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High school, always comparing your grades with others, how do you adjust your mentality?

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High school, always comparing your grades with others, how do you adjust your mentality? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

I'm in the same class as my middle school classmates, and I can't help but compare my grades to theirs all the time. I feel so bad for myself. It hurts to hear that someone else's grades rank higher than mine, and that I'm not included in any year or class commendations. I also feel a lot of pressure in biology, and I'm afraid of failing the exam and disappointing my biology teacher. How can I adjust my mentality?

Andrew Shaw Andrew Shaw A total of 969 people have been helped

One may consider academic performance as a reference point.

If an individual fails to rectify their shortcomings during their academic tenure, a prospective employer may be dissuaded from hiring them due to their suboptimal academic performance, lack of self-correction, proclivity for time mismanagement, and perceived unsuitability for the position. Grades serve as a reference point for others in the selection of students.

As students and educators increasingly prioritize grades as the sole criterion for evaluation, the significance of other forms of knowledge and comparison may be overlooked.

In the event of an error, it is imperative to rectify it. A robust capacity for introspection and the aptitude for prompt decision-making in the face of challenges, coupled with a composed demeanor, are qualities that organizations deem advantageous. Consequently, it is crucial to prioritize academic performance as a precursor to future endeavors.

However, academic performance alone is insufficient. An individual who excels in the initial grade of primary school but lacks proficiency in communication and presentation may be perceived as lacking in other abilities. Conversely, a person who is proficient in academic performance but lacks other skills may be at a disadvantage in navigating life's challenges. To illustrate, consider the various modes of transportation available to reach a destination. Depending on the distance, one might choose to walk, take a car, ride a bike, or utilize public transportation. Each option has its own advantages and limitations. For instance, walking is a viable option for short distances, but it is not feasible for long-distance travel. Public transportation is a convenient alternative, but it may not be suitable for certain destinations, such as those that require walking. Additionally, public transportation can be costly, and it may not align with one's personal goals.

Methods are instruments that facilitate the resolution of problems in the context of life. The greater the number of available methods, the greater the capacity to withstand risks, with success being one such risk.

In any case, it is an inescapable fact that individuals will inevitably be inferior to others.

It is not sufficient to conclude that one is not as accomplished as others; rather, it is imperative to comprehend the circumstances of others. To this end, it is essential to gain insight into the fields of astronomy, geography, and history.

It is essential to comprehend the interrelationship between humans and nature, the interplay between historical evolution and humans, and the interdependence between population and industry. This understanding is crucial for making informed career decisions. The process of understanding, evaluating, and making choices is a fundamental aspect of personal and professional development.

It is essential to gain an accurate understanding of the individuals in one's immediate vicinity. However, it is not feasible to dedicate an excessive amount of time to this endeavor, given the finite nature of energy resources. If one's attention is monopolized by concerns pertaining to academic performance, it becomes challenging to invest in personal growth, observe one's surroundings, or capitalize on potential opportunities.

If one truly desires to enhance one's academic performance, it is imperative to allocate sufficient time for rigorous review and consolidation of knowledge. A comprehensive understanding of the subject matter requires not only an examination of the fundamental concepts but also an analysis of their interrelationships. For instance, it is essential to gain a clear grasp of the diverse shapes that constitute the subject matter. To illustrate, one might inquire as to the specific classification of the carpal bone.

The question then becomes whether bone is an organ or a neuron.

Bones are organs of the body, analogous to the liver. What are the three components of the locomotor system in humans and vertebrates?

The answer is bone, bone connection, skeletal muscle. If the question pertains to high school biology, the methodology is consistent. If the question cannot be posed, it indicates a lack of knowledge and a failure to retain the information when reading.

Additionally, you inquired about the means of adjusting one's mindset. A mindset can be defined as a method of confronting the subsequent task in the most optimal state, free from the influence of the initial challenge. However, adjusting one's mindset does not guarantee the ability to perform the current task effectively.

One must approach the task at hand with complete dedication and commitment in order to achieve excellence.

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Maximus Thompson Maximus Thompson A total of 6687 people have been helped

Hello, classmate. I see you're confused. I'm here to help!

If you compare your grades with your classmates, you will feel anxious.

Some people will do better than you, and some will do worse.

Don't compare your grades with others.

Comparing people makes people angry.

You should only compare yourself now with who you were before.

If you get a higher score on this test than last time, that's an improvement.

You're afraid you won't do well in biology and disappoint your teacher.

You should know that we study for ourselves and for a better future, not for others like teachers.

If there's a school psychologist at your school, ask for help.

The counselor should provide free services.

I hope you find a solution soon.

I'm out of ideas.

I hope my response helps and inspires you. I am the answer, and I study hard every day.

Best wishes, Yixinli!

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Jasmine Shaw Jasmine Shaw A total of 4134 people have been helped

Hello, child! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

This is totally normal! I think almost everyone will have this kind of experience in middle school. Our examination system determines that we will compete with each other and there will be rankings. Of course, we all want our grades to be higher because we know that better grades represent excellence and show that we are good enough. When we are not commended, we will naturally feel frustrated. I bet you, and I bet your classmates, will feel this way too! It's totally normal to have these emotions and understand yourself. So, how can we adjust ourselves to make our minds more peaceful and let us enjoy the fun of learning more, rather than letting ourselves be in excessive anxiety and stress?

I've got some great advice for you!

You want to achieve good academic results and be recognized. You're goal-oriented, so what do you think you can do to make that happen?

From your description, I can tell that you're eager to be recognized for your age and class, and you're aiming to be at the top of the rankings! This is a great form of internal positive motivation. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be excellent — everyone wants to be the best, and that's a wonderful thing! However, to get a good ranking, it's important to focus on your own achievements rather than comparing yourself to other students. When we do this, it can help us to feel motivated to learn and excel. It's all about finding the right balance!

So, what do you think you need to do if you want to become a top-ranking student who can receive recognition from your grade or class? How do you need to arrange your study time every day, and what do you need to spend your limited energy on?

I'm sure you'll find your own answer! I just want to say that we all have limited human energy. If we spend too much of it focusing on others and worrying about being worse than them, we won't have enough energy to devote to learning. And while you're consumed with worries, others may actually be studying! So please cherish your time and attention and use it on the things you value most.

2. It's totally normal to have comparisons! By comparing, we can see the gap. We should not only compare the results, but also the process, to see what we can do for ourselves.

It's totally normal to have comparisons! They can help us see the gap between us and others. But don't get caught up in anxiety and frustration. Use comparisons to find your direction! We should also compare the learning process. The result of learning is brought about by the learning process. Observe how they usually learn and how they spend their days. What are some good learning methods that are worth learning from? Then, if you want to become like them, how can you spend your days? How can you adjust your learning goals and state?

Seeing the gap is not to negate yourself. Your existence cannot be measured by your current temporary results. You will be better than others in many ways after a few years, when you are no longer in the school environment and you have changed the reference standard for evaluation. None of us exist due to a single factor. However, for you at the moment, you need to realize your own value through academic performance, and you also have the ability to do so. Allowing yourself to have a gap in results with others does not mean that you are very bad. You just did not do so well in this exam. This is all temporary. You can help yourself improve your learning results by absorbing experience, summarizing methods, and enhancing your internal learning motivation.

3. Believe in yourself! It's more useful than blaming yourself. Focus on the process! It's more effective than worrying about the outcome. Set reasonable, small goals that suit you! This will allow you to move forward steadily.

If you believe you can succeed, you will succeed! It's as simple as that. If you believe you can't succeed, you won't succeed. It's that easy! Your attitude is everything. Believe in yourself and you will succeed. Blame yourself and you will fail. It's as clear as day. Pay attention to your attitude towards yourself. Believe in yourself!

It's time to adjust your attitude towards yourself! Believe that you can succeed, and you will succeed. Blaming yourself is a waste of energy and will not bring you any benefits.

As I just said, the learning outcome of each individual is brought about by the learning process, and the only thing we can control is the learning process. When we can devote ourselves to every learning process, not only will anxiety be reduced, but the results will often be fantastic! When you start to worry again, take a deep breath, bring yourself back, and tell yourself that what I can do now is to control my own learning and devote myself to my own learning process. Then, read the book when you should, and listen to the lecture when you should. Try it, it will surely bring you a pleasant surprise!

We don't need to compare ourselves with others, but we absolutely should compare ourselves with ourselves! Based on our current ability level and combined with the teacher's assessment of us, we can set learning goals for each subject. These goals are matched with your own abilities and can be accomplished through your own efforts. When you have accomplished them, don't take it for granted—give yourself sincere appreciation and affirmation! Seeing that you have made progress through your own efforts, you are capable in learning, and when this sense of achievement and self-confidence accumulate more and more, you will increasingly believe that you can learn well and will also increasingly experience the joy of learning!

I hope this is helpful for you! Best wishes!

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Alina Ruby O'Connor Alina Ruby O'Connor A total of 1019 people have been helped

In high school, many students compare their grades to others. Teachers rank students in elementary school, and we look at the ranking table to see how we have improved or regressed.

The college entrance exam is about comparing grades and competing with others. If you take this path, you will have to compare yourself to others.

You can't accept that your grades are worse than your former classmates' and that you failed to meet your teacher's expectations.

What if your grades were worse than your classmates? What if you failed to live up to your teachers' expectations?

What's the worst thing that could happen? What's the worst thing you can live with?

Write them down to see how bad it can get and whether you can accept it.

If you trust your teacher, you can ask them directly: "Teacher, my grades have always been worse than my junior high school classmates, and I feel bad about it. What do you think of me?"

If your parents are trustworthy, you can ask them. If you are worried about failing your biology teacher, you can talk to your teacher.

Tell him your worries and listen to his advice. The truth might not be as bad as you think. High school is tough, but you don't have to face it alone. Teachers, parents, and even friends can help.

You have too many thoughts in your mind. You believe you should be a good student, better than your classmates, and live up to your teachers' expectations.

These are things you may have learned from your teachers and parents. You are you, and there are no rules. You can do well or poorly on exams, love or not learn, or live up to expectations or be honest about your fears.

You can live your life your way.

This is a big topic, so your first step is to deal with the pressure. An emotion that lasts more than three or five days should be expressed. This is the quickest and easiest way to solve problems. It takes courage, so take your time. You can feel lost, helpless, fearful, and withdrawn, but once you take action, everything will fall into place.

Then, deal with the deeper issues.

I hope this helps.

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Rebecca Rebecca A total of 343 people have been helped

Good morning, my name is Coach Yu from Xin Tan, and I would like to discuss this topic with you.

First, let us address the issue of comparison. In recent years, the term "competition" has become a common catchphrase. It appears that we have entered a society where competition and comparison are the norm. It seems that no one can find a moment of leisure in their busy lives, and it is unlikely that anyone cares about music, chess, calligraphy, painting, wine, or flowers. It appears that anxiety and worry have become a common state of mind in society.

In a dynamic social environment, it is inevitable that we will evaluate our personal attitudes, abilities, and social values by comparing ourselves to others. This allows us to make a correct evaluation of ourselves based on a benchmark. The more similar the person being compared is to ourselves, the stronger the sense of comparison we experience. This is because similar experiences make us feel that we are clearly on the same starting line, which raises the question of why they are better than us.

As the original poster stated, I was in the same class as my junior high school classmates, and I found myself comparing myself to them, feeling that I was not performing as well as I could have.

It is understandable that we tend to focus on the more glamorous aspects of others, and there may be some truth to this. However, as the "iceberg theory" suggests, the portion of the iceberg visible above the water is only one-tenth of the total. It is possible that your classmates have different starting points, that you are unaware of their talents, that you have not seen their hard work, or that you have not recognized their persistence.

It is important to recognise that everyone's life situation and circumstances are different. Frequently, comparison can lead to feelings of anxiety and pressure that are not necessarily beneficial. Adler's concept of separation highlights the importance of understanding that each individual is unique and that there is no need to follow in the footsteps of others.

It is possible to evaluate oneself, one's academic strengths, one's learning methods, and one's understanding of one's own energy and focus in an objective manner. This process can facilitate progress in one's studies. However, it is important to recognize that weaknesses may also exist, such as a lack of perseverance, a lack of drive, or an excessive number of concerns.

We can strive to accept ourselves and acknowledge that, despite our shortcomings, we are making progress.

It is important to eliminate the distracting effects of comparison and avoid being unduly influenced by upward comparisons. By focusing on your current situation and evaluating your performance in a fair and objective manner, you can identify areas for improvement and recognize your personal achievements.

Let's revisit the topic of emotions. Emotions are comprised of three key elements: subjective experiences, external manifestations, and physiological arousal. Each emotion may be the result of an unmet inner desire. For instance, we experience sadness when we miss the opportunity for a promotion or pay raise, or we feel anger when we lose a treasured possession that we have kept for many years.

As the questioner stated, the biological aspects of this situation have placed significant pressure on me. I am concerned about the potential for failure in the upcoming examination and the subsequent disappointment this may cause to my biology teacher.

We can inquire of ourselves what aspect of our being is apprehensive about failing the biology examination. What aspect of our being is apprehensive about failing to meet the expectations of our instructors?

Additionally, it would be beneficial to identify the emotions and thoughts associated with the imminent biology exam. If we were to express all of our feelings at this moment, what would they reveal?

Additionally, we can inquire as to the optimal self and the actions required to achieve it.

It is always possible to be aware of our emotions and to record what we are feeling at the moment. The content of your writing is solely for your own benefit, so please feel free to express your feelings honestly. This will help us to understand the causes and effects of emotions, as well as to identify our needs and to determine what we want. We will be able to distinguish between what we want and what we do not want.

It is important to understand what others want from you in order to know what you need to decline. Refusing such requests will help you to gain clarity on your own needs.

As Winnicott observed, healing occurs when an individual's authentic self begins to emerge. To facilitate this process, it is essential to gain a deeper understanding of oneself and confront one's true self.

Let's discuss the importance of self-love. The original poster demonstrates awareness of her emotions and possesses well-defined values. We can begin by caring for ourselves, taking care of our bodies, and nurturing our emotions.

It is also recommended that you seek assistance, as this matter is causing you distress. It is advisable to identify a family member or friend you trust and who has consistently provided positive support. If necessary, you can also engage the services of a counselor, as emotional distress can be alleviated through constructive communication.

It is important to allow yourself to experience envy on occasion and to acknowledge your own shortcomings. These are all aspects of life that can be learned from and can contribute to a fulfilling life. Always believe in yourself, work hard, and best of luck!

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Levi Anderson A learned individual is constantly adding to their store of knowledge.

I understand how you feel, comparing yourself to others can be really tough. Remember that your journey is unique and focus on your own progress. Try setting personal goals and celebrate when you achieve them.

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Joaquin Anderson The power of forgiveness is that it can heal not only us, but also those around us.

Comparing grades is natural but try not to let it define your selfworth. Everyone has their strengths and challenges. Maybe you could look into what you're good at and build on that. It's also okay to seek help if biology feels overwhelming.

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Antigone Davis The essence of diligence is to keep going when others stop.

It's hard when you see others getting commendations and you don't. But remember, success isn't just about recognition. Think about the effort you've put in and give yourself credit for that. And as for biology, maybe extra study sessions could help ease your worries.

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Sabine Miller Teachers are the pillars that uphold the edifice of education.

You're putting a lot of pressure on yourself with the biology exam. Perhaps talking to your teacher could alleviate some fears. They might offer insights or tips that could help. Also, try to find joy in learning rather than focusing solely on outcomes.

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Athenais Anderson The humility of a teacher is a mirror in which students see the importance of learning from others.

Feeling bad about grades is tough, but consider this: each subject is a new opportunity to grow. You can use these feelings as motivation to work on areas where you want to improve. For biology, perhaps forming a study group could help you gain confidence.

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