Do you always envy other people's beauty and goodness, and do you want to cry every time you think about it?

Hello there, question asker!

I'd love to share my thoughts on your question!

What you see is only the appearance. Things are contradictory, but that's okay! If you look at them with a dialectical mind, perhaps everything will be different.

Some people love a busy lifestyle, while others prefer a more quiet pace. The wealthy often want to live a long and fruitful life, while the rest of us just want to make some money. Having said all that,

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Oh, it's not useful at all! Life goes on, after all. I wrote all this down tonight. What do you think I've let go of? Nothing, really. Like you, I think about it every now and then, but then I realize that no amount of thinking can change the background we were born into and the things we have.

So, my advice to you is to accept reality with an open mind. And don't worry, you don't have to become realistic. They're two very different things.

It's time for a change of mindset! Those with good conditions may seem "unbeatable" for you, but you have the power to make your own choices. Ask yourself: do you want to live a life that is seen by others, or do you want to be content within?

Remember, there's no one definition of beauty. And you don't need to care too much about what others think. Learn to appreciate yourself! People used to wear bound feet and thought they were beautiful. Now they don't. Do you see how beautiful it is?

You really don't need to worry too much about your appearance. Just take a moment to look at yourself. There's no limit to how high you can go. When you reach a new level, you'll meet new people, and you might still feel a little unsatisfied because you can't see yourself fully.

You've got this! Every day is a chance to shine.

Hello, questioner.

In terms of appearance and makeup, I sometimes feel that I don't measure up to others. When I dwell on this, it can be difficult to maintain a positive outlook. How can I better manage my emotions in these situations?

Perhaps we can work together to sort it out.

I believe that all people are born equal, but it's important to recognize that there are many inequalities in our society. Rather than focusing on these differences, it's more constructive to accept them and work towards creating a more harmonious and inclusive environment.

As the questioner said, some people are born beautiful and come from good families. These are things that we cannot control or change. Perhaps the best we can do is to spend our energy and time on things that we can change.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what we can change.

While we cannot change the external environment, we can certainly influence our internal environment. It is always helpful to reflect on the positive aspects of our lives. For instance, despite the financial challenges of our family, we can take comfort in our love for each other and our ability to get along well. Even if we don't fit the conventional standards of beauty, we can appreciate our physical attributes, positive personality traits, gentle demeanor, and endearing qualities.

I believe that when we recognize our own strengths, it gives us the confidence to work hard to change our destiny and steer it in a positive direction.

I believe that comparing one's own shortcomings with others' strengths is not a productive use of our time. It can make us feel insecure and prevent us from seeing the positive changes we are capable of making. When we recognize our own strengths, it is more beneficial to compare ourselves to our previous selves to see how we have grown and improved.

It would be beneficial to identify a goal in life and then set out a plan of action to achieve it. Having a clear direction and motivation is important. The plan should be tailored to the individual's specific circumstances and needs. Once the plan is in place, it is essential to take action. This is the only way to bring about change.

"Realistic people don't comfort you, they say things like you're useless." It is in our nature to want to be affirmed and praised by others. When we don't get it, it can be helpful to comfort and encourage ourselves and be kind to ourselves. As mentioned before, it can be beneficial to see your own progress every day, give yourself certain rewards, and make yourself happy every day.

As your inner strength increases, you may find that you become less dependent on others emotionally.

In times of depression, it may be helpful to consider some strategies for regulating our emotions.

If I may suggest, perhaps taking a deep breath could be helpful.

You might find it helpful to distract yourself by listening to a book or going for a walk.

(3) It might be helpful to write down what happened, your mood, and your feelings.

I hope this is helpful to you.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm usually modest and self-effacing, but I'm open to change.

♥ Have a good heart. We can always change for the better.

In this world where appearance is often a significant factor, it's not uncommon to feel that others are doing better than we are. We may not feel particularly attractive or come from a background that is perceived as privileged. In comparison, our already existing insecurities can intensify.

Dear OP, It's important to remember that in this game of life, each of us has a different path and the gifts that fate gives us are often accompanied by a price. Our efforts should be to make ourselves more valuable and more worthy of beauty. We should therefore have a little more blessings and expectations for ourselves. Even if life is full of setbacks, we can still come back from them.

It would be beneficial to plant the seeds of self-affirmation and self-love within yourself. We may not be as good as others, but the world has different standards for evaluating excellence. It would be more beneficial to first become the person we recognize ourselves to be according to our own requirements and standards, rather than the person others recognize. When we have good intentions, our state of mind will change.

It's best not to cry, as it might run your makeup.

It's not uncommon to feel that others become more beautiful after applying makeup. Have you ever considered whether the same could be true for you? However, when we want to try it, we often find that we don't know much about makeup, our funds can't support the excessive expenditure, and our skills are not very good.

This kind of worry can make it challenging to step out of your own world, which can lead to feelings of regret and a sense of being unable to move forward. When we observe others experiencing positive outcomes due to their outward appearance, it can intensify our own feelings of inadequacy. This can also result in a tendency to withdraw emotionally, which can further exacerbate these feelings of disappointment.

Life is not meant to be suffered, but we will certainly experience suffering, because suffering will help us understand the meaning of life better. Just as you are sad, sad, and confused now, all these negative emotions have accumulated to create a very depressed self. In fact, it is not the case. We can understand ourselves, choose suitable skin care products, compensate for the flaws we think we have by mastering certain makeup techniques, and make ourselves look different by reading. So you see, what you need is not comfort, but action.

It's important to remember that our appearance isn't the most important thing in the world. What matters most is our ability to be useful.

I hope this message finds you well. Please accept my best regards.

Hello, question asker.

I can sense your struggles and the challenges you're facing. It's understandable to admire the beauty and goodness of others and to aspire to embody these qualities. However, your current circumstances may not align perfectly with these ideals. When you reflect on this, it's natural to experience feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

It's understandable that when you see beauty in others, you might feel the need to compare and belittle yourself. These patterns often stem from past experiences and thoughts. Perhaps you were often compared to others as a child, or you've had challenging experiences of being compared. It's natural to want to prove your own value by being better than others. However, when you feel that others are more outstanding, it can create a sense of discomfort, which might indicate a lower sense of self-worth.

With time, you may find yourself becoming more adept at identifying the good in others while simultaneously becoming more adept at identifying your own flaws. It's not uncommon to feel that we are not good enough, which can lead to a lack of attention paid to the good in ourselves. When we constantly attack ourselves in this way, it can make us feel even more powerless. It's important to remember that everyone is unique and that nobody is perfect. We all have our own flaws and strengths. It's beneficial to make a habit of looking for the positive in ourselves, even in small things.

Our external experiences are shaped by our inner selves. By observing, thinking, and acting, we can gain insights into our own mindsets and behaviors. Surrounded by individuals who embody admirable qualities, we are reminded that self-acceptance is a crucial step in embracing the imperfections that make us unique. When we embrace ourselves fully, our hearts open, and we become more receptive and compassionate towards the beauty that surrounds us.

Hello.

Don't cry. People don't have much attention or possessions at this age. That's why the word "youth" is always accompanied by pain. You feel powerless because there are more hardships that others don't have. You feel lost and helpless because there are fewer advantages that others have. If you can't pay attention to your emotions and learn to take care of yourself in time, negative feelings will consume your mind. You will lose the ability to discover your own strengths.

I need to stop envying other people's "good fortune."

I've read a lot of inspirational books and words of comfort, but I still think to myself, "They are younger and prettier than I am, from better families than mine, and they knew how to put on makeup at the age of 18. They are beautiful and young, with top-notch makeup skills. What others had when they were teenagers, I never had even when I was in my 20s."

If the story above is not the original poster's experience, but someone else's, what feelings and emotions would the original poster have at this time? And how would they help someone who needs strength and support from within?

To be truly helpful, you must first empathize with the other person's real needs. Then, express your own feelings and give support based on trust. This will help the other person understand your expression, feel kindness and warmth, and feel valued. They will gradually return their focus on the outside world to the inside.

You can't change the outside world to get rid of "loss" and "inferiority." You have to change how you see yourself. If you feel undervalued or unloved, it's not because you're bad. It's because you don't value your abilities. Start paying attention to yourself and your abilities. Your energy will improve, and you'll become stronger.

1. Relax and relieve stress.

If you think you're not good enough when you're under pressure, you're being self-depreciating. You need to find ways to support yourself and give yourself security. For example, when you feel stressed, you can make yourself a cup of tea, let the warmth of the taste soothe your body, and thus appreciate the beauty of life. Or you can find a trusted "friend" to talk to for a short while, vent a little, and say, "Life is really not easy, but I will work harder," and have a good laugh. Maybe your friend also has their own feelings that they need someone to listen to—a long-lasting friendship.

2. Forget about comparing yourself to others and focus on your own strengths.

In today's world, where competition is constant, it's easy to become impatient for quick success and instant gains. Endless comparisons and competition can make it difficult to appreciate the beauty of real life and to feel happiness in the moment. But everyone faces these challenges. The key is to find a balance in competition. Affirm your value and uniqueness. Don't let the advantages of others deny your own potential.

3. Learn to grow and have a good attitude.

A good attitude may sound like a cliché, but it's the truth. When you see a popular person who reads, writes, and "plays" with music all year round, you will feel completely different. This is the result of their good attitude. They are flexible-minded, humorous, and look at things from multiple dimensions. Therefore, they have a very certain ability to affirm themselves, and the reason we see more pain than happiness is that we lack the ability to feel the good things in life and have a good attitude.

The questioner should read "The Courage to Be Disliked."

You are great. Love yourself. This is the way to happiness.

You've got this! Best of luck!

Hello!

Host:

My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a heart exploration coach. I've read your post with great interest and I can feel the pain and dissatisfaction you feel about yourself from the content.

I'm so excited to share that the poster has bravely faced her own heart and actively sought help on the platform! This will undoubtedly help her to better understand and know herself, so that she can adjust herself, live with confidence, and be herself.

I'm really excited to share my observations and thoughts in the post, which I think will help you, the original poster, view the situation from a more diverse perspective!

1. The story

After reading your post, I was instantly reminded of an incredible story told by the amazing psychologist Wu Zhihong. There were three girls who were huge fans of Ms. Wu, and one day they got to meet her!

Two of the girls were thrilled to tell their teacher that their families were perfect. The other girl was eager to share with her teacher that her family was full of pain.

At this point in the story, many people may think that the girl with two perfect families may be healthier psychologically. However, teacher Wu has a different take. She believes that the girl whose family was full of pain will be healthier psychologically!

Wu's explanation is fascinating! It suggests that when we talk about perfection, there are often underlying issues at play.

They may not be aware of some of the problems in their own families, and they may even have castrated that imperfect part of themselves so that they cannot feel it. But in a perfect family, they are not capable of suffering – so there's hope for them yet!

The girl from the dysfunctional family was able to recognize the problems in her family, which is a great start! She also developed the ability to endure pain, which is a fantastic quality to have.

I'm sharing this story because I have some amazing ideas and perspectives to offer! From your post, I can see that you're going through a rough patch, but I can also see that you're a strong, confident person with a unique background.

I don't see it that way, so I'll just say this: I think you, the host, have a stronger ability to bear pain than they do. God gives everyone different talents. Some are beautiful, and some are more talented.

Every road has its own incredible scenery!

2. Try to stop attacking yourself!

It's so interesting to see how we all have different experiences! In the post, you mentioned that others had this when they were teenagers, but I never had it when I was in my 20s. When I think of myself at the age of 18, I couldn't dress up or put on makeup, and I was also very ugly and old-fashioned. After reading this information, I can feel your self-blame, regret, and even some shame.

Absolutely! I totally get these emotions of yours.

Let's have a discussion about what we can do for ourselves in the present! I'd love to discuss with you whether it is possible to change the past.

We all know that we can't change the past, right? But is there really nothing we can do? Absolutely not!

Absolutely! We can absolutely change our views on past events.

Absolutely! It's possible that at 18, you didn't know how to put on makeup. But I bet you were spending your time on other things at the time, right? That's a form of growth, too!

We should know that for everything we experience, we either gain or learn. So, let's not be too hard on ourselves about the past! It wasn't all bad for us.

On the other hand, when we attack and blame ourselves, this drains our energy. And everyone has a limited amount of energy.

When our energy is depleted, it's time to recharge! At this time, do we still have the energy to grow? Absolutely! When we become aware of self-attack, we can try to stop it right away.

Absolutely! Focusing on the present and working hard to improve ourselves is a great idea!

And I think it's just because at the age of 18 we lacked training in makeup and so on. But there's no need to worry about that now! We can still make up for it now, life is long, and if we set off a little later, we can still see a lot of the sights.

3. Accept the real you!

We all want to become a better version of ourselves! Many people feel that becoming a better version of ourselves means being dissatisfied with the current self. But can we look back on our growth and see that we have been dissatisfied with ourselves for many years? Absolutely! And we can become a better version of ourselves!

So, if we think about it in this way, then this approach might not be the right one after all!

So let's try another approach! We often think that a person is confident because they are good, but it could be that they are good because they are confident. When we are confident, we have more strength, and with more strength, we can do things better [at least the chances of success are greater]. And when we do things well, we become more confident again!

This will create a positive cycle! So, what is self-confidence?

In fact, it's about embracing who you are, celebrating your strengths, and learning from your weaknesses. It's about accepting the parts of yourself that you can't change and focusing your energy on the things you can. When you do this, you'll encounter a better, more confident version of yourself!

I really hope this has been helpful and inspiring for you! If you have any questions, just click to find a coach for one-on-one communication and exploration.

I give you a big hug!

I really hope you feel better!

From your writing, I can sense a kind of discomfort and anxiety, as well as a sense of inferiority. But I also sense a desire for change! I can tell you're ready to make a change and improve your situation.

But here's the thing: if you let yourself get caught up in this kind of mood and don't do anything about it, things will get even worse than they were in the past.

Think about it! Every day, you have the chance to make a fresh start. You can wash your face and brush your teeth, style your hair, and dress in your best clothes. You can even clean out the dish that's been sitting under your teeth! It's a great feeling to start the day feeling fresh and ready to take on the world!

I can't make this feeling go away, but I do have a suggestion: learn to live with these negative emotions. Try to make yourself develop in a positive direction—you'll be amazed at what you can achieve!

And the best part is, you can record your own little progress every day, and before you know it, you'll be a totally different person! You can learn how to apply makeup, and by watching and learning more, you'll find something that suits you perfectly. You can also learn about clothing coordination, go online to buy clothes, try them on yourself, and return the ones that don't fit.

If you can't afford something, return it! You'll know which clothes suit you!

Don't look at past clothing combinations with today's eyes. At that time, most girls didn't dress up, at least they didn't wear makeup, and at most they cut their bangs! Everyone has black history, and I also have it. I'm excited to look at past photos!

You can't change your family's situation, but you can change your own!

You can't change your environment, but you can change yourself for the better!

I believe the present is good, Topic Master.

From reading your words, I sense a feeling of inferiority and a sense of injustice in your situation.

I came across a quote yesterday that I thought might be of interest to you: "Time flows the same for everyone, but everyone spends time in a different way." (Perhaps you've already come across this in another form?)

Everyone is different, and each person has their own unique qualities. We all have our own paths to follow and our own journeys to embark on. The people you envy may have simply "blossomed" a little earlier than you have, but your time will come a little later.

Or perhaps they simply discovered something they enjoyed or were good at a little earlier than you did, and you are still on your way to discovering your own talents. It might be helpful to believe that as long as you don't give up growing yourself, you will eventually meet a better version of yourself.

In addition, some people have an eye for style and an ability to dress well, some people are talented in the kitchen, some people have high salaries, and some people are good at socializing. These are just a few examples of the glamorous sides of other people that you see. Everyone also has their own stories and experiences that are not well-known. These are the sides that you cannot see or have not yet seen. So, there is no need to envy anyone else. Instead, focus your attention and experiences on yourself. You are the most important person in your life. See the good in yourself, appreciate yourself, affirm yourself, accept yourself, and grow and blossom a little bit. You, too, are being envied (you just haven't noticed).

I hope things work out for you!

I concur with the original poster's assessment that a person's appearance and family background are largely predetermined at birth.

It is an irrefutable fact that in today's society, children with good looks and from good families will undoubtedly exude greater confidence and encounter fewer obstacles. This is a reality that we must acknowledge from the moment we are born and enter society.

However, it should be noted that individual circumstances and levels of optimism vary depending on one's perspective on the matter.

I respectfully disagree with the opposing viewpoint presented in the question.

The questioner's perspective is limited to the experiences of other individuals during their teenage years. These experiences may include the use of makeup and a perception of beauty and youth. However, this is a self-selected aspect of their identity, chosen for the purpose of presenting a particular image to the questioner and others. There are other experiences that may not be visible from this vantage point. These could include situations where the individual did not grow up with their parents, or where their family placed a higher value on boys than girls. In such cases, the individual may have received less attention than they desired. Alternatively, the individual may have been expected to take on financial responsibilities from a young age. It is important to note that these observations are based on my personal understanding and may not apply to all families with similar financial circumstances. My intention is not to generalize or stereotype, but rather to highlight the potential challenges and complexities that may exist behind a seemingly glamorous and privileged exterior.

2. Life is long. The smooth sailing of your 18s, 19s, and 20s does not guarantee a lack of challenges in the next few decades. Just as Li Tianyi went from being the pride of his family to a prisoner ten years ago, or Dong Yuhui went from the peak of the education industry to the bottom, changed tracks, and became well-known again, others may face similar circumstances.

I am not suggesting that the girls in question and their families will inevitably fail. However, it is not possible to guarantee the success of any decision, even that of Jack Ma. It may only take an instant to fall from a position of success, but it takes significant effort to recover from a challenging situation.

Among the anchors on Oriental Selection, there are no individuals who rely solely on their appearance to advance their careers. Each anchor possesses distinctive personality traits, and they all work diligently to combine their strengths with the products they represent and effectively promote them.

I believe that, upon leaving school, a child with good looks, makeup skills, and a good family background can leverage these advantages in a variety of ways, including becoming an anchor or opening a shop. Earning money based on one's abilities is a highly rewarding experience. For those with average looks, average makeup skills, and an average family background, there are still opportunities to succeed. Identifying one's strengths in other areas, such as strong communication and execution skills, a high level of technical skill in taking photos and videos and editing, and leveraging these skills in a professional setting can lead to a fulfilling career with a good salary.

The original poster stated that they have read numerous "Chicken Soup for the Soul" books and other sources of comfort, yet these resources have not provided the desired results. Despite reading these books, the poster remains immersed in self-doubt and unable to overcome it. This suggests that the books may not have been implemented effectively or that the poster has not yet identified a practical method that aligns with their current situation and can be implemented. Consequently, the books have only provided a short-term comforting effect, leaving the poster uncertain about how to address the situation when faced with it again.

If I could offer a suggestion, I would recommend identifying the most significant issue that the questioner deems to have the greatest impact. This should then be used as a breakthrough point. A time period should be planned (one month, two months, etc.), learning resources should be sourced, a learning plan should be devised, and the plan should then be followed meticulously. In fact, if the aforementioned steps are broken down, there may not be a great deal to do on a daily basis, and the pressure will not be excessive, making it easier to adhere to the plan.

Once the most challenging and significant issue has been resolved, the individual will gain a new perspective on their capabilities and exertion, leading to a notable boost in self-assurance. They will be better equipped to handle subsequent minor obstacles with greater ease.

Hello. When you read someone's words, you can see their face.

I understand how you feel, but inferiority is only natural.

The brain thinks automatically, just as the human intestines and stomach digest food automatically. People cannot help but think and compare.

Once you understand this truth about the mind, you can transcend its limitations and break free from the shackles of comparative thinking. You can choose to base your sense of self-worth on your own life, rather than on comparisons with others.

Low self-esteem is a natural part of human nature. It has nothing to do with your life circumstances or the quality of your life. It is entirely dependent on how you perceive these things.

You can choose to see things differently and free yourself.

If you have low self-esteem, you must actively adjust it.

First, you must learn to accept yourself. Many people struggle with self-esteem issues because they feel like they're not good at something or that they've made a mistake. They end up rejecting or even attacking themselves. To overcome this, you have to accept yourself fully. Learn to live in harmony with yourself and compromise with others. This is the only way to overcome the problem of low self-esteem.

Second, you must focus your attention on what you're interested in and good at. When you feel particularly inferior and sad, do something you enjoy. Read a book, go shopping, watch a movie, eat delicious food, or when at home, dress up, do the housework, prune flowers, etc. These methods will distract you from your problem and make you happy. Focus your energy on things that interest you and are worthwhile. This is the only way to live a happy and joyful life.

Third, you must learn to do what needs to be done, especially to learn to be comfortable with whatever situation you are in. You must accept your current life, focus on the present, and do what needs to be done. You cannot afford to feel inferior, worried, or miserable every day. You need to have a fulfilling life and a sense of happiness and joy, and you can only have those things by doing what you should do.

You can choose any of the above methods. If you ever feel lowly about yourself or have inferior thoughts about your appearance, life, or wealth, choose the method that suits you to make adjustments.

Feel the love. I'm certain this answers your question, and I wish you a happy life.

Good morning, I have a question for you.

I empathize with your situation. I once found myself in a similar position, observing the seemingly enviable lives of others. They appeared to have it all: financial success, good looks, and a fit physique. I lacked these attributes at my age and anticipated that they would remain out of reach as I grew older. This led to feelings of self-doubt and denial, which were quite painful.

It is possible that the attributes of others that we envy are not currently within our reach, or there is a more troubling reality that no matter how hard we try, we will never be able to achieve them. This may be a harsh reality.

The unfortunate reality is that this is a self-limiting mindset. It prevents you from taking action and achieving your goals. It also prevents you from learning from the successes of others.

In reality, there are only a select few at the pinnacle of success, while the majority of individuals occupy the middle and lower levels of the pyramid. However, this does not imply that those at the lower levels are inherently inferior. Each individual must take ownership of their role in achieving their personal and professional goals.

Many individuals worldwide have attained their desired lifestyle through dedication and effort. What are your expectations for yourself?

What level of effort are you prepared to invest in pursuing this aspect of your development? Take makeup, for instance. It is a means of enhancing one's appearance through learning and consistent practice. However, inner confidence and openness cannot be achieved solely through a good appearance. Instead, it is essential to recognize one's strengths, develop one's skills and abilities, and achieve tangible results. The objective is to become a consistently better and more outstanding version of oneself.

Your self-confidence is derived from your own efforts and abilities. In this process, it is not necessary to compare yourself to others, but rather to focus on your own growth and development.

As a 20-something, what is your career plan? What skills do you want to improve?

Set short-term, medium-term, and long-term goals based on your actual situation and allow yourself sufficient time to work hard and pursue your objectives. Be aware that changing yourself is a challenging process that may involve periods of difficulty and frustration.

You may be wondering why others have a better family situation and material conditions. This is often because their parents worked hard to accumulate these things. It would be unfair to blame our parents for not giving us enough. They have already given us the most and the best they could. You can also create better conditions for your future family through your own efforts.

When you are at a loss, you can read more books, documentaries, and interviews with people to gain inspiration from the experiences and insights of others. Secondly, you really need to plan your work and life well and be prepared to work hard for a long time.

The level of effort required to persevere for one day differs from that needed to persevere for three months, one year, or two years. Believing in the power of perseverance and the power of making a little progress every day is crucial. Best wishes for success!

Erhu would like to extend a gesture of goodwill. Upon reading your question, it is evident that you have been grappling with this issue for some time, and it is likely that you are experiencing a degree of distress. However, Erhu would like to inquire whether your perception of yourself is as unfavorable as you believe it to be.

Indeed, in the current digital age, individuals are exposed to a multitude of attractive individuals on their mobile devices, leading to the perception that "everyone around me is more attractive than me." However, is this perception accurate?

The sentence in your question indicating that you observe numerous 18-year-old girls who are highly proficient in makeup, yet you yourself are in your 20s and still unable to do so, illustrates two phenomena.

The first indication is that you have only recently begun to take makeup seriously, as previously discussed, and the second is that you have only recently begun to perceive yourself as less attractive than others.

Have you ever considered the possibility that your perception of your own appearance may not align with reality? It is not uncommon for individuals to develop self-esteem issues later in life, particularly in their twenties.

Erhu therefore makes the assumption that you do not consider yourself to be as attractive as the women you see on the internet or in real life. This leads to another question: "What does an attractive woman look like in my eyes?"

The standards for judging appearance have never been uniform. It is therefore unproductive to set unrealistic expectations for ourselves, such as "I want to look better than all of you" or "I want everyone to think I look good." Erhoo's question is therefore what does a "pretty girl" look like in your eyes, and what type is she? If she has a high degree of overlap with your own conditions, then she can serve as an excellent learning object, providing insight into her makeup techniques and dressing style.

If our appearance does not align with our perceived beauty standards, we can still enhance our appearance and personal style to create a more attractive image.

Erhu is aware that many YouTubers are discussing how to differentiate between various appearance styles. It is more straightforward to learn how to apply makeup after first identifying your own style.

Furthermore, it is important to maintain a positive outlook. Everyone has their own inherent strengths and advantages, and you are no exception. Erhu believes that you have been fortunate and have had advantages since childhood.

If someone else is beautiful, it's still someone else's, and it will never come to you. There's nothing to envy. You don't have to envy. A $20 bill, no matter how much it's been trampled on, will always be worth the same. I want to say that we are all the same. We don't have the advantages that others have, we don't have the beauty of youth that others have, and we don't have the success that others have. But even dust can reflect the sunlight and become the sun.

Don't waste your life living in the shadow of others. You only get one life, and in your 20s you don't have the life that other people have. If you want a different life, stop envying others and start building your own.

Don't envy others. Be true to yourself. Don't live in someone else's shadow and cry all the time. Find your own bright spots and passions. Become your own sun.

If you don't know how to put on makeup, learn. If you don't know how to dress up, read more. Behind the glamorous appearance of those you envy, there is also untold hard work and tears.

If you think you were born to suffer, think again. Look at those who have worked in the fields for generations as farmers. Look at those who have had their health taken away by accidents. If you think you were born with good conditions, ask their parents and grandparents. They didn't have it easy either. They started from scratch and worked hard for generations to let their descendants enjoy the blessings. Look at Jack Ma, look at Shi Tiesheng, and look at those soldiers who have guarded the borders day and night for the country and its people. No one is born outstanding; those who are are the minority. Most people become the envy of others through hard work and diligence.

If you still feel suffering, you will also have a share of the blessings of those pilgrims.

Hello, question asker!

You can feel your anxiety and confusion about your appearance and your own conditions. I can tell you with confidence that you are a girl in her twenties, in the prime of youth and at the most beautiful time.

Use makeup to look beautiful. No one is perfect, and many people use makeup to cover up their appearance. You can learn this through experience. Don't worry about not being able to do it well. Just try whatever you want to change.

A person's appearance will age, but their temperament will not. This can be enhanced through experience and inner qualities. There are many definitions of beauty, and everyone's perception of beauty will be different. But you can define your own beauty, so don't care too much about other people's opinions. This world is like that: some people like you, and some don't. But inner beauty is also a kind of beauty.

Aging is a natural law that we can all accept.

Everyone has their own beauty and strengths. You just haven't discovered your own unique sparkle yet. Believe that you are a unique being in this world. Appearance and family background are not something we can decide, but we can and will embrace ourselves, accept ourselves, and believe in ourselves.

Face the real you. Imagine them living in your mind and telling yourself, "I'm special, I'm very good, and confidence makes me beautiful from the inside out."

From my perspective, I don't want to see you stuck in your own confusion. I believe this is a problem you need to face, and I can't change it for you. But I know you can find the answer. I don't know if you understand, but I hope this gives you some inspiration.

Hello, question asker. First, I want to hug you and let you cry on my shoulder. Then, I'm going to dry your tears and strengthen your confidence to plan your life well and realize your own beautiful future!

I am honored to have been invited to answer this question! When I saw this question, I was happy for you, the question asker, but I also had some concerns and reservations.

From your description, I can tell you are "self-deprecating, negative, and somewhat unrealistic." You care too much about your "appearance and family background" and other conditions. This pursuit is detached from reality, which causes more troubles and self-deprecation. It also makes you more anxious and self-blame. "Self-deprecation is a stumbling block on the road of life, and it is also the enemy of success."

Many people are unable to overcome their inferiority complex. They are filled with remorse and self-blame. However, there are also many people who break through and find ways to overcome their inferiority complex. They emerge from it tenaciously! There are many ways and methods to truly get rid of inferiority complexes. They are revealed on the Internet. It is like catching fish with a quick glance. The results are not great. The important thing is to persevere and be consistent. This is the only way to move towards confidence.

The root cause is clear: envy of others' achievements is driven by two factors. 1. Insatiable, overly competitive desire for success.

Reason 2 – It is a fact that reality is not great. If you don't know, you won't know. The more you compare, the more you will feel lost and inferior. The questioner is clearly in the second situation.

Reason: People are greedy by nature because desires are insatiable. Comparison and greed are extremes that are unattainable. If desires are limited, it is not a viable reason. In the process of satisfying one's desires, there is nourishment from hard work, happiness, a sense of joy, a sense of accomplishment, and a sense of satisfaction. Finding a suitable way to achieve it depends on the seemingly attractive sense of happiness and accomplishment.

Questioner, I'm going to put it this way. Do you agree?

I don't need to ask you how you see it. You know as well as I do that behind every success is hard work, dedication, good relationships, and other factors. You don't get something for nothing. Success doesn't come along easily. You have to earn it.

From the text description, it is clear that the questioner is an adult who also expects his life to be better than others'. I will ask again: how can there be a reward without any effort? Are you willing to focus on the present and take control of your time? Instead of wasting time envying others, you should waste time on yourself. This could include reflection, learning and improvement, acquiring money-making skills, beauty and makeup, and other projects. This will help you achieve the ability to "be self-reliant and independent". Leave the rest to time to witness; one day, you will no longer envy other people's lives. On the contrary, others will envy your life.

Rebuild and reinvent yourself. Return to your original self and use practical actions to build self-confidence, conquer fear, overcome inferiority complexes, establish your own desires (without exceeding your abilities), and stop living in fantasy. Put it into practice, identify the gaps, and take immediate action.

Avoid it. Do the things you are afraid of. Fight a long-lasting battle until you overcome your inferiority complex. Succeed only by perseverance.

The questioner is a messenger of "Chicken Soup for the Soul" himself. Detailed explanations are not as good as excessive text. The final choice is up to you. You must decide how determined you are to succeed. Remember: there are always more ways than there are difficulties. If you persist, you will get results!

When you really can't keep going, you should come back here. You can continue to ask questions, exchange ideas, and reshape your inner self to move forward.

You are not alone on this journey. This is your spiritual home. It will support and guide you.

Come on!

I am confident that my above answer will be helpful and inspiring to you.

My name is Peiwen, and I'm a listener on the Yixinli platform. The world and I love you.

Hello!

It seems like the conclusion, "I feel that some people are born to suffer," is really saying, "I was born to suffer."

In this space where you can be heard, they shared their thoughts. Is there still a source of inner warmth that awakens you, wanting to break free from that sentence?

You feel like your 20s aren't as young, pretty, or makeup-savvy as they were for an 18-year-old. You used to feel old-fashioned, and you still do.

If you're in your 50s or 60s and want to become beautiful, I'll tell you there's always a way.

If you check out Maye Musk's page, you'll see that she's over 70, but she still looks great next to a lot of the other models!

Let's quickly go over Meyer's experience.

After going through domestic violence, she waited until South African law allowed women to file for divorce independently. She spent a lot of money fighting the divorce lawsuit and kept her three children with her. She got a nutritionist license and a master's degree to make it easier to take care of her children at home.

We all know that the world's richest man, Elon Musk, ate green pea rice when he was a child. Despite the challenges, they were happy.

A mother who never gave up on herself has taught her three children to think in new ways.

Everyone has a different idea of beauty, but confidence is what makes someone attractive.

Cecilia Cheung is beautiful, but when she kept crying in "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves 2," saying, "I'm holding everyone back," it was Rainie Yang who told her, "You are indeed holding everyone back, and we'll see how we can change that."

In that situation, you'll see that Cecilia Cheung and the other sisters aren't the most beautiful ones anymore.

If you can face your own emotions and those of others, you'll be more stable in your relationships.

Let's go over this together and see what the risks are.

If you're stuck on your current thoughts and refuse to let go, you'll often worry about whether the other person is angry or doesn't like you just because of a single look. You'll wonder if you're not likeable at all.

You'll feel inferior and miss out on so many chances to see your own charm.

A uniform aesthetic can only form a production line. People are not products; they have personalities before they can have what they want. Setbacks in life are part of the energy that shapes personalities. Self-love is unparalleled nourishment.

Changing negative self-perceptions helps you become a person who smiles more. You become a mirror for others, attracting people who want to get close to you and help you see the good in yourself.