He is particularly timid and can be startled easily. Can it be recovered?

Hello, host, I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

I used to be just like you: timid, afraid to look people in the eye, rarely saying no to other people's requests, weak and inferior. But then, after a long period of psychological growth, I slowly adjusted my way of thinking. Now, I've become more and more confident, I've come to accept my own character, and I've learned to guard my own boundaries. I believe you can do it too.

You may find it helpful to refer to some of my experiences:

1. It would be beneficial for us to gain a deeper understanding of our personalities.

It is important to remember that whether you are introverted or extroverted is innate. There is no good or bad in being introverted or extroverted. Extroverts have the advantage of being extroverted, and introverts have the benefits of being introverted.

I understand that society tends to favor extroverts, but I believe that there is no such thing as a good or bad personality. I think that we can all find our strengths and bring them to the fore.

There is no need to pretend to be lively and cheerful; you should simply be yourself. It is only when your words and actions are consistent that your body and mind can be in harmony. Extroverts recharge themselves through socializing, while introverts deplete their energy when socializing. It would be beneficial for us to recharge ourselves through solitude. Therefore, it is important to replenish what we consume in order to achieve a balanced state.

2. With regard to socializing, it would be beneficial to engage in selective socializing while avoiding the "spotlight effect."

It would be beneficial to engage in selective socializing.

It is important to remember that everyone has a need for social interaction. Social interaction can provide a sense of belonging and security, but it is also essential to be selective about who we socialize with. It is not beneficial to socialize with people who constantly criticize and undermine us, as this can cause significant issues. Instead, it is more constructive to socialize with people who always give us encouragement and support, so that we can experience care and support in our social interactions.

If socializing is becoming a source of stress for you, it may be helpful to consider adjusting the frequency of socializing until it suits you better. It's important to remember not to force yourself, and to learn to take care of your own feelings.

It might be helpful to try to avoid the "spotlight effect."

The term "spotlight effect" is used in psychology to describe the tendency to magnify one's problems. To illustrate this, imagine you go to a party confidently, dressed neatly, and looking refreshed. However, the breeze has slightly messed up your hair.

As you reach to open the door, you catch sight of your reflection in the mirror. You feel a moment of self-consciousness as you notice your appearance may not be as tidy as you would like. You feel a sudden sense of being watched and hear whispers about your "unlucky appearance."

It might be helpful to know that your nervousness is not entirely justified. This is what psychologists refer to as the "spotlight effect."

It's natural to feel that the spotlight is on us more than it is in reality. When it comes to other people, we often find that we overestimate the impact our actions, appearance, and emotions have on them.

It is thought that the "spotlight effect" may be the cause of your nervousness when talking to others. It is possible that you feel that other people are paying special attention to your every move. When talking to others, you seem to feel a spotlight shining on your head, which could cause you to feel nervous.

It is important to remember that we are all important in our own way, and that other people have their own lives to live. It is therefore helpful to relax, be yourself, and be true to your own state.

It is important to remember that the more you can be true to yourself, the more you can gain ease and comfort. People who like you will like you, accept you, and support you no matter what kind of existence you are. However, people who don't like you may still reject you and not support you, even if you behave in a way that is in line with your true self. While it is not always possible to win everyone's approval, you can strive to be the person you like in yourself. As you do so, you will likely find that you like yourself more and more.

3. It would be beneficial to be true to yourself and take care of your own needs.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that if we always focus on the feelings of others, always think about how to meet their needs, and ignore or even suppress our own needs, we may experience a range of emotions.

When we are unable to express our needs or present our true selves, it can naturally lead to feelings of being blocked. It may therefore be helpful to consider learning to express our feelings and needs and to try to be true to ourselves.

I understand that it can be challenging to be true to yourself. However, I believe that with determination and effort, you can gradually move closer to becoming the person you aspire to be.

When you are brave enough to express your true self, you may find that your own energy will become stronger and stronger.

4. It would be helpful to consider other people's comments in a different light.

We all have our own unique characteristics and standards.

When others align with our evaluation standards, we tend to feel positive towards them. Conversely, when there is a discrepancy, we may experience a sense of disconnection or doubt.

It is worth noting that when we meet the other person's evaluation standards, they may approve of us. Conversely, when we do not meet the other person's evaluation standards, they may disapprove of us.

It is worth noting that whether the other person recognizes you or not may have little to do with you, but rather whether you match their evaluation criteria. It is also important to recognize that we cannot control the thoughts and actions of others, and that it is not always possible to meet everyone's evaluation criteria.

Life presents challenges to us all, and we all have different aspirations and circumstances. There is no need to try to live up to other people's standards or to expect others to conform to your own. There is no need to seek understanding and approval from others in every aspect of your life.

It is not necessary to sacrifice ourselves to gain the approval of others, nor should we trade relationships for this. It is important to remember that whether you are liked or disliked is not the most important thing. What is more important is whether you can accept this self that is liked and disliked at the same time.

We don't live to satisfy other people's expectations. It's important to remember that we don't need to seek other people's approval or care about what they think. This can lead us to live other people's lives, which might not align with our true selves. It's natural to hope to be recognized by others, but it's essential to live according to our own expectations. This will help us stay true to ourselves and avoid any potential issues that might arise from trying to live a life that doesn't truly align with our values.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider taking the right to judge yourself back into your own hands. You might like to treat yourself as someone else and judge yourself comprehensively, objectively, and truthfully. This could help you to know yourself better and to know yourself well enough, as well as to know what you want. At this time, you might find that other people's evaluations have become less important.

It may be helpful to consider that when you care less about what others think and live your true self, you may find that your relationships will actually improve. It is possible that those "bad relationships" that you have traded for by pleasing others and suppressing your own needs will no longer haunt you.

5. Consider practicing acceptance of yourself.

It may be helpful to accept your character and imperfections. It may also be beneficial to acknowledge your shortcomings and inadequacies, while recognizing your strengths and value. One way to become more confident is to accept yourself.

It is important to understand that accepting yourself can be challenging, but it is a skill that requires practice. When your inner voice is critical, it is essential to persist in practicing acceptance. It is valuable to recognize that you possess both strengths and shortcomings, and that you can leverage your strengths to live a fulfilling life despite your imperfections.

When you accept yourself, you can live with your shortcomings, and your heart will become more relaxed and powerful.

It is worth noting that many people are imperfect, yet they manage to live fulfilling lives despite their shortcomings. It is important to embrace your complete, true, and comprehensive self, accept your imperfections, and strive for a comfortable life.

6. It would be beneficial to recognize your own merits and value, and to consistently offer yourself positive psychological suggestions.

It is only when we affirm and support ourselves that we become more confident.

When we feel a lack inside, we often seek it outside. However, it's important to recognize that everything outside is, to some extent, beyond our control. The good news is that we can always control ourselves, our actions, and our thoughts.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that our need for external recognition may indicate that we don't fully approve of ourselves. It might be beneficial to practise approving of and encouraging ourselves. When we approve of and support ourselves enough, we may find that we are less concerned about other people's approval and comments.

When you accept and recognize yourself, it will be easier for others to recognize and believe in you as well. By exuding your own charm and radiating confidence, you can help others to see the best in you.

For this reason, we can say that we are the source of everything. If we were to change ourselves, we would also change our world.

7. It would be beneficial for us to cultivate our self-confidence and sense of security, and to constantly improve our abilities and knowledge.

It is often the case that confidence grows from a sense of strength and the exertion of effort. When we become someone we admire through our own endeavours, we may find that our confidence and sense of security increase in tandem.

It may be helpful to set yourself appropriate goals and then work towards achieving them one step at a time. This approach can gradually improve your abilities, accumulate your knowledge, and enrich your experience. As you achieve your goals, you may feel more secure, have a greater sense of control over your life, and naturally become more confident.

It is thought that the so-called right goals are those of moderate difficulty, the kind you can reach by standing on your tiptoes. If the goal is too small, it may not provide sufficient challenge and may lead to boredom, which could result in a lack of motivation to complete it. Similarly, if the goal is too big, it may feel overwhelming and may result in a lack of confidence to complete it. However, moderate-intensity goals can be an effective way to stimulate motivation, and when we work hard to achieve them, we may feel a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence.

As an example, if your current walking level is 4,000 steps per day, you might consider setting a daily goal of 4,500-5,000 steps, rather than less than 4,000 or as high as 10,000.

When you set goals that suit you according to your abilities, it is important to persevere. Action can help you overcome difficulties and truly experience your own value.

If I may suggest, it would be beneficial to continue encouraging yourself, providing yourself with positive mental suggestions, and believing in your abilities.

I encourage you to keep going.

Greetings! I extend a warm embrace from afar. Based on your description, it is evident that you experience profound feelings of internal inferiority, a lack of confidence, and an inability to accept yourself.

Additionally, it is important to acknowledge and commend oneself for recognizing one's emotional state, as a strong awareness of these feelings is an essential first step towards positive transformation.

Indeed, the key to modifying one's withdrawn, sensitive, and reserved interpersonal behavior is to strive for self-acceptance, foster self-confidence, and challenge feelings of inferiority.

One may attempt to enhance self-acceptance by compiling a list of one's strengths, which can facilitate the recognition of shortcomings and deficiencies, as well as the identification of strengths and advantages. The cultivation of additional interests and passions in one's life may facilitate the acquisition of greater control over one's abilities.

One may cultivate self-confidence and enhance one's sense of self-worth by maintaining a gratitude journal.

It would be beneficial to identify the underlying needs that manifest as timidity, shyness, sensitivity, and withdrawal in relationships. For instance, these behaviors may stem from a desire for acceptance, affirmation, approval, or a sense of being needed or encouraged. Conversely, they may also be driven by a fear of rejection or a desire to avoid being denied.

When one is able to reflect on and become aware of the underlying motives behind one's inappropriate behavior, a greater understanding and acceptance of one's actions can be achieved.

Subsequently, one should endeavor to courageously enter the relationship despite feelings of trepidation, recognizing that being rejected or denied does not signify inadequacy or wrongdoing.

I am Lily, the youngest member of the Q&A Museum. I extend my love to the world and to you.