Can't stick to things due to lack of perseverance, feeling rather pitiful about yourself?

Hello, my friend. I can feel your frustration and powerlessness in your words. First of all, I want to give you a big hug and hope that my answer will be helpful to you.

I was surprised to find that I fit this description. I often worry about what might happen if I think about the worst-case scenario, because it seems like it might actually come true. I feel like I'm not good enough. Even though I seem to be working hard and seem to be well-behaved and reliable, deep down I feel like I'm nothing. I feel like a lot of people are laughing at me, and I feel so frustrated.

I can see that you are constantly breaking through yourself, making plans and learning, but it seems that you can't keep it up because you have a bad memory, and you are also denying yourself. I can also see that you are telling yourself, "As I thought, I really have become this type of person. It seems that this type of person is very bad in your heart, and it is a bad outcome that makes you afraid. If it really happens, you even call it garbage. At the same time, I can see that you are usually very obedient and hardworking. It seems that this is the only way to get recognition, right? But you also have a feeling that you are nothing, and you feel like a joke to many people, and you feel very useless.

I can see how all of this is making you feel so powerless, helpless, and heartbroken. I'm here for you, and I want you to know that I'm sending you lots of hugs.

It seems like you might be going through something a lot of us have experienced at one point or another. It's totally normal to procrastinate sometimes, but it's also important to recognize that your tendency to put things off might be linked to some underlying self-esteem and self-efficacy issues. When we feel low on self-worth, it can be really frustrating and overwhelming when we encounter challenges.

First of all, procrastination often comes from a fear or resistance to the task and a fear of being unable to complete it. Don't worry, there are ways to improve this situation!

? Break down the task: This is a great tip! Breaking down a big task into small steps and taking one step at a time can really help to reduce stress and make the task seem more manageable.

You've got this! Set realistic and achievable small goals. Set short-term and long-term goals and celebrate reaching each small goal. This gradually builds up a sense of success and enhances self-efficacy.

Self-motivation: Remember why you're doing this task and how important it is to you. This will help you feel more motivated to get it done!

It might help to adjust your environment a little. Try creating a nice, calm space where you can focus and reduce distractions, like turning off your phone notifications.

Time management: It's so important to set a reasonable schedule that includes both work and rest time to ensure adequate rest and prevent overfatigue.

And there are other ways you can boost your self-efficacy!

Positive Affirmation: Give yourself a little pep talk with some positive words like "I can do it," instead of beating yourself up.

Take a moment to reflect on your past successes. Remembering past experiences where you overcame challenges can help you feel more confident.

?Model yourself on others: Take a good look at how those who can persevere do it, and learn from their strategies.

It's also a great idea to seek social support! Sharing your goals and progress with family and friends can provide additional support.

Changing habits takes time and patience, so don't be too hard on yourself, OK? We all have our challenges and failures, but the key is to learn from them and move on. You've already taken the first step towards change, which is a positive action in itself!

It's totally normal to feel frustrated and powerless sometimes. We all do! It's just part of life. And it's not a sign of failure. It's actually a sign that you're growing and facing a challenge that we all have to overcome.

You've already taken the first step towards change, and that's a great start!

So, in the face of the current problems, we can chat together about how we can specifically work on improving our perseverance and self-discipline. I really hope this helps!

First, when setting goals, make sure they are specific and achievable. You mentioned reciting the Tao Te Ching, which is a great example! Perhaps we can break it down into smaller parts, such as reciting just a short paragraph every day instead of the entire text.

This will help you feel less stressed and give you a lovely sense of progress and achievement. For example, you could set a daily goal of memorizing a few keywords or short phrases instead of the entire content.

Another great tip is to try different memory techniques. For instance, you could make flashcards, study with friends, use the sentences in everyday conversations, or even write them on sticky notes and stick them up in places you see often at home to increase the chances of reviewing them.

It's also a great idea to try studying in different environments, such as a library, park, or coffee shop. This helps to keep things fresh and avoid monotony, which can lead to boredom.

And don't forget to treat yourself! When you reach a small goal, give yourself a little pat on the back. You could enjoy a favorite drink or watch an episode of your favorite TV show.

This positive reinforcement can really help you stay motivated!

We all worry sometimes, and that's okay! When you catch yourself thinking, "I can't do it," try turning that negative thought into a positive one. Instead of saying, "I can't do it," say, "I can do it, I just need more time." You've got this!

This self-affirmation can really help you build confidence and reduce the impact of negative emotions.

If you're feeling anxious or overwhelmed, don't worry! There are lots of simple ways to relax and recharge. Try some deep breathing, meditation, or even just a quick break. These techniques can help you feel more calm and energized, even in between study sessions.

And finally, remember that you're not alone! If you can, find a mentor or join a study group so that you have someone to turn to when you need help and support.

And don't forget to soak up all the wonderful inspiration you can from the experiences and encouragement of others!

If you find that these problems are really affecting your quality of life and sense of well-being, you might want to think about getting some help from a professional counselor. They can provide you with more personalized guidance and strategies to help you better understand and deal with these feelings.

Everyone has their own rhythm and learning style, and that's totally okay! It's more important to find a method that suits you than to worry about speed. Be kind to yourself, and know that everyone has ups and downs. Keep trying and adjusting until you find the learning path that's right for you!

You're already on the right path! As long as you don't give up, there's always room for improvement. You've got this!

I really hope my answer is helpful for you! I love you all so much, and I'm sending you all lots of love and hugs! ???

The questioner's question is interesting. If you can't persist, you feel like a loser. The questioner's "standard" for a loser is still quite high.

You didn't persevere, but that doesn't mean you don't have perseverance. You persevered for a week. You just didn't persevere afterwards. Why couldn't you persevere? Is it because you don't have perseverance, or is it something else?

Second, the questioner feels that he does not have the perseverance. I disagree. The questioner does have some perseverance, just not a lot. The reason why the questioner has not been able to persevere is not just perseverance, but also other factors.

The questioner trusts himself, but thinks he is no good at anything. He believes that bad things will happen if he tries.

The questioner is torn between wanting to do a good job and not wanting to do a good job.

The questioner lacks understanding of themselves. They don't know what their emotions mean or what they want. They just do things on instinct, which is why they have developed into this situation step by step. The questioner has not stated their goal for seeking help, and they also lack willingness to solve the problem. Therefore, these are just some suggestions for the questioner. It is up to the questioner to decide whether they want to continue living in this state, or whether they want to get out of their current state of distress.

To get out of this situation, you need to be proactive and get help from a counselor.

Hello!

I know how it feels to fail at a study plan.

I have some thoughts for you to think about.

You always fail to complete your study plan or give up halfway through for many reasons.

Memorizing one chapter of the Tao Te Ching a day is not sustainable if you don't understand it.

Sometimes, big goals are hard to reach.

Lack of motivation or willpower can also lead to failure to stick to a learning plan.

Why memorize the Tao Te Ching? Why take so many classes?

These uncertainties may be due to a lack of goals and interests, insufficient motivation, and distractions.

An unreasonable schedule or an overly busy schedule may make it difficult to implement the learning plan. For example, you said you planned to memorize essays over the weekend but didn't. You set a goal of memorizing one essay in two days and did so. You then memorized half of the fourth essay on the fourth day and the other half on the fifth.

Time management is key to completing a learning plan.

Sometimes you may lack self-discipline, be tempted, or procrastinate, which makes it hard to follow your plan.

Or you may lack the resources or support to complete the plan.

This includes learning styles, learning materials, guidance, and support.

To improve your negative emotional experience, try these specific ways and methods:

First, set small goals you can reach.

Break long-term goals into short-term, specific, small goals and achieve them gradually. Reward yourself for each small goal you meet.

For example, when reciting the Tao Te Ching, you can focus on a question related to reality or a place with practical significance.

This will help you understand the Tao Te Ching and memorize it.

Next, think positively.

Think positively and believe in yourself.

Your positive attitude is still worthy of recognition, even if you don't complete some tasks.

Don't be too hard on yourself when you have a setback.

Believe you can overcome difficulties.

Setbacks are part of learning. Learn from failure and keep going.

Focus on learning and improving.

Make sure your learning environment is comfortable and quiet so you can concentrate.

Avoid distractions like phones and social media.

Keep learning new things and give yourself a break.

Enjoy the learning process to boost your self-esteem and confidence.

Finally, get help when you need it.

You can also share your learning goals with others to get support and encouragement.

Take feedback and suggestions from others to recognize your progress.

Hope this helps!

Hello. You often feel that you can't remember when you study and can't persevere for long. You are very dissatisfied with yourself and even think that you are "good for nothing."

You begin to fear bad outcomes because they seem to become real. There is indeed relevant research in psychology on this psychological phenomenon called "self-fulfilling prophecy." When a person accepts a certain expectation or label about themselves, they tend to act in a way that confirms that expectation or label, thus contributing to it becoming a reality.

This pattern of behavior is not necessarily conscious.

Psychological experiments have demonstrated this law in both positive and negative ways. One positive demonstration of the "Pygmalion effect" is that when a group of students is told that they have high potential, or when students are told that they have high intelligence and potential, their grades do indeed improve over time. This is because the teacher believes that the students have potential and will train them more carefully, and the students, believing that they are capable, will be more motivated to learn.

Another experiment involved explicitly informing teachers and students that the performance of this group of students was expected to decline and that they had low potential.

Our self-judgment and expectations directly impact our sense of efficacy and performance at work and school. To break through this shackle, we must remove limiting labels from ourselves, such as "I'm worthless," "I just can't learn," and "I'm no good."

You can admit that you are having difficulty and are still looking for ways to overcome it: "I find that I can persist for a while when doing this, but it is more difficult to continue. I need to think about what the possible reasons are. Is it because I lack interest in this activity? Am I doing this to get recognition from others, or do I feel that I will get something out of it?

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Everyone has their own characteristics. Some people are good at memorization and recitation, while others are not. Those who are not good at it may be more inclined to creative ideas. Some people are good at languages, while others like numbers or are good at manual work.

We must take the time to explore the direction we are good at and enjoy, so that we can feel a sense of joy and connection in what we do, and learn on this basis.

Think about why you're reciting the Tao Te Ching. Do you want to understand its meaning and spirit, or are you just reciting for the sake of it? If you want to understand it, there's no need to set a time limit. There are various ways to study it to help yourself, such as reading it, listening to professionals read it, and writing down your own thoughts.

Memorization is intended to improve one's "perseverance." It is therefore necessary to understand what perseverance is. Perseverance is not just about persistence. It is also closely related to motivation. We must find the motivation that best suits our own wishes in order to truly make perseverance work.

And you can make perseverance flexible. If you think continuous recitation is boring, take a break. Try something else, like listening to a book, reciting, reading, or taking notes. Relax, then try reciting a short passage.

Hello there!

A little pat on the shoulder to show you're there for you.

"Do you find it hard to stick to things without perseverance? Do you ever feel quite useless?"

After reading your story, I can tell that you haven't found much self-worth from this learning experience. It's totally normal to lose interest in studying when you're struggling to find meaning in it. But I can also tell that you're reluctant to give up.

This can make people feel really awkward, which can then lead to procrastination. It's so hard to know how to put ourselves out there when we feel like this!

So, emotions can affect a person's ability to perform, and conversely, limitations in ability can affect emotions. This can create a not-very-optimistic vicious circle: the harder you try, the less able you are to complete the task, and the internal driving force gradually becomes smaller.

So, if I just change my mindset, will that be enough?

If there were an easy answer, I'm sure you wouldn't be here asking your question. So, let's look at how we can combine a positive outlook with the skills we need to get things done.

It's like speaking a foreign language! People who recall and recite to communicate often have unsatisfactory results because they can't fully immerse themselves in the experience. It's totally normal to worry about making mistakes, but try to let go and communicate as much as you can. You'll be surprised at how much you can learn and grow from it!

But some people, even if they are afraid of making mistakes, want to have a better experience and to grow more quickly. They often choose to focus on communication, which is a great idea! At first, they may also make mistakes frequently, but the training they get is unexpected and beyond expectations. Eventually, they will develop in the direction they want, and it'll all be worth it!

So, in this case, you might also find that to establish a "healthy link between thoughts and actions," what is needed is to focus more on self-acceptance. Even if the experience of the process of trying hard is not good, don't worry! Through practice, we can still find a way to solve specific problems.

It's so important to remember that setting limits on your ideas and thinking negatively about the future can actually make it harder for you to motivate yourself to take action. Many of us feel uncertain and confused about our goals when we're learning, which can make it even more challenging to stay in control.

So, the best way to build up your self-willpower is to actively and positively exercise self-control. This could mean things like delayed gratification, giving yourself positive rewards for completing phased goals, not over-exerting yourself, maintaining a certain degree of openness, keeping the body's healthy functions running, and so on. These things can really help to enhance self-control and strengthen willpower!

I really hope my answer can help you!

Wishing you all the best!

Dear friend,

It's not that you're a loser, sweetheart. It's just that you have a set of standards in your head: how to do things, what kind of behavior, what kind of results. You are the only one who is good and worthy of being accepted.

You might find yourself imprisoned by external standards.

You truly believe in this set of standards and have always judged yourself by them. When you find that you don't meet these standards, you might feel worthless and useless, and attack yourself.

It's so easy to get caught up in trying to live up to a set of standards, isn't it? Even when we don't agree with them, we still find ourselves constantly judging ourselves against them. And it's so unfair! We end up putting ourselves under so much pressure.

While you're working, your mind is always asking you questions like, "How much have you finished today?" and "How well have you done?"

Hey there! I just wanted to check in and see if you think you're doing a good job, and if you think you can achieve your goal.

I know it can be tough to give your all when you're facing challenges. It's natural to feel uncertain in difficult situations. It's okay to ask yourself, "Am I up for this?" It's also okay to feel like you might not be able to do something perfectly the first time. We all have to start somewhere!

You say you're particularly afraid of thinking about bad outcomes because you think they'll come true. But, sweetie, bad outcomes will come true because you've locked yourself in a prison of certain standards. You constantly hold yourself to these standards, suppressing and attacking yourself.

This can lead to you keeping your true feelings hidden and damaging your own life energy. This makes it hard for you to persevere and achieve anything, as you're not able to use your talents, vitality, and energy.

It's not that you're useless, sweetheart. It's just that some inner perception of yours has stifled your vitality, preventing you from being free to be yourself and from giving full play to your true vitality and energy.

Let's think about some choices we've made in the past.

I'm curious, why are you so used to demanding so much of yourself?

I think it might have something to do with how you explored survival as a child. Maybe when you were a kid, if you tried hard, were good, and dependable, adults would see you, approve of you, and accept you.

Deep down, you know that you can only be accepted if you work hard, behave well, and act in a dependable manner. You silently choose to live your life according to these standards and get used to living your life this way. This is your way of feeling safe, correct, and avoiding being abandoned and judged.

It can be really tough for a lively little one to be obedient and reliable from an early age. They have to push down a lot of their true feelings and needs, and it takes a lot of restraint and self-denial to be obedient and reliable.

It's so hard for kids to be good all the time! They have to spend most of their energy suppressing and isolating their feelings, leaving only a little bit of energy for all the things they should be doing. It's no wonder they can't get everything done!

Let go of the standards and find your feelings again, my friend.

It's so easy to get caught up in trying to live up to external standards, isn't it? We all do it, and it's just part of growing up. But as we mature, as those standards weigh us down more and more, and we become increasingly unhappy, everyone will slowly begin to long to live their true selves.

I think what happened to you was also the same process, sweetheart.

It's so important to see yourself as someone who meets external expectations. It's the first step towards breaking free! You can start by trying to let go of these standards and find your own feelings again. It might seem like a small thing, but it can make a big difference!

Just use your body and mind to feel how you want to do things. Connect directly and authentically with the task at hand, and let yourself go. You'll be amazed at how quickly you'll find yourself becoming more and more motivated, more and more creative, and more and more spontaneous!

When you want to do something and have a lot of plans, you can always go to your heart first. Why do you want to do this?

Is it to prove yourself, or do you want to do it from the bottom of your heart?

As you go about your task, it's important to pay attention to how you're feeling. When you're doing something you truly want to do and feel good about, it's easy to see how you can achieve great results!

You've got this! By finding your own feelings and following your heart, you can realize your full potential and achieve the results you want.

There's no one-size-fits-all standard for life.

There's no one-size-fits-all standard for life.

I truly believe that whether we consider our lives successful and whether we achieve excellent results depends on many factors. These include our family, the various encounters we have in life, our personal talent, and our hard work.

But here's the good news: whether you're happy or not depends only on you and your relationship with yourself. If you can accept yourself, relax, and allow yourself to grow into your original self, and relax and live without internal conflict, then you can experience happiness and ease, regardless of whether you are successful or not.

Just let the rose grow into a rose, and let the grass sway freely, too.

I really hope it was helpful! I'm listening coach Xu Yanlian, so please feel free to chat.

Wishing you all the best!

Dear Question Asker, I want to start by saying that everyone will face challenges and difficulties on their journey to growth. It is normal to feel tired, confused, or even doubt yourself.

I empathize with your situation. It is not a reflection of your worthiness, but rather a consequence of navigating a process that demands patience and perseverance.

I would like to commend you for your decision to recite one chapter of the Tao Te Ching every day. This demonstrates your commitment to continuous learning and self-improvement.

Such determination and pursuit are valuable qualities in themselves.

However, it is important to remember that, just as in running, we cannot expect to achieve our goal immediately. Reciting the Tao Te Ching is the same; it requires us to take things one step at a time and accumulate knowledge gradually.

Should you encounter difficulties in reciting, it is important not to be overly critical of yourself. You may wish to consider adjusting the pace by, for instance, breaking your goal down into reciting a short passage on a daily basis. This approach will help to maintain your interest in the learning process while avoiding excessive fatigue.

In the meantime, I would like to share a little trick called the "Pomodoro Technique." This method suggests that we break work or study tasks into multiple 25-minute intervals, with a 5-minute break after each interval.

This will enhance our focus and productivity, while reducing fatigue. You may wish to consider applying this approach to reciting the Tao Te Ching to ascertain its efficacy.

Furthermore, it is important to note that the learning process is a long-term one, and it is not reasonable to expect significant changes in a relatively short period of time. It is essential to enjoy the process and recognize the growth and progress achieved with each recitation and effort.

Even if progress is slow at times, it is important not to become discouraged, as each time you persevere, you are improving your skills.

In regard to the situation you described in which you have experienced setbacks in multiple classes, it is important to recognize that failure is not something to be feared. Rather, it is the loss of courage to try again that should be addressed. You can strive to learn from your failures, identify your shortcomings, and then implement targeted improvements.

You may also wish to seek assistance and guidance from other individuals, such as teachers, colleagues, or family members, as they may be able to provide new insights and suggestions.

In conclusion, I would like to reiterate that you are a driven individual with clear aspirations and determination. Your efforts and perseverance will undoubtedly be rewarded.

Have confidence in your abilities and potential. When you feel uncertain or frustrated, pause, take a deep breath, and remind yourself that you can succeed by persevering.

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In addition to the aforementioned suggestions, I would like to present a series of specific action plans for your consideration. It is my hope that these suggestions will prove both inspiring and helpful in enabling you to identify a method that is well-suited to your needs.

1. Set incremental objectives: Divide your daily objective of reciting the Tao Te Ching into smaller, more manageable steps, such as reciting one paragraph or a few sentences each day. After achieving a smaller goal, provide yourself with a tangible reward, such as listening to a favorite song or enjoying a piece of chocolate.

2. Create a conducive learning environment. Select a tranquil and comfortable space to recite the Tao Te Ching, free from external disturbances. Additionally, you may prepare paper and pen or electronic devices to enhance memory and comprehension.

3. Seek support. It is advisable to inform your family or friends of your study plans and goals, as their encouragement and support will provide motivation to persevere.

4. Utilize a variety of learning methods: In addition to rote memorization, employ other learning methods such as reading, discussing, or writing. Learning the Tao Te Ching in different ways can enhance your comprehension and retention.

5. Maintain a positive outlook. Regardless of the difficulties and challenges you face, maintain a positive attitude and confidence. Believe in your ability to overcome these difficulties and achieve success.

In short, dear colleagues, please believe in your own abilities and potential. Your efforts and persistence will definitely be rewarded.

I wish you continued success in your learning and wish to extend my best wishes for your continued growth and development.

This is totally normal! If everyone did what you say, everyone would be a total success. People are just ordinary people, doing ordinary things.

But don't relax your learning! It's amazing how much of a difference people can make in this world. There are ancient stories of foolish men moving mountains and Nuwa mending the sky, as well as modern-day stories of filling in mountains and making seas.

On the surface, every day we rush about, cheerfully stuffing a meal into our own skin that will never return. At first glance, in this world of competition, it seems that the only purpose of living is to gain as much profit as possible.

But this spiritual interpretation of life only scratches the surface! It is precisely because we are constantly striving to improve that we feel happy in life. Once one thing is completed, another follows, and so it goes on forever—and it's a wonderful, endless journey!

For those who look forward, there is always a new horizon! We may live on a small planet, but we can still reach for the stars. Life is short, but we can make the most of it. Nature has made it so that we can never hope to reach the stars in the sky, just as we cannot pluck any of them. Hope and life are like twinned branches, with hope extending to the last moment of life and into the future. Let's embrace the journey!

True happiness is the joy of setting out, not the joy of arriving. In the continuation of life, this arrival is also the departure. As long as there is life, there is struggle; as long as there is no more life, there is still hope. And the best part is, true happiness comes from the desire to have what you don't have, not from the satisfaction of having everything!

Desire is an amazing, eternal driving force, an invaluable asset, and an endless source of wealth! It's because of our desires that we live in this incredible world of joy and trouble year after year.

A person with many hopes is a rich spirit! Life is just a repetition of the boring drama of birth and death, badly directed. But if we want life not to be boring, we must add color to the play!

If a person has no interest in art, lacks a scientific mind, has no desire to save the country and help the people, and lacks the strength to help turn the tide, the world will just be a patchwork of various colors, or a rough journey that makes people go through all kinds of hardships, suffering and helplessness. But it is precisely because of desire and curiosity that people can always live patiently, be happy when they see things and meet people, and ignite the impulse to be happy when they wake up in the morning. When they return home in the evening, they reflect on themselves and gain new vitality. Desire and curiosity are the two eyes through which we view the world, and the world becomes colorful as a result. And that's something to be excited about!

It is because of desire and curiosity that women can be beautiful enough to enchant the world, and even a stubborn person can be interesting! A person can lose everything and become a beggar, but as long as he has these two treasures, he can still have infinite joy and face the future with a smile!

All you need is your own hope and a little hard work, and you'll get there!

Hello, landlord. I saw your description and understand your kind of anxiety. I'm going to share some ideas that I think will help.

As you describe in your article, you lack a good plan and perseverance.

From your description, it's clear you lack confidence. You said, "Before every study session, you feel like you can't do it." This has led you to label yourself as "unable."

You can learn it. Stop saying "I can't" and start doing it.

Your lack of confidence is the root cause of all your poor performances.

It is also important to understand that maintaining good habits is essential for success. Similarly, it is crucial to ensure that your goals remain consistent and are not easily achieved.

You will only achieve good results if you persevere.

Don't set goals that are too high. It makes it very difficult for us to achieve them. When we fail to achieve these goals, it can completely destroy our self-confidence.

However, we must avoid setting goals that are too easy. Achieving these goals will lead to a lack of sense of achievement.

We must be more confident in ourselves.

Fill yourself with a sense of confidence, just as in ancient times before marching off to war. The generals would cheer on the soldiers below, encouraging them to tell themselves that they could do it. And you can do it too!

This applies to everything we do. We must believe it is possible.

This way, we will be passionate and motivated when we do it, and we will also persevere.

This is how we will reap the rewards of everything we do.

These are my thoughts, and I stand by them.

Hello, dear question asker!

I can see you're feeling confused and a bit helpless right now, but I'm here to tell you that you've got this! Hugs to you!

It's totally normal to feel like you can't persevere when you're facing challenges and difficulties. It's not a sign of weakness, it's just your mind and body telling you that you need a little more support. From a psychological point of view, this may be related to our psychological motivation, self-perception, and habits.

First of all, psychological motivation is the internal force that drives us to action. If we lack a strong desire and motivation for a goal, it can be tough to keep going.

So, it's really important to set yourself a clear and meaningful goal to help you persevere.

Secondly, our self-perception also affects our perseverance. If we focus too much on our failures and shortcomings, we might develop a negative self-assessment, which could affect our self-confidence and perseverance.

You've got this! Try to adjust your mindset and pay more attention to your growth and progress. You will find that you are actually doing very well.

And last but not least, our habits play a big part in perseverance too. If we're used to putting things off and avoiding challenges, it can be tough to switch to a more persevering mindset.

So, let's work on developing the habit of perseverance together! We can do this through deliberate practice and continuous effort.

I can relate to your situation! I've been there, signing up for lots of classes but not being able to complete them. I've found that trying these methods really helped me:

I know it can be tough, but try to set specific, achievable goals. Instead of setting overly ambitious or vague goals, break them down into specific, quantifiable small goals that are easier to achieve. You've got this!

Find your own source of motivation. Think about why you want to learn these skills or knowledge, and find your inner source of motivation, which will make it easier to inspire your perseverance. You've got this!

It's always a good idea to seek external support! Sharing your goals with friends, family, or mentors is a great way to get the support and encouragement you need to persevere.

It's so important to develop the habit of perseverance. You can do it! Through deliberate practice and sustained effort, gradually develop the habit of perseverance.

Even if you have a little setback, don't give up! You'll get there if you just keep going.

And finally, just remember to be kind to yourself. We all have our own pace and rhythm, so don't compare yourself to others or worry too much.

You've got this! As long as you are willing to put in the effort and time, you will definitely see your growth and progress. I'm cheering you on!

Hello, I'm Yu. Let's try to look at your topic from three different angles.

First, let's talk about planning. Having a plan isn't always a good thing.

We were taught as children that we should "have a goal and a plan for everything we do." Plans are the foundation for our actions, and we're all on a path of making plans and self-improvement.

What do plans mean to us?

Having a plan can give us a sense of fulfillment. It means having a goal and a direction to work towards. However, we can also fall into a false sense of self-deception. We might say, "I'm working hard, I'm fulfilled," when we're not.

Having a plan can make us anxious and frustrated. The more we look forward to something and try to arrange our lives around it, the more we show that we are afraid of uncertainty. This is often a sign of anxiety. At the same time, we need to achieve our plans in order to feel a sense of accomplishment. If we fail to achieve them, we will be very frustrated, and we'll blame ourselves.

If we don't meet our goals, we might feel like we've failed. This can lead to a sense of helplessness.

It's important to review our plans, list what we need to do without setting a time limit, not have too many tasks but within a reasonable range, and set goals that are moderately difficult but within reach. In short, we need to know what we're doing and where we're going, and just keep going.

Let's talk about acceptance. We all have imperfections and aspects of ourselves that we'd rather not acknowledge. It's something that others around us often don't want to accept, and it's something we often can't face up to ourselves. So, we put on a mask and present ourselves as someone we think others will like, but we're tired of living like this.

As the questioner describes, when I think back to when I was a child, I hated the feeling of guilt when I thought about how I could study hard during the holidays, but ended up not doing any at all. I took a lot of classes but failed them all, and felt so useless after wasting my money. In fact, such pressure didn't help me relax at all; it made me more anxious.

When we accept ourselves, we can let go of the things that weigh us down and relax our hearts. We won't push others around or be too hard on ourselves. With a clear understanding of who we are, we won't be influenced by external opinions and judgments. We'll be able to handle problems and difficulties with a sense of balance.

Finally, let's talk about loving yourself. If you're aware of your emotions and have clear values, start by caring for yourself. Take care of your body and feelings. Stop labeling yourself as "wimpy" or "embarrassing." Get to know yourself again. Try to write about your strengths and weaknesses. Praise your own merits. When recording your shortcomings, say to yourself, "I have shortcomings, but I love and accept myself." Practice this a few times a day and you'll slowly build up your self-confidence.

It's also important to relax mentally. When setting learning goals, it's a good idea to check if they comply with the SMART principle, especially when you're considering some practical circumstances and objective factors. Breaking down big goals into small ones can increase our sense of control and effectiveness, which will give us the signal that "I can do it" and reward ourselves in time, like treating yourself to a nice meal or buying yourself a small gift. Let's connect the feelings of learning and happiness to form a virtuous cycle and positive reinforcement, because change takes time and patience. You need to be prepared for a long battle.

These things have already started to affect your daily life. You can try to get help by talking to a family member or friend you trust and who has always supported you. If you need to, you can also find a counselor, because it's important to express your emotions to relieve the heaviness and blockages in our hearts.

We should also get out into nature and listen to the frogs, smell the birds, flowers, and fragrance. Get in touch with who you really are and what life is really about.

Enrich your inner self, discover your unique value, and embrace the continuous cycle of life. You'll be tying and untying this cycle many times over.

I'd like to suggest we watch Forrest Gump.

In life, we are all affected by external evaluations. These evaluations, whether positive or negative, shape our self-perception and behavior patterns.

You've been trying to improve your inner cultivation by reciting the Tao Te Ching, but you've been disturbed by external evaluations along the way. This has led you to a state of self-doubt and frustration.

External evaluation has a dual impact.

External evaluations have a dual impact on personal growth. On the one hand, positive evaluations boost your self-confidence and motivation, inspiring you to work harder towards your goals. On the other hand, negative evaluations make you doubt yourself and can even cause you to give up on your original plan.

Your experience is a clear example of this double impact. You had the confidence to memorize one chapter of the Tao Te Ching every day. However, when you encountered difficulties, negative external comments flooded your mind, causing you to doubt your abilities and value.

You must overcome the dilemma of being overly concerned about external evaluation.

You need to recognize that the problem you face is a dilemma of excessive attention to external evaluation. You care too much about other people's opinions and evaluations, which prevents you from focusing on your own goals and plans.

This dilemma prevents you from realizing your full potential and makes you vulnerable when faced with setbacks and difficulties. You have also internalized this negative evaluation as your own standard of value, believing that you are "good for nothing."

This erroneous self-perception only serves to exacerbate your sense of frustration and powerlessness.

☘️ I'm going to show you how to break out of this rut.

I'm going to give you some advice to help you break out of this dilemma. First, you need to establish a correct self-perception.

External evaluation is just feedback from others on your behavior. It doesn't fully represent your abilities and value. Find your own value and meaning from the bottom of your heart. Don't rely too much on the evaluation of others.

Second, you must focus on your internal motivations and interests. You need to be clear about why you want to recite the Tao Te Ching. Do you really like it and love it, or are you just doing it to get recognition from others?

Once you identify your internal motivation, you will pursue your goals with determination and resilience, even when you encounter difficulties and setbacks.

You must also learn to motivate and regulate yourself. When facing external evaluation, you must remain calm and objective, and not be easily influenced by the words of others.

Boost your self-confidence and motivation by positive self-suggestion and setting small goals. Learn to draw useful suggestions and feedback from negative evaluations and adjust your behavior and direction.

If you can't handle these issues on your own, get professional psychological counseling or guidance. A professional counselor can help you understand your inner needs and problems better and provide effective solutions and support.

To sum up, we can see the negative impact of excessive focus on external evaluation on personal growth when we deeply analyze the intertwined relationship between external evaluation and personal growth and combine it with our experiences. To break this dilemma, you need to establish a correct self-awareness, focus on intrinsic motivation and interests, learn to self-motivate and regulate, and seek professional support and help.

You must maintain your self-identity in the face of external evaluation. Only then can you realize your own value and dreams.

Hello, I'm Sister Chao from Yixinli.

I'm curious why you want to memorize the Tao Te Ching.

I really like Taoist culture and the idea of following the Tao of nature, and I also hope to understand the concept of the "supreme Tao." However, I've never actually memorized it. It's great that you've decided to memorize the Tao Te Ching and have stuck with it until the fourth chapter.

If you're learning something you're interested in and enjoy, you'll feel happy. So you can take some time to think about what you like and what kind of person you want to be, and then focus your learning on that goal.

Besides being interested, there's also a method to memorization. The reason you want to give up later is because you don't feel happy when memorizing. So, when we make a learning plan, we have to think about the review time and how quickly we master it. It shouldn't be too difficult.

We can't insist on something that doesn't make us happy, but if we can all accomplish it and get a small sense of accomplishment at different stages, then the insistence itself is very satisfying, and you are willing to keep doing it.

So when you notice that you have emotions, you can choose to adjust the amount and timing of the content you recite. For example, if you realize that you are not familiar with the content, you can spend 2-3 days reviewing and consolidating what you have previously recited.

There are also lots of memory charts based on Ebbinghaus's curve online, and you can choose to follow that memory rule. The most important thing is that the best time for us to memorize is before bed and when we wake up early in the morning. If you can read it again before bed and when you wake up early in the morning every day, even if you don't consciously memorize it, you will remember it sooner or later.

If you like, you can also record your own understanding and interpretation of the Tao Te Ching or share it with those around you. The more you share, the happier you will be, and the more you share, the more you will have.

Just listen to what other people have to say. Nobody can deny your uniqueness, and nobody has the final say on what you're like. When you discover your own strengths and achieve them, tell yourself, "I'm great, and now I've stuck with it for three days." When you discover your own shortcomings, you can see what you need to do to adjust and change the present, giving yourself time to slowly change and overcome the past self.

If you can clearly recognize your own strengths and weaknesses, you'll be less affected by what others say.

There's a famous saying in the Tao Te Ching: "He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened. He who is victorious over others is powerful; he who is victorious over himself is mightier still." What it boils down to is that knowing others is just common sense, and knowing yourself is the real key to success.

If you can conquer others, you're courageous. If you can conquer yourself, you're powerful.

I wish you could see how talented you are, accept yourself, and give yourself a pat on the back.