Every now and then, I have catastrophic thoughts. Am I depressed?

I can see that your fear is magnified, and if you don't stop thinking about it, you may continue to undermine yourself. From your description, I'm not sure what exactly made you feel so helpless, but it seems like you could benefit from some outside help. I hope my answer is helpful.

From your description, it seems that two particularly challenging moments during the confinement period were when your former leader asked you to take the blame and when your former female colleague went to prison.

It seems that these two incidents may have served as a catalyst for your sense of crisis over losing your job, as well as the "gloomy" future that followed your unemployment, and even the perceived "failure" and "tragic" ending of female entrepreneurship after losing your job.

It might be helpful to remember that none of these thoughts are real. They are just hypothetical speculations about the future, and they are all false.

Could I ask you to consider whether, when you think about things or look to the future, you are pessimistic or optimistic?

For instance, when something positive occurs, do you find yourself thinking, "I'm so fortunate," or do you experience feelings of unease and concern because you're unsure if positive events can happen to you?

It would be beneficial for women during the confinement period, when they are physically weak and prone to negative emotions for physiological reasons, to receive more care from their families. For individuals, it would be helpful to pay attention to rest and adjust their emotions.

It is understandable that during confinement, unpleasant thoughts may arise. Have you considered discussing these with your family?

Sometimes I try to push back against these thoughts, and sometimes I allow them to take over. Now that a year has passed, I still occasionally think about my female colleague in prison and wonder what happened to her child.

Sometimes when I see some negative news (such as a child being injured), I find myself wondering what I would do if something similar happened to me, and what would happen to my child? Could this be a sign that I am depressed?

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It can be challenging to let go of negative thoughts. Even after a year, you may still occasionally worry about the situation of your female colleague's child. This is understandable, as it's natural to speculate about the potential outcomes of such situations. When you see news about "the child being injured," your first reaction may be as if it has happened to you. It's important to recognize that excessive worry may stem from inner unease.

It might be helpful to imagine that you are in a safe and comfortable environment, free to run and do whatever you want. Imagine that you are comfortable and at peace.

It would be beneficial for you to calm your mind and restore peace and tranquility. You might find it helpful to go close to nature, listen to a song, read a book, and learn to enjoy being alone to help you calm down.

I hope you can find your old self again and let all those dark clouds go to hell! If you feel you need help to adjust, I suggest you actively seek help, talk to someone you trust, do more of the things you like, and seek professional help!

I would like to extend my love and appreciation to the world and to you!

Hello!

It's totally normal to have some depressive moods during this special period of childbearing. It's also normal to have some unhappy events and negative thoughts. But don't worry! These things don't have to bring you pain and depression. Hug!

I can see that you have a strong awareness of your emotions, which is a great resource for you! Awareness is the first step to change, so you're already on the right track.

It's time to pay attention to your own thinking and emotional patterns and consciously adjust them!

Use your good sense to pay attention to what patterns exist in your thinking and emotions, and at what points you are likely to fall into pessimism and depression. The next time you encounter such a trigger, consciously remind yourself to pay more attention and not return to the old path of negative thinking. You've got this!

It's time to consciously adjust your perceptions!

The great news is that perception affects our behavior and emotions. This means that we can make some simple adjustments to our perception and watch as our thinking, behavior, and emotions improve!

It's so empowering to know that you're only responsible for your own actions, not for the mistakes of others! Take, for instance, that female colleague who committed a crime and went to prison. Even though you feel sympathy for her, her situation has nothing to do with you.

Including those negative news online, they actually have nothing to do with you. You don't need to take responsibility for things that are not related to you. Mentally, distinguish between other people's affairs and your own affairs. You don't need to advance your worries and fears for troubles that haven't come yet. Instead, focus on the positive!

Keep yourself occupied and busy!

You can avoid depressive emotions by planning your daily life well! As a new mother, you have so much to keep you busy. Take care of yourself, take on the responsibility of being a mother, learn some parenting knowledge, and devote more energy and attention to your child.

For example, you can easily fit exercise, meditation, and parenting knowledge into your daily schedule. You can also take on some household chores when you have time. Make more connections and interactions with your family. You'll be amazed at how much these things can help you feel content and full of joy!

And there's more! You can also learn some knowledge of psychology, especially methods of regulating emotions.

There are so many great ways to adjust your emotions based on awareness! For example, you can talk it out with your husband or best friend about your inner worries and negative emotions. This can be really therapeutic! You can also try exercise, music therapy, or sunlight therapy. Regular exercise, listening to your favorite music, and getting some sun can all help you digest negative emotions and feel positive!

There are so many great ways to adjust your emotions! Breathing exercises, mindfulness meditation, hypnosis, etc. are all fantastic options. You have a great sense of awareness, and learning to adjust on the basis of awareness and slowly cultivating a good emotional pattern will help change your thinking patterns.

I really hope you are well!

I really hope that Hongyu's reply helps you! Thank you so much for asking!

Good day, question asker.

This is not depression, but rather anxiety and restlessness, which manifests as a tendency to repeatedly think about and worry about bad things happening. It is also accompanied by a sense of being unable to control this worrying thought, as well as a bit of a tendency to obsess.

You have concerns about the potential for unexpected or catastrophic events to occur in your life, which could result in misfortune and disaster. Additionally, you feel that your life may not be as smooth and happy as you hope.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that this automatic thought may have arisen from a number of different psychological thoughts, feelings and desires. It may be beneficial to explore these in more depth in order to gain a deeper understanding of the underlying issues.

We all hope that our lives will be smooth, without too many troubles and accidents. We understand that these can drain our energy and make it stressful for us to deal with. Sometimes, we may not be sure that the outcome will be good.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that there might be other factors at play here.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that this fear of something bad happening is an idea that the mind cannot control and occurs automatically. It may be beneficial to explore the thoughts and ideas behind this automatic thinking. Behind this automatic thinking, there are psychological thoughts, feelings, and desires.

It might be helpful to consider that this fear of something bad happening is an idea that the mind cannot control and occurs automatically. While it is not always sufficient to simply suppress, resist, ignore, or rationally convince yourself, it could be beneficial to explore the thoughts and ideas behind this automatic thinking. Behind this automatic thinking, there may be psychological thoughts, feelings, and desires.

Perhaps the first step would be to accept that there is such an automatic thought.

During the period of confinement, the impact of the two incidents was significant, prompting a great deal of reflection and concern about being held accountable once more and the fate of the female colleague who was incarcerated and her child. A year later, while some of these concerns have diminished, residual traces remain.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to examine the psychological implications of this automatic thought from a place of acceptance.

Context:

When you think about this female colleague, you worry about what will happen to her child. This shows that you are a caring person with compassion, and not indifferent. That colleague is in prison, so her child definitely can't live with her mother anymore, and someone else must be taking care of the child. After all, a mother is a mother, and no one can ever replace the role of a mother.

You are concerned that the child's current care arrangements may not be optimal and that the child may experience sadness or difficulties without the nurturing presence of a mother.

You feel a sense of compassion for the child and a degree of empathy for their situation.

I believe that deep down, you may be sympathetic to others and may have experienced a great deal yourself. It is natural to want to avoid suffering and to hope that children are loved. It is difficult to bear witness to a child's suffering and to the loss of their mother's care.

As a mother, you feel a deep sense of responsibility to love and care for your child. It is natural to want to protect them from suffering and ensure their well-being. You strive to provide a safe and nurturing environment for your child, hoping to avoid any challenges or difficulties. If your child faces difficulties, it would be difficult for you to cope.

It is possible that, deep down, you want to protect your child from suffering. It might be the case that, for some mothers, children are safe and happy.

It is unfortunate when a child does not have the benefit of a mother's care.

Your concern about your colleague's child seems to reflect your own expectations of the role of a mother, your relationship with your child, your views and perceptions of parenting, and your sympathy and compassion for children who have suffered.

It might also be the case that your perception of the pain you endured and encountered when you were a child is reflected here.

It might be helpful to consider that there is bound to be pain in life. Although we all try to avoid it, pain cannot be eliminated. Your attitude and perception of pain determine how you digest and face your own pain. As a mother, you might find it difficult to imagine how you would face it if something happened to your child, and how your child would bear it. It is possible that you would not be able to bear it. This pain will strike your tender heart,

This may also be influenced by your personal growth experience and the circumstances surrounding the parental love you received.

Please take some time to reflect on this and see if you can identify any potential insights.

3. It is inevitable that we will experience pain in our lives. While we all try to avoid it, pain is a part of life that we cannot eliminate.

Your attitude and perception of pain play an important role in how you process and respond to your own pain.

As a mother, it is difficult to imagine how you would cope if something happened to your child, and how your child would handle it. It is a situation that is hard to contemplate.

It is possible that this pain may strike your tender heart, and that you may find it challenging to face it.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that pain is an inevitable part of life. As a mother, you have the capacity to accept pain, and to accept the inevitable pain that you and your child will face.

In the face of pain, it is important to accept it as an inevitable part of life.

It may be the case that suffering is not always bad or unfortunate. Birth, aging, sickness, and death are the natural laws of life, and we can only accept them.

It is important to accept that life is full of challenges, including pain, rejection, neglect, bad luck, and financial difficulties.

Life is often challenging, and there will always be obstacles to overcome.

Setbacks can have two sides. Some may help us mature, while others may make us question our assumptions about the outside world. Still, some setbacks can even make us braver and more confident in our ability to adapt to our environment.

Fourth, it may be helpful to accept whatever life gives you, go with the flow, and do your best to play your role. This could be a valuable approach to try if you feel able to do so.

Given the unpredictable nature of life, it may be best to simply accept what comes our way.

It may be helpful to accept and face what we cannot control, gradually digesting the pain.

If it is of benefit to you, you may wish to consider chatting with others in your spare time, as a way of relieving your worries and anxieties.

2. It would be beneficial to determine your own life more, judge your own life situation, and ensure the safety and protection of you and your children.

3. In the unfortunate event of an accident, it can be handled.

4. It is not always possible to control other people and the world, and we must accept that things change.

5. As your child grows and develops, you may find that they are better equipped to cope with the challenges that arise. This can contribute to a sense of greater ease and comfort within the family unit.

Hello, question owner!

It's totally normal to have some uncontrollable thoughts that you don't want to accept. It can make you feel anxious and restless, but you're not alone! It's been hard, but you've got this!

Let's explore together and find some amazing resources to restore a sense of peace in life!

[1] Go to a professional source for help. A scientific diagnosis will put your mind at ease!

It's been a year, and the experiences during the postpartum period often come to mind, and can make you feel bad. But you can beat this! Be self-aware for a moment.

— It would be great to know if these kinds of associations occur frequently over a period of more than a year!

— I'm excited to hear more about how these thoughts affect your life and work when they occur!

If there is an impact, how does it usually manifest?

The good news is that most people experience depressed moods at certain times. This is especially true if you have experienced two major events after giving birth, as these can easily trigger depressed moods. However, there's no need to worry because depression is an emotional disorder that can be assessed from various aspects such as mood, interest, diet, weight, sleep, sense of value, cognitive impairment, self-injury, etc. In addition, the duration of symptoms and the degree of functional impairment can also be taken into account. The best part is that only scientific judgment can determine whether you are depressed.

You can self-reflect based on the previous questions and learn about how depression is diagnosed. You can also do a self-assessment, but since you are particularly curious about whether you are depressed and seem to be experiencing anxiety about not getting an accurate diagnosis, then you should definitely seek help from a professional psychiatrist and get a diagnosis!

You might feel a little anxious when a lot is going on, but you'll feel so much better when everything is settled! So, why not seek reassurance through professional channels?

[2] Come back to the present! Use the grounding technique and feel the safety of reality.

I can imagine how it feels when you are once again caught up in associations, when you draw negative news to yourself. It must be very stressful, anxious, and even give rise to fear. But don't worry! There are ways to overcome these challenges and regain your sense of safety and well-being.

It may be impossible to eliminate these phenomena for the time being, but there is a way to get back to a place of safety! When you become aware of their existence, you can use grounding techniques to return to the present and feel safe.

— You can ask yourself to describe the things you can see at this moment, and to describe the details carefully.

— And the great news is that you can connect with the people you can connect with in the present in various ways, such as your children and husband!

You can even take the time to objectively evaluate the cause of the accident of that female colleague and clarify the facts that you are different from her!

This kind of behavior will promptly bring you back to the present, so that you can truly feel that in the real world you are safe, and that this is a safety that can be felt immediately. Use its tangible power to reduce the insecurity associated with bad images.

[3] Focus on the positive aspects of life to keep the "law of attraction" going strong!

It's true that sometimes, unpleasant things will come your way. But remember, the world is a big, beautiful place, and while there are some not-so-great things out there, there are also lots of amazing, positive things to discover!

And what if we consciously focus on the positive?

For example, does your baby often bring you happiness?

For example, does the strong support of your family make you forget the shadow of "dismissal"? Absolutely!

— For example, what things have recently brought you a sense of satisfaction and happiness?

— For example, what kind of things can make you feel peaceful and focused?

When we focus on the positive, the law of attraction will magically guide us to face the gloom of life with unparalleled optimism!

I love you, world! You are in a safe environment, so let's boldly love the world and love ourselves!

Hello, landlord! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

I promise you, this is not depression. If it were, it would be characterized by low mood, lack of interest, and reduced willpower. We don't need to label ourselves with certain psychological problems. In fact, as long as we make some adjustments, we won't be bothered by these problems and will be able to live more easily.

I really want to help you, so here's my advice:

The great news is that our thoughts can be changed!

It's totally normal to have lots of negative thoughts when you're feeling nervous. It's just your mind trying to tell you something! But don't worry, things are not as bad as you think. Thoughts are just thoughts, and they can be changed.

You can absolutely clear away negative thinking patterns and establish positive ones through your own efforts. I promise you, slowly but surely, you will get out of your predicament and get better and better.

It's so important to remember that what you're thinking right now are just thoughts. Thoughts aren't facts, they're not real. But you can change them! Make some positive adjustments to your thoughts, and you'll feel a world of difference.

It's okay to have these thoughts, but try not to reinforce them. Accepting them is the first step to moving on.

Everything in the world follows this wonderful law: birth, change, and end.

It's totally normal to have some strange, scary, or negative thoughts pop up now and then. These are our little distracting thoughts, and just like emotions, they go through a process from start to finish. If you accept that they're there, know that they're just meaningless "distracting thoughts," and ignore them, they won't affect you and will soon disappear.

On the other hand, if you pay attention to it, argue with it, etc., then you'll be bound by it. It'll never be possible to end it.

So, my advice to you is to just go with the flow and do what you need to do.

It's so important to remember that these distracting thoughts are just a natural part of life. While we're trying to go with the flow, it's good to focus on the things we need to do, like work, study, chat, and so on.

I know it can be tough at first. Maybe your distracting thoughts will still cause you pain at first, but I promise you, if you believe that they will naturally disappear in time and work hard to do the things you should be doing in real life, then those distracting thoughts and emotions will disappear without you even noticing as you get down to business.

3. Be kind to yourself and give your emotions a chance to release and relieve themselves when the time is right.

It's possible that you've got a lot of emotions inside you that you haven't released yet. This can make you act in repetitive ways. It's important to remember that your emotions are not something to be suppressed. If you suppress them, they will find a way to come out in a more intense way.

There are so many ways you can release your emotions!

It's so important to have good friends to turn to when you're feeling down. Look for people who can support you and encourage you, who you feel comfortable with, and who you can really connect with. Having a good support system in place is so helpful!

It's so important to take care of your body and mind! Try going for a walk, playing sports, or doing something else you enjoy. Not only will you relax, but you'll also get your physical fitness in shape!

● Try writing therapy! It's a great way to express all your inner feelings and thoughts on paper. Don't worry about whether your handwriting is clear and neat, or about the logic of the content. Just go ahead and express yourself!

Sometimes, we all get angry. It's okay to feel that way! But, there are ways to release that anger in a healthy way. One way is to punch a pillow or sandbag to release your anger by hitting a soft object.

Another great technique is the empty chair technique. All you have to do is place an empty chair in the room, sit down in it, and then let it be your confidant. You can even express yourself to the chair if you want to, whether it's anger or abuse.

4. Always give yourself a little pep talk! Or, if you're feeling down, try swapping out those negative thoughts for some positive ones.

The Pygmalion effect is a great reminder that we tend to get what we expect, not necessarily what we want. It's all about having the right expectations!

So, when you can adjust your beliefs to a positive mode, you'll find that in real life you'll pay more attention to the positive and beautiful aspects, rather than always being entangled and troubled by negative information.

So, remember to tell yourself: "Female colleagues are female colleagues, others are others, I am me, I am safe, and everything is the best arrangement..."

I really hope this helps! Wishing you all the best!

Good morning. I am a mother and I empathize with your situation. I am Little Flying Fish Floater, a psychological counseling intern. I am here to help you analyze your problem and provide advice.

I hope this information is useful to you.

1. The former department leader requested that you assume responsibility for the situation.

Please describe the nature of the blame placed on you by the former department leader and the impact it had on you. Did you accept responsibility for the situation?

It is not uncommon for individuals to experience exploitation and injustice in the workplace, including having their work taken away. This is a prevalent issue. Given your recent pregnancy and associated emotional challenges, including endocrine disorders and sensitivity to mood, you may be particularly concerned about this matter.

Furthermore, you have also suffered substantial harm because of the blame. The last time you took the blame, you lost your job, which I believe was a position you particularly enjoyed. This is why you were willing to take responsibility at work, suffer in silence, and continue to work here. Unfortunately, things didn't go as planned, because this time you lost your job because of the blame, which was unexpected. This has left psychological trauma in your mind, which you didn't feel.

Due to the distress caused by the leader's request for you to take responsibility, it is likely that you are experiencing a heightened level of discomfort. It would be beneficial to move forward from this incident and focus on addressing the consequences and potential compensation.

The former department leader has the option of refusing to take the blame if they so choose. Financial losses are not a concern in this situation; the focus is on maintaining the physical and mental well-being of the individual.

2. I am writing to inquire about the circumstances surrounding the imprisonment of a former colleague for starting his own business.

From your account, it is evident that you and the former colleague had a cordial relationship. However, you only received the news from a third party that she had been incarcerated. You are unaware of the circumstances surrounding this event, but the emotional impact of receiving such information at this time was significant. It is essential to approach this matter with a logical and objective perspective. Initially, it is crucial to ascertain the veracity of this information before formulating any plans.

You are currently breastfeeding, and since you heard about your former colleague, you may wish to arrange a meeting with her to discuss the situation. Alternatively, you could visit her child and ask her family about what's going on. Once you have established the facts, if you are willing to help, you may wish to offer assistance. If there is nothing you can do, I believe that taking this step will help to alleviate your concerns.

Apart from being colleagues, you and she are also mothers now, and you have just given birth not long ago, which is when maternal love is at its most overwhelming. At this time, you can treat anyone's child as if it were your own.

Upon learning that your former colleague had been imprisoned, your initial concern was for his child, who is still young, and the potential impact of his imprisonment on the child.

With regard to your former colleague, it would be more prudent to express concern for his child. It would be beneficial to consider this matter from your own perspective. Would you say that this is the case?

3. Are you concerned about your child and those close to you, and are you experiencing anxiety about potential negative events? Could this be indicative of postpartum depression?

I extend my best wishes to you on the occasion of your one-year anniversary since returning to work following your maternity leave. It is important to recognize that pregnancy and breastfeeding can evoke a range of emotions, some of which may manifest as postpartum depression. However, I am encouraged by the fact that your situation does not appear to be a cause for concern. It is possible that a shift in your perspective could help alleviate these feelings and facilitate a gradual recovery. In some cases, a single counseling session may be sufficient to achieve this.

When you see negative news, you associate it with your children and family. What if something like this happens to them? After considering these possibilities, do not allow your own thoughts to spiral into a negative narrative. If something bad happens, are you prepared to deal with it? For example, can you save your family with your financial ability? If you are financially comfortable, then what is there to be afraid of?

It is recommended that you address the issue directly. Accept the possibility and prepare for it, and you will be better equipped to handle it. What are your thoughts on this matter?

As the adage goes, "A mother worries about her child even when he is thousands of miles away." You are currently concerned about your child, and your affection for your child is such that you are also concerned about your family and friends. This is an expression of maternal love. As your child matures, this situation will gradually subside with physical and mental adaptation. This is a typical response for mothers who breastfeed, so there is no cause for concern. Some mothers will experience this kind of emotion for the duration of their lives, which is an indication of postpartum depression. You are nearing the conclusion of this phase, so it is advisable to approach it with an open mind.

When you encounter negative news or engage in unproductive thinking, take a brief respite by contacting your family to inquire about your children's well-being. This simple act can provide a sense of reassurance and help you overcome the negative thoughts. After the call, remind yourself of your children's current location and activities. They are doing well. This approach can prevent the onset of a negative mood and help you maintain a positive outlook. If the phone conversation does not provide the desired effect, consider switching to a video call.

You may wish to try this approach. Should you not experience relief within a reasonable timeframe, we would advise you to seek the guidance of a qualified counselor. We hope this method proves effective for you.

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Hello, You seem confused and scared. What's wrong?

1. These two things hit me hard. I just gave birth, so I wasn't in a good place. I didn't have a job and had a lot of free time.

Then I asked myself, "Am I going to get fired again?"

Since you had just given birth, you were feeling very low. This was the time to rest and recover.

But at this time, you learned about what happened at work, which made you feel bad.

You have good awareness.

2. I wonder if I'll be fired again. This has happened before.

It's hard to think of my female colleague in prison sometimes. I imagine what would happen to her child if something happened to me or someone close to me. Sometimes I fight against it, and sometimes I just let the thoughts go.

Now that a year has passed, I still think about my colleague in prison and her child.

Have you talked to yourself about your worries? Have they really happened? You don't know what happened to your colleague in prison. Why are you worried?

Will this happen in reality? A year has passed, and everything has settled down. You worry about her children. You're a very empathetic mother, so you worry about her situation.

Accept your emotions, believe she will get out of this, and if you're worried about her child, express your concern and offer help.

3. Sometimes when I see bad news, I think about what would happen if it happened to me.

This is a common problem. I used to have it too! It might just be that our thoughts are negative, which makes us anxious. Can we think more positively? It might help.

Try these methods to resolve your thoughts:

A: Talk to family and friends. Talking about your worries can help.

B. Do things you like, go shopping, take your kids outside, watch movies, etc. This will help you relax.

C. Exercise relieves anxiety and makes you healthier. Try it.

D. Movies, music, etc. help relax our minds.

You're not really depressed. Don't scare yourself. You can get rid of these bad thoughts by changing your mindset.

I hope my answer helps. If you still feel unable to let go, see a professional!

I love you!