He also doesn't want a long-distance relationship. Whose responsibility is it to not be able to get married?

It's been so long since you two started dating, but he's still on the fence. It's understandable that his job is the reason for the long-distance relationship, no matter who he's with. But he still says he doesn't want a long-distance relationship. It's a bit contradictory, but you know him best, so you'll understand.

I can understand why you're wondering about the possibility of a long-distance relationship. It seems like he's not planning on changing jobs, so it might be tricky to make it work. But I think it's important to remember that he should respect your work and dedication, too. If he wants to avoid being judged, he should be willing to accept your contributions.

It seems like your boyfriend doesn't have a plan for the future, and it's clear that he's not particularly decisive. It's likely that he's not particularly confident in himself, but you're thinking about him and want him to be happy with you.

You've already come up with lots of ideas yourself, but it seems like he's not too happy about them. He still says he wants to get married, but he doesn't say he wants to marry you. It can be really frustrating when this happens! Is he just stringing you along?

It can be really tough when you're in a relationship and you're not sure if it's going to lead to marriage. It's totally normal to feel this way! The good news is that you can take the Love Background Psychological Test to help you understand your own values and your partner's, and to see if your love is strong enough to last. I really hope this helps!

ZQ?

Good morning, host.

I would like to extend an invitation for you to receive a warm embrace from me.

It is evident that you still hold a profound regard for this relationship and that you hold a great deal of affection for your boyfriend. However, a harmonious relationship is akin to a dance. If he takes a step back, it is imperative that you take two steps forward. Conversely, if you step back, it is crucial that he reciprocates by moving closer to you. This is the essence of a healthy relationship.

At times, one may perceive a reduction in the level of affection from one's partner, which can lead to feelings of disappointment and a sense of being overwhelmed by reality. In such instances, it is crucial to ascertain whether the partner has actually withdrawn or if there are other factors at play. To illustrate this concept, consider a scenario where one is engaged in a dance and the partner takes a step back. How would one respond in such a situation?

It is important to ensure that the aforementioned points are retained.

I have a friend who also graduated from graduate school. Her boyfriend is an undergraduate student in Shandong, and my friend is likely to develop in Beijing. My friend's boyfriend felt that he was not good enough for her, so he proposed to break up. At this time, my friend did something very courageous. He quit school and went to Shandong without asking for leave from his teacher. He went from Zhejiang to Shandong to find his boyfriend and told him, "I love you very much, I care about you very much, and I will do everything I can to make it work. We will be together, and I believe that we can solve any difficulties in the future." As one might expect, they ended up reconciling and went to Beijing together. I believe that at this time, her boyfriend also made concessions for her and went to Beijing with her.

At the time, I considered my friend to be an admirable individual, particularly in terms of his courage and his capacity to give for love. As I reached a certain age, I came to perceive this as a fundamental aspect of the dynamics of relationships. When a partner withdraws, it is not necessarily indicative of a lack of love, but rather a reflection of their desire to prioritize their own well-being and to provide the best possible circumstances for the relationship. This can lead to a sense of apprehension about their ability to offer the best, which may manifest as a withdrawal. In such instances, offering support and encouragement can facilitate the development of a more positive and fulfilling relationship.

It is therefore recommended that couples allow themselves sufficient time to reflect and communicate honestly with one another. This should include expressing their deepest feelings and aspirations for the future. It is believed that with dedication and effort, couples can overcome challenges and build a brighter future together.

I extend my affection to the world and to you.

Dear Landlord, I hope my response will prove useful to you.

In fact, there are not necessarily only two options for many problems, but rather a multitude of potential solutions that can be employed in order to achieve one's desired outcome.

My boyfriend and I were also novices in the realm of romantic relationships. At that time, I was also engaged in studies for a master's degree, and he was employed. We were separated for four years. There were indeed numerous conflicts during those four years, and we had to endure the pain of separation. However, upon reflection, I have come to recognize that if it were not for that experience of not being able to be together often, we would not currently hold such a profound appreciation for the time we are able to spend together on a daily basis.

It is a common misconception that long-distance relationships inevitably result in the dissolution of the partnership. As long as the two individuals involved are committed to the long-term goal of being together, they can maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship despite the geographical distance between them. There are strategies that can be employed to ensure the relationship remains as strong as possible despite the challenges posed by distance.

The impact of distance on love is significant because the ideal love relationship comprises three essential elements: intimacy, passion, and commitment.

The most long-lasting and satisfying intimacy is achieved through the efforts of both partners to maintain intimacy and enhance their sense of responsibility towards each other. However, intimacy in long-distance relationships can be easily affected. While a hug may provide a solution in some cases, emotional expression barriers, misunderstandings, and the accumulation of negative emotions can result in a lack of intimacy. Coupled with the cumulative effect of different living environments and social circles, over time the two people may have less and less in common, making it increasingly difficult to understand each other. What's even more concerning is that trust can be eroded.

The lack of intimacy is a significant factor contributing to the failure of long-distance relationships. The challenges posed by distance and time can give rise to a range of uncertainties, including ambiguous messages, delayed responses to messages or phone calls, group photos with other individuals of the opposite sex, and instances of dishonesty. These factors, when combined, can erode trust and ultimately lead to the dissolution of the relationship.

What, then, are the means of overcoming the uncertainties of being apart and maintaining a harmonious and long-lasting relationship?

1. It is essential to learn to communicate deeply and to establish a trust-based relationship.

The most challenging aspect of long-distance relationships is communication. Many individuals perceive communication to be primarily linguistic; however, empirical evidence suggests that verbal information accounts for a mere 7% of communication, with the remaining 93% attributed to nonverbal cues such as tone of voice, facial expressions, and body language.

It is therefore evident that when two individuals are residing in separate locations and communicating with one another, it is inherently challenging to fully comprehend each other's emotional state. Even in the context of video communication, the absence of physical touch and smell renders it an inadequate means of understanding each other. Consequently, it is crucial to enhance the depth and efficacy of communication.

In the context of long-distance communication, it is recommended to: report daily, learn to share, and avoid conflict. It is important to express feelings and needs in a timely manner, share each other's lives, provide the other person with insight into one's living environment and dynamics, and enhance each other's sense of security.

2. It is recommended that couples living apart reinforce the sense of ritual that is characteristic of a long-term relationship. In this way, the emotional bond between partners can be preserved despite the physical distance that separates them.

The preservation of love between two people necessitates the establishment of a sense of ritual. For couples who are separated, the reinforcement of this sense of ritual is of particular importance, as it can facilitate the re-establishment of a sense of newlywed intimacy following a brief period of separation.

It is recommended that couples establish a set of rules to govern their interactions.

It is possible to establish a set of guidelines for maintaining a harmonious relationship, ensuring regular romantic interactions between the two parties. These may include practices such as saying goodnight to each other every night, having regular video calls, and resolving conflicts in a constructive manner. It is important to avoid allowing disagreements to persist overnight.

It is recommended that couples engage in romantic activities to foster intimacy and connection.

It is important to express one's thoughts and love for one's partner in an appropriate manner, as this can enhance their feelings of care and support. It is also beneficial to surprise one's partner with thoughtful gestures, such as writing a few lines of love poetry, recording an interesting voice message, or singing a love song for them. If one is frequently away on travel, it is a thoughtful gesture to purchase a gift for one's partner upon their return, selecting something that they had mentioned to you in advance. This demonstrates that you are thinking of them and shows your commitment to the relationship.

3. It is important to create romantic expectations and leverage the power of commitment.

Among the three elements of love, commitment is of particular importance in long-distance relationships. It serves as a crucial driving force for overcoming the challenges posed by the physical distance between partners. Without an expectation of a future together, it can be difficult for individuals in such relationships to withstand the torment of loneliness and longing. Therefore, when apart, it is essential to prioritize opportunities for regular communication and physical contact. Before each separation, it is beneficial to begin creating expectations for the next time you meet, striving to be as specific as possible and sharing the anticipation. For instance, one partner might say, "We will meet in a month, and I will cook a big meal for you, so you can taste the loving cooking I have practiced for you."

It is recommended that, when feasible, couples attempt to resolve the issue of living apart and spend time together, as this may facilitate the development of intimacy. In the event that this is not a viable option, it is essential for partners to make a commitment to one another and to consider ways of compensating for the lack of physical proximity emotionally, thereby fostering a sense of security and comfort in their partner. This approach is crucial for maintaining a stable and harmonious intimate relationship.

While love is often simple and pure, relationships require management. It is therefore essential to learn how to manage one's intimate relationships and deal with the numerous practical issues that arise, in order to reap the benefits of a happy relationship.

I wish you the best of success.

Hello!

It's time to understand how you feel! You both don't want a long-distance relationship, you can't get married now, and neither of you can finally come together and enter the marriage hall. Who is responsible?

First of all, your mother is very optimistic about your relationship and approves of the relationship between the two of you. She has great advice for you! Since things are going so well, she hopes that you can end the long-distance relationship and have a stable relationship with common development. You also put this idea to your boyfriend, and while you didn't reach a consensus, you're both on the same page that this is a great goal to work towards!

You've been through a breakup before and then got back together, right? Well, this time it's different! Your boyfriend doesn't approve of your career development or your abilities as a whole, but you can change that!

Like he said, he hopes you can have a better job, better development, better education, and even if he wants you to go to graduate school or wants you to do something he is looking forward to, something he wants to achieve, and reach a certain level! And she also said that she wants to find a girlfriend who can get married right away, and he also wants to get married, so there's a good chance this will work out!

If a person is satisfied with the emotional relationship between the two, he will be eager to take the initiative to maintain the relationship and make some efforts, and even give up some of his own parts and make self-sacrifices. He will be excited to take the initiative to do something to promote the relationship!

From your description, I don't see any part where he took the initiative to make an effort. Instead, I see that he is dissatisfied with the relationship, and it's like food that's tasteless but too good to throw away. For example, if she wants to get married, it's obvious that you are not the one he wants to marry and don't meet her standards for a spouse. Also, it seems that he is trying hard to reform you, for example, giving you more advice and so on, while completely ignoring some of your own plans and ideas. Obviously, you are not on the same level in his heart, but that just means there's room for improvement!

Just as he said, there is no future with you, but this is also an issue that you don't want to face. Whenever you think about this, you will become distracted. It can be seen that you care a lot about him and cherish this relationship, but the feelings of the two people need to be mutually recognized and go in both directions.

If one person doesn't have the motivation to move forward and doesn't want to take the initiative to maintain and promote the relationship, it's not easy to maintain and manage such a relationship! But there's no reason why you can't take the bull by the horns and make it work!

Hello! I'd like to offer you a warm hug from afar if I may.

You may be experiencing a sense of helplessness, contradictions, and a desire to be understood and supported in this moment. It is evident that you still care deeply about this relationship, and I hope you can persevere.

Love should not cause you pain, helplessness, or feelings of being unsupported. While love will undoubtedly encounter difficulties and setbacks, those who truly love each other will undoubtedly support each other, especially when obstacles arise in your love. It is essential to work together to find a solution, rather than each person thinking only about how to satisfy their own wishes or one party demanding that the other completely consider themselves. This is not the attitude that people who love each other should have when dealing with problems, is it not?

You say that your boyfriend is not happy with your work and wants you to have better development, which makes you feel anxious and uneasy. This may come across as disrespectful to you. It's understandable to feel this way. It doesn't matter whether he is satisfied with your work or not. What matters is whether you are satisfied with your work. As long as you love your work, it would be helpful to have him respect your choice, rather than hoping that you will find a job according to his wishes. What do you think?

When you chose to compromise because you cared about his feelings and tried to express your intention to find a job with better development prospects, it seemed that he was not as supportive and guidance-oriented as you had hoped. Additionally, he seemed to suggest that your thoughts did not align with his. This made you feel that you were not fully understood, valued, supported, loved, or heard. In other words, you tried hard to empathize with him and be considerate of him, but there was no understanding, support, or acknowledgement in his words or actions. This may have contributed to your hesitancy in firmly accepting his willingness to get married. You said, "Because you don't feel loved, understood, supported, or respected, you have a strong sense of insecurity in this relationship."

It seems that he is not interested in a long-distance relationship and is not willing to work with you to overcome the obstacles of living apart. Even if you make compromises, he still rejects them. Perhaps it would be helpful to try to bravely tell her your true inner feelings and thoughts, let him know that his words and actions have made you feel uncomfortable and hurt to a certain extent, and at the same time express your respect for his choice.

When you have done your best because of love, it's important to be kind to yourself. We all have our limits. Marriage is a partnership between two adults. Getting married requires the ability of both people to work together to solve problems. What are your thoughts on this?

It is my hope that you will marry for love, not for duty.

I hope that my sharing can provide some support and guidance. I am Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. I send you my love and best wishes.

If the relationship is meant to last, it doesn't matter if you see each other every day.

Love is a mysterious thing that's hard to describe but is all around us. In the early days of a relationship, we tend to overlook each other's flaws, but when problems arise, we tend to focus on the other person's shortcomings.

But everyone is an independent person with good and bad qualities. We love people for who they are, not just for their strengths.

I love him not because I want something from him, but because my love for him will make me restrain my desires.

Your relationship is something you decide on your own, rather than something that's forced to happen because of your parents' opinions or life circumstances. What's the foundation of your love for each other? Is it to face the challenges of life together, or to start a family where both parties take on their responsibilities?

Happiness isn't built on the pain of constantly running back and forth between two parties, as this will only drain your life.

Don't make a decision when you're confused. You need to figure out whether the relationship is right for marriage. If you can't even work through the difficulties together, what kind of marriage will you have, and how will you handle future challenges?

Long-distance relationships aren't really a test of love. They're more about testing your love for each other. Can you maintain your loyalty and restraint in that kind of environment? For someone who travels a lot for work like him, it's actually easier to meet.

If this is a test now, what will it be like when you have to travel with your family in the future?

You're both independent people, and your love for each other isn't about becoming dependent on each other. You're joining hands to face the future together, not letting your feelings transform you and make you dependent on them. Such a relationship is ultimately prone to problems.

Marriage isn't a game. Don't get into it by mistake because of emotional issues. If neither person is prepared to take on the responsibilities and conflicts of a family, such a marriage is unhealthy and a drain on both parties.

It's not realistic to expect couples to stay together all the time, and conflicts are bound to arise. It's important not to let temporary emotional confusion cloud your judgement when it comes to identifying the root of the problem.

It's important to remember that life isn't perfect, and a complete you that is willing to accept the imperfect is more worthy of trust.

There's no right or wrong in relationships, just a matter of suitability. Don't let past emotions cloud your judgement in the present, and don't be afraid to speak your mind in the face of current challenges.

Don't let past mistakes become future regrets.