Efforts made yet still unhappy, no longer want to heal an unhappy childhood?

We all have a childhood and a past. Maybe the trauma of your childhood has left you with too many burdens, making it feel like you're dragging your heavy body forward and just trying to keep going. It's a heartbreaking moment when you feel like you're existing, but you're also exhausted.

You've also done so much to try to make yourself better and move forward. You've kept yourself busy and tried to improve yourself. It's a good thing to do, but the results haven't always been what you hoped for, have they?

♠You gave it your all, but you're still feeling unhappy and like you had an unfortunate childhood.

♠You don't want to heal now. You feel so tired.

♠So much time and energy spent trying to heal an unhappy childhood

Childhood

It's so tiring, isn't it?

Maybe having a better choice that suits you better would be a good idea. A good choice can really make a difference, even when you've tried so hard and put in so much work.

It's so important to understand the negative impact of past experiences on ourselves.

⛲⛲⛲⛲ It's time to face the past head-on and make some positive changes!

⛲⛲⛲⛲ Add more positive thoughts to boost your morale!

You might not see the results of your efforts right away, but don't give up! Happiness can be simple and it can come into your life in an instant.

When you're feeling unhappy, it's okay to accept that you're not going to be happy right away. It's okay to feel this way, and it's okay for others to feel this way too. We can't control how others feel, and we shouldn't try to.

You can also focus on healing the past while also improving yourself. When you feel tired, you can also take a break. You don't have to talk about your feelings or seek counseling every day. Everyone has their own pace of life, and that's okay!

When you long for happiness, perhaps when you are immersed in doing something you like, whether it is cooking, exercising, or singing, which you are good at, and the task is moderately difficult and you are capable of solving it, then you can achieve a sense of relief naturally.

Hey there! I just wanted to drop a quick note to say that you're doing great! It's totally okay to lower the threshold of happiness, be more grateful for what you have, and see how many things may change with just one thought. You can also think about your future plans. Your past childhood will not always weigh you down, and you will grow in different ways after a trauma. I'm sending you all the love and support!

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My dear, I hope this provides you with some comfort.

Some people are fortunate enough to use their childhood experiences to inform and enrich their adult lives. Others may find that their childhood experiences continue to affect them throughout their lives.

While many of us have grown up and look like adults, it seems that the child inside has not yet had the chance to fully mature.

Or could it be that it is still unable to get out of the maze of an unfortunate childhood, which is why it has remained unhappy even after admitting it?

It would be beneficial to consider healing the inner child.

It may be helpful to identify the root cause of an unhappy childhood, acknowledge it, and work to overcome it.

If the reason for unhappiness now is said to be due to an unhappy childhood, could you kindly elaborate on what specific things are still troubling the current owner?

I'm wondering if your parents divorced?

Could it be that your family circumstances are less than ideal?

Could it be that there are conflicting relationships with siblings?

Could it be that your poor academic performance is resulting in poor relationships with classmates, isolation, and ridicule?

Or perhaps it is the physical defect that causes you concern?

I hope I have provided you with some helpful suggestions. If there is anything else I can do to help, please let me know.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the following:

I may have overlooked something. When I feel unhappy or even unfortunate,

It may be helpful to identify the things and root causes that make you unhappy. When you face them honestly, you may find that you become more at ease.

It is important to note that this does not imply that the scars will disappear entirely. However, it does suggest that one can move beyond the fear of the harm that was once caused.

2. It may be helpful to accept what has happened in the past and focus on the present.

It is important to remember that we cannot undo the past, and that our present circumstances are a result of what has already happened. While we may feel pain in the present, it is not necessarily the case that our past experiences are the cause of that pain.

All I can do now is accept the past and live in the present, focusing on each moment as it comes, and trying to make each moment as good as it can be.

If not, it would be beneficial to work hard to change the unsatisfactory status quo.

The true meaning of life may not be to be happy, but rather to overcome suffering and eliminate pain.

Many of us believe that happiness is the true meaning of life, but this may not be entirely accurate. People often seek happiness, but it is not always a constant presence in our lives.

It will disappear. Our true normal state is peace. When we encounter problems, it would be beneficial to focus our attention on overcoming the pain.

The current landlord is experiencing a sense of fatigue and a lack of ability to find happiness, which is compounded by the challenges of childhood and the difficulties that others may find easier to overcome.

It can be challenging to connect with the landlord. Many people share similar feelings.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that our focus may be on other people. It might be beneficial to turn your attention to yourself.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider my current situation and what kind of life I would like to lead. When you think positively,

I believe that a way out will naturally appear. It is important not to be discouraged, even if no one in the world believes in us.

I believe that I can succeed if I have faith in myself.

It might be helpful to start with small things and not try to do big things all at once, as this can sometimes make things seem more unattainable at the beginning.

For instance, you might consider incorporating some simple exercise and fitness routines into your routine to help improve your physical condition.

I believe that reading books has the potential to broaden one's horizons and expand one's mind and heart.

It may be helpful to start with small tasks and then gradually work towards larger goals.

I believe that with time, this will help to instill confidence and motivation.

I'm hopeful that the host will be able to overcome this challenge soon.

I hope you are having a lovely June, and that the world is treating you well!

Hello! I saw your question. You said you tried hard but weren't happy. What's your goal?

People strive to enhance their self-worth. If your efforts are only for a result, you may not be happy.

When you achieve this result, it will feel boring.

You said you're tired, have spent a lot of time trying to heal from an unhappy childhood, and are still unhappy.

You feel tired because you're thinking wrong. Healing your childhood doesn't mean making bad experiences good or good feelings.

Growing up is what it is.

Healing your childhood lets you keep growing spiritually and see problems without the trauma.

Your goal is not reasonable. You're expecting too much.

We should accept our childhood, understand ourselves, and love ourselves. But we don't have to go back to our childhood or dwell on it.

We should not let our past limit our future growth.

A person's childhood experiences, especially with their original family, play a big role in their character, behavior, and psychology. These experiences can have a long-term impact on a person's happiness.

Is your family really a shadow you can't escape? A family is a condensed version of the whole world. A family in a society is a condensed version of the whole society, and the person is a condensed version of the family.

Research by Bonanno shows that people's future lives cannot be predicted by past traumatic events. It is only when we are too involved that it affects our future.

Our understanding of ourselves after birth is the most important thing. Childhood shadows will always be shadows. We can learn to look at them from another perspective through learning. In the sunlight, the shadow is only a faint shadow that will not harm us.

You ask why others don't use this energy to improve and live happily.

This is comparison! Everyone is different. Others can do it because they are working hard.

Your sentence seems to mean that others can, but you can't.

If others can do it, you can too.

Comparing yourself to others is good for motivation, but not for self-denigration.

You can be happy and improve yourself. See your bright spots, not your past.

All actions can help us grow.

Know why you're unhappy. Don't fantasize about how you're unhappy in this way or that way. Don't get stuck in a rut.

To be happy, we must live in the present, take action, be brave, and work hard. Don't dwell on past misfortune.

Life is our own. When we have bad experiences as children, we develop ways of thinking that can cause problems as we grow up. If these problems are not resolved, they can become psychological trauma.

Some bad things that happen to us as children can have a long-term effect. We need to have the resources to heal and the confidence to support ourselves. We need to be aware of our thoughts and adjust them.

To be happy, we must live in harmony with life. Life is like the sea, and life situations are like the waves of the sea.

Happiness is a choice. If we choose to view life's people and events positively, our hearts will be open and fulfilled.

If you see shadows, don't be afraid. There is sunlight behind you.

Cracks let in light.

Everyone has a dark side, but there is also a light.

Maybe you're lost and don't know which way is up. Find the light and your heart will shine.

The light has always been there, but if you focus on your dark side, you'll feel tired and unhappy. You need to learn and practice to see the light within you. So the saying goes, "Where there is light, there is shadow." When you let go of your dark side, your inner sense will welcome the light.

I hope this helps!

Hello!

It's normal to feel disappointed, afraid, uneasy, helpless, and confused when you've tried your best and still haven't achieved the desired result. It's easy to feel like giving up and losing hope, but it's important to remember that this kind of mood won't last forever. Even though you might feel despair, deep down you still want things to improve.

Take some time to figure out what you're feeling. It might be tough to find the right way to do it, but there's a good chance you'll find what you need if you just wait.

Why is it so difficult to make changes?

This problem has also been on my mind. It can feel like a big obstacle that seems impossible to overcome. But, as we all know, life is full of new challenges. And, to succeed, we have to be ready to face these challenges head-on. That's why many of us work hard every day to build our inner strength. If we ignore these problems, they might temporarily go away. But, if we don't address them, we won't be able to truly move forward. We can't avoid these problems and expect to grow. We have to face them head-on and understand their core issues. Then, we can start to understand our past and move towards reconciliation.

Don't worry. With patience, you can gradually work through the issues that are holding you back. Try to see the problems from a broader perspective, accept yourself, and you'll feel more in control and experience the power within.

Most people can heal their childhood selves by stumbling and falling, constantly hitting walls and feeling conflicted, to find the opposite of right, learn and grow, and use the power of growth to accompany themselves. This kind of companionship will be stable, their self-worth will be affirmed, they will feel secure inside, and slowly they will be able to establish their own safe harbor and no longer be easily disturbed by the outside world.

1. Show your true self and reconcile with yourself.

Happy people are always doing things that make them happy. Unhappy people, on the other hand, are just doing things that make them feel happy, but they don't really perceive happiness.

Healing is the same thing. We want to be healed, but if our hearts are unconsciously resisting and developing in the opposite direction, it is difficult for us to truly be healed. The original poster didn't mention why they can't feel happy, but to make ourselves happy, we can stop attacking our own thoughts because that will lead to counter-attacks. The original poster feels, "Why can others be happy, but I can't?" This will make others unable to easily approach you, feel your invitation, and be afraid to stay away. When you feel the need for help, you can change it to "I hope to get help to make myself stronger" and other ways to make a friendly invitation, and you will gain more strength, help, and support.

2. Change is a long-term process.

Healing a wound takes a specific amount of time, depending on how deep it is. If the wound isn't completely treated, it'll keep recurring. We heal ourselves by healing the wounds in our hearts, whether it takes a long or short period of time. We can only step out of the pain, get to know ourselves again, and affirm ourselves when the inner pain is truly healed.

I can see why you're feeling anxious. If the current treatment is working, I hope you can stick with it and gradually recover. With the right mindset and some support, you'll be able to overcome this negative emotional influence and start facing your life again.

3. Focus on the beautiful things that make you feel good.

Beautiful things can always put a smile on people's faces, which in turn gives them hope for the future. This is very positive energy, and sometimes a few words cannot achieve the effect of healing negative emotions. The breeze, the bright moon, and the flourishing trees are not just decorations. They are there to make people feel at peace with the world and grateful for what they have.

When people are feeling down, it's important to think differently and change your mindset. Those painful experiences can actually become a source of strength and wisdom. By consistently nurturing your inner energy, you can avoid getting stuck in a negative spiral and focus on the things that truly make you happy.

All the best! ☕️

Dear Question Asker,

The current date is a day with favorable conditions. It would be interesting to ascertain the activities of the individual who posed the question.

From the limited information provided, it is evident that the questioner is grappling with feelings of helplessness, loss, and confusion.

It is incontestable that unfortunate childhood experiences can have a significant impact on an individual's life trajectory. Conversely, positive childhood experiences leave a lasting imprint, often becoming a source of enduring personal value. It is evident that the questioner has made considerable strides in addressing the adverse effects of their childhood experiences and has witnessed tangible outcomes. It would be intriguing to ascertain the strategies employed by the individual to enhance their personal growth.

Given your assertion that you experience fatigue during periods of change, it is important to recognize that confronting significant challenges will inevitably evoke a range of intense emotions, including fatigue. Does the fatigue you feel in your body enhance your sense of self-awareness, and in doing so, facilitate your observation of personal transformation? It is essential to value and acknowledge each minor shift, even if it seems inconsequential, and to take the time to recognize these changes individually. This process can lead to a profound sense of accomplishment.

For others, the questioner posits that individuals can utilize their energy to enhance themselves and achieve a state of happiness.

This may not be the case. When an individual is in a situation of significant distress, they may perceive the freedom of insects crawling on the ground and may even envy their ability to withstand the crushing of a small stone, despite their own vulnerability.

Similarly, individuals tend to conceal their misfortunes, and others similarly tend to conceal their own pain, revealing it only to those they deem to be the right person. Therefore, it is beneficial to focus on the small changes that can be made to oneself, in order to gain the strength to move forward.

Once one ceases to dwell on the unhappy aspects of one's childhood, one is already on the road to achieving a state of happiness.

You are not alone in navigating the challenges that lie ahead. Best wishes for success!

Good morning. I appreciate your focus on past experiences.

Firstly, it is worth noting that many professionals are inclined to discuss their childhood and their family of origin. However, there is no necessity for this. It is not that the family of origin and the misfortunes of childhood will not affect us today, but if we consistently focus on the wounds of the past, or the scars after the wounds have healed, we are not being kind to ourselves.

People are always looking ahead. While the past can help us understand why certain things happened, it will not determine how we face the future. Our family of origin provides a background, but it is only a background.

Consider a painting: it has many layers, but who can see the bottom layer? Our objective is to make the colors on the outside come alive.

Secondly, no family of origin is without flaws. The country was affected by wars, famines, diseases, and other problems seventy or eighty years ago, and almost no family was spared.

Some theories suggest that achieving a positive future is challenging for everyone. However, there are numerous examples of individuals who are effectively managing their families. By embracing imperfection and avoiding excessive burdens, individuals can enhance their performance.

Finally, direct your attention to the present moment. The warmth of the sun, the comfort of the wind, and the fragrance of flowers will contribute to a greater sense of well-being. I wish you happiness every day!

Hello, questioner. I can see that you're feeling confused, and I want you to know that I'm here to support you.

I believe it is possible. It may help to try to get rid of a negative thought in your mind.

Could you please clarify what that means?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that your childhood may not have been as unfortunate as you think, and that healing is always an option.

I believe that if you continue to think this way, it may prevent you from getting better.

Perhaps it would be more helpful to tell yourself something more positive.

I can understand why you feel that your childhood was unfortunate and unhappy.

After all, you are now an adult and have every right to choose how you want to live your life.

I believe that when you think this way, you will feel much happier.

I'm not sure what methods you've tried to heal from your unfortunate childhood.

You may be trying to heal yourself by reading psychology books and learning psychology on your own. However, this approach may not be as effective as it could be, as you may spend a lot of energy and time without getting very little results.

If I might make a suggestion, I believe that to heal your unfortunate childhood, your own abilities are sometimes limited, and that at this time, you may benefit from external help.

For instance, you might consider seeking the guidance of a professional counselor who can help you create a structured treatment plan. This approach could prove more beneficial than struggling alone.

I can relate to your situation. I used to believe that my childhood challenges were irremediable. Despite seeking counseling for nearly four years, I didn't see the desired results.

Then, two years ago, I began working with a counselor on this platform. She kindly told me, "As long as you're willing to change, it's never too late to start."

It is now up to you to decide whether you would like to make some changes to yourself.

You may find that making a few changes to your mindset could lead to some positive outcomes.

I truly hope that the issue you're facing can be resolved as soon as possible.

That's all I can think of to say for now.

I hope my answer above will be helpful and inspiring to you. I am committed to providing the best possible response.

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