Do I always mix up the mistakes I made in the past with the person I am now?

Good day.

It is important to acknowledge and address your feelings of guilt. These emotions have taken root deep within your heart, and their repetitive nature is causing you to bear a relatively heavy mental burden.

I would like to take a moment to share my initial impression upon reading your message.

I believe you possess valuable qualities. Not everyone is willing to reflect on their past words and deeds.

Furthermore, the willingness to calmly distinguish between right and wrong is essential.

You are already demonstrating self-awareness, which is an important skill to continue developing. The reason for doing so is to foster a stronger sense of self-love.

"When I was younger, I made a number of misguided decisions." Perhaps we can examine how these experiences can be transformed into strengths that facilitate personal growth.

Apologize and then proceed.

It is important to recognize that the past is irreversible. Addressing it with honesty and transparency often entails navigating a complex emotional landscape, including feelings of vulnerability, attachment, fear, and sadness.

When we can accept these emotions, we will find our resolve and resilience growing.

What experiences from your past will inform your decision about the kind of life you want to lead?

The Indian movie "Toilet: Ek Prem Katha" features a particularly poignant line: "It doesn't take time to hate someone, but it takes time to understand love."

When you are willing to take a more relaxed approach to time management, you will truly feel that the pace of your work and the pace of your life are aligned.

It is important to remember that we all have a long life ahead of us, and that it is worth investing time and energy into making the most of it.

Make use of the power of thinking to live a good life!

Good day, question asker. I can discern that you are currently attributing blame to yourself and exhibiting a degree of aggression towards your past self. You are attacking your past self, denying your past self, and unable to love your past self, correct? Consequently, you are experiencing significant distress and upset.

The questioner hopes to accept their past actions and, more importantly, themselves. It is evident that the questioner has a tendency to be overly critical of themselves.

It is not possible to ascertain what the original poster did in elementary school or what occurred at the time. Therefore, it is not appropriate to judge the past in terms of right or wrong. The original poster is aware that it occurred in elementary school, when we were in the stage of figurative thinking or transitioning to abstract thinking in terms of knowledge, emotions, and thinking. It is not possible to judge our past selves by our current understanding.

What would be the impact on the questioner if they were to refrain from judging their past self as right or wrong?

In other words, regardless of past events, they are part of our life process. Our thoughts have evolved, indicating progress over time. The past self is still the self. Past events are in the past. What can we learn from past experiences?

If we view it as a valuable contribution to our personal growth, what implications does this have?

The questioner can recall the images of past events, think back on what happened in the past, who was involved, and where the events took place.

Take a moment to reflect on the past self. What message do you wish to convey? You have the opportunity to do so. What message would you like to share with the person next to you? You may also do so.

Finally, affirm to yourself, "I acknowledge your presence. The actions of my past self were appropriate for that time. I accept my past self and I love myself. Connect deeply with the emotions in your body and feel them until you calm down."

I hope this information is useful to you.

Hello, question asker.

It's clear that what happened in elementary school has had a big impact on you. You often think about it, but from what you've told me, I don't really understand what happened. I also don't know what you mean by "bad." What you consider bad might not be so bad to someone else.

Could it be that you're too hard on yourself, thinking "If only I'd done this or that, the result would have been different?"

Cognitive behavioral theory suggests that these thoughts are based on irrational beliefs that make it difficult for us to understand what happened in the past and exaggerate the impact of past events on us. Irrational beliefs have three characteristics:

Firstly, we have the issue of absolutization.

2. Overgeneralization

It's terrible.

Or you can take a look at whether some of your thoughts fit these criteria, and if so, why they might be causing you to blame yourself too much for something that happened in the past.

Secondly, if you want to solve the problem you're facing, others need to understand you well enough to provide effective solutions. In this regard, a trusted and ethical counselor or listener, or even a close friend, can be a great help in solving your problems. Or you can talk to them about some of your past experiences and see what they think and how they feel about it, so you can verify and repair your harsh self-criticism and punishment.

As you try this, you can also take it slow. Don't try to open up all at once. Instead, share bits and pieces over time. This way, you can get a better sense of things and your past from what others say. You might find that others have different views about some of your past actions. They might also show understanding and support. As you try this, you can also change how you see what happened. This helps you bring your past and present together.

As you go through this process, you'll also see change happen, and it'll happen gradually.

Ultimately, everyone's past will have some missteps, given how much we value them. These mistakes can feel unforgettable and even like unforgivable sins. But as time goes by, we can start to view problems in a way that allows us to develop and change. This means we can make up for mistakes with more practical actions.

You've been compensating for your mistakes for a long time. The years you spent growing up were a form of "self-punishment" for you to make up for your mistakes. They didn't make you feel good, but they could help reduce the guilt caused by your mistakes to a certain extent. This emphasis on mistakes and the practice of compensating for them show that you're aware of your actions and the energy and resources you're willing to invest in making up for them.

I think that when you realize there's a better way to make up for your mistakes, you'll be able to take responsibility for your past actions in a more effective way. In terms of how you approach mistakes and how you deal with them, I believe that maintaining a clear awareness of your mistakes and then doing a little better with a contrite heart is another effective way to make up for the past.

I hope this helps.

Hello!

Host:

I'm Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I've read the post and noticed you always associate past mistakes with your current self. Does this cause you pain? I also see you've faced your inner self and sought help on the platform, which will help you understand and recognize yourself better and adjust accordingly.

Next, I'll share some observations and thoughts from the post that might help you view yourself from a different angle.

1. Why are you the way you are?

As the post notes, the host says you tend to link your past mistakes with your current self. Let's talk about why that is.

This kind of discussion can help us understand ourselves better and recognize our strengths. From a psychological perspective, understanding our motivations can help us overcome challenges.

From the post, it can be seen that the host combines things and people together. We can then look back and see if there were important people in our development who evaluated us based on what we did.

This could be why we are the way we are. Of course, this is just one way to look at it.

Because, in the process of raising many people, the way of parenting they have received is "conditional love." You must do what I say, you must listen and do as you are told, then you will be a good boy.

What happens to kids who are raised this way? They think they're only good if they get everything right.

They don't love me for no reason. Even when we mess up, people often say, "If you can't get something so small right, what else are you good for?"

Why do you always mess up? When we were young, we didn't have the ability to recognize these voices. We recognized ourselves through the feedback of others.

If we internalize this feedback, we'll think we're only good when things go well and bad when they don't. Some of the above may be worth reflecting on.

2. Try to view the mistakes you've made with a more nuanced perspective.

In your post, you said you think you did a lot of things wrong when you were in elementary school. I also know that the past is the past, but I can't seem to let them truly pass. I always feel like they've always been a part of me. From this, I can tell you seem to be unable to let go of the many things you did wrong in the past.

And not be able to love such a self. Then, perhaps we can look at what we can do for the current self together?

First of all, I'd like to talk with you, the original poster, about how you define right and wrong. Is there such a thing as absolute right and wrong?

Can we look at these wrong things in a more positive way?

Can we find a positive side to these things that aren't right? Is there some positive significance to them?

Or whether it has been a benefit to us. I think it has, but we may not always realize it.

I like that our experiences are like this: "Either you get it or you learn it."

As we grow up, we need to learn from our mistakes. These experiences help us reflect on ourselves and prepare us to face challenges.

So, we should try to look at things from different angles and see them in a new light.

3. Love yourself

In the post, I saw that the poster brought up the idea of loving yourself. So, what does that mean to you?

And is that all there is to it? Well, I'll share my understanding of loving ourselves next.

The famous psychologist Rogers said, "Love is deep understanding and acceptance." I take that to mean:

To gain a deeper understanding, we need to explore why we have become who we are today.

This kind of exploration helps us understand ourselves better and know ourselves better. It's also our own empathy for ourselves. And acceptance?

Maybe a better way to look at this is to accept ourselves unconditionally and love ourselves. It's about loving the person, not the things.

Even if I mess up, I'm not perfect. I have this part of me that could use some work.

I love myself, I love this person, and I love the whole of me. That's what true love is all about.

The more we accept ourselves, the more we love ourselves. We should accept the good parts of ourselves, as well as the bad parts; accept our strengths, as well as our weaknesses.

This is how we can truly love ourselves.

I hope these are helpful and inspiring for you. If you have any questions, you can also click to find a coach for one-on-one communication.

Everyone can be a beacon, by asking and answering questions. We can help more people by sharing words.

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, coach Fly Free. You blame yourself too much. You can't move on from past mistakes, so you can't enjoy the present. You're stressed, unhappy, and burdened.

Where you focus your attention, you generate performance.

Where we focus our attention affects the outcome and the emotions it brings.

If we focus on the past, we feel regret or remorse. We feel guilty and ashamed.

These are past events that affect the present self. Self-blame is self-hatred, and a sense of powerlessness drains energy.

If we focus on the present or the future, we see hope and gain strength. We will prepare in advance and work hard to prevent similar things from happening.

We have learned from the past. This is responsibility, self-attribution, and taking the initiative to shoulder our share of responsibility.

?2. Take up, let go.

Don't blame yourself. Take responsibility.

A young man went to ask a monk about his troubles. The monk invited him to have some tea and told him to keep pouring until he could no longer bear the heat.

The monk taught him to let go to take hold.

The past is the past. Don't dwell on it. Learn from it and grow. Every experience is valuable.

Life is a journey of self-discovery. Break free from limiting beliefs. When you have fewer and fewer limiting beliefs, you will experience joy.

Self-blame is like setting limits. Take courage and take responsibility. Take back the initiative. Turn guilt into motivation to help others and find self-worth.

I hope this helps you. I love you.

To continue the conversation, click "Find a Coach" in the top right or bottom. I will communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Good morning, question asker.

It is often said that people are living in the present, but without the past, how can there be a present? However, dwelling too much on the past can lead to feelings of depression. I believe that if you want to let go of the past, it can be helpful to try to comprehensively summarize your understanding of yourself. Perhaps the questioner will slowly discover a whole new self, rather than dwelling on past mistakes to characterize themselves.

Gently pat the questioner on the shoulder and offer a little strength. We all have experiences from our past, some good and some not so good. There is no need to abandon the past, but rather to learn from it and love yourself well.

It may be helpful to love and respect yourself as you would respect others. When you truly love yourself, you are generating positive energy, and you can make the most of the present moment.

In light of the question that was posed on the platform, I would like to offer some straightforward suggestions that are based on the question that was asked.

It would be beneficial to gain a deeper understanding of yourself.

Before you can distinguish between the past and the present, it would be helpful to have a clear understanding of your personal qualities and abilities. One way to gain this insight is by writing down your strengths and qualities on paper. For example:

I believe I have a knack for observing others.

I believe I am good at summarizing experience.

I take the time to reflect on myself.

I am a patient person, and if I recognize something, I will devote myself to it fully.

I have the ability to sing.

I enjoy reading for pleasure.

It is perfectly understandable if you have many strengths and qualities that you are not able to think of all at once. There is no need to rush; take your time and write. When you remember a certain point, you can write it down.

You may wish to consider listing your achievements.

It is possible that the questioner may feel that they are constantly moving away from their past self. However, it is important to remember that the past also contains many achievements that the questioner can take pride in, regardless of how insignificant they may seem. These achievements are an integral part of the questioner's life journey and should be acknowledged.

It is possible that these achievements might help the questioner to gain a deeper understanding of themselves. For example:

He experienced a period of depression that lasted for ten years, but he emerged from it with resilience.

He had the opportunity to attend college at a time when only 50% of junior high school students were admitted.

He managed to learn to ride a bicycle without any formal instruction from his parents.

It might be helpful to make a list of your achievements in life. This can help you to recognize your strengths more clearly.

Perhaps it would be best to simply let the past be the past.

Perhaps what the original poster needs is a fresh start. There is a saying that goes, "You were there, but you are not living in the past."

Many of us have experienced misfortune in one way or another. It is important to learn to live in the present.

Buddhist teaching suggests that the past cannot be obtained, nor can the future be obtained. It may be helpful to try not to get caught up in the sadness and disappointment of the past or the worries of the future. It can be beneficial to acknowledge your feelings, but it may also be helpful to try to leave them behind.

It would be beneficial to forgive those who have wronged the questioner, but perhaps most importantly, to forgive the questioner himself. What happened in the past is not the questioner's fault. Sometimes the mistakes made were just the result of the questioner being emotional at the time. It would be helpful to avoid repeating the mistakes as much as possible, so that they don't affect our lives in the present.

You might find it helpful to get moving.

It might be helpful to consider that dwelling on the past can sometimes lead to negative emotions. One possible way to combat these emotions could be to try to stay active.

If you're looking to shift your mood and boost your energy levels, it might be helpful to consider getting active, spending time outdoors, and allowing yourself to feel the warmth of the sun and the freshness of the air. It might feel challenging at first, but with time, you may notice a shift in your outlook and a renewed sense of vitality.

Regular exercise has been shown to improve blood circulation, ensuring the brain receives an adequate supply of oxygen. This can help to reduce stress and tension in the nervous system. Additionally, exercise releases a chemical in the brain that contributes to feelings of happiness. This can be a valuable reminder to make exercise a regular part of your routine, as it can help to lift your mood and combat negative emotions.

Perhaps it would be helpful to talk about your worries.

When you encounter setbacks and need help, you may find it from within yourself or from friends. It's important to remember, though, that unless you're willing to seek and accept help from others, it may not come to you.

It would be beneficial for you to find someone you can talk to openly and honestly. It might also help to work on overcoming your shyness and social awkwardness. One option could be to seek the support of a psychologist or other mental health professional on a psychological platform. They could provide a safe space for you to share your concerns and receive guidance. I believe this could be a valuable step.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider some alternative perspectives.

It might be helpful to try to accept yourself.

It might be helpful to do more of the things you like and find your life's goals and meaning in the things you like. Accepting yourself as you are after recovering from depression and doing something to please yourself when you are in a low mood might also be beneficial.

If you make yourself happy, you might also enjoy some sweets. Many people find that sweet things make them feel good, and they can also be a source of happiness for others. It is important to remember that making yourself happy does not have to harm others.

It would be beneficial to avoid allowing negative emotions to take over your life.

To distinguish between the past and the present, the questioner may benefit from some additional reflection. It may be helpful to embrace oneself, show oneself love, believe in oneself, and allow oneself to grow from the past. It may also be beneficial to be true to oneself, learn to express one's feelings sincerely, and not concern oneself with the opinions of others. Treating the present self as one's own child and treating him wholeheartedly may also be a valuable approach. I believe that with these insights, the questioner will be well-positioned to embrace a brand new life.

I hope my answer can be of some help to the questioner, and I also wish the questioner the very best in their journey back to a normal way of life as soon as possible.

I hope my answer can be of some assistance to the questioner. I also wish the questioner the very best in their recovery and hope they can return to their normal life as soon as possible.

Hello there!

You say that you always confuse your past mistakes with your current self. I think you may have focused all your attention on your past mistakes, so you can't tell the difference between the past and the present. You may be a bit of a perfectionist, hoping that you have never made any mistakes. So when past mistakes occur, you can't let them go, and focus on them, unable to return to the present.

It's okay to admit that we all make mistakes. We're only human! But it can be hard to accept our mistakes and move on. We all have a tendency towards perfectionism, but it's not necessarily a bad thing. It's just a way of trying to be our best selves. Everyone makes mistakes, and that's okay. It's all part of the journey! Mistakes can actually bring us positive meaning, so we can see what they bring us.

Mistakes are just lessons waiting to be learned! They help us find inner strength, become more mature, adjust our mentality, and let go of our obsession with past mistakes. When we do this, we can go further and mature faster. And you know what? You can start doing things that make you feel a sense of accomplishment. You can also do things to enrich your life and find the value of our lives. After shifting our focus, our lives will also be happier. So let's get started!

Hello, question asker!

I wish I could give you more advice in just a short description, but I'm afraid it's quite difficult to offer a little guidance to the perfectionist in you in just 100 words or so. Even so, I still hope to have a chat with you in my answer and to accompany you in seeing more possibilities when you are feeling troubled.

Every single step of your past counts!

I can see that you're still feeling stuck on some things that happened when you were in primary school. I'm curious, though, about what stage of life you're in right now. It seems like you're dwelling on some mistakes you made as a child, and it's possible that something you've encountered recently or someone you've met has triggered your memories.

These memories can feel a little too heavy to bear and face, and may even trigger your shame and guilt. It's totally normal to want to get rid of the adverse impact of negative events in primary school on your emotions. It's not about denying the past, but rather acknowledging it and moving forward.

There's no such thing as a wasted step in life, and every step in the past counts. It's the you of each past day that has brought you to this moment, and will continue to lead you to each future day.

[Every butterfly was once a caterpillar]

When you were in primary school, you might have been a bit naive, not thinking things through, or maybe a little stubborn and impulsive. We all make mistakes when we're young! But now, compared to that time, you're a much more mature person and have become a better individual. So when you look at the past from the perspective of the present, you'll probably feel a little ashamed of some of the things you did.

Just as every beautiful butterfly has gone through the stage of being a caterpillar before emerging from its cocoon, so too, each of us, even if our past is a bit comical and ugly, has gone through a process of growth that is an inseparable part of our lives. And that's okay!

[Be brave and face your mistakes with a smile!]

You may still be totally happy with who you are, but you might also be feeling a little worried that something you did in the past might suddenly come back to haunt you and make you feel not so good about yourself. Even though it's not clear how serious the "wrong things" you mentioned are, they don't seem to be too bad.

I really believe that when you find the courage to be willing to bear the consequences of your past "mistakes," you'll no longer need to worry about past experiences affecting your present self. At the same time, it will be easier for you to accept and love this courageous, honest, and confident self.

I really hope that the original poster can find a way to forgive themselves and move on from their past mistakes. It would be so great to see them live in the moment and truly enjoy their freedom!

Greetings! I am the sky of the magical city.

It's wonderful that you've asked this question. It shows that you're already quite self-aware, which is a great place to be. Being self-aware means that you've returned to the time when you were in primary school.

1. Consider letting go of the past and reconciling with yourself.

"I seem to have done a lot of wrong things when I was in primary school." At that time, you were still in primary school, and you may feel that "a lot of wrong things" are just "stupid things" that everyone has done before. Perhaps it would be helpful to find a good friend to talk to about what happened when you were in primary school, so that you can release your emotions. It's possible that the "wrong things" you think you did are really just trivial matters, and you've just blown them out of proportion. When you hear your friend's comforting words, you may suddenly realize that you really did do something wrong, but you were just a child at the time, and it was only natural to do wrong things. We can learn from these experiences. It's important not to deny yourself because of these things.

2- Consider welcoming each thought that arises within yourself.

"But I'm having trouble letting them go. I feel like they're always a part of me." It's natural to have a lot of thoughts in our minds. When thoughts from the past arise, you can greet them with kindness and acceptance. Then, you can let them go.

It is important to remember not to judge, criticize, or deny. Instead, try to let thoughts drift by like clouds in the sky.

3-Consider returning to the present and loving yourself.

"I'm having trouble loving myself in this way. How can I better distinguish the present from the past?" When you reminisce about the past, you might find it helpful to view these thoughts as "This is a memory." These thoughts will slowly disintegrate, and you can gently remind yourself, "I am in the present..." When you focus on the present and devote yourself to the present, you may find a sense of accomplishment and worth, and then loving yourself will not be far away.

You might also consider observing the present moment, noting what you are thinking about right now. It's important to remember that everyone makes mistakes. Treating yourself with kindness and understanding, as you would a good friend, can also be beneficial. I hope my suggestions will be helpful to you.

Hello, question owner! I want to congratulate you on having the courage to question yourself and reflect on your growth. This kind of questioning is a great way to correct the direction of our growth process! It's also a valuable personality quality that can only be gained after making mistakes. I can feel the question owner's entanglement and struggle in being trapped in the past and unable to enjoy the present. If you can, give yourself a big hug and tell yourself, "Thank you, past life, you have worked hard."

As the questioner said, I feel like when I was a child, I "seemed to have done a lot of wrong things." But I clearly know that they are "in the past," and I'm excited to say that I "can't let them truly pass." I understand that they are "part of me," and I'm ready to embrace them as part of my journey. I am confused and entangled in these "wrong things," but I'm confident that I'll find a way to truly love this part of myself that has done so many wrong things. I long to clearly "separate" (cut) myself from the past self that has done wrong things, in the hope of feeling better about myself and [better loving myself].

First, I'm not sure how old you are, and how far away these "mistakes I made when I was young" are from you. Can you clearly remember the circumstances surrounding the label of "doing wrong"? Was it an unintentional mistake, or a well-intentioned but bad move, or an impulsive act of youthful ignorance, or something done on purpose? What kind of consequences did the "wrong things" do?

Just think for a moment how serious it is for the person who has to bear the consequences. Does the questioner still feel aggrieved, using some things he did wrong as a child to punish his current self?

☀️Secondly, each of us has grown from the self of every minute in the past to the current self that you accept or not. No matter what the past experiences are, as the questioner said, they are part of my life. Therefore, the questioner said that there is no way to make them truly go away. It is not that these events that were done wrong are hard to let go of, but that the questioner is deeply immersed in the huge emotions of guilt, self-blame, shame, regret, etc., etc., after doing something wrong, and they cannot extricate themselves. In fact, these emotions have already severely punished the questioner. But here's the good news! These emotions can be overcome!

So, there's a great saying: "The problem itself is not the problem, but how to view the problem is the problem." When we apply this to the questioner, it means that "doing the wrong thing is not a big problem in itself, but how to view doing the wrong thing is a very worthwhile issue to discuss."

☀️Each of our lives is an incredible journey of discovery, with no turning back. The reason this journey is so precious is because there is no return trip. So the questioner might as well recall in detail those things they did wrong, and then write them down one by one, and then return to the scene of the time, objectively look at the events of the time, experience the state of mind at the time, and ask themselves, if I hadn't done that at the time, what other choices would I have had? What were the thoughts that prompted me to make the choice at the time?

If this happened now, what choice would I make?

I'm so excited to see what happens after this operation! I think the questioner will have a much better understanding of their past self and present self. Making peace with your past self and loving your present self is something we all have to do, and it's a lifelong journey!

I really hope this is helpful!

What could be improved about the things you did? How can you make them even better?

You didn't even say it!

It's totally possible that these things are very small and that others will think they're normal when you talk about them. But here's the thing: you care about them in particular, and that's what matters!

It's also possible that these things are very obscure and not many people talk about them. But what can be done about it? Well, many people have had these kinds of experiences when they were children and they're afraid to talk about them. Some have a big impact on their adult selves, while others have a small impact.

I once worried about my sexuality for a long, long time. But then I read various popular science books on sex, including books on sex physiology, sex medicine, and sex psychology, and my whole outlook changed! When I approached sex in a rational and normal manner, I realized that I was not an exception. For example, when I read the book Sex Psychology, it mentioned a tribe where same-sex relationships are common and considered a rite of passage – how fascinating is that?

This book also mentions various sexual behaviors and psychological states that are not tolerated by modern civilization, but which the author of the book sees as common parts of human nature – it's a fascinating read!

The past self is part of the present self, and the present self will always have the shadow of the past. But here's the good news! If you can face the past self with an open mind, the various bad, cowardly, or wrongdoing selves, and accept that bad self, then you can love yourself well!

All countries have made the wise decision to grant minors criminal immunity or partial immunity. This is because even if a minor commits a crime, there are still infinite possibilities for them to become better in the future. Therefore, there is no harm in being more tolerant of our past selves who have done wrong. People always have to look forward, and past experiences tell us what we can and cannot do in the future. These experiences are the foundation of our becoming better—and it's an exciting journey!

Hello, my dear landlord! I read your description and I can totally relate to how the things you did as a child still affect you today. It's so important to let go of the past and focus on the future! I hope my sharing can bring you some inspiration.

Let's take a closer look at this together.

I've often wondered why something we did wrong when we were kids can have such a big impact on us as adults.

It's not the event itself that affects our emotions, but how we perceive it.

The way we see things affects our world view, and this can have a surprising effect on our emotions and behaviors.

In psychology, there's a fascinating theory called the ABC theory. It was first proposed by the brilliant American psychologist Ellis in the 1860s. This theory suggests that our emotions and behaviors are not necessarily shaped by the events themselves, but rather by our thoughts and perceptions about those events.

It's also possible that the things you did as a child have left a lasting impression on you, and that's okay!

These lines are here to tell you that things are in the past and there's no need to dwell on the present. There's a saying that goes, "Forget the past and work for the future."

I'm sure you haven't forgotten it, because anxiety has always been controlling you.

From what I can see, your anxiety is really about a fear of losing control. It's as if you're afraid of making mistakes. But we all make mistakes! It's all part of the journey. So, try not to worry too much about it.

What are you feeling anxious about right now? It's totally normal to feel this way sometimes! Try to work hard to solve the problem, rather than worrying about it. Then, you'll find that anxiety will become your driving force to move forward.

We all have to face some things in life. It's not easy to forget the bad things we've done in the past, but we can do it! Many people feel uneasy about their conscience when they've done something wrong.

If you did something wrong to someone, it's time to ask her out, apologize, make amends, and offer an apology.

If you've done something wrong in the past, please let it go as soon as you can. It'll be like it never even happened! We just need to remember not to make the same mistake again in the future.

You can also talk to a close friend or family member. They'll be happy to help!

If you need help, please don't hesitate to reach out to our professional counselors on this platform. They're here for you and ready to assist with whatever you need.

That's all for now! Have a great day!

From your narrative, it's clear you're still processing what happened in the past. You've asked an excellent question: how to let go of the past. I believe you're ready to let go, and I'm excited to help you!

Let's try a different approach! If you're struggling to let go of the past, you can learn to accept it.

So, the core of the problem we need to solve in this exchange is all about the psychological process of self-acceptance. And it's made up of two main points: first, how to face the past; and second, how to manage the future.

Let's dive into the exciting topic of facing the past!

Guess what? Everyone has a past! The past is a historical event that has already happened.

It's not about changing it. It's about accepting it and making up for any harm caused in the past through your actions in the future.

From your account, it seems that you have done something wrong in the past.

"I think back to when I was in primary school, and wow, I did a lot of things wrong! I know that the past is in the past, but I can't seem to let it go. I always feel like they're still a part of me. Because of these experiences, I can't love myself like this. How should I better separate the present from the past?"

From your narrative, we can see that you're ready to move on from worrying about forgetting the past. You're ready to learn how to accept the mistakes you made in the past!

1. Make amends!

It's totally normal to make mistakes when we're young and learning. We're all human, and we all make mistakes. But, we can learn from them! As we grow up, we might feel a little guilty about the mistakes we've made. We might even feel like we owe others something. But, here's the good news: we can make up for our mistakes now and in the future!

I truly believe that if you can do this, the guilt you feel will slowly subside, and you will be able to accept the mistake you have made.

2. Learn from your mistakes!

The great thing is, we can learn from our mistakes and avoid repeating them in the future. Even if the mistakes we make don't hurt other people, they can still hurt us. So let's make the most of this opportunity to learn and grow!

You should definitely think back on your past and consider the root cause of the mistakes you made. By sorting out your thoughts, you can retrace the mental journey of the mistakes you made.

Now for the fun part! It's time to identify the triggers for your mistakes and your state of mind at the time. This is a great way to understand the past you better and gain a sense of psychological relief.

3. Compare similar problems.

Often, we cannot accept the choices we have made in the past because we subjectively limit our actions to ourselves. But you know what? You can change that! You can start thinking about why I did that in the first place.

How could I have been so stupid? But in fact, you are missing the point. If the same situation and the same thing were to be presented to someone else to make a choice, they would most likely make the same choice as you.

So, here's something to think about. If the people you know were to encounter the same problem, many of them would make the same choice as you and make the same mistake.

If the answer is yes, then you will also be more psychologically accepting of yourself because, let's face it, no one is perfect! In many cases, most people will make the same choices and make the same mistakes, so by thinking about this phenomenon clearly, you will be less self-critical — and that's a great thing!

But if you find that most people will not make the same choice as you, and the mistakes you made in the past were due to your weaknesses as a human being, then you can also do better self-reflection, correct these mistakes, and avoid repeating them in the future.

Self-reflection is an incredible journey of self-redemption! It's a process that allows you to deeply think about your shortcomings and then correct them. It's a journey that will help you become a better version of yourself!

You'll gain a deeper insight into the mistakes you made at the time. You'll also be able to better understand, accept, and correct your actions.

2. Let's talk about how to manage the future!

?1. Correct your shortcomings and watch your life improve!

Self-reflection is a great way to identify the root causes of past mistakes and correct your shortcomings. It's a fantastic tool for personal growth!

You will have a more sound personality. You will have further improvement in dealing with people.

This will be a huge help to you in the future!

?2. Take a good, hard look at your psychological state.

It's so common to dwell on our mistakes! It's often because we have some deep-rooted psychological complexes that are really hard to let go of. And there might even be some psychological problems lurking.

I'm sure you'll be able to discover what your possible problems are through self-reflection since the things you described are not specific.

We highly recommend that you take a psychological test on the Yi Xinli platform to find out if you have any psychological problems. The great news is that early detection and early treatment will be of great help to your future mental health!

3. Stay positive and optimistic!

You've got to realize that a lot of the things you can't let go of are still affecting you because of what happened in the past. So, you've got to think about why those past events are affecting you now and then work out how to solve the problems that are holding you back!

You can gain a positive and optimistic attitude by gradually eliminating these negative factors and emotions from your current life!

There will always be problems in life, but we can absolutely conquer them! All we have to do is identify them and then solve them.

As we solve problems, we grow and improve ourselves. And the best part is, we get to live our lives to the fullest!

Let's do this!

In summary, I really hope you can follow my advice! Shake off the shadows of the past and bask in the sunshine as you walk through the rest of your life.

The past is history, and it's not up for debate. But the future? That's something you can control! How the future changes depends entirely on what you do now.

So don't be confused and disoriented. You've got this! Pull yourself together and find your way forward. Work hard to get a better life!

Sending you lots of love and hugs (◕‿‿◕).

I just wanted to say that I love you, the world, and I love you too! My name is He He from the Xiangyang Studio, and I'm really happy to be able to share love and care with you.

1. Remembering the past and holding on to it.

"I think back to when I was in elementary school and it seems like I did a lot of things that were wrong. I know that the past is the past, but I can't seem to let them truly pass. I always feel like they're still a part of me." Of course they are all part of you, but they were once part of you. I feel that the host cares a lot about this, otherwise he would not have asked again. We often divide our lives into the past, present, and future. Obviously, there is a past that the host cares about in particular, and it is even a hindrance. It is good that people do not forget the past, but it is only because they care too much that they have this trouble.

So, all you need to do is adjust the degree of care.

2. You're doing great! Just remember, don't judge your thoughts.

2. Just remember, you're doing your best!

It's totally normal to have lots of different thoughts racing through our minds all the time. It's just part and parcel of being human! But when we're caught up in the past, it can be tough to stay in the moment. Have you heard of the "Polar Bear Experiment"?

So, the takeaway here is that when we try to forget an idea by pushing it away or avoiding it, it actually sticks with us more. And when we try to distract ourselves from it, it becomes even more embedded in our minds.

This also explains why the questioner is always trapped. We all want to move on, but this thought, idea, or memory always drags us back, doesn't it?

When our memories are pulled back by the past, we just watch them without judging ourselves. It's okay if we can't forget. It's okay if we still think about it.

Oh, why can't they move on? Why are they always trapped...

...

They don't dwell on these things, but just observe them without judgment.

3. Love yourself!

Because of these experiences, I've found it tough to love myself as I am. How can I better distinguish the present from the past?

"The best way to love yourself is to accept your past, your present, and your future selves. You deserve to be loved, to love, and to love yourself.

Self-acceptance is so important!

Integrity: It's so important to accept all parts of ourselves, including our beauty and ugliness, our good and evil, and our black and white. But most importantly, we must accept our own dark side. Many people, in becoming a better version of themselves, have been repressing the things inside them that they feel are bad.

For example, I should be kind and helpful. I should be full of love and not always hate.

Oh, how could I ever be so selfish and evil?

These are the things you need to learn to accept, my dear friend. Life is not black and white; it is both black and white. You are black, you are white.

It's not that you become black when you accept black; it's just that you need to believe in yourself.

I really think you'd benefit from reading "Forgiveness is Love." It's a wonderful book!