Feeling a little lost, things don't seem to be going well, can't feel your boyfriend's love?

Everyone has a basic human need for social interaction! We all want to be noticed and to feel loved. The quantity and quality of these needs may differ from person to person, but they are universal.

Focus on yourself! There's absolutely no need to compare with others. The search and satisfaction of emotions should be based on your own feelings.

It's so important to remember that everyone's desires and needs are different. There's absolutely no need to compare your own needs for emotional fulfillment horizontally or vertically! People naturally have different emotional needs at different stages of growth. This difference is similar to the fact that breast milk is a basic need for life for a newborn baby, but for someone like Empress Dowager Cixi, it is for beauty and youth. At different stages, the emotions needed naturally differ, and even for the same emotion, the weight and degree of need are not the same at different stages of growth.

And there's no need to compare yourself to others! Your emotional needs are very personal and closely related to your upbringing and cognitive thinking.

This is why it's so important to recognize that everyone is different!

Keep up those normal social interactions while also cultivating self-improvement!

Because of the vast differences between individuals, we have the opportunity to place our own expectations of fulfillment in others, which will lead to all kinds of enriching experiences. Interpersonal relationships are about learning from each other. On the premise of shared interests or benefits, people seek a greater sense of enrichment. Therefore, it is normal to feel that one's own demands are rejected or cannot be met by others, but this is an opportunity to grow and learn!

Adjusting your expectations is the key to avoiding constant disappointment!

When you can't get what you want, it's time to look within yourself! This isn't an escape, but a return to the essence of interaction. When we are at peace within, no matter who is around us, life will be a icing on the cake after peace. If we have a gap within ourselves, and instead of healing ourselves, we hope to fill it with the outside world, we'll find that the result is a constant process of withdrawing and inserting, or friction from the fusion of our own immunity with foreign substances from the outside world. But there's a way to avoid this!

Hello, question asker.

I'm a healer. You're lost, things aren't going well, and you don't think your boyfriend loves you.

If you don't get something you want, you'll lose it. We don't always appreciate what we get. Men are more emotional than women in relationships. If you think it's bad, you'll doubt it's real.

You want someone to love you, but you should love yourself more. Today has not been going well. I'm upset and down. I feel my boyfriend doesn't love me. If he loved me, he would contact me more often. He prefers to be alone. He does initiate contact with me, but not very often. He doesn't care about how I feel. He doesn't need me. In love, there is no right or wrong. There are people who don't care about each other. Most girls' ideals are that the boy loves her more than she loves him. This makes her feel superior. It takes time to love someone. Liking is a shallow level of behavior. Love is a deeper level of behavior. When love becomes affection, it becomes a habit. This makes us think irrationally. This is inseparable from our family environment. A person who loves themselves will also love others. This is not selfish love. It is empathy. If we see someone who is not good to themselves, how can they expect to love others?

We meet four people in our lives: ourselves, someone who loves us, someone we love, and the person we spend our lives with. It's hard to say which stage we're at, but as long as we can feel true love, that's all that matters. Men understand love in a more rational way. They think that feeling care and contact is what love is, but not being able to do it doesn't mean they don't love you. When we lack self-security, we need love, and we hate that 24 hours have become 30 hours to take care of you. Your boyfriend is not what you imagined. When our values are towards perfection, there will be regrets. The more love-obsessed we are, the more we care about whether other people's actions hurt our sensitive nerves.

I feel like I'm disturbing him when he's playing games and reading novels. Is he just someone who prefers to be alone? Something happened today, and I'm less jealous than I thought I would be. He probably treats love as a relatively small part of our relationship. Is it possible that he also loves me in other ways, but I don't really feel loved in those ways? Is it possible that I need 80% of the love, and he only needs 60%, so he gives 60%? Is it possible that I don't need as much love when I'm in a good mood, and need more when I'm not?

Guide him, work through it together, but our needs are somewhat conflicting. We often refer to being from similar backgrounds and having similar worldviews as a shared perspective and understanding. You've put in more effort in this relationship, or your love is more proactive. For some men, too much accommodation will only make us more tired. Regardless of his habits, a woman's feelings need to be taken care of. In the future, when we enter into marriage or even parenthood, will he still need your indulgence? Will you still need to carry the burden of the family? A good relationship is one where you care for each other and understand each other. A good marriage is one where you support each other and take responsibility for each other.

Here are a few suggestions:

Instead of changing your mentality, change the reality. We all want to be respected and paid attention to. Perhaps the environment of the original family is lacking and needs to be given to you by your boyfriend, but he is not passionate. You are sensitive and can only doubt his love for you. His repeated promises make you doubt, and it is hard to judge. Then you should be brave enough to pursue what you want, reveal your thoughts, and talk about your future plans, especially marriage.

If you can't judge someone, treat them coldly. If you care about someone, they'll understand. Sometimes the one you love will understand you, but the one you love doesn't understand you. Distance can create beauty, but you have to be careful. Emotions aren't good at withstanding reality. It's better to let someone create rational conditions for you than to believe in a feeling. Material things are always more important than promises.

Women have a sixth sense that is often accurate. What seems like emotionality is actually a rational analysis. Even if you love him, you need him to take action. Meeting the right person is love, meeting the wrong person is youth. Don't wait until after marriage and family to regret your decision.

This advice is just a suggestion. We're all connected. Best wishes!

Good day, question asker.

From your description, I can discern your inner feelings of helplessness, irritability, and powerlessness. Concurrently, you also possess a remarkable capacity to perceive and a commendable initiative in disclosing your feelings and identifying solutions to the problem.

You have indicated that you feel the need to be loved by others and that you are aware of the importance of self-love. At the same time, you felt that you were unable to take action. Additionally, you expressed a desire for attention and love from your boyfriend and a willingness to prioritize the relationship. Is that correct?

I would like to request that you be mindful of when you feel discomfort. Could you please describe what occurred at that time?

Please describe the circumstances under which you believe you will no longer feel this way and instead be able to feel your boyfriend's love for you. Additionally, please provide a detailed account of your environment and social context at the time in question.

From your description, I understand that you may lack confidence and externalize your feelings and emotions. However, after the incident, you will also experience discomfort. Is that correct?

It is important to note that everyone experiences challenges and feelings of inadequacy when faced with setbacks. However, these emotions are typically transient. It is essential to remain mindful, actively seek understanding, and identify the underlying causes of these feelings. With consistent effort, we can gradually address and overcome these challenges, integrating them into a more positive sense of self.

First and foremost, it is essential to learn to love yourself.

It is important to understand that when we lack something inside, we often look for it outside ourselves. However, this can lead to self-sabotage. To succeed, we must learn to love and respect ourselves. When we do so, we become our own foundation, capable of loving and being loved.

Secondly, it is important to learn effective communication skills.

It is important to recognize the significant differences between men and women, particularly in the context of traditional values. Men tend to think in a linear manner, while women often exhibit greater flexibility in their personalities. Men's brains are often seen as a straight line, while women are often born with a sensitivity that allows them to perceive things more deeply. Men's thinking is often perceived as a thorn, while women are often seen as sentimental and beautiful flowers.

There are reasons for the challenges and disagreements that arise in life, and they are not significant issues. However, effective communication is essential.

In such instances, it is essential to communicate effectively, address issues openly, meet expectations, and allow others to meet our needs.

Secondly, it is important to focus on self-improvement.

Love is a wonderful thing that can also nourish us. Let's keep each other in check. We must rely on ourselves above all else. Regardless of whether love is a icing on the cake or not, we should not force others to do things they don't like because of our own reasons. Instead, we should improve ourselves, overcome this uncomfortable feeling, and make them feel more comfortable. We must seize the time to start with our hobbies, improve ourselves, and become more confident.

It is also important to learn to look within yourself.

Everyone is unique in the world, and neither you nor I are perfect. It is essential to develop an awareness of ourselves and our motivations in order to set clear goals. The most important thing is to provide yourself with the best possible foundation.

There is a commonly held belief that if you meet other people's expectations, they will meet your wishes.

Finally, if you require assistance, you may wish to consider seeking the guidance of a qualified psychological counselor to assist you in making the necessary adjustments to your mindset.

Greetings!

When circumstances do not align with one's expectations, it is natural to be influenced by one's emotions. As previously mentioned, when one is in a positive mood, the need for comfort and care may be less pronounced. This is because one has the capacity to support oneself internally. However, when circumstances are less favorable, the desire for external care and love from one's partner is often strong. This is a normal human need. At such times, one's energy is often depleted, and seeking assistance is a natural response.

If one assumes that one's partner prefers solitude or is insufficiently affectionate, this may be attributed to both the current emotional state and the quality of the relationship.

When an individual is in a negative emotional state, they are more susceptible to being influenced by negative emotions. Similarly, when a romantic partner fails to meet the needs of their partner, the latter may experience a sense of inadequacy in the relationship.

When in the presence of one's romantic partner, it is not uncommon for individuals to experience a lack of emotional responsiveness from their partner. This may be due to the partner's engagement in activities such as reading novels or playing games. In such instances, the individual may resort to the concealment of their emotions. When faced with circumstances that do not align with their expectations, they may associate these behaviors with a sense of discomfort, which in turn intensifies their dissatisfaction with their partner.

In consideration of the circumstances at hand, it is advised that

It is recommended that communication with one's partner be strengthened.

When one's romantic partner is the source of emotional support, it is beneficial to express one's needs and thoughts, as well as one's desires for that support, such as a hug, a comforting word, or simply being in the presence of one's partner. It is within the capacity of one's romantic partner to provide such support. However, expressing one's emotions and dissatisfaction while blaming one's partner for these feelings will impede the ability to obtain the desired support and may also cause confusion for the partner in question.

2. Appropriate Emotional Release

It is not uncommon to experience feelings of despondency when circumstances do not align with one's expectations. There are various techniques that can be employed to facilitate the release of negative emotions, including physical activity, creative writing, listening to music, and seeking support from friends and family.

3. Avoid excessive association.

It is possible that in your daily life, your boyfriend's behavior has caused you dissatisfaction, but you have not conveyed this to him. When you are angry, it is important to avoid exaggerating your dissatisfaction or allowing your emotions to cloud your judgment.

Additionally, minor conflicts necessitate communication with the other party to convey one's feelings, thereby facilitating a deeper comprehension of one's needs.

Four: Equal Treatment

It is possible that the individual in question may feel that they are dependent on their romantic partner and not independent. It is therefore important for them to learn to love themselves and become independent. This is a positive step which will also benefit the relationship. However, the individual's needs are within the normal range of needs, and their romantic partner provides them with an important social support system. It is also normal to seek help, so while being aware of themselves, they should not be too hard on themselves. Instead, they should strive to get along with their romantic partner as equals.

It is my hope that this information will prove useful to you. Best wishes,

Good day, To whom it may concern,

From your description, it appears that you desire your boyfriend to invest a significant amount of time in nurturing your emotional well-being. This seems to be an act of love on your part. Additionally, it seems that you have self-doubts and believe that you are unable to love yourself or that your boyfriend does not love you. However, it is important to recognize that everyone has a unique approach to love, which inevitably leads to different ways of interacting and connecting.

Given your desire for your boyfriend to spend more time caring for and loving you, it is possible that you require additional love to satisfy your inner child. This may be due to a secret desire for others to love you more, or it may be that we lack the capacity to love ourselves, leading us to become preoccupied with these concerns and anxieties, experiencing distress due to being neglected by the other person and feeling that the other person does not love us. I can comprehend your sentiments.

The following are potential solutions to this problem:

[1] It is a fundamental tenet of human relationships that individuals express love in different ways, and that relationships require a certain degree of autonomy and independence.

It is evident that love is an abstract concept, and as a result, individuals express love in a multitude of ways. While one may desire their partner to spend more time with them, it is important to recognize that everyone has their own space and time, as well as their own responsibilities and activities. Consequently, it is not feasible for me to be by your side at all times, and the manner in which my boyfriend expresses his love for me may not align with your preferences. This underscores the necessity to acknowledge that each individual's concept of love and the manner in which they express it are unique.

[2] It is important to learn to express one's feelings and needs directly.

To illustrate, if one desires more time with one's romantic partner, a tactful approach might be to express this desire in a neutral manner, such as, "Dear, I'm sad that you haven't been spending time with me. I hope you can spend more time with me." This allows for a direct expression of one's needs while avoiding emotional involvement. It is preferable to express one's needs in a way that can be perceived by the other person and acted upon.

[3] It is important to cultivate self-love and pursue self-improvement.

Indeed, apart from the love of others, the capacity to love oneself is arguably the most crucial ability in life. When we enter into an intimate relationship, an unwavering craving for the love of others indicates a profound deficiency in self-love and an inability to love oneself. We tend to seek the love of others as a constant source of fulfillment. Consequently, it is essential to cultivate self-love, engage in activities that bring us joy, and strive for personal growth to showcase our unique charm and attract more love.

[4] The management of intimate relationships necessitates the possession of specific abilities.

Indeed, all relationships necessitate a specific capacity for learning in order to be effectively managed. One can pursue educational opportunities, acquire new competencies, and engage with literature on the subject to enhance one's understanding and knowledge of relationships. Additionally, it is possible to identify the requisite abilities for managing intimate relationships and subsequently facilitate their optimal development. The process involves summarizing, becoming aware, and then learning. When this capacity is strengthened, the relationship will naturally evolve in a manner that aligns with one's desired outcomes.

It is my hope that the aforementioned information will prove to be of some assistance to you.