Graduation project, the process is difficult, there is no progress at all, what should I do if I have no confidence?

Hello, I am peace.

You're anxious, frustrated, helpless, and hopeless because you think your graduation project is a dead end.

"Every time we meet, the teacher says there's a problem with what I've done. I looked for the answer in the literature, but found it's different from what he said."

What did you feel when you found out the literature was different from your teacher? Have you thought about it?

How do you feel about yourself in grad school? If you could rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 10, what would you give yourself?

You were repeatedly rejected and hurt. You lost confidence.

How would you rate your own work on a scale of 1 to 10?

If your opinion of yourself is very different from your teacher's, why do you think that is? Have you thought about it much or talked to your teacher about it?

Tell your teacher your thoughts and feelings and ask for help.

When you have problems, your mother is there for you. You are grateful to her, but this doesn't help. You feel pressure, guilt, and you even lose the courage to live.

Why do you feel this way? Do you feel you don't deserve your mother's support?

Is it worth it for mom to put in so much effort?

When did this start?

"No courage to live" worries me.

Have you had similar experiences? Have you been rejected or had other setbacks?

Has "failure" ever been in your vocabulary? How did you deal with it?

If not, is this a major blow for you and do you feel powerless?

Is that really true? Are you sure?

Are you willing to give up?

You need to find the answer yourself.

You are the expert on your own problems. Only you know what's best for you.

If you want, try to calm down, ignore your anxiety and guilt, and listen to your feelings.

What part of your needs is not being met? How can you achieve satisfaction?

You're here because you want to change. That's a great start. Now, you might need to calm down and get more courage, faith, perseverance, and effort to make a little change.

Don't rush. Take your time.

I wish you the best.

My teacher asks questions at every meeting. I feel like I'm doing everything wrong. How can I change?

I empathize with you after reading your narrative. Your postgraduate supervisor is a significant source of frustration. I extend a supportive gesture. Your mother is admirable, and her sadness would undoubtedly intensify if you were to cease living. Are you prepared to allow those who care about you to experience such distress due to a graduation thesis issue? Let us collectively explore the potential for transformation.

I am currently in my third year of graduate school and am working on my graduation project. However, I have only made minimal progress since June. At each meeting, my professor identifies issues with my work. I have attempted to address these issues by consulting the relevant literature, but the solutions I have found are not aligned with those proposed by my professor.

Academic research is inherently challenging, and some instructors may employ obfuscatory techniques to challenge students. They may also exhibit inconsistency in their responses to student inquiries or requests for changes. This is not an indication of any inherent deficiency in the student but rather a potential indicator of an instructor's lack of clarity or the use of students as a means of testing their character.

It is imperative that you do not doubt your abilities. I recommend that you record his remarks and highlight the sections that you have modified in accordance with his suggestions, while also articulating your own insights. This approach will effectively silence him.

2. Each time the instructor poses a query during a meeting, it erodes your confidence. You perceive that you are performing inadequately and are uncertain about how to rectify the situation, particularly given that you have already attempted to do so. Furthermore, you are unsure of how to further enhance the content you have already created.

It is imperative that you remain calm at this juncture. Having invested a considerable amount of time and effort into this endeavor, you have the option of integrating your historical experimental data and then organizing and comparing it to identify any potential sources of inspiration.

Additionally, if appropriate, arrange a meeting with your superior to discuss the challenges you are facing. This could provide valuable insight and guidance. In some cases, educators may appear to be aloof or unresponsive. In such instances, it is advisable to communicate directly with them to ascertain their perspective and potential solutions.

Furthermore, one may consult the exemplary historical research papers from one's own educational institution to gain insight into effective practices.

Furthermore, your mother has been remarkably patient and supportive, providing invaluable encouragement. You are fortunate to have such a supportive family, and it would be a tragic outcome if you were to take your own life.

It is merely a graduation thesis. You have two options: either you persevere and complete it in a single attempt, or you switch supervisors and topics and begin anew.

As long as you remain alive, there is hope. It is important not to cause distress to your family. Should all other avenues prove unsuccessful, it is always possible to seek employment in line with your Bachelor's degree. It is likely that the experience will not be as adverse as you anticipate. It is crucial not to be excessively self-critical.

It is recommended that the subject be embraced.

4. It is possible that you have been excessively invested in this matter and have not engaged in relaxation for an extended period. It is recommended that you engage in physical activity or relaxation, and take a moment to breathe. The most straightforward approach is to meditate, following the meditation section of Yi Xin Li.

I encourage you to embrace the notion that everything will be fine.

It is always possible to identify additional solutions to any given problem.

Everyone has something valuable to contribute, whether it's asking questions or answering them. By sharing our ideas through words, we can inspire and support each other, and this is our shared strength.

Hi, I'm a heart exploration coach. I can see you're really frustrated. The problem with your graduation thesis is making it hard for you to find a direction for your efforts. This is making you feel self-blame and guilt, and even disheartened and without a fighting spirit.

It's only natural to feel frustrated when you're criticized or rejected by others, especially those in authority. Teachers, for instance, often have a hard time seeing you grow and develop new skills. What they're criticizing is your current approach, not you as a person. It's important to distinguish between the issue at hand and your personal worth.

As a soon-to-be graduate student, you have a certain aura and advantages that many people envy but cannot attain. I guess if I shared this with others, many of them would say that you are in "Versailles."

Frustration is real, but I just want to tell you that looking at problems from different angles helps you see more of what's really going on and gives you more options. Let's take a look at the problem:

? 1. Frustration can make you feel like you don't deserve to succeed, which can make it harder to push through challenges.

Let's start with the difficulties. As our abilities improve, the original difficulties are no longer difficult. It's like looking back at the knowledge you had in high school—it's like child's play.

But when you face these things in high school, they're still pretty challenging.

This is still the case today. When you level up, new challenges emerge, pushing you to develop new skills. Life is about continuously evolving and adapting to changing circumstances.

This is how we learn and grow.

When people come up against a problem, they'll find a way to solve it. The more you solve problems, the fewer you'll have. As you grow up, you'll have more resources and stronger abilities, and the problems you face will be fewer and easier to overcome.

1) Think about how you define "difficulty."

We all know that difficulties can bring pressure and frustration.

We can view difficulties as challenges that give us a boost of determination and resilience.

2) Switch your focus:

Instead of focusing on the difficulty, focus on the result.

Ask yourself what you want and focus on the challenges, because you'll be expending a lot of energy. If you're used to focusing on the challenges, they'll be a lot to handle.

If you focus on the results, you'll get good results and keep your hormones in check.

I'm not going to help you with the professional knowledge of the thesis, but I hope the above will help you in terms of mindset. Apart from asking your supervisor, classmates, seniors, and teaching assistants, can they all be your resources?

2. I'd like to share with you a problem-solving method that I find really helpful – it's called the STAR method.

Situation: Give us a quick overview of the environment you're in right now and the challenges you're facing.

T (Task): Give us a quick overview of your current task and the responsibilities you have to take on in the current environment.

A (action): What are the specific steps you want to take to achieve your goal, and how can you overcome obstacles step by step?

R (Result): What you might achieve by doing this, preferably in quantifiable terms.

Use this method to deal with your anxiety by taking practical action. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, beating yourself up, or feeling guilty towards your parents, take on the responsibility that's yours.

Parents are doing what they should do, and you need to do what you should do. You'll feel at ease, and so will they. Showing respect for your parents, supporting them, and honoring them is all part of being a good child.

I hope this is helpful to you, and I wish you all the best.

If you want to keep talking, just click "Find a Coach" in the top right corner or at the bottom. I'll keep in touch and we can work together one-on-one.

Hello, questioner!

If the teacher doesn't agree with our thesis, it'll lead to self-doubt, which will affect our learning and work. Let's sort it out together.

"Every time we have a meeting, the teacher says there's a problem with what we did. We look for the problem in the literature according to what he said, but we find that it's fundamentally different from what he said. Have we talked to the teacher about this?"

If we don't communicate, we won't know where the problem lies. Is it our own misunderstanding, or is the teacher's understanding biased?

If the teacher has misunderstood, we need to talk to them about it using the literature we've found. We'll only be able to resolve the issue effectively once we've unified our views and revised the questions the teacher has raised.

It might be tough to do this, though. The teacher is pretty important to us, and we tend to think they know best. We need to push past our doubts and find the courage to talk to them.

Tell your teacher what you think about the problem, as well as how you're feeling and what you're struggling with because of the lack of progress on your paper, and ask for specific help.

Not getting the recognition and achievement we want in this process can make us doubt ourselves. We all want to be rewarded for what we do, and waiting for that reward can be hard.

If you have to wait for something to be done, you just have to be patient. It'll take a while, and it'll be tough, but you've got to stick with it.

It can be helpful to think about similar experiences from the past and how we managed them. We can apply past successes, including how we thought, what we did, and how we handled our emotions, to the current challenge to boost our confidence. At the same time, it's important to believe in ourselves. Those who pursue graduate studies tend to have strong learning and thinking abilities. What we may lack is the ability to communicate with our teachers effectively.

If you're willing to communicate with your teachers, I'm confident you can resolve many issues.

If we adjust our expectations, improve our ability to "delay gratification," communicate with our teachers proactively, and complete our graduation thesis in stages, we'll see our own progress and regain confidence in our studies and lives.

Having a good mood helps our brain think clearly and turn thoughts into actions. So, when we're feeling emotional, it's important to calm down. How can we adjust our emotions? Here are some tips:

When you feel pain, anger, rage, guilt, etc., accept it and allow it to exist. Emotions are our most direct and real feelings about events. These emotions show that we are perfectly normal people. We cry when we are sad and laugh when we are happy. When we don't reject it in our hearts, we won't attach extra evaluations and psychological burdens to our emotions, such as, "I am a sensitive person or guilty (sorry to my family), etc."

It's important to accept your emotions and then let them flow reasonably. In this regard, the questioner has done a great job. "After every meeting, I want to call my mother and tell her my problems. My mother is also very patient with me and encourages me."

Talking to someone can help us to relieve our emotions. You might also want to go for a jog.

Exercise can help calm the cerebellum, improve sleep, and even cause the brain to secrete some happy chemicals. The body will sweat, increasing blood circulation, which will make us feel relaxed and happy. After exercising, if we study, our thinking will be clearer and our problem-solving ability will increase, which is helpful for improving learning efficiency.

It's especially important to plan your time well when studying to make room for exercise.

When you're feeling emotional, take a deep breath from your abdomen. As you inhale, gently expand your belly and hold for 2-3 seconds, then exhale. Focus on the interval between each breath. Practice 10 times, and you'll be able to relax your body and mind and relieve your emotions.

I hope this helps! Best regards,

Hello!

You're ready to dive in and complete the graduation project required for the academic cycle!

If the questioner's wish is to complete the graduation project more comfortably, it would be a great idea to look at the relationship with the following people:

Mentor

The mentor's disapproval.

The supervisor may feel that his job is to point out problems, but there's no need to worry!

Completing your graduation project is also similar to working together with your supervisor, which is an amazing opportunity to learn and grow!

You seem to be torn between following his orders and making your own decisions, which is totally normal! Sometimes the mentor's guidance doesn't match your practice, which can make you feel a little confused and doubt yourself.

If you communicate, you may not feel that it is meaningful. But here's the thing: it may cause more resistance and negative emotions. So, what's the solution?

2. Mom

The sentence "After every meeting, I want to call my mother" shows just how much the questioner trusts his mother!

It's so important to be aware of whether there's a strong dependency in our relationship with our mother.

Your mother may know slightly less than you in the field of your chosen profession, but that just means she has more room to learn and grow!

You can absolutely help yourself by making up your own mind! Research online, read journals and literature, and discuss with classmates to discover your own needs and goals.

You received some constructive criticism from your mentor, but you also got some great encouragement and patience from your mother!

It's great to see how inspired you are! When you become more patient with yourself, you'll be able to handle rejection from your mentor with confidence.

Completing a graduation project with a mentor is a fantastic part of postgraduate life!

The future is wide open! In this situation, you have the chance to figure out what you like and what you prefer. Then, in the future, you'll be ready to take on the world!

I'd like to talk to you very seriously about the idea that you feel sorry for everyone.

What is the questioner's research area? It will bring new sparks to a certain research area!

I also want to applaud you, who passed the postgraduate entrance exam a few years ago!

When failure comes, you will be afraid, you will condemn yourself, you will dislike yourself. But don't! Over-reflection causes unfairness to yourself.

Your self needs to be built up gradually, and it's going to be an amazing journey! Real people have a vulnerable side, and that's okay.

You don't have to be strong all the time and succeed at everything, but you can!

Ms. Tu Youyou and Grandpa Yuan Longping both failed their experiments several times before finally reaping artemisinin and hybrid rice, which have contributed greatly to the progress of mankind. Let these true feelings and true meaning of the world, which are full of spiritual civilization, lead you forward!

I highly recommend that the questioner read "Flow." It's an amazing book that will help him adjust and complete a graduation design that he'll be proud of!

In the third year of graduate school, the teacher's role shifts from that of a source of guidance to one of a facilitator of the thesis process. This transition can lead to a sense of lack of support, which can extend to other aspects of life, potentially affecting confidence and leading to feelings of inadequacy. These feelings can also extend to family members, creating a sense of guilt and a lack of motivation to continue.

Experiencing such despair and pain is undoubtedly challenging. We hope that the following information will provide you with some support.

Experiencing such despair and pain is undoubtedly challenging. We hope that the following information will provide you with some support.

1. Visualize the successful completion of the graduation project and work backwards to identify a solution.

First, envision the successful completion of the graduation project and work backwards to identify a solution to the problem.

The current challenge with the graduation project is that the teacher does not recognize the existing graduation design. As a teacher and a student, you must align with the teacher's guidance, but you cannot find a solution in the direction the teacher is guiding you, so you are stuck in an impasse with no solution.

If you continue down the same path and the problem remains unsolved, you will inevitably experience feelings of helplessness and despair.

In this regard, you might consider the "end-first" solution, which entails envisioning your future self upon successful completion of your graduation project. Through this visualization, you can identify the resources you will need to mobilize and source during the project's execution, as well as how to supplement and optimize the parts that existing resources cannot provide.

In addition, it is important to arrange the corresponding time nodes and clarify the extent to which you want to complete each stage. Should you encounter an obstacle that you are unable to overcome at this time, we encourage you to seek guidance from existing teachers, seniors in higher grades, or professional websites and forums, which may offer innovative solutions.

2. In addition to providing her mother with support, it would be beneficial to consider ways of enhancing her overall quality of life and strengthening her social support system.

The predicament posed by the graduation project resembles a tunnel that narrows progressively. Perseverance in the current approach may culminate in an impasse. It is, therefore, prudent to transition from the current coping strategy to one or more alternative coping strategies that can broaden the potential solutions to the challenges posed by the graduation project.

One possible course of action is to transition from a state of comfort to a more active state of emotional regulation. This can be achieved through exercise, mindfulness meditation, participation in high-quality gatherings, and communication with individuals who have faced similar challenges or have successfully overcome them.

Furthermore, these activities will enhance the realism and assessability of the challenges currently faced in relation to the graduation project. Once emotions are more stable and the state of mind is improved, there will be greater potential to resolve the current issues surrounding the graduation project.

It is my hope that the above information will provide you with inspiration.

As a psychologist, my focus is not on exploring human nature but on understanding the human heart. I wish you well.

Hello,

Host:

After carefully reading the post, I can clearly see the self-blame and guilt you feel. I also see that you have bravely expressed your distress and actively sought help on the platform, which will undoubtedly help you better understand and recognize yourself, and thus adjust your state of mind.

Next, I will share my observations and thoughts in the post, which will help the poster look at the current situation from a more diverse perspective.

1. Deal with your emotions before dealing with things.

From the post, I can see that you're struggling with your graduation project. You feel like you're doing everything wrong and don't know how to change it.

And every time, your mother patiently accompanied and encouraged you, which made you feel sorry for your family, sorry for everyone, and even without the courage to go on living. After reading this information, I understand your inner pain.

We are struggling with our graduation project, and the teacher is constantly asking questions, which is causing us a lot of pain. Our mother's tolerance and encouragement has made us feel guilty and self-blame. We are suffering twice as much.

We must ask ourselves: what can we do to face these pains? What can we do for ourselves in the face of these circumstances?

The original poster should tackle their emotions first and then tackle the situation. When our hearts are wrapped up in emotions, it's hard to see the truth.

Our brain has two distinct functions: an emotional brain and a rational brain. When the emotional brain is active, the rational brain is inactive.

Therefore, when we lose some rationality, we cannot see the diversity of things and it is not easy to see the essence of the problem. Reason only comes out when our emotions come out.

2. Express our emotions reasonably.

We already established that we should address our emotions before tackling the task at hand. So, how do we handle our emotions?

You used to deal with your emotions by talking to your mother. This is just one way, and there are many other reasonable ways to deal with emotions in psychology.

For example, writing, drawing, etc. Express your inner emotions through writing and drawing.

In the process of writing, we express our emotions and listen to them. This often relieves our emotions.

Write about your inner feelings and the emotions you have. That's what's important.

It doesn't have to be well written or logical.

3. Adjusting perceptions

I was struck by this sentence in the post: "Every time the teacher asks a question in the meeting, I lose confidence and feel that I am doing everything wrong. I don't know how to change now." The word "wrong" stood out to me.

If you interpret it from your perspective, you might think that every time the teacher asks a question in a meeting, it's a mistake on my part.

It is only when we have this kind of understanding that we may feel pain. Every time the teacher asks a question, it is a blow to us.

If I were in your shoes, I would feel just as miserable as you do. I want to know if you have any other interpretations.

For example, it can also be interpreted as: The teacher's questions make my graduation design richer and more substantial. The teacher is here to help us grow.

The teacher's questions are not meant to prove that we are wrong. They are meant to make our design more perfect. And they are meant to get our graduation design from 60 to 70 to 80.

This interpretation will undoubtedly improve our inner feelings.

I am a heart exploration coach, Zeng Chen, and I am confident that these will be of some help and inspiration to you.

If you have any questions, click on Find a Coach to get a chat partner to explore the issue in greater depth.

Hello, Lord! I hug you from afar to comfort you!

From this problem, I can see your hard work, your motivation, your excellence, your patience, your persistence, and your achievements. You are really very good. Everyone knows that the number of people taking postgraduate entrance exams is getting bigger and bigger, and the competition is getting fiercer every year. In the face of such fierce competition, many people are still scrambling to get onto the narrow bridge of postgraduate entrance exams, while you have already successfully passed and been admitted to postgraduate school, and are in your third year of study, about to graduate soon. This shows that you are already very good, leaving behind most of your peers. You are an outstanding person, and I know you won't give up at the last minute.

You can do this. You will graduate successfully from postgraduate school and get a good job when you graduate.

I can also see your mother's understanding and support for you. When you have negative emotions because you can't pass the postgraduate thesis design, your mother is your emotional supporter. She is always there for you, smiling at you and giving you strength, encouraging you to continue to be strong. With such a strong and powerful backup force supporting you from behind, you can pass. Don't be stressed. Your mother is doing this to support you, and she hopes that you will be well. Such a caring and powerful mother will not be upset with you just because you failed your thesis design. She only wants the best for you.

Question owner, you can do this! Just a little longer, and you'll be on your way to success!

Hello, I'm Meng Xiaoxiao.

You seem frustrated and desperate. Let me give you a hug.

Let's look at what's involved in the graduation design jam. You said your teacher questions everything and expects you to fix it. This has made you doubt yourself.

Other factors: The questioner can also think about things like the environment, their physical health, and their professional abilities. This can help them understand themselves better.

Your essay is about improving the current bottleneck situation. You need encouragement and support. The graduation project is long and difficult, but you've made efforts, like the research.

When your family finds out about your situation, you don't want them to worry, so you feel guilty. When you are vulnerable, you choose to bear it alone. This state of exhaustion and torment is really not easy. I don't know what has supported you to get to where you are now.

Life isn't always easy. When you're having a hard time, it's normal to feel down. It's a sign that you need a break. Your brain and body are tired, and that's okay. Life is still long, and I believe you've experienced ups and downs. Reflect on your successes and think about what you can do to help yourself. Imagine how it will feel when you solve your graduation project. Think about what you need to do to get there.

I hope my words help. Believe in yourself and get through this.

Hello, question author! I'm sending you a big, warm hug from afar.

From the text, I can see that because the progress of your graduation design was not quite where you wanted it to be, you were repeatedly questioned by your teacher. This led to you questioning yourself and your abilities. You then began to self-doubt and could not find your self-worth, right?

I have a feeling that the questioner may be in their third year of postgraduate study, with graduation just around the corner! It's understandable to feel the pressure of not being able to finalize your graduation project, especially when you're getting frequent negative feedback from your teacher. It's totally normal to feel a bit anxious in this situation.

At the same time, this may also lead to more negative associations due to anxiety. For example, you may worry that you will not be able to graduate successfully, and that you will let your family down for all their hard work and sacrifices. This extends to a sense of guilt and remorse towards your family. Therefore, you may be under an additional layer of pressure. But don't worry! There are ways to overcome these challenges.

Sometimes we do encounter such bottlenecks. But you are not alone! Many people will experience similar situations. When we encounter a bottleneck, the harder we try, the more counterproductive it is. At this time, it is a great idea to relax a bit and start by relieving tension and anxiety.

It's so important to remind yourself to detect whether that feeling that "the sky seems to be falling" is real. And you know what? You can ask yourself: will the things I worry about definitely happen?

It's true! All those negative emotions we feel are often caused by too many negative associations. So, it's really important to be able to focus on the present moment.

You can absolutely try it! First, put aside what you are doing and focus on your physical and mental state. Start by meditating or doing something that makes you feel physically and mentally happy. When the brain starts to relax, it will better mobilize the rational part of our brain, be able to focus more on thinking about solutions to problems, and also be able to switch our thinking, and perhaps other inspirations will appear!

At the same time, we can also more objectively assess our level of ability. The questioner was able to enter the third year of graduate school, which shows that he has his own level of ability. And when we return to a rational level, we can see more of the valuable parts of ourselves!

Your mother has been a rock for you, encouraging you every step of the way. She's been there for you through thick and thin, and you're lucky to have her! But have you ever thought about why you feel sorry for your family? Could it be that you're striving for perfection?

Or could it be that we have a limiting belief that "failure is not an option"? With a little more awareness, we can see the truth more clearly!

On the bright side, we can always try to let go of this burden and just do our best!

In terms of the mentor, I don't know what the mentor's usual style is. But if it's always a stern style, then we can be sure that the mentor is actually stable, and his actions are not necessarily targeted and oriented! So, the unstable part may still be our own state. But in this case, the question owner can go and see how the situation is.

Then, get ready to actively adjust your state!

I'm so excited to share these tips with you! I'm picture, and I'm on the path of psychology. I can't wait to see you graduate successfully!

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

I'd like to give the questioner a hug and some encouragement. From what the questioner has said, it seems that he's not confident in his graduation design. He's also struggling to get the guidance he needs from his teacher, which is making him feel nervous, anxious, uncomfortable, and at a loss.

The graduation project and future concerns are causing the questioner a lot of stress and negative emotions.

My take on it is that the questioner has a rocky relationship with their teacher. It's tough to get results just from the questioner's graduation design. Why not go to their tutor privately for guidance? If they can't achieve their graduation design on their own, why not rely on their tutor?

I'm curious about how the author's family members view the author's current situation. Have they given the author any advice?

From the self-introduction, it seems like the tutor has been asking questions about the design of the questioner, but the questioner himself checked it and didn't find any problems like the tutor said. So, can the questioner go and ask for help from his tutor, or ask those students who have been praised by the tutor how they passed the tutor's design? Just think about solving the problem when the tutor mentions it, but the questioner himself can't get the recognition of the tutor, which makes the questioner feel negative emotions. These negative emotions get in the way of the questioner, making him not know how to face the current situation.

Learn how to spot and get rid of negative emotions and replace them with a positive mindset. What can't defeat the questioner will surely give the questioner more courage to face difficulties in the future.

Since the question was asked on a platform, we can't go into too much detail about it. I can just give the questioner a little advice on how to deal with the negative emotions that arise:

It'd be good to figure out where your anxiety is coming from.

What's making the questioner anxious? Is it the worry about graduation, or the teacher's disapproval, because of repeated rejections and not knowing how to improve, which makes them feel lost and at a loss?

This means the questioner has to look closely at what's really causing their anxiety and write it down.

Find out what negative emotions make the questioner anxious and what's causing the anxiety in the first place. For example, the questioner feels like there's always something wrong with their graduation project. They think that no matter how much they improve it, it'll never meet their supervisor's expectations. Their supervisor thinks the project is too difficult.

The questioner said that he was always being criticized by his supervisor. Why is that? Has the questioner talked to his supervisor about it? What are the main requirements of the supervisor for the questioner's graduation project? Does the supervisor have his own ideas and hopes that the questioner can talk to him or get relevant information from him? The questioner needs to find time to talk to his supervisor.

To make the right improvements, you need to understand the root cause of the problem.

Start with the biggest problem.

The tutor always asks the questioner to revise the graduation design, which leaves the questioner unsure of what to do. The questioner can try writing down the things on their mind on a piece of paper to see what problems they need to solve.

Then, rank the issues according to how important you think they are. This will help you identify the biggest and most important problem you currently face.

Once you've identified the issue you want to tackle, you can then ask yourself whether you can resolve it independently. If not, you might need to look for external support.

You might want to talk to your family to see if they can help you out with the problem. When you're feeling anxious, try not to dwell on it or talk about it too much. Instead, focus on the positive. With time, you'll get used to it and your outlook will change.

It's important to remember that there are always more ways to do something than there are difficulties.

Make a list of the worst possible outcomes.

What's the worst that could happen in this situation? What about for the person asking the question? Write them all down and think about how you'll handle it. If you can't accept the worst case scenario, that's okay. Just make a plan.

Instead of worrying about every little thing, it's better to think about the worst-case scenario and plan for it. For example, what if you fail your graduation project? When it actually happens, you'll be able to respond according to your plan, so the questioner's anxiety will be less severe.

It's important to remember that there are always more ways than there are difficulties. If you want a good result, you have to face the real you and pursue the better you.

Keep an eye on the way you speak.

It's only natural that when we're faced with a challenging situation, we tend to fall back on certain verbal habits. We might say things like, "It's so annoying," or "I messed up again today." These negative words reflect an exaggerated and emotional response to things, which can make us dwell on the negative.

The person asking the question should avoid using these types of words. To help you turn negative emotions into positive ones, replace these negative words with positive thoughts and praise. For example, replace "terrible" with "unfortunate" or "there is still room for improvement," and "disaster" with "challenge" or "inconvenience."

Keep an eye out for the positive.

Nobody's perfect. Even the most capable person can't do everything right all the time. The key is to accept that there are probably many things you're not doing as well as you could be. Take a deep breath and tackle them one at a time. Instead of constantly looking at other people's work, do some field research and let the facts speak for themselves. When you start to dwell on negative thoughts, stop and think of something positive instead.

Don't get discouraged just because your tutor keeps pointing out your mistakes. Do your best to get things done and don't give up easily. Believe that the questioner will definitely gain something until the last second.

For instance, losing a game. This is unpleasant in itself, but it can also help you learn new ways of doing things so you don't make the same mistakes in future games.

Get some help from outside the company.

If you feel like the above approach isn't working for you, you should look for external help from a professional psychologist or counselor. It's important to be open and honest with them about how you're feeling.

Describe how these anxiety attacks make you feel, explain how they usually start, and tell them how you react. If you need to, keep in touch with these professionals until these anxiety attacks no longer affect you.

I hope my answer helps the person who asked the question.

Hello, question asker! I'm Jiang 61, and I'm excited to help you!

Thank you so much for trusting us and being willing to tell us your troubles in order to get help! We're here for you. You think you are having a hard time working on your graduation project, you can't see any progress, and your supervisor always says it's not right.

You're feeling a little unsure of yourself right now, but that's totally normal! It's okay to have doubts about your abilities. We all do from time to time. The important thing is to keep moving forward.

Let's hug for now, and don't worry! Let's analyze the problem together and find a solution.

1. Dilemma

From your description, I can clearly feel that you have fallen into a dilemma, that is, you no longer have your own thoughts, and you don't know which direction to go in or where the problem lies. But don't worry! We can work through this together.

1. Confronting criticism

I'm in my third year of graduate school and working on my graduation project, and I'm making progress! Every time I have a meeting with my teacher, he offers feedback and guidance. I look for the answer to the problem he describes in the literature, and I'm learning a lot. And every time I have a meeting with my teacher, he asks questions, which helps me identify areas for improvement.

You agree with the problem and are excited to work through it together!

It has been about three months since you started working on your graduate thesis, and you have already made some great progress! Every time you report on the progress of your thesis at a meeting, your teacher offers some helpful feedback. You take their advice on board and think about how you can make your design even better.

Question search

You did it! You followed the teacher's question and looked it up in the literature, and found that the literature is fundamentally different from what he said. You are right to do this, and you should seek verification from multiple sources, and the literature is one of them.

2. Confronting opinions

When you respond to the teacher's question, you have the exciting opportunity to seek evidence by looking up the relevant information. In fact, you should try to find out the theoretical basis behind the teacher's point, i.e. the support for the teacher's view, the support for the literature view, and the support for your own view.

Now, let's dive into the teacher's view!

The teacher raises questions at every meeting, and I think he will inevitably express his own opinion. This is your chance to shine! Point out where you may be wrong.

I'd love to know your thoughts on the teacher's opinion! What is his basis?

Now for the really exciting part! Let's dive into the view of the literature.

Now that there is relevant literature, it's time to explore the different views and see where they diverge from the teacher's perspective. A comparative analysis is the perfect way to delve into this fascinating topic!

Now for the fun part! It's time to come to your own conclusions about which points of view are correct, which points of view you consider unreasonable, and why you do not agree with them.

Your point of view is so interesting!

You had your own reasons and justifications for writing that way, so let's dive in and explore them! What were you thinking at the time, and why did you write it that way?

Once you've sorted out the three perspectives and compared them, your own point of view will naturally become apparent as right or wrong. This is your thinking and your own opinion!

I absolutely believe that if you have your own opinions, your confidence will grow!

3. Denying yourself

When you return to the beginning of the problem mentioned by the teacher, it's time to find the starting point of the problem! See who is more correct from all aspects, rather than blindly listening to the teacher's comments and the views of the literature, ignoring your own thoughts. Your confidence will not disappear!

This is the key to unlocking your full potential! When you pay attention to your own thoughts, you'll find that you're able to move past the ideas of others and start creating your own path. Your subconscious mind is already negating yourself, so it's time to start reprogramming it with positive thoughts and actions. This is the root cause of your lack of confidence and the reason for your frustration and confusion, so let's start turning it around!

2. Restoring Self-Confidence

I'm excited to learn how to improve and continue enriching the content I've already created. I'm ready to move forward in my studies and in my life. I'm confident that I'll find new ways to build on my strengths.

1. Thinking Let's dive into the world of thinking!

A graduation design or thesis is an amazing opportunity to explore a theme, central idea, argument, evidence, solution method, and conclusion. This is a complete set of ideas for writing a graduation design or thesis that you can really get excited about!

Now, let's dive into the teacher's train of thought!

If you follow the teacher's train of thought, you'll be able to understand where the core of your problem lies and what part of your problem the teacher thinks is wrong. So, what is the teacher's train of thought?

What's the foundation for this? How did you come to this conclusion?

That is, if you can figure out the crux of the problem, you can then focus on finding a solution to the problem. This is the correct way to approach a problem, and it's a great way to solve problems!

Now it's time to share your line of thought!

It's time to let your ideas soar! When you're doing your graduation project, you'll have your own topic and central idea. You'll prove that your ideas are correct by giving examples to support your opinions, arguments, and evidence.

After the meeting, if you agree with the teacher's point of view, you should be excited to adjust your thinking accordingly and follow the teacher's line of reasoning to prove it. If you think the literature's point of view is correct, you'll be thrilled to adjust to the literature's line of thinking and follow it.

If you think your point of view is correct, you can absolutely continue to follow your own line of thinking!

2. Explore opportunities!

From your account, I can see that you have been following the teacher's train of thought, which is great! However, you have not fully followed the teacher's ideas. When there is a discrepancy between the literature and the teacher's views, instead of continuing to seek evidence to prove who is right and who is wrong, you just stop. This is an excellent opportunity to take the next step and further seek evidence, which is the opportunity for discussion.

Every meeting, including regular meetings, has an amazing discussion session where we get to debate the pros and cons of the design and share our thoughts. This session is super important because it's through discussion that we can distinguish right from wrong, weigh up the pros and cons, and understand where our own design and others' designs stand.

However, your personality is such that you rarely have an individual opinion. This is also why you listen to the opinions of your teachers so well: you want to make sure you don't self-destruct your self-confidence. So you listen to the advice of your tutors and bury your confusion in your heart, without getting any help.

In this way, I have missed a great opportunity to learn and improve—and I'm excited to seize the chance to do so!

3. No method of learning

You have so much potential to enrich what you've already done! I think it's the result of your inability to learn and the failure to establish a complete set of your own design ideas.

When the teacher asks a question, if you can adjust your thinking in time and follow the new idea, you will know what to add to make the design more colorful. This also gives you the chance to build your confidence!

4. No solution to the problem

After every meeting, I want to call my mother and tell her my problems. My mother is very patient with me and encourages me, and I'm so grateful for her support. I'm working on building my courage to keep going and I'm excited to see what the future holds.

Overdependence

When you encounter problems, you think of your mother, someone who understands you and can support you. This shows that you really lack confidence, and it is only with the support of your family that you have the confidence to move forward. You are already used to relying on your family, and you're doing a great job of it!

Lack of courage and methods

Facing setbacks, you obviously have the opportunity to build your courage and confidence to overcome them. You can do this by recognizing that you are not too dependent. Second, you have the chance to develop a method of learning.

I'm not sure how to solve it yet, but I'm excited to find out!

Let's tackle those unreasonable beliefs head-on!

When it comes to your dilemma, you can also see that you are comparing your learning problems with your ability in other areas. There is an absolutist way of thinking in your mind, which is great because it means you're thinking about everything!

You think that if you don't do well in your thesis, you will let your family down and feel guilty. You are putting together completely unrelated things, putting pressure on yourself, feeling inferior, and lacking the courage to live. But you can change all that!

The good news is that these are two completely different things. The fact that you didn't do a good graduation design just means that you didn't use the right methods. It doesn't mean that you are a bad person or that you lack other abilities.

You can absolutely do this! As long as you have the right approach, the graduation design will be excellent.

3. Get your confidence back!

1. Build self-confidence!

You've made it! You've made it all the way to the end of your postgraduate studies. That's proof of your abilities, no doubt about it. You've overcome all obstacles along the way. A problem like your graduation project should be a breeze for you. So, building up your confidence is most necessary for you at the moment. You've got this!

Do a few things to regain your confidence and get that spark back!

Recall those amazing, successful experiences and give yourself the confidence you deserve!

You're going to face a lot of challenges along the way. But you can do it! Let your confidence inspire you. Believe in yourself as a capable person and give yourself the confidence to complete your graduation project.

Get support and help from family and classmates!

Ask your family and classmates to give you all the support and encouragement you need! They should tell you that you are still the most awesome person in their eyes and that you can do a great job on your graduation project. This will give you all the courage and confidence you need to solve any problems that come your way!

2. Explore methods!

As mentioned earlier, there are methods for graduation design and thesis writing. With your abilities and a little thought, you can definitely establish your own complete set of ideas. After that, start thinking about the design methods for your graduation design and problem-solving methods, and find the ideas that will take your graduation design forward.

It's time to start communicating! Speak up and seek verification with your teachers. Share your ideas and engage in thorough discussions with your teachers and classmates to find suitable viewpoints and train of thought.

3. Eliminate absolutist thinking

It's time to eliminate absolute thinking, i.e., if I..., then...! You've got this! Your current predicament is just a temporary inability to find a solution. It doesn't mean you're incapable of anything!

Separate learning from other abilities. I believe that you have come this far because you have the ability to achieve your current results, and you will rely on your abilities to achieve other results in the future. And I know you can do it!

4. The starting point of life!

Everyone who has read your description is convinced that you can overcome this small difficulty! It's just a small episode in your life journey, and it's also a new starting point as you enter society.

With this scene, your life will be more fulfilling and exciting! It is most important to have confidence in yourself.

Topic Master, believe in the power of believing! You can do it! I believe in you!

And finally, I wish you all the best in your studies!

If you encounter a problem, it is important to address it calmly and rationally. This particular issue has been a significant challenge for us. Despite our repeated revisions, the teacher has not yet approved the solution.

Let's leverage this opportunity to identify more experienced tutors who can address the issue, develop a comprehensive plan, and present it to your teacher upon completion. If you want to be recognized, you have to ask questions without hesitation. I'm confident your teacher will be able to provide the answer.

Do not become discouraged if the results are not optimal. This is a significant concern for me as well. Your health is of paramount importance, and all other considerations are secondary. Document your missteps in a notebook and compare them with your successful ideas when you have them.

I am unaware of the specifics of my brother's design. Perhaps you could present it to the class and request the teacher's input?

If your younger brother has an idea, you should organize your logic and think about the highlights of your plan before reporting to the teacher every time. Even if the teacher doesn't want to see your plan, you should still present him with some of your ideas and details, as this may help you identify new directions.

We are passive, and others are taking the initiative to help us. This is a significant distinction. The teacher is undoubtedly willing to assist you, unless the teacher is merely going through the motions and not genuinely attempting to resolve the issue.

No matter what challenging tasks the teacher assigns, we can overcome them. We will gradually develop our skills and will undoubtedly receive praise from our teachers.

We are all individuals with different needs and circumstances. It is important to manage stress, take time for self-care, and avoid burnout. It is not worth the cost to our personal and professional well-being.

I am hopeful that my younger brother will be able to resolve the issue in the near future, and that the teacher will also be of assistance. I encourage my younger brother to persevere in the face of challenges. If you require support, please do not hesitate to reach out. I am always available to provide assistance.