Full-time child care, unable to go to work, the reality is so different from the internet, a bit twisted?

Be kind to yourself, especially when you're feeling anxious or irritable.

First, it's important to remember that if you stay at home with your child full-time, you might not be able to go to work. This can sometimes make it hard to stay connected to reality. We all need time and energy to connect with society in a meaningful way. We're social creatures, and we need to socialize and interact!

So, the best thing you can do is find someone to help you with the baby, get a job, and start integrating into the workplace and society as soon as you can. Or, you could try developing an interest of your own, like buying goods on behalf of others, gardening, or something else!

Have you ever thought about opening your own small business in the future? It's a great way to connect with and interact with society!

Second, on the internet, people tend to add a lot of filters and idealized colors, which can make things seem different than they really are. It's important to remember that the gap between how you feel and how they feel is more psychological.

It's also possible that they might be stereotyped and boring towards their wives and children, and that they might just ask if they have eaten and slept, without having the energy for any other communication.

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Third, in short, you still have to return to reality and accept the status quo. It's okay! Try to communicate with your husband and find some common topics of interest.

You'll get through this, I promise! Take some time for yourself to relax and unwind. It'll get better, I swear!

Of course, online communication and release is also a great way to let off steam, but it's important to be careful and always be able to face the truth and return to reality.

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Hello, I send you a hug from head to toe.

Your Q&A likely resonates with many people. It's akin to the contrast between a red rose and a white rose, the difference between mosquito blood and white rice, or the comparison between fish and a bear's paw.

Many of us hope to find a soul mate and live happily ever after. It is often said that only children make choices, while adults don't.

It is often the case that we cannot have everything. Even when it comes to finding a soul mate, many people are skeptical.

According to relevant research, the average lifespan of a relationship is approximately 18 months, with the subsequent period being more about management. Therefore, the success of a marriage may depend more on how it is managed.

When we are in love, we tend to have certain expectations of our partner. However, after marriage, these expectations often evolve.

Prior to marriage, one might seek a partner who is gentle and considerate. However, after marriage, there may be a desire to move forward and pursue new endeavors.

It is important to recognize that everyone has not necessarily changed, but rather, their expectations of their partner may have shifted. This is similar to how young people in a relationship often prioritize feelings, while those who remarry may place a higher value on what their partner can contribute to the relationship.

It's important to recognize that there's nothing inherently wrong with this. It's simply a reflection of the evolving times.

Yang Lan has suggested that the strongest bond in marriage is the mutual spiritual growth of both individuals. In the case of Bill and Melinda Gates, the world's richest couple, the decision to divorce this year may have been influenced by the fact that the marriage could no longer satisfy the growth needs of both individuals.

Once the reason was explained, it prompted a lot of confusion. It's understandable that you're already the richest person in the world, but it would be helpful to understand what else you're looking to grow.

From your question, it seems that you are embracing the role of a full-time parent while also striving to develop your own abilities, perceptions, and social circles.

You have had the opportunity to meet many different people, who are different from your husband, different from the people around you, and different from yourself. These people you call "high-class people" have opened the door for you to see the outside world. They have also had an impact on you, because the gap between the online world and reality makes it even more challenging for you to accept your husband's ordinariness. It is really your own ordinariness that makes you feel so special.

I can understand why you might feel confused. It can be like seeing someone else's fancy home and your own simple home. It's natural to feel a bit disheartened by the contrast.

It's important to remember that everyone has multiple sides to their personality. The "upscale people" you see on the internet may only represent one aspect of their lives. It's possible that their lives may also be complex and challenging in ways that aren't visible to us.

It is possible that in their eyes, you may also be perceived as an object of envy.

It is possible to take a step back and view oneself from the perspective of others. A mother who chooses to stay at home to raise her children often makes special efforts to ensure that her own growth is not compromised. When one finds oneself in the same circle as other people who are considered "high-class," it is an indication that one is at least on a par with them and is worthy of being considered one of their own.

It's important to remember that they can't see you behind the internet, they can't see your life, and they can't even see your dissatisfaction with yourself. Just as you can't see them.

It's also worth noting that, in addition to online interactions, our colleagues, friends, neighbors, and others often present different aspects of themselves to different individuals in real life.

I apologize for going off on a bit of a tangent. Let's get back to your question, if I may.

It may be the case that you feel that the people you meet online can have spiritual exchanges with you, which your husband cannot give you. It is possible that what your husband gives you is probably a plain and stable life, without any ups and downs, day after day.

This discrepancy may lead to feelings of confusion.

How might we navigate this challenge? As I mentioned previously, individuals often have unique perspectives and approaches. What I'd like to emphasize is that different roles can shape distinct interactions and conversations.

It might be helpful to remember that when we look at other people, we all have a filter. This could mean that people who seem high-class might actually be very ordinary.

If you're still feeling a bit confused, you might want to consider temporarily focusing on the spiritual and material aspects separately.

It might be helpful to talk about different things with different people. You could also talk about profound issues with your online boss and colleagues.

Perhaps you could try talking to your husband about the daily necessities of life. Many strong women are resolute and forceful at work, but at home, they are dainty and gentle.

At the same time, you might also consider trying to influence your husband. However, it's important to remember that this does not imply that your husband has done anything wrong. He is not at fault, and neither are you.

Perhaps you would like to explore other topics together, such as learning. However, these activities are dependent on your husband's interest and availability. It is not necessary to ask him to change for you.

Perhaps the most well-known thing about the Republican writer Hu Shi is not how good he was at his studies, but that he married a wife with bound feet and lived together for decades. Hu Shi studied subjects that his wife did not have much interest in, such as things he enjoyed like playing mahjong. Despite their differences in interests, they managed to live a happy life together.

It is likely that disparity is a source of anxiety and confusion for many people. Accepting this disparity is an important first step. It is also helpful to recognize that changing others is not always within our control. Instead, we can focus on finding ways to cope with the disparity in a constructive manner.

I am often both Buddhist and pessimistic, but I also try to be an occasionally positive and motivated counselor. I love the world and I love you.

Hello, host!

You can grasp the psychological imbalance caused by the gap between the ideal life you dream of and your current reality.

Most of us find it tough to bridge the gap between our ideals and reality.

It's important to maintain a good balance in your state of mind. Don't set goals that are too high, but don't underestimate reality either. The greater the gap, the more suffering there will be, of course.

We live in the real world, and some people are perfectly happy with the way things are and don't have high expectations, so they don't feel anxious.

Some people are unhappy with the way things are, but they can't change it, so they just end up feeling resentful.

Some people are happy with where they are right now but still push for more, regardless of the consequences.

People who strive, regardless of their circumstances, just do what they should do.

So, what's the current status of the host?

My husband isn't highly educated, and he feels that as long as he eats well, sleeps well, and has sex, that's enough. I care more about the spiritual level, and he can't give it to me.

To achieve your goals, you have to do it yourself. You can't rely on anyone else to make you happy.

Your husband can't give you what you want because you want more than he can give right now.

So, you chose this husband for yourself at the beginning, and you attracted him to you. After a period of self-improvement,

The host's spiritual realm has changed, but your husband hasn't, so the host feels like there's a lack of understanding.

It's normal for the host to be feeling a bit out of sorts at the moment.

So, how can the host balance this mentality at this time?

It's time to make a choice: either grow with your husband or accept him as he is.

If your husband isn't willing to change and grow, you'll inevitably grow apart.

If the host doesn't want to give up this marriage and give the other person what they need,

If you're not happy, you have two options: leave or change your mindset.

It's important to recognize your current situation, what you want to achieve, and then work towards it.

If you achieve it, great! If not, no problem. Just try not to be too hard on yourself.

This will make your life more comfortable.

I wish you all the best in your future endeavors!

I'm sending you warm wishes for a lovely June, and I hope you have a great time!