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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Dear Sir/Madam, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you regarding an unfortunate incident that occurred recently. I would like to bring your attention to the following:
You stated that you accompanied your cousin to the beauty salon, where you were the victim of a fraud scheme resulting in the loss of thousands of dollars. You were already in a negative emotional state, and your cousin subsequently informed your parents, resulting in your being scolded. It is evident that you are experiencing a range of emotions, including embarrassment and anger.
If you pay for your own beauty salon expenses and are subsequently defrauded, you may feel that you have paid for a lesson. This is an appropriate attitude, as each person should accept responsibility for their own actions.
Given that she is already gainfully employed and has her own income, she is at liberty to dispose of it as she sees fit. There is nothing untoward in that. In the current climate, there are so many unscrupulous individuals and organisations seeking to exploit others, it is inevitable that many of us have been duped at one time or another.
After your cousin informed your parents about the scam you were subjected to, they reprimanded you. How would you assess their conduct?
Normally, you are now employed and financially independent, but your parents still view you as a child. When you make a mistake, they scold you to teach you a lesson and to make you remember.
However, you may understand that I have matured, I am financially independent, and I was defrauded. I will heed your counsel when you admonish me, but I am capable of assuming responsibility for my actions.
Regarding your cousin's conduct, she accompanied you to the beauty salon but was not obligated to inform you of the potential risks associated with the transaction. It is likely that she assumed you were aware of the standard procedure.
However, after you were the victim of a scam, she informed your parents. This may have violated your privacy, which is a breach of protocol.
There is an opportunity to remind her of the importance of respecting your privacy and protecting your rights.
In summary, as an adult, you are gainfully employed and receive an income, which allows you the autonomy to spend your own money and assume responsibility for your actions.
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I can totally relate to feeling blindsided by those salon experiences. It's frustrating when you trust someone and end up feeling taken advantage of. I guess it's a lesson in being more cautious next time, even with recommendations from family.
Feeling regretful is natural after something like this happens. But what really stings is the way your parents reacted. Sometimes they just don't understand how easily we can be misled, especially in unfamiliar situations. It's hard not to feel hurt by their reaction.
It's tough when the person who took you there is the one who ends up causing more trouble. I get why you're angry at your sisterinlaw. She could have given you a headsup about the potential pitfalls. It seems like she didn't fully consider the consequences of her actions.
I know it's easy to feel like everything is your fault, but it's important to remember that everyone makes mistakes. Maybe your sisterinlaw thought she was helping by telling your parents, even if it didn't feel that way. It's complicated, and it's okay to feel upset about it.
The whole situation must have been really embarrassing for you. It's hard when family members react so strongly, and it doesn't help when you're already feeling bad about the whole thing. I hope you can find a way to talk to your parents and sisterinlaw about how you feel.