His behavior is really annoying, but then I think, what if he were the only friend I had?

Hello, classmate. I see you're feeling confused, and I'm here to give you a big hug!

It's okay, you're going through some interpersonal issues. Let me give you a warm hug again.

You're his only friend, and I know that can be tough.

It's totally understandable to feel this way. It seems like you're afraid to tell him that his behavior makes you angry, and you're worried that you might not be able to be friends anymore.

But you said, "Is it certain that you can't even be friends with him anymore?"

I don't think so, sweetie.

I'm wondering if you've had a similar experience growing up. Maybe you told someone you didn't like his behavior and then they ended the friendship?

If so, it's possible that you've had a tough time in past relationships, which has caused you a lot of pain.

If this is the case, it would be a great idea to seek help from a professional counselor.

A counselor can help you find your way back to a set of values that works for you.

Maybe after you've worked through it, when you're with your friend and you feel uncomfortable, you can have a heart-to-heart with him.

After all, friends should treat each other with sincerity. That way, there's always room for mutual improvement!

I think it's so important to speak up if you have something to say about a friend that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Your friend is not a mind reader, sweetie. If you don't say anything, he may not know that his behavior makes you uncomfortable.

And who knows, if you speak up and tell him how you feel, you might just get something good out of it!

You might be thinking, "If I tell him, he'll be upset and our friendship will end."

But there could be a positive side to it!

So, for now, try not to think so pessimistically, my friend.

Oh, everything has two sides!

I really hope you find a great solution to the problem you're facing soon!

I've got to tell you, I can only think of these things now.

I really hope my answers are helpful and inspiring to you, my fellow student. I'm the answer, and I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love you, the world and I! Wishing you all the best!

Hello. I'm going to give you a 360-degree hug.

Your question reveals your anger about your friend's behavior. You believe he is not what you imagined, that he doesn't care enough about you, that he is not tolerant enough, and that he is not someone you can confide in.

You said you feel inferior and that he's the only friend you have. It seems like you think people around you are bad. Despite his behavior, you've decided to continue being friends with him.

I want to know what your question is really about. You've decided to keep this person in your life as a friend.

What is your goal? Be clear about what you want. Do you want the other person to meet your expectations, or are you willing to consider them a friend even if they don't live up to your expectations and deal with the inner conflict accordingly?

You need to be clear about what you want to achieve by asking this question.

From your question, it's clear that the friend you made in the first year of high school was far superior. This friend started to confide in you in the second semester of the second year of high school, and you stated that he was the only friend you had.

You had a friend who was better than your current friend, but for some reason you stopped seeing each other. That's why you cherish your current friend.

I want to know why the friend from freshman year is no longer your friend. Did they part ways because they changed schools or something else?

Or was there another reason?

From your description, it's clear you chose your friend very carefully. You first helped him and thanked him, then decided to be friends. At the time, you didn't consider him a friend. You continued to observe and found out he wasn't what you thought.

You expect the other person to provide you with a lot of value. For example, you expect them to comfort you immediately when you fail an exam, not to talk about shoes when you don't understand them, to pay attention to your feelings, and not to abandon you. You also expect them to share food with you.

His behavior makes it clear that sharing your heart with him is not worth it. You know no one is perfect, so you decide to tolerate him as just a friend.

In other words, I have no choice but to accept it, given that this is the only friend I have. It sounds reluctant, as if I have no option but to choose.

But relationships are reciprocal. You get back what you give.

Treat others the way you want to be treated. It's that simple.

You need to pay attention to the other person's needs. Offer them something to share, topics they like, prepare yourself so you have common topics to talk about, and offer immediate comfort when they fail an exam.

We have paid attention, but there's no guarantee the other party will reciprocate with equal care. Everyone interprets things differently.

From what I can tell, there's a wounded part of you behind this question, but it's not clear from the description. Without that clarity, I can't give constructive suggestions.

I advise you to speak with a counselor, who can provide more tailored guidance based on your specific circumstances.

I am a psychological counselor who is often depressed and sometimes optimistic. The world and I love you—and I'm going to prove it.

Hello! I'm Strawberry!

It's so inspiring to see how the friendship between the questioner and his friend began! The questioner had a little fall and his friend was there to help him up and take care of him until he was better. He even delivered meals every day! It's amazing to think that someone would go out of their way to help someone they don't even know. Did he do this of his own accord? Or was he told to take care of the questioner, and then he could get some payment or reward?

If a friend genuinely takes care of the questioner without expecting anything in return, then that friend is still very righteous. During their time together, the questioner discovered that they had a lot of grievances against him and felt that he was not like they had imagined. Because of this discovery, they began to question the friendship. But this is an opportunity for growth and learning!

Let your imagination soar free!

As they got to know each other, they discovered that he was not the same as they had imagined. This led to an exciting realisation: what kind of person should he be? And has the friend ever said that he is just the way he is?

When we expect the other person to act according to our expectations, we are imposing a requirement on the other person. If the other person fails to meet our expectations, we will feel resentful. But here's the thing: everyone is an independent individual, and we have no right to try to change our friends, no matter what they do. The good news is that we can express our inner thoughts!

So, in a relationship, when we have thoughts about what he should be doing, we are trying to put ourselves in the other person's shoes. This is a great opportunity to reflect on ourselves and accept the other person for who they really are, not who we imagine them to be!

Absolutely! Let's make sure we're on the same page.

Because of the incredible care my friend has shown me, I have opened my heart and am so excited to be friends with him! After getting to know each other, I discovered that our worldviews differ, and sometimes the topics we discuss are not of interest to me, but that just makes our friendship even more interesting!

The questioner believes the other person is more materialistic and may sometimes neglect the questioner's feelings. However, when compared to other friends, the other person is still great! The friend is very kind to the questioner, and the questioner is grateful and excited to be friends with the other person. The questioner hopes that the relationship between the two can be as strong as the other friendships!

Everyone has a different personality, different ways of doing things, and different groups of people they come into contact with, so their behavior naturally differs. This makes the world an exciting place! The questioner said that his friend ignored him, but could it be that this is just his personality? In interactions, he has a lower emotional quotient, which means that he speaks more bluntly, but without malice. It is the questioner who gets along with his friend, and the questioner knows the other person better, so think about it: is there a misunderstanding caused by a misinterpretation of something?

Let's find out why rejection happens!

In the description, the questioner feels that the other person is not worthy of being a sincere friend because he does not meet the questioner's standards for a friend. In reality, the questioner says that he has very few friends. When friends are kind to him, the questioner is actually very touched and grateful!

However, the questioner is looking for all kinds of reasons and all kinds of faults in the other person, trying to keep himself away from his friends. It is the questioner's inner inferiority complex, the fear that when he gives his emotions, his friends do not see him as important, and it is also a lack of security that makes the questioner have all kinds of concerns. But there's no need to worry! These concerns are just a sign that the questioner is ready to make some positive changes.

There are so many kinds of friends! Maybe the questioner would like to treat the other person as a close friend. In psychology, there is a concept called the golden rule, which means: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

Sincerity is a wonderful thing. It doesn't mean that you can gain something by just giving it away. Usually, through observation, you can find people who share your values and treat them with sincerity first. You can gain the kind of relationship you want! Because you are used to being passive, it will be more difficult to take the initiative to start. Try to encourage yourself more and take the first step bravely. If you get used to being proactive, you will find that it is not difficult!

I really hope my answer helps the questioner! Best wishes!