Have had self-harm behaviors, always talking about death, what should I do?

Hello! From your description, I can see that you're going through a lot of conflicting emotions.

I'm a psychological counselor, so I'd love to share my understanding from a psychological perspective.

Your problem is that you used to engage in self-harm, which is totally understandable! It's something a lot of people have been through. But I always say it subconsciously. For example, if I can't do my homework, I will just say that I might as well die. Whenever something goes wrong and I feel bad, the first thing I say is that I might as well die.

In your description, you mentioned that you used to engage in self-harming behavior. It seems like you were in a depressed state at the time, and your family members felt panic at your behavior of hurting yourself. It's understandable that you're sensitive to the idea of "death." It's a difficult concept to grasp, and it's possible that you're subconsciously seeking attention through your sensitivity to it. When you encounter setbacks or conflicts that you cannot resolve, your unconscious expression might be to gain attention and recognition. It's also worth noting that from a psychological perspective, there is a secondary benefit of getting sick, which can help to alleviate the painful experience inside.

How can you make some positive changes in your thoughts and behaviors?

First, take some time to get to know yourself. Think about your character traits.

I'd love to know more about your relationship with your parents. I'm also really interested in what you experienced during your depression and how you got through it.

This is something you can work on together! You can start by becoming more aware of yourself and your thoughts. You can also get to know yourself better through professional psychological counseling.

Second, it's so important to accept yourself, warts and all! What are your strengths and weaknesses?

You have a strong sense of self-awareness and are really thoughtful in your thinking. But when you encounter conflict, you can sometimes be a bit hard on yourself. It can be hard to express your inner feelings in words, so you might choose to suppress them or attack yourself as a way to solve problems. This is something we can work on together! We can learn to express our thoughts so that you can be seen, heard, and understood. Once you feel heard, you can discuss and solve problems with your parents, accept your own shortcomings and limitations, and be the best version of yourself!

Third, learn to love yourself. We all make mistakes, and your self-harming behavior in the past was a result of your self-negation, self-deprecation, and sense of worthlessness.

You are also a hardworking student and a child who strives for perfection. We all have difficulties in our studies from time to time, and that's okay! You can ask for help when you need it, or you can allow yourself to rest or do something fun when you're feeling unable to study.

The world and I love you! You just need to learn to love yourself, understand yourself, accept yourself, see yourself, and do what you want to do. Then you can become your true self! Best of luck!

The wonderful journey of self-growth and change is all about learning to truly love the people and things in this world. It's about correcting our energy field and avoiding or alleviating negative emotions.

To truly love others is to wish them happiness and accept or forgive everyone, the outstanding, the ordinary, and the weak mentally. If there are mistakes or shortcomings, they can be corrected. Everyone has the right to happiness, no matter how close or distant the relationship is, whether it is right or wrong, gain or loss. We all hope that others can be happy! People can bring each other spiritual comfort and even joy. It is good to love and accept others and yourself, to tolerate shortcomings and lack of ability, and to be kind at heart. In other words, it is beneficial to others or society, not to despise or reject ordinary people, not to be jealous or intolerant of outstanding people.

If you don't get along with most people, it can lead to negative energy and emotional problems. But don't worry! You can easily correct your energy field to find and have a loving and suitable relationship and career. You can also share and exchange what you see, hear, think, feel, or are interested in with others in real life and on the Internet, such as Douban communities.

And don't forget to love your life and be happy with the little things!

It's so important to look after your body, because your physical health affects your mental health too. Treating yourself to a bit of TLC is a great way to give your body a full body massage. The head massage is really relaxing, and it includes the forehead and face, which also have meridians. Just stroke your head with deep, firm strokes, and then massage your stomach with a firm massage brush. It's best not to massage your stomach on an empty stomach, so why not take a walk instead?

If you have negative emotions, thoughts, or behaviors, you might not feel comfortable physically or mentally. You might often encounter unhappy people and things, interpersonal conflicts, relationship and marriage problems (which will affect your magnetic field), and even problems in your academic or career life. This is because when you are too self-centered or pursue self-interest, you accumulate a lot of negative energy. The more self-centered you are, the more your magnetic field will be out of sync with other people's. But don't worry! You can learn how to truly love others and adapt to people and things, so as to correct your energy field, resolve conflicts, improve your emotions and interpersonal relationships, and better solve the above problems. In addition, if you know how to truly love the people and things in the world, you will not be too attached to love, and you will be able to alleviate negative emotions such as separation anxiety and pain. You will not feel lacking inside, and you will be able to feel happiness. And that's how your life can become fulfilling and meaningful!

If needed, they can also help those around them grow and change together.

Everyone is different, so excessive self-centeredness can manifest in different ways. It could be that you're motivated to pursue self-satisfaction, or you might be striving for self or repressing self-deprecation to please others. Maybe you blindly give in to gain something, or you're afraid of losing something. You might disregard the gains and losses of self-interest and emotions. If you're too narcissistic or inferior, you might pay too much attention to yourself. This could generate stress and worry, or you might have social phobia. You might be caught up in your own emotions and thoughts. You might attach too much importance to what others think of you. You might not accept your own shortcomings and deficiencies. You might force yourself to be perfect. You might be obsessive, controlling, or possess others. You might force others to satisfy you. You might resent and be discontent. You might be unable to let go of yourself to forgive and forgive. You might brood.

If you only focus on yourself, you might find yourself feeling anxious, depressed, and tired. You might even find it difficult to adapt to the people and things in your school or workplace environment. But if you truly love others and adapt to people and things, you'll naturally look down on the self and restore positive energy.

In short, just do your best, have good intentions, and try not to hurt anyone because nobody wants to suffer.