Facing the change of "elite class" to "experimental class", should people have a "sense of shame" about changing classes?

Hello, questioner. I'm sure.

Your feelings have been changing a lot. This is because of things inside you and things outside you.

Asking for help makes you feel ashamed.

?1. You said that your junior high grades were good enough for a good high school, but your grades were low in the elite class.

This inferiority complex comes from comparing your grades with others'. We humans love to compare, hoping to find superiority. When that's not satisfied, an inferiority complex arises.

Your grades are in the bottom half of the class.

Most people want to excel and be admired. But being able to accept that you are an ordinary person is also a lesson in life.

You were disappointed at being reassigned to the experimental class, but it was more suitable.

The experimental class helped you learn more calmly and easily.

I think your inferiority complex has gone.

3. You said, "If someone else's words make you feel ashamed, does changing classes and being demoted make you feel ashamed too?"

There is no one right answer. Everyone thinks differently.

If you speak without thinking, others listen. You may think others are careless, but you take their words to heart. This shows you care about what others think.

If others don't approve of you, you'll feel inferior and ashamed. We've all been there.

We all want to be liked. But when we demand that we remain liked all the time, we will feel pressure and discomfort.

We will feel conflicted.

It's important to find a class that suits your learning pace. Keep your goal in mind and don't be arrogant or impatient.

Turn shame into motivation to learn and get good grades on the middle school entrance exam. Those who don't care will become valuable people.

Believe in yourself! The world loves you! ?

Hello!

There's a bit of a psychological drop in status from elite to experimental classes, but it feels more appropriate. However, you feel a sense of shame because of the unintentional words of others. But at the same time, you don't seem to agree with this view.

So, coming to the psychological platform to ask this question seems to be looking for a definitive answer.

So, first of all, let me give you a hug! Let's look at this together:

Why should you feel ashamed?

People feel ashamed because they think they've done something wrong and are embarrassed to face themselves and others. I don't know what other people are saying.

I can tell that these unintentional words have made you feel like "if you don't feel ashamed of being demoted to a lower class, it seems like you really don't know how to feel ashamed." It's like you feel ashamed, as if you really don't know how to feel ashamed.

First of all, you haven't done anything wrong. This is just how the school is set up, and it's not something you can control.

Secondly, there is nothing wrong with you. From the elite class to the experimental class, it seems that the lower the ranking, the more shameful it is.

But in reality, whether it's an elite class, an experimental class, or a so-called less competitive regular class, they're all just artificial divisions. In an elite class, there might be a difference in educational resources or a shift in the learning atmosphere, but an elite class might not be the best fit for everyone.

As you mentioned yourself, it's a bit of a letdown, but it seems like a better fit for you. The school's arrangement is actually a better fit for you.

You haven't done anything wrong, and there's nothing wrong with you, so why do you feel ashamed?

You haven't done anything wrong, and there's nothing bad about you, so why do you feel ashamed?

On the other hand, this sense of shame can also inspire you to study with a certain degree of motivation in the future. However, there is also a high possibility that it will become a burden on you, preventing you from letting go and studying with ease. This is not a good thing for your studies in the next three years of high school.

What are your thoughts on other people's careless remarks?

Your shame comes from other people, and even though it was an unintentional remark, you were still affected. This shows that you're still somewhat susceptible to the influence of others.

But, my child, I want to tell you: to judge whether something is good or bad, right or wrong, how to choose, etc., we have to look at the results it brings us, not what others say or think. Whether intentional or unintentional, we should not pay too much attention to other people's opinions and statements. Living in other people's opinions and statements will easily make us lose ourselves.

Everyone has their own opinion and the freedom to express it. We can't control what other people say, but we can choose to let it go without letting it affect us.

Why let the shame of someone else's careless words get in the way of the next three great years of high school?

I hope my analysis is helpful to you. Best regards, [Name]

Hi there,

I can see that you feel a bit ashamed about your academic performance. We all feel this way at one point or another. Once we've achieved success, we'll feel this way again when we fall. It's normal to care about what others think, so I understand how you feel.

Shame is something we all experience in our relationships with others. It could be that I'm afraid of what other people think of me, or even of their comments about my appearance. All of these are examples of how shame can manifest itself in our lives.

My advice is:

1. Learn to prioritize tasks.

In this situation, it's important to recognize our own strengths and weaknesses. What others think of us isn't as important. We should evaluate our current abilities objectively, learn from others' strengths to compensate for our weaknesses, and take responsibility for our own actions.

2. Give yourself a confidence boost.

It's possible that your grades have made it difficult for you to maintain confidence in yourself, which has led to feelings of shame and negativity. This suggests that we need to work on improving our self-confidence and inner strength.

3. Take a step back and think about why your grades have gone down.

It could be that someone else has worked really hard to get ahead of you, or it could be that you have certain learning deficiencies that have led to this problem. We need to see our own shortcomings and deficiencies, actively correct what we see we should learn, and focus on key knowledge. If we do that, our grades will gradually improve.

At the end of the day, feeling ashamed is something we all have to deal with. The good news is that we don't have to worry about what other people think. We just need to have confidence in ourselves, be aware of ourselves, and examine ourselves. We should focus on our strengths and build on them, and work on our weaknesses so we can correct them and boost our confidence.