Fear, anxiety, and the arduous effort to solve problems, yet fear of disappointing the other party.

It is important to accept your own shortcomings and identify areas for improvement. Stay informed by listening to the news and learning from others' perspectives. Develop your communication skills and ability to express yourself effectively. Most importantly, learn to love and adapt to people and situations to avoid or alleviate negative emotions like fear and anxiety.

To truly love others means to wish and give others happiness, and to mentally accept, forgive, and forgive everyone, including the outstanding, the ordinary people, and the weak. If there are mistakes or shortcomings, they can be corrected. Everyone has the right to happiness, regardless of the relationship, whether it is right or wrong, gain or loss. We all hope that others can be happy and improve. People can provide mutual comfort and joy. It is beneficial to love and accept others and oneself, to tolerate shortcomings and lack of ability, and to be kind at heart. This is to be beneficial to others or society, not to dislike or reject ordinary people, not to be jealous or intolerant of outstanding people.

If you find it challenging to connect with others, it can lead to negative energy and emotional issues. To truly love others and adapt to people and situations, you must align your energy field to enhance your ability to form and maintain loving and mutually beneficial relationships and careers. You can also share and exchange insights, experiences, and interests with others in real life and online, such as through the Douban community.

Additionally, it is important to maintain a positive outlook on life and to appreciate the smaller aspects of it.

Negative energy can affect your physical health. Maintaining a comfortable and healthy body can provide a full-body massage. The head massage includes the forehead and face, which also have meridians. Use deep, firm strokes to massage the head, and use a firm massage brush to massage the stomach. Avoid massaging the stomach on an empty stomach, and then take a walk.

If you have negative emotions, thoughts, or behaviors, you will not feel comfortable physically or mentally. You will often encounter unhappy people and things, interpersonal conflicts, relationship and marriage problems (which will affect your ability to influence others), and even problems in your academic or career life. This is because when you are too self-centered or pursue self-interest, you accumulate a lot of negative energy. The more self-centered you are, the more your ability to influence others will be limited. You need to learn how to truly love others and adapt to people and things, correct your ability to influence others, resolve conflicts, improve your emotions and interpersonal relationships, and better solve the above problems. In addition, if you know how to truly love the people and things in the world, you will not be too attached to love, reduce negative emotions such as separation anxiety and pain, and will not feel a lack of happiness inside. Only in this way can your ability to influence others become fulfilling and meaningful.

If necessary, they can also facilitate growth and change in those around them.

The manifestations of excessive self-centeredness vary from person to person. They include: 1. The psychological motivation to pursue self-satisfaction, striving for self or repressing self-deprecation to please others, blindly giving in order to gain, being afraid of losing, or disregarding the gains and losses of self-interest and emotions. 2. Being too narcissistic or inferior, paying too much attention to oneself, generating pressure and worry, social phobia, being caught up in one's own emotions and thoughts, attaching too much importance to what others think of oneself, not accepting one's own shortcomings and deficiencies, demanding one's own perfection, forcing, controlling, possessing others or demanding that others satisfy oneself, otherwise resenting and being unable to let go of oneself to forgive and forgive, brooding.

If you focus solely on your own needs, you may experience feelings of anxiety, depression, and fatigue, which could hinder your ability to adapt to the dynamics of your school or workplace environment. Conversely, if you prioritize the well-being of others and adapt to your surroundings, you will naturally feel less self-focused and experience an increase in positive energy.

In summary, it is important to do your best, have good intentions, and avoid causing harm to others, as nobody wants to suffer as a result.

Hello, I am Bai Li Yina, and I hope my reply can offer some warmth and help.

The questioner shared that he is hesitant to communicate with others because he tends to stutter more when he is nervous. As his nervousness intensifies, he finds it increasingly challenging to speak. He is concerned that others may be disappointed when they understand and is also worried that they may dislike him if they don't understand. What could he do to address these concerns?

[Situation analysis]

The questioner may have some difficulty communicating, which can make it challenging when they need to speak. This can lead to feelings of anxiety and fear, which can in turn make it harder to communicate. It's understandable to feel this way, and I'm here to support you.

Your anxiety may be rooted in a fear of your own shortcomings. It's worth considering that everyone has their own set of challenges. Could it be that you find it easier to accept your friends' shortcomings than your own? It's possible that your fear of being disliked is driven by a deeper sense of self-doubt. It's understandable that you might feel this way, as communication barriers can be a significant source of anxiety.

[Questions to ponder]

1. When you are not nervous, you don't have this stammering problem. So if you believe the other person will not be put off by your stammering, would you still be nervous?

2. Could you please describe what you were feeling inside and what you were thinking when you stuttered the most and could not speak?

3. Could I ask you to think about whether you like yourself? What are the things you like about yourself?

Could I ask you to consider whether you think you are a friend worth keeping?

We kindly suggest the following methods for your consideration:

1. You may wish to consider using this endorsement as an opportunity for deliberate practice. It might be helpful to view the team leader as your contact, and to approach each encounter with the mindset that you want to practice well and become better. If you don't do well, it might be useful to remind yourself that it's okay, as this is just a deliberate practice. If you do well, you may find that you are less afraid to face strangers in the future.

2. If you want others to like you, you might consider starting by liking yourself. You may find true friends when you feel that you are worthy of others' affection. Because you deserve good friends, you are considerate of others and kind at heart.

It might be helpful to accept that you are not the most eloquent person. You could try listening more, smiling and encouraging the other person to talk more with simple responses. You may find that you can be very charming without saying much.

I hope these methods will be of some help to you.

Please be aware that change takes time and patience. It is important not to worry or be afraid. Many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems, so you are not alone.

I'm here to support you. You are not alone. I hope you find a solution to your problems soon and find your own most comfortable state.

I'd like to express my gratitude to those who have taken the time to like and respond to my posts. I wish you all peace and joy.