Feeling anxious and lacking motivation? Hope someone can guide me out of this anxiety.

Hello, question asker. I can see you're feeling confused, and I'm here to support you!

Your question brings back memories of when I was studying in London, England.

For a while, I found it difficult to concentrate on studying for each exam.

I feel like the exams are just a chore or a task.

I also feel like I'm studying for my parents. When I'm in that mindset, I just can't focus.

Then I told myself that studying and taking exams are all for my own benefit and my future. After graduation, many companies value having a diploma.

Often, our anxiety about exams comes from the feeling that when we encounter difficulties in our revision, there is no one to turn to for help. This can naturally lead to a loss of motivation.

It might be worth checking if your classmates in the major courses you're currently taking have formed a study group.

If there is one, it'd be a good idea to join it.

That way, you'll be more motivated to study when you have someone to discuss things with.

I'd suggest reading Mr. Li Songwei's book, 5% Change.

Mr. Li's book covers similar cases to yours. You can choose to read the one that suits you best.

I really hope you can find a solution to the problem you're facing soon.

That's all I can think of for now.

I hope my answer is helpful and inspiring to you, the questioner. I'm the one who answered, and I study hard every day.

Wishing you all the best at Yixinli!

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Good day, I hope my response proves useful to you.

It is important to recognize that anxiety has a purpose. Rather than resisting it, it is essential to identify the underlying needs and reasons for it. Additionally, moderate anxiety can serve as a catalyst for internal motivation. To enhance motivation for learning, it is crucial to set specific and achievable goals that align with one's individual circumstances. At the same time, it is vital to provide timely and positive feedback to maintain motivation and drive for learning.

I would like to offer you the following advice:

It is important to acknowledge your anxiety, understand its underlying causes, and employ appropriate strategies to manage it effectively.

It is not uncommon to experience feelings of anxiety when confronted with an impending examination. The prevalence of professional courses that exert significant pressure is a contributing factor. The reason for a lack of motivation to study is the perception that the objective is too formidable, which creates a considerable obstacle. The observation of one's roommate studying can evoke feelings of anxiety and apprehension, stemming from the hope of attaining similar proficiency. The concern is that the ability to study effectively and maintain pace with the workload may be hindered. The aspiration to excel in the examination and master the demanding professional courses is coupled with the worry of underperformance. Anxiety is future-oriented, and the future is beyond our control. Consequently, it serves as a reminder to prepare for the future. To create a favourable future, it is essential to take control of the present, which entails grasping the actions and learning in the present.

Action is the most effective remedy for anxiety. Adopt a positive mindset, recognize that the only thing you can control is the present moment, and focus on the task at hand. When anxious thoughts arise, take a deep breath and remind yourself that anxiety is not helpful at this moment. It is a reminder to take action. Then, focus on the task at hand. If you are reading, read. If you are doing problems, focus on the problems. If you are listening, listen. When you can devote yourself to each moment, your anxiety will subside.

2. Implement the flow method to enhance learning motivation, establish attainable objectives, and transform the learning process into an enjoyable experience.

To enhance motivation to learn, we can leverage the flow method to facilitate progress. The flow method entails defining clear and precise objectives, aligning them with one's capabilities, and providing constructive feedback upon goal completion to boost motivation and engagement in the learning process.

It is not necessary to concern yourself with how other students study, as each individual's learning level and mastery of knowledge vary. It is sufficient to set clear and specific learning goals based on your ability level and current learning situation, implement them daily, and create a learning list. For instance, prior to an examination, it may be beneficial to complete a few test papers, memorize a certain number of words, recite a certain number of ancient poems, and so on. Then, break down these larger goals into daily ones, ensuring that you have specific, executable learning tasks that align with your abilities on a daily basis. For example, you may need to memorize a certain number of poems, complete a certain number of questions, and memorize a certain number of words each day. It is important to note that the goals you set for yourself should be moderately challenging, or "reachable by standing on tiptoe." This level of goal is shown to be the most motivating, allowing us to achieve our potential with a moderate amount of anxiety.

Once you have completed each learning task, it is important to provide yourself with positive and timely feedback. Affirm your growth and gains in learning, and appreciate and praise yourself. After completing a week's worth of learning tasks, you can reward yourself with a special treat, such as a meal or a gift, to reinforce your motivation and commitment to continued success.

Please find the above information for your reference. Best regards,

Dear friend, I understand how you feel. It is normal to feel anxious and fearful in the face of upcoming exams and heavy course loads.

I understand your anxiety when you see your roommate studying. It feels like you are being driven by an invisible whip, making you feel uneasy and scared. I understand your sense of powerlessness after a short period of study. It feels like all your strength has been drained, leaving you tired and helpless.

You're not alone. Many people feel this way when they're under pressure. Anxiety is a normal reaction that helps us stay alert.

Anxiety can get in the way of our daily lives and studies.

You said you don't want to learn. This may be because you don't know why you should. Intrinsic motivation is what makes you want to learn. It can be curiosity, the desire to achieve, or other things.

External motivation comes from rewards or punishments, like test scores or parental expectations. Research shows that intrinsic motivation is more sustainable than extrinsic motivation in stimulating enthusiasm for learning.

Internal motivation is what pushes us forward. Self-reflection is how we find it.

It means facing ourselves and thinking about what we like and what we want to achieve. Think about why you chose your major, what you like about it, and what you want to get out of it.

Set specific, achievable learning goals based on your interests and long-term goals.

Make your goals specific and measurable. Make them something you really care about, not just something you do to please others.

Break down your big goals into small steps. Each step is a small victory. Complete small tasks to feel accomplished and motivated.

This sense of accomplishment helps us not give up when we face difficulties.

We are not alone in learning and growing. Seeking support is connecting with others.

Friends, classmates, and teachers encourage and support us, like sunshine in our hearts.

Take action to make your dreams come true. Face difficulties and challenges with courage.

Everyone grows at a different pace. Don't compare yourself to others. Focus on your own growth.

If you feel helpless when facing challenges, seeking professional counseling is a wise choice. Counselors can help you understand yourself and find a path that suits you.

Everyone will face challenges on the road to growth. Believe in yourself. You can overcome difficulties and achieve your dreams.

Go for it!