Can't bear to let go of that girl, yet don't want to hurt my girlfriend, unsure of how to choose?

Good day. I am Strawberry.

From the information provided and the circumstances outlined, it can be inferred that the individual in question has a commendable outlook on relationships. Upon learning that the person they are interested in is already in a relationship and that their compatibility is limited, and that their relationship has not been misconstrued by others, they have made the decision to end it.

The current girlfriend was met through a matchmaking service. As a result, the relationship may develop more slowly due to the lack of familiarity between the two individuals. The strength of the relationship is contingent upon the compatibility between the partners. The current girlfriend is employed in a bank, which is a stable and secure profession. The role also requires meticulousness, which is why the questioner believes that the current girlfriend is virtuous but not particularly attractive. There are feelings between the two individuals, and it is evident that inner qualities can contribute to the longevity of a relationship more than outer qualities.

The girl you like: Due to your affection for her, you are more invested in the relationship. She is aware of your feelings and, following her decision to end the relationship, expressed her desire for you to end it and marry her. She displays a tendency towards stubbornness and self-centredness, and is unable to consider the perspectives of others. For a long-term relationship, this personality trait will inevitably lead to conflict. She displays a stubborn temperament and is reluctant to accept advice and criticism from others. When a disagreement arises, she is not the first to concede, regardless of who initiated the conflict.

I am uncertain as to how I should proceed.

1. Follow your heart

Indeed, the questioner has already formed an opinion based on the comparison of the two individuals. The only conclusion that can be drawn is that a minimalistic approach may be the most optimal. The desire to see her again is likely driven by a lack of familiarity with her.

From the description, it is evident that your current girlfriend is a superior choice for a long-term partner. However, you are unable to move on from your feelings for the other girl. It is important to allow yourself time to reflect on this decision. Abandoning your current girlfriend and pursuing a relationship with the other person is a significant step. It is crucial to consider whether you can tolerate the other person's personality and how you will interact with each other.

One must consider whether they are prepared to face such a life.

If the answer is that the optimal outcome is desired, then pursue the happiness that is desired in one's heart, provided that one is capable of managing one's own relationship issues. There is no guarantee that if two people remain together, they will remain together forever. If one truly dislikes one's current girlfriend, then remaining together is merely a compromise, which is unfair to both parties.

2. It is important to consider one's own requirements in a potential spouse.

It is a common phenomenon for individuals to have specific expectations of their partners. While external factors may undergo changes over time, it is often more challenging to alter one's intrinsic character and inner self.

It is therefore inadvisable to change one's mind for external reasons, as there is a possibility that in the future, the other person will be compared to one's own demands, and dissatisfaction may then arise when these demands are not met.

It is my hope that this response will prove useful to you. Sincerely,