Forgot the meeting time and feel guilty for being responsible?

Hello, host!

I'm so excited to help you! I can't wait to hear your feedback.

Reading the question description, I can totally appreciate the anxiety and helplessness of the poster. I want to give the poster a big, warm hug here!

Before we dive into answering the original poster's question, we have two fascinating concepts to explore: fact judgment and value judgment. Imagine taking an exam where there's a standard answer. If you were asked how tall you are, you could simply measure it and get an answer.

But when it comes to value judgments, there's no one-size-fits-all answer! Take, for instance, when I say you're too tall.

This is a value judgment because, let's face it, everyone has a different idea of what "tall" means!

We're excited to mention these two concepts first because it helps the poster understand that our answers are based on our own understanding, experiences, and values. This means that the perspective, direction, and train of thought of the answers are just for the poster to consider. We hope the poster will not regard our answers as the standard ones, but as a starting point for their own unique journey of discovery!

In the situation described by the original poster, there is a fascinating concept in psychology called counterfactual thinking. It is obvious that things have happened the other way around, but the original poster still hopes that it would be nice if it didn't happen. Counterfactual thinking is an intriguing way of thinking that involves considering situations or events that are the opposite of reality.

It's a fascinating process that allows us to picture what different actions or events would be like and how they would affect the outcome. It's a great way to evaluate situations and make decisions!

There are two main types of counterfactual thinking, and they're both fascinating! Let's dive in and explore the world of upward counterfactuals and downward counterfactuals.

An upward counterfactual is an amazing way to imagine a better situation than the one you're in right now! It's all about thinking about what could have been if you had taken a different action or experienced a different event. It's a fantastic way to get excited about the future!

For example, if a person scores low on an exam, they may imagine that if they studied harder or focused more on the exam, they might have gotten a higher score—and who knows, they might even get a higher score next time!

Have you ever thought about what it would be like if things had gone differently? This is what we call a downward counterfactual. It's a fascinating concept that involves imagining what it would be like if different actions were taken or different events occurred. It's a way of exploring what could have been and it's a great way to gain perspective.

For example, if someone is promoted at work, they may imagine what it would be like if they hadn't been promoted or if they had lost their job—and then they can focus on all the amazing things they can do now that they've been promoted!

Counterfactual thinking is a fantastic tool for evaluating situations and making decisions! Just remember to use it in a realistic way and avoid focusing too much on past events that cannot be changed.

The Stoics had a fascinating way of classifying things. They said there are three main categories. One of them is what they called the "will of heaven." Think of it like this: even if it snows, you can't be upset about it. You might not like it, but you have to accept it.

Another category of things is what we call other people's business. In this kind of thing, we can give others some advice and feedback, but the final decision-making power is still in the hands of others. As the saying goes, I can lead the horse to water, but I can't make it drink – so let's enjoy the ride!

And there's another category of things that are our own business! That means we can make our own decisions, like what time to go to bed or what to wear.

For the time being, things have already happened, and it is useless to regret them. So at this time, we should focus our energy on things we can control, such as making plans for the next meeting, asking friends or colleagues to remind us in advance, and generally speaking, we should not dwell on the past. Instead, let's look to the future and make the most of today!

Instead, look to the future! That's when you can make up for today's mistakes and make today better than yesterday.

Also remember that you're not perfect, and that's totally okay! We all make mistakes. But you know what? That's what makes you you! So, accept the imperfect self you are now. Do what you should do, and own it!

I really hope this helps! Every contribution is eager to be seen and to receive feedback from the host and other interested people, as well as attention and likes (useful).

Hello, question owner.

I can tell you're blaming yourself for getting the time wrong and having to ask the chairman to deal with it. You're feeling apologetic, even though you had the support of your colleagues.

From your description, it's clear you attached great importance to this meeting, and there was even a rehearsal.

I ultimately decided not to report it.

You missed your chance to show what you can do and gave the impression of being unreliable. You feel bad about yourself.

I want to tell you that people make mistakes.

We are human, not machines. You are right—people also have inertial thinking. It used to be 8 o'clock, so this time you also think it's 8 o'clock.

I miscalculated and thought it was 7 o'clock.

You can't grow from making mistakes. You just get stuck in them.

We must identify what we can learn from this mistake.

Next time, pay attention to the details of the process.

We can and should apologize, and we can also accept apologies from others.

Sometimes, we just can't forgive ourselves or others for their mistakes.

Your colleagues are really nice and they're comforting you.

Some people will attack themselves, but they should not. They are capable of making mistakes with simple things.

But sometimes it's not the fear of the ten thousand, it's the fear of the one. Things happen, and we accept them.

You will make progress as long as you do better next time than you did this time.

Give yourself confidence!

Come on!