Can't bear to see others suffer, always worried about others, what is this kind of psychology?

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first.

You can see that your heart is especially tender and kind.

When we feel uncomfortable with the words or actions of others, it's a sign that we have similar parts within us, possibly from a traumatic experience in the past.

Keep an eye out for similar situations and notice what you feel in those moments. What psychological needs might be driving your desire to help others?

Does this scene remind you of a past version of yourself? Behind your love for them is your compassion for the once-neglected, cornered self.

You can keep an emotional diary where you write down the feelings you have when you see a similar situation. This helps you to understand your emotions better so you can find ways to respond to and meet your inner needs.

For instance, you could write a letter to the younger, neglected version of yourself, or try the self-dialogue exercise. Show some love to the younger, more vulnerable version of yourself who's been hiding in the corner, and reassure them that you've grown up and have the resources to take care of yourself. You don't need to be afraid anymore. You can go after everything you want with confidence.

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Hello, I sense that you are a person with a sensitive and compassionate heart.

I find it difficult to see others suffer, and I worry about them a lot. I think this may be because I project my own feelings onto others. I don't accept suffering myself, and while I feel sympathy for others, I also feel sympathy for my own situation.

I used to be quite concerned about others, often feeling that they needed my assistance and that they couldn't manage without me.

I also learned through study that there are many parts of me that could benefit from some acceptance. For example, I tend to view my own suffering as something that I should avoid, and I worry about myself a great deal. This can make it difficult for me to let go of others.

By becoming aware of myself, accepting my habitual psychology, and then releasing these worries and fears within myself, I gradually built up inner strength, saw the positive meaning behind suffering, saw the negative aspects behind worries and fears, and came to accept that I was originally so fragile inside. I slowly began to be able to face my life in a more positive way, and I no longer worry about myself when I encounter difficulties.

I have come to understand that worrying about others is unproductive. Everyone has their own path to follow in life, and if I consider the big picture, I can have a positive impact on others by being happy for them.

I can offer them more affirmation and encouragement, rather than treating others as weak and myself as a saint, as I did in the past. This may be more harmful to the other person's self-esteem, and my unconscious worries in the past have only made myself and the other person more anxious.

Everyone appreciates positive reinforcement and is grateful for the support of others. However, they may not always respond well to being treated as if they are weak. To truly help others, we should focus on building their inner confidence and strength, and encourage them to take responsibility for their own lives.

I hope my answer is helpful to you. I wish you well and thank you for your kindness.

Dear question asker,

I have carefully read the problem you described and I fully comprehend your emotional state. You indicate that you are unable to witness the suffering of others and that you are concerned about their well-being when they encounter difficulties or are not doing well. Based on your statements, I can discern that you are sincere, kind, compassionate, and highly empathetic.

What is the nature of this mentality?

Those who are unable to tolerate the suffering of others are born with a predisposition towards compassion and benevolence. They are inclined to assist others, engage in altruistic actions, and are gratified by the opportunity to help. The notion that "all people are born with a good nature" is a profoundly humane assertion.

In all actions, it is imperative to prioritize the emotional well-being of others. When confronted with an individual in distress or adversity, one will endeavor to provide assistance, even if it entails a degree of personal sacrifice.

2. You are adept at discerning individuals in your vicinity who are experiencing adversity or exhibiting suboptimal behavior. You can perceive these situations with your eyes and possess a capacity for empathy, while still maintaining a commitment to virtuous actions. This is an exemplary character trait. Despite the prevalence of benevolent individuals in our society, there are also numerous individuals who exhibit indifference and self-interest. It is, therefore, essential to adhere to one's principles and cultivate inner tranquility.

3. Therefore, there is no inherent problem with your mentality, and it is commendable to possess a compassionate disposition. In the future, should you encounter an individual experiencing distress, you may provide assistance within the scope of your capabilities. If you are in a position to offer aid, do so; otherwise, it is acceptable to refrain from doing so.

It is my sincere hope that this response is of some assistance to you. The world and I send our love to you.

Hello, question asker!

Let's explore together the psychology of being unable to bear to see others suffer and always worrying about others.

I'm so grateful that the person asking the question is someone who is naturally empathetic. Empathy is such a beautiful quality. It means that when someone is sad, you feel sad too. You think about things from their perspective and are tolerant of others.

This mentality is a wonderful expression of the "good" in human nature.

The saying "people are born good" is all about that natural instinct we're born with to be kind to others, to sympathize with the weak and the little, to feel compassion for these things, and then want to help others.

And it's also affected by our surroundings.

This might be because of the beliefs our parents passed on to us when we were growing up. Maybe our parents would say things like, "Oh, that person is so pitiful!" These words can become our attitudes and beliefs when we face life events.

It's also possible that school education has influenced our views on those who are weak or in need.

People with this mentality usually take on the role of caregiver in their relationships, especially close ones.

Maybe you're the oldest child in your family, and your parents often ask you to take care of your younger siblings. It's so natural for us to watch out for others and to be there for them when they need us. We've just picked up this caregiver role in life, and it's become second nature to us.

People who are empathetic and treat others well will also be tolerated and rewarded by others, and life should be full of meaning and joy!

One day, I saw a man lying on the ground, not answering his phone even though it kept ringing. I just knew that his family or friends were calling and were really worried about him.

So, the doorman and I called the police together, and thankfully, with the help of the police, we found his family and were able to get him to the hospital.

So, if we can help out in any way, our empathy can turn into real, practical action.

I really hope it helps!

Warmest regards!

From a psychological perspective, this situation of not being able to bear to see others suffer and worrying about others has the following characteristics:

You are kind and compassionate. You empathize with others and understand their feelings.

This is a good quality, but it can also cause stress and anxiety because you care about others and may feel overwhelmed.

You may have high expectations of yourself and others. You may try hard to help others and hope they appreciate your efforts.

This may lead to higher demands on others and disappointment. It also shows you have a high sense of self-worth and want to realize your value by helping others.

You may also be too sensitive to others' emotions and easily influenced. This can make it hard for you to deal with negative emotions and you may need extra support and reassurance.

However, this may also be a strength. You can understand others' feelings.

Here are some tips for coping:

1. Learn self-awareness. Understand your emotions and motives, and be aware of the stress and anxiety that compassion may bring. This will help you control your emotions and behavior.

2. Think rationally. When you see others suffering, try to balance your emotions with rational thinking. Ask yourself, "What can I do for them?"

How can I help?

3, Emotion regulation: Learn to relieve anxiety and restlessness. You can do this through exercise, meditation, breathing exercises, etc.

4, Communicate with others: If you are worried or upset, share your feelings and thoughts. This will help you gain support and relieve your burden.

5. Your empathy and concern for others will make you popular. But you also need to take care of yourself.

This helps you connect with others better and play a bigger role in relationships.

I hope this helps. If you have any questions, please ask.

The kind and compassionate heart of the Bodhisattva is very similar to the Virgin Mary in the West. There's no need to label ourselves, but it's interesting to see how sometimes our actions may be similar to those of a savior.

You might also find that you just can't bear to see others suffer. You can see that the food at the vocational school is very meager, and you can only eat steamed buns, which are easy to choke on. Then you saw this poor boy staring at the food window, but he was so thoughtful and unable to do anything.

His haste is also very heartbreaking. Perhaps in today's environment, we are all like puppets on a string, unable to stop moving forward. You worry that other people can see your kindness and compassion, and that's a natural thing to do.

Everyone has compassion in their hearts, and the wisest among us can keep it there. We can all observe and understand the suffering in the world. If there are things we can help with, then we can carry forward the spirit of Lei Feng. If there are things we can't help with, then we can only help ourselves.

For those poor children, they naturally have their own stories to run, and maybe they are willing to do so, for the sake of their families and survival. These are the true reflections of today's world, and everyone is doing their best to survive. Cherish the good life you have, and that's what we need to do, come on!

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You were right to share this. You saw a classmate pounding on his chest during breakfast, worrying that he was choking.

I saw a child buying meals for someone else earlier and I was worried they were being bullied. I can sense your tenderness, kindness, and subtle powers of observation, as well as your confusion. I don't know what this psychology is, and it causes me some distress.

First of all, I'd like to give the original poster a warm hug! Let's be real, most people with a kind heart can't bear the suffering of others.

However, this characteristic can also cause distress. When watching a tragedy, we are drawn into the ups and downs of the protagonist's fate and sad emotions well up inside. When reading news reports about sad events in society, we shed sympathetic tears for the people involved.

It doesn't matter if they're real or fictional characters in literature, or if they're domestic or foreign. They can always touch our hearts.

Our emotional empathy is like a net. If the net is too large, we sympathize with and feel the feelings of people who are not related to our lives, or strangers who are far away from us in space, such as foreigners. This excessively consumes our mental energy, exhausting us and preventing us from living and working normally.

Therefore, partners with a strong ability to empathize must be aware of the web of empathy they have created. They must ask themselves: is it cast too widely? Can it be retracted a little?

We can avoid being disturbed by receiving the company of those we know well, within the confines of close relationships.

We must also ask: did those people really suffer an injustice?

I hope my answer helps. Have a nice life!

Hello!

First of all, I feel that you are an incredibly kind-hearted person who will think more about others.

There are two fascinating reasons for the formation of this mentality!

The first possibility is that you have had some painful and depressing experiences yourself, such as having suffered in life. This has given you the incredible ability to empathize with the suffering of others!

The second possibility has to do with your way of thinking. You tend to think negatively, and when you see something, you tend to associate it with negative factors. You may also pay more attention to negative news in real life. But here's the good news! You can change your thinking patterns. You can choose to think more positively. You can choose to focus on the positive aspects of life. You can choose to ignore the negative news and focus on the positive aspects of your life.

The scenario of children leaving school early to buy a group of meals for others is a great example of how they're helping each other out and saving time!

The way each person thinks may be related to his or her upbringing—and it's fascinating to see how different backgrounds shape our perspectives!

It's so wonderful when you can empathize with and pay attention to the suffering of others. When you do, you'll find yourself filled with the desire to sympathize with the weak and help others. These are all the good sides of human nature, and they are well worth advocating and praising!

However, it should be noted that everyone needs to take care of themselves before helping others. If you do not have the intention to help others and do not put it into action, this mentality of yours actually has nothing to do with others. But this pattern may affect other aspects of your life, such as you may be more pessimistic and withdraw in the face of difficulties. So, let's make sure we're taking care of ourselves first!

If this mentality is causing you to become self-defeating or even exhausted, you have the power to change it! Start by exploring your thinking patterns to identify the root cause. Then, make targeted adjustments to grow stronger mentally. You have the potential to become your best self!

Empathy is a strength! But remember, everything must be based on reality. If it's only on an imaginary level, it may be more about self-exploration.

For example, you can have more positive thinking and be more optimistic! This way, you'll have more energy to sympathize with others, and you'll also have the amazing ability to empathize with and help others. This will make your life more meaningful!

I really hope Hongyu's reply helps you! Thank you so much for asking!

Hello,

You seem to be a sensitive person with good observation skills and empathy.

There may be several reasons for this.

1. You may play the role of a "caregiver" in the family. You grew up taking care of others, so you feel bad when you see someone who may not be taking care of themselves.

2. You may be unhappy with your life, but no one notices, so you want to help others.

3. You may be lucky and have a good sense of empathy.

4. Your family is supportive, and you're used to taking care of others.

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I don't know if I'm right, but you have a great sense of empathy.

But too much empathy can also be distressing. Here are some tips for feeling better when you see others struggling:

Look at the problem differently.

The child who leaves school early to buy meals for others will probably have many friends. They take turns leaving school early to buy meals for the group, including themselves. This saves time and is more fun. It probably saves money too.

Furthermore, when you see the elderly people selling vegetables at the entrance to the vegetable market, will it be because their children are filial and have moved to the city? The elderly people have nothing to do, so they grow vegetables and sell them at the market. This satisfies their sense of worth.

If you can't help, imagine why not.

Reach out.

If you feel sympathy for people in trouble, help them! Next time you see someone who looks like they're choking, buy them a bottle of water. Next time you see a child carrying a heavy load of groceries, go up to them and ask if they need help. This will help others and make you feel good.

I hope my answer helps. I wish the questioner the best!

The questioner then proceeded to inquire about the following:

I am honored to have this opportunity to engage with you on the Yixinli platform.

This is the result of karma.

A thorough examination of the material presented in your writing has led me to the conclusion that you are experiencing a considerable degree of confusion.

Furthermore, I have psychological inquiries and am curious about the underlying issues affecting my mental state. I am gratified to observe your own curiosity about the self.

Curiosity is a process of self-awareness.

In other words, one begins to examine one's own mentality and consider the underlying reasons for it.

The reason for this concern is that the individual in question is evidently experiencing distress. As there is no direct connection between myself and this person, I am perplexed as to why I should be concerned about their well-being.

One might inquire as to whether suffering is indeed a factor in this situation.

You are attempting to gain insight into your own psychological state and are seeking assistance from the individuals with whom you are in contact on this psychological platform.

One might inquire as to why it is so difficult to bear to see others suffer, and why there is such a tendency to worry about others.

The concern for the circumstances of others is also referred to as compassion or empathy.

Furthermore, it entails contemplating the potential distress that might be experienced if one were to confront a similar scenario.

This results in concern for the well-being of others. It could also be argued that you possess a kind

This is an indication of a sense of goodness. This can be considered a defining feature.

Although I am unaware of the specifics of your personal history and experiences, I am confident that you

You have previously experienced the challenges and difficulties of life, and the occurrence of setbacks can evoke an emotional response when you observe a situation.

It can be argued that empathy is a fundamental aspect of the human condition, as everyone possesses a capacity for emotional response and a tendency to form emotional connections with others. When a scene from the depths of one's memory emerges,

In reality, one will undoubtedly experience empathy.

Identify with and sympathize with oneself (it is not advisable to use this particular construction, but it is also

(The truth)

Kindness and empathy are the light of humanity, yet while they illuminate the path forward, one must also

It is imperative to safeguard one's own well-being. A luminous individual cannot dispel the entirety of darkness, and the lamp also necessitates repose.

If one does not allow for rest, the result will be a loss of illumination, both in terms of one's own being and in terms of the path forward.

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Indeed, empathy is a beneficial quality. Individuals who are empathetic tend to

In medical terminology, the phenomenon is described as follows: sorrow and worry can result in damage to the heart.

Those who are unable to extricate themselves from negative and pessimistic emotions over an extended period of time are more susceptible to experiencing heartache.

The term "heart injury" is used to describe a disease caused by prolonged sorrow and worry, which damages the heart.

Consequently, excessive empathy can result in significant emotional exhaustion, which is not a beneficial outcome.

Such practices are beneficial for both physical and mental health.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether, after reading this extensive text, the reader is now conversant with the concept of empathy. Empathy

It is also referred to as "empathy" and "transference of feelings," which signifies the act of placing oneself in another individual's circumstances.

This entails placing oneself in the position of the other person in order to comprehend their emotional state.

Given that excessive empathy is not beneficial, how might one adjust their empathy levels?

Method:

It is recommended that you enhance your own dullness.

Insensitivity can be defined as the capacity to be indifferent or lacking in empathy. It can be considered the antithesis of sensitivity, which is the ability to perceive and respond to emotions in others.

Furthermore, excessive empathy can be detrimental to one's well-being. Watanabe Junichi has a book called "Insensitivity." When you have time, I recommend reading it.

and harm from external sources. Watanabe Junichi has published a book entitled "Blunt Sensitivity." When you have the opportunity

You may peruse the text at your convenience. The words in the book are appropriate for your reading, and you should not

The individual in question displays a tendency toward excessive sensitivity.

It is important to recognize that personal abilities are limited.

It is important to recognize that everyone has limitations. It is not feasible to accomplish everything.

Furthermore, it is important to recognize that one can accomplish tasks independently and that suffering is an inherent aspect of life.

It is challenging for you to assist me in perceiving others as free from suffering. This is an objective

The question is whether

A comprehensive comprehension of one's capacity to empathize with and grieve the afflictions of others is

Affirming this state of mind is beneficial. It is important not to perceive this state of mind as negative. Some individuals have already lost this capacity in response to the negative aspects of society.

One might posit that the aforementioned state of mind is, at the very least, suboptimal. Indeed, it is evident that a considerable number of individuals have already lost this ability in the face of the considerable ugliness that is prevalent in society.

Strength is a rare and precious quality that warrants appreciation and respect.

It is imperative to be oneself.

One should endeavor to perform one's duties in an exemplary manner, or to pursue studies aimed at acquiring the skills necessary to achieve a healthy work-life balance. Additionally, it is crucial to strive for personal growth and development.

One may enrich oneself, for example, by engaging in reading. Another avenue for self-enrichment is attaining financial independence and spiritual growth.

Furthermore, this enables one to provide assistance to others and contribute to society when necessary.

It is my hope that this response will prove useful in resolving your doubts and curiosities.

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