Can people feel love? Does giving feel like love, or is it love?

Dear questioner, I'm sending you a big, warm hug and I really hope my reply can help and support you.

You have so much potential for growth! You just need to start exploring your self-awareness a little more. Once you start doing that, you'll start to see changes in your life.

Let's start with emotional isolation. When you live in your own world, it can be hard to feel the pain of others and see yourself clearly. This can lead to relationship problems at work and in life. You might even have a communication barrier with others, without realizing it.

It's okay if you don't feel the love of others. It's also because you know that the other person is good to you, but you just can't submit to them. This is a protective mechanism that protects you from being hurt. It's important to explore what happened in your childhood and the influence your nurturer had on you.

How do you see yourself in your world? It's so important to remember that our subconscious mind is there to protect us from being hurt again. It's a natural thing to want to protect ourselves while also isolating us from interactions with the outside world, but it's also good to be aware that this can sometimes happen.

It's so important to connect with your body, from the surface layer to the vulnerable layer. It's also a great idea to slowly clean out the dusty memories, because if you can't let go of resentment and anger, you won't be able to let love in.

To enter into a positive emotional experience, a process of transformation is needed. It can be tough to accept the dark side of ourselves, but it's so important! The two forces within fight against each other, consuming each other. There is no strength.

It's okay to show weakness, admit that you're jealous, love to compare, and be a little self-righteous. Just don't dwell on it or resist it. You'll see that acceptance can bring about change.

For so many years, we've been caught up in a web of our own making, wasting precious energy on internal conflicts. We always want to present the perfect version of ourselves to others, but we can't always be true to ourselves. It can be so hard to live up to what others want! We just need to remember that everyone has their own limitations. It's also perfectly normal to give the dark side a home and admit our own limitations.

When you're at peace with yourself and know yourself better, you'll also appreciate the difficulties of others. With inner strength, change will happen and emotions will become richer. Being able to understand yourself, put yourself in other people's shoes, and understand others will reduce friction. In the process of continuous friction, you'll correct yourself and become a better person.

I wish you all the very best!

Hello, I'm Zeyu.

People can feel love. Giving and love are two sides of the same coin.

You said you don't feel empathy and that thinking about these things is painful. Let's first answer why you feel pain.

Pain is caused by how we understand events and our personal experiences. If you have been hurt or unloved, you may be unable to face this feeling. This will activate parts of the brain and send painful signals to the body, forming a strong sense of pain. When this forms a physical memory, it will be painful every time it is experienced.

This painful experience will be similar to your own. There will also be people who feel love. This feeling may come from an event, a moment, an experience, a certain sentence, etc. Our cognitive and sensory systems work together to complete the process.

If you haven't felt moved, it may be that you don't recognize that feeling, or it may be a matter of threshold levels. You feel on the verge of not being able to accept it. Let's try to make some changes now.

We can learn about empathy and emotional management by reading books and taking courses. Then, we can try to feel what others feel through counseling or listening. We can also reflect on the process with the counselor or listener to relearn and repair this experience.

You can also watch movies like The Shawshank Redemption, Green Book, or The Great Gatsby. These movies can make you feel loved and help you understand other people better. If you don't feel better after watching a movie, try helping others.

I hope the original poster can reconcile with themselves soon. Good luck.

Hello, question asker!

You have asked a question that cannot be answered easily.

Love is not easy to explain.

I am happy to share the love I feel with you, just as you said, to give it more perspective.

1. Love is felt at different times and for different reasons.

I'll give you another example.

When I encounter failure, I feel down.

My good friend put down his work and kept me company.

He didn't say anything, but he made it clear.

I know I'm loved.

At that moment, I knew he cared about me and wanted to get through the difficult times with me.

For example, when I encounter something I can't handle on my own,

For example, when I encounter things that I can't handle on my own, such as a light that doesn't work or a computer that's broken, my family fixes them without saying a word. I know I'm loved, supported, and helped without having to worry about anything.

When I feel bad about myself and full of self-doubt, my husband looks at me with eyes full of love and appreciation. He tells me that no one is perfect and that he thinks I'm great.

When my husband accepts and loves me for who I am, I feel completely accepted and loved.

There are many such examples.

Our needs for love change depending on the situation.

Sometimes, we want to be understood and noticed. Other times, we need to be accompanied, encouraged, or valued.

When our needs are met, we feel loved.

2. Feeling loved is more important than actually being loved.

The book "The Five Languages of Love" makes it clear that when it comes to love, expressing love and feeling love are different for everyone.

These five languages of love are:

Words of affirmation, praise, and compliments. It's about feeling appreciated, affirmed, and loved.

Some people like "special moments," such as spending time together as a couple.

Some people like to receive gifts.

And some prefer acts of service.

If a person's primary love language is "physical touch," then the most effective way to resolve an argument is to give him a strong hug and kiss.

We must perceive what we value more.

You say you are "apathetic and emotionless." Think about whether you have a faint joy or happiness.

If you don't feel touched, is there someone or something you slightly favor?

Start with the small things. This is the easiest way for us to slowly feel love.

Some people are happy when they're with you, and you're affected. You feel beautiful and shining in his eyes. You feel seen and loved.

3. Love is seen, connected, and there is an energy flow.

Psychologically speaking, love is the "principle of mental visibility."

The other person is like a mirror that reflects our own image. We fall in love with each other and feel loved.

For example, when the beliefs, values, qualities, characteristics, and behaviors that we use to define who we are are manifested in another person, we recognize ourselves in that person.

This is why we gravitate towards people who are similar to us.

When we don't say anything, but the other person gets it, it feels like love and warmth all around.

When you're sick and tired of waiting for someone to bring you water, it's there waiting for you, warm and ready to drink.

You feel scared, but then a warm embrace reassures you and tells you not to be afraid. He will always be there for you.

At this point, we all know that love is a deep connection, as if our hearts are connected.

You will know that the emotional feeling is not superficial. It is heavy and tangible.

Good friends will send you a WeChat message when they think of you, even if they're not around.

At this point, you will know that love is like an invisible yet unbreakable thread that connects you deeply.

This also requires us to open ourselves up and let our emotions flow.

Because love is mutual.

Share these.

Share these words.

Feelings of love are different for everyone.

I know you will find your own share of emotion.

Read Feeling Love by Jenny Segal.

The author is clear: we never lack love, but we can lose the ability to feel it.

May the light of love shine upon you!

Hello there, question asker!

After reading the questioner's description of the problem, it seems like they're really trying to understand love better.

I'd love to share my thoughts with you!

[Too rational for love]

I just wanted to say that true love doesn't happen when you're too rational.

Because they are too rational, they suppress their emotions, and end up feeling like the questioner, who says, "I'm not very good at showing empathy or emotions." This can make them seem cold and unfeeling.

It's true that young people show more signs of love because they're more emotional when they're young.

Unstable love given

But young people's love is sometimes more of an unconscious need. It's totally normal! When they're young, their emotions are all over the place, and they're really focused on getting love from others.

On the other hand, this kind of love isn't always the most stable.

Because it depends on the other person's giving, it is a kind of love that lacks sex, a love that is difficult to satisfy, a love that is risky, and a passive love.

"True love means giving everything."

Of course, you can be moved by liking someone, but it's only natural to feel heartache when you love someone.

This kind of "heartache" is what the questioner is going through, feeling like they're not being touched in the way they need to be.

When you truly love someone, you want to give everything for them, including the kind of "giving" described by the original poster.

I truly hope that, even if you don't end up together, the other person can live a happy life.

And love often comes with possessiveness, thinking that if you give, you should get something in return. If there is no return, you might feel a little hurt or disappointed.

I really hope this helps you out!

Good day, question asker. My name is Evan.

From the questioner's description, it can be inferred that the questioner has raised his own questions: What is love and how do you feel it? Frequently, individuals experience a longing for love or a desire to love others, yet often, they are uncertain as to whether the love they are offering is genuine.

Indeed, love is present from the moment of conception. Without love, it is impossible to be born into this world. What, then, is the questioner's conception of love?

It is a fundamental tenet of human biology that humans cannot be born without love. Indeed, without love, humans may have died long ago. There was once a famous experiment in psychology that looked at what would happen if babies were only fed but not cuddled.

The experiment yielded the following result: the infants who were not hugged died of neglect. It can be argued that the capacity to mature and survive to the present day is contingent upon the provision of love and affection throughout one's development.

The emotions desired by adults are no longer limited to physical affection; they encompass a broader range of experiences, including a sense of acceptance, recognition, and pursuit of interests. This shift in emotional needs may explain the questioner's inquiry about the nature of love and the type of love that can evoke a profound response.

As the question was posed on an online forum, it is not feasible to provide a comprehensive response. However, I can offer some fundamental insights into the nature of love and how one might cultivate it.

It is essential to comprehend the nature of the love one desires.

What kind of love does the questioner desire? There are numerous varieties of love, and each individual possesses a unique conception of love. Some individuals perceive companionship as a form of love, whereas others associate intimate relationships with love. What kind of love does the questioner seek?

Has the questioner reflected on this matter in a thorough manner? Frequently, even in the absence of intimate relationships, we are capable of experiencing love in specific aspects and nuances. It is essential for the questioner to ascertain the nature of love they desire.

Naturally, should the questioner perceive that the other person is failing to reciprocate their affections, they may choose to express their feelings in a forthright manner or maintain a certain degree of emotional distance. Love, it must be acknowledged, is a multifaceted phenomenon. It is not merely a source of joy, but also entails a significant degree of responsibility and commitment. It is therefore incumbent upon the questioner to ascertain whether they are prepared to assume these obligations, or whether they align with their desires.

It is imperative to maintain an awareness of the presence of love in one's life.

It is not that there is a lack of love in our environment; rather, it is that love is so pervasive that we fail to recognize it.

When individuals possess a certain degree of love, they may become preoccupied with acquiring more and may disregard the love that is already present in their lives. It is therefore essential to be mindful of the people and circumstances surrounding us to discern whether they are conveying signals of love. Failure to recognize these signals may result in an inability to empathize with the love being expressed and may lead to feelings of confusion.

It has been posited that when one regards the world through the lens of love, the world is imbued with a similar sentiment; conversely, when one views the world through the prism of hatred, the world is perceived as a place brimming with animosity. While it may not be feasible to regard the world with unadulterated love, it is imperative to espouse the tenet of love and to discern the presence of love in one's immediate surroundings.

It is imperative to identify one's passion.

What are the questioner's strengths and interests? What is worthy of investment of time and energy? If the questioner simply has a strong affinity for something, they will attract a group of people who also have a similar interest.

In the book "The Law of Attraction," it is also stated that when an individual desires something, they will attract people who are similar to them. When an individual shows their love for something, whether it is sports or something else, and devotes themselves to it wholeheartedly, the people around them will be influenced by the individual's enthusiasm and find their own love.

Consequently, the recipients of such actions will reciprocate with their own expressions of affection. This raises the question of whether the questioner will be able to perceive these displays of love.

It is recommended that you seek psychological assistance.

Should one remain unable to experience or comprehend the concept of love despite the aforementioned methods, it is recommended to seek the assistance of a qualified psychologist or counselor.

It is my contention that by consulting with these professionals, the individual in question will gain a new perspective on the issues at hand and will be better equipped to achieve a state of mental and physical well-being.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the individual who posed the question.

Hello! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

The person who asked the question said that they feel like they don't have much empathy or love-and-hate-towards-my-boyfriend-the-emotional-hurdle-is-hard-to-overcome-what-should-i-do-7532.html" target="_blank">emotion. It seems like you're feeling everything on the surface and you've never really felt moved by anything. It's really important for you to feel your emotions more deeply, right?

Let me start by sharing my thoughts on love. I believe it's a truly complex emotion. The love I felt from my parents and grandparents was a huge part of my upbringing. When I was feeling down or unsure, my mother would give me a big hug and tell me everything would be okay. My dad would come home from work with little gifts that I absolutely loved. When I needed a boost of confidence, my grandmother would say, "There's nothing you can't overcome if you put your mind to it." And when I was in high school and away from home, my grandfather would drive all the way from our hometown to visit me. I'd watch him leave and, without even realizing it, start to cry. That's another kind of love...

Love is such a beautiful, complex emotion. It encompasses warmth, emotion, joy, anticipation, care, support, companionship, and so much more. It's the deepest emotion in the deepest part of the heart.

So, for your own good, here are some suggestions for you to think about:

Take some time to think about why you might lack empathy and emotional expression, and try to understand yourself.

Let's take a moment to reflect on our own growth journeys. We can gently explore what we experienced as children that made us hesitant to express our feelings and emotions. Did we ever feel hurt when we were too empathetic and emotional as children? Our bodies are truly amazing! At that time, to keep us safe, our bodies would activate our defense mode and make us more aware of keeping our emotions on the surface.

So, let's also think about whether this pattern has really brought us some benefits. For example, it might mean that we don't have to feel too much of other people's pain and troubles. But at the same time, we also need to see that it can have some adverse effects on us. For example, we might find it difficult to feel the love and warmth that others give us.

Many of our defense mechanisms were designed to help us survive, but as we grow older and times change, these childhood defense mechanisms are no longer applicable to us. So, it's really important that we understand why we have these patterns. Once we understand why, we can work on breaking these patterns and rebuilding new ones.

2. Find the perfect counselor for psychological counseling, let your true feelings shine in a safe space, and let your inner love shine bright!

It's totally normal to find it tricky to make a deep emotional connection. It's probably because we've been taught that it's dangerous and unsafe. This is also related to our growth experience. If we didn't get unconditional acceptance, respect and understanding from our parents during our growth process, it's only natural that we'd find it difficult to feel love. Even when we express our desire for their love, we'll suffer rejection and even criticism. We'll be very hurt, and gradually we'll build a wall around our hearts, afraid to easily reveal our true emotions.

In a counseling room, a professional counselor will create a safe, warm, free, and relaxed space for us, giving us unconditional understanding, respect, and acceptance. Gradually, in the interaction of this relationship, our inner vitality will be activated, our inner love will be aroused, and a new self will grow from the inside out. This new self dares to present the real self, not only its love, but also its vulnerability and other emotions. It will also accept this complete but imperfect self, reveal its own softness, have expectations for the world, and trust others. As a result, emotions that have never surfaced before will begin to flow, and we can experience a richer level of life.

3. There are lots of ways you can boost your empathy (empathic ability).

It's so important to practise empathy through interpersonal interaction. That's the only way we can truly understand others. So, try to arrange one or two social occasions for yourself each week. When you're socialising, try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Imagine what they're feeling and thinking. If you were in their position, what would you do? What emotions and feelings would you have?

There are also some lovely books out there that can help us to improve our empathy. Some of my favourites are "The Power of Empathy", "Nonviolent Communication", "Living a Life of Blossoming Hearts", "Don't Reason When Empathy Is Needed", and "The Power of Empathy".

And there are other ways we can improve our empathy, too! For instance, we can play role-playing games to experience the emotional experiences of others in the process of participation. Games like current stage plays and script killing are a great way for us to experience the emotions, psychology, and feelings of different characters.

I really hope this is helpful for you! Wishing you all the best!

Hello, my name is Jialan, and I'm happy to be here with you today!

I'm happy to answer your question in the title, "Can people feel love? Is the feeling of giving love the same as receiving love?" I think it's a great question! I'll answer it by breaking it down into three parts:

Oh, I know you're wondering, can a person feel love?

Absolutely! Everyone, from the tiniest infant to the wisest elder, can feel love.

I'm curious, do you think giving and feeling love are the same?

I'm not sure if you're asking if the feeling of giving is the same as the feeling of love. If so, then the answer is the same! The giving of family, friends, and others is done with love, and the receiver certainly feels love. Even a smile from a stranger is an ordinary act of love in the world.

Oh, and then there's the question of giving love.

I'm not quite sure what you mean, but I'll share my thoughts anyway! It's like giving someone a rose and feeling happy yourself. When we give to others, we feel love too.

Then take another look at the main text. You mentioned that your emotions and empathy are pretty weak. That's okay! Not everyone is the same. How many people would love to be able to stay calm and collected in any situation?

It seems like your feelings are just on the surface. I'm wondering if this is causing you some internal conflict.

I'm really sorry to hear that something has caused you distress.

If you want to feel moved, I've got a great tip for you! Try moving others first. It's such a joy to move others, and you'll also get to experience the feeling of being moved.

I really hope my sharing can help you. I wish you a happy new year, happiness, and good health!