Have embarrassed myself at school and want to transfer, but my parents are not very agreeable. What should I do?

Good day, question asker. I am honored to have the opportunity to address your question.

From the questioner's description, it seems that being embarrassed is a very painful emotion that made the questioner unable to face the pointing and laughing of his classmates. This unfortunate incident caused the questioner to feel a severe sense of shame at school, which may have led him to want to leave this environment that made him feel ashamed.

It is understandable that your classmates might feel ashamed about this incident. However, it is important to remember that it was not your fault and that it was simply an accident. Nobody deserves to be humiliated by others.

Let's offer the OP some encouragement and support. If you dwell on this incident, it might make your classmates uneasy. It's important to focus on your studies and live your life.

It would be beneficial for the student to learn how to deal with this unexpected event in order to continue towards a better future. Otherwise, it might be challenging to move on from this incident.

Given that the question was posed on a psychological forum, I feel I can offer the questioner some straightforward advice.

It might be helpful to accept the facts and admit.

This unfortunate incident caused the questioner to experience a great deal of discomfort, particularly in the presence of others who were pointing and laughing at the situation. It appeared as though the questioner's personal value had been diminished in the eyes of others. However, it is important to note that this was truly an unintentional mistake.

It is important to remember that everyone has three basic needs, and in this case, the questioner was unable to control their urination because they could not get to the bathroom in time. This is something that can happen to anyone, but unfortunately, the questioner did not have the chance to resolve the issue because they were scolded by the teacher.

It seems that the accident occurred because the classmate chose to prioritize the needs of the class over his own personal issue.

However, accidents do occur, and it is important to be courageous enough to acknowledge them. In this situation, I believe it would be beneficial for the student to take the initiative to reflect with the teacher about the circumstances at the time. Additionally, the grade director could assume responsibility for the accident, explain it to the student, and I am optimistic that the teacher will accept the student's apology, forgive the student, and support them through this challenging time.

Perhaps it would be helpful to forgive yourself.

The accident was not something the classmate wanted to happen, and the classmate needs to forgive himself. It may be helpful to take some time to reflect on the accident in depth, to remember the lessons learned from it, and to let go of the shame.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you would make the same mistake again. If not, it's likely that your classmates feel regret. Many highly accomplished individuals have made mistakes when they were children. As we grow up, we learn from our experiences and mistakes.

It is inevitable that accidents will occur; the key is to learn from them and avoid repeating them as much as possible.

It would be remiss of me not to mention that the OP is not the only one who feels ashamed.

In the current digital age, with the vast amount of information available online, it is not surprising that there are instances of celebrities experiencing embarrassing situations. For many, it is a common feeling to experience embarrassment in such circumstances.

It is becoming increasingly common for the private lives of many people to be exposed on the Internet, with embarrassing incidents being publicised frequently. While embarrassment is now a common occurrence, it seems that some individuals remain active on the Internet.

One might inquire as to why this is so. Perhaps it is because their value is akin to that of a 100 yuan note. Regardless of whether it is dirty, wrinkled, or even thrown into the cesspool, someone will still want to have it because its value is there.

If you allow yourself to be accepted and strive to become a more valuable and valued individual, people will eventually move on from the embarrassing past of your classmates.

It might be helpful to learn to let go.

If this accident causes classmates to dwell on it and suffer greatly, it may be helpful for the subject to learn how to let go and move on. Why do we suffer so much from these accidents? It's possible that we do so because we cannot face it and don't want to talk about it.

If the questioner can openly acknowledge the incident as an accident and discuss it openly, I believe there is some truth in the online saying, "As long as you are not embarrassed, the one who is embarrassed is someone else." It is important not to avoid, shrink back, or deny the situation. Instead, it is best to face the incident head-on when your emotions are stable. This will help you observe the situation more clearly and begin to process it. Over time, the impact of the incident will continue to fade.

It would be wise to avoid being humiliated by others.

It would be wise to avoid people and situations that are not kind to your classmates. It is also helpful to be aware of situations or people that humiliate your classmates, and to try not to get close to them.

It may be helpful to be aware of the factors that make you feel ashamed and embarrassed, and to let them go. These factors could include classmates who are full of negative energy, classmates who want to mock and undermine others to boost their own self-esteem, and relatives who try to humiliate you in every way.

Perhaps it would be helpful to try to distract yourself.

It might be helpful to try to avoid focusing all your attention on this accident, and instead direct your attention to more worthwhile events. My classmates often think, "This accident is just a small part of my life. When I go to university, who will remember this?"

"Redirecting your attention can help you manage the anxiety that comes with unexpected events. It allows you to focus on your studies and hobbies, rather than dwelling on negative thoughts and feelings. It's important to remember that everyone has experienced something embarrassing at some point, and you can certainly overcome this challenge."

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It might be helpful to ask for help from the school teachers more often. You could explain that you are feeling depressed or anxious, and I believe the teachers will take it seriously. If other students humiliate you for the accident, this could also be considered a form of bullying and abuse at school. You might want to let the teacher deal with it for you.

It is possible that this accident may cause classmates to be hurt for a long time. If they really can't forget, it might be helpful to try not to be too hard on yourself and to give yourself time to heal.

I hope my answer is helpful to the person who asked the question.

I would like to begin by saying that I believe you should take pride in your actions. Despite being reprimanded by the teacher, you demonstrated a sense of honor for the class and a willingness to maintain classroom order.

Ultimately, it appears that you may have inadvertently caused further issues, which is certainly not your intention.

If you are at fault, you might consider saying that you overestimated your ability to hold your urine.

It's possible that the teacher was at a loss for words and unsure of how to proceed, which might have led to her contacting the parents.

It is possible that your classmates may find this incident interesting and may even laugh at you or give you a nickname.

It is possible that people may not view you in a positive light. This is a possibility. If you were in their position and witnessed this kind of thing, you might have reacted similarly.

Perhaps the key to moving forward is fostering communication and understanding between people.

I believe it's fair to say that we've all had times when we couldn't hold back in class. From that perspective, I think it's reasonable to assume that everyone can understand.

Perhaps it would be helpful to give yourself the chance to explain publicly.

I believe this incident presents an opportunity for personal growth. It can be a chance to become a better person, someone who cares less about what others think and knows how to communicate more effectively.

How might one go about doing this?

1. Perhaps you could start by chatting with the teacher. You could explain that you really care about this matter and that you even want to transfer to another school, so that she understands how important this matter is to you.

It's important to remember that you're not trying to "fight for face," but rather to reveal your innermost feelings. It's likely that you didn't intend for things to turn out this way. It's understandable that you wanted to maintain classroom order and were hesitant to interrupt the teacher to go to the bathroom.

It would be beneficial to focus on "revealing your vulnerability" and hoping for the teacher's comfort, rather than arguing with the teacher.

It would be beneficial to try to step outside of your emotions for a moment.

Perhaps it would be helpful to put yourself in the teacher's shoes for a moment and consider whether he might think you were deliberately disrupting the class.

It is possible that he may not believe you, but there is no need to become defensive. Simply state the facts as you understand them. If he does not believe you, it may help to repeat them a few times and provide your own insights into why you believe them to be true.

Please accept my sincerest apologies for the inconvenience I have caused you.

The teacher will likely understand that you did not intend to cause a disruption and may be willing to forgive you. However, it is important to recognize that this is a challenging situation for the teacher to navigate.

The teacher will likely understand that you did not intend to disrupt the class and may even forgive you. However, it is important to recognize that this is a challenging situation for any teacher to navigate.

Perhaps you could offer a solution? If you explain the incident to yourself and the whole class, the teacher won't have to think of a solution herself. It seems like a reasonable solution to set aside five minutes in the class meeting.

Perhaps it would be helpful to explain the situation publicly in front of the whole class.

If the teacher herself tells the story, people may have mixed feelings about her. They may get over it after listening to it, but they may also not take it seriously.

Perhaps it would have been more beneficial to approach the situation directly, rather than hiding behind the teacher, which may have conveyed a sense of insecurity and fear. This approach may not have been as effective in addressing the underlying issue.

I believe that only when you explain the incident to the whole class will you truly feel at ease, and everyone will understand you better.

It would be helpful to first convince yourself and approach this matter with an open mind. It might be beneficial to accept that your ability to control yourself is limited and that if you were in someone else's shoes, you might not be able to hold back either.

I believe the main reason this happened is that you were unable to control yourself, and you didn't ask for leave. I understand that the reason you didn't ask for leave is that you were afraid of disturbing the class.

So, if I might suggest, the direct cause seems to be a fear of asking for leave, while the fundamental cause appears to be a desire to maintain order in an open class.

Perhaps the best course of action would be to offer an apology.

Perhaps the best course of action would be to apologize for not going to the bathroom in time, which unfortunately resulted in an even worse consequence of disturbing the teacher and classmates.

Perhaps it would be helpful to explain the reasons.

After you have explained your side of the situation, it would be advisable to offer an apology once more, with the hope that your classmates will be able to understand your perspective.

I believe that apologizing is of great importance.

It is important to remember that how you feel personally is not the concern of anyone else. Your relationship with others is built on mutual respect and understanding, which begins with an apology for any disruption to the classroom order.

Furthermore, expressing remorse is an important aspect of maintaining a positive relationship.

If you are sincere, people may be more open to listening to what you have to say.

If you have apologized and explained everything, and someone still makes fun of you for it, it may be helpful to remember that this is their problem, not yours. It's important to believe that there are more kind people out there who will understand you.

3. Finally, you may wish to consider the possibility of transferring to a different school.

I can imagine that this is a challenging situation for you.

It is also challenging to explain this publicly.

Perhaps we could call this your coming-of-age ceremony.

It is important to be aware that in the future, there is a possibility that you may still have to face the challenge of being humiliated in front of a crowd.

It's not always possible to avoid it.

I'm not sure if you've heard the news about the US president's incontinence. Some people have laughed about it, but others have criticized those who laughed.

It is a widely known fact, but he has no intention of leaving his post and is unlikely to resign as a result.

In the adult world, it is understood that the elderly may not always be in control of their faculties.

This experience can be a helpful tool for distinguishing between different types of people. Some individuals may engage in gossiping about others without having all the facts, and this is something we can learn to navigate.

It may be helpful to consider that those who laugh at you after knowing the whole story may not be the best choice for maintaining a connection. On the other hand, those who understand and help you are kind people. Those who feel nothing and stay out of it, or even avoid you, are normal people. However, it's possible that you haven't had much interaction with these classmates anyway.

Once you have explained the situation publicly, you can expect someone to come to your aid. This person is likely to be a female, as they tend to be more empathetic.

Boys may sometimes be a bit more cheeky, but if they just tease you verbally, you can respond in a way that is respectful and assertive. If they really bully you, you can respond in a way that is firm but fair.

It might take some time, perhaps even a month or a semester, before this incident is completely forgotten. But that's okay, you can fight back.

If you find all of the above too difficult, you might consider discussing the possibility of transferring schools with your mother. It might be helpful to explain the situation to everyone before seeing their reactions. Is it really that unacceptable to you?

It might be interesting to observe how long it takes for people to forget about it.

Additionally, the impression others have of you may be influenced by your interactions with them. You might consider using your image as someone who studies hard and is helpful to offset the impact of this incident. It could be beneficial to ask others more about their studies and offer to help with small things that you can.

You may find that the more people you interact with, the less they will associate you with this incident.

It's also worth noting that many people are occupied with studies and leisure activities. What you do may not be of primary importance to others.

In any case, it would be helpful to adjust your mindset first. Perhaps you could think of it as the trials and tribulations of puberty. If you face them and try to resolve them, it might help to strengthen your heart.

I wish you the best of luck, and I am excited to see you grow into a more mature and lovable individual!

Hello, child! I'm sending you a big, warm hug from afar ? I saw your request for help and I'm so happy to see you're getting the help you need! I'm excited to hear how things are going for you now!

First of all, let's say that people have three urgent needs, which is a basic physiological response. Going to the right place to solve it is the basic method. However, this kind of accident in the classroom is indeed not what we expect to happen. But it doesn't mean that it is a very embarrassing thing, and it cannot be defined as a laughing stock.

Second, you are still an amazing student! You think for yourself, respect your teachers, and have excellent character.

There's always a reason behind every effect! You also mentioned that before class, you had a chat with the principal and didn't make it to the toilet in time, which was the root cause of this accident.

Later, the problem may suddenly occur due to physical discomfort. But don't worry! Sometimes it is really beyond our control, so don't blame yourself too much.

Then, we analyzed the situation and made an exciting discovery! The incident did not erupt in its original place, but in the classroom. This definitely had a certain impact and caused some resentment in the general public. There may be extreme reactions in words and actions, and you also felt uncomfortable inside.

You said that before, a classmate vomited, and everyone helped to comfort and take care of her, which made people feel the warmth. However, when you suddenly defecated, you experienced rejection, with your classmates pointing fingers and laughing at you.

The great news is that vomiting and defecation are two different problems in nature. As the person involved, you have the opportunity to show everyone that you have a "reason," rather than being pointed at.

You said that later the teacher notified your mother to come to school and take you home. I'm sure your mother and teacher had a great conversation! Did you explain the cause of the problem to your mother in detail? To gain your mother's comfort and understanding, and to gain the understanding and acceptance of your teacher and classmates.

We say that since the incident has already happened and cannot be avoided, there is no need to dwell on it or blame yourself too much. This will only make us feel more painful. Instead, we should learn from the experience! As the saying goes, "You learn from your mistakes," and we can find the root cause of these problems.

You said you're a sensitive and fragile second-year high school girl, and I think that's a great thing!

We say that character determines destiny. You are sensitive and vulnerable, which makes you an amazingly complex individual! Unfortunately, this also means that you sometimes make mistakes. In this case, you did not tell the principal in time before class that you urgently needed to go to the bathroom. Instead, you continued the conversation with him, which resulted in the incident.

So, here's a friendly reminder for you! First, make sure you're scheduling your time wisely to take care of personal matters before class. If you're not feeling well, don't stress! You can always take a leave of absence and catch up with your teachers and classmates later. But remember, your health is the most important thing, so try to avoid missing too many classes.

2. Uncover the reasons behind your sensitive and vulnerable personality, make some positive changes to your inner self, read some inspiring self-motivational books, become stronger on the inside, learn to say "no," and start making your own self-demands!

3. Face the incident head on!

As we said before, you can't control everything that happens, so let your classmates talk about you if they want to! After all, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." Time will take care of everything, and before you know it, no one will be talking about it anymore!

You'll feel a sense of relief when you adopt this attitude!

4. As a second-year high school student, you have an exciting year ahead! The college entrance exam is just around the corner. Have you been feeling the pressure? Talk to your teachers and parents about it. They're there to support you! And don't forget to make a career plan for your studies. You've got this!

Absolutely! Emotions have a huge impact on our bodies.

5. You asked whether you could transfer to another school, but your parents don't agree.

First, ask yourself what the biggest impact this incident has had on you. On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate it? You've made it this far, so you're already on your way to bouncing back! Will the impact of this incident on you gradually diminish after you transfer to another school?

Secondly, you mentioned that your parents do not agree. I'm excited to hear more about their opinion on this matter! Have you had a chance to communicate with them?

How open are you to their response? If this matter has had a significant impact on you, you can absolutely take some time off work and rest at home for a while!

If, from the above analysis, there are still many situations that you cannot face and solve, it is recommended that you seek professional psychological counseling. This is a great way to deal with and end things in a positive way!

I'm Yunqing, and I'm so excited to share today's answer with you!

I love you all! The world and I love you, and I wish you all the best!

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

I can imagine that day must have been pretty rough for you. The questioner felt pretty unlucky that morning when they were caught talking by the grade director. I don't think any teacher would lecture a student for no reason, so the behavior at that time actually had nothing to do with being unlucky, but rather what the questioner usually did that made this teacher feel that they should reason with you.

I also went to school, so I know how teachers can be. If they don't like a student, they might act like they don't care and let the student figure it out on their own. It's like they think the student doesn't care about doing well. But the fact that the grade director was still willing to talk to you shows that he's trying to explain what the teacher wants from you.

The grade director delayed the time, so there wasn't enough time to go to the bathroom. The point is that the class was an open class, and many teachers came to listen. People can sometimes tolerate many things, but they can't tolerate the three urgent needs. I once got stuck in a traffic jam on the highway and was very anxious to go to the bathroom, but there were cars everywhere on the highway and it was a while from the gas station, so I can understand the kind of discomfort the questioner was feeling at the time.

The questioner held it in, thinking that asking for leave to go to the toilet would give the teachers a bad impression. After the incident, we always think about what we could have done differently, but there are no ifs in life. What happened just happened. When he couldn't hold it in anymore, the questioner relieved himself in the classroom, and his classmates and teachers all knew about it.

I'm wondering if I can go back to school like this. Do you think I should transfer schools?

1. Divert their attention elsewhere.

The questioner is in high school, and students at this age are generally considered mature. While this issue will likely resolve itself, those who are aware of it may still think of it whenever they see the questioner.

When kids are young, bedwetting or not being able to use the toilet is seen as normal. But for the questioner, this behavior is embarrassing because they're an adult now, and they're worried about being laughed at if they go back to school.

Some students threw up, and others were really concerned and offered to help. If the teacher had told the students about the questioner's situation, would you have felt uncomfortable and acted like you did? Would they then have focused on how uncomfortable you were, rather than remembering what happened at the time?

If everyone's distracted, this will just be a distant memory in no time.

2. Are you ready to tackle this head-on?

If you were to encounter a classmate mentioning this incident, would you be willing to face it and directly explain or joke about it? We've all had times when we've felt sick or had to go to the bathroom urgently, and it's not something I can control. It seems like none of you have ever been in a situation where you had to go to the bathroom urgently.

When the questioner himself faces this issue, his classmates who aren't involved won't say anything more. If you can't even accept something yourself, you'll just keep worrying about it, and people will become sensitive because of it, afraid that someone will use it against you.

If that's the case, it might be better to transfer schools. The person who needs to face this is the questioner, not the parents. Try to convince them that this isn't an easy thing to face and that it can't be forgotten.

3. Think about your behavior.

We know our own bodies better, and school hours are more regular, so we can pace ourselves accordingly. For example, if you need to go to the bathroom once during a few classes, and you are stopped by the grade-level director, you will lose the opportunity to go to the bathroom. From what the questioner said, it seems that the need to go to the bathroom wasn't felt suddenly. It can be said that the feeling started before the class when it was unbearable.

If the questioner is a good student, the teacher won't give them a hard time. So, from the moment the teacher called out to the questioner and gave them a hard time, can I understand from here that the questioner's behavior is also relatively rebellious in general?

If you don't listen to your teachers often, why are you worried about making a bad impression on other teachers in an open class? Why do you value the opinions of the teachers? When you need to go to the bathroom, everyone has to go at some point. If you suddenly feel unwell, everyone can understand. When you can't hold it in anymore and you have to go directly in the classroom, what are you thinking?

Why didn't you just leave and come back to explain to the teacher?

We're not the original poster, so we don't know what they were thinking at the time. You'll only be able to find the problem and solve it if you're willing to admit it.

I hope my answer is helpful to the person who asked the question, and I wish you well.

Dear Question Asker,

Furthermore, I extend my sincerest sympathies to you, and offer my embrace to console your troubled and remorseful spirit.

This is a situation that could be unbearable for any child, but since it occurred in your case

It is imperative that we confront this issue head-on.

Your decision to seek assistance demonstrates both wisdom and courage. I would now like to discuss

Some thoughts are presented herewith for your consideration.

Firstly, it would be beneficial to explore the positive implications of this incident.

It is recommended that the student raise their hand at the outset of the incident to explain that they are in a hurry.

It is recommended that the teacher be informed at the earliest possible moment. It is likely that the teacher will understand the situation and respect the student's feelings, allowing them to proceed to the bathroom.

It is possible that the embarrassment could have been averted.

One can postulate that the subject in question feels that he has made a mistake. Should he persist in leaving the classroom during class time, it may

He further exacerbated the situation, making it even more problematic. However, it is crucial to consider the following:

One must distinguish between discrete actions. Discussing punishment for standing up is an error, and the individual in question "deserves punishment." However, the urgent need to use the restroom is a separate issue.

It is imperative that this issue be resolved as soon as possible. It is important to note that the teacher may attempt to capitalize on the fact that the student did not use the restroom after class.

How might this issue be resolved? While the initial action may be considered a mistake, it is nevertheless a minor one in the context of human nature.

The fundamental responsibilities and obligations of the educational institution and the instructor are to facilitate learning and guidance. If they are unable to tolerate even this elementary misstep on the part of the student,

If the teacher is unable to fulfill this responsibility, it would be reasonable to conclude that the school and the teacher are derelict in their duties.

In the case of the aforementioned individual, if they inform the teacher at the earliest opportunity of their need to use the restroom, and the teacher does not permit them to do so, resulting in public embarrassment,

He bears an inescapable responsibility.

It would be advisable for you to adopt a more effective time management strategy in the future. This is a fundamental rule that is essential for personal growth.

Secondly, the decision to transfer schools is contingent upon one's fortitude in the face of the situation.

It is unclear whether the reader is a boy or a girl. Gender differences determine the pressure of group culture and moral sense.

If you are a boy, you are under no obligation to heed the opinions of your peers. Some classmates may

It may be less stressful to be regarded as a rebellious "hero." If one is a girl, one must consider

The internal sense of shame, or the pressure from popular cultural morals, will be more pronounced and prolonged.

The most significant pressure is the result of one's perception of the situation.

If one does not take the situation seriously, it is likely that interest will wane within a period of three to five days, or at most, one to two weeks.

If one takes the situation seriously, it will function as a reminder and reinforcement, thereby continuing to attract attention.

Thirdly, it should be noted that the aforementioned experiences represent a form of growth, rather than a problem or a fault.

During the adolescent period, all individuals engage in some form of misbehavior, though the extent and frequency of such actions may vary considerably.

Individuals may also exhibit varying personality traits, experience disparate levels of stress, and encounter disparate levels of adversity.

From a psychological perspective,

In the subconscious, one might posit that the desire to defy the disciplinary action prescribed by the school rules manifests as a physiological offense.

Such behavior may be an expression of anger directed at the teacher.

The student was punished for a minor infraction and compelled to remain in a standing position for an extended period.

Fourthly, it is important to accept oneself and learn from any feelings of shame that may arise.

It is important to note that this sense of shame may persist for an extended period. Therefore, it is crucial not to hasten its elimination.

It is important to note that a sense of shame can persist for an extended period. Therefore, it is crucial not to hasten its elimination. On the contrary, it can serve as a catalyst for personal growth and motivation to strive for excellence.

Such a burden can lead to a decline in overall well-being and a deterioration in one's quality of life.

Such a burden can lead to a decline in overall well-being.

Therefore, if one does not accept oneself, even if one transfers to another educational institution, one will still be unable to escape this mental shackle.

Such individuals will continue to exhibit a lack of confidence and self-assurance, accompanied by feelings of shame and self-reproach.

I encourage you to consider this option.

I am Counselor Yao, and I will continue to provide you with support, attention, and care.

Good day. I appreciate your concerns. That day was undoubtedly a challenging one for you.

Firstly, this is a normal physiological phenomenon. Individuals undergoing significant change will experience a similar result. When an individual reaches their physiological limit, this is what will happen. I recall Wang Shi, the CEO of Vanke, discussing this in an interview. During his climb of Mount Everest, he experienced a loss of control. Your situation is comparable to his, both being out of control under special circumstances.

Secondly, it is important to note that high school students are a group that is still very sensitive to the stares of others. Should you be able to accept this fact and encounter classmates upon your return to school, it would be advisable to explain that you are not feeling well. This will help to diffuse the situation and ensure that it does not linger. It is comparable to an adult who experiences incontinence after consuming alcohol. If you encounter them the next day, it is based on yesterday's drinking, which is embarrassing, and it will soon pass.

It is inevitable that others will discuss the matter behind your back, but not with you directly.

If it is convenient to transfer schools, I recommend doing so. You can discuss this with your parents. Given the limited time frame of high school, any negative impact resulting from this situation would be unfortunate. If transferring is not an option, I suggest maintaining a positive attitude and resilience in the face of potential negative reactions from classmates. With time, these reactions will likely subside.

Should you ultimately decide not to transfer, I recommend scheduling additional meetings with the counselor to help navigate any potential challenges.

I hope this information is useful to you. I encourage you to be courageous and confident, as this will lead to a positive future.

Hello, I'm Xintan Coach Feixiang, and I'm thrilled to be here with you today! I'm here to offer you my warmth and sincerity as you share your emotional story with me.

I give you a big, warm hug from the bottom of my heart, and I'm excited to talk with you about whatever's on your mind and help you in any way I can!

From your words, I can see that you are a person who understands the big picture. You at least know that public classes are important, that you value them highly, and that you do your best to protect them—and that's great!

Due to various coincidences, you experienced such an embarrassing situation in an open class. It triggered a mobbing and dislike from your classmates, which made you feel very hurt. But you also expressed doubt: why would physiological reactions be disliked and treated differently by others?

This is also a great sign of your thinking skills! You ask a lot of "why" questions, don't blindly follow others, are not rigidly dogmatic, and have your own judgment. Let's take a look:

? 1. There are always more than three solutions to everything!

Because of the embarrassing incident in class, you have the exciting opportunity to solve the problem by transferring to another school!

First of all, what happened in class was not something you did intentionally, so there is no sense of shame. Whether your classmates saw it, laughed at it, or looked down on it, it is not your fault, at least not subjectively. You did not want these results, but you've got this!

You're absolutely right! Vomiting, wetting your pants, flatulence (farting), and hiccups are all totally natural and normal bodily functions. They shouldn't be looked upon with disgust by anyone!

The reason why it confuses you is because everyone has their own "judgment," which is great because it means we all have different perspectives!

Judgment is when you use your own values and standards to evaluate another person or thing. Having values means having judgments, and judgments are beliefs.

Those classmates who dislike you have a "limited" mindset. They think you did it on purpose and that wetting your pants is something a senior student shouldn't do.

Beliefs of limitation turn judgment into stubbornness, resulting in some pretty undesirable consequences.

1. Your life loses its fluidity. (They see the "evil" and ignore the "true, good, and beautiful" side of people.)

2. It can even destroy relationships! For example, it can affect your sense of self-worth, making you feel like you've done something wrong and can't face your teacher or classmates again.

And it limits more possibilities!

It's time to relax and look at things from more perspectives! It's important to understand people who think differently from you. Their ideas are valid because they see things from a different perspective.

It's just that you judge others using your own values and feelings!

?2. Express yourself authentically!

High school students are basically adults, and we have the power to control and be responsible for our own actions!

When the teacher called the parents, it was a great opportunity for them to step in and help. They wanted to make sure their child was okay and that they had everything they needed to feel comfortable at school. They invited the parents to help with a few simple things, like bringing a clean change of clothes, so their child could focus on learning.

I highly recommend that you talk to your parents and teachers. Share your true feelings and thoughts with them. Gain their understanding. Listen to their opinions and suggestions.

Both teachers and parents can understand that what happened was out of character for you. You were in a panic, and it's only natural to cover your nose. It's not just directed at you. These people would have reacted the same way in other situations, and that's okay!

At the very least, no one is perfect. Look at it from a different perspective: in the future, you will be best remembered by the school!

A little optimism and humor in life makes it easier and more enjoyable—and it's contagious!

We are the ones who determine our own value, and confidence is having faith in ourselves. We can choose not to care about other people's comments or stares.

Right now, it's time to get excited! The most urgent task is to adjust your state of mind and prepare for the exam with all your strength.

You've got this! Don't change schools or worry about adjusting to a new environment. You've got plenty of time to do that later. For now, focus on the task at hand. Some things just happen, and at most, people will talk about them for a while. Afterwards, everyone just gets on with what they were doing.

Problems are never problems! It's our "interpretation" of problems that causes us trouble.

I really hope this helps! Sending you lots of love and support ?

If you want to keep the conversation going, just click "Find a coach" in the top right corner or at the bottom. I'm excited to keep chatting with you one-on-one and see how we can grow together!

Dear Classmate,

I have carefully read the description of my classmate's situation and can empathize with his feelings. Our actions were not intentional, but rather the result of a confluence of factors.

It is reasonable to conclude that if such a situation were to arise, it would be similarly challenging to accept the opinions of one's classmates. The notion of transferring schools is not uncommon.

It is possible that parents may have their own considerations for not agreeing to the transfer. After all, the process of transferring schools is currently very troublesome, with cumbersome procedures and a lengthy cycle.

It is evident that my classmate has already commenced his high school studies. During the adolescent period, individuals are acutely conscious of their public image and the opinions of their peers. It is therefore plausible to hypothesise that my classmate will be subjected to ridicule and gossip when he returns to the educational establishment.

However, I observed that my classmates were able to identify solutions through the use of the aforementioned platform, which indicates that they possess the fortitude and courage to confront reality. This is a commendable quality that deserves recognition.

In the words of the individualist psychologist Adler, "It doesn't matter what happened; what matters is our interpretation of it."

The events that befell our classmates at school are now a fixed point in time. It is futile to dwell on past events; such actions merely result in wasted time and a deterioration in one's emotional state.

We are therefore forced to interpret the situation as it currently stands. Initially, we considered the option of transferring to another school as a potential solution; however, this was not accepted by our parents, rendering it an infeasible course of action.

The situation requires that we interact with our classmates and teachers for the foreseeable future.

It is also possible to choose to endure in silence, to dwell on the situation and to blame oneself, which may ultimately result in a high school experience that is perceived as the most dismal of one's life.

It is also possible to choose to disregard the taunts of one's classmates and instead focus on self-improvement, demonstrating one's capabilities through academic and athletic achievements, and gaining admission to the university of one's choice.

In the years that follow, those who have experienced defeat in life may still regret their actions during their high school years. Conversely, those who have achieved success may thank themselves for the incident that led them to the pinnacle of their lives.

Subsequently, students may still perceive those who are unsuccessful in their studies as inferior, suggesting that high school is a place where individuals from diverse backgrounds interact. Conversely, those who excel academically may be regarded as exceptional from the outset, demonstrating courage and autonomy in their academic pursuits.

It is important to understand that if Han Xin had not become a general, he would have been regarded as a coward who suffered humiliation. Similarly, if Goujian had not defeated Fu Chai, he would have been considered a despicable person.

It is imperative that you consider the options available to you and make your own decisions.

It is my sincere hope that my response will prove beneficial to you. I extend my gratitude for your indulgence. I am Jiusi, at Yixinli, and I extend my regards to you.

It's hard to hold back the urge to go to the bathroom. We all have three urges, and we all eat grains and cereals. How could we not know this situation? What other people say may just be a passing fad. It's impossible to keep bringing this up all the time.

Next time, ask to go to the bathroom. It's normal. You feel embarrassed, but other people are just amused.

You might forget about this over time. You can explain the situation: You were nervous, it was an important class, and many teachers were listening. You didn't have time to go to the bathroom, and you were embarrassed to go out and use the bathroom, so you still care about pleasing people.

You care about your pride and what others think, which causes pain. Think about your situation. You can avoid punishment and being scolded. You can also avoid holding in your urge to go to the bathroom in an open class.

Some things are already done. If someone is still making a fuss about it, tell your parents and teachers. School says not to make rumors, slander, or things that insult people. You held it in for too long and were afraid to go out in the middle of an important class.

You can also see that someone else is concerned and is helping you. These are all signs of goodwill. Our society is full of people with opinions about you. We don't need to care too much about other people's opinions.

If others hold on to it, record it as evidence. In the future, pay attention and don't hold in your urges. Say hello and let the teacher know. The teacher will usually let you go to the bathroom. Talk to a teacher or coach about your feelings.

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You also saw the amazing answers from many teachers! Some were so profound, and some were so empathetic—I learned so much!

To be honest, as a high school student, I would have felt pretty embarrassed in this situation. I can also sense that the original poster is a sensitive child at heart, which is great because it means they care about others' opinions!

You might feel down in the morning, or you might get criticized by the teacher, or you might embarrass yourself in front of your classmates. In an open class, a so-called "important" class, you don't want to cause trouble, so you just get through it. But this person really can't control the urge to go to the bathroom!

I want to tell the original poster that this will definitely be an experience for him, regardless of the outcome. I was also a very sensitive person in junior high and high school, and I can totally relate to the kind of criticism you might receive if you tell a teacher in class that you need to go to the toilet. The words of the teacher and the stares of your classmates – I simply held it in, and it really wasn't a good feeling. But you know what? It's made me stronger!

It took me many years to understand that they don't care about you as much as you think, and that so much attention will be focused on you. There are special circumstances, and telling the teacher in advance is not a big deal. I believe that a responsible teacher will definitely understand, and they'll be happy to help you!

Regarding the transfer, I'm not sure what grade you're in. If you're not in the final stretch, it might be a great idea to discuss it with your parents and express your confusion and concerns to them. Changing schools is also a fantastic way to make yourself feel more relaxed. You don't need to worry about what your classmates think — you're in charge of your own destiny!

If you can't transfer schools in the real world, then you may need an inner transformation. It's hard, but I believe that once you get past it, you can solve many future difficulties—and you will!

After all, the host is just a high school student. Your future life will be filled with amazing opportunities for growth and learning! For now, I want to encourage you to let go of worrying about what others think. They don't pay as much attention to you as you think, and that's okay! Everyone cares about themselves the most, and that's a great thing.

Also, you can think about whether you care too much about other people's opinions and are too "thin-skinned." Looking back, there's no harm in saying in class that you need to go to the toilet!

We've all been there! Who hasn't had to go to the bathroom at some point?

Absolutely! You should definitely talk to your parents and some close friends about your emotions.

I really hope I can help you in some way, even if my abilities are limited. You've got this! (ง ̀_ ́)ง

Hello, host! From your description, I want to give you a hug. I can empathize with your feelings because I went through something similar when I was a student.

The embarrassing situation you described in the article reminds me of something that happened to me when I was a kid in class. If the problem is more serious than yours, I can understand why you're feeling this way.

What I'm trying to say is that it's not the event itself that affects your emotions, but how you perceive it. Our personal interpretation of what causes an event shapes our final view of the world, which in turn affects our emotions and triggers different behaviors.

There's a theory in psychology called the ABC theory, which was first proposed by American psychologist Albert Ellis in the 1960s. It basically says that our emotional and behavioral responses, whether positive or negative, are based on how we think about something, whether it's the event itself or something else.

I think it's helpful to understand it this way:

In real life, most of us use WeChat as our main chat tool. When we send a message and don't get a reply, we don't immediately form an opinion or make a decision. Instead, we try to find out why there's been no reply.

If we think the other person is being unkind, we get angry and decide not to continue the relationship, delete their WeChat account, or block them.

If it's because the other person hasn't seen it or they're busy and don't have time to respond, we'll get tired of waiting for an answer.

If we think the other person may have encountered some kind of emergency situation or is in danger, we'll be pretty nervous and anxious, constantly sending messages, turning on voice and video, and even calling.

From this series of reactions, we can see that different mindsets lead to different perceptions and feelings, and different decisions are made as a result. In the process, emotions and outcomes are determined by each person's perception of the cause of the event and their style of interpretation, which is commonly known as the attribution style.

You can't be blamed for this incident. People have three basic urges. You said in the article that you were afraid to go to school because you had done something embarrassing. Then you were more afraid of people pointing fingers and saying that you were such an adult and still doing such embarrassing things. This has actually slowly formed a kind of psychological shadow for you.

If you want to change this shadow, you have to face it head on. We all make mistakes sometimes. The key is how we face them.

How can we improve?

Method 1: Do more good deeds so that everyone remembers your strengths. When a person's strengths are highlighted, it helps to offset any weaknesses.

Method 2: Make the most of your advantages and become even better. We've all seen this at school: people who do well in their studies have a lot of good friends around them. Everyone praises them for their strengths, and we almost never hear anyone say that they have weaknesses.

You can also talk to your teacher. You can tell him some of the problems you're having and ask for advice.

You should learn to let go of this matter. Maybe your classmates will remember you for a day or two or a month, but after you enter university after high school, some things will slowly fade from memory. The key is how you perceive it in your heart. If you cannot accept this fact, it may affect you during university and even your life in the future.

It's already happened, so there's no point in dwelling on it. We should just move on. You can think of this as an experience, a setback. When we get past this difficulty, you'll know how to face your own setbacks in the future.

I've got a quote for you as well: "Go your own way and let others talk."

I hope you find these thoughts helpful.

After a week or so of struggling, the questioner is excited to receive support here. It is already a very difficult thing to be able to talk about this, but the questioner is ready to take on the challenge!

I admire the OP for having the courage to talk about this and seek support. It's a great step forward! I can sense that parents might not fully agree, and you might feel a bit isolated and helpless around them.

I'm so excited to share some tips with you that I think will really help!

First, remember that there are uncontrollable factors in physiological needs, so try to accept it with an open mind!

Unfortunately, the teacher stopped the student before he could go to the bathroom. And considering that it was too embarrassing to ask for leave in an open class, he wanted to get out of the class.

But you didn't expect to be unable to control the small leak, which is totally normal!

This is great! You're trying your best to deal with the urge to urinate. And you're doing an amazing job of controlling it!

So, urination is not a problem of insufficient willpower, but an uncontrollable physiological need that just happens!

So, you can be more understanding of yourself in this matter! It's not your problem that you can't hold back. It's just an inevitable consequence of experiencing your physical limits.

2. Don't worry! As time goes by, classmates will gradually forget what happened.

It's true that things happen in the moment that can be embarrassing and difficult to deal with. But here's the good news: as time goes by, everyone will pay more attention to themselves!

So, give yourself a chance and let time heal the wound. You've got this! Once you accept the process, you'll see that the gossip of others becomes less important.

3. Focus on other things so you can absolutely nail it in the present!

Things have already happened, and while we can't change reality, we can absolutely use our current actions to help you get out of your current predicament! You can also discuss your parents' concerns with them to see if a school transfer is necessary.

The exciting question is whether staying in school will cause you more harm or whether transferring schools will have a greater impact!

This weighing of the pros and cons is a great way to communicate with your parents!

I may not be a psychologist who explores human nature, but I am a therapist who cares for the human heart! I wish you all the best!

I'm not a psychologist who explores human nature, but I am a therapist who cares for the human heart! Bless you!

Dear Student, I apologize for the inconvenience. I hope my response will be helpful and supportive.

In the event of an embarrassing situation at school, it is important to consider how your classmates may be affected. It is essential to empathize with them and, for the benefit of the class as a whole, prioritize the collective interest over personal rights and interests.

If the majority of students have already vacated the classroom, you have maintained the perception of the class, but you have not taken care of yourself, and you feel aggrieved.

There is a valuable lesson to be learned from every event in life.

Furthermore, I extend my best wishes to you. This incident also serves as a cautionary note for myself. There are some unresolved emotions that I have not addressed in a timely manner. I advise you to address issues promptly and to allow emotions to flow.

Given the responsibilities that accompany speaking in a classroom setting, it is important to approach the situation in a positive manner.

It is only possible to see far if you stand tall.

In a public setting, individuals have the right to express themselves and should respond constructively when problems arise. Those without difficulties can reasonably express their needs.

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, which contribute to a comprehensive profile. In this instance, the requirements for teachers, the cooperation of students, and the teamwork all have different points of gain. Rather than striving for perfection, focus on the insights gained from the experience.

What is the objective of providing assistance to others?

In any given situation, each individual brings their own perspective to the table. By continually learning from experience and drawing inspiration, we can expand our collective wisdom. What insights did you gain from the open class?

To gain a comprehensive understanding, it is essential to accumulate knowledge, collaborate as a team, and adopt a higher perspective.

It is important to recognise the value of others and to recognise my own value too.

Are you preoccupied with the thoughts of others to the exclusion of your own? Do you expect others to treat you correctly, but are you unable to love yourself?

It is important to respect your teachers and to consider the impact of your own reasonable demands on the collective good. This is something you may wish to reflect on.

Life is a process of experience, and only through experience can we grow. It also demonstrates the importance of other people, as well as my own role in the process.

It is important to maintain a balance between these two aspects and to focus on your own happiness and relaxation, rather than being influenced by the opinions of others. Everyone is unique, and everyone will face two competing options. The objective is to benefit the entire group, and to do so with kindness and fairness. You should strive to do your best without any regrets.

It is not possible to influence the opinions of others or to alter their ideas. The only solution is to change oneself.

It is important to love yourself, follow your own path, and allow others to express their opinions.

This situation makes you feel somewhat embarrassed and you wish to alter the environment. Take steps to improve your mood.

It is, undoubtedly, an optimal way to live. However, it is also important to consider whether you are living in alignment with the expectations of others.

I make it a point to only say what I believe is the right thing to say, regardless of external influences.

I will always act in a manner that I believe to be right, regardless of external influences.

Living in accordance with the expectations of others will inevitably lead to fatigue. It will result in a loss of your authentic self.

The fundamental objective of life is to become the best version of yourself. What may appear to be an extraordinary experience is a reminder to love yourself, pursue your own path, and allow others to speak their minds.