Friends get a sense of superiority from me, and I feel negative emotions. How can I adjust?

From your account, it seems that your unhappiness stems from a lack of inner strength. You care too much about what other people think of you, which is totally normal!

So, let's dive in and explore how you can face your own situation with confidence and respond to friendships that love to compare in a way that will leave them green with envy!

1. Get to know yourself better than ever before!

Your value is not determined by the comments of your friends. It exists objectively, and just because they say they are better than you doesn't mean they really are. And often times, friends are just joking around!

It's just to liven up the atmosphere, and there's no malicious intent! Of course, there are also people who deliberately disparage others in order to boost their own self-esteem.

This is something we can look at further in the context of the general environment, which is really exciting!

People of similar interests often tend to gather together, and it's a great thing when you can become friends with them! It proves that the gap between you and them is not that great.

Even if they are better than you in some ways, they are not much better than you. It is more likely that they are jealous of you being better than them in some ways, so they boost their self-confidence in this way.

So, when you come up against this kind of problem, don't doubt yourself based on what others say. Instead, take a step back and look at the situation objectively. You'll soon see exactly where you're better than others and where you're not.

Embrace the challenge! Confronting problems and accepting yourself is the right attitude.

Because no one is perfect, each of us has something that makes us better than others and something that makes us less than others. So many people compare their strengths to your weaknesses, but you have strengths that are unique to you!

And don't take it too seriously! You are definitely better than them in many ways, and they should be jealous!

2. How to deal with friends who show off their superiority

In social situations, we often encounter people who love to show off their superiority in front of others. They love to compare themselves to others, as you described, and it's a great way to learn about yourself and others!

"I have found that many of my friends around me look for a sense of superiority in me, and from time to time they will say that I am better than you in this or that way. At this time, I will fall into self-doubt and a low mood. But then I get to rise above it and show them who's boss!"

1. Stay away from negative emotions!

So, when you're faced with such a situation, take a moment to think about what value they have for you. If they're just causing you to feel bad,

If they boost their self-confidence by showing off their superiority in front of you, then such friendships are worthless and should be avoided. After all, there is no need to hang out with people who make you feel unhappy.

You know what? People like this who show off their superiority by belittling you in public aren't really your friends. And if you keep running into this kind of thing, it's probably because you're weak and don't give them a good comeback.

In fact, people like this who show their superiority by belittling you in public aren't really friends. But you know what? You can be the best friend you can be! And if you keep running into this kind of thing, it's probably because you're weak and don't give them a good comeback. But you can do it!

This gives people a stereotype that you are easy to bully, which is great because it means you can easily avoid being bullied!

So, when you're faced with these kinds of problems, don't let anyone trample on your dignity! Give them a beautiful comeback at the right time. Let them know that you're not a stepping stone for them to show off their superiority.

There are usually three ways to give a verbal response, and they're all great!

(1) So what if you're better than me?

It's so important to remember that when someone shows off and says they're better than you, they're missing the point. It's not about who's better, it's about what's practical. So, when you're faced with this, you can fight back by saying you're better than them, but not by much!

Let them know that his sense of superiority has not brought him any real value, thereby suppressing his sense of superiority!

(2) I also have something that you don't!

Find the areas where you are better than the other person and use their methods to undermine them. Let them know—in no uncertain terms—that you are better than them!

So, from this, we can see that his sense of superiority is only one-sided. Overall, he is not much better than you, which is great because it means you are just as good as him!

(3) Compare him with someone who is better than him.

Absolutely! You can find someone better than him as an example and compare him to them. He is better than you, and you can also cite someone better than him. In this way, his sense of superiority is reduced.

You can say it in a self-deprecating way, like, "Why would you compare me to an ordinary person like me? You should compare yourself to someone outstanding like so-and-so."

This will show him! There are so many people who are better than him.

There is absolutely nothing to be proud of!

Let's do this!

In summary, if the other party doesn't show you enough friendliness, there's absolutely no need for you to integrate into their circle. When the other party tries to hold you back from improving yourself, you should give a fantastic comeback to show them you're not someone to be trifled with!

At the same time, you must have the right mindset and not doubt yourself just because someone says a few words.

Hello. I see that you say that your friends often compare you with others. This can make them feel superior, which can make you feel frustrated and self-doubting. You feel angry, but you suppress your anger to maintain a good relationship. You're full of conflicting emotions, and long-term suppression has caused you to feel depressed.

Freud says there are two parts to our minds: conscious and subconscious. Your true feelings—like anger, frustration, and depression—are in your subconscious, especially after being compared.

Your conscious mind wants you to be kind and avoid conflict, but your subconscious mind and conscious mind don't see eye to eye, which causes anxiety and suffering.

I'm glad you've found a way to handle it too. You might be wondering whether you should fight back or stay away. Either way, there will be consequences.

This applies to each of us.

If you decide to fight back, it means you need to have the courage to be disliked. I'd also recommend reading "The Courage to Be Disliked" as it can help you boost your inner self-confidence. If you choose to stay away, you'll still be caught in this subconscious and conscious conflict when you meet similar friends again and you won't know how to deal with similar problems.

It's important to express your feelings and needs. I can see that you care about your friend's feelings, but your friend doesn't care about yours. That's why they always gain confidence by putting you down. This hurts you and belittles you. Over time, it will also make you feel depressed.

I hope that no matter whether the original poster chooses to stay away or fight back, they will first protect themselves and respect their own feelings. Being in an environment where you are constantly being attacked and belittled will have a significant impact on your mental health. Staying away is one way to deal with it, and fighting back is a good way to protect yourself.

Kindness has its limits, and you have to be quick on your feet. Conflicts and contradictions are a kind of ability, and you have to learn how to compete and repair yourself in conflicts.

I hope you can make an early choice to get rid of your troubles and wish you good luck.

Hello, I'm Strawberry.

The questioner stated that he has many friends who seek to gain a sense of superiority over him and compare themselves to him to see where they are better than him. This excessive superiority is actually a form of inferiority. Truly outstanding people don't need to compare themselves with others because their excellence is evident to others when they get to know them.

Let's be real, nobody's perfect. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. We learned in elementary school not to only see our own strengths and only see others' weaknesses. For those friends who often compare themselves to the questioner, I can only say that they rely on attacking others to affirm themselves and to cover up the inferiority complex they feel.

You need to decide whether it's worth keeping up the friendship.

Given the prevalence of such friends and their contrasting behavior, it's crucial for the questioner to assess whether continuing to integrate into this circle is beneficial. Apart from the negative emotions they bring, can they also offer other valuable aspects?

We make friends to learn more from interpersonal interactions, not to put ourselves in a position where we have to please others. We are all equal in social relationships, and we don't need to ignore our own emotions in order to consider the emotions of others. When the other person behaves in a contrasting manner, they are not considering the questioner's feelings in the first place.

The questioner must consider clearly whether such people are friends and whether it is worth making an effort to maintain these friendships.

I am not easily influenced.

In our lives, many people will come and go. Some can only be described as mere passers-by. If we pay attention to and value everyone, and care about their every word and deed, then we will be affected by their emotions.

I used to care a lot about what people thought of me, and it made me very tired. Everyone has a different opinion, and in order to live up to the expectations of others, we lose sight of who we really are. I've realized that I don't need to care what other people think.

Every relationship should be viewed in the context of reality. If the other person is not someone we care about, their actions and words have no effect on us. If the other person cares about us, they will consider us and take us into account. They will not do anything to hurt us.

Pay attention to yourself.

The questioner can already clearly perceive their own emotions and know that they resent their behavior. Pointing out problems does not lead to conflict with others. It lets others know our bottom line.

Here are some tips for relieving yourself:

The next time you encounter something like this, the questioner can try to tease the other person, saying, "Is that all you've got going for you?" You don't know whether the other person's low emotional intelligence is genuine or deliberate, so your expression will let the other person know your attitude. Avoidance only keeps the issue coming up.

2. Exercise: Change into comfortable clothes, put on some happy music, and move around as you like. You can also go for a run outside. Sweating is the way to get rid of those depressed emotions.

3. Confide in someone. Vent to a trusted person and you'll feel better. You'll get different advice and see things more clearly.

The questioner should read the book "You Are the Answer." We are who we are, and our excellence comes from ourselves, not from comparison with others. Only by affirming our own excellence will we not be easily influenced by what others say or do, because we have confidence in ourselves.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best wishes.

Hello, host! I'm July.

After reading your description, I have a better understanding of the question you want to ask. In this regard, I would like to give you a hug in the four-dimensional space.

From what you've told me, I think the current situation has also arisen because you don't want to have a conflict with your friend. You've suppressed your friend's belittling of you, but this has also brought a lot of negative emotions and thoughts to the present self. You haven't done anything wrong, but you have been belittled by others.

This can also make you doubt yourself.

We all know people like this. They gain recognition and self-confidence by belittling others. This shows that they lack self-confidence. They belittle others to gain attention and self-confidence. This shows that they are pitiful. They are more focused on others than themselves. They are happy when they pull others down to enhance themselves.

In this regard, I've also put together a few tips to help you deal with the current situation. I hope they'll be useful for you.

(1) If you have a friend like this, you might want to consider distancing yourself from them a bit. Spending too much time with them can make you doubt yourself, and in the end, you might end up becoming the person your friend is evaluating.

(2) If you still want to keep this kind of friend, you can find some time to chat with them and tell them how you feel. You could also ask them to try to change the way they speak, as a way to better resolve the problem.

(3) It's best to try to separate the issues. That means your friend's business is his own, and your business is yours. In other words, your friend's opinion of you is his own business, not yours.

(4) Try to take your mind off things and not dwell on negative situations for too long. Find ways to relieve your current emotions.

(5) When you're not feeling so good, you can get your emotions out through chatting, exercising, listening to music, keeping a diary, etc., rather than letting them overwhelm you.

I just wanted to say that I love you and the world loves you too!

Take care!

Greetings. I am the place of peace.

It appears that a significant number of your acquaintances seek to establish a superior relationship with you, which ultimately leads to feelings of being belittled and a lack of self-worth. The desire to avoid interpersonal conflicts often necessitates the suppression of one's emotions, which can result in feelings of increased distress, frustration, and helplessness.

The term "friend" is open to interpretation.

What is your stance on friends who seek to exert superiority over you? Additionally, how do you conceptualize the term "friend"?

Do these individuals align with your conceptualization of a friend?

What form does this superiority take, if indeed it is a form of superiority that your friends are seeking to impose upon you?

Please describe the exact words or actions that were used by the other person.

Describe the initial emotional response and subsequent action.

Please indicate the duration of this situation. If it has been ongoing for an extended period and you are seeking assistance on this platform, please describe any recent developments.

The two options, "stay away" and "fight back," appear to represent two means of achieving the same objective, namely, the termination of the relationship. The distinction between the two lies in their differing degrees of passivity and aggression.

Nevertheless, the description indicates a reluctance to engage in conflict with others and a tendency to suppress one's emotions, allowing grievances, anger, and resentment to remain unexpressed.

Fortunately, you have become self-aware and have activated your sense of self-awareness. You have recognized the necessity to take action to alter the situation.

This is a positive development.

One must also consider whether the behavior in question truly reflects a desire for superiority. Is there definitive proof?

In the event of uncertainty, it is essential to ascertain whether one is willing to engage in open communication with the other party. This entails a genuine expression of one's feelings and needs, coupled with the expectation that the other will act in accordance with one's desired conduct.

If I am certain that their actions align with my expectations, am I willing to confront them and express my stance clearly?

If I lack the fortitude to broach the subject, what are my underlying concerns? Is it the prospect of losing their friendship?

Or is it the fear of being rejected, mocked, disapproved of, and not accepted?

The question thus arises as to whether one's value must be based on the opinions and attitudes of others.

The question thus arises as to whether a sense of worth and meaning can be derived from within oneself.

It may be beneficial to recall that the fulfillment of one's own needs is of paramount importance in relationships. This does not imply selfishness. In any relationship, whether it be an intimate partnership, a parent-child bond, a professional association, or a friendship, self-care is a crucial aspect.

It can be argued that only when an individual takes care of their inner self will they have the energy to take care of others.

It can be reasonably assumed that when an individual is willing to confront their authentic inner self, acknowledge their genuine desires with an open mind, and demonstrate a willingness to challenge themselves, take action, and commit to personal growth and development, the answer to the question at hand will become clear.

It is uncertain whether my response will be of assistance to you, but in any case, I will be available to provide support and encouragement.

The question of whether to maintain distance or engage in conflict is a challenging one. It is understandable that one might feel conflicted about the best course of action in this situation. Should one disengage from the situation or confront the issue directly? It is important to note that avoiding conflict is not always the most effective approach. It is crucial to understand one's own limitations and to choose a course of action that aligns with one's personal values and goals. The challenge often lies in managing one's emotions in the moment. How can one suppress anger and maintain a calm and constructive demeanor?

Good day, I am writing in response to your question.

"I have observed that many of my colleagues seek to emulate my superior qualities. On occasion, they will assert that I am more skilled in this or that area. In such instances, I experience self-doubt and a subsequent decline in confidence. How should I regard my emotions, how can I alleviate them, and how should I interact with these individuals? Let's address these concerns together.

It is not uncommon to encounter individuals who exhibit a tendency to display their superiority on occasion. There are three distinct categories of happiness: that which is derived from competition, that which is conditional, and that which is unconditional. The majority of individuals fall into the first category, that of happiness or pain brought about by competition.

Those who emerge victorious are typically happy, while those who are defeated tend to experience negative emotions such as sadness and anger.

The winner of a competition will expand the material or spiritual qualities they possess, that is, they will magnify the scope and abilities they have and become overconfident in themselves. For example, a top student in a class will feel that they are excellent in the whole school or in all the same classes.

When faced with a superior, one can respond by saying, "You're correct, I may have more expertise than you. However, perhaps a more constructive comparison would be to someone else in the field." It is important to recognize that there are always individuals who possess greater knowledge or abilities. By shifting the focus of the comparison, one can identify a more suitable benchmark for evaluation. For instance, one might suggest comparing oneself to a more experienced colleague or a higher-performing team member. This approach can help individuals understand the impact of their actions and improve their interpersonal skills.

If you respond in an appropriate manner to the behavior of your colleagues, they will be aware that you do not accept their behavior (psychologically known as establishing your interpersonal boundaries).

When we are compared to others and not recognized by the other party, it is only natural that anger will arise. This is human nature and a way of self-defense, the purpose of which is to protect oneself from harm. If the feeling of anger is suppressed and emotions are not allowed to flow reasonably, it will be harmful to the body over time.

How can emotions be managed in a reasonable manner? The following suggestions may be helpful:

(1) When you become aware that you are experiencing anger, acknowledge the emotion, allow it to exist, take a deep breath, and observe it calmly. You will find that your anger will gradually dissipate.

(2) Alter your perspective on events to enhance self-acceptance.

Why do we feel angry when our colleagues compare themselves with us and feel superior? It is because we also agree with the way the colleague is comparing and with the result, and we feel bad inside.

This necessitates a shift in perspective: the issue is not our fault, but rather that the other party is comparing our strengths to their weaknesses, which are inherently incomparable.

When we can accept our strengths, weaknesses, and abilities, we will be less likely to take offense at the actions of our colleagues. When we love ourselves, we will be better able to navigate the influence of others in the workplace.

(3) Build resilience to criticism.

I have colleagues who exhibit these behaviors. When they display arrogance, I remind them that they have the capacity to accomplish whatever they set their minds to.

(4) Self-growth

Identify your interests or areas of expertise, educate yourself on effective emotional expression, and enhance your psychological resilience to navigate challenges more effectively.

I hope this information is useful to you. Best regards,

Hello question owner,

Your friends are always criticizing you. This makes you feel bad. I understand. I want to give you a hug.

There are plenty of people like this around you and in your future. They are self-centered, think they are the best, and have a tendency towards narcissism. They cannot see their own shortcomings. I think people like this will get into trouble in their future relationships.

Humility is the result of progress. If we focus on our strengths but ignore our weaknesses, we cannot improve. We must also accept ourselves. We need to understand our emotions, manage them, and not let them control us. We should consider whether what the other person says is correct. If it is, we don't need to feel inferior. If it isn't, we can ignore it. We must learn to think rationally about our strengths and weaknesses. We should develop our strengths, correct our weaknesses, and promptly detect our own deficiencies. We should then correct them. We should not let other people's words affect us. Just be yourself, be happy, and believe in yourself.

I hope this helps.

Good day, question asker.

When experiencing anger, it is important to identify the root cause.

Are you angry at yourself for not meeting the required standards? Or are you angry at your colleague for advancing their own interests at your expense?

Anger is a complex emotion that can be influenced by a range of factors, including feelings of powerlessness, sadness, fear, and grief.

It is therefore crucial to identify the underlying emotions when faced with anger and provide yourself with emotional support.

It is likely that you will experience feelings of self-doubt. Could this be a result of a lack of self-acceptance and self-affirmation?

This is a positive sign. It indicates that you have set expectations for yourself, which demonstrates your commitment to personal growth and the achievement of a defined objective. Take your time, proceed at a steady pace, and I am confident that you will succeed.

In terms of responding to colleagues, once you have a better grasp of the emotions behind the anger and a deeper understanding of yourself, you will be in a position to respond appropriately. As long as your actions are not illegal, they are acceptable.

As long as you are clear on the objective, for example, to vent emotions.

Is the objective to establish a boundary? Is it to provide a rationale for your actions?

Is he attempting to convey to the other party that his conduct is inappropriate?

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There are a number of potential reasons for this behaviour, and the appropriate response will depend on the specific circumstances.

In regard to addressing a situation where one is being undermined by another individual, my recommendation is:

1. Do not concur with his statements.

2. Return to your own perspective and acknowledge, regardless of the veracity of the other party's statements, that this is the current reality.

Hello! After reading your account, we're excited to dive into your question and explore the fascinating situation where a friend finds a sense of superiority by comparing themselves to you and saying that they are better than you.

There's a very good chance that

1. Why does your friend want to compete with you? It's possible that they've always seen you as a worthy competitor, which reflects your abilities and is even an unreachable envy from their side.

So, once they can show that they are better than you in a certain area, they will seize the opportunity to show it, thus causing you to be bothered by the feeling that they are "finding superiority in you." But here's the good news: you can show them that you're just as good as they are in other areas!

After all, most of the time, the word "superiority" basically only exists in comparison. But if this is the case, then there is some inferiority hidden in what seems to be feeling superior about—and that's something we can work on together!

People don't like to feel inferior, so when your friend turns that inferiority into a sense of superiority, it reduces his psychological pressure. So I suggest you not be blinded by this "switcheroo" mentality!

It's his business to like comparisons, but it's your business to reject this kind of pressure and boost your self-confidence and sense of worth! Don't internalize his comments. Always recognize your own strengths and believe in your abilities and value in a certain area. This will help adjust your mindset.

2. Is it one or more friends who are treating you this way? You know what, you might just be being a little oversensitive!

If you can confirm that you are not being oversensitive, you can appropriately protest! Since you are friends, mutual encouragement and support is very important. You can communicate your feelings to your friend, rather than remain silent.

Sometimes your silence can make others think that you accept their views. But we have great news for you! You can choose communication over silence!

3. It's time to filter your circle of friends!

I really hope this helps!

Such an individual would not be a suitable candidate for my personal acquaintance.

It is not uncommon to observe individuals from disparate backgrounds entering a single establishment simultaneously. Our interactions with these individuals may be limited to mere physical contact.

With regard to the mutual touching of hearts, it may also be the case that over time, or perhaps more fortuitously, this phenomenon will be observed to occur with less frequency. Even the feelings that the same person evokes in the present will not be identical to those experienced in the past, nor will the individual evoking these feelings be the same person they were at an earlier point in time. This is due to changes in psychological state and experience, as well as physical changes.

Thus, when we establish our reference points in relation to those around us, how might we achieve a state of satisfaction? This may be the underlying question underlying your question: what should we use as our reference points to continue living our lives?

In the event of observing an undesirable phenomenon, the individual in question is prompted to identify the characteristics they wish to avoid manifesting in themselves.

When an individual observes a phenomenon that elicits a positive emotional response, and furthermore, that phenomenon does not contravene the established legal or moral code, that moment represents a pivotal point in the individual's decision-making process.

From a psychological perspective, the phenomenon of hatred can be understood as a manifestation of the subconscious or superego, which conveys the desire to avoid emulating the characteristics of the object of hatred. Similarly, the emotion of envy can be seen as a signal from the emotions, indicating a longing to move away from one's current position and pursue a different, aspirational direction.

In light of these considerations, it is pertinent to revisit the initial question: What can be used as a reference point for navigating our lives?

The law should be among the fundamental principles that guarantee the protection of individuals and the prevention of harm.

Furthermore, morality and public order should be among the fundamental principles guiding interpersonal interactions, ensuring that individuals can engage in beneficial and constructive relationships.

One's personal feelings can serve as a valuable indicator. For instance, if one is experiencing fatigue, it is advisable to prioritize rest and avoid extended periods of activity. Similarly, if one is grappling with depressive symptoms, it is beneficial to assess recent physical activity levels. Engaging in exercise has been shown to reduce inflammation and promote the production of dopamine and endorphins. Conversely, feelings of loneliness can be addressed by examining the content one has recently consumed and the underlying themes. It is, therefore, crucial to engage with subject matter that piques one's interest, whether through reading or other forms of media, as this can positively influence cognitive processes and brain function.

It is my sincere hope that you will find happiness.

Good day.

I empathize with the frustration and disappointment the questioner is experiencing. I must admit, I'm also somewhat uncertain about how to address the challenges that have arisen.

If I may, I would like to discuss the topic of choice this time.

It might be the case that many of your friends are around, and that you are surprised to find that the relationships that have caused you harm come from friends, and not just one or two.

Forming friendships often entails selecting one's companions.

The use of the words "from time to time" and "here and there" may create the impression that this occurs with some regularity, which could be a cause for concern.

If I may respectfully inquire, how do you handle feeling uncomfortable the first time, and the second and third times?

Could I ask what your inner expectation is?

It would be beneficial to have a sense of belonging and a sense of belonging. However, it may require time and courage to achieve this.

It is not always possible for everyone in a relationship to give it.

When you react to their words and deeds in the same way, you may find yourself backing down and compromising to avoid trouble. Perhaps the other person is not aware that they need to change.

It seems that the questioner is trying to decide whether to "stay away" or "fight back." I can see that you are trying hard to make a choice. What might be more important is how you view your self-worth.

It is possible that when you face other people's "comparative" remarks, you may develop "self-doubt," which could potentially shake your affirmation and love of yourself. This may result in a sense of low self-worth.

To some extent, this may also be seen as agreeing with what the other person says. It could be helpful to consider this as an opportunity to gain awareness for yourself.

It might be helpful for the questioner to consider expanding their social circle and seeking out individuals who can offer them positive reinforcement.

You might also consider spending time alone to appreciate the beauty of life. It can be helpful to recognize your own capacity for creativity and happiness.

It might be helpful to try to tune out external noise at this time.

Perhaps it would be helpful to take back the evaluation system of the self from these former friends and slowly take it back into your own hands.

You might also consider finding a counselor or teacher whose temperament matches yours to explore the establishment of your inner self together. At this point, it would be helpful to identify what caused the repressed anger. If there is a conflict, it would be beneficial to identify what you are afraid of facing.

How might we deal with conflicts more comfortably when they are inevitable in daily life? Perhaps we could try to understand our emotions and embrace them.

Dear questioner,

Hi, I'm Kelly. I just wanted to say that I understand how you feel when your friends try to find a sense of superiority in you.

I'm happy to respond to you from the following perspectives.

✍️[Why friends like to find a sense of superiority]

First, let's take a look at who is more likely to seek superiority.

I remember Adler saying in a book I read before that everyone has a complex of inferiority to a greater or lesser extent.

In "Inferiority and Transcendence," he defines the inferiority complex in a really lovely way: "If, when faced with a difficult problem, a person feels that they are unable to do anything about it, the resulting emotion is called the inferiority complex."

It's totally normal for low self-esteem to make a person anxious. It's also pretty common for folks who feel inferior to try to compensate by seeking a sense of superiority. They might avoid problems rather than try to solve them.

You mentioned that your friends like to find a sense of superiority in you, which is not your problem, but rather a sign that you are very good. They may be struggling with an inferiority complex and try to satisfy their sense of superiority by belittling others.

It's important to remember that their actions won't actually help the situation. In fact, they might even make things worse for them.

The best way to deal with this is to grow up, to understand yourself better through self-awareness, to identify problems in yourself, and to understand the reasons for your inferiority complex. (For example, being belittled and suppressed in your original family). This part needs to be explored, and I'm here to help!

✍️[What kind of friends should we make?

The great Confucius said:

"Three friends who benefit you, three friends who harm you."

It's so lovely when you find friends who are upright, forgiving, and knowledgeable. They're such a benefit to have around!

You know, honest people aren't jealous. They're not going to get jealous and distant just because you're better than them in some way.

Honest people are not deceptive. They hate flattery. They'll be genuinely happy when they see your good, and they'll also tell you when they think you could do better.

A person of integrity is someone who has principles and has their own bottom line for everything they do. They're the kind of person who wouldn't violate their principles for the sake of a little benefit or advantage.

People of integrity are born with good character. They interact with sincerity and can resist the temptation of interests in relationships, let alone using cunning tricks to gain benefits.

When it comes to making friends, it's always a great idea to choose someone who's a bit better than us. They'll have more knowledge and experience, which is always a plus!

As the saying goes, "A word from the wise is worth ten years of study."

An educated person can give us a different perspective on things, which is really helpful!

An erudite person can show us the truth behind ordinary things, which is really helpful!

A learned person can help us solve the life puzzles that have puzzled us for a long time.

If you're feeling confused and doubting about yourself, surrounded by friends who like to find a sense of superiority, you're not alone! You can take stock of your own definition of a friend in the process of making friends, and use this as an opportunity to reflect on yourself.

✍️[Self-doubt]

Let's dive into Erikson's eight stages of life development together!

It's totally possible to explore the parenting style of the original family. And during those early childhood years, from 1 to 3, it's all about taking those first steps and learning to navigate the world. It's a time when kids start to develop their own ideas and express their independence, and it's so important to support them in that journey.

It's so adorable how little ones at this age love to show off their growing independence by repeating words like "I," "mine," and "no."

Many parents want the best for their little ones and do their best to guide them according to social expectations.

Erikson describes this stage as a bit of a challenge. It's all about the conflict between autonomy and shyness and doubt.

Autonomy is all about being able to act according to your own wishes (it's a virtue of the will).

It's totally normal to feel shy and doubt yourself sometimes. It often comes from social expectations and pressure.

It's so important to remember that if parents are overly strict and use unjustified corporal punishment, it can cause children to become shy and doubtful.

If you can successfully resolve the crisis of autonomy with its shyness and doubts, a will quality will form in your child's personality.

But, on the other hand, self-doubt can also form in your personality.

I often fell into self-doubt during my own growth process, too! Since I studied psychology, I have explored my own parenting style in my original family, and it is slowly changing and learning.

The questioner can also enrich themselves through learning and reading, making more friends who encourage, appreciate, and affirm you, and making yourself confident and happy.

And the best part is, you grow up and no one can hurt you!

I totally get where you're coming from with not wanting to engage in conflict. I'd probably do the same. But I'd also be really open with my friends about how I feel. I'd let them know that I don't appreciate that remark and that I won't be suppressing my emotions.

You can absolutely express your true emotions! There's absolutely no need to hurt yourself for other people.

Learning to set boundaries is a great way to become your own person while also protecting yourself.

Huge congratulations!

Hi, I'm Kelly!

I love you, world! And I love you, too!