Feeling inferior, lacking confidence, overly concerned about others' opinions, and disliking yourself now?

Hello, question asker!

From what you've told me, I can see how you're feeling. I'm here for you, and I'll give you a warm hug.

I just want to let you know that you're not alone in this. The world is a big place, and lots of people feel the same way you do. You're not the only one. So don't be afraid. When you start to become aware and look for problems, you're already on the path to change.

I haven't changed much, but I've slowly become braver and want to learn. Before, I really didn't believe in myself at all. I was so immersed in it, watching videos every day, afraid to meet people. Now I'm slowly beginning to want to change myself through learning. So, as long as we don't give up, we will definitely find our own path to glory.

I think it would be really helpful for the questioner to be aware of what's going on and what makes you feel this way. When did this feeling start?

I'd love to know when you didn't feel this way.

I think it's really important to understand that the questioner also has certain expectations. So, I'd love to hear what your expectations are. When you achieve your ideal expectations, what will you feel, and what difference will it make?

Who will be the first to notice? I'm sure it'll be someone really special!

If a miracle happens and you change and become the way you want to be, the questioner can think about what efforts you have made to make a difference.

And what do your loved ones think of you?

From what you've told me, it seems like you're caught between two feelings. On the one hand, you're not sure about yourself, but on the other, you want to make changes. I think this can be a great starting point for us to work with.

I don't know all the details of your situation, but I just want you to know that it's not your fault. Our feelings today might be related to what happened to us when we were kids. Maybe we didn't get enough praise and attention when we were young, which caused us to ignore ourselves. Even though it was caused by others, we've trapped ourselves.

Adler said something really interesting: "The lucky are healed by their childhood, the unlucky heal their childhood." So, don't blame yourself!

It's time to learn to love yourself, pay attention to yourself, and see yourself as you really are. This will give you more inner strength to fight against the shackles you've put on yourself.

I'd love to share some of my personal experiences with you in the hope that they'll be of help.

Let's learn to let go and live with our problems, shall we?

I totally get it. Before, I didn't understand at all. I was so confused and suffering. How could I still live a good life? Now, I've learned to let go. I let go of obsession, comparison, and high expectations. I learned to live with my problems and confusion. I learned to learn, because the answer to the problem is in ourselves, and it is reflected in our lives. I know it's difficult, and it may be hard to understand at first, but I have also realized it through life. Please try to let go of negative labels.

It's time to turn the page on noticing your own shortcomings.

We all have areas where we feel less confident, and it's only natural to look for our shortcomings. We might think we're not as smart or good-looking as others, but the truth is, many people around us see us differently. It's okay to feel this way, but it's also important to recognize that we're actually quite capable and attractive. Similarly, we often get caught up in a cycle of negative thoughts, like "I'm not good enough" or "I can't do this." Even when we want to change, it can be challenging to find the strength to do so. This can lead to a feeling of helplessness. So, let's try something different. Instead of focusing on our shortcomings, let's celebrate our strengths.

For example, even though we are sensitive, we are attentive; even though we are not confident, we are humble, and so on. Take a moment to observe your strengths more often. First, boost your own strength, and then move on to the next step.

Let's talk about positive hypnosis!

My dear friend, I know you're struggling with the vicious cycle of "I can't" and "I'm not good." It's so easy to fall into this trap when we encounter a problem. Our unconscious mind tells us that we can't do this and we can't do that. But, this is just your mind playing tricks on you. Everyone needs to be praised and encouraged. Nobody likes to be picked on. We all want to be liked, don't we? We want to be liked by ourselves and others. So, try to actively suggest to yourself that you're good at heart. For example, try to tell yourself, "Just because I didn't do this well doesn't mean I'm not good." This way, you won't blame yourself and you won't take others' negative comments personally. It just means that they haven't seen your good points. This way, you won't be hurt by others and you can tell yourself that you're unique. You can tell yourself that as long as you work hard, you will get better and better.

It's so important to learn to love yourself and believe in yourself!

I really want to say that this is so important. When we don't believe in ourselves, we are hesitant to do things, and we don't even dare to do them. When we don't love ourselves, even if we give others a lot of love, we won't be happy. So please learn to love yourself. When you love yourself, then others will love us. If we don't love ourselves, how can we ask others to love us? Please believe in your uniqueness, your own luck, and your own value, so that you can have the courage to face difficulties and overcome them.

fifthly, think less and do more!

I used to be really confused about this question: I just couldn't do it, so how could I do it? Now I understand! I kept wondering why I wasn't as hardworking as others.

I was just thinking and thinking, and before I knew it, time had passed by! For example, when I learned a while ago that a colleague and his wife had both passed the judicial examination, it occurred to me again: why are other people so good and work so hard, and why don't I work hard when life is so hard?

Asking, asking, I'm wondering, why am I asking? I'm spending all my time asking, and making myself anxious, why am I not concentrating on studying?

So, although I still have anxiety and other emotions, I have really started studying. I know it can be tough to face our fears, but I'm here to support you. You can reflect on this and not keep thinking about it, but instead commit to doing the above.

So, my dear questioner, I have one last thing to say to you. To improve your self-confidence, you must learn to believe that you are the best. To improve your interpersonal relationships, you must learn to see yourself and respect yourself, so that you can be treated equally. If you want to change, you must learn to love yourself.

When you're feeling down, there are so many great ways to relax and take a break! You can go for a run, meditate, travel, or try something new.

I really hope the questioner can fall in love with herself soon.

I love you, the world loves you!

Hello, question asker! I'm Yuyi, and I'm here to help!

You say you feel particularly inferior, lack confidence, care a lot about what other people think, and that inferiority feelings are always around you.

Maybe it's only people with low self-esteem who can understand the emotions of low self-esteem. It's not that they can't, but that they might be a little afraid to. Every time I think of these emotions of low self-esteem, I feel like I just want to hide away. Wouldn't it be great if I could be braver and more confident?

Maybe the questioner could think about what they're good at in their current life, or what they like doing. If they can make it a skill of their own, having a special skill of their own will give them some self-confidence at times and also gain the attention of their friends.

In life, what kind of identity are you now? It's so important to understand the special things you have experienced. You might find that this identity/position is something that others only dream of, but you have achieved it! That's a kind of strength in itself.

The questioner also said that they hate their inferiority complex. I think you should try to face yourself. You are still a complete person, no matter what kind of person you are. Your inferiority complex might make you feel different emotions, which sometimes can also help you.

At the end of the day, you've got to believe in yourself. It might take a little while to get to a place where you don't feel inferior, but you can absolutely change yourself. I truly believe that one day you'll find the best version of yourself.