Can't maintain a stable relationship, blocked the person I like. Was I right?

Hello, question asker!

After reading your account, I can feel the pain of blacklisting someone you like. But hey, if you don't see any hope and feel unappreciated, why would you do that to yourself?

It's tough to give up on someone you like, even if they don't feel the same way. But you're amazing! You're a girl who knows her worth and loves herself!

Absolutely! Someone who knows how to love themselves will definitely find someone who loves them like their life depends on it.

So don't worry! It's totally normal to feel a little heartbroken right now. Give yourself some time and let go slowly, okay?

The original poster said that her boyfriend doesn't want a stable relationship and can go a week without hearing from her. This is a clear sign that he's not completely invested in the relationship. It's possible that he has other options and you're just one of his considerations. But you're a smart and decisive person, and I really like you. I appreciate this kind of girl!

In relationships, we often see that even if the whole world knows that the person doesn't love her anymore, she will still insist as usual. The saddest thing in a relationship is that when a man stops loving you, the woman is still waiting foolishly in the same place.

Women should know that when a man loves you, he will be like a blazing fire, igniting you and giving you a wonderful feeling of love. But when a man doesn't love you, he will be like a block of ice, and you can't melt him no matter what you do.

Someone who truly loves you will want to be with you every minute of every day! Even if you can't be together, they will want to know your news all the time. They'll want to know what you're up to and whether you've met anything interesting!

Oh my goodness, what delicious food did you eat? The first thing you want to do is share it with the person you love! It's so important to have that connection. While the person who only calls you when they miss you and doesn't want a stable relationship is obviously just a friend, you deserve someone who is truly invested in you.

Yi Shu said:

"It's not a big deal to miss someone when you're lonely, but it's a whole other story when you're in the middle of something!"

A man who contacts you when he is lonely and bored may love you! But he may also just use you as a way to relieve his loneliness.

So, girl, you are the best! Be glad that you have the ability to actively dump someone who doesn't love you! I absolutely believe you will definitely find that guy who treasures you!

Best of luck!

Greetings, question asker.

Let me reassure you by offering a hug. I can perceive your confusion and sense of insecurity, which I recognize as an unpleasant feeling.

There is no definitive answer as to whether your actions were correct or incorrect. When an individual has an expectation, there is a certain discrepancy between the reality of the situation and their expectation of it.

The human instinct is to extricate oneself from perceived predicaments and to safeguard oneself from emotional distress.

One might inquire as to the veracity of these dilemmas. In fact, there is often a lack of certainty regarding their existence.

Should an in-depth communication with the other person be possible, it would facilitate a greater clarity of feelings regarding the situation.

From your post, I have a few questions. You stated that you desire to maintain a stable relationship.

What is meant by the term "stable relationship"? Do you have romantic feelings for him and wish to become his romantic partner? By posing this question, I aim to ascertain the role you expect the other person to treat you as.

If one desires the other person to become one's lover, it is reasonable to expect attention from them. Dissatisfaction is likely to ensue when it appears that the other person is not seeking the relationship or is not particularly invested in it.

"You assured him that there was no urgency and that you would allow time for the two of you to become better acquainted." It is possible that if you were to communicate this aspect to him, he would gain insight into your expectations and feelings regarding him. However, I am uncertain as to the accuracy of this assumption.

It appears that he is hesitating because he has not explicitly rejected you.

It seems plausible to suggest that the decision to block him was motivated by a concern that he was playing with your emotions. This is based on the assumption that he did not provide a clear answer and was evasive in his responses.

"I do not wish to engage in a dispute with him, as I believe it would be futile." It is also unnecessary to argue, but it is important to communicate effectively with the other person. It would be beneficial to express your true feelings and observe the response.

Obtaining confirmation prior to undertaking any action will enhance one's sense of confidence.

It is my sincere hope that you will find happiness.

Hello, I'm Jiusi, a listening coach. I'm listening to your story.

I agree with the questioner. We are equals in this relationship. We like him, but we have our own personalities. We want to live our lives as ourselves. There is no need to please others in a decision that will determine our happiness.

We have to think about why we're together. Are we looking for a long-term relationship?

Is there love between us? Are we equals? How does he show he loves me?

If he's not confident and doesn't love you, there's no need to continue the relationship.

The questioner has only known the other person for three months and has only met six times. The first three months of any relationship are always a period of passion. At this time, the two people see each other as perfect and are particularly willing to spend time with each other.

At this time, the two people are very tolerant and can forgive each other's mistakes. They also focus on the good things about each other.

If you like each other, you want to be together all the time and talk on the phone all day. You're like soul mates.

The questioner doesn't seem to feel love.

The questioner seems a bit hurt, unsure, and doubtful.

After a breakup, people feel sudden mood changes that cause the body to release too much catecholamine. This makes the heart nerves work poorly, causing chest pain and shortness of breath. This is called stress cardiomyopathy.

Heartbreak isn't always bad. It shows we've loved and been loved. We're probably luckier than those who've never loved.

It's hard to let go, but this breakup has also helped us understand love better. We now know what is right and what is wrong.

Adler, the founder of humanistic psychology, said, "It's not what happened, but how we see it."

May you find true love soon.

I'm Jiusi, and I love you.

Hello, I'm Strawberry.

From what you've said, I can see that you're feeling frustrated and insecure. It seems like the other person is deliberately keeping you on the back burner, making you want to hope for something more but not wanting to commit to it. This is similar to a somewhat ambiguous relationship because the uncertainty makes it difficult to justify your actions and justify your efforts, and you're also afraid that your efforts won't get the results you want.

After you proposed, he said he didn't want to confirm the relationship. The questioner feels like he's been wronged. This man seems to think the questioner is just wasting time. If he had a good reason for not confirming the relationship, he would still care about your feelings and be more attentive in handling your relationship.

The questioner can actually see how your relationship is going. Maybe you want to try not to regret it, which is fine, but since the other person can't give you the happiness you want, this kind of dragging out isn't good for the questioner either. It'll just keep delaying you.

The questioner is a very kind girl. It's clear that you're the one who's sad, but you're still thinking about the other person and worried that how you end the relationship will make them sad and upset. Giving is a two-way street. If you're the only one giving more, you'll end up being led by the other person, even if you're together.

We all want a good relationship, and I don't want people to think I'm not handling things the right way. Am I wrong?

1. Make decisions based on reality.

You know the pattern of your relationship better than anyone. From his perspective, he still wants to continue this uncertain relationship. I don't know much about him, but from his behavior, it seems like he doesn't value your input.

Blacklisting and cutting off contact can be a way to benefit yourself. It allows you to avoid being influenced by the other person, respect your own choice, and follow your heart.

It's natural to feel a little sad at first, but trust yourself and give yourself time. You'll get through it and find the happiness you want.

2. Don't let the other person's behavior get in the way of your own needs.

Everyone has the right to pursue happiness. Once you've expressed your feelings, the other person's behavior makes you sad and makes you doubt yourself: "Did I do something wrong?" You're already caught up in the emotions the other person is giving you. At this point, it's good for you to take a step back and regroup, not bad.

It's important to know that your views on relationships are correct and that your actions are also correct. If the other person can make you feel negative emotions and doubt yourself, it means that the way you get along with each other is very draining.

3. Accept the emotions you feel.

It's important to remember that emotions won't go away on their own. It's normal to have feelings of sadness and frustration. Since you can't be together, it's okay to cry if you're feeling sad. Give yourself some time to process your feelings and then promise yourself to get back to normal life as soon as possible and continue to believe in love.

I hope this helps the questioner. Best wishes.

Hello,

The original poster is:

I've read the post carefully and I can see how sad and unsure the author is. At the same time, I think it's great that she's facing her feelings and looking for help. This will help her understand herself better and help her to be a better version of herself.

I'll share my observations and thoughts in the post, which might help the original poster gain a better understanding of himself.

1. There's not so much right and wrong in this world.

I've noticed the question that the original poster asked: Is it right for me to block the person I like? How do you define right and wrong?

Some people believe that the former partner deserves only one last tear, and that blacklisting is the ultimate form of respect. Others don't think it's necessary to blacklist them and simply don't contact them.

Ultimately, I believe the most important thing is the person themselves.

I think you have to ask the person themselves, not what others think is right or wrong. You have to ask yourself if there is a voice in your heart that wants to completely break away from him. If there is, what if you block it?

What if they're both happy and at peace? What if the people around them disagree?

We are the captains of our own ships, aren't we?

2. Figuring out what you want naturally means figuring out what you're willing to give up.

From the post, it seems like the poster has always known what he wants: a stable relationship, to be a better person in the relationship rather than a worse one, to have someone who cares about and loves and sees him, not just someone he only contacts when he has time, and even less someone who doesn't respect him.

And he can't give that, right? Maybe he's given the OP some happy and blissful moments, but what he can't give is what they really need, isn't it?

It's possible that the original poster also had a deep love for him, but relationships aren't just about love. A breakup can also be about not being able to give each other the love they want, not just about not loving each other.

Sometimes, we need to be kind to ourselves by moving on. It's not because the other person is bad, but because we don't feel good when we're with them. It's about mutual respect.

3. Time is the best healer.

It has been observed that the original poster wants to take good care of their feelings, so just focus on yourself! Even though you may be feeling sad right now, just be sad!

Who among those who have broken up after being moved is not sad? It's okay to feel this way. Just allow it to exist, don't amplify it or minimize it. After the emotions of sadness have fully flowed out, we will slowly start to feel better.

So please give yourself some time. During this period, the host may find it useful to focus on personal growth and self-care.

This is what the landlord can do.

Hello? Question owner, I can tell you're feeling conflicted, so let me give you a warm hug first!

1.

You said you've known each other for three months and have only met six times. That's not a lot of time at all, and it's not a lot of meetings. But he's already made a big impression on you, and you're not quite there yet. It seems like he's only got a superficial interest in you.

2.

It takes time for people to get to know each other and understand each other. He may be busy and not have much time to get to know you, so it's normal for him to have time to ask you out. You don't have to rush things, either. You can take the initiative and ask him out when you have time. Happiness is in your own hands. Who says women should be so passive?

You have the right to choose your own happiness!

3.

Some people fall in love at first sight, while for others, it takes longer to feel that spark. You might as well give him some time to see what he's like.

Do you love him?

4.

You said you blocked him and deleted him, but he can still call and ask what happened. In fact, no matter how much inner drama you have, he doesn't see what happened to you. You can say that it's nothing, just that your phone broke or you accidentally deleted some good reasons. After dating for a while, you can appropriately express your thoughts and feelings and see how he reacts!

5.

You don't know each other that well, and the other person doesn't know what you're thinking. You might regret blocking them and ending contact without getting to know each other better.

If you like him too, it'd be a good idea to show him some more care and consideration. After all, people are made of flesh and blood. If he feels your love, he'll probably come closer to you!

Well done on your success, and I hope you will reconcile soon and become even more deeply in love. Best of luck, and I'll be watching you!