Having recently joined the organization, I harbor strong discontent towards the leadership. What should I do?

Hello!

I totally get it! I can understand your worries, anxieties, and irritations very well.

To solve the problem, you can first calm down and think about the source of these emotions. Then, you can take control and work through them!

There may be a lack of recognition for this leadership ability. But here's the good news: although this leader has a good character, he is weak in leadership and inefficient at work. Being forced to work under such a person, you will inevitably feel depressed and stifled.

And there's the exciting possibility that you'll be constrained by such a leader and have to think about your future development space.

1. Relieve anxiety and calm the mind!

The system has its own unique characteristics, and it's an exciting journey to discover them! Newcomers to the system may find it takes time to adapt to the environment and the system, but it's worth taking the time to adjust.

You want to get promoted quickly, and you're worried that you'll fall behind your peers. But now you're in a state you don't want to be in, which isn't good for your work or emotions. So let's change that!

So first, you get to kick this restless mentality to the curb and slow your roll!

There are so many ways to relieve your emotions! Try listening to music, going for a walk, or meditating. When you're feeling calm, you'll be able to think clearly and come up with better solutions.

2. Adjust your perception and learn to view problems from multiple perspectives!

The success or failure of a matter is determined by many factors, and the kind of leader you follow is only one of them. But don't let that stop you! It's not the most important factor.

A person with a strong ability to adapt to the environment can absolutely bring their best performance in any situation! So, improving one's ability is perhaps the most fundamental requirement for success.

Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. And there's so much we can learn from everyone! We just need to be open to discovering it.

Embrace change and discover new perspectives! For instance, older individuals may not be as efficient, but they bring a wealth of experience, composure, and comprehensive thinking to the table.

If you work with someone older and can win their appreciation, you might even get recommended to the leader when they retire!

Working with people who are less capable can sometimes bring out your talents and make it easier to achieve results—and it's a great way to do it!

No matter what the situation, there are always opportunities! All you need is the vision to spot them.

3. Explore yourself and improve your psychological abilities!

Now, think about how you feel about this leader. Does it bring up any feelings you had about someone in a relationship during your growth process?

Psychologically speaking, it's very likely that we will transfer our feelings for someone in our past life to another person in the present. This could be someone like your leader! Is there a connection between this feeling and an authority figure in your past life? Through such exploration, you can deepen your understanding of yourself, eliminate the self-feelings from past experiences, and the impact on the present may change you!

I really hope that Hongyu's reply helps you! Thank you so much for your question!

Good day, I am writing in response to your query.

From your description of the problem, I can ascertain that you are a person with a very strong sense of self-awareness and self-reflection.

You are able to discern the advantages and disadvantages of leadership from your own perspective in interpersonal and authoritative relationships. You recognize that you are a capable individual with excellent analytical and perceptive skills.

However, your strengths also present a challenge. I can tell that you are very demanding of yourself and strive for perfection.

In this situation, it is understandable that you are concerned. Allow me to offer some encouragement:

In addition, I would like to offer a few suggestions that I hope will assist you in navigating these challenging circumstances.

1. Discontinue the practice of making comparisons and instead focus on pursuing your own unique path.

Each individual's journey is unique. When we refrain from comparing, we avoid any potential harm. The universe is a dynamic entity, and there is no comparison to be made. Our view of others is limited, and we cannot fully comprehend their inner workings.

One's personal attributes are not always advantageous. In fact, disadvantages can sometimes be beneficial.

2. Adapt your approach to align with the prevailing circumstances.

There are three categories of matters in this world: those that are solely within your purview, those that concern other individuals, and those that are the concern of a higher power.

It is important to remember that we have control over our own decisions and actions, while the circumstances of others and external factors are beyond our influence.

When first starting a new position, it is essential to prioritize going with the flow, adapting to the environment, and doing your own thing.

3. Release your anxiety and accept yourself.

I understand that you have high expectations of yourself, which may provide motivation for improvement. However, this can also result in emotional anxiety.

A renowned psychological study revealed that the relationship between emotions and work follows an inverted U-shaped curve. Excessive anxiety hinders work efficiency, while moderate anxiety benefits both physical and mental health, as well as work performance.

Often, there is no one else outside our window, just ourselves. Our relationships with others and our work are a reflection of our relationship with ourselves. Only when we accept and believe in ourselves can we achieve harmony with our environment.

As a result, the environment will be in a harmonious situation.

It is possible to overcome negative doubts and uncertainties about yourself and become more supportive, trusting, and affirmative.

I would like to extend my best wishes to you as well. I hope you will soon feel at home, have a good working environment, and enjoy a wonderful life.

Good day. I am a heart exploration coach, and I appreciate your willingness to share your feelings.

The direct superior is perceived as inflexible and dogmatic, with inefficient work methods, low emotional intelligence, a lack of assertiveness and the inability to decline requests, and a tendency to procrastinate and waste the time of subordinates.

This has a deleterious effect on both one's work and personal life, and one is unable to obtain sufficient restorative sleep. Additionally, one experiences a range of negative psychological effects, including irritability, anxiety, resentment, helplessness, and a sense of powerlessness.

Take a moment to calm yourself by breathing deeply, and let us proceed to examine the questions that trouble you.

1. Interact with people and learn from the relationships that you form.

The aforementioned issues have a detrimental impact on the individual's ability to interact with others and learn from relationships. These challenges are often a result of one's own inflexibility and inability to adapt to different perspectives. Our tendency to make assumptions based on our own experiences and values can lead to misinterpretations and misunderstandings.

The aforementioned issues can be attributed to a lack of flexibility and openness to new perspectives, which may be a result of a tendency towards stubbornness.

A significant number of issues can be attributed to one's own obstinacy rather than to objective reality. We tend to rely on our own cognitive frameworks to infer the thoughts and beliefs of others, which can be considered a form of judgment.

Judgment can be defined as the act of evaluating another person or thing based on one's own values and standards. In other words, judgment is a form of belief.

It is inevitable that one's judgments will be influenced by one's own knowledge and values. The establishment of standards inevitably leads to the formation of judgments.

While judgment is beneficial in that it provides direction, if judgment becomes fixed, each fixation results in a "limited belief." Fixation impedes fluidity in life, distorting relationships and ultimately leading to their destruction.

While judgment is beneficial in that it provides direction, if judgment becomes fixed, each fixation gives rise to a "limited belief." Such a state of fixed judgment can impede fluidity in life, leading to distortion and ultimately destruction of relationships.

To ascertain whether an individual exhibits superior intelligence, one can assess whether they are capable of retaining disparate opinions without impeding their ability to function effectively.

What is the rationale behind the brain's capacity for accommodating disparate perspectives?

The brain experiences conflict when confronted with disparate opinions.

The term "conflict" is used to describe the internal struggle that occurs when individuals are confronted with opposing opinions. This internal conflict often arises from a discrepancy between one's personal beliefs and external realities, as well as from disagreements with others regarding their opinions.

An open mind allows the brain to explore further.

It is recommended that one attempt to transform the concept of conflict into that of confusion and to adopt an open-minded approach to change.

Confusion can be defined as the inconsistency between a previous state and the current state of affairs.

[Conflict] is defined as the simultaneous presentation of two disparate points of view.

[Conflict] is defined as the placement of two disparate points of view within the same temporal framework.

The views of both the subject and their immediate supervisor are situated within the same temporal framework.

[Confusion] is defined as the act of placing two distinct points of view within the same temporal framework.

The act of situating one's own opinion in the past creates a potential for future growth and development.

The "should be" viewpoint represents a past perspective.

One must cease to insist that one's own point of view is correct. The "should be" perspective is, after all, merely a viewpoint from the past.

One learns from and gets along with people who have different opinions from oneself. The premise is to "put your opinions in the past and the other person's opinions in the present."

One learns to coexist with individuals who espouse disparate viewpoints. The underlying premise is to "place one's opinions in the past and the other person's opinions in the present."

It can be posited that individuals who evoke feelings of discomfort and who exhibit dissimilar characteristics to oneself may, in fact, be beneficial to one's growth and development. These individuals may present one with novel forms of insight and perspectives, which may prove invaluable in one's journey of self-discovery and personal evolution. It is therefore crucial to remain mindful and open to these experiences, as they may offer invaluable insights and opportunities for growth.

It can be posited that individuals who evoke feelings of unease and who exhibit behaviours that are dissimilar to one's own are likely to be beneficial to one's personal growth. These individuals may be offering gifts in a manner that is novel and unconventional, and therefore it is important to remain mindful and receptive to such offerings, as they may prove invaluable in facilitating personal development.

Given that each individual encountered in life serves a purpose, it follows that they are there to help us achieve our life's purpose.

Your immediate supervisor is similarly characterized. It is evident that he possesses commendable personal qualities, including a willingness to comply with and respect authority figures and a notable dedication to his professional responsibilities.

2. The underlying cause of the anxiety is the individual's motivation and dedication to self-improvement.

The terms "despair," "irritability," "envy," and "jealousy" were employed because the subject is enterprising and anxious due to concerns about lagging behind, being eliminated, and failing to meet the company's developmental needs.

Indeed, an even more formidable internal voice asserts, "I am inadequate."

Both envy and jealousy are predicated on the belief that one is inadequate. This belief is inextricably linked to the concept of self-worth.

Self-worth can be defined as an individual's subjective evaluation of their own worth, which is distinct from the opinions of others. A person with a high sense of self-worth is characterized by confidence in themselves as a person and a positive outlook on the future.

He will not negate his identity as a result of a single misstep. Those with a low sense of worth are prone to sensitivity and suspicion, leading to self-denial and self-doubt.

This is analogous to an antique. In the absence of knowledge regarding its value, individuals are susceptible to accepting the appraiser's opinion. A similar phenomenon occurs with regard to people. In the absence of knowledge regarding their own value, individuals are prone to giving credence to the opinions of others.

The affirmation of self-worth is contingent upon external validation. The work methods and management skills of one's immediate supervisor are perceived to influence one's professional development and future prospects.

This is a process of seeking external support, which requires some external, material, and others' affirmation, praise, or approval to ensure its success. Once these external supports are removed, the individual will experience the pain of seeking but not obtaining.

In lieu of seeking external validation, it is more beneficial to cultivate self-worth internally through introspection and educational pursuits. One's value is ultimately determined by oneself.

In lieu of seeking external validation, it is imperative to prioritize introspection and growth through learning. One's self-worth is ultimately determined by one's own actions and achievements.

The management and abilities of the aforementioned individual do not represent or determine the future of the subject. The subject retains the initiative and the right to choose.

For further insight, I would recommend referring to my article, "It Turns Out That the Root Cause of Psychological Problems Is This: Self-Worth," which will provide valuable guidance on enhancing one's sense of self-worth.

It is my sincere hope that the aforementioned information is beneficial to you. Furthermore, I extend my love and support to you and to the world.

Should you wish to continue the communication, you are invited to click on the link entitled "Find a coach," which you will find in the upper right-hand corner or at the bottom of the page. This will enable you to engage in one-to-one dialogue with me.

Hello, I'm Pei Lu.

I'll give you a hug.

Dissatisfaction with immediate supervisor

Anxiety about powerlessness

Data interpretation

Since joining the company six months ago, I have found that my immediate supervisor is inefficient, indecisive, and has low emotional intelligence. He disregards the feelings of others, which is a cause for concern in terms of interpersonal relationships. As his subordinate, you must feel oppressed and depressed having to face such a supervisor all day long.

I'm a social animal too, so I understand.

You can't stand being with your leader. You envy your peers who have had leaders and worry you'll fall behind. You're anxious and don't know how to deal with it. I can feel your disappointment, worries, and resentment.

Causes

You're very enterprising at work. You work to earn money and improve your abilities. You hope to have an excellent mentor to guide and lead you. You don't think he's the leader you have in mind. You're unwilling to be under his command.

This gap makes you feel bad. You think, "Why can't my leader be as good as other leaders?"

If you think you'll lag behind your peers at work, or that you'll become like your boss, it shows you lack confidence.

"I envy and resent him, and I'm afraid I'll become like him," "I'm worried I'll lag behind other people my age." These views show you don't have enough confidence in yourself.

Advice for you.

Consider different views.

Your leader may seem lacking, but he's been in the civil service longer and is much older. He has insights and ways of doing things. Is it just because of his age that he's been promoted? Could it be that he's qualified because of other strengths you haven't noticed?

Embrace and discard.

If you don't like how your leader does things, you can use him as an example of what not to do. Sometimes, learning and growing up doesn't mean following a good role model. Bad examples can also help you avoid making mistakes.

Pay attention to your leader's words and actions. Focus on his strengths and ignore his weaknesses.

Communication.

As a subordinate, you must obey your leader's orders, share his concerns, and help him complete tasks. This requires good communication. You can seek help from your leader when you encounter difficulties and regularly summarize your work. Active communication can help you establish a positive relationship with your leader.

Trials of growth.

In life, things don't always go our way. We meet all kinds of people and things, good and bad. What we need to learn is to face different situations calmly and accept the challenges that setbacks bring us.

We can view these challenges as a form of growth.

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I love you, world.

Hello!

You're very dissatisfied with your superior and resistant to him. You've reached a point where you can't stand it and hate yourself for being unable to rebel or resolve the situation. First, let me give you a hug.

Let's look at this together.

Why are you unhappy with your boss?

There are three reasons for dissatisfaction with a leader:

1) The leader is not professional.

2) The leader is bad at managing.

3) The leader is unethical and irresponsible.

Such a leader affects your future. We all want to meet a good leader, which is helpful for our careers.

The reasons for your dissatisfaction with the leader:

He has bad work methods. He gets stuck, does meaningless work, is inefficient, works overtime, and has a low accuracy rate.

The leader is indecisive and makes everyone else do their tasks.

He has low emotional intelligence and ignores the needs of others. If you ask him to print something, you have to wait until he is done.

He has a good character, but everyone hates him. He was promoted because he is older.

The longer you work with him, the more anxious you become, afraid of falling behind your peers. They all have strong, experienced leaders, and I envy them, afraid that I will be like him in the future.

How should you change your thinking?

No one is perfect. Learn to accept it.

Leaders are human, and no one is perfect. If you feel your leader is very bad, it may be because you don't understand or accept him, or because you have different experiences. We are all the same, with both strengths and weaknesses.

Don't focus on the leader's flaws.

If you see so many shortcomings in him, it's also a projection of your own psychology. The more you focus on what you lack, the more you'll see his shortcomings. Look for the bright spots in him.

3. Help your leader.

He's old and may do many things poorly at work. If you see something, help out. It's good to help others and can also help your work.

4. Focus on the present.

We often have unhappy leaders at work. We can't choose or escape them.

When you encounter such situations, try to switch to something that will make you happy. When dealing with a leader you are dissatisfied with, control your emotions and avoid conflict.

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We all work with different leaders, but we can learn to deal with them better. This will help us do better at work.

I hope this helps. Love,

Good day, question asker.

It is unfortunate to observe your current situation. Connecting with a capable leader can facilitate personal growth. However, when encountering such a leader, there is a concern that one might be influenced by them. This is a common occurrence.

Fortunately, you have already identified this issue and are seeking a solution. You are frustrated but unsure of the best course of action.

First, take a moment to calm down. It is only when you are calm that you can think rationally.

Who is your immediate supervisor? It is important to note that there is often limited choice in this matter. It is not your responsibility if you have a less than optimal supervisor. However, it is possible that your supervisor may not be particularly capable, but is a decent person. Therefore, the situation may not be as unfavorable as it seems.

Secondly, the fact that you can see so many deficiencies in your leader means that your own abilities will be stronger than his. It is normal for the abilities of subordinates to exceed those of their leaders. Therefore, on the basis of his good character, you should provide him with assistance.

There is a technique to this, and it also requires a certain degree of emotional intelligence. This entails providing assistance and giving credit to the individual in question. Some may question whether this is the right approach.

By taking this approach, you can avoid becoming as mediocre as your current supervisor and even enhance your abilities. Furthermore, you can utilize this period as an opportunity to bide your time and prepare for a chance to distinguish yourself.

Your potential will be recognized. Believe in yourself!

➡️ If you are unable to tolerate the situation, you may also choose to terminate the employment relationship. If you do decide to leave, explore the possibility of applying for a transfer within the company.

If that is not a viable option, then it would be prudent to seek alternative employment. This may be a more challenging decision, but it is preferable to remaining in an intolerable situation. As the adage goes, "A tree that moves will die, but a person who moves will live." It is more productive to work with hope than to dwell on hopelessness.

Therefore, it would be prudent to consider all options carefully before taking action.

I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors.