Dislike my current job, feel anxious every day, always want to cry, what should I do?

Hello, I am a heart exploration coach. Let go and fly. Life is a beautiful journey.

I hug you in sympathy. You don't like your job and think it will be the same in the future. You feel like time is dragging on and feel despair. What's going on? Let's look:

1. "My poison, his honey."

This shows dialectical thinking, which means that what is good for one person is bad for another.

Your job is envied because it offers stability, a good salary, social status, and a happy family life.

But you are full of resentment because you don't like feeling bad, tired, and on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Just the thought of every day being like this in the future makes you want to cry.

Cry if you want to. Tears have a healing effect. Crying is a natural way to express our emotions.

Some studies have found that crying helps us relax and relieve tension. Crying is a way to release emotions.

Not crying is bad for your health.

People who suppress their crying feel worthless and incompetent. Their intense self-doubt makes them feel that life is meaningless.

Let your emotions flow. Boredom, depression, frustration, anger—they're all important.

You can relax and get help from the platform's counselors if you need it.

2. Find the real reason that bothers you.

You didn't like teaching when you chose your major in college. You endured until graduation, then got a teaching position for practical reasons.

You must have confidence in yourself. Your experiences have shown you are good at exams and you are associated with education and school. Is there a reason behind this?

The result of today is based on yesterday's choices. To change the result, make more choices. Meditate to understand your true feelings.

Has someone in teaching made you feel bad?

Are you overwhelmed by tasks, assessments, or people?

You can find a specific reason, not just that you dislike teaching.

The book "The Five Essential Ingredients of Happiness" helps you find happiness with Martin Seligman.

I hope this helps. I love you.

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Hello, my name is Zeyu.

"I'm currently facing some challenges in my job, and I'm feeling anxious and overwhelmed. I'm wondering if there's a way to find more balance and joy in my work." Could we explore ways to shift our mindset and find reasons to feel less sad?

Before attempting to solve a problem, it may be helpful to first settle our emotions. Living in a state of constant anxiety can be harmful to our well-being. I can appreciate your feelings of not liking this job and your determination to seek change.

If we view the current job as unchangeable and irreplaceable, it could be perceived as a challenging situation. It may be difficult to envisage a different future, but it's possible that this current role could mark the beginning of a new chapter for us.

It is possible that the fact of having become a teacher is not a burden, but rather a platform for growth and change. How we understand this depends on the beliefs we hold. The reality is that we do not like this job, but it does meet some of our needs on a material level. It might be helpful to ask ourselves what we like.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what you would like to do, and whether there might be another way to achieve it.

Perhaps we could consider using the existing environment and resources to develop the goals and plans we desire and hope to achieve. Taking a public exam or finding a job in your spare time might also be an option. In this way, "not liking" could potentially become a driving force for us to change rather than a source of anxiety.

If the questioner is considering leaving their job, it might be helpful to first imagine what they plan to do after leaving. What are their plans or goals, and how do they plan to act? Thinking about the future in this way can help us determine a direction while also alleviating some of the negative emotions within us, so that we can make more rational and prudent choices.

Hello, question asker.

I'm here for you.

You have worked hard, doing a job you don't like but that your family likes and your friends envy. This has made you feel conflicted and miserable.

You always have the right to choose.

You have the choice to continue or not. You don't have to force yourself to do a job you don't like.

You must also equip yourself with the strength to make choices.

As you said, this is the second-best choice after failing the civil service exam and failing to find other work. There is a lot of resentment and dissatisfaction.

If you want to do a different job, tell me what kind of job you want, how you're going to get it, and what opportunities you're going to pursue.

They don't know what you're going through.

Some people think being a teacher is great. They say you get summers and winters off, you don't have to deal with too many complicated kids, and the school environment is nice.

Teachers nowadays also face various inspections and encountering difficult parents is a headache. Children's education is becoming more and more difficult. You can't hit or scold them, and sometimes they don't listen even if you coax them. Sometimes you have to deal with trivial matters during the day before you have time to prepare lessons in the evening. Teachers also have to compete for subjects and compare with each other, which is actually very tiring.

Some people love being teachers despite the difficulties. They have their reasons for sticking with it.

It could be a lollipop that a child gives to a teacher as a reward, the sense of accomplishment of having taught thousands of students, a thank you from a parent, or praise from another teacher. There are also bright moments in dull work, just like planting a plum tree. You may not see any results for the first few years, and you won't really feel the sweetness and happiness until the fruit is ripe. But you have to be determined and persevere.

Some people do jobs they don't like, but they channel some of their energy into other things.

One of the aunties was sweeping the floor at the museum when a tourist approached her and asked a question about the explanation. The auntie, who had heard the explanation many times, went up to them and answered.

She also took the initiative to learn from the interpreters. When some tourists came and there was no one to give a tour, she gave the tour herself. She was happy to help spread culture and felt a sense of accomplishment.

If you fill your work with dissatisfaction, you'll miss out on the chance to discover that it may also hold other opportunities.

You can do whatever you want. Go for it!

Hello!

I get where you're coming from with your likes and dislikes at work. With that in mind, I'd like to offer some thoughts for your consideration:

I'm genuinely happy for you that you got a teaching job, especially since you've been looking for one for a while.

However, you're not ready for the teaching profession yet. You're still trying to figure out whether you like it or not, and there are a lot of factors that go into that.

For instance, you mentioned that you didn't care for the teacher training program you selected in college.

Everyone's level of interest in a certain job or field, as well as their related talents and skills, will affect how much they like that occupation.

Or you feel like the teaching profession doesn't really interest you or challenge you, and it doesn't meet your ideal career goals and development needs.

Or maybe you're worried about things like how you'll get on with colleagues, leaders and students, or the culture and atmosphere of the school. Or perhaps you're concerned about the pressure of being a teacher and the lack of opportunities for advancement.

So, the only way to solve your problems is to look for specific, individual reasons why you don't like teaching.

Teaching isn't as unappealing as you think. Your judgment and analysis are based on personal emotions and limited preferences, which aren't the whole truth. Plus, you're in a social context with serious "withdrawal" and high competitive pressure.

So, the best way to change your current negative emotions like "every day is so hard, I'm tired, I feel like I'm about to collapse" is to improve your understanding and knowledge of teaching and increase your work adaptability and satisfaction.

So, we suggest you try these methods to gradually increase your self-acceptance and love of your teaching work:

First and foremost, it's important to be aware of yourself.

As you mentioned in your request for help on this platform, you're really struggling with your current job. You're feeling anxious every day and you're struggling to cope.

Based on your awareness, you can set aside a certain amount of time every day to further perceive it, experience it, understand it, and feel its anxiety, discomfort, and mental fatigue.

Take it one step at a time. Accept that you have this emotion, rather than rejecting it, indulging it, or letting it influence you.

In other words, don't let your emotions control your actions. Emotions are for experiencing and releasing, while matters are for practicing and carrying out.

Secondly, you can improve your cognition through continuous further education and learning.

Teachers should make sure they keep their professional knowledge and skills in the field of education up to date.

You can brush up on your teaching and professional abilities by taking relevant training and learning courses at school and on an individual basis.

As you make improvements, you can gradually build up your self-recognition and self-confidence.

Third, you can build great relationships with your students.

You've recently made the switch from being a student yourself, so you know how important a good teacher can be.

Get to know your students, show you care about what they have to say, and respect their individuality and values. You'll find that mutual trust and respect will grow through interaction and communication.

At the end of the day, you can find the value in your work in your teaching practice.

It's a good idea to make the most of every teaching moment, put your positive energy into the classroom, keep an eye on how each student is getting on and enjoy the sense of achievement and fun that comes with teaching.

You can also share your teaching insights and experiences with colleagues, support and encourage each other, build good relationships with your students, and improve your teaching together.

It's important to regularly accept suggestions and feedback from students and colleagues, and to constantly improve and refine your teaching methods and approaches. This will help you to improve your teaching effectiveness and satisfaction.

If you reflect on your teaching work, pay attention to your growth and progress, and affirm your efforts and achievements, you can establish a positive sense of self-approval.

I hope these tips are useful for you!

The act of reading the words is akin to meeting the individual who wrote them.

After a thorough examination of your account, it is evident that you harbor negative sentiments towards your profession. The discrepancy between pursuing a civil servant role and a teaching position is a notable factor. Additionally, your friends expressed envy, while your family members expressed joy upon your acquisition of a teaching position. It is understandable that you have been subjected to considerable pressure to achieve this goal. Nevertheless, you have demonstrated resilience in the face of these challenges and have continued to persevere until now. Your dedication and effort are commendable.

Let us proceed with a discussion of this matter.

In your own words, you have described the daily challenges you face as "so hard," "tiring," and "near-collapse mentally." In light of this, I would like to inquire further about the following:

1. Could you kindly elaborate on the duration it took for you to secure a teaching position?

2. To what extent do your family members comprehend your current situation?

3. If they do comprehend, what is their assessment?

4. In the event that your family members are unable to comprehend your situation, are there any friends who are able to grasp your true thoughts?

Please describe the beliefs that have facilitated your perseverance thus far.

The aforementioned five points are intended to demonstrate that the causes, processes, and results of any given situation can be clearly traced. When faced with a challenge that seems insurmountable, an examination of the steps leading to that point can provide insights that inform future decisions and actions.

You then stated, "In fact, I did not enjoy the course of study I had selected for my major in college, and I only barely completed it." Furthermore, you indicated that "after graduation, I was unable to secure employment and failed the civil service examination." In light of these statements, I am compelled to inquire:

1. What is your primary area of interest and enthusiasm?

2. If you have not considered a major in education, what specific field do you wish to pursue?

3. What abilities are required to perform the tasks associated with the occupation that you find appealing?

4. Are you prepared to acquire these abilities?

5. What are your expectations regarding your future life and work?

The preceding five points are intended to illustrate that there is no definitive correlation between one's future occupation and their undergraduate major. Now that you have completed your college education, it is time to assume responsibility for your future. As long as you possess the requisite abilities, concerns about unemployment are likely to be minimal.

Furthermore, I am uncertain of your current grade level. Regardless of the grade level you are teaching, the primary audience you must address and serve is students who are significantly younger than you. I will cite my own experience as an example: the children I am currently teaching are over a year younger than me.

The advantage of working in a school is that it allows one to remain intellectually agile. This generation of teenagers has a remarkable capacity for rapid perception and adaptation. It is a challenging task to keep pace with their evolving perspectives. However, by actively striving to align my mindset with that of the younger generation, I have been able to derive a great deal of enjoyment from the experience.

In light of the aforementioned considerations, it is uncertain whether this can assuage your inner anxiety. However, it is important to note that a single decision does not determine the course of a lifetime. As long as one has genuine convictions about their work, they can strive to implement them. Those with the requisite abilities can consider directly implementing their ideas. Those who lack the necessary abilities can begin by developing their capacity.

As long as the objective remains in place, it is of no consequence if one arrives at it belatedly. Even if the objective is not attained, one has nevertheless had the experience. In the future, if questioned, one can respond candidly: "Although I did not successfully transform, it was an enlightening experience."

Given the imminent conclusion of the allotted time, we will now bring this session to a close.

Take care of yourself, and we shall meet again at some future date.

Good day, inquirer. I am a Heart Detective coach, Jia Ao Bu Xun.

I have carefully read the problems and confusions you described on the platform. Are you experiencing difficulties in your professional life? You indicated that you do not particularly enjoy your current role and that you feel anxious on a daily basis. You recently passed the examination to become a teacher, and your family is supportive, and your friends are envious. However, you do not feel a genuine sense of fulfilment in this position. You experience significant distress on a daily basis and feel as though you are on the brink of a mental breakdown. Indeed, you did not enjoy the teacher training major you selected during your undergraduate studies. Following graduation, you were unable to secure employment and failed the civil service examination. Ultimately, you had to compromise and pursue a career as a teacher. Is this a situation you are willing to continue tolerating?

Indeed, the role of teacher is one that many people aspire to, given the stability of the job and the provision of summer and winter vacations. It is, however, a role that may not align with one's personality. When coupled with the desire to pursue alternative employment and to take the civil service exam, it becomes necessary to compromise and accept the role of teacher. Despite this, there is an underlying sense of rejection, which may be difficult to overcome. It is therefore recommended that a comprehensive career plan is developed and that careful consideration is given to the future of teaching as a long-term career choice.

I am here to assist you in analyzing and sorting out the issues at hand.

1. It is essential to regulate one's emotions and behaviors in a manner that is conducive to achieving a state of equilibrium and mental stability.

It would be prudent to relax and avoid placing undue pressure on oneself. Perpetuating a culture of excessive pressure in one's life will only serve to exacerbate feelings of anxiety, which can have detrimental effects on both the body and mind. While work-related concerns are a source of distress, it is essential to prioritize relaxation and release. When experiencing feelings of discontent, it is advisable to reduce overtime work and engage in a period of rest and recuperation. Prolonged periods of intense work can lead to adverse effects on mental health. It is, therefore, beneficial to cultivate a sense of mental equilibrium and adjust one's perspective.

2. Identify the root cause

In the event of discontent with one's current position, it is essential to undertake a calm and objective examination of one's emotions to ascertain whether they are a result of the job itself or a reflection of one's personal state of mind. It is of paramount importance to identify the underlying cause in order to effectively address the issue.

If the issue pertains to the job itself, it may be beneficial to communicate with colleagues or superiors to identify potential solutions. Conversely, if the problem is rooted in personal attitudes, such as one's interests and hobbies, it may be helpful to adjust one's attitude and seek fulfillment and a sense of accomplishment in one's work. This approach can prove instrumental in resolving the issue.

3. Re-evaluate career objectives

In the event of dissatisfaction with one's current position, it may be beneficial to consider a reset of career goals. This entails a re-evaluation of the career plan, the clarification of desired outcomes, and the identification of a desired trajectory. In the event that the requisite conditions are met, the formulation of a detailed work plan may be a useful strategy for the gradual attainment of these goals. The act of resetting career goals can serve to rekindle motivation and passion for one's work. When individuals possess clearly defined career goals, they are more likely to demonstrate resilience in the face of challenges and to invest effort in enhancing their professional abilities and overall quality of work.

Fourthly, it is advisable to proactively seek external assistance.

Should one be dissatisfied with one's current work or encounter difficulties, one may also seek external assistance. One may find a career mentor or psychological counselor with whom to communicate and consult. Such a professional may help one better understand one's emotions and needs, provide advice and guidance, and one may also reflect work difficulties directly to one's superiors. One may receive timely assistance from such a professional.

It is my sincere hope that this response will prove beneficial to you. Should you require further communication, you are invited to follow me (by clicking on my personal homepage), select the Heart Exploration service, and engage in one-on-one communication with me. With best wishes for your success and wellbeing.

Good day, I am writing in response to your query.

I am the respondent, Mr. Yao, and also a consultant with a dynamic orientation in psychoanalysis. I am honored to be able to assist you.

From the content of the post, it is evident that you are not satisfied with your current role as a teacher. However, you were compelled to take the teacher's exam and are now facing the consequences of that decision.

You seem confused and suffering.

For some reason, you have expressed dissatisfaction with your instructors. If you have had negative experiences with your instructors, why did you choose to major in teaching?

Given the limited information available, I can only attempt to provide an explanation.

Please allow me to provide some explanations.

I suspect that you may be a model employee who has been indulged by your superiors, and that their over-indulgence has made you feel

To what extent were you influenced by your parents in choosing your college major?

I also suspect that one of your parents is a teacher. Your aversion to teachers is well-documented.

Could this be a rejection and rebellion against your parents?

Furthermore, your current aversion to and disdain for the teaching profession may be influenced by your parents.

Securing a teaching position would indicate that you have fulfilled your parents' expectations rather than pursuing your own original aspirations and dreams.

This result may present a significant challenge for any child seeking independence and freedom from parental control.

What is the best way to resolve this impasse?

I believe that the sky is the limit, but the current employment environment is challenging.

The initial step is to establish stability, which is the foundation for survival.

If you wish to become independent of your parents, you may wish to consider postgraduate studies or a civil servant career.

As long as you have the necessary resources and support, I am confident that you will achieve your goals.

I am confident that you will succeed.

The questioner's current situation and feelings are understandable. At times, individuals may select a job that does not align with their genuine preferences in order to meet the expectations of others or adhere to social standards. This decision can result in internal struggles and discomfort.

First and foremost, it is imperative to recognize the significance of one's emotional well-being and the inherent right to select a lifestyle and profession that aligns with one's personal values and aspirations. While familial and social expectations often play a pivotal role in shaping one's decisions, it is crucial to acknowledge that the ultimate determinant of one's quality of life and happiness lies within.

It is therefore essential to undertake a rigorous examination of one's interests and values in order to identify a vocation that aligns with one's intrinsic expectations.

In the event that one is dissatisfied with one's current position, it is advisable to pursue alternative career opportunities. This may entail exploring areas of interest and acquiring pertinent experience and skills through vocational training courses or internships.

Additionally, it is possible to seek assistance and guidance from individuals in one's immediate circle, including family members, friends, colleagues, or career counselors.

It must be acknowledged that changing careers is a challenging undertaking that requires fortitude and resolve. However, if one is truly dissatisfied with their current position, it can have adverse effects on their physical and mental well-being over time.

It is therefore recommended that you give careful consideration to your future plans and identify a career path that aligns with your personal goals and aspirations.

In conclusion, it is important to note that regardless of the career path chosen, maintaining a positive mindset and an optimistic attitude is crucial. Life inevitably entails periods of both success and challenge; however, by remaining determined and positive, individuals can effectively navigate difficulties and achieve their aspirations.

Hello!

I understand how you feel.

You don't like your current job. You finally got a permanent teaching position, but you don't like it. Every day is hard and exhausting. You seem to be quite young or just graduated.

Your family is well off financially. Let's imagine a better future. You don't like your job, so you need to understand what you want from work. What kind of work do you like, and how much do you know about the work you like?

If you get the job you want, will it be as you imagined? Will the work be as bad as you think? What will you do? Think about these things. The best way to do this is to face them and solve them. You can't solve them yourself, so you need to find a counselor.

You wrote that you didn't like the teaching major you chose in college. You had difficulty graduating and then failed the civil service exam. You had to take the teacher exam. Many people just want to graduate, not for a specific major. This is like any big exam. It is just one choice in life. You need to change, not just correct your mistakes. You failed the civil service exam, so you took the teacher exam. This reflects a process of change.

You have a stable job, so you made a choice. You got this job through your own efforts. Work hard and you'll get the results you want.

You can keep taking the exam. Just keep working hard.

Scholars in ancient times could study and take exams until they were 50. Many students today repeat exams to get into good universities. Can you do it?

I suggest:

1. You can seek help from a counselor. You should also seek help from your family, but it is obvious that you will not get any results.

2. You can change your mind when you enter teaching. If you don't like it, give up and choose again.

Teaching is a good profession. You can gain honor, respect, and cultivate strong talent.

This is just for reference.

Good morning, my name is Coach Yu, and I would like to discuss this topic with you.

Let us begin by discussing emotions. Emotions are comprised of three key elements: subjective experiences, external manifestations, and physiological arousal. Each emotion may be an unmet internal demand. For example, when we miss the opportunity for a promotion or pay increase, we experience sadness; when we lose a treasured possession we have had for many years, we experience anger.

As the original poster indicated, they are dissatisfied with their current position, experience daily anxiety, and frequently feel overwhelmed to the point of tears.

We can inquire of ourselves what our thoughts were when we applied to the teacher training program in college, and what emotions and feelings did they engender? What were our thoughts when we compromised and took the teacher training program, and what emotions and feelings did they engender?

Additionally, it would be beneficial to reflect on how we communicated with our family members during the university application process. Similarly, it would be valuable to consider how we interacted with our family when seeking employment after graduation.

Please describe the manner in which you communicated with your family during the teacher training exam.

Additionally, it would be beneficial to identify the root causes of the daily anxiety and emotional distress.

If the challenging emotions at the moment could communicate, what would they say to you?

It is possible to reconcile with our emotions. When anxious and uncomfortable emotions arise, we can observe them without judgment and allow them to come and go freely, like clouds drifting slowly away. It may also be helpful to record what you are feeling at the moment.

Please feel free to express your feelings in your writing. This will help us to identify the underlying causes and effects of emotions, as well as the root of the problem.

Let's revisit the topic of work. Many individuals believe that their lack of job satisfaction stems from a disconnect between their professional interests and their personal passions. When an individual is engaged and enthusiastic about their work, they are more likely to perform at a higher level.

This approach entails a shift in focus from the conventional goal of "success" to "interest." In practice, even when a position aligns with one's interests, there may be limitations in one's ability to excel in that role.

Given the necessity of aligning one's knowledge and abilities with the demands of a given role, it is inevitable that a position will become unfulfilling and uninteresting when these requirements are not met.

We can inquire as to the specific factors that we find unsatisfactory about our current position. Additionally, we can identify the objective factors.

Please provide your own subjective thoughts.

Additionally, it is beneficial to consider what an ideal job would entail and the skills and expertise required to fulfill that role.

When we are clear about our needs, we can make informed decisions about our behavior.

It is beneficial to set aside time to communicate with family members, listen to their expectations, and express one's own thoughts honestly. Effective communication can assist in releasing and relieving emotions related to current work frustrations and future plans.

Ultimately, it is essential to love yourself. Negative emotions can undoubtedly impact one's life. However, the questioner demonstrated an ability to recognize their emotions and possess a clear set of values. Therefore, it is crucial to prioritize self-care, including physical and emotional well-being.

It is recommended that you seek assistance. Given the nature of the issue, it is understandable that it may be challenging to overcome it immediately. It would be beneficial to identify a family member or friend you trust and who has consistently provided positive support. If necessary, you may also wish to consult with a counselor, as emotional release can help alleviate feelings of heaviness and blockage.

Even if the work is unappealing, it is important to perform the tasks to the best of one's abilities. This is not only for the sake of the performance itself, but also for one's own personal growth. Regardless of whether one continues in this role or transitions to another, or even if one decides to start their own business, it is essential to develop oneself into a strong individual and hone one's skills.

Furthermore, life requires us to persevere through simplicity and boredom, to maintain composure, and to embrace the role of an ordinary person. It is through this ordinariness that extraordinary opportunities will arise in the future.

I recommend the book "5% Change."

Hello. I am honored to answer your question and I am confident that my suggestions will be helpful to you.

We can handle this. There are two ways to deal with our current situation.

We can adjust our emotional state, learn about our industry and occupation, and look for the interesting parts of the job that we are willing to accept. This will help us approach the work with a stable frame of mind.

In the process, we must ensure that we like this job. Not only will we have a stable, good job, but we can also spend this working time in a happy state.

The second part is to re-sort our career planning.

Your career choice doesn't have to align with your major. Many people look for jobs across majors.

The wider environment influences our job search, making it difficult to find a job that matches our skills.

The reason is likely that the major you chose in college was not your favorite. This may have been due to your parents' preferences, exam scores, or transfers. Whatever the reason, the major you studied is not necessarily something you are interested in or want to do.

When looking for a job, we must stop looking for a job that corresponds to our major and start looking for a job that interests us or that we are good at.

In summary, we can tackle our current situation from two directions at once. While working, we should first look for the interesting parts.

We can better self-reflect on which field of work we aspire to. Then, after identifying our goal, we can learn about the relevant knowledge in this field of work. When we have the required competencies, we will take the step of changing jobs.

I am confident that through self-reflection, you will find a career direction that suits you.

The world and I love you!