is crucial to understand that these feelings are often driven by a deep-seated belief that one's partner will not treat them as well as they deserve. This can lead to a sense of disappointment and anger, particularly when there is a lack of understanding or acknowledgment of these feelings. It is, therefore, essential to recognize that these emotions are not necessarily a reflection of personal shortcomings but rather a manifestation of the underlying issues in the relationship.

Secondly, it is imperative that you assume sole responsibility for the pain you endure. There is no further benefit to be gained from forcing him to change his mind. Attempting to persuade him through tears and pleas is futile, particularly given that he has already resolved to leave you. It is likely that your efforts will only serve to exacerbate the situation. This phenomenon is not uncommon. It is evident that you have sought assistance in this forum, and it is my hope that you will succeed in maintaining your distance from him, regardless of the circumstances.

It is understandable that it is challenging to move on from a relationship, particularly when the individual in question still occupies a significant place in one's emotional landscape. It is important to acknowledge that the process of healing from a profound emotional wound can be a gradual one, requiring time and space to navigate the complexities of one's emotions. There is a common adage that illness can manifest with the suddenness of a landslide, yet it can also recede like the unwinding of a silk thread. This metaphorical comparison underscores the notion that the healing process, regardless of its depth, can unfold at a pace that is unique to each individual. There is no urgency in this process; it is essential to provide oneself with the emotional space and support to navigate the journey of healing. In the context of seeking assistance, it is crucial to recognize that seeking help does not imply a lack of strength or resolve. It is a testament to one's determination to find a way out of a challenging situation.

In conclusion, it is recommended that one maintain a diary. At the time, I simply recorded whatever came to mind, and I recall writing four full pages of closely packed words, solely to express my feelings. I still possess the diary, and I wrote a considerable amount of text at the time. Some of it I subsequently destroyed, and I remember disclosing portions of it to friends and family. Some of my friends expressed difficulty comprehending the experience, stating that they could not fathom the depth of anguish associated with a breakup unless they had endured a similar situation themselves. If financial resources permit, it is advisable to seek the guidance of a counselor, thereby facilitating a more tranquil navigation through this challenging phase.

In the current era of advanced online information, it is likely that a solution can be found if one is able to identify it. As the adage goes, there are more difficulties than solutions. It is this author's belief that the individual in question will fare better than the author did at that time, and that this difficult period will pass quickly.

It is my sincere hope that you will soon emerge from this challenging situation and enjoy a fulfilling life.

I extend my affection to the world and to you.

Dear questioner, I hope my reply helps and supports you.

From what you've said, it seems like this relationship is causing you a lot of pain. Many people find it difficult to end a relationship, and using a platform to do so is also an option. You need to talk to someone and get some support.

Once we're in a relationship, we have expectations of the other person and hope for a happy ending. But we can't control how things develop. Both people have their reasons for ending it, and neither is wrong. You can only know if someone's right for you by walking in their shoes.

From this experience, I've gained a lot of inspiration. We all want to achieve according to our own wishes, imagining the beauty of the future, but there will be a lot of constraints that will hinder us and even make it difficult to extricate ourselves.

You're the only one who's involved here. You're a very sentimental person, so you suffer. You give and hope to get back, so the pain continues to cycle. The other person loses someone who loves him, and he is sad, no matter what the outcome is. That's also a path you've walked before. There's no banquet that doesn't end. Even if you enter the palace of marriage, some partners will choose to leave at some point.

Everyone wants to improve themselves, and many concepts and ways of thinking will continue to evolve, which is also the progress of the times.

It's important to maintain boundaries.

The idea is that each person has their own space to work in.

Values

The amount we can handle

It'll be interesting to see how long you two last. It'll depend on whether you're always prepared to leave, but don't leave easily. What you demand of others, others will also consider for you: family background, financial situation, personality, education, and work. These are also the reasons why many men and women are unwilling to enter into marriage at present: they need to shoulder a lot of responsibilities and there is social pressure from competition.

It's important to be able to learn from past events and constantly challenge yourself, while understanding human nature. Some people may have a quiet life, day after day, but with pain comes growth. It's okay to admit that you can't change everything, and that there are many things out of your control. The only constant in this world is change, and adapting to society in the midst of change is the way to survive.

As a matter of fact, there are beautiful flowers all around us. This event has made your life richer, taught you to live in the moment, and given you happy memories that will help you make better decisions. The best thing you can do is focus on your own growth.

Wishing you the best!

Hello! I can see that you are feeling a little blue because of a broken heart, but I'm here to tell you that it's going to be okay! I'm even feeling sorry for you when you blame yourself, but I'm here to tell you that you're going to be just fine.

♥ Broken hearts are a required course in life, so don't be hard on yourself!

As we grow and evolve, falling in and out of love is an essential part of learning how to build strong, intimate relationships. It's a journey that many of us embark on as we seek to connect with others on a deeper level. These experiences not only help us understand the beauty of love, but also teach us how to love ourselves and others in a more profound way.

In your description of the title, you mentioned that you've tried your best to save the relationship, even though you know that the other person's heart has long since left your side. You still think that if you work hard, things will turn out for the best! This shows that you have tried hard to save the relationship, and you should be proud of yourself for trying your best. Love belongs to two people, and the other person has the right to love you or not to love you. Since you have already done your best, you have no regrets, and you should be proud of yourself for giving it your all!

Love is a double-edged sword, and it's a wild ride! When we give our heart, we also give the other person the right to hurt us. As the saying goes, love is as sweet as it is painful.

Because we have invested our hearts, time, and emotions, we have the chance to mourn not only the person, but also the self that loved recklessly in the relationship. We can mourn the time and emotions we have lost, and there is no shame in this. Don't beat yourself up too much — you're doing great!

♥ Believe that time heals all!

If today's loss makes you feel like you can't go on, remember that it's just a fall along the way in your life. You've got this! If you can't let go for the time being, that's okay. There's no need to force yourself to do so.

Go out more, talk to friends or family, and let your life slowly return to normal. And remember, some people say that a problem that arises at a conscious level cannot be solved at the same level of consciousness. But you know what? You can do this!

If we focus all our attention on the breakup, we'll just be repeating the pain of the breakup over and over again! So let's take a step back or put the problem aside for the time being. Time is our friend! It can heal everything.

♥ Adjust your mentality and get ready to dive back into your normal, awesome life!

You gave it your all, and that's what matters! It's time to let go and move on to bigger and better things. The past is the past, and it's time to embrace a new beginning. Recognize this reality, adjust your mentality, and welcome a new life with open arms!

Think about it: Before this relationship, weren't we also very happy and content on our own? Love is only a part of life, not the whole of it. There is a wider world waiting to be explored! Cheer up and think about how to make yourself better and happier. Travel, exercise, read, make friends – anything will do. Keep yourself busy and get moving!

Time moves forward, and so should you! Only by constantly moving forward can you encounter a better self and envision a better future.

I'll give you a big hug first. I'm so happy you wrote it out.

I just read the most amazing article yesterday that I think you'll really enjoy! It's called "Healed my emotional depletion with these 3 tricks."

It's so important to remember that the first step to healing from a broken heart is to write it all down. Just getting it out of your system can make you feel so much better!

It's so sad when someone loses love. Many people grieve alone in private, feeling like they've failed and letting the feeling of failure overwhelm them like a flash flood.

You're doing great! Now, you're going to try the second trick: be an observer of emotions. You have lost love, and you have lost someone who you thought loved the other person as much as you did.

If the other person has never loved, then all we have lost is an expectation. Or if the other person loved but failed, it's not a bad thing! It's actually better than getting married and then separating (considering the costs).

Now, imagine a friend who has just been dumped. What methods would you recommend in this situation?

What does a promising person look like?

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It must be really tough to be unable to let go.

And finally, who you should apologize to after letting go.

If you can, it would be really helpful for you to write down the whole story, including the circumstances.

Tip 3: Be your own emotional counselor. Think of this story as your friend. Please give him some ideas about what to do next.

It's always best to be as specific as you can, and then start implementing them one by one.

I've got another solution for you that I think you'll like. It's called the butterfly clap, and it's really easy to do. All you have to do is cross your arms in front of your chest and clap your hands together, moving them from side to side. It's like flapping your wings like a butterfly, but with one flap at a time. Give it a try!

It's like someone is right there with you, comforting you, and it can help relieve emotional anxiety.

I really think you should give it a try. It's something you can do when you're on your own, when you're quiet.

You lose someone who doesn't love you, and he loses someone who loves him.

Absolutely! We spent a lot of time and energy on each other because we gave it our all. What matters is that we gave it our all, so we don't have any regrets even if we don't win. And who knows, we might still get what we want!

You know how it is with love. You know the weight of it when you've experienced it, and the richness of wine when you've drunk it. You're considered an experienced person!

Good day!

It is fair to say that leaving a long-term relationship is never easy, particularly if the other person has been considered to be the most important in your life.

The loss of a loved one is a difficult experience that can bring about a range of emotions and challenges.

It is important to understand that the pain associated with broken love is comparable to that of losing a loved one. It is essential to acknowledge that everyone experiences grief differently and that the time required to process it also varies.

It is not uncommon for these stages to occur in a different order.

It may be the case that people who have experienced abandonment or loss that has never been healed can sometimes get stuck in a stage and find it difficult to move on. In such instances, it could be beneficial for them to seek the assistance of a professional counselor to help them gradually heal.

Stage 1: Denial, disbelief

One may experience feelings of numbness, shock, disbelief, or a sense that this could not have happened. Our reason may acknowledge the loss, but our feelings may try to deny it.

Stage 2: Anger and Hatred

I must admit that I am rather displeased with you for leaving me to face the world alone. We all miss, need, and long for the one we love to be by our side. However, I also feel a certain resentment towards you for abandoning me.

Stage 3: Bargaining – a sense of guilt that may or may not be justified

It is natural to feel angry and resentful in the aftermath of a breakup. It is also understandable to experience fear, wondering if the person we love has left us because of our negative emotions and actions. We may even feel guilty about these feelings and thoughts.

Stage 4: Depression

My daily routine has been affected, and I have found myself in a period of solitude. I feel as though I am surrounded by trivialities, and my life seems to have lost its purpose.

Stage 5: Acceptance

It is an understanding that life must go on and that we can accept the fact that we have lost that person.

In order to recover and heal, it is recommended that a person go through these five stages of grief. It is important to note that each person may experience these stages at a different pace.

It is important to understand that we cannot force someone to go through a certain stage. People have their own pace, and there may even be times when we take two steps back for every step forward. However, these are all part of the process. It is crucial to emphasise that when these five stages are completed, healing will occur.

I would like to introduce this psychological theory, which suggests that sadness, heartbreak, anger, resentment, and so on are all normal expressions of our commemoration of the loss of a relationship. It is important to be more tolerant and understanding of ourselves in these situations. Some people say, "If it's over, it's over. Find someone better!"

While it can be helpful to try to move on, it is important to allow yourself to experience all the stages of grief. If you feel stuck in a stage and cannot let go, it may be helpful to seek support from a professional counselor. Remember that healing from a lost relationship is also about understanding the role this relationship played in your life. Take care of yourself ?!

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

I see you're feeling sad and I'm here for you. You've invested a lot of yourself in this relationship, hoping it would last forever. But things change, and now you're facing a breakup.

During this relationship, the questioner noticed that the love his partner once had for him no longer exists. He thought that if he tried hard to be a better person and give of himself, he could win his partner back.

The breakup was planned and prepared. The other person was waiting for the right moment to say those two words, so it's not a matter of how hard the person in question tries to get them back.

Why are we sad?

Even before we fall in love, we can experience other emotions too, like feeling aggrieved because we feel we've been treated unfairly. When a partner arrives on the scene, it's an additional source of happiness, an additional listening ear, and an additional object of mutual dependence.

We get used to each other's presence during our time together because there's no time to adjust to the idea of them leaving. So, a big change in our lives can make us feel uncomfortable and sad.

The real reason we're sad when someone leaves is that we have to accept that we have to change. We're also sad that we've tried so hard to give, but why can't we get the same love in return? Even if it's not the same, it's not like we're being replaced. We're also angry because our efforts aren't appreciated.

Take a look at the reality of the situation.

Once the problem in the relationship became clear, the questioner tried really hard to make changes. When the other person is unwilling to face and solve the problems together, it shows they've chosen to avoid the relationship. This isn't just the problem of the questioner.

It's not enough for the question asker to try hard and keep trying. The breakup is a problem for both people, but the other person's choice shows their attitude. They've chosen not to cherish the question asker's love, and they're letting themselves off the hook by choosing to let go. Time will make everything seem less important.

Love is a catalyst for personal growth.

It takes time for two people to get to know each other. We don't naturally know how to love, and we have to learn as we go. We have to understand what love is and what it means to us. Love will make us grow.

We can't guarantee that every relationship we encounter will last forever. We're willing to try because we're ready to take on new challenges, learn, and grow as we go.

☀️ Crying: Give yourself time to grieve and promise yourself a good cry. It's a way to release your emotions. As long as you feel better after crying, then go for it.

☀️ Talk it out: It's natural to want to hide during a tough time. But if you can find the courage to open up and work through the problem together, it can be a great way to start feeling better.

☀️ Fulfillment: When you're feeling down, it's easy to dwell on sad thoughts when you're lying down or alone. Since the breakup is inevitable, try not to dwell on the good old days. Fill your life with more activities and busyness. You might be using work as an escape from your thoughts, but I have to admit that this method, in addition to keeping you from thinking, also brings out your strength and allows you to achieve different results.

I hope my answer is helpful to the original poster. Best of luck!

It is understandable that being heartbroken is a difficult experience, and it does take time to work through it. It is a process, and it is not always easy to become indifferent suddenly.

It's important to remember that you're not to blame for feeling unpromising, unable to hold on or let go. These feelings are often a sign that you love too deeply and are deeply involved in the relationship.

You may have noticed that he has distanced himself emotionally. Have you ever considered what might have led to this change in his feelings? Is he no longer interested in the relationship, or does he feel that the future is uncertain?

It might be helpful to distract yourself after a breakup. It's understandable to dwell on memories of good times shared, but it might not be the best use of your energy. It's natural to feel sad and aggrieved when things don't work out, but dwelling on these feelings might not be the most constructive approach.

During this challenging period, it may be helpful to consider rekindling your interests and hobbies, traveling to relax, reading to share, spending time with your family, enjoying good food, exploring new things you have never tried before, and experiencing the other beautiful things in life besides love. With time, you may find that there is more to life than just love. While love is certainly a valuable aspect of life, it is not a necessity.

People get upset because they have seven emotions and six desires, but it is these seven emotions and six desires that make our lives colorful. It might be helpful to consider releasing pent-up emotions, as suppressing them could potentially lead to rebound effects. The deeper you suppress them, the harder they might rebound, which could result in more significant challenges.

I believe that time is the best healer. I hope you can soon find a way to move on from your heartbreak and embrace new experiences to enrich your life.

There's no quick fix for a broken heart. The best thing you can do is give yourself time and try to find someone new.

It's only natural to feel rejected when it happens. It can feel like you've been abandoned, and it's only natural to dwell on the good old days. The more you remember, the more painful it can be. It's only natural to feel the sweetness of love and the pain of rejection.

Oh, why doesn't the person I love love me back? Could it be that I'm not good enough?

It's not that you're not good enough, sweetheart. It's just that you're not quite right for each other. Maybe you're not giving him what he wants? Maybe he's a bit fickle and easily swayed? Or maybe he has his own reasons.

It's totally normal to have ups and downs in a relationship. If you let it get to you, it'll only make you more stressed!

Second, love doesn't last forever. It usually lasts 18-30 months, from the initial encounter and getting to know each other, falling in love, and the honeymoon period. Then, it will eventually end either with marriage and the gradual fading into family life, or with separation.

It can be close but distant, or it can be distant but close. Many people who are reluctant to part are attached to the warmth and fond memories of the good times they've shared. But when it comes to long-term relationships, there's not much to get excited about.

At the end of the day, love is a pretty complicated thing. The deeper the love, the greater the expectations.

Love with expectations is totally normal and healthy! Parents' love for their children is full of expectations, and the same goes for lovers and partners. So-called true love is just the moment you promise. So, it's really important that we understand love.

Love is a wonderful thing, but it's not the whole of our lives. It's great to have it, and we should really treasure it and work hard to make it last. But if we don't have it, that's okay! At least we've experienced all the joys and sorrows of love.

It's time to let go of that obsession, shift our focus, and put our energy into the health and growth that we can still manage with our hearts.

It's okay if you can't let go of the past or find the person you've been searching for. There will always be someone who comes from afar just for you.

Hello. I see you're lonely and still in the heartbreak. This feeling is difficult, heartbreaking, and suffocating.

You need to do a deep analysis of your current heartbreak. There are two types of heartbreak: positive and negative. The positive type allows you to learn a lot about yourself and your boyfriend. The negative type prevents you from feeling or analyzing anything, and you always stay in the state of being abandoned, cheated, feeling miserable, and wondering why you are always the one who gets hurt.

The relationship between us is a process of adjustment. We have different personalities, characters, cultures, qualities, and habits. We both have to like someone before we can fall in love. We have to have things in common and also have something that others want. That is what is meant by mutual liking, plus spiritual understanding, tolerance, and support. That is love. Think about what it's like in your love.

If you want the person you like to like you back, you must first learn to like yourself from a different perspective, become a better person, enhance your inner beauty, and increase your self-confidence.

You have never been confident that this should have something to do with your family of origin. The blows from childhood and the overly strict parenting have led to you not making your own decisions and lacking confidence in anything you do. No matter what, that was the past you, and you have to accept and embrace that person and try to become a better person.

I hope you find this advice helpful. Counselor-Tree Hole 69

Hello! You asked, "I blame myself for being unpromising. I can't let go. How do I get over the pain of a broken heart?"

I admire your self-awareness and reflection. They're the first step to change.

Let's look at your question.

You say it's completely over, but you're holding on to a hopeless love. You know the other person's heart has stopped beating for you, but you still hope things will turn out for the best. You blame yourself for being unpromising and can't let go...

There's no chance now. You've cried a lot and your vision is blurred.

Lin Daiyu in Dream of the Red Chamber is always crying because she doesn't love someone enough to get over it.

You should think about getting over it. It was never going to end well.

You've been forcing yourself for too long. Is there a cure for a broken heart? Falling in love can be painful. After reading your question, I feel you're going through the pain of a breakup after a sweet period of love.

Hug you and comfort your heart. I will explain below and hope it helps.

Let yourself feel the pain after a breakup.

The higher you climb, the harder you fall. This is true of your ex-boyfriend too. The deeper the love, the sweeter the relationship. After the breakup, it's painful.

You need to accept this truth and allow it to exist. If you are suffering after the breakup, you can look at the problem from a different perspective.

You broke up, but you met someone you love very much. Some people never do. What's wrong with loving someone so much you don't care and try your best to love them?

You met and had a nice relationship with him. This is a rare and beautiful experience. It will be a beautiful memory in your life.

Does it make you feel better?

The person you love may not be right for marriage.

Love and marriage are different. When you're in love, you think about whether the other person is right for you. But marriage is different.

Marriage is about two families, not just one person. Sometimes the person you love may not be the best choice for you to marry. Marriage has to consider many practical issues.

Love is ideal, while marriage is practical. You can tell yourself that you love the person you love and have no regrets. This love may even be a treasure. When choosing a spouse, you can be rational and choose a suitable partner. This is better.

☀️Do something else and take up a hobby.

Think about what you like to do but never have time for. You've just broken up with your partner, so you have free time. Use it to do something you've always wanted to do. You can live a good life without the other person.

If you like sports, you can take a course in swimming, badminton, table tennis, tennis, etc. You can learn whatever you want. Maybe learning a sport you like can help you get over a broken heart. If you like art, you can learn an instrument, dance, or take art classes. Distracting yourself may help you get over a broken heart.

People change a lot.

You feel grief and blame yourself. You may think blaming yourself is useless.

People are always changing, and so are you.

You feel pain in your heart now, but in a few years, you might find it funny. You'll understand that this event is just one of many in your life and just a small part of your journey.

I hope my answer helps. I love you, world!

Hello, let me give you a big hug first. I understand that being heartbroken is a heart-wrenching experience for everyone who has experienced emotional separation. It may also come from the separation anxiety you faced as a child.

Good day. I am a psychotherapist. I will discuss intimate relationships from a psychological perspective in the hope of being of some help to you. You mentioned Lin Meimei. Lin Meimei displayed depressive traits and was highly dependent on relationships. She could have entrusted her life to her Bao Ge for the sake of him, but in the end, she became depressed and eventually died.

You also mentioned in your description that you always want to hold onto this relationship firmly, even though you know it doesn't belong to you. This is understandable, but it's important to remember that giving up and being abandoned are not viable options. This is also a characteristic of your personality. I have an article on the dynamics and characteristics of the depressed and abused personality that you might find helpful.

It is likely that everyone has different personality traits, which are shaped by early relationships with parents and influenced by family environment. If you understand your own personality traits, you may find it easier to manage your anxiety. It is possible that your anxiety is caused by a lack of self-knowledge. Seeking death and living to hold on to a relationship, which ultimately ends in abandonment, can lead to feelings of despair.

It can be challenging to let go of a relationship and start anew, to become your true self again. To do so, it's essential to understand yourself. While a relationship's end can be painful, it can also be a catalyst for growth. Intimacy is about two people getting to know each other, loving each other, and staying together. If people are together but don't communicate deeply enough, they may find themselves torn apart in the future, struggling to love and hate each other. It's crucial to understand your own character traits and seek a complementary, intimate relationship. It's also wise to take time to know yourself before rushing into a new relationship. In my clinical practice, I often see individuals immediately entering a new relationship after a breakup, thinking they can make up for it.

If you're looking to establish a stable and secure intimate relationship, it might be helpful to seek the guidance of a professional teacher. In a safe and trusting counseling relationship, you can open up about the pain and confusion caused by being hurt in love. The therapist will support you in healing, helping you to move past your emotional distress and form a new model for starting a new relationship. It's important to remember that the world and I love you, and that you deserve to love yourself too. You deserve happiness in a relationship. It's not a waste to move on from a relationship that doesn't belong to you. You will find your own true love!

Hello! You have just ended a relationship and are still in the throes of heartbreak.

You want a magic pill to help you get over it as soon as possible. You don't want to keep suffering like this, and I completely understand how you feel!

Face up to your own choices.

You have invested a lot of emotion in this relationship, and the depth of your love has caused you pain. Your eyes are swollen from crying, and your vision is blurred because you have lost your love. This is the pain of loving to the bone.

You have invested a lot of emotion in this relationship, and the depth of your love has caused you pain. Your eyes are swollen from crying, and your vision is blurred because you have lost your love. This is the pain of loving to the bone and breaking one's heart.

You even love in a humble way. You know it's hopeless, and you know the other person's heart has left you. You think if you work hard enough, things will work out.

From your narrative, it is clear that you knew this ending long ago.

You have always been clear-sighted about your situation. You knew you were forcing things and that you should be able to let go. You decided to let the relationship end completely. This is both courage and clarity.

When you're in love, you're fully committed, which is sincerity. When love is gone, you stop in time, which is wisdom. You make a choice and accept the consequences of your actions.

You can do this, and you are a winner, even though the relationship is over.

Embrace your pain.

It's clear you're miserable over a broken heart, and it's sad to see. Here's a hug for you!

The sweeter the relationship, the more painful the breakup. That's the charm of life: there's always something to gain and something to lose.

Your current pain shows you were once sincerely involved. Don't deny yourself or blame yourself because you are in pain. Pain is normal. Stay here for a while and celebrate your growth.

Your current pain shows you were sincerely involved. Don't deny yourself or blame yourself because you are in pain. Pain is normal. Stay here a while and celebrate your growth.

Some people say that pain is a blessing from God in disguise. Let this sink in. It's a message from God that it's time to let go of the past and welcome your new life here.

Adjust your state of mind.

Do something concrete to distract yourself and get out of this painful state.

First, establish a regular routine. Get to bed and up again at the same time every day, get enough sleep, eat a reasonable diet, and so on.

When you can clearly feel that you have the ability to exercise self-discipline, you will come to recognize your ability to overcome pain.

Second, you need to engage in sports. Choose a fitness activity you like, or just go for a walk every day.

Exercise strengthens the body and effectively releases negative emotions. Worry will disappear when you work up a good sweat.

Third, complete one task at a time. You can overcome these problems. They may seem overwhelming, but they are solvable.

Forget about it. Just start doing one thing well. You can do this. Even if you can't do everything, doing one thing well will give you confidence.

Fourth, seek help. Talk to your family or friends about the pain you're feeling. As they say in psychology, talking about it is half the solution.

Seek help from professionals such as a counselor. Counseling is an effective way to alleviate your current state.

I am Teng Ying, a psychological counselor at One Mind. This will help you.

The loss of a romantic partner is a challenge that many adults face. However, due to individual differences and the unique circumstances they encounter, some individuals may recover more quickly from the pain of losing a romantic partner, while others may experience prolonged emotional distress. Some individuals may even develop depression if their emotions remain unresolved for an extended period.

From your account, it is evident that you are experiencing a period of emotional distress and are unable to move forward from the pain. As you stated, "There is no hope. Since last night, my eyes have been swollen from crying and my vision is blurred. I finally understand Lin Daiyu in Dream of the Red Chamber. Why is she always crying? It's not because she loves to the bone, but because her lover has broken her heart."

In this exchange, we will first examine the causes of heartache, then present methods for expediting recovery, and finally, delineate an optimal approach to relationships.

1. Causes of heartbreak

People often experience distress due to a sense of loss. The individual who previously provided a source of happiness and support may suddenly become unavailable, leading to feelings of loneliness and isolation.

A sudden shift from a psychological state of spiritual support to a state of facing challenges independently can initially cause discomfort, which can contribute to the pain associated with losing love.

Many individuals find themselves drawn to certain qualities in their partners and perceive them as special. This can lead to a sense of attachment and a tendency to value the relationship more highly than it may deserve. The belief that a replacement cannot be found, or that the relationship is irreplaceable, can intensify the pain of losing love.

In the event of a romantic relationship ending, many individuals find themselves continually reflecting on the positive aspects of their previous interactions with their partner. This is often done to provide a contrast between the current situation and the happier past.

This creates an emotional contrast, which is the third reason for the pain of a broken heart.

2. Methods for Rapid Recovery from the Pain of a Broken Heart

Once the aforementioned three primary causes of distress have been identified, it is essential to devise a strategy for expediently overcoming the pain associated with a broken heart by targeting these three main causes.

Firstly, it would be beneficial to participate in more social activities and meet new people. This will allow you to communicate and converse with a wider range of individuals, thereby enriching your spiritual world.

This can effectively relieve feelings of loneliness and isolation. It is an effective mood-enhancing strategy.

Secondly, it is important to recognise that there are numerous potential outcomes in life. Despite being content with your previous partner, there is no guarantee that you will not encounter someone more suitable in the future. As you continue to develop yourself, the calibre of individuals you interact with will correspondingly improve.

It is possible that at that time you will come to appreciate that everyone you meet is better than your current partner. It is therefore important to remember that if you improve yourself, opportunities will arise.

Finally, plan your future life well. Prioritize self-improvement over dwelling on past experiences.

It is important to recognize that as you grow and improve, you will likely encounter individuals who are even more outstanding than your previous experiences. Maintaining a positive outlook will help you navigate these interactions with confidence and ease.

3. The Correct Attitude Towards Relationships

From your account, it seems that your attitude towards your relationship was not optimal. As you stated, "Should I consider how to move on from this as soon as possible? It was never going to end well. I've been pushing myself for too long. Is there a quick solution for dealing with a broken heart?"

It has become evident that the experience of loving someone can be so distressing.

It is often said that love is not demanding, let alone forcing. Furthermore, a forced relationship is never a positive experience for those involved. If the other person wants to leave, it is an indication that they do not see you as a good match or suitable for them.

It is also possible that you are unable to meet his need for a romantic partner.

In that case, even if you were to remain in the relationship against your will, you would be living in a state of discord, which would not be conducive to a positive work environment.

Let us consider the following scenario: Even if you and your partner did not separate, you would likely have experienced disagreements over various issues during your relationship. Alternatively, your partner may have been unable to provide you with the emotional support and companionship you desire. In such a case, would you still wish to remain in the relationship?

If the answer is negative, have you ever considered terminating the relationship?

As the adage goes, the purpose of falling in love is to find a suitable partner with whom to experience the emotion of love. If the other person is no longer capable of providing this,

Even if you choose to remain in the relationship, you will not achieve the desired level of satisfaction. Consequently, this type of separation is not as distressing as it would otherwise be, as it allows you to regain your personal autonomy.

In other words, the kind of relationship you want is one that your former partner is unable to provide, so there is no reason to feel sorry or sad about leaving him.

Ultimately, it is crucial to adopt a positive and optimistic outlook when facing setbacks in a relationship. It is essential to swiftly move on from a negative emotional state and focus on personal growth and living life to the fullest. With dedication and commitment, you will eventually find that a more fulfilling relationship is within reach.