For the past six months, we've been constantly arguing. He's started to avoid me, and I feel like my boyfriend doesn't love me anymore.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am honored to be able to answer your question and hope that my suggestions will be of some assistance to you.

I am aware of your current state of distress and am uncertain as to how I might cultivate a more intimate relationship with you.

Two methods exist for resolving and adjusting this state of affairs.

First, it is important to recognize that the issue can be attributed to the recent increase in quarrels. To address this, it is essential to implement strategies to reduce the frequency of quarrels.

In an intimate relationship, communication is of paramount importance. The objective of communication is to resolve issues, not to engage in argumentation. Therefore, when communicating, it is essential to do so with a calm and rational mind. When experiencing emotional fluctuations, it is advisable to take a deep breath, temporarily suspend communication, and wait until both parties have calmed down before resuming communication. This approach can enhance the effectiveness of our communication.

Given that we are emotional beings and prone to saying the wrong thing, it is likely that we will say the wrong thing when we are upset. This will serve to deepen the misunderstanding between the two of us and hinder the resolution of the conflict.

Furthermore, we are cognizant of the fact that we have been experiencing a certain degree of anxiety recently, which has led us to express our feelings and thoughts with greater urgency. However, this kind of urgency may give the other person the impression that our emotions are being projected onto them, rather than being received as information. This can lead to misunderstandings and, subsequently, to the deterioration of the relationship.

It is therefore recommended that at this level, appropriate assistance be sought from psychological counseling, methods of regulating emotions be learned, and communication skills be acquired in an appropriate manner, so that some of the problems encountered in the process of maintaining a stable state of mind in the context of a relationship can be effectively addressed.

The second section pertains to our perception of marriage and love.

In both marriage and romantic relationships, it is essential to recognize that each individual possesses the autonomy to regulate their social interactions. When another person encroaches upon this personal space and interferes with our autonomy, it can lead to feelings of coercion and disrespect.

One might inquire whether a partner's disapproval of one's social interactions with friends would result in feelings of discontent or whether such disapproval would be misinterpreted as disrespect towards one's friends.

It is possible that we may have differing perceptions of certain social habits. For instance, in our perception, smoking and drinking are regarded as unfavourable practices, and frequent attendance at bars or discos is similarly viewed as undesirable. However, these are social habits that we engage in, and they are also habits that facilitate the formation of friendships.

However, for our partners, these behaviors may be perceived as normal, leading to a discrepancy in conceptualization. When this discrepancy gives rise to an argument, it may give rise to issues pertaining to respect and boundary violations.

Such behavior may lead to the perception that one's ideas are particularly reasonable. However, socializing in a bar with a group of drinking companions for the purpose of boasting is particularly problematic.

However, our partner may also consider their opinions to be entirely reasonable. We simply enjoy smoking and drinking with the group and engaging in casual conversation in the bar, similar to the manner in which the women converse in coffee shops or at KFC. The only distinction is that the women consume milk tea while the men drink wine. There is no basis for the assumption that the women are being deceitful. Consequently, when the girlfriend expresses disapproval of this behavior or the manner in which he makes friends, she may perceive that her lack of respect for her friends, or even herself, is being questioned. This could lead to the conclusion that her character is flawed, and that her friends' character is also questionable. At this juncture, it is understandable that the feelings towards the girlfriend may be negatively affected.

For example, consider the following statement: "I don't think your friend looks like a good person." Does this sentence sound harsh to our ears? However, it is possible that we subconsciously feel this way about our partner's friends.

Therefore, even if such feelings have never been explicitly expressed, the other person will perceive them and they will affect the communication between the two individuals.

The fundamental aspect of this phenomenon is the alteration of one's perception. This does not entail the acceptance of the bar as a suitable venue; rather, it signifies the acceptance of the definition of friendship as espoused by disparate individuals.

Furthermore, this acceptance is mutual. For instance, at the appropriate time and location, they engage in the optimal social interaction. For example, they meet with their friends on occasion, or a friend has a birthday, in which case they will undoubtedly select a social venue that appeals to everyone and provide enjoyment.

Concurrently, it is imperative that our partner acknowledges and comprehends our aversion to bars and clubbing. Consequently, they will circumvent such social interactions and mitigate the distress they cause us. Conversely, if we do attend such establishments, our partner should provide us with a sense of security, informing us of its location, time of visit, and anticipated attendees, and promptly returning upon completion.

In this manner, the two parties will not unilaterally compel one another to accept each other's habits, but rather will adjust their respective behaviors in a manner that achieves a balance that is acceptable to both.

It is my hope that through introspection and consistent dialogue with one's partner, an optimal relationship paradigm can be identified.

I extend my warmest regards to you and to the world at large.

Hello, I'm Strawberry!

When problems arise in a relationship, it's an opportunity to grow and improve! However, if the wrong method is used to solve the problem, not only will the relationship not improve, but the partner will be pushed even further away, ultimately affecting the relationship with the partner.

? You can change the way you communicate and change your relationship!

The questioner has been in a relationship with his partner for more than a year. With time, they should have grown closer, and they will! The questioner has been feeling that his partner does not love him, but he is excited to work on the relationship.

There's a reason for the indifference of the partner, and it's an exciting one! The questioner speculates that in the past six months, the pattern of the two getting along has been to argue more, which has made the partner feel pressure and led to the thought of wanting to escape.

The questioner has a knack for spotting relationship issues. When conflicts arise, they and their partner are eager to express their emotions. Arguing has become a way of communicating with each other. It's been going on for over half a year, and it's clear that no matter how strong the relationship is, the wrong way of communicating can scare it off and dilute it.

You've got this! Don't let emotions control you.

Facing his evasive behavior and attitude, the questioner began to become anxious. Day after day, she thought about it, and night after night, she dreamed about it. Her subconscious mind was telling her through her dreams that she cared about her partner and was worried that he would leave her. Although he had not said anything yet, if she did not make amends, everything would come true.

When you're feeling anxious, it's easy to make impulsive decisions. Take a deep breath, calm down, and look at the real problem in the relationship. Once you've solved the problem, you'll feel better and your relationship will improve!

How can I calm down and make him fall in love with me again?

When someone truly no longer loves, it's time to move on. No matter how they change themselves, try hard, or make sacrifices, they cannot win back a heart that no longer loves. But here's the good news: if they just avoid the wrong way of getting along, then using the right way can still make them love each other again!

☀️ Express your attitude: This relationship has the wrong communication method, which causes the partner to have the idea of running away. But don't worry! The questioner can use his own methods to show his partner that he has sincerely changed.

Let your partner know that you've been thinking about your past behavior. You're excited to solve the problems between the two of you! You've realized that using the wrong method affected the relationship between the two of you. After reflecting on it, you're determined to change. You're ready to work together with your partner to protect this relationship! Will he be willing to give each other a chance and this relationship a chance, and face and deal with it together?

☀️ Practical actions: There's nothing more exciting than warming your partner's heart and making them feel the love you have for each other again! Instead of making excessive promises, you should impress your partner with practical actions and allay their doubts.

Once you truly realize your own inappropriate behavior and learn how to deal with the same problems in the future with a different approach and attitude, and take practical actions to show your partner the harmony in the relationship, your partner will truly understand that you've made great changes for the love of them! Relationships are mutual. As long as they still love you, they'll also reflect on and change their own approach.

☀️ The best way to get along is to embrace your partner for who they are! It's important to remember that trying to change your partner in the name of love is a losing battle. Not only will you get tired of it yourself, but your partner will resist. For example, if the questioner doesn't want their partner to go to the bar, they may be thinking about their partner's health and worry that their partner will be led astray by bad friends when choosing friends.

It's important to remember that even though they're partners, they also need to give each other a certain amount of personal space and time in their relationship. This is a great way to ensure that both partners feel respected and heard. Rather than asking their partners to change according to their own standards, it's essential to recognize that everyone has different opinions and levels of understanding. If the partner himself does not have a strong opinion or a certain level of understanding, it can be challenging for the questioner to change him. However, with patience and understanding, they can work through these differences and find ways to communicate more effectively.

In a relationship, it is not up to us to change our partner in order to be happy. We can work through it together, learn together about intimacy management, respect each other, and together find a way of getting along that suits both of us! We can face problems together and communicate more calmly to work out suitable solutions. In this way of getting along, even if there are conflicts, we can still face and deal with them in a timely and positive manner, and it will not affect the relationship!

I really hope my answer is helpful to the questioner! Best wishes!

Dear user, I know that feeling distressed and uneasy can make anyone feel anxious and helpless. It's so important to understand how you feel, but also to know that staying calm and rational is the key to solving problems. I really hope some of these suggestions will help you calm down and try to improve your relationship:

Communication is so important! Talk openly with your partner about your feelings and concerns. Let him know you want him to care more about you, rather than avoid you.

Also, it's really important to listen to his thoughts and feelings and try to understand why he wants to escape. Through communication, you can better understand each other and find a solution to the problem.

Give yourself some time and space, sweetie. We all get anxious sometimes, and when we do, we can make impulsive decisions or actions. So, take a deep breath, calm down, and give yourself some time and space to think.

In the meantime, why not try doing something you enjoy to help you relax and feel more yourself again?

It's natural to worry about our partners, especially when they're making choices we don't fully understand. But it's also important to respect their choices and social circle. If your partner is a responsible person, they'll understand your concerns and try to avoid the things that worry you.

If you're too involved in his life, it might make him feel stressed and resentful.

Building trust: Trust is a very important cornerstone of a relationship. If you often dream about him with someone else, it may be because you lack trust in him to some extent. Don't worry, though! This is something that can be fixed with a little bit of effort.

Do your best to build trust with him and work together to clear up any doubts.

It's also a great idea to focus on your own growth. Don't forget to focus some of your energy on yourself too! You can enhance your charm and self-confidence, and make yourself more attractive.

This will help you feel more confident in facing the challenges in your relationship.

At the end of the day, relationships are a two-way street that requires both people to work together to manage and maintain them. If you've tried the suggestions above and he still hasn't changed or your relationship hasn't improved, it might be time to consider whether to continue the relationship.

Sometimes, letting go is a great way to find some relief and even grow.