Decades of phobia, each time before entering the classroom, there is a sudden sense of tension?

Hello there! I can see that you're having a tough time, and I'm here to help in any way I can.

I can see that every time you enter the classroom, you feel a sense of panic, and you blush and become nervous when you talk to your classmates. This has continued for many years, and I can understand how you feel. We can try to make adjustments in the following areas together:

First, accept yourself. This is something many people struggle with, and it's related to things like your personal growth environment, family, and experience. Don't worry that you're an exception. Accept and acknowledge your own characteristics, allow yourself to panic, don't blame yourself for this, face yourself with an open mind, and be your own firm supporter, which can help you overcome some of the tension.

Second, try some positive self-talk. It's okay to feel nervous, but try to calm your emotions by focusing on your breathing. You can say to yourself, "I can do this, even though I'm feeling nervous." Don't let the nervousness get the best of you. When you're calm, you'll have more positive experiences and you'll be less nervous overall.

Third, remember to be kind to yourself. Start with small attempts and changes, don't be too hard on yourself, don't rush for results, and give yourself a little pat on the back after each successful attempt. You've got this!

It's okay if you can't do it, relax!

I hope your day is as rewarding as you deserve!

Good day, classmate. I can discern a certain degree of confusion in your demeanor.

The current situation can be described as an interpersonal problem. I offer you my support in the form of a warm embrace.

It is possible that the cause of the problem is a traumatic experience in primary school, where a teacher spoke loudly and caused the student to become frightened.

Have you had unfavorable experiences when conversing with your classmates?

In such cases, it is imperative to confront and address the underlying issues.

Otherwise, it is unlikely that you will ever be able to form positive relationships with your classmates.

Therefore, the question remains: what is the appropriate course of action?

It would be advisable to seek the assistance of the school psychologist, who can address the adverse experiences you have encountered during your primary education.

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In the absence of a school psychologist, it is also possible to seek assistance from a professional counselor.

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It is my sincere hope that you will be able to find an effective solution to the problem you are facing as soon as possible.

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Hello. I understand your feelings. I've experienced this kind of feeling, and it's uncomfortable.

I want you to think about this: this insecurity could really follow you forever. And you would resist it.

It is creating a new fear and tension. It is creating a new round of fear and tension by fighting against this insecurity, tension, and fear.

You can feel it for yourself.

I read a sentence that I want to share with you: "Change happens when you allow yourself to not change."

Next time you feel anxious, insecure, nervous, or don't know what you're afraid of, or embarrassed, take a deep breath in and out and say to yourself, "I accept my anxiety, my unease... I accept myself just as I am, I accept my vulnerability, just as I am."

You will feel a little better. It's not easy, but it really works and it's soothing.

Don't hold on to this in the hope that it will eliminate anxiety, nervousness, fear, or worry. These emotions cannot be eliminated for a reason. If you try to eliminate them, you'll just prevent yourself from gaining a little feeling and make yourself feel useless.

I know these methods will be useful to you.

When you feel relaxed and at ease, it's a good state to be in. Remember these moments and think about how you got there. Your body will remember, so enjoy the state.

Good day.

From your description, it appears that you were in elementary school when you suddenly entered the classroom and experienced a sense of tension, panic, and insecurity. This is your recollection of your initial feelings of panic. It was in this kind of situation that you felt and experienced it, and you have retained a clear memory of the event, including your physical experience and your feelings.

However, I did not see you provide any details regarding the incident in question. Perhaps you do not recall the specific situation, or you did not describe it in sufficient detail.

However, despite my efforts, I was unable to find a resolution or a response to this situation. Instead, the feelings and experiences I described initially continued to intensify. This led to a point where I was afraid to engage in conversation with my classmates. On occasion, my expression would even freeze, and I would then begin to fear some of the students' behaviors, such as speaking loudly, being grumpy, and losing their temper. This would also make me very afraid. Even now, ten years later, the situation remains unchanged.

Upon entering the classroom, I am immediately aware of a certain level of discomfort. However, if I can remain open to the situation, I am able to perceive a friendly atmosphere among my classmates and feel at ease. This allows me to manage my emotions and even experience a positive and enjoyable moment.

This persistent and overwhelming sense of unease is a significant source of distress for me. It has a detrimental impact on my emotional well-being, yet I am unable to overcome it.

From your description, it appears that these instances of panic, embarrassment, and nervousness often arise without an apparent cause, and a logical explanation is difficult to ascertain.

As you described it, it was once during class that you suddenly felt very embarrassed, and then this sense of panic and tension followed. Then, you can decline the tea and examine the circumstances of the situation at the time. For example, was it because you didn't comprehend the content of the lesson?

Or was it when the instructor posed a question and you became self-conscious and embarrassed, or when you were discovered engaging in inappropriate behavior?

Is the experience consistent each time you enter the classroom? Or do certain circumstances, such as an upcoming exam, a particular teacher's class, or a romantic interest, trigger the same response? Identifying these triggers can help you gain self-awareness and manage your emotions more effectively.

Hello, dear questioner!

My name is Yi Ming, and I am a Heart Exploration coach.

Some of the answers have been heartwarming, and I am going to add a few more for you, because I know they will be comforting and inspiring.

1. Look at the current problem from the perspective of your resources.

You said that you have been "afraid for more than ten years, and have a sudden feeling of nervousness before entering the classroom." You need to start praising yourself.

You feel bad about yourself, but you have been insisting on going to school, right?

This is your resource.

You didn't run away.

Let's rename things from now on.

For example, stop describing yourself as having a phobia. When you feel nervous, say that you are in a stage before relaxation.

This kind of description will help you look at your problems more calmly.

Everyone gets nervous sometimes, but you only get nervous every time you enter the classroom.

It's no big deal.

You've been through the past ten years, after all.

I am certain that as we grow up a little bit, we will have more and more experiences of our own.

Rewrite your life story using narrative therapy.

A very important point in narrative therapy is that "people are not the problem, the problem itself is the problem."

People are experts at solving their own life problems.

Think back to the moment that triggered your sudden panic and tension.

Were you criticized by others?

Did you feel that other people were paying attention to you?

Let's be real. Apart from paying attention to themselves, classmates or teachers don't have that much energy to pay attention to us.

Look at it again. When you talk and interact with other people, no one pays that much attention to whether you are nervous or not.

Relax.

You have had this experience before. For example, "Sometimes I feel that my classmates are very nice, each and every one of them is cute, I like them very much, and I feel relaxed and comfortable." You don't have to demand that you suddenly stop being nervous and fearful. Just try to make these moments of relaxation and comfort last longer, and the moments of tension and discomfort will decrease.

Pay more attention to the times when you feel good. You can consciously reduce your tension.

Imagine this:

"If the story of your experience were like a computer game, how many levels would you say there are? What would each level be called?"

What do you have to learn to pass?

For example, when you feel that your classmates are cute, focus on the cute side of them.

I am lovable and accepted.

Tell your story.

For example, I may feel nervous when I go to class, but I have never been late for school.

I am very brave despite the fear.

My classmates are cute, and I feel relaxed and comfortable around them.

I know I will definitely have more relaxed times in the classroom.

"Narrative" is a metaphor. It's believed that "stories" shape our lives, not "reality."

Make more good friends. Tell your family about your worries and see if they have any good ideas.

Discuss this with friends or feel the difference when you're with good friends.

Let's explore this slowly.

Our moods and feelings, thoughts, daily lives, and social interactions are just a few examples.

This process will help you understand yourself better.

Everyone is different.

Accept our differences.

Allow yourself to believe that everything is possible.

Share these.

All the best!

Hello, classmate! I can see from your question that you're feeling nervous, scared, and confused. It's totally normal to feel this way when you're in a new situation.

First, you notice that you feel a little nervous, a bit uncomfortable, and even a little embarrassed as soon as you enter the classroom. It seems like this feeling is related to your experiences in the classroom when you were a child.

Take a moment to think back to when you were little. Do you remember something that happened in class that made you feel nervous or embarrassed?

Let's say, for instance, that your teacher suddenly called on you to answer a question and you didn't speak up. Or maybe you were suddenly called on by a classmate or teacher in class.

It might be something that happened in class when you were a child that made you feel stressed, like a conditioned reflex. When you walk into the classroom or something similar happens, your body naturally produces a certain behavior.

If you can find the event, you can absolutely alleviate the situation through some psychological counseling and treatment.

So, what can we do to help you feel more relaxed and less anxious? Let's try some simple techniques together.

1. Be kind to yourself and notice when you start to feel tense.

It's so easy to get caught up in the moment and forget to pay attention to how we're feeling. By the time we notice that we're feeling tense or anxious, it's often been going on for a while.

It can be really helpful to try to be aware of the moment when the emotion arises, and then catch it right away. This can help you to notice a change in your emotional state.

Be kind to yourself and notice any changes in your body. It's totally normal to feel a bit rigid, unable to speak, or have cold hands and feet. You might even notice your heart beating a little faster.

2. Take a deep breath and focus on your breathing.

When you notice a change in your body, just focus on your breath and pay attention to each inhale and exhale.

You can look in the direction of your nose tip with your eyes and feel the air being inhaled through your nose, passing through your body, and finally exhaled through your mouth.

You can keep your awareness at the tip of your nose, in your lungs, following the rise and fall of your chest, or flowing with the air.

In a nutshell, just focus on your breathing for a bit and let it calm you down.

3. Give yourself the gift of acceptance.

Once you can focus on your breathing, try to accept your emotions. You've got this! Say to yourself, "I accept my anxiety, I accept my fear, I accept my embarrassment, I accept all the emotions you can feel."

Bring your breath to the body with awareness. If your face is feeling a little stiff, bring your breath to your face. If your hands and feet are feeling a little cold, bring your breath to your hands and feet. And if you feel a little tension in your stomach, bring your breath to your stomach.

As you bring your breath to the corresponding area, tell it, "I see you. I accept the anxiety, the tension, etc., and I let it go, let it go."

4. Now, let's bring those wonderful feelings of relaxation and joy to your whole body.

Next, you can take a moment to mentally recall a picture of the time when you were most relaxed and happiest. Let this picture emerge in your mind and feel the emotions, sounds, movements, etc. of that time.

Bring this relaxed, happy image to every part of your body, so that every cell can experience this joy and relaxation.

Take your time with this. Start at the top of your head and work your way down to your toes, allowing the emotions to flow through every cell.

5. Give yourself a big pat on the back for all your hard work! You're doing great! Keep up the good work and you'll see even more amazing changes in yourself.

If you can do the previous steps well, you'll definitely see changes in your body and mood. It's so important to recognize and acknowledge these changes!

Be kind to yourself and recognize the wonderful changes you're making, the happiness you're embracing, and the feelings and experiences that make you who you are.

You can even write down your experiences after such a process! Then, encourage yourself to do a great job. Before you know it, this kind of situation will occur less and less.

I really hope these methods help you to feel less anxious and nervous. You can do it! Let's start now ?

Hello! I see that you have social phobia.

This tense reaction in social situations is just one of your automatic responses.

Your mind will reject your tense emotions, which will make them worse.

It will come up again in similar situations.

How do you stop this cycle of nervous fear?

First, recognize and understand the source of your nervousness. How do you deal with it? Do you wish it would go away?

♀Nervousness is a natural response to emotions. Why does it stick around? You're rejecting it.

♀ Emotions come and go. When you try to stop them, it makes it harder to act.

To break the cycle of tension, allow your emotions to surface. Don't avoid or reject them. Instead, allow, understand, and see them. Focus on what you need to do in the moment, like speaking, and on what you want to communicate. Don't dwell on self-doubting worries.

What if I say the wrong thing? What if people judge me?

Wait for criticism.

♀Understand yourself and accept yourself. Some reactions, like embarrassment and blushing, are natural when you're nervous. Let yourself blush and don't try to stop it. If you focus on your blushing and try to stop it, it will only get worse.

♀It's important to understand and accept yourself. Learn to live with your emotions. Understand them and let them go.

♀You say that spending a long time with your classmates makes you feel nervous. This means that you are still caught up in some self-doubting emotions. You worry about yourself and being anxious. You worry about the other person's evaluation. You are afraid that the other person will have a bad impression of you.

♀You can't control anyone else or know what they're thinking. Don't be suspicious or worry about what they think of you. Just be yourself and let things happen. Do your best and interact with others with all your heart.

I hope this helps.

Everything will be fine.

It's totally normal to feel all kinds of uncomfortable feelings in the present. If you're worried about it, it might be a good idea to go to the hospital for a diagnosis of this phobia. If you've already received a diagnosis from a psychologist, it's a great idea to follow the doctor's advice and get the right treatment.

Phobias are also pretty common, and it's likely that some uncomfortable things have happened in some past life experiences that have made you feel really uneasy.

I've had this phobia for ten years. I get really nervous before going into the classroom.

♣Suddenly, there was a sense of panic in the elementary school class.

♣Nervous insecurity makes it feel really strange to put your hands anywhere.

Oh, don't worry about it! It's just panic.

It's totally normal to feel nervous sometimes!

It's possible that something that happened in primary school might have caused you to feel like your existence isn't as important or safe as you thought.

It's totally normal to feel this way when you're facing threats to your sense of existence and trauma. It's only natural to feel this way when you're going through a rough patch.

It would be really helpful to deal with the old class trauma properly.

☂︎☂︎☂︎☂︎☂︎ It's so important to understand that the past is completely in the past.

We're all just people living in the present, trying our best to deal with whatever comes our way. If you were once afraid and a bit stiff when talking to and interacting with other students in class,

Maybe at the time you already felt a bit threatened or like someone was making things difficult for you. It's totally understandable! You might have also noticed that your expression was a bit stiff, maybe because you were so worried about saying the wrong thing.

I'm not sure if you've been home alone for a long time without seeing anyone. If you don't get out and interact with people when you're young, you might feel insecure and worried about the future.

It's totally normal to feel embarrassed, blush, or get flustered. But it might be because you don't understand or fear interpersonal relationships. We all feel that way sometimes! So, it's important to understand your own relationships.

It would be really helpful for you to understand your own relationship from the perspective of your original family relationships. If you think it would be good for you, I'd highly recommend that you seek psychological counseling. That way you can find confidence in a relaxed and supportive environment and gain the strength to accept and trust others. We all need love and a sense of belonging, and you can definitely experience that too! I really hope things work out for you.

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