Daughter is in senior high school, recently very sensitive, always cry over trivial matters, why so melodramatic?

Hello, question asker!

From your description, I can feel the pressure on your daughter, and I can also feel that the source of this pressure lies with you, if I may be so bold. But don't worry! I'm here to help.

My daughter may not be the smartest, but she works hard and is getting an amazing score of 985! It's not quite up to the university we've set for her, but she's doing great!

Her daughter may not be the smartest, but she still managed to get into a 985 university! The tone of the original poster's words shows that she doesn't think much of her daughter's intelligence, but I think she's doing a great job raising her.

And 985 is further divided into ordinary and extraordinary, which shows that the host's requirements are not low. If she really accepts that her daughter is not smart, she should feel relieved! From the tone of the host, it can be heard that the host is still dissatisfied with her daughter, even though she has tried very hard.

The tone of the host may also be very normal in daily life. If I were your daughter, I would feel very offended, but I'm sure you'll be able to resolve it!

Guess what! Her school only has Sunday afternoons off each week, and she usually has to stay after school until 11 pm, so she only signed up for two classes on Sundays, and it's not that tiring, everyone does it!

===》My daughter usually goes to school until 11 o'clock, and on weekends she only has Sunday off. The hostess even said very easily, "It's not that tiring," and the reason was that "everyone is like this."

Everyone is someone else's child, but your daughter is your own! I don't know why you can say so easily that everyone is like this. What's the point of being tired when you can be having fun?

I have to be honest, I don't feel the love a mother should feel for her daughter.

However, her grades haven't improved much, so although we comfort her by saying that we don't care, we still feel bad every time her grades come out. But that's OK! We pay hundreds of dollars every week for her classes, so it's only natural that we feel bad when there's no effect. But we know that with a little more time and effort, we'll see great results!

You also said that your child is not very smart, and that she has already tried her best. And the higher up the ranking, the less room there is for improvement. Spending money on it won't improve her grades, and she will feel the pressure. But here's the good news! There's still plenty of room for improvement. And with the right mindset, she can absolutely achieve her goals.

It's so sad to see that even though her parents say they're happy for her, they're still unhappy with her grades. I really feel for your child.

Anyway, she's always inexplicably crying in her senior year of high school, her temper is very bad, and she also has insomnia.

All of the above are the reasons for her current bad temper and insomnia. The landlord should pay attention to this, which is great because it means they can help her out!

Guess what! The teacher switched from offline to online classes today. She said that we could save time and do more exercises (it takes more than an hour to get to and from the tutorial class). We think offline classes are still better, but we're excited to try out the online classes! My expression may not have been very good, and she noticed and asked me straight away. As a result, she went back to her room and seemed to have cried again. We also found a note saying, "Don't be so pretentious," but we're sure she'll get over it!

===》Don't ever think your child is being pretentious. Show some love and care!

Dear host, You are also under pressure during this extraordinary period of senior year, but your child must be feeling even more pressure. After all, she is the one taking the exams, and she is a very determined child. But don't worry! Here are some suggestions for you:

1. Accept your child and tell her that she has tried her best. Mum and Dad can see that we will work hard together for the last period of time, so that our efforts will not be in vain. But no matter what the final result is, you will always be Mum and Dad's good daughter, and Mum and Dad will always be your strong backing. Just relax and face it without worries.

2. You must build up your own psychological fortitude. Don't say this to your daughter while you are also anxious. If you have come this far, you can absolutely accept all possible realities! If you are calm, your child will be calm and able to really devote themselves to their studies.

?3, more praise, less complaining, your daughter works hard, tries hard, is excellent, is great, say all these things, keep saying them, let her feel the confidence you give her, her self-confidence will grow, and she will do even better.

✨4, Show more physical care. Cook more delicious food. If she has trouble sleeping, prepare a meal that will help her sleep. Take some time to go for a walk with your daughter. Always remember to do more than just nag. Do more practical things. Do a good job as the logistics minister.

Dear questioner, Thank you for your question.

It's clear from your question that you're troubled by your daughter's state. After repeated attempts at consolation have been fruitless, you've interpreted her incomprehensible state as being pretentious.

1 is about her daughter in her third year of high school.

The part about "My daughter is in her third year of high school and has been very sensitive lately, always crying over trivial matters?"

The questioner is clearly concerned about her daughter's well-being. However, it's important to understand that worrying won't help.

At this moment, we must acknowledge our own emotions in addition to our daughter's negative state and emotions. Only by sorting out our own emotions can we better assess our daughter's state in a more neutral way.

From your description, it is clear that your daughter is facing high academic pressure and strict demands on herself, which has made her increasingly sensitive and prone to crying and emotional breakdowns. Psychologists would say that this is a state of seeking help and support, but she needs more professional help and understanding.

2 is about the futility of consolation.

Regarding the part where the original poster mentioned in the question, "So although we comforted her by saying that we didn't care, every time her grades came out, we still felt bad, and that was unavoidable. We paid hundreds of dollars every week for her classes, but it had no effect, so it was only natural that she would be in a bad mood. Anyway, after saying all this, I don't know if it has anything to do with this. Anyway, she was in her senior year of high school and kept crying for no reason. She had a short temper and also suffered from insomnia." In this part,

I'm sure you've experienced frustration after doing so much for your daughter and seeing her in this state.

Our daughter's feedback that we don't understand her and can't empathize with her is why our comfort doesn't have the desired effect. Empathy requires practice, and it's normal for ordinary people to be unskilled at using the technique of empathy.

Her insomnia and irritability are clear signs that her psychological state needs to be seen, understood, and accepted.

3. I will tell my daughter not to be "pretentious."

I'll get to the point: How do I get my daughter to stop being "pretentious"?

Let me be clear: your daughter is not pretentious. She is going through a special period in her life, and her emotions and feelings need to be addressed. Denying this and calling her pretentious is wrong.

The questioner should help your daughter make an appointment with a professional psychological counselor or psychologist. This will undoubtedly have a positive effect on your daughter.

I am confident that the above answer will be helpful to you. The world and I love you.