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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, dear questioner!
If you can, give yourself a big hug! It'll comfort your pale, powerless, confused, and anxious heart!
I also want to say how proud I am of you for reading books on self-healing and seeking counseling!
I'm not sure how old you are or if you're a male or female friend. I'd love to know what kind of help you were initially seeking.
Before you found a counselor, I'm so sorry you were going through such a rough time.
It's clear that being a single-parent family has made it really tough for you. You've had to deal with a lot of unstable emotions and a lack of relationship and care from your mom.
This has led to the suppression of a lot of negative emotions. I can imagine how difficult this must have been for you. Your mother's long-term interactions with you were not very positive.
This has caused you to hold in a lot of anger and grievances, which can make you feel powerless and helpless. It's totally understandable! This can lead to feelings of anxiety and depression.
I'm not sure what kind of help the counselor you sought was to you. It seems like you didn't find the results you were looking for with the counselor.
It's clear that the lack of warmth and support in your relationship has left you feeling like you can't make progress and breakthroughs. It's totally understandable that you've fallen into
I can see you're feeling pretty confused and anxious right now.
How can you break the pattern, my dear?
The first thing to remember is that psychology and counseling help you look within yourself.
In other words, we can't change things like your mom's personality, her temper, and the
I'm sorry to hear you've experienced cold violence.
We've made some changes that I think you'll like! We've expanded our horizons and broadened our minds, adjusted our self-perception, and enhanced our self-adjustment function.
And so you can accept yourself and your family environment more fully.
Even though you shared just a little background info and data, I've discovered a whole new side of you!
First, I'd like to talk about your amazing endurance.
I'm really interested to know how you managed to grow up in such a challenging family environment and become so amazing!
For example, you can read books, explore yourself, and enhance your mind and introspective ability.
Second, you have a really strong inner strength.
You've gained a deeper insight into how your family upbringing, your mum's personality and your relationship with her have shaped you.
I'm so sorry to have to tell you this, but it's going to have a big impact.
You're also aware that the help from the counselor has reached a point where it can no longer help you. You've realized that your family relationship isn't what you hoped it would be.
Oh, how big a change! It's so easy to see how you might feel disappointed.
Third, go for it! Keep pushing yourself to break through.
You can share your family background and feelings on this platform, and that's enough to show that you have a lot of inner strength.
You're on your way to a better, happier life! So, what you're facing might just be the darkness before the dawn.
Second, you might want to keep talking to your counselor. What happened that made things get stuck? Is it the counselor's fault?
Or could it be that you're feeling a bit resistant? Or maybe you're feeling a little frustrated because you have some pretty ambitious consulting goals that you're not sure you can achieve in the short term?
If it's the counselor, you can be open and honest with them about how you're feeling, what you're thinking, and what you need.
I just want to make sure I understand. What is it you want to get out of the next consultation?
I just want to remind you that psychological counseling is also limited and can't solve all your problems.
It's so important to let go of those high expectations!
You might also want to think about getting involved with your local social welfare organisations or psychology salons.
You might find that a growth group helps you to progress a little faster.
Hello, I'm counselor Yao, and I'm here for you!
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I understand how deeply challenging and painful your situation must be. Growing up in a singleparent family with an emotionally unavailable mother has left you feeling unsupported and frustrated. It's tough when the person you seek comfort from is the one causing you distress, and it seems like counseling hasn't provided the relief or empowerment you hoped for.
Feeling unseen and unheard by the very people who are supposed to nurture us can really affect our sense of selfworth. It's heartbreaking that your attempts to gain attention and support only led to more conflict and a lack of guidance. It's no wonder you've turned to books and friends for solace, yet even those sources feel inadequate or risky. The isolation and anxiety you're experiencing are valid responses to such a difficult upbringing. Recognizing your own powerlessness in changing your mother's behavior doesn't mean you're powerless in your own life. Finding a way forward might require exploring new forms of support, perhaps through community groups or online forums where others share similar experiences and can offer understanding and advice.
It's so hard to hear about the emotional weight you carry, especially the loneliness and the pressure to prove yourself. It sounds like you've been carrying this burden for a long time, and it's understandable that you're feeling stuck. Sometimes, it takes acknowledging our limitations and accepting that we can't change others for us to start focusing on what we can control: our own reactions and choices. Even though the counselor has admitted that family relationships haven't been resolved, maybe this is a moment to explore different therapeutic approaches or find a counselor who can help you develop coping strategies and build resilience. Remember, it's okay to ask for help and to keep searching until you find the right kind of support.