Encountering certain individuals, communicating with them feels inexplicably uncomfortable, causing one's thoughts to become sluggish.

Hello. I am a heart exploration coach with years of experience, and I am here to give you advice.

From your description, you are now a university student. You have now experienced two years of university life. The three years of high school were already very painful, and you would have wanted to adjust your state of mind and make yourself comfortable in some way when you got to university.

I was surprised to find that the person who made you feel uncomfortable was not in the same class but rather someone in the dormitory.

In the dormitory, this person actually spends a lot of time with you, which is making you feel extremely uncomfortable. You used to only feel nervous and slow-thinking in high school, but now you feel like a knife is cutting your body when you go to sleep at night, and your abdomen and chest feel like they're on fire during the day.

Let's first analyze the situation represented by the specific symptoms you are currently experiencing.

Your abdomen and chest are affected, which means your thinking and spirit are greatly affected. This causes anxiety and deepens your pain.

Furthermore, you experience a physical sensation of being cut by a knife at night, which symbolizes the harm caused by external influences. I would like to know more about this person in your bedroom and his personality.

You encountered similar people in high school, didn't you?

I believe that if this person makes you feel uncomfortable and extremely tense, they have some of the traits of someone who had a big influence on you during your childhood.

If he seems stern and serious on the surface, giving you the impression that he is not relaxed, or if he gives you the impression that he is aggressive, you need to be aware that this can trigger fear in your heart.

Your thinking has become sluggish, which means you've put too much thought into this person. You've been on guard, and you've spent your energy fighting with him instead of focusing on your studies.

I'm going to analyze everything you told me, and I'll give you my analysis of him. There was also someone like this in college. Does this person have the attribute of being good at fighting, or does this person speak more sharply, making you uncomfortable when you listen?

Or is it the fact that this person lives right next door that makes you feel uncomfortable?

The daily behavior patterns of this person represent a trauma you experienced during your childhood. This trauma likely originated from the original family or from your experiences at school.

Tell me more about the classmates you met in high school and what kind of people your current roommates are. If you don't know their personalities well, tell me about their habits or daily actions, and I will help you analyze them.

Organize the questions I have asked you. You have described them relatively little, and I have guessed too much based on my experience.

Organize your thoughts, click on my personal homepage, and ask me questions. I will help you analyze as much as possible and make it as accurate as possible.

You finally said that you are asking us all for help, and you are overwhelmed.

This is a difficult situation for you, and we can all understand it. You need to recall the past, the characteristics of these people, or their appearance, and what their daily behavior said to you.

Tell me how it made you feel. What were you thinking when you were sitting next to him at the table?

I don't want to sit at the same table as him. He gives me a sense of threat. He could cause me harm. What kind of things has he done to other students?

You can handle similar situations like this.

I am certain that by listening to my answer, you will be able to break away from this undesirable state relatively quickly. This will undoubtedly benefit you greatly in your university life and future work.

Otherwise, if you encounter similar people at work again, you will still be in a lot of pain, and that will undoubtedly hinder your recovery.

I look forward to hearing from you. I am confident that you will make the right decision.

Dear questioner, I am Peilü.

First, I'm going to give you a hug.

Let's talk about interpersonal relationships.

You need to work on your emotional regulation.

The data is clear:

The questioner described that when they get along with some people, they become particularly nervous and anxious, and their thinking becomes slow. Even if the other person doesn't do anything, they still feel uncomfortable when they get along, and it is mentally torturous. I am convinced that the questioner is having some difficulties in their relationships. You can't get along with "them" freely, but there is no avoiding it, which makes you very painful. It is evident that the other person is putting a lot of pressure on you.

I will now analyze the reasons.

You have a sensitive personality.

From the questioner's description and the various feelings when getting along with the other person, it is clear that your personality is more sensitive. You can more quickly judge from the other person's words and deeds whether you are in tune with each other, and it is usually accompanied by a stronger emotional response.

At the same time, you are more susceptible to the influence of the external environment. It is likely that the influence of the other person in a certain area has brought you impact and pressure, making it difficult for you to cope.

Your past experiences

Furthermore, it's likely that some of the other person's traits or behaviors evoke memories of past experiences, some of which were unpleasant. When you encounter similar individuals, your psychological defense mechanism kicks in, prompting a rejection reaction. This makes you want to avoid characters or situations that make you feel uneasy or threatened.

—Personal advice—

You need to evaluate this objectively.

Your current reaction shows that the other person has caused you a lot of psychological pressure. As you said, from high school to college, it seems that the people who make you feel uncomfortable are always "a certain type of person." We can and will analyze it. What exactly is it about this type of person that makes you feel uncomfortable?

Is it about personality, behavior, or some potential threat to you? People are complex and multifaceted, and these factors cannot define a person. Avoid labeling as much as possible and be as objective and comprehensive as you can be in your assessment.

Distinguish between imagination and reality.

You're worried that what happened in high school will repeat itself in college, but let me be clear: your current roommate and your high school classmate are different individuals. Even if they have some similar traits, they cannot be simply and roughly grouped together. You've also said that the other person has not caused you any substantial harm. Your pain actually comes from your own perception and imagination of the other person.

Accept reality.

This incident has clearly affected your studies and life. The simplest solution is to stay away from him as much as possible. You can apply to change your room. If this doesn't work, you must learn to accept reality. When spending time with him, you don't have to demand that you maintain the same standards as you do with other people. It's enough to just treat each other with respect and not infringe on each other.

I want to know.

The world and I love you.

Hello, question asker. I can relate to your experience, as it's similar to how I perceive people's faces when I read their words.

After reading your description, I was reminded of the word "stress." It seems that you took the step of asking for help even though you were experiencing a high level of stress, and you were also able to perceive your state of mind with great clarity. That's a remarkable ability, and I'm sorry to hear about your difficulties.

Perhaps we could take a moment to calm down and talk about your state of mind.

At the beginning, you mentioned that "in high school and college, there were some classmates who seemed to have a magical power. Even though they didn't do anything to me, I felt ants crawling all over me when I got close to them. I was extremely nervous and my thinking became very slow." From what you've said, I would like to understand more about:

1. If it isn't an imposition, could you tell me the exact point in time when this state of mind began?

2. Could you please elaborate on what happened before this state that left a lasting impression on you?

3. If I may enquire, which stage would you say you felt less strongly about, high school or university?

4. Could you please elaborate on why those classmates evoke such associations?

5. If you were asked to associate one of those classmates with one of your significant others, who would you think of?

I hope the above five points will help you to see the child within you who feels insecure in relationships. I don't find in the description the usual way you get along with your family members, but when a person experiences stress or even withdrawal in relationships, it might be helpful to pay attention to and become aware of managing family relationships.

You mentioned that you had been seated next to that person on one occasion, which seemed to have a negative impact on your grades. However, you switched seats in your senior year and noticed a positive change in your academic performance. I would be interested to know more about:

1. Could you please tell me what the differences are between this new classmate you got in your senior year and the previous one?

2. Could you please tell me why your teacher gave you a new classmate?

3. Could you please tell me how you would go about expressing to your teachers when you are in a state of distress as described?

4. How do teachers typically respond when they hear your needs?

I hope that the above four points will help you to understand that, no matter what the reason was for your teacher to change your seatmate in your senior year, it has set a good example for you. This example is called: if you really need it, don't be afraid to express it. I believe that as long as they are working and teaching in school, teachers generally pay attention to the needs of students in all aspects, especially psychological needs.

If your physical or mental state requires attention or assistance, it is important to communicate this to your teacher and seek help from the appropriate resources on campus.

I would like to leave you with this quote: physical and mental health is the most important support for a person in the process of struggling.

If I might make one more suggestion, I would like to recommend two more books:

I would like to suggest the book "Embracing the Inner Child" by Yuan Ying.

I would like to conclude with a book I found helpful: "Stop Internal Conflict: Live a Life Without Exhaustion," by Wakasugi.

I hope the above responses and sharing can help you find some relief from the anxiety caused by [interpersonal stress] and help you embrace the beauty and challenges of life with confidence and calm.

Please take care of yourself.

The feelings and experiences you describe indicate that you react very strongly to certain groups of people, and that this reaction affects your physical and mental health and academic performance. To better understand this issue, we can analyze it from several aspects, which is really exciting because it means we can find ways to improve your situation!

Let's dive into the fascinating characteristics of this type of person!

People in this category may share certain characteristics that may trigger your negative reactions without you even realizing it. But don't worry! These characteristics may include:

1. Strong personality or aura: Some people are born with a strong personality or aura, which can feel a bit overwhelming for highly sensitive people.

2. Nonverbal communication: As mentioned earlier, their body language, eye contact, or facial expressions may unintentionally convey a message that you feel uncomfortable with.

Social Behavior: Their social behavior, such as the way they speak, the volume of their voice, or their reactions to their surroundings, may also be one of the triggers for your discomfort.

Sometimes, even if there is no obvious conflict, simply the other person's values or belief system are very different from yours, and this may also make you feel uncomfortable. But what an opportunity to learn and grow!

Let's dive in and explore why these characteristics have a negative impact on you!

1. High sensitivity: If you are a highly sensitive person, then you will be more in tune with your environment and others, which may lead to more intense reactions to these characteristics.

2. Past experiences: Your past experiences may make you particularly sensitive to certain characteristics or patterns of behavior, especially if they are associated with negative emotions or memories. This is an amazing thing! It means you have the power to choose how you react to things. You can choose to focus on the positive and let go of the negative.

3. Cognitive bias: People sometimes form judgments or prejudices about others based on limited information. This cognitive bias may cause you to react unnecessarily negatively to certain people. But here's the good news! You can learn to recognize this bias and work to overcome it.

Now for the fun part! Let's dive in and analyze the specific causes of the negative impact.

Social anxiety: You may experience social anxiety due to concerns about your performance or fear of being judged. This is totally normal! It's only when certain people are around that this anxiety becomes more intense.

Psychological stress response: When you are in an environment that makes you feel uncomfortable, your body may enter a state of stress, producing physiological and psychological responses similar to the "fight or flight" response.

3. Decreased self-efficacy: In the presence of these people, you may doubt your abilities, which affects your performance and self-confidence. But don't worry! There are ways to overcome this.

4. Let's dive in and explore how you can clear your mind and understand why you have such emotional reactions!

1. Deep reflection: Take the time to think deeply about the real reasons behind your reactions to these people. It's time to find out what specific characteristics or behaviors trigger your reactions!

2. Record and analyze: This is the fun part! Start recording the specific circumstances when you feel uncomfortable, including the time, place, people present, and your feelings. This helps you identify patterns and triggers.

3. Get the help you need! If you're struggling to cope with these emotions and reactions, a counselor can be a great resource. They can help you understand your emotions and provide effective coping strategies.

4. Learn relaxation techniques! These amazing techniques, such as deep breathing and mindfulness meditation, can help you better manage your emotions and physical reactions when you encounter trigger situations.

5. How to recover

Once you realize that negative feelings towards certain people are mainly generated by yourself and not caused by the other person's actions, you're already on your way to recovering and getting rid of these influences! Here are some strategies to help you recover from these negative emotions:

1. Embrace your emotions!

It's time to embrace your emotions! Accept that it's perfectly normal to feel the way you do. You don't need to feel ashamed or guilty. Everyone has their own emotional reactions, and this is a common human experience.

Now for the fun part! It's time to explore and understand the reasons behind these emotions. They may be due to past experiences, internal insecurities, or fear of the unknown.

2. Adjust your perception

It's time to challenge and reconstruct those negative thoughts! When you find yourself having negative feelings towards someone, ask yourself if these thoughts are reasonable and supported by evidence. Try to look at things from a different perspective and re-evaluate the situation in a more positive and objective way.

Focus on the positive! Distract yourself and focus on the people and things that make you feel good. Cultivate gratitude and remember the moments and experiences that make you happy!

It's time to develop some amazing self-regulating skills!

Relaxation techniques are a great way to reduce physical and mental stress when you feel tense or anxious. Learning and practicing relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, mindfulness meditation, yoga, or progressive muscle relaxation can help you feel more relaxed and in control of your emotions.

It's time to let it all out! Find healthy ways to express and release emotions, such as exercise, journaling, artistic creation, or talking to trusted friends and family.

4. Boost your social skills!

Boost your social skills! Social skills training is a great way to feel more comfortable and confident in social situations. Learn how to communicate effectively and build positive relationships!

Expand your social circle! Make new friends and join clubs or interest groups. You'll meet more positive people and feel the negative emotional impact of specific groups of people melt away!

5. Get the help you need!

If you find that you are unable to deal with these emotions on your own, or if they are seriously affecting your daily life and sense of well-being, it is important to seek help from a mental health professional. They can provide more professional guidance and support to help you manage your emotions more effectively and restore your mental health.

By taking the above steps, you can gradually recover from negative emotions and learn how to deal with your feelings towards specific people in a healthier way! This will improve your quality of life and sense of well-being.

I'm excited for you to gain a deeper understanding of your emotional reactions and learn how to effectively cope with and manage them. This will help you reduce their impact on your life and studies!

Greetings.

An understanding of the subject in question.

"Interacting with specific individuals results in an inexplicable sense of unease and a notable decline in cognitive efficiency..."

I perceive the narrative you have presented.

However, when I am in close proximity to the individual in question, I experience a sensation akin to ants crawling across my body, a heightened state of alertness, and a notable slowing of my cognitive processes. On one occasion, my teacher inadvertently placed me in the same seating arrangement as the aforementioned individual, resulting in a notable decline in my academic performance. It was not until I switched seats in my third year of high school that my grades began to demonstrate a consistent upward trajectory.

The initial observation that warrants further investigation is whether the subsequent enhancement in academic performance is more pronounced than that of the aforementioned student.

When one's abilities are overpowered, a sense of restriction is often experienced, preventing the abilities from reaching their optimal level. However, once the "sense of crisis" is relieved, a sense of normalcy is often restored, and the abilities return to their typical level.

It can thus be posited that encountering an individual perceived as "stronger" may result in a passive diminution of the subject's inner self-confidence.

However, feelings originate from perceptions and thoughts that are currently being experienced. Consequently, feelings can occasionally be perceived as fictional. To illustrate, if the other individual did not engage in any specific action, but their breathing, eyes, and movements remain unchanged, they can be interpreted as a form of message transmission. For bystanders, there is also a projection of collective inner feelings.

To illustrate, when reading a novel that describes the distinctive qualities of a particular individual's dance, the author focuses on portraying not only the hitherto unseen psychological description but also the characteristics of the subject's appearance.

The slumping of shoulders can signify a sense of authority, yet it can also be indicative of nervousness.

The subject displays a thin physique, a meticulous coiffure, and a pensive demeanor, with eyebrows and eyes that convey a depth of emotion. This combination suggests the presence of a formidable personality beneath the outward appearance of beauty.

It is unnecessary to seek further confirmation, as the characteristics and personality of this character are instinctively understood based on direct experience.

Consequently, unconscious internal projection plays a role in interpersonal relationships. For instance, in an interview, first impressions are often given significant weight. Another prevalent cognitive bias is preconceived notions. For example, an individual may form the impression that someone with furrowed eyebrows and bulging eyes is a fierce person with malicious intentions. However, upon meeting the individual in person, they may discover qualities that are unexpectedly different.

It is therefore pertinent to inquire as to which category the original poster's situation falls into.

Typically, normal projection does not significantly impact one's life. To illustrate, initially, I perceived him as challenging to interact with and felt a negative energy between us. However, I did not experience any overt hostility. My objective was to establish a harmonious relationship. As we became better acquainted, the circumstances gradually became more apparent as numerous misunderstandings were resolved. Nevertheless, the profound impact of projection is evident in certain circumstances, such as in relationships that are highly interdependent and emotionally charged, including competitive relationships and intimate partnerships.

It is more challenging to maintain objective self-awareness in these kinds of relationships, which makes it easier to become involved.

As the questioner exhibits considerable trepidation towards individuals with whom they have a negative sentiment, it can be posited that when such emotions are not self-aware and accepted, somatization represents a typical method of emotional release.

Nevertheless, it is crucial to remain vigilant and reflect on those who have significantly impacted your life. Do they truly represent a threat to your well-being and existence?

The questioner may then inquire as to how they might ascertain whether they are the source of the problem.

The method is, in fact, quite straightforward. It involves acknowledging the source of the "fear." As this distinct feeling of fear is a subjective experience, it is necessary to identify its origin.

It may be a profound experience of "rejection" or "negation" as a child.

In analogous circumstances, I currently experience such sentiments, perceiving an underlying sense of vulnerability and peril.

...

This is a process of self-exploration because, regardless of how concrete the person in front of you may seem, exuding an aura that makes you uneasy, these phenomena can also be objective, pertaining merely to his appearance. However, he is actually irrelevant to you and has no connection with your past. Consequently, you must recognize that a portion of your perception is projected onto him, resulting in a pervasive underlying anxiety.

Such exercises necessitate self-awareness of emotions, and it may be challenging initially to entirely disengage from the influence of subjective thoughts and emotions. Therefore, it is recommended that the questioner engage in mindfulness exercises on a daily basis, achieve mental emptiness, and allow the body to relax for a brief period. Additionally, it is advised to refrain from hasty conclusions when confronted with situations and instead cultivate the capacity to think calmly and objectively. As one becomes more aware of the adverse effects of cognitive distortions in their thoughts in real-life scenarios, they will gradually be able to rectify their feelings of hurt and rejection.

I extend my best wishes to you.

I wish you the best of success!

Hello, question asker! I am June Lai Feng.

From your description, it's clear you've had negative experiences. When you encounter certain people, you feel uncomfortable communicating with them and your thinking slows down. This is likely a psychological defense mechanism.

Our brain activates a mechanism to protect us from harm when we feel insecure or threatened. This mechanism causes us to feel nervous, anxious, or slow-witted, which is a reminder of our behavior.

You want to know what psychological factors are causing these symptoms. This shows you have a good sense of self-awareness and are serious about improving.

Psychological phenomena can make communication with certain people difficult and slow down thinking.

Social anxiety is a factor that can cause an individual to feel extremely nervous and uneasy in social situations. This anxiety can lead to confusion, stuttering, or an inability to express one's thoughts clearly.

Factors of Interpersonal Conflict: If there is a potential conflict or discord with someone, they will feel uncomfortable when communicating with them. This discomfort will stem from dissatisfaction with the other person's attitude or behavior.

Trust is the foundation of effective communication. If you lack trust in someone, you may feel hesitant and uneasy during communication, which may hinder your ability to think and express yourself.

The factor of excessive self-consciousness is that in front of some people, individuals may be overly concerned about their performance and behavior. This excessive self-consciousness undoubtedly distracts attention and leads to slow thinking.

However, the questioner's text states, "He didn't do anything to me, but when I get close to him, I feel ants crawling all over me, I'm extremely nervous, and my thinking becomes slow." In this case, the above factors are irrelevant. Let's consider it differently.

Past experiences, particularly negative ones like being bullied or humiliated, can create psychological barriers in specific types of relationships. They are extremely similar in appearance, both in shape and in voice.

Some people unconsciously drain the energy of others, leaving them feeling tired and depressed. These so-called "energy vampires" are particularly difficult to communicate with.

Factors of Personality Incompatibility: Everyone has unique personality traits. When interacting with people with whom you have personality incompatibility, you may feel uncomfortable due to differences in values, interests, or communication styles.

You have met people who make you feel uncomfortable or stressed. These people have certain traits or behaviors that make you feel uncomfortable or threatened.

For example, these people may be aggressive, arrogant, distrustful, or disrespectful. These behaviors will trigger your negative emotions, such as anxiety, fear, or anger, which will affect your thinking and behavior.

There is another possibility: these people have the qualities you admire, but you feel uncomfortable when interacting with them because you cannot have them. You should think about this.

If this is happening often and affecting your daily life, you need to make changes.

First, identify what causes you discomfort. Is it a specific behavior, or a certain communication pattern with the other person?

Set boundaries and learn to say no, and set healthy limits for yourself. If communication makes you feel uncomfortable, you can refuse it or limit it.

Make sure you get what you want.

Challenge and change those negative thoughts that cause discomfort. Look at the other person's behavior from a more positive perspective or re-evaluate your expectations of communication.

If you are afraid of communicating with others, you must gradually increase the time you spend interacting with others, starting with small, low-stress situations.

You must accept the existence of these emotions, change your perception, and remove the anchoring effect.

You will get through this. Be patient with yourself.

I love you, the world, and I wish you happiness!

Hello, I'm Jokerev. I understand your distress and the psychological pressure you're facing.

I would like to take this opportunity to share a perspective from the field of psychology. What you are experiencing is not uncommon. It may be a psychological reaction, such as social anxiety or specific object fear, particularly when directed at specific individuals. It could also be a result of underlying tension or unease in the subconscious mind towards these individuals.

It might be helpful to imagine our minds as sensitive radios that sometimes pick up signals that are difficult to express in words. This could be because certain qualities of the other person trigger your inner insecurities or unresolved emotional memories from the past. You mentioned that sitting at the same table with a particular classmate caused your grades to decline. This could be because you were too nervous when in close contact with them, so that you could not concentrate on your studies and perform at your normal level.

If similar symptoms continue to occur during university, it may be helpful to consider that the problem has not been properly dealt with and is interfering with your daily life and mental health. It's not uncommon for the body to experience physiological responses to prolonged mental stress, such as difficulty sleeping at night and difficulty concentrating during the day.

It might be helpful to explore and identify what your specific concerns or associations with these classmates are, and whether they are related to a past experience. Understanding the reasons behind your emotions could potentially help change your perception of them and reduce unconscious feelings of fear.

It may be helpful to consider practices such as meditation and breathing exercises as a way of focusing on the present moment, rather than being trapped by future events or past experiences. This could potentially assist in better coping with the physical reactions to stressful situations.

It may be helpful to gradually increase your interactions with these classmates in a safe and supportive environment, taking small steps at a time to adapt and reduce overreactions to such situations. You might consider learning methods such as progressive muscle relaxation, yoga, and deep breathing to help you maintain physical calm in the face of stress.

Try to be as kind and understanding as you can be with yourself. It's important to remember that everyone has their own unique challenges and weaknesses. Your feelings are genuine, and it's understandable that overcoming them might take time and effort.

It is important to remember that setbacks are part of the journey towards growth. Every experience presents an opportunity for self-discovery and healing. It is essential to give yourself time and trust in your ability to find a solution.

I hope you can find a way out of this difficult situation soon and resume living and studying in peace and comfort.

Hello! I'm Zhang Qi, and I really hope my answer can help you out a bit. It sounds like you might be experiencing something called "social anxiety," which is totally normal.

It's totally normal to feel a bit nervous in social situations, but when it's excessive and you're overcome with fear, it can really take a toll on you. It's like your mind is flooded with ants crawling or your thoughts feel sluggish. When a classmate you mentioned is present, it can feel even more intense.

If you're experiencing similar symptoms in university dorms, it could be because the situation is similar in a new environment, or it could be that the symptoms are more severe. In this case, it might be a fear of close contact with others, which is often called "claustrophobia" or "contact fear."

I've got a few ideas that might help you cope with this problem.

1. Consider seeking professional psychological counseling. A specialized psychological counselor or therapist can help you understand and deal with this social anxiety. They can provide techniques and strategies to help you learn how to control and manage your anxiety.

2. Accept and face your fears: It's okay to be scared, but try not to avoid contact with these classmates. You don't have to be perfect, but you can understand it, accept it, and learn to live with it.

This might take a little time and patience, but you've got this!

3. Relaxation techniques: Give them a try! These techniques can help you reduce your physical response when anxiety occurs. Try deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or meditation.

4. Develop adaptive strategies: If anxiety is unavoidable in certain situations, it may be helpful to consider developing adaptive strategies. For example, if you find your performance is disrupted in certain classes or activities, you may need to reconsider your seating arrangements or study methods.

5. Share with others: If you feel unable to deal with this anxiety, don't be afraid to ask friends, family, or dormitory management for help. They may be able to provide some new perspectives or support, and they're there for you!

We're here to remind you that it's totally normal to feel the way you do. We all have our own fears and challenges, and you're not alone in this. We hope the suggestions above will help you get through it.

Hello, questioner!

From your description, I sense a certain inner confusion and helplessness. At the same time, you have a remarkable capacity to perceive and acknowledge these uncomfortable feelings, which is admirable.

From your description, it seems that you have experienced some challenging emotional situations with your classmates in high school and college that have affected your life and studies. Despite your best efforts to adjust on your own, it seems that you have not been able to find a solution that works for you. Is that an accurate reflection of your situation?

From what you have shared, I can appreciate your feelings and I want you to know that you are not alone.

It might be helpful to consider that our feelings towards certain people are often shaped by our experiences with other individuals or situations.

All problems are voluntary. We are the experts in solving our own problems.

When you become aware and come here, you are already on the path to change.

Based on your description, my feelings, and some small suggestions, I hope they can be of some help.

It might be helpful to seek assistance from external resources.

I can sense that your life and studies have been significantly impacted by these experiences, and it's understandable if you feel uncertain about how to proceed. One option to consider might be seeking guidance from a psychological counselor. A professional counselor can utilize their expertise to delve into the underlying causes within your subconscious, adjust your perception, gain insight into your inner self, and provide the support and encouragement you need to navigate these challenges.

Secondly, it may be helpful to try to accept and allow yourself to be in this state.

In life, we will all face a variety of challenges. When these challenges affect our lives, it can be helpful to engage in self-reflection, accept and allow the problems to arise. This is because all problems have the potential to facilitate personal growth, provided we do not create internal friction. If we can recognize and address the underlying negative feelings, we can gradually transform them into positive ones.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the discomfort you feel with yourself. When might it be appropriate to reconcile and tell him, "I see you, I know what you want to prompt me, and I will slowly become stronger and stronger"?

You might consider trying to release your emotions.

It is worth noting that when we encounter problems and keep them bottled up inside, it can have a negative impact on our bodies. At the same time, it can also trap us in an emotional rut. It may therefore be helpful to try to learn to release our emotions.

It might be helpful to talk about it with our parents and teachers, who can offer us useful advice.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be this: the person who is healed in life is the one who is willing to be healed. When you are aware of your illness, come here to talk about it and try to find a solution to the problem, you are already on the road to change.

If you feel your emotions are not quite where you'd like them to be, you might like to try some positive mental suggestion meditation exercises to help relax your mind and body. It can also be helpful to try to identify what feelings you're holding inside.

Dear colleague, I empathize with your anxiety and distress. It is challenging to navigate such a situation. The circumstances you describe are concerning and unsettling, and this sentiment can have a detrimental impact on daily life.

It is not uncommon to experience feelings of nervousness or unease in the presence of certain individuals, even if they are not behaving in any overtly negative manner. This phenomenon may be triggered by past experiences, personal sensitivity, or a certain "vibe" that the other person unintentionally exudes.

From a psychological standpoint, the sentiment you've articulated may be attributed to "projection." Projection is the inclination to ascribe inner discomfort or discontent to others, subsequently perceiving these sentiments reflected in their actions or attributes.

It is possible that certain traits or behaviors of these classmates or roommates have caused you to experience feelings of unease.

In order to address the situation effectively, it is essential to understand the underlying causes of the reactions. These may be related to past experiences or current environmental factors. It is important to recognise that stress and anxiety are common experiences, and that you are not alone in facing this challenge.

It is important to accept your feelings and not be ashamed of them.

If feasible, communicate your feelings to the roommate and establish reasonable personal boundaries. Learn relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga, to help you stay calm in stressful situations.

Then, attempt to gradually approach those who cause you stress or the environment, gradually adapt and cope, and improve your ability to cope.

If the environment is causing you discomfort, we can explore the option of changing seats or seeking a change of dormitory. Your feelings are important and deserve attention and proper handling.

I hope you can find a solution that suits you as soon as possible and resume your studies and daily activities.

It's so hard when you're struggling with distressing symptoms that affect your daily life and studies. It's totally understandable that you're feeling this way. From a psychological point of view, your experience may involve several aspects, including extreme anxiety, a stress response, and possibly even some form of trauma response or specific social phobia. Here are some suggestions that might help:

It's totally normal to feel this way! There are a few different psychological factors that could be at play here.

1. Social anxiety: It's totally normal to feel a bit nervous or uneasy around certain people or in specific social situations. Sometimes, these feelings can trigger a physical response, like the ones you're describing.

2. Conditioned reflex: You may have had an unpleasant or stressful experience in the past with these people, even if you don't remember it clearly. It's possible that your body and subconscious mind remember it, which might make your body react automatically whenever you're close to these people.

3. Hypervigilance: This may be a result of your nervous system being overly sensitive and reactive to potential "threats," even when there is no actual threat. We've all been there! This state of hypervigilance may cause you to feel extremely uncomfortable in the presence of certain people.

We're here to help you recover!

1. Get some help from a professional. Psychotherapy, especially cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) or acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), can help you understand and manage these reactions and learn how to reduce this excessive physiological and emotional response.

2. Relaxation techniques: Learning and practicing relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, mindfulness meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation can help reduce physical symptoms of tension and anxiety. You've got this!

3. Gradual exposure: You've got this! Gradually increasing the amount of time you spend with such people in a safe and controlled environment can help your body and mind adapt to the situation and reduce overreaction.

4. Self-exploration: Take some time to think about why you're reacting this way. Is there something in your past that might be causing this?

Sometimes, understanding the root cause can really help you resolve the problem.

5. Social skills training: If you feel like your social skills could use a little help, social skills training could be a great option for you!

6. Healthy lifestyle: You've got this! Making sure you're eating right, getting enough sleep, and getting some exercise regularly can really help your overall mental health and resilience.

Remember, you're not alone. These symptoms are very common and you can get through them. By seeking help and taking positive steps to cope, you can gradually reduce these symptoms and improve your quality of life.

It's so important to remember that you're not alone. There are lots of great professional mental health services out there that can help you.

Hello, question asker. I am Gu Daoxi Feng Shoulu, your Heart Detective coach.

People only work and play with people they like. Some people with different ideas and behavior patterns make us feel uncomfortable. This is not just a problem for the questioner, but for many people.

I have a leader, and every time I get close to him, I feel the air pressure drop and I can't chat. I can communicate purely about work, but I can't do it at all when it comes to small talk. I've thought about this problem very deeply. This leader is quite dominant and he likes others to be submissive. He also likes to be in the limelight, but I don't have either of these traits, so it's difficult for me to communicate with him smoothly.

The questioner will try to identify commonalities with people who make them feel uncomfortable. They will look for qualities they don't like, such as dominance. This allows them to know which people don't belong in their social circle. They can then refrain from forcing themselves to establish deep links.

We feel uncomfortable when someone violates our boundaries or when someone has a quality we like. Distinguishing which of these situations applies will help us adjust our response.

Psychological discomfort can indeed cause some subjective physical discomfort. For example, when we are close to someone we have a crush on, it causes our heart to beat faster and our face to blush. When we are close to someone we don't like, it also makes every cell in our body resist, making us feel uncomfortable and want to escape. This is normal.

Let it out. Emotions are like a flood. It is better to vent than to hold them in. The more we try to fight them, the more likely we are to react emotionally and get caught up in emotional rumination. A better approach is to vent and let it out, for example by keeping an emotional diary to record your emotions, triggers, and effects, so that you can make targeted adjustments later.

Distinguish between your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of the gods. Then, focus your energy back on yourself. This will help reduce the questioner's focus on other people.

Tell yourself that we can only establish close links with people we like. Reduce communication with those we don't like. This will reduce the distress of the questioner.

Read these books: The Courage to Be Disliked, A Change of Heart, Accepting Imperfection, and Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. They will help you adjust.

Best regards!

Greetings, question asker. My name is Evan, and I am a consultant in the School of Fine Distinctions.

From the questioner's description, it is evident that they are experiencing distress and a sense of helplessness. The situation that they are facing is not an isolated one; many individuals have encountered similar challenges.

It is not uncommon for individuals to experience similar phenomena, therefore it is important to avoid self-blame and feelings of isolation.

From a psychological standpoint, the symptoms delineated by the questioner may be associated with a psychological state known as "interpersonal sensitivity" or "interpersonal anxiety." This condition is typically manifested as a pronounced sense of unease or pressure when interacting with others, even in the absence of overtly negative conduct on the part of the other individual.

Interpersonal sensitivity may have its roots in a past experience or trauma that has caused the questioner to develop an exaggerated sense of alertness and a defensive mechanism when interacting with others.

From another perspective, the subconscious mind reacts to things that one desires or cannot accept. When the conscious mind is unable to perceive these things, the subconscious mind will act on the body, which may be the reason why the questioner has similar feelings in the body. It would be beneficial for the questioner to carefully observe whether these classmates who their body reacts to have similar qualities, such as being sociable, or characteristics that they cannot accept in some way.

From the perspective of the subconscious mind, these bodily sensations serve as reminders of certain qualities that may be perceived as magical by the questioner. These qualities may represent desires or unattainable traits within the questioner, potentially contributing to feelings of anxiety.

In light of the aforementioned circumstances, it is this author's intention to proffer the OP a few straightforward recommendations.

Cognitive restructuring: The questioner can attempt to alter their perception of these classmates. It is important to recognize that they have not engaged in any negative actions towards the questioner, and therefore, it is advisable to view them as ordinary classmates, rather than as a source of threat.

In the event of discomfort, it is advisable to recall that this sensation is merely transient and does not necessarily reflect the underlying reality. It is important for the questioner to recognise that engaging with a specific individual may evoke feelings of unease, which may be attributed to concerns pertaining to interpersonal interactions, apprehension about evaluation, or uncertainty regarding the other person.

It is important to learn relaxation techniques in order to alleviate stress and emotional distress, as these can manifest physically in the form of symptoms such as palpitations, sweating, and muscle tension.

Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and body relaxation exercises can assist in maintaining composure in stressful circumstances. These techniques can help reduce physical tension and alleviate anxiety.

It is recommended that a support system be established. In the face of these classmates, do you feel less in some situations? Or do these feelings remain at a relatively high intensity, without abating? If they do abate, in what situations do they abate?

It would be beneficial to ascertain how one would feel in the event of having the support of one's family and friends. One may choose to share one's feelings with friends, family, or trusted classmates.

Such individuals can provide invaluable emotional support, thereby assisting the individual in coping more effectively with the situation.

It is advisable to identify and implement specific coping strategies. These may include maintaining a certain distance and boundaries when spending time with these classmates, or choosing to avoid direct interactions with them on certain occasions. Additionally, it is beneficial to engage in activities that distract oneself from the situation, such as developing one's own interests or participating in other activities, in order to reduce anxiety.

Furthermore, one may learn to think in a more positive manner and alter their negative perception of specific situations through the use of techniques such as cognitive behavioral therapy.

It is important for the questioner to prioritize their physical and mental health. Establishing a regular routine, consuming a balanced diet, and engaging in moderate exercise can all contribute to enhancing their psychological and physical well-being.

Adherence to a regular sleep-wake cycle, a balanced diet, and regular exercise can all contribute to the alleviation of anxiety. Additionally, it is recommended to set aside time each day for relaxation and appreciation of positive experiences.

It may be beneficial to redirect your attention away from these classmates and toward an activity that piques your interest.

Should the aforementioned recommendations prove ineffective, it would be prudent to seek the counsel of a qualified mental health professional. These individuals can provide a safe and confidential space for individuals to share their feelings and experiences.

Such professionals can assist in identifying the underlying causes of these symptoms and in developing effective coping strategies. In the event that the problem is of a social nature, a counselor may also be able to provide guidance on effective training and the improvement of interpersonal skills.

It is important to note that individuals respond differently to stress and circumstances. Identifying an appropriate approach may require time and patience. Finally, it is essential to highlight that these symptoms can be overcome.

While the process may be challenging, those who are determined and seek appropriate assistance will undoubtedly recover.

It is my hope that this response has been of some assistance.

Hello, question asker! I'm Qu Huidong, your friendly psychological counselor who can make images speak.

Have you ever noticed how when the questioner gets close to certain people, they feel uncomfortable? It's as if they're being crawled on, burned, or cut! This can seriously affect their studies and life. I believe those feelings are real physical sensations. When you're trying every means to restrain yourself, have you ever thought about how we've given those people such a strong "magic power"?

It's important to remember that those people themselves don't have "magic powers." It's certain qualities in them that trigger strong reactions within us. This is like a "specific fear" of something. When we anticipate possible contact with the people, things, or objects we are "afraid of," discomfort will arise. The more we try to avoid it, the stronger it becomes. But there's a way to control the problem! Its essence is an anxious emotional state.

You've already discovered that you can control the problem by avoiding the person who makes you uncomfortable. But entering university and living in the same room not only makes the nights difficult, but also the days, as you cannot rest assured. It seems that the problem has become more serious. "Restraining yourself" is not an effective solution, because habitual avoidance of people who make you uncomfortable will only make the problem persist and worsen.

However, what makes it difficult for you is that you know that it is not that they have "magic powers," but that your own mind cannot accept them. Therefore, we have the exciting opportunity to try to stay with the uncomfortable feeling and find out what is really behind it!

Now for something really fun! Let's do an exercise using the externalization technique from narrative therapy. Give a name to a bodily sensation that makes you uncomfortable, such as the feeling of burning. Call it a fireball, a volcano, a fire snake, etc., whatever you like. Then, let's write about it: "In your experience, when does it come to you and when does it go away?"

"What do you feel is more likely to come to you when you do it, and what is more likely to leave when you do it?" "Which of your experiences with it have been the most troubling and which the least troubling?"

"What methods have you tried in the past that, in your opinion, have made it stronger or weaker?" These questions are a great way to help us see how we deal with problems. And our goal is not to destroy them, but to make them even stronger!

Because when we approach problems with hostile intentions and a determination to eradicate them, we are likely to suffer severe setbacks. But here's the good news! When we can look at these problems more equitably, we may discover that we actually have a choice.

Of course, if you want to understand deeper issues, you can still have systematic talks with a psychological counselor, which is also an option you can choose.

Best regards! I'm so excited to see you soon!

Dear Question Asker, I have received your sincere question. I am ZQ, a heart exploration coach on the Yixinli platform. I empathize with your situation. It appears that when you interact with certain individuals, you experience an inexplicable sense of discomfort and a subsequent slowing down of your communication. It is important to recognize that everyone has a unique aura. Some individuals possess a particularly strong aura.

Some individuals exude an aura that is more introverted and weak. When a weak person is in the presence of a strong person, it can result in the weak person unconsciously falling into the circle of the other person, thereby preventing them from demonstrating their original strength.

Such individuals may gradually become drained of energy and exhibit submissive behavior. This suggests that some people may be more susceptible to external influence due to a lack of personal energy.

Subsequently, one may find oneself influenced by the opinions of others, and thus reluctant to offer a differing perspective or voice one's own thoughts. Such a dynamic is not uncommon in everyday life, where one may observe the presence of an arrogant and domineering individual surrounded by a few individuals who are more readily submissive.

These individuals typically lack original thought and are inclined to conform to authority figures. Consequently, a dominant individual with a strong presence can exert considerable influence over others, creating a sense of pressure and obligation.

In such instances, when one's own energy is insufficient and one finds oneself in the presence of an individual with a dominant personality, one's attention is likely to be wholly absorbed by that person, thereby preventing one from focusing on one's own studies.

Subsequently, one's grades will decline, one's mood will deteriorate, and one will experience elevated stress, anxiety, and depressive symptoms. One can observe the effects of certain classmates in high school and college who instilled feelings of intense nervousness and impeded one's cognitive processes. What, then, are the defining characteristics of these classmates' personalities?

One may describe such individuals in greater detail through the use of language or by assembling a composite of their actions. In this manner, one can construct a detailed portrait of a person and gradually elucidate the nature of their personality and behavior, as well as the impact they may have on others.

Such behavior may not be directed at the individual in question, but rather, it may evoke a similar response in others. Some individuals exude a certain demeanor that can induce feelings of unease and apprehension in those around them. For instance, a boss who is unsmiling and excessively strict may evoke a similar response from their employees.

A supervisor who is consistently critical of their employees can readily induce feelings of distress and anxiety, potentially leading to physical manifestations of discomfort. To recover from such a situation, it may be necessary to begin by nurturing one's own personal energy. It is not sufficient to merely alter one's surroundings or avoid individuals with whom one is uncomfortable.

Additionally, it is essential to begin with one's own energy. When an individual possesses sufficient strength, they are less likely to prioritize the opinions of others and are less susceptible to being unduly influenced by the words and actions of others. To gain a comprehensive understanding of one's own personality, it is recommended to take the Life Base Color Psychological Test and the Inner Animal Archetypes Psychological Test on the aforementioned platform.

It is first necessary to gain an understanding of oneself in order to facilitate an accurate comprehension of one's own identity and that of others. Once this has been achieved, it is then possible to embark upon a process of gradual enhancement of one's self-confidence, as well as an identification of the most appropriate methodology for self-improvement. In the event of experiencing feelings of insecurity, it may be beneficial to adopt a courageous stance and affirm one's capacity to safeguard one's own interests. It is also recommended that individuals seek the guidance of a qualified psychological counselor, as this can facilitate the nourishment of interpersonal relationships.

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