Do you always have a psychological barrier that you are afraid of being questioned when reporting work progress to your supervisor?

Hello. I can see you're confused. I picture a boss looking at you with cold eyes, and you feel pressure.

This causes pressure. It may come from a lack of confidence or understanding of your supervisor.

Third, there are no methods for handling a work relationship. I'll talk about four aspects.

Know yourself and your opponent, and you will be invincible. Understand your supervisor TA's character traits and approach to life. Judge people by their behavior.

It depends on the person. You say this boss is strict. I know that anyone who is meticulous in their work can seem unfeeling, but these people are easy to get along with and fair.

Do your job according to his requirements. He won't let you focus too much on pleasing him personally.

A simple relationship is better, but respect and rules are still necessary.

Second: Understand your manager's management style. If your manager is detail-oriented, then you should report on the work done, focusing on the figures and key points. If your manager is focused on problem-solving, then you should also report on the work done on the key points.

If your TA is focused on team cooperation, you should also report on the team's use of resources and teamwork. Follow your TA's lead.

Third, even strict leaders need warmth and care. They may care about their subordinates in different ways.

Show your partner respect and care. Even small gestures like bringing coffee or a tissue can make a difference. Showing love and care can also reduce tension and pressure.

Your calm demeanor can also have a positive impact on your relationship. Stress is often a projection of your inner feelings. Relax and do your homework well. Just as we are more confident if we know the material well before the university entrance exam, the same goes for work reports. Do your work conscientiously and work diligently. Your leader will know what you are thinking.

If you are scolded, be prepared to deal with it. When dealing with an emotional boss, absorb the boss's anger and give him face.

Then try to express your feelings and needs when he is in a better mood, or explain the situation. Learn to use consistent communication to achieve your goals. This has five steps: 1. Accept the other person's feelings; 2. Express your own feelings; 3. Hear the other person's needs; 4. Express your own needs and opinions; 5. Explore the needs of both parties and reach an agreement.

Best,

I hope this is helpful. Please let me know what you think.

I hope this is helpful. Please let me know what you think.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am writing to you today to express my empathy for your situation. I can relate to your experience, having faced a similar challenge in the past. The pressure to perform well and avoid mistakes can be overwhelming, especially when there is a lack of recognition for one's efforts. It is a difficult position to be in, particularly when one is not liked by their superior. I hope that you find some solace in knowing that you are not alone in this experience. I am here to support you in navigating this challenge. Best regards, [Your name]

When dealing with a strict leader, it is possible to feel like a child rather than the person we truly are. From an object relationship perspective, we may internalize the image of a strict parent and feel the need to prove ourselves in front of them. When we encounter this type of person, our fear of authority is likely to be aroused. We may enter a pattern of working harder and harder, and feeling more and more afraid, as a result.

I believe you are a smart and hardworking colleague. My approach to navigating this challenging situation is to consider ways to maintain a healthy distance while still meeting the expectations of our leader. This could involve continuing to work hard, limiting travel, and maintaining a physical distance.

You may then wish to consider formulating ten strategies for maintaining your personal safety in the vicinity of your leader. This will entail adopting a cautious approach to your conduct and interactions.

The aforementioned method is provided for reference only. Best regards,

Dear friend, I read your words and I know how you feel. As someone who works, I can imagine you're afraid of meeting a leader like this. I give you a big hug and let's explore this together!

1. Your boss has a rather strict management style, which can make it difficult for you to report your work progress. It's understandable that you might feel afraid of being scolded and condemned. However, it's a good thing that your boss is strict. This shows that he has high standards and high expectations, which you can learn from. At this time, you just need to learn to manage upwards well.

It's so important to put yourself in your leader's shoes and think about what they need, what they have to report to their leader, and what information they need at your level. With this in mind, go write your report, think more, and summarize more, and it will be much better!

A leader who is demanding and has a strong sense of control will appreciate it if you organize the information you have as well as possible in a structured way and give it to him. It's also a good idea to ask him for his opinion from the beginning on the points that require decision-making. Showing initiative and thinking things through will make him feel positive about you and less likely to pick on you.

2. Don't ever think about not reporting your work and just working hard on your own. We all know that for strict leaders, not having a sense of control is terrifying, so you need to take the initiative.

3. When it comes to handling scoldings from your leader, it's important to remember that not all leaders speak harshly. When this happens, it's best to let their words roll off your back. Just focus on the parts that are helpful for promoting things, and if you feel attacked, respond with kindness in your heart.

Once you've made these adjustments, you'll feel more confident about reporting to your leader in the future. You might also find it helpful to read some books or take courses on upward management.

I hope this is helpful for you! Thanks so much for reading.

Hello, dear questioner.

If I might ask, have you considered whether your concerns about the leader stem from a fear of being criticized or a worry that you might make a mistake? It might also be helpful to reflect on whether your feelings towards leaders mirror those you had towards your parents and teachers when you were growing up.

In general, we tend to associate leadership with authority. If we are concerned about indiscriminate "leadership," we can reflect on our personal history and consider the following: What was our relationship with our father like? What image of our father do we hold in our hearts?

Could you please describe your daily interactions? At the same time, you might consider writing down your feelings of nervousness and fear when meeting your leader. If it is comfortable for you, you can close your eyes and think of anything that comes to mind, including words, people, events, and so on. You might like to see if there is any connection between these thoughts.

I understand that doing so will not eliminate the nervousness you feel when facing your leader. However, I believe that by increasing our awareness of our nervousness and fear, we can find ways to alleviate them to a certain extent.

If you tend to worry more about mistakes and errors in your work, it's possible that you may not feel fully satisfied with yourself, and that you also care a great deal about what others say about you. I'm not sure if this is entirely accurate, but it's something I've noticed.

This part requires us to develop our inner selves. During our growth process, when we received more criticism or self-deprecating denial from our parents, we may have begun to doubt our own value and started to doubt that we were good or useful.

If we were to go further back, we might consider a much longer period of time, when we were still babies, and reflect on the feedback we received from our mothers or other primary caregivers. Was it timely, warm, and patient, or cold and untimely?

It is important to remember that when we look back, it is not to blame anyone. The greater significance of our remembering the past is that we can start from there and more specifically compensate for ourselves and heal ourselves.

We all make mistakes along the way in life, whether it's our parents or ourselves. The important thing is to learn from them and keep moving forward.

I'm afraid there is no way I can give you a more specific solution. If you would like to read, I would recommend "Silent Confession," "Meeting the Unknown Self," and "5% Change."

I hope that we can find a way to support each other as we navigate these challenges and continue to grow and evolve.

Dear Questioner, My name is Annie.

I have reviewed your question and empathize with the anxiety you experienced when reporting on your work. You were unable to express yourself effectively and missed some opportunities to showcase your abilities. I extend my support and encouragement to the dedicated and hardworking questioner.

The questioner stated that he encounters psychological barriers when reporting work progress, which he believes is likely due to his supervisor's strict nature and concerns about potential reprimands for unsatisfactory performance.

It is possible that the questioner has previously experienced similar levels of anxiety when speaking in public during their academic career. However, the supervisory figure in question has arguably exacerbated these difficulties, creating additional obstacles to a smooth expression.

I believe the questioner will feel nervous when reporting back, which is a common occurrence. However, to overcome this mindset, one must practice extensively to achieve long-term and stable performance. Therefore, I have provided some suggestions for the questioner's reference.

Firstly, there are those who adopt a strict approach to management, and I am not the only individual to have been reprimanded by such a superior.

The majority of concerns we have are often unfounded. The challenges we encounter are also faced by others, yet we tend to focus on our own shortcomings while overlooking the missteps of others.

It is possible to ascertain the number of individuals who have been subject to criticism by this particular supervisor. When presented with a similar situation, how do you respond?

Is it accurate to assume that the criticism levied by the boss is indeed accurate, or is it possible that the individual in question did not perform as poorly as the boss may have thought?

If you have ever considered your boss's criticism of others in a different light, can you apply this same attitude to yourself? What would be the worst possible outcome if you were to be scolded by your boss?

Perhaps we can view our boss's constructive criticism as motivation for improvement and disregard the venting criticism, as it is likely that others will be treated similarly. dwelling on this negative feeling will only cause additional distress.

Secondly, it is important to adopt a sales-oriented mentality when introducing yourself and your report.

I believe the questioner must have observed how sellers in live streaming rooms strive to introduce their products. What differentiates many live streamers? In addition to personal appeal and a distinctive style, the key is to connect with customers on an emotional level.

To capture the attention of the boss, it is essential to understand their preferences and style. Additionally, it is crucial to observe how to attract attention, highlight one's own characteristics and value, and identify the advantages of a product or service that may not be immediately apparent. This approach can help to connect with the customer on an emotional level and gain the boss's attention.

Your original personality is irrelevant. It is necessary to envision how one would act with that attitude, and over time, one will become what they aspire to be.

Third, can you present your ideas in a clear and logical manner?

If you are unsure of the best way to proceed and are concerned that you may forget your message if you become flustered, it may be helpful to use the three aspects of "What?", "Why?", and "How?", as appropriate.

"How?" These three aspects can be used to express it.

For instance, if you are attempting to convey your occupation to another individual and are currently engaged in the sales of sneakers,

First, summarize the main point in a sentence (What): a sense of security that makes people want to wear them and never take them off.

2. Why would people choose it? (Why): The product provides a lightweight sensation, is endorsed by a prominent basketball player, is suitable for the foot shape of Asians, offers a comfortable fit for all, and is reasonably priced.

3. How can I obtain it and what should I do? (How): Please scan the QR code.

There is no need to adhere to a specific sequence or to provide a detailed account of each of the aforementioned points, as this would result in an unnecessarily complex and illogical report.

We trust that the above text has provided the information you were seeking.

I wish you the best of luck. I am here to support you.