Can a tainted heart not be restored to its pure and innocent state?

Dear Questioner,

My name is Kelly, and I have reviewed your question on multiple occasions.

Firstly, we must consider the issue of pollution. It is not possible for the heart to return to a state of purity and flawlessness.

If an individual perceives a taint in their heart, I posit that they are not truly tainted. Similarly, if someone were to assert that I am a "bad person," I would never accept that characterization.

As the ancients observed, a gentleman is open and aboveboard.

An individual who is honest with themselves is open-minded, upright, and perceptive.

This is the extent of one's intellectual and moral fortitude.

From ancient times to the present, it is evident that society is diverse. Consequently, it is implausible to assert that an absolutely "pure person" has existed at any point in this period.

Thus far, I have not encountered an individual who can be considered entirely devoid of moral ambiguity. Given the inherent diversity of humanity, it is inevitable that our collective experience will be multifaceted and nuanced.

As a psychology instructor once observed, individuals are complex entities, not simple ones.

In the field of psychology, numerous predecessors have been afflicted with psychological disorders.

To illustrate, we may cite the case of Carl Gustav Jung.

He composed the following text:

"My mother exhibited a dual personality, displaying stark contrasts between her two distinct personas."

Jung himself suffered from mental illness, and it was precisely because of these painful experiences that Jung was able to develop into a psychologist with extraordinary insights into the human mind and spiritual world.

Similarly, Adler, the author of Inferiority and Transcendence and an esteemed psychologist, also suffered from illness during his formative years. A prolonged period of poor health resulted in his stunted growth and a subsequent sense of inferiority.

In comparison to his tall, handsome, and healthy brother, he perceived himself to be two centimetres shorter.

My brother is radiant, both in his academic pursuits and in his personal life. He is acutely aware of his own self-consciousness and is keen to avoid being eclipsed by his brother.

Notwithstanding these circumstances, the individual in question has become an exemplary figure despite initially exhibiting academic deficiencies at the age of nine.

He became a source of inspiration for innumerable individuals.

No matter how much effort is expended to achieve a desired result, it is inevitable that others will be able to discern the underlying issue.

Therefore, it is imperative to dispel any concerns that may arise. It is a fallacy to believe that there are individuals who are inherently perfect. Rather, there are those who strive for perfection and those who do not accept it.

It is acceptable to experience feelings of worry and fear. Similarly, you have demonstrated courage in sharing your concerns in this forum.

From this point forward, you and I are both among the 700,000 individuals registered on Yi Xin Li. I was still a patient with depression last year, but after arriving here in February, I received the support and assistance of numerous psychologists, as well as empathy and understanding.

Psychological clinics are available in major universities in China, and all major hospitals are paying attention to this issue around the world, including World Mental Health Day yesterday. For example, Peking University has had a psychology major for a long time. Our teacher also stated that when she was a student at Peking University, the student body also exhibited a lack of understanding of mental illness.

Those who pursue studies in psychology are often perceived as peculiar, and subsequent students in this field may encounter psychological challenges and continue to face criticism.

As Mr. Su from Peking University observed, even medical professionals are not immune to illness.

It is therefore recommended that a positive view be taken and that active learning about psychology be pursued. As is the case with many people with physical problems, information should be sought and ideas exchanged. There is a saying to the effect that "a long illness makes a doctor."

It is not the illness itself that is frightening, but rather a lack of the appropriate common sense in dealing with it.

Those who are able to identify solutions are to be admired. The individual who poses the question is similarly commendable for articulating their concerns and engaging in discourse with us.

A professional medical diagnosis is required for conditions such as depression or obsessive-compulsive disorder. This should be sought from a qualified medical practitioner at a regular hospital.

Additionally, one may consult with professional counselors. Despite the absence of fear, numerous individuals have reported varying degrees of improvement following treatment. (One may also seek guidance from a platform counselor.)

Should further inquiries arise, they are encouraged to be posed. Additionally, further reading on this subject can be found on Yixinli, as well as the opportunity to engage in discourse with other members of the community.

My name is Kelly.

I wish you a state of happiness.

I extend my affection to the world and to you.

As usual, I'd like to give the original poster a big hug.

Asking a question takes courage, so I'd like to give you a thumbs-up for having the courage to do so.

Since the info isn't specific enough, I can only give you a quick overview of my understanding of the issue.

Is it possible to restore a polluted heart to a pure and flawless state?

To answer this question, we first need to define what is meant by "pure and flawless" and what is meant by "contaminated."

If the definition is based on whether or not someone has made a mistake, and those who have never made a mistake are called "pure and flawless," then I think that no one, except for a newborn baby, can be "pure and flawless."

If we define it by whether someone is good or not, it's even harder to judge because the criteria for evaluating goodness vary from person to person and from perspective to perspective.

If we define "pure and flawless" by whether you've ever been sick, then I guess no one is "pure and flawless," because you'll always have a headache or a fever.

If we define "pure and flawless" in terms of mental illness, then no one should be considered "pure and flawless" either, because anxiety and depression are very common.

So I personally think this is a paradox because most people or things are somewhere in the middle, with no absolute black or white. And no one can remain absolutely black or white.

No matter how hard you try to hide it, others will still see through it.

It doesn't matter because everyone has a different shade of gray, just like the color of an animal's fur or the difference in skin tone between people.

If you're afraid, it'll always show, right? Is there any way to hide it?

I mean, people with mental illnesses like obsessive-compulsive disorder will always be seen, no matter how hard they try to hide it, right?

The key here is how you see the fear or obsessive-compulsive disorder in your heart.

There's a psychological effect called the "confirmation effect." It basically means that when people already have certain assumptions in their minds, they tend to choose evidence that confirms their assumptions, thus proving that they were right. For example, I woke up late today and was worried that I would be late. I kept praying, "Please don't be a traffic jam, or I will be in trouble if my boss finds out."

So I was still a few minutes late. When I got to my desk, my boss gave me a look, and I immediately "woke up" and thought, "Oh no, the boss really saw me. In fact, it may be because I was followed by a colleague from another department, and the boss wanted to see what he was going to do when he came over.

If you think that fear is abnormal and that OCD is bad, then every little thing that other people do will make you think that they know your secret and are laughing at you. Then, in order to avoid being laughed at, you spend a lot of energy covering it up. This is like the saying "a lie needs 100 lies to cover it up." You are exhausted trying to cover it up and hide it, but you don't know that every time you go against your inner choice, it takes a lot of mental energy, so you get more and more tired and fall into a very negative cycle.

It's not about what others think or whether they'll discover your secrets. It's about how you see yourself.

Sometimes, admitting your emotions can help you heal. For instance, I was really nervous when I had to go on stage to share, and I didn't know where to put my hands and feet. I almost tripped when I went on stage.

I thought, "I've already made a fool of myself, so there's no need to be afraid." So I told the audience, "I'm a little nervous because this is my first speech. When I get nervous, I almost trip."

I made a joke about myself, and the audience laughed. Once they started laughing, I stopped feeling nervous.

I don't think OCD is necessarily a bad thing. Some jobs even require it. For example, many designers around me have honed their powers of observation through years of work experience. When they open a PowerPoint presentation, the first thing they notice is which words are in a different font and where there are misalignments. At this point, nitpicking becomes a higher requirement, a driving force that urges you to improve.

From a certain perspective, getting sick or having physical symptoms is meaningful. In fact, the body is telling you in its own way, "I'm tired, I'm thirsty, I'm lacking love, come take care of me..." So exploring why these symptoms occur may lead to some new insights.

I have a little secret to share with you: most people don't really have time to care about other people.

I'd also like to share my views on depression.

I get that feeling low is like a cold—we all get it. Some people bounce back quickly, some need meds to get better, and some never fully recover even after taking medicine for a long time.

Some people get the flu vaccine early, which can protect against the ABC 3 types of flu. However, the virus mutates so quickly that viruses such as DEF have emerged, making it impossible to prevent. The good news is that you can take steps to boost your immunity. Just exercise, drink plenty of water, get plenty of rest, and take plenty of vitamin C. After you get better, you'll be as good as new!

I hope you found this some inspiration.

Hello!

People with mental illnesses like OCD will always be seen, no matter how hard they try to hide it. How should we face the stares of ourselves and others?

Let's work through this together.

People with mental or physical illness act differently than normal people. For example, people with obsessive-compulsive disorder repeat the same thing over and over.

Hiding mental illness is counterproductive. It makes others' negative comments worse and increases anxiety. This hurts recovery.

It's already settled. What's done is done. We can only change our attitude.

Hiding who we really are means rejecting and not accepting ourselves. We may think, "Why did I have bad luck, and not someone else?"

We feel guilty, sad, upset, and self-deprecating. We are living in the past.

How can we get out of this state of mind? Here are some suggestions:

(1) Accept what has happened.

This takes courage because our hearts resist feelings of incompetence. We can try to do it by admitting we have a mental illness or other issues.

When we stop hiding, we accept ourselves and focus on who we are now and how we should live.

(2) Look for the good in the bad.

Every cloud has a silver lining. We can find our own.

Learn from the past to grow.

(3) Pursue perfection, accept imperfection.

"Is it impossible for a tainted heart to be restored to its pure and flawless state?" There is no such thing. You must overcome the concept of seeing things in black and white.

Don't deny yourself because of one thing.

(4) Seeing your own progress

It can take a long time to make changes. Sometimes, only we can see them. Others may not understand. For now, don't worry about what others think. Just focus on feeling better.

(5) Get help for your symptoms.

From the question, it is not clear what the questioner needs help with. To get help, you also need to find a professional to talk to about your symptoms, thoughts, emotions, and experiences.

This helps people know what to do.

I hope this helps. Best regards!

If you believe the human heart is pure and flawless, then perhaps it could be said that the heart of a newborn baby is the epitome of this quality. After enlightenment, however, what can be said about purity and flawlessness? Perhaps it is simply a matter of ignorance and naivety.

I believe you are not returning to the thoughts of a child, but perhaps you mean to return to the heart and the original intention. I agree with this interpretation.

This process is not about repair or covering up. It is not a way to hide. It is about pursuing certainty, sweeping away the dust, discovering the self, and not being afraid to reveal oneself. When you are certain of your inner belief and act accordingly, you can be called pure and flawless.

The situation you mentioned is not uncommon. For instance, a student might cheat on an exam, either to get a good grade or to avoid being scolded. In such cases, the original intention of honesty can be clouded by a variety of thoughts and ideas.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that when we act against our true selves, it is often because we are hiding it from ourselves and feel that we are doing something we shouldn't be doing. However, our true selves are still there, waiting to be discovered or polished.

If you can do what your heart tells you is right in the midst of all the pollution, you will at least be "pure" enough for yourself.

"Purity" can only be for oneself. It's understandable that not everyone's heart is in agreement on this matter. It's possible that someone may feel that honesty requires trust, while at the same time, there might be an inclination towards trickery.

All of this seeing, learning, and teaching requires thinking, questioning, changing, and being sure of oneself in order to see the so-called true self. It is possible that fear, trepidation, concealment, and pretense may arise when one does not fully believe in their beliefs or has not yet found a belief that is enough to reveal themselves.

Perhaps you are afraid of what you think being seen by others because you feel it is inherently wrong, or you are not sure it is right.

Naturally, any attempts to hide or pretend will eventually be uncovered. While it is possible to hide and pretend, it is also important to understand and accept the potential consequences of being exposed.

It is akin to undertaking an action that one is aware may be in conflict with one's principles, with the possibility of a potential benefit. In such a case, it is necessary to accept the consequences and the discomfort that may arise from going against one's inner voice, until such time as one is able to embrace the action willingly.

Finding purity in the midst of all the pollution is not about being absolutely right or invincible. Rather, it is about choosing a reason or basis for your actions and having sufficient anticipation and strength to deal with the consequences.

Regardless of whether one's heart is pure and flawless, right or wrong, it is important to have a positive and unwavering attitude towards one's own heart. In a fast-paced and ever-changing world, having unshakable beliefs is crucial for navigating life's challenges.

I hope you find happiness.

Hello, I'm Teng Ying, a psychological counselor. Looking at your question, I can tell you're currently experiencing some fear and helplessness, but I'm here to help!

Something in your life seems to have happened, and you are very worried that others will find out about it. This makes you feel uneasy, and there may be some tension and anxiety. Let me give you a hug first!

It's time to identify your fear!

Although you haven't made it very clear, I can sense from your story that you seem to be unable to face something that has happened to you, and I'm excited to help you work through it!

This event has made your heart feel defiled, and you have no way to make it seem as if it never happened. It has left a mark on your heart, and you are afraid that this mark is something you don't want others to see. But don't worry! There is a way to make it seem as if it never happened.

It seems that because of this event, you have developed some obsessive thoughts or compulsive behaviors. But you are ashamed of this compulsion inside, and you try your best to hide it from others, which causes anxiety because you are afraid of being discovered. Fortunately, there's no need to be ashamed! You can choose to embrace your unique personality and work through these challenges with the help of a supportive community.

Let's adjust your mindset!

I may not know exactly what happened to you, but I'm excited to help you overcome this challenge!

I may not know exactly what happened to you, but I'm excited to help you! It's clear that you've been troubled by this matter and have been torturing yourself, so let's dive in and get you back on track!

I applaud you for asking these questions and seeking help! It takes courage to do so, and I admire your bravery.

I'm so proud of you for asking these questions and asking for help! It's a brave thing to do.

I know you don't want to be haunted by these worries, fears, and anxieties, and I'm excited to help you find a way to resolve this matter!

When you say your heart is polluted, did you do something you regret? When you say you are polluted and hope to be restored to a pure and flawless state, I know you think that thing was wrong and should not have been done. But you can be restored!

A mind that can distinguish right from wrong is not polluted. It's only a mind that cannot distinguish right from wrong, that takes pride in doing wrong things, and considers itself not ashamed but proud that is polluted. You are not like that, obviously!

Everyone does things they regret, everyone makes mistakes. But here's the good news: making mistakes is not scary! In fact, it's a great way to grow and learn from them so that you don't make the same mistakes again in the future. You said you are trying to fix things, so I can see that you are trying to correct your mistakes. So, really, don't

Everyone makes things they regret, and everyone has made mistakes. But here's the good news: making mistakes is not scary! In fact, it can help us grow and learn from our experiences so that we don't make the same mistakes again in the future. You said you are trying to fix things, so I see that you are trying to correct your mistakes. So there is really no need to label yourself as contaminated!

Absolutely! Find a way to cope.

Absolutely! Try to find ways to cope.

From your account, I can sense that you are very afraid of others finding out what happened, and you have been trying desperately to cover it up. This fear can put a lot of pressure on you, and can lead to obsessive thoughts, anxiety, and so on. But you can get through this!

I've got some great suggestions to help you get out of your current predicament!

First, let it out! If you have a trusted family member or friend nearby, you can tell them what happened.

If you don't want to tell your family and friends, you can talk to a professional psychological counselor or psychologist. It's a great idea! Talking about it and hearing other people's opinions will help you feel less scared.

Second, accept yourself! Everyone encounters all kinds of things in life, and it's totally normal. It's not scary to encounter them. How this event affects you is not determined by the event itself, but by how we respond to it.

You're doing great! Don't rush to label yourself. You have already recognized that you have made a mistake, and at least you are not justifying what you did as something that should be done.

Don't rush to label yourself. You've already recognized that you made a mistake, and you're not justifying what you did as something that should be done. That's great! Keep up the good work.

This is a kind of facing up to the music, seeing and acknowledging your own amazing bravery!

Third, choose to respond! If you have done something wrong, you can absolutely try to correct it, make amends, and not make the same mistake again.

You see, there are so many ways you can choose! Hiding and covering things up may be one way, but this approach has led you into a difficult situation, so you might as well try something different. When you use other methods to do something you feel is useful, perhaps your guilt and self-blame can be reduced a lot!

I really hope this helps!

I really hope this helps!

From what you've shared, it seems that pursuing inner purity and innocence may have become challenging for you, and the fear of others' opinions has made you even more cautious about such "seeing through." I can imagine that the internal struggles you're facing must be quite uncomfortable. I hope the following words can offer some comfort and guidance as you navigate these challenges:

1. It might be helpful to try to understand what you are "afraid of" behind your fear of being seen through.

From what I can gather from your comments, it seems that you are afraid of being judged and noticed by others. Could you please elaborate on what exactly you are afraid of behind this fear?

For instance, some people are afraid of being judged because they worry that they might not be able to handle the contemptuous attitude and harsh words of others. Some are afraid that they will not be liked and will be excluded as a result. Others are afraid that it means they are worthless and good for nothing. So, what are you afraid of?

When we are aware of our fears, we can more effectively address them. This allows us the opportunity to identify potential shortcomings in our understanding and recognize that the truth may not always align with our initial assumptions.

It could be said that most people care more about themselves than they do about others.

It is possible that those who care about themselves will only be concerned with the outcome, while those who do not care about themselves may simply laugh it off.

It is also possible that it may even become the talk of the town for a while, but it is just a way for the other person to try to stand out.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to consider the possibility that there might be other factors at play here.

Secondly, it would be helpful to gain a better understanding of what is meant by the term "contaminated" mind. It is important to recognise that if someone is experiencing a mental illness, it is not their fault.

In the same way that we cannot blame someone with a cold, fever, high blood pressure, or diabetes for being sick, a person suffering from a mental illness is also in a position where they are unable to help themselves.

It is important to remember that the person suffering is the person with the mental illness. If anyone makes accusations, it is important to recognize that it is prejudice and discrimination at play, rather than any fault of the patient.

It may be said that the heart has never been polluted, only the world is too dirty.

It may be helpful to consider seeking professional help, whether it is psychotherapy or counseling, as a way of re-examining the occurrence of the event and embracing and accepting your illness more.

It is important to remember that when we are unwell, we have a right to care, love and healing.

It is my sincere hope that the above sharing will be an inspiration to you.

As a psychologist, my focus is not on exploring human nature but on caring for the human heart. I wish you well.

Hello!

In life, there are water purifiers and air purifiers. But you and I can calm your heart.

A pure and flawless heart is only momentary. It's not possible to have one as an adult.

It's like a blank piece of paper that has already been colored. As you grow up, the dots become lines.

When we accept it, lines can draw a beautiful picture, but some lines are mixed together. You try to remove these colors, but the paper is damaged. It is important to accept it.

I think you all have secrets. We all hide them from others. This may be what the questioner thinks is a "contaminated heart." This is normal. Everyone goes through it.

If you're bitten by a snake, you're likely to be afraid of rope for ten years. It's normal to have a stress response to certain situations. If it's minor, only observant people will notice. Those who care about you will avoid these situations.

If you can adapt to a situation, try to overcome your fear. If you can't, reduce your contact with it.

Treat your closest people with sincerity, and they'll be sincere with you. Be honest. Do what you want.

If you're unsure, ask the spring breeze. If it doesn't answer, follow your heart.

Hello, host! I'm so happy to have met you!

From what you've told me, it seems like your worries, fears, and even some of your obsessive symptoms might be caused by a subconscious belief that a polluted heart can't be restored to its pure and flawless state.

I can see you're feeling a little stuck in this understanding, and I can imagine it's a painful feeling for you.

I don't know your age, identity, past experiences, etc., and I don't know why you have these thoughts, but I'd still love to chat with you about this topic!

I'd love to know more about what you mean by a "polluted heart." I'm really curious about what happened to make you think your heart is polluted.

I'd love to know what you think is the "pure and flawless appearance."

I'm curious, do you truly believe that a "polluted heart" is truly polluted?

Let's take adolescent boys and girls as an example. Many young people think that having a crush on the opposite sex is impure. They also think that some normal and common physical developments and physiological responses are shameful. And if there is masturbation or other such behavior, it is sinful.

As we grow older, we gradually realize that all that happens is a process of growth, and it has nothing to do with purity or not. It's so freeing to be able to say, "I've grown up," without feeling ashamed or guilty.

Maybe you're going through something similar right now, too.

Yesterday is like saying goodbye, while today is like a brand new beginning! Don't forget the past, but always look forward to tomorrow.

Every day is a brand new day!

I really hope you can find a way to break free from the prison of your thoughts. I wish you a happy life!

Dear poster, It's understandable that you want a flawless heart. However, it's important to recognize that such thoughts may be a form of compulsion and perfectionism. These thoughts can cause significant stress and self-condemnation, which can lead to unnecessary challenges.

Could I ask what you are afraid of if someone were to see inside you? Is it that little bit of darkness?

It's understandable to be concerned that others might avoid you or lose interest in you if they see any shortcomings in you. It can be challenging to want to present a perfect image, to appear flawless.

You may feel like you're still a student, or even younger. You may have high expectations of yourself, but you may also have concerns about the outside world.

It is possible that all of this could exacerbate your anxiety. As you grow older and gain more social experience, you may find that you become more and more enriched.

1. It is important to understand that there is a distinction between thinking and doing. Thoughts will naturally arise in any person's mind, and as the body develops and enters puberty, the activity of sex hormones may also increase the number of sexual thoughts.

It is important to remember that these are very natural occurrences. If a person does not experience any sexual fantasies, it may be worth considering whether this is normal for them. Similarly, offensive thoughts with a certain maliciousness and hatred may be a form of self-deceptive comfort.

It would be beneficial to remember that there is a distinction between thinking and doing. While we can think about many things, we cannot always act on those thoughts.

It is important to remember that trying to avoid negative thoughts may not be the most effective approach. Allowing yourself to experience these thoughts without judgment can help you understand them better and find ways to cope with them more effectively.

2. It might be helpful to consider letting go of the idea of perfection. Perfectionism can often manifest as a tendency to be overly demanding of oneself.

While perfectionism can motivate people to work harder and set higher standards, it can also lead to a waste of energy on unnecessary things. It may be helpful to consider letting go of excessive perfectionism and embracing a more relaxed approach, with a sense of contentment at 80 points.

3. Try to accept yourself and others as people with both strengths and weaknesses. It's possible that the fear that others will leave because of a little bit of your own imperfection is a projection of your own inner self.

It is important to recognize that everyone, including our friends, has flaws. Despite these imperfections, our relationships can still be positive and supportive. Similarly, we must acknowledge that we all possess a combination of strengths and weaknesses.

It might be helpful to consider that accepting the darker side of yourself can help you feel more complete. It's possible that loving without hating and surviving without those base desires might also be beneficial.

I would like to suggest, if I may, a very light and easy read: The Beauty of Imperfection.

It is my hope that we will continue to grow in our ability to accept ourselves and become more comfortable with our beauty.

Hello, I extend to you a 360-degree hug.

From your question, I don't know what you've been through, but I want to say that no matter what you've been through in the past, we can still become better people now. At the same time, it's important to recognize that we can't control other people's opinions and that asking them to change is not always possible.

In short, I believe the best course of action is to simply do your own thing and let the rest take its course.

There is an old Chinese saying that I find quite thought-provoking: "Lay down the butcher's knife and you will instantly become a Buddha." And another that I've always liked is: "Treat a man differently after just three days apart."

It seems that many people believe that people can change.

It is also worth noting that there are some negative sayings out there, such as "the way you are at three years old is how you will be at seven years old."

It is worth noting that the ability to change depends on one's willingness to do so. If there is a desire to change, it is certainly possible to do so.

In response to your question, you used the word "restore." I respectfully disagree with the notion that we can go back to the past or that we can pretend that what happened never happened. Life is linear, and there is no turning back.

I don't know what you've been through, but perhaps it would be helpful to accept that your heart has been tainted (of course, this may be your own perception and feeling, but your own perception and feeling is always more important than others, because it has the most direct impact). It might be beneficial to accept that you have been tainted, and to accept that you want to return to your former purity and innocence. It's also important to accept that even if you are reborn, the purity and innocence after that is different from the purity and innocence before that.

It is often said that old people return to their original state, or that they act like children. While they may act like children, they are not children in the traditional sense.

It could be said that the childlike innocence of an old person may be a result of years of accumulated wisdom, while the innocence of a child is something that is innate and instinctive.

It's important to recognize that these two are different. While you can certainly strive to improve yourself and aim for a state of purity and flawlessness, it's essential to understand that this journey is not about replicating a previous version of purity and flawlessness.

Perhaps the first step towards repair and healing is to accept differences and past experiences, even those that are less than ideal. We were all young and foolish at one time, after all.

You also asked how to make others not notice. You even wrote similar sentences three times in just two lines, which shows that you care a great deal about what others think.

It's important to remember that we can't control how others think. Even if we've made significant positive changes in our lives, there might still be some who hold negative perceptions. This is something we can't change, but we can work to shift these views gradually through our actions.

It is challenging to remove labels and prejudices, as it often takes time to do so.

For example, Hong Kong star Shu Qi became famous after she took off her clothes, but she was still quite good at acting. Later, she said, "I would like to gradually resume wearing clothes again." Over the years, she has indeed done so, winning many professional awards.

Even now, some people may still have that perception of Shu Qi.

It's important to remember that we can't control how others think or perceive us. Every step we take will shape how others see us, and we need to be mindful of that.

It is important to accept our past, present, and future, and to understand that we cannot control what others think.

I believe the key is in how we do it. It's about being true to ourselves, striving to be good people, and working to become better versions of ourselves.

We can leave the rest to time and fate.

I am often both Buddhist and pessimistic, an occasionally positive and motivated counselor, and I have a great deal of love and respect for the world.