Every day, we communicate via WeChat, and I feel my boyfriend is quite immature. What type of personality does he have?

Hello, host. I'm honored to answer your question. As described in the information, a friend introduced you to a guy. He's outgoing and cheerful, relatively short, and you talked for more than a month without meeting.

He maintains an air of mystery. I saw him once during Chinese New Year and felt that it was okay, so I confirmed the relationship.

It's fine. Long-distance relationships contact each other every day through WeChat. He has a childish personality and talks like a child.

It makes people feel insecure. He also refuses to talk about his previous relationships, insisting they are in the past.

He bought you a gift online a while ago. It's a gourd pendant.

I bought you a stuffed rabbit doll online. I'm sure you want everyone to analyze what kind of psychology these behaviors at this age belong to.

From this information, it is clear that you met through a friend's introduction and that you only know each other superficially. Despite establishing a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, it is still only a little closer than an ordinary friend relationship, and it has not reached the stage of dating or even being a couple.

You and your boyfriend are not in the first stage of a relationship, the sampling and evaluation stage. We chat on WeChat, exchange small gifts, assess where the other person is in our hearts, and how we view the relationship.

My boyfriend avoids talking about his past romantic experiences, and he is still very cautious. He says that the past and the present are really good, which is an excellent quality in a guy. And he's right.

He's concerned that your past emotional experiences might influence your perception of his outlook on life and values. This is also a clear indication of his caution.

From the information you have provided, it is clear that the guy is doing a decent job and there are no obvious shortcomings. It is evident that you are both a bit reserved and not very open with each other.

You need to decide how you judge and evaluate this relationship. If you want to promote the development of this relationship, you can appropriately return some gifts with sentimental value and increase the chances of meeting.

In-person conversations, unlike WeChat, where there are more emoticons and body language, will make people feel your presence more three-dimensionally. I am happy to have an appointment. 1983. The world and I love you!

Hello, I'm ZQ, a heart exploration coach from the Yixinli platform. I saw the gifts your boyfriend gave you and thought he was interesting.

You're over 30 and established. He's not a young boy, and you're not a young girl. He still gives plush toys, which are usually things young boys and girls like.

This may mean he is naïve, but it also means he is innocent. He doesn't have many dark thoughts. He may be able to handle some things himself and stay innocent.

He may also have some idealism in his heart. He thinks the world should be innocent and beautiful, but things won't always go his way.

The world is dark and realistic, which upsets him. You contact him via WeChat every day. He is outgoing and cheerful but treats you like a child.

He's still using the same way of making his girlfriend happy as he did when he was 18 or in his twenties. He hasn't learned new ways, kept up with the times, or realized that after 30, he should change his ways to get along with people better.

Some of his dating skills may not have been upgraded. This shows his heart is still innocent. He never mentions his previous relationships. This may show he was hurt by past events.

He's innocent and stubborn. He won't talk about his dark past until he's ready. Some things don't need to be shared.

If it will affect you in a big way, you should know.

But most people don't have dramatic plots. He doesn't want to talk about it because he was humiliated.

As a couple, you should choose to trust each other.

If you wait until he's ready to tell you about his past, he may not tell you. You can also say you're willing to listen. As a girlfriend, you may want to know more about him.

Why did you break up? This is important because it affects whether you can stay together long-term. You need to know where the other person is difficult.

Or it could be something you don't like. See if you can accept it. If you can't, you can part on good terms. So you have to make your attitude clear. Why do you want to know the other person's past?

You just want to know about the other person's past. You can also maintain an exploratory attitude and respect each other to improve your relationship. Good luck!

ZQ?

Hello! I'm Jia Ao, your Heart Exploration coach.

I read your problems on the platform. Are you having trouble in a relationship? You said a friend introduced you to a guy. You've been chatting with him over WeChat for more than a month. You feel his personality is childish. He acts like a child when you chat. You feel he's extremely insecure. He never mentions his previous relationships. He buys you gourd pendants and small fluffy bunny dolls online. You want to know what kind of guy he is.

It doesn't matter what kind of personality the other person has, as long as you get along and he is nice to you. Boys are often more childish than girls. He is still interested in you and will pick out gifts for you. You can still get to know each other better and nurture your relationship.

Help you analyze and sort things out:

1. Talk to each other.

The best way to communicate is to talk to your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel and what you want. Use better words to show him what you mean. Listen to him too. This will help you understand each other better.

2. Respect others

Childish behavior often shows a lack of respect and care for others. As his girlfriend, you can show him how to respect others through your words and actions. Do you feel that your partner is not thinking things through or acting childishly? You can help him understand the importance of respecting others. When he acts childishly, try to communicate with him patiently and remind him of the consequences. This will help him realize what the problems are. You can learn and improve together.

3. Give positive feedback.

Everyone has moments when they act childishly. This is related to their personality and approach. It is often linked to emotions such as inferiority, anxiety, and lack of confidence. When he shows mature and responsible behavior, give him positive encouragement and affirmation. When you encounter any problems, provide appropriate feedback. Constructive suggestions and support are the key to promoting your relationship.

4. Understand and support each other.

In your daily life together, encourage him more and support each other more. Learn and grow together, work hard to learn new skills, improve yourself, and participate in more meaningful activities. When he acts childishly, guide him and help him find more mature ways to do things. Learn from each other and make progress together.

I hope this helps. If you need to talk more, you can contact me on my personal website. The world and I love you.

Hello, I'm a heart exploration coach, and I'm happy to give you some advice.

From what you've told me, I think it's important to say that you should trust your instincts.

You've been in contact with this guy for over a month, so you have a good understanding of how he makes you feel.

You've come to see his character as childish, and I think you've already decided whether you like that about him. I'm just saying that at this age, you also hope to find the right person to be with day and night.

If all goes well and you have a good connection, you'd like to enter into a romantic relationship with him and walk down the aisle.

It's great you're asking us questions now. Getting married in love requires caution, and we really need to judge his character. Once you've weighed your options, you can decide whether to stay with him and what to do next.

First, he was introduced to you by a friend, and he is three years older than you. However, from what you've said, it seems like his psychological age is actually much younger than yours. He is obviously older than you, but he acts like a child.

This suggests that he may lack experience in relationships. It might also be worth looking into his family of origin in terms of relationships.

The following analysis will help you get a better understanding of the situation between you two.

First, he works in IT. We all know that men in IT tend to be more reserved, but you feel that he's outgoing and cheerful.

But then we see that when you didn't meet, he kept the photo a secret. He even told you that he locked himself in a dark room for a month. So is there a contradiction between what he did and how he acted?

Did he seem genuinely cheerful, or did he just keep emphasizing that he was cheerful? There's a difference between the two.

If he told you he's a very cheerful person, doing all kinds of things, I wouldn't rule out the opposite.

And he'd lock himself in a dark room. Did he say why? If someone can survive in the dark for a month, has there been a big change in their heart, or what kind of event has caused this behavior to appear?

The fact that he didn't give you his photo right away shows that he's not confident in his appearance or his physical appearance. Even if you think he seems nice on the surface, he's not confident.

So, you still need to think about whether his happy look is just an act or if he really is happy. Let's not jump to conclusions and decide he's just a happy person.

On top of that, he's also on the shorter side, and he's a '90s guy. At this age, his parents might be pushing him to get married, so he might have a harder time finding a girlfriend. It's possible that he has a psychological inferiority complex.

It's possible that he didn't give you a photo because he's not tall and thinks he looks average. Maybe he thought that made him mysterious.

Fortunately, after meeting him, you decided to pursue a relationship with him.

Right now, you're only communicating via WeChat, and being in different places will still be a test for you both.

The depth of a couple's relationship is often reflected in the frequency of meetings. We can't really perceive the emotional language of WeChat chats very well. We can only judge them based on the daily accumulation. Do you also have WeChat phone calls when you contact each other on WeChat? Or is most of it in the form of a voice message or text?

My advice would be to give it another try and get to know him better if you decide to do so after I've analysed his personality.

We still need to increase the chances of meeting. You're in different places, one in the south and one in the north, so the distance isn't too far, right? You're in the same city.

If you're both in the same city, there's a good chance you'll meet up. You could meet twice a week, or even three times a week, if you wanted.

Later on, depending on how your relationship goes, I think there'll be more face-to-face communication. If you decide to be with this person, it's important to get into a routine or make decisions about the future as soon as possible.

You need to think about how you can be in different places at the same time.

After that, you said he never mentioned his previous relationships and that he seemed insecure. When you talked, he treated you like a child.

Basically, how we act shows what we're thinking. If he treats you like a child, it means he's childish himself, or that he thinks girls need to be "coaxed" by him to be happy and make the other person feel like he's reliable.

He never mentioned his previous relationships, and there was no way for us to tell if he had any experience with relationships. So overall, this person presents a rather mysterious state of affairs. In order to more accurately determine what kind of person he is, we also need to re-match his actual behavior.

You also mentioned the gift you gave me. I think it's a good thing that you gave me a gift.

But giving you a gift is actually quite like spoiling a child. So, how do you tell him you don't like the gifts he gives you?

If you don't tell him directly what you like and how you want to be loved, he might keep treating you the way he thinks is appropriate. Can you accept that?

This is something you should start thinking about now and figure out.

So, what should he say? My advice would be for him to get to know the girl better, especially if they've only been together for a month or so.

In a relationship, it's important to remember your own needs, like what kind of gifts you like your partner to give you to make you happy. You can talk to your partner about what kind of daily communication you want to have in a relationship.

I'll be waiting for your reply. You can use the time to organize your thoughts, check out my personal homepage, and ask me any questions you have.

I wish you the best of luck.

The guy was born in 1990, works in IT, and is three years older than you. He is short. After chatting for more than a month, you met during Chinese New Year and confirmed your relationship. However, you can't be together because of distance.

You chat on WeChat every day. He seems childish and makes you happy. He lacks security and is reluctant to talk about his past. He said he locked himself in a dark room for a month.

He gave you a gourd pendant and a rabbit doll.

From these descriptions, we can identify some of this guy's psychological and behavioral characteristics. Here are some explanations and classifications:

1. Boyish type: He may still act childish and flirt to build intimacy.

2. He doesn't talk about the past: This may mean he's still hurting or disappointed. It could also be because he's still recovering or wants to move on from the past and focus on you.

3. Insecurity: He may be sending you gifts to show you how much he cares about you.

4. Mystery: He keeps the photo and makes you feel mysterious. This may be because he wants to maintain some personal space and a sense of distance.

The above explanation is only based on your information and may not be accurate. You cannot communicate with the boy directly. Everyone is different.

Talk to him more to understand why he acts the way he does.

Hello, I'm a heart detective coach. Life is a journey for blooming, not appreciation.

I'm happy to talk about this with you. What are the boy's character traits and style? You feel that his childishness and age-inappropriate behavior are strange as you get along with him.

Everyone has their own patterns.

For example, his attitude towards life, the way he interacts with the opposite sex, and the way he expresses his emotions. You also have your own judgment. You feel that he treats you like a child; the gifts he gives you are stuffed animals, which confirms your judgment: he is immature.

First, allow yourself to judge, at least as a reference. As you get to know each other, you'll understand each other better and can decide if you're right for each other.

Second, don't get stuck on such judgments. If you do, you'll miss chances to get to know him better and damage the relationship.

Finally, ask yourself if he's thinking about you. In his experience, girls need to be coaxed and like stuffed animals.

It's not about his taste.

Be honest about your feelings while watching how things change.

You say he's insecure. Is that based on what's happened? It's just a feeling, but it's worth looking into. Security affects relationships, marriages, families, and parent-child relationships.

2. We learn from our experiences.

You can't gain experience without going through it. Everything you experience helps you mature and grow.

Your views on past relationships differ. He avoids talking about them, saying they are in the past. You want to know more.

Everything has two sides. Sharing the past has advantages and disadvantages. I often worry that my boyfriend (girlfriend) has a former. Even if the former has long since gotten married and had children, I have made myself an invisible "third party."

Maybe you're a mature girl who can think for herself. You hope your partner is mature and stable, thoughtful, and insightful.

People are different, so we need to interact and communicate. The more we experience together, the better we will understand each other.

You can talk to your partner about your doubts, even joking about problems: "Do you treat me like a little girl?" Or, in your past relationships, did girls prefer stuffed animals?

The book "Psychological Nutrition" explains how to get along with people with different temperaments. It covers relationships at work, at home, and between parents and children.

I hope this helps. I love you.

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Hello, I'm Zeyu.

The questioner's doubts stem from differing perspectives on image.

Let's start with the boyfriend in the questioner's eyes. The feeling in the title, "feeling that my boyfriend's character is childish," is our evaluation of him. It's based on the impression and actions given to us by the other person. If we objectively describe the other person's actions, this kind of behavior is normal. The other person may have a different experience of girls and being childish.

The reality is that what the other person does gives us the impression that they are childish. This may be something that the other person deliberately creates or something that they genuinely show. This actually involves the difference between how I see you and how you see me. Perhaps what we do makes the other person identify with the need to act "childish" to cater to your needs, but in reality, we are the only ones who know what we really need. Similarly, we have an image of the other person in our eyes, and in the absence of actual contact, we can only fabricate an image based on the information we have.

If you want to break this pattern, you have to express your needs and ask your inner questions. This will help you get out of the trap of experience-based incomplete information and avoid falling into the trap of "I think you are this kind of person." You need to restore the true individual. Instead of trying to figure out what type of guy the other person is, you have to communicate with questions. You may not be able to understand each other right away, but you will get to know each other over time.

Good day.

You met a male colleague through a mutual acquaintance. You are of a similar age and personality, and both are employed. You met during the Chinese New Year holiday, recognized each other, and decided to become romantic partners and fall in love together.

You are engaged in a long-distance relationship, with one partner located in the south and the other in the north. You communicate with each other daily via WeChat.

You communicate on a daily basis, which indicates a high level of compatibility and a willingness to engage in conversation. From an objective standpoint, there is minimal cause for concern in your relationship. However, given that you have only been in a relationship for slightly over a month and are in a long-distance partnership, it is understandable that you may not have had sufficient time to gain a comprehensive understanding of each other.

It is often more challenging to discern a person's genuine sentiments through mere communication and interaction on WeChat.

It is important to note that women tend to rely on their feelings when interacting with others, whereas men may not have the same inclination. In this case, it seems that the individual in question treats the subject like a child, and his actions reflect a similar immaturity.

As an example, the gifts he provided, a gourd pendant and a small bunny doll, were perceived as overly feminine and not suitable for someone of your age or his.

Has this affected your overall perception of the relationship, prompting some reservations and a slight shift in perspective?

It is accurate to conclude that women are less likely to be attracted to men who display immaturity, as it conveys an impression of unreliability. However, it is not possible to accurately assess a man's character based on the gifts he offers. It is essential to gain a deeper understanding of him through further interaction.

You may also inquire about the rationale behind the gift and how he determined that such a small item would be of interest to you. This can facilitate enhanced communication and facilitate a deeper understanding of each other's preferences.

It is important to communicate with him to ascertain whether he is someone you can trust and rely on.

Your relationship is in its infancy, and this is the phase of mutual discovery and assessment. Initially, it was the outwardly appealing attributes that served as the primary bond.

At this stage, after interacting with each other, you will gain deeper insights into each other's long-standing habits and practices. You can make more informed decisions by observing the individual's thoughts and perceptions through their words and actions.

Being in love is experiencing an intimate relationship. Regardless of the outcome, it will facilitate a deeper understanding of each other and, most importantly, of ourselves, enabling us to identify our true needs. What qualities in a man are essential?

It is important to consider whether the qualities of the other person align with your own needs. Additionally, it is essential to assess how many of your romantic expectations will actually materialize in reality.

One of the most challenging aspects of personal development is recognizing one's own qualities and behaviors. To gain this insight, individuals often turn to relationships as mirrors, reflecting their inner selves.

We will gain insights into ourselves through our relationships and use them to drive progress and growth.

I would like to take this opportunity to extend my love and best wishes to you all. I would also like to encourage you to love yourself as well.

The behavior you describe may reflect certain character traits and psychological states. The gifts he gave you may indicate his desire to express care and love, while the choice of gifts may reflect a certain innocence or hope to establish a closer, more intimate relationship.

It is important to note that there are varying interpretations and preferences when it comes to gifts. It is possible that he views these gifts as a means of expressing a particular emotion he has for you.

His childish character may be related to his life experience, upbringing, or occupational characteristics. People in the IT industry often need to spend a lot of time on technology and innovation, which may lead to them being relatively simple or lacking social experience.

However, this does not necessarily indicate immaturity or an inability to take responsibility. Rather, it may be a reflection of certain behaviors that, in some instances, could give that impression.

He does not discuss past relationships, either because he wishes to concentrate on the present with you or because those experiences were so distressing that he does not wish to revisit them. However, this may also indicate a tendency to avoid dealing with emotional issues.

If you believe this is a significant issue, attempt to communicate with him in a more transparent and understanding manner to ascertain whether he is willing to divulge further information.

Overall, this individual may be outgoing and cheerful, but may also be sensitive and insecure. He may express his feelings for you through gifts and other means, but his behavior may be confusing.

If you have formed a romantic interest in this individual and wish to pursue a relationship with him, it would be beneficial to gain a deeper understanding of his personality and learn to communicate your feelings and expectations in a clear and assertive manner.