Each time I go on a blind date, my mother is bursting with curiosity, constantly bombarding me with questions. What should I do?

The questioner then proceeded to inquire as to whether the aforementioned individual had ever perceived their mother to exhibit a lack of respect towards them, or to have encroached upon their personal space. Additionally, the questioner inquired as to whether the individual had ever discerned a desire

After a thorough examination of the text, it is evident that

It is evident that you have an aversion to your mother's heart and express your discontentment. An analysis of the text reveals the depth of a person's heart. Additionally, it is discernible that you harbor an inner desire, namely, the hope that your mother will refrain from intrusive behavior and that you will be able to enjoy a tranquil environment. However, this inner desire remains unperceived and unheard by your mother.

You are acutely aware of the reasons behind your mother's curiosity and her inclination to engage in gossip about you.

To enhance her own quality of life. Perhaps if you were to ascertain the motivation behind her actions, you would be better equipped to respond effectively.

Although I am unaware of your mother's personality, from her words

It is evident that she has never respected you and has invaded your personal space.

This may be indicative of a desire to blend in with your world, or perhaps someone's desire to snoop.

It is possible that you have not observed your mother's inclination to gain comprehensive knowledge about you.

It would appear that you were not aware that your mother would resort to insulting you if she did not get her way.

One of the hallmarks of an emotionally immature mother is her tendency to disregard her child's emotional needs.

So-called emotionally immature mothers tend to prioritize their own comfort and convenience, even at the expense of others' feelings. They may engage in behaviors such as prying into one's privacy or making others feel uncomfortable, yet they often perceive these actions as inconsequential.

Furthermore, they demonstrate a lack of respect for the differences between individuals and frequently express annoyance when confronted with opposing perspectives.

Such individuals experience annoyance and a sense of entitlement, assuming that others should adhere to their own perspective.

This inability to accept the existence of alternative perspectives is indicative of an egocentric mindset.

The individual in question is consistently self-centered and places a significant emphasis on their own needs.

Their self-esteem is contingent upon the manner in which others treat them.

Such individuals possess a strong sense of self-importance, whereby their own needs are perceived as being of greater significance than those of others.

This is of greater consequence.

A fourth characteristic is a lack of empathy, which manifests as a disregard for the feelings of others.

Such individuals demonstrate a lack of concern for the emotional states of others. Empathy, therefore, cannot be regarded as merely a social nicety; rather, it is

This is an essential component of emotional intimacy. Klaus and Karin

As described by Grossman and Anna Scovron, empathy is defined as the capacity for sensitivity.

The capacity of the mother to "perceive their state and intentions from the baby's point of view"

(1986, 127). Empathy is not merely a matter of compassion; it also encompasses

The capacity to perceive the interests and intentions of others is a crucial aspect of empathy. If you find that your mother exhibits this characteristic, it is unfortunate that she did not perceive your intentions.

A deficiency in empathy indicates an absence of personal growth. Such individuals are unable to perceive the emotional states of their children due to an inability to empathize with others.

Subjective and emotionally immature mothers tend to view problems from a subjective perspective and do not engage in objective analysis.

Such individuals tend to prioritize their subjective feelings over objective reality.

It is an exercise in futility to attempt to persuade an individual with a subjective outlook to adopt an objective perspective.

6. Lack of self-reflection: The subject is preoccupied with her own thoughts, interests, and emotions in all aspects of her life. Instead of using introspection to gain insight or enhance her self-understanding, she seeks to maintain the spotlight for herself. For instance, sharing her experiences with neighbors or relatives may be driven by a desire for external validation. She is selective in what she pays attention to and lacks the capacity for self-reflection. When confronted with challenges, she fails to consider constructive solutions and tends to externalize blame.

Without passing judgment on their actions or questioning their motives.

If one causes trouble, the other party will often deny that any incident ever occurred or claim that it took place a long time ago.

One might inquire as to whether the subject's mother exhibits any of the aforementioned characteristics, and to what extent.

It is imperative that one establishes their own boundaries.

An emotionally immature mother

☪️☪️☪️ Independent observation

It is inevitable that one will encounter situations in life that elicit a negative emotional response. Similarly, there will always be individuals who evoke a sense of annoyance, including one's own mother.

In such instances, it may be advisable to maintain a certain distance from the subject in question and observe her behaviour from an objective standpoint.

In the event that she engages in the act of "gossiping" about you and encroaches upon your privacy, you have the option of maintaining a distance from her and observing her actions from an external perspective.

One may choose to alter the subject of discussion, or alternatively, to refrain from responding at all. In either case, it is advisable to observe the reasons behind the words and actions of the other party.

The reason for your mother's apparent curiosity is unclear.

One might inquire as to whether the motivation behind this behavior stems from a desire for control or a genuine interest in understanding one's life. If the latter is not the case,

Furthermore, if she attempts to offer advice, simply utilize your personal narratives to provide entertainment for your relatives.

Furthermore, one may choose to fabricate narratives to evade her inquiries. This may occur at the dinner table.

Furthermore, should she disrupt your mood, you may interject with a request to eat.

One might also consider allowing oneself to enjoy the meal in question before offering any commentary. Once the meal is complete, one might simply

Furthermore, it is imperative to avoid engaging in further discourse with the individual in question, as this will undoubtedly prove to be a challenging process. It is of the utmost importance to remain mindful of her underlying motives throughout this endeavour.

The underlying motivation for her actions, if you wish to avoid being bothered by her.

It would be beneficial to read "Immature Parents" and "The Bond of Maternal Love," for example.

Assist in the observation of your mother.

It is important to understand the emotional immaturity of mothers and to communicate with them effectively.

The mother in question may be emotionally immature. Her childhood may have been characterized by rigidity and monotony, which may have fostered a self-centered disposition, thereby impairing her capacity to perceive and respond to your needs. You may wish to consider engaging in conversation with your mother about her childhood and her parents, your grandparents, during your leisure time. You may find it enlightening to learn about your mother's family environment and gain insight into the potential origins of her current behavior.

It is advisable to relinquish any expectations of your mother and refrain from attempting to alter her behaviour.

The cognitive and behavioral patterns of a mother are often influenced by her family of origin, making it challenging to alter them. Some traditional ideas may have already taken root in her mind, making it difficult for her to change. It is important to recognize that a mother may not be able to meet the image of the mother in a child's heart. Attempting to change a person is often exhausting and requires clear thinking. If a mother is able to recognize and reflect on her own behavior patterns, it can lead to a significant improvement in her relationship with her child. However, if she is unable to do so, maintaining the status quo may be the only option, which can be painful for both parties. Children often fantasize that their parents can understand and support them. When their parents do not understand them, children may suffer because they find it difficult to accept imperfect parents.

It is therefore important not to feel resentful or annoyed. It is crucial to recognise that mothers are not perfect. It is possible to take responsibility for oneself. It is possible to clearly tell the mother that whether it is a blind date or something else, it is one's own business. As a mother, it is important to rest when necessary and to avoid overthinking. It is important to remember that just because one is a mother, one cannot abuse one's rights. The past will become history and those past hurts cannot be erased. It is important to note that resentment or annoyance in one's heart cannot help one live a good life.

It is important to learn to shift the focus onto oneself and to ask oneself what kind of life one would like to live.

Furthermore, it is imperative to live one's life in accordance with one's own desires and preferences.

One should not concern themselves with the incessant admonishments of one's mother. She is at liberty to vocalize her disapproval as often as she sees fit. One may choose to disregard her words, or to respond in a similarly vocal manner. If she chooses to reprimand one, one may choose to take one's leave and dine elsewhere, or to respond in a similarly vocal manner. One must not allow oneself to be invaded by the negative energy of another. One may choose to ignore it.

It is imperative to disassociate oneself from the role-based self.

During one's formative years, it is reasonable to assume that the desire for the love and guidance of a mother and father is a common human experience. What factors may have contributed to this outcome?

One might inquire as to whether you perceive the warmth of home. It is presumed that you are the individual most intimately acquainted with your own experiences and therefore possess a superior understanding of them. It is possible that your parents did not adequately acknowledge your emotional needs during your formative years, which may have resulted in an inability to perceive the warmth of home. This sentiment has likely persisted within you throughout your life.

It is important to recall that these feelings were typical of a child.

Now that you are an adult, you have come to recognize that your mother displays emotional immaturity. It is therefore important to adjust your role with her and engage in communication with her in a manner that is consistent with your adult status, rather than with the expectations associated with your childhood.

It is unclear whether your mother is indifferent when faced with your desire for love. If she is, then she will be reliable when you no longer desire her.

It is therefore imperative that the individual in question does not play the child in front of him; rather, he should adopt the role of an adult, maintain a neutral attitude, and strive to establish a harmonious relationship with the other party. This approach is likely to yield favourable outcomes.

The process of change is inherently challenging, and the key to navigating it successfully is to alter one's mindset. It is possible that the advice presented here may not be applicable to some individuals, and they may only learn from their own experiences. Some individuals may lack the capacity to think independently and perceive the advice as exceedingly difficult to implement and lacking in reference value. They may even conclude that it is ineffective and will have no impact. However, it is crucial to carefully consider the advice presented. The most crucial step is to detach your expectations from your mother. When you demonstrate indifference towards her, she may react with a dramatic display of anger and distress. You have the option to avoid her, to turn a blind eye to her actions, or to seek help from external sources.

In the event that an individual is unable to defend themselves, they are left with three options: concealment, maintaining a distance from the perpetrator, or seeking assistance from external sources.

Those who are financially independent may choose to relocate and establish an independent residence. There are numerous options available to them.

This is the extent of my contribution to the subject matter. It is my hope that the content I have provided will offer a modicum of inspiration.

It is my hope that you will be able to extricate yourself from your mother's constant demands and establish yourself in a new family environment.

I wish you the best of luck. I am the monarch.

I am a psychotherapist, and I am available to serve as your perpetual listener.

The questioner has demands on her, and you expect her to make changes, so

You are the one suffering, with resentment in your heart. But you can change this!

Give up your expectations of her! You can't change your mother, but you can choose not to listen to her scoldings.

You have the power to choose not to listen. You have the power to keep your heart free of pain, resentment, and antipathy.

That everything is your choice! Have you read The Courage to Be Disliked?

Do you understand Adler? In his book, he really gets into his views on teleology, which is the opposite of Buddhist.

The opposite of the Buddhist theory of cause and effect is a fascinating concept! Learning to clarify the relationship between the self and others is an incredible journey. Family

You are not causally related to your mother, and you are not causally related to your mother.

Do you really resent her interrupting your meal? You can ask yourself that!

It's not because she's disturbing you while you eat, but because her words are making you think!

You resent it, you want her to shut up, but in fact you want her to meet your demands!

But she can't satisfy you, and you can't change her. So why not try something new?

What about her changing? Why not you? You can do it!

As I wrote in my first answer to your question, go for it and give up on those unrealistic expectations!

Why do you have expectations of her? Because you want her to become the

But think about this: do you really think everyone can become the way you want them to be? You

The great news is that you can choose not to eat with her at the same table, you can choose to eat out, you can

The great news is that you can also choose to eat with classmates, colleagues, and friends, and you can also choose to live away from home!

Absolutely! There are so many ways to choose. You can choose!

Why not ask her for advice? You never know, she might even give you a scolding! Maybe it's because you were scolded in your childhood and have

Let's dive into the world of healing together!

Find a professional counselor to help you! If you don't have the money, no problem! You can read!

There are so many options out there for you to choose from to help you heal yourself! You could read philosophy and psychology books, for example.

Hello, question asker. From your description, I can tell you're feeling depressed, angry, frustrated, and annoyed.

Your mother is always asking questions about dating and studies.

This makes you feel pretty annoyed. You even start to believe that whatever your mother asks about, it will surely fail.

You're not against your mother's interference, but you know that once she knows the whole story, she'll be more likely to blame and pressure you than support and encourage you.

Your mother will get in the way of you doing things your way and at your own pace.

On the one hand, your mother has some pretty unrealistic expectations of you. They can really get in the way of your emotions and make you feel stressed, which makes it harder for you to devote yourself fully to things.

At the same time, you feel like your mother's interference and expectations aren't really about her caring for you. It seems like she's trying to meet her own needs and desires through you.

You feel like your mother has taken over every aspect of your life, making you irritable and suffocating, and that she's holding you back.

At the same time, you feel guilty. You don't want to disappoint your mother. You know you can't live up to her expectations, and you feel powerless.

Your feelings are totally normal.

It's understandable that you're upset and irritated, given how your mom's behavior has intruded on your reasonable boundaries.

As an independent adult, you have the right and ability to handle your own problems as you see fit.

It doesn't matter if it's a blind date or studying, it's your own business. How you handle it is up to you. If you don't want to, you don't need to explain to anyone or get anyone's permission, including your mother.

↘ It's important to distinguish between the issues. You haven't done anything wrong.

Your mother's high expectations and disappointment are her business. There's no need to let her emotions become a burden for you. You just need to focus on being yourself and not worry about your mother's emotions.

explain your thoughts to your mother in a calm but assertive way.

You need to let your mother know what you're thinking and feeling right now. Tell her, "Mum, this is my own business. I can handle it myself, so please don't get involved anymore."

You said I feel a lot of pressure and it's annoying. I need to be left alone for a while.

You'll feel a lot more relaxed once you've taken a stand and gradually established your own boundaries.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, host. Your question reminded me of my mother. I told her a secret, and later relatives told me they knew. I was afraid to tell my mother anything from then on.

We often think our mothers are the people we're closest to. We want to share our secrets with them. But sometimes they don't understand us.

You already have enough stress in your life. Then you have to face your mother's endless questions when you get home. This doesn't make you feel cared for. It can make you feel depressed.

I'd like to share some feelings to help you.

Honey, you may have fallen for your mother's tricks!

My mother had two requirements for a partner: no one from the countryside and no one from a single-parent family. (No personal discrimination, just a simple sharing of an elderly person's concern for her daughter.)

My first blind date was from the countryside, and my second was with divorced parents. It was a coincidence. My mother had a third requirement, but I no longer let my subconscious accept those perceptions. Otherwise, I might have fallen into a trap.

Your mother's actions and words may have entered your subconscious, influencing your emotions and behavior.

I disagree with my mother's requests, but I didn't say so on purpose.

Your mother's endless questioning makes you feel annoyed, disturbed, and possibly angry.

You may associate "nagging" with unhappy, unsuccessful, and annoying emotions. When something is nagged by your mother, your mind may tell you it is unhappy, unsuccessful, and annoying. This may also lead to unsuccessful matchmaking, as your mind projects these emotions onto your affairs.

Your mother may like to gossip with others. She may not know what is private and what is not.

If you tell everyone about your success, hoping they'll feel flattered and help you succeed.

This feeling is like being taken advantage of, and it's hard to feel maternal love.

We have to learn to grow up and accept and let go.

We must accept that every child is different.

The same applies to parents. We can't choose our family or perfect parents. Your mother is unique, and you can't change her.

When you accept that your mother is imperfect, you may have to learn to let go.

You expect your mother to stay by your side, but when you expect something from others, you're giving them control of your emotions. Your mother determines your happiness. Learn to let go of expectations and give more love.

You're obsessed with why my mother keeps asking me questions. The more you think about it, the more it will happen. This is the law of attraction.

Try to think of something nice to look forward to, like your mom making breakfast.

Believe in yourself!

If you believe it will succeed, it will.

You can imagine an ideal boyfriend and he will be attracted to you. (PS: I stopped listening to my mother and decided for myself what kind of boyfriend I wanted. Now I've been married for 2 years.)

When you're grateful, you'll see that everything around you is just as you think, and miracles happen every day.

Keep a gratitude and miracle diary to see how you change.

Dear one, you need to let off steam.

I'm glad you shared on Yixin. You've been holding in your emotions. Your family may not understand, so share more here.

Let it all out. We're here for you.

We hope this helps. The world and I are here for you.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am Skye, the designated response provider from Yixinli. I am pleased to address your query. From my perspective, it is evident that numerous individuals share similar concerns, particularly with regard to the selection of a romantic partner or the organisation of a blind date. It is understandable that parents may be inclined to intervene out of a natural curiosity, yet this can potentially lead to unfavourable outcomes or the deterioration of relationships. Best regards, Skye

Indeed, it is possible to comprehend the concerns of one's parents, yet this is a matter of establishing boundaries between oneself and one's parents. During the process of maturation, many parents are unable to engage in the growth of their children, leading to the perception that they remain in a state of immaturity. This results in a need for parents to act as mentors or make decisions on behalf of their children and maintain a close supervision.

It is therefore sometimes necessary to understand that parents are involuntarily curious and meddle in the same way, because they have not grown up either and are not doing a good job of communicating with us in their role. The question thus arises as to how we should deal with this specific issue.

1. It is essential to ascertain whether the mother's involvement in decision-making is a genuine preference or merely a matter of familiarity. To gain a deeper understanding, it is crucial to identify the underlying motivation behind her participation.

One might inquire whether the motivation stems from curiosity or a lack of confidence in their children's judgment.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether her concern is driven by a fear of her children suffering. Regardless, it is imperative to determine the underlying motivation behind the parents' excessive concern.

One might inquire as to whether her behavior is indicative of underlying concerns or if it is merely a reflection of her high energy and lack of boundaries.

2. From the question posed, it can be inferred that the mother in question displays not only close-mindedness but also a tendency toward control. She even provided an example of an exam. Was this the extent of her questioning during your formative years? She demands clear and precise explanations regarding the minutiae of any given situation. If this behavior is indicative of a controlling nature, it can be attributed to her inability to resolve internal conflicts and contradictions, which have manifested in her daily language and behavior.

This behavior also indicates that the mother is experiencing a sense of unease or anxiety, which is manifested during her interactions with her children.

3. Communication and Boundaries between Parents and Children. It can be argued that all individuals must navigate their own personal growth and separation from their original family unit as they mature.

This separation is not a physical one, but rather a spiritual one. For example, individuals must form new familial relationships, make their own career and life choices, and ascertain their own desired direction of growth.

This necessitates a certain degree of fortitude and resilience. Navigating the separation from one's parents represents a significant learning opportunity and a crucial aspect of personal growth.

Therefore, it is imperative that we actively confront these issues. It is crucial to avoid both confrontational and passive approaches to problem-solving.

It may be possible to identify an opportune moment to alter one's approach to communicating with and interacting with one's parents.

It would be erroneous to assume that such a transformation could be achieved in a single instance; rather, it is a gradual and incremental process. It is therefore essential to adopt a more patient approach, addressing each issue individually.

It is therefore possible that the process will become much smoother.

Hello!

I empathize with you because I've been there. I was also anxious and had the same conflicted feelings. I'd like to share some of my feelings and suggestions with you.

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You should be very anxious because you can't meet your mother's expectations. You say you don't like your mother's interference, but you still care what she thinks.

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Most of us are influenced by our families, especially our parents. They influence us because they don't always know how to be good parents.

In China, parents often interfere in their children's lives, which can affect their growth.

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My first piece of advice is to understand the root cause and forgive yourself and your mother.

My first piece of advice is to understand the root cause and forgive yourself and your mother.

Rousseau said, "Many children have difficult parents."

Many parents use their children to meet their own needs. All parents make mistakes, but they don't always realize it. They think these mistakes are a way to show love, but they cause harm.

This is unchangeable because patterns of thinking and behavior have formed in both parents and you. Try to understand and don't let it affect your life.

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Second piece of advice: change what you can, accept what you can't. You can only change yourself, not others.

I've tried to change others in my life many times, but it's difficult. Complaining about your mother won't help. Try to understand her, tolerate her actions, and manage your emotions.

Third suggestion: communicate effectively. Find a time to talk to your mother calmly. Tell her your plans and be honest about your needs. Try to avoid emotional language. If you notice your mother is upset, stop the conversation to avoid conflict.

It's better to communicate well over time than to solve problems all at once.

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Some parents are more dominant and have fixed ideas, making it difficult to communicate. If this is the case, avoid discussing topics where you disagree with your parents or temporarily distance yourself from her nagging.

Time is the best medicine. When your life is stable, your parents will withdraw and stop controlling you. This is a special period when they want to express their love. We can only adjust our state of mind.

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When you feel helpless and in pain, don't stay in this state for a long time. The family situation you are in is common in society. As children, we received our parents' love and deserve to bear their suffering. They were also children, and they also suffered from their parents' suffering. So it is inevitable that there are things they can't do well. Let's be tolerant of each other and grow up together!

I hope you can communicate with your mother and live happily together.

I'm Cici Ai, an '80s kid who uses psychology to heal. I hope my advice helps.

It's possible that your mother's persistent inquiries are driven by her concern about your circumstances. The other person may be anxious about your academic performance or the impression you've made on your romantic partner. This can lead to significant challenges, as excessive questioning can be quite bothersome.

It's understandable that no one wants to hear the same thing over and over again. You might find it helpful to be aware of your current situation and whether any changes have occurred. It's possible that your mother's questioning might make you feel more insecure or anxious.

♠Every time you go on a blind date, your mother is eager to learn more and asks questions.

♠You find the questions somewhat annoying and feel that your mother is prying into your personal affairs.

♠It might be helpful to consider that if she asks too many questions, it could have a negative impact on her daughter's performance. Conversely, if she were to refrain from asking questions, it could have a positive effect on her daughter's confidence and ability to succeed.

Perhaps it would be helpful to ask.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider a different approach.

It might be helpful to remember that if your mother doesn't ask any questions, it could be a sign that she has confidence in your abilities and believes you can succeed in the exam and on the blind date.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider moderating your mother's questioning.

You might consider telling your mother exactly what you are thinking.

If you keep yourself calm, you may find that you perform better.

Your mother's inquiries may be perceived as a disturbance and emotional interference by your inner self, which could make you feel somewhat uncomfortable and have an impact on your daily life, as well as some of your personal judgments and life experiences.

It's possible that the other person's inappropriate and excessive concern may be the cause of your distress. It seems that you are already feeling quite annoyed, and it may be more helpful for you to seek peace and contemplation than to engage in a lengthy interrogation.

Perhaps it would be helpful to take some time to reflect on your needs when you're alone, as it seems she may not be providing the support you require. It might be beneficial to express this clearly.

We should also try to understand her current situation. In addition to expressing our feelings, we could also benefit from setting some boundaries and recognizing that these issues are our own to deal with. If you want to express yourself, you will find a way to do so.

If you feel the need to be alone, you might consider temporarily leaving the family. You could go on a trip or visit a friend's house, temporarily leaving the distractions behind. It's important to maintain your inner clarity and realize that boundaries can only be ours if we fight for them.

Could I ask you a question?

I understand your pain and trouble with your mother's lack of boundaries.

You can't stop her from invading your privacy because you feel guilty.

Your mother is nosy about your love life because she's never lived as a woman. She gets energy from knowing how you interact with men. It seems like you're not living for yourself, but for her.

But if you don't feed her, you feel guilty because she will wither away. You might lose a mother, and that scares you.

There's no easy way out. You have to choose. If you want to be yourself, keep your secret and never tell her.

You can't give up your dependence on her.

If you keep your secrets and stop supporting her, you're setting a boundary between you. You're now separate from her.

This will be scary because it means you'll have no mother and have to face life alone. You're keeping your secret, so your mother doesn't know about it. She can't be responsible for it or take care of you.

Keeping secrets means being responsible for yourself and facing life alone. It's not easy, and you're afraid.

Best wishes!

Zhu Rong Psychology – Zhou Xiaohua

Dear question asker, I'm grateful we've had the opportunity to connect here.

Let's take a moment to review what you've shared with me.

Your mother is very curious about everything, including your dating life, and wants to know every detail. This situation is a way for your mother to show her concern from her perspective, but it can also be seen as an imposition from your perspective, as you have to satisfy her desires.

You want to avoid disappointing your mother, but you also feel unable to satisfy her desires, which causes you sadness and discomfort.

&Dear author, I can sense your distress through your words, but I understand that expressing it can be challenging. I empathize with the difficulties you face in your interactions with your mother.

Let's consider some ways you might feel more comfortable.

If you feel dissatisfied, it is important to express that.

If your mother ignores your feelings and indulges her curiosity again, it might help to take a few deep breaths to calm yourself down, then tell her how you feel. At this time, it might be best to try to control yourself and take the initiative in the conversation. Say what you want to say in one go, and remember that no matter what, it's important to remain calm. You are expressing your thoughts and feelings about your mother's actions, not arguing with her.

If it is at all possible, it would be best not to say anything.

All patterns of interaction are formed through the interaction of two parties. It might be helpful to consider ways of changing yourself in order to re-establish the pattern of interaction between you. For example, your mother could ask you to gradually reduce the amount of information you share from 70% to 50%. This could eventually lead to a situation where you can choose to share as much or as little information as you like.

This process may present some challenges for your mother, as well as for you. It will require perseverance and hard work on both sides.

And who might be able to offer you support?

If you were to truly embark on a journey of self-transformation, who in your life could offer you the support you need to persevere? What kind of support do you hope to receive from this other person? And if you were to receive all the support you hope for, how would you envision your future? Could you describe this vision?

How might you and your mother get along? How might you communicate with each other?

Could you please describe the scene implied by the answers to these questions as accurately as possible?

If I may suggest, you could then work towards your goal.

If I may offer my perspective, I hope it will be helpful to you.

Hello, question asker!

From reading your description, it's clear to me that you're restless and feel helpless about your mother's approach. You don't know how to get along with her properly.

You know deep down that when your mother talks so much, she is fulfilling her own inner needs. We just need to express this kind of care.

She may be expressing her need to be seen all the time by saying words like "I see you."

I suggest you try expressing yourself a little. Say, "I love you, Mom, and I can see that you have a lot you want to share with me, and you want to know what I'm doing every minute."

You need to express your needs and feelings. For example, you can say, "Mom, you keep asking me questions, and it makes me feel a bit annoyed.

I need you to be quiet for a while so I can focus on my own thing. I'll be back to chat in detail after I'm done.

She can see her mother's needs, express her own needs at the same time, and feel her mother's feelings.

I am certain that when a mother is clearly expressed such feelings and needs, she knows what to do. Sometimes she is more anxious inside and may not know what is more appropriate.

Blessings.