Fall in love with someone you know is impossible, and go crazy when you get rejected?

Hello! I'm Jia Ao.

I understand your feelings. Love is unreasonable. You love someone you know is impossible to be with. After his rejection, you feel anxious. You know there is no future, but you can't let go.

You were confident but started pestering him. You didn't know if he liked you, what to do with him, or what to do in the future. You were confused, right?

What's next for this relationship?

Let me help you analyze and sort it out.

If you like someone who you know is impossible, how do you feel after being rejected?

Listen to your heart.

There's nothing wrong with liking someone, but it's painful when it's impossible. I don't know why you're not together. Was it external factors or a problem between you? You care about him and can't leave him.

You know it's impossible, but you still pursue them. How much do you love them? Ask yourself: do you want to continue or let go?

[Stay calm and think clearly]

Stay calm and objective. Figure out why she rejected you and how she usually feels about you. You can keep holding on, but she has to be worth it.

She's rejected you. There's no way it can work out. Why keep pestering her? Do you hope she'll change her mind? Figure this out. Then win her back. Don't be too cruel to yourself.

[Learn to stop in time]

If you feel sad and lost after being rejected, cry and let out your negative emotions. In the future, try to let go slowly. If you obsess, you'll only make yourself miserable. Neither you nor he will be happy.

Two-way love is the best. One-sided love is sad. If you cling to it, you dwell on the past and get hurt. Learning to let go is the first step to finding happiness again. You've lost someone who doesn't love you. He's lost the whole world.

Let out your negative emotions.

You will be sad and upset. You cared about him and liked him, but he doesn't want to be with you. You don't have a future together. These words are harsh, but they are better than constantly hurting you.

If you want to cry, cry. Sing in a karaoke bar or go on a big meal spree. Food can heal you. If that doesn't work, take a spontaneous trip or go for a walk. Your mood will improve.

Love yourself.

Love yourself! No matter what happens, you must love yourself first. It doesn't matter if others don't love you back.

Don't hurt yourself for someone who doesn't deserve it. It's pointless. No matter how much you do, the other person won't appreciate it. Don't just impress yourself. Treat yourself well!

I hope my answer helps. I love you!

Greetings,

Host:

I have carefully read the post and can discern the complex emotions you are currently experiencing from the content. Additionally, I note that you have courageously articulated your distress and proactively sought assistance on this platform, which will undoubtedly facilitate a deeper understanding of yourself and enable you to make adjustments and choices that align with your needs and preferences.

Subsequently, I will present my observations and thoughts from the aforementioned post, which may assist the poster in developing a more nuanced perspective.

1. What is the psychological significance of rejection?

In the original post, the author indicated that they had developed feelings for someone they knew was not possible to be with. Following the rejection, the author experienced a significant emotional response. Had they been aware of the hopelessness of the situation, they would not have persisted in contacting the individual. Instead, they suggested maintaining a friendship. However, they continued to pursue a romantic relationship, which ultimately led to distress and a sense of self-loathing. The author also reported feelings of anxiety and an inability to stop thinking about the individual.

After reading this information, I initially comprehend the host's anxiety and longing. Concurrently, I am intrigued by the host's behavior and inquire as to the underlying cause of this abnormality in response to rejection.

What is the psychological significance of this rejection?

Such an investigation may assist the poster in gaining a deeper comprehension of one's emotional state and inner self.

For many individuals, rejection elicits feelings of anxiety due to the fear of ultimate loss. This can manifest as a desire to reconnect with the rejected individual. Some may even experience a sense of value frustration following a rejection. Therefore, it is essential for the poster to examine the personal significance of rejection.

2. If he is interested in you, what are the implications for you?

In the aforementioned post, the host indicated that I believe this is due to my perception of interest from the individual in question, as evidenced by certain details that I am currently uncertain about. I am now faced with the decision of whether to ascertain the veracity of this interest and subsequently determine whether to pursue the matter further (I do not seek a definitive outcome, merely the process), or to abandon the pursuit outright.

From the information provided, it can be surmised that the primary interest of the host is whether he is interested in you. Therefore, it would be beneficial to engage in a discussion and exploration of this topic.

From this information, it seems that the one thing the host is concerned with is whether he is interested in you. Therefore, it is important to consider what his rejection signifies. Is it possible that he rejected you for practical reasons, rather than because he does not like you?

If the individual in question is interested in the subject, what implications does this have for the subject?

Does this make you feel desperate? If he has a crush on you, how do you feel about that?

Furthermore, if the host is interested in the subject, it would be beneficial to ascertain which needs he is fulfilling. It is likely that through this process, the subject will gain a deeper understanding of their own emotional state.

3. Further study is required.

It is possible that the host may not be able to provide a straightforward solution to this problem. Consequently, it may be beneficial to consider what can be done for oneself in this situation. It seems plausible that the host may attempt to redirect one's attention back onto oneself, utilising the current confusion as an opportunity for introspection and personal growth.

It may be the case that we currently lack the requisite knowledge and abilities to solve this problem. Consequently, it would be prudent to redirect our attention towards self-reflection. This approach allows us to temporarily cease pestering the other party while maintaining a certain degree of distance. Additionally, it affords us the opportunity to enhance our own personal growth. One avenue for doing so is through the acquisition of knowledge about the psychology of intimate relationships.

Additionally, there are courses available. Should you be interested, you are encouraged to peruse the book Intimacy, authored by Mr. Huang Qituan. Should you have the financial resources, you are also advised to seek the counsel of a professional psychological counselor, entrusting the resolution of professional issues to the expertise of such professionals.

In conclusion, it is my hope that these resources will prove beneficial and inspirational to you. I am a coach at One Psychological Exploration.

Should you have any further queries, you are invited to click on the "Find a Coach" option, which will enable you to engage in a one-to-one discussion with a coach in order to gain a deeper insight and more effective assistance.

Hello!

The question shows a self-contradiction. The confident self believes in pursuing happiness, but a part of the heart is shaken by reality. There is a sense of inferiority and a lack of insight into true inner feelings.

I don't know how old the questioner is.

People feel different things at different ages. This is why women's choices change after they mature. Experiencing different things changes feelings. The questioner doesn't know themselves well. Otherwise, they wouldn't have doubts and conflicts in an impossible relationship.

Try to understand yourself and read your emotions.

Every girl's emotional journey is like a sailboat. She starts by accident and encounters difficulties. She may feel overwhelmed and unable to think calmly.

To help yourself, understand your emotions and get to know yourself. Then you can grasp a relationship and deal with crises.

Secondly, get to know the other person before making a choice.

Rejection often makes us angry or anxious because it feels like we're not good enough. But if we think about it rationally, we can see that rejection is also a sign of incompetence.

If we can't handle a job, we'll "refuse" a promotion. If we can't afford something, we'll "refuse" to buy it. Life requires us to act according to our means. Similarly, in relationships, we may encounter "rejection." This just shows that the two of you aren't a good match. Maybe you have incompatible personalities, or perhaps your family values are incompatible.

So, is the person who rejected him or her to blame? I have to take responsibility for my own feelings. Rejection can make us feel angry, sad, or confused. We need to stay calm, think clearly, and then look at the problem again. Only by figuring out who the problem belongs to can we truly resolve it.

Be confident and encourage yourself.

The questioner realizes that rejection is related to self-esteem. He is confident in life and mentions his career and hobbies. However, he is not confident in relationships. Is he really confident?

When we talk about confidence, we often mean a person's inner confidence. This is believing in one's own value, accepting oneself, and being able to accept oneself. Therefore, although we may appear confident, if we dig deep, we can touch upon inferiority. This is whether a person truly appreciates themselves.

Even when faced with rejection, you can speak up for yourself and appreciate yourself. This is usually related to internal approval, not external conditions.

I wish you happiness.

Good morning. I extend my support and encouragement to you from a distance.

I am pleased to see that you have requested assistance and I hope that my input will provide you with the support and guidance you require. I also wish to commend you for your awareness of the inappropriate behaviour you exhibit when you are infatuated with someone. Awareness is the first step towards positive change.

It is often the case that our preferences and dislikes regarding the emotions and feelings of others are influenced by the external projection of similar emotions and feelings within ourselves. That is to say, the aspect of this person that elicits a particular infatuation may be something you also possess, or it may be a part of you that you lack. In other words, he is embodying that aspect of yourself that you have not yet fully actualized within yourself.

It would be beneficial to identify the aspects of the individual that you find appealing and consider how you can enhance these aspects and express them more effectively through your own learning and growth. For instance, developing interests and passions for yourself and seeking out connections with individuals who share your interests can help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself, recognize your strengths and weaknesses, and evaluate your suitability for specific roles. This process can also help you identify the types of individuals who are well-suited to you and those who are not.

Additionally, it is important to be aware of your internal responses when faced with rejection. Do you tend to view yourself negatively, as unworthy, or as someone who is disliked, rejected, and refused? These feelings may stem from an underlying sense of inferiority, lack of self-confidence, and difficulty accepting oneself. When these aspects are not well-managed, they can lead to being easily influenced by the emotions, words, and actions of others.

It is therefore important for you to learn to accept yourself better, to develop self-confidence, and to enhance your sense of self-worth.

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Hello, I'm a heart coach. I see your nervousness, unease, and unwillingness to admit defeat.

Love has made you lose your sense of self, and you can't stand some of your words and actions, but you can't stop.

Hug yourself from a distance, calm down, and think clearly. "A woman in love has an IQ of 0." She loves too much and is too involved, to the point of forgetting herself.

A blind spot is when you can't see things clearly even though you're close to them.

Detach yourself from this event that makes you feel conflicted.

Your persistence and stubbornness are just an attempt to find a reason.

Falling in love with someone you shouldn't, knowing it will never work out, but still demanding a result. It may seem like persistence, but it's obsession. Imagine if you were the other person. What would you say?

You loved him, but it was impossible to have a future together. You let him bear the blame for being unfaithful to his wife. If you didn't love him, how could you answer a lady with the necessary manners?

Your obsession with the outcome is just an inner sense of dissatisfaction. You are a proud and confident princess.

You can feel rejected by him, which makes you feel very frustrated. What he rejects is an unproductive anxiety/long-distance-relationship-he-used-to-not-pay-attention-to-the-sense-of-boundaries-between-the-sexes-and-it-has-always-been-a-concern-for-me-what-should-i-do-4183.html" target="_blank">relationship. You feel rejected as a whole person and cannot bear such a blow.

True self-confidence doesn't need proof. Praise and recognition from others can make us feel better about ourselves. When we know we're valuable, we won't doubt ourselves because of other people's opinions.

2. Seeing ourselves in this relationship

You feel anxious because of this person and this rejection.

Anxiety is trying to give you a gift.

Anxiety is telling you, "I want a sense of security." If he rejects me and I don't get love, I will feel in danger.

The anxiety is hiding deeper emotions. When something similar happens, those emotions will come back.

We look for security and fulfilment in our intimate partners and other relationships because we didn't get it from our parents when we were children.

Think back to your own experiences with your parents.

Look at how your parents treated you and how they raised you. You can also learn from your parents' relationships with others how you will act in your own relationships.

To change, you must become aware of your emotions and needs.

Is there another way to get what you need?

I hope this helps. I love you. ?

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