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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I'm thrilled to see that you've asked for help. I'm excited to share my insights and support you in any way I can.
It's clear from your description that you have the opportunity to learn how to better cope with and deal with conflicts and conflicts in intimate relationships. The most obvious manifestation is that when there are problems in an intimate relationship, you have the chance to try to find the cause together as soon as possible and reflect on whether you have done enough or have shortcomings. Instead of responding to conflicts and conflicts by taking revenge on each other and hurting each other, you can choose to take a more mature approach. This is an opportunity to develop the attitude of an adult in coping with and dealing with conflicts and conflicts.
In other words, in a relationship, you should absolutely put your own needs and interests first! And a harmonious and happy intimate relationship needs to always put "we" first.
If you and your partner have not reflected on and grown from past conflicts, then you will absolutely want to make sure you adopt different coping mechanisms in future relationships!
In a relationship, when the other person's words and actions make you feel hurt and betrayed, it's time to take control! Bravely and honestly express your true feelings at that moment, as well as how you long to be treated, so that the other person is clearly aware of the harm their words and actions have caused you. At the same time, bravely express what your bottom line in the relationship is, so that the other person knows what kind of responsibility they need to bear if they break your bottom line. This not only better protects your own rights in the relationship, but also sets a clear boundary for you in the relationship, letting the other person know that you cannot be treated casually. You've got this!
And the best part is, you can do this! All you have to do is learn to have a clear awareness of your emotional feelings, respect the true feelings of your body and mind, and try to respond to and support yourself through your own efforts. Because the way you treat yourself in a relationship will guide and suggest the way others respond to you.
I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum! The world and I love you!
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I understand how you feel, and it's clear that both of you have been through a lot. It's important to address the pain and betrayal before moving forward. Maybe therapy could help you both heal and learn to trust each other again.
Forgiveness is a tough journey, especially when there's been so much back and forth. It seems like you're still hurting inside. Perhaps talking openly with your boyfriend about your feelings can lead to a deeper understanding and healing for both of you.
It sounds like you're carrying a lot of unresolved emotions. Trust and mutual respect are crucial in a relationship. Consider discussing your concerns with a counselor or someone you trust; they might offer guidance on how to rebuild your relationship from a place of honesty and love.