How can I be more expressive and maintain authenticity while being quite reserved and not knowing how to express myself?

Hello, friend. I can see from your text that you are at work and that you are worried about going through each day in a daze. I understand your suffering and your pain because I have also experienced these emotions of fear and anxiety caused by feeling bad about myself.

You want to change yourself. You want to become self-accepting, be true to yourself, and have more energy to work and live. You were isolated and bullied, which shaped your quiet and reserved personality. But is that necessarily a bad personality?

First, find a place where you can be undisturbed and think about it. I have many shortcomings, but I also have strengths and hobbies. I excel at certain things.

Keep a success diary every day. Record one thing you did well, no matter how small.

Next, I want you to think about yourself five years from now. Where will you be? What will your office look like?

Tell me what kind of work you're doing and how you're feeling.

Then, you must think about yourself a year from now and three months from now, and what you will be doing respectively.

This is a way to motivate yourself in mindfulness.

You want to change. You're already on the path to growth.

Good day, my name is Yiran, and I am a social worker at Whale.

You consider yourself to be reserved and introverted, and you lack the confidence to express your opinions in social situations. This has resulted in the loss of two jobs, and you experience significant psychological pressure from the comments of others.

The reason for this is that the experience of being bullied in high school has not faded away. This has led to a persistent doubt in your abilities and a tendency to attribute the cause of all problems to yourself.

It is accurate to conclude that past hurts can impede future growth. It is understandable that you hold negative feelings towards those classmates and have reservations about your own actions at the time, which may result in prolonged reflection.

However, that person is only relevant in the context of the past. He provided assistance during a challenging period, and it is unfair to hold him responsible for your current dissatisfaction. Forgiveness of your former self and classmates will enable you to overcome this mental block and embrace change.

From that point forward, you become accustomed to self-negation and develop an unreasonable belief in overgeneralization, subconsciously ignoring the negative aspects when something appears to be going poorly.

It is also worth noting that this unfavorable outcome often occurs in accordance with Murphy's Law.

When faced with a negative situation, it is important to resist the urge to internalize negative beliefs and replace them with more constructive ones. For instance, if someone offers criticism, it is possible that they value you and are simply pointing out an area for improvement.

When you can view other people's opinions of you with objectivity, you can maintain ease in your relationships.

Embarking on a journey of personal transformation requires resilience and dedication. With the right mindset and self-belief, anyone can become the person they aspire to be.

Best regards, (Yixinli Whale Social Worker?)

Let me be clear: you are not just quiet and introverted.

You lack confidence. You're great, kid!

Let's be honest with yourself. You expect yourself to be outgoing, outstanding, and courageous. But in reality, when you encounter problems, you feel that you are introverted, inferior, and cowardly.

Your suffering is caused by two things: counterproductive actions and your inability to change.

The sorrow and suffering in the world is caused by dissatisfaction. There are a lot of people in the world who feel the same way you do, but they don't say it out loud. They feel bad when they are criticized, and they feel bad when negative emotions come up. It's because people's mindsets are the same.

Start accepting your true self.

You want to be true to yourself, but you don't accept the real you. You are most comfortable being the person you are now, but you don't think you are good enough because society and reality force you to be that way. You accept the culture and education you have been given, but this has caused conflict in your mind and heart.

A is to break through your original culture and education, break through your perceptions, and accept and discover the fact that people who are not eloquent are also excellent and can contribute greatly to society. B is to change yourself and take courses to make yourself outgoing and sociable, which means sacrificing your comfort and convenience.

You're stuck in the middle, like at a fork in the road, and torn. I'm going to ask you again: if you come to a fork in the road with two paths ahead of you, how many options do you have in total?

There are three ways to do this. You can take two of them or you can rest in place.

You have many options, and you can even choose not to. What you need to do now is make yourself happy and get yourself out of the negative and depressed mood. You don't need to change yourself.

Once you feel better, you'll see that the problem doesn't need to be solved immediately. In fact, it might not even be a problem anymore. You'll also know how to solve it.

You know it, and I know it. You think it's over, you think you're bad, you think you're going to be fired. This is called a mental collapse.

You know that you lose your composure when certain things happen. You think you are not good enough, and your high expectations are to blame.

Let me be clear: losing a job is not the only reason, but it is almost certainly the direct cause. The ability to produce sufficient value is the core of being able to hold down a job. A job will not be lost because of a person's personality, but rather because of certain actions.

If you say you're an introvert, it's probably just a bad reputation or bad people. But the boss looks at interests, so the root cause may not be personality-related. At best, it may affect work.

In summary, you can do the following: first, make yourself happy and restore a calm state of mind. Do this by expressing your emotions, listening to songs with positive energy, singing, and writing. Get your thoughts back on track.

Read books that boost self-confidence. Take some public speaking courses to open yourself up and show yourself what you're capable of.

Finally, read some books on learning to accept yourself. And remember: don't say "I can't," "it's too difficult," or "I won't."

When you hear that voice in your head blaming you, you know you're in a bad mood and headed for a negative state. All those negative thoughts are clouding your judgment. Don't think about it. Instead, challenge that negative voice and change your mindset to positive and loving.

Take a break if you need to. Distract yourself. Get out of it. Reflect on it afterwards. Give it a try. It's like someone giving you a slap in the face. You feel the pain at the time, but it's not a big deal when you look back after you've calmed down.

Dear questioner, I hope my reply can be of some help and support to you.

Being rejected at work can be a daunting experience, evoking feelings of fear and anxiety. It can also prompt a search for insights into past experiences, particularly those from childhood, that may have contributed to this situation. Seeking guidance and support on this platform can be a way to gain clarity and find solutions.

It could be said that being isolated by classmates was the beginning of your awakening.

It could be said that everyone's relationship with their parents is closely linked to their upbringing. It is possible that, due to the limitations of parents' understanding, too much rejection may lead to deviations in our understanding, which could in turn affect how we get along with others.

It could be said that the continuation of all relationships is closely linked to the mother-child relationship.

I imagine that being isolated by your classmates at school must have caused you a great deal of pain. It is possible that the most hurtful aspect of this experience was the attitude of your parents towards you, their apparent inability to see your suffering, your pleas for help, and even their accusations against you.

Perhaps what hurts you most is the attitude of your parents towards you, their inability to see your suffering, your pleas for help, and even their accusations against you. It could be seen as disappointment in your parents for not shouldering their responsibilities as guardians. It might be helpful to remember that no matter how big the storm outside is, if your parents can stand by your side and see your pain,

Nothing is an insurmountable problem.

It can be difficult to find understanding for the pain that we feel inside.

A child who has not been treated properly may feel isolated and helpless. Parents may also feel powerless in such circumstances. In an era of material stress and unmet spiritual needs, they may find it challenging to fully satisfy the needs of their children.

It's not that you can't communicate, but rather that the suffering inside cannot be told, and loneliness is not seen by anyone.

Perhaps you could consider becoming more of an active participant in your own life. If someone sees the beauty in you, then you will live your life to the fullest.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider why a word or a glance from someone else can have such a powerful effect on us. It might be beneficial to reflect on how we see ourselves.

It is possible that others may perceive you in the same way. It is also possible that they may have formed false perceptions or negative opinions of you.

It can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-hatred.

I believe that everyone comes into this world with the ability to survive.

It might be helpful to try to see the truth behind others' negativity towards you.

We should try to live for ourselves, and we shouldn't let others' negativity get to us. Everyone assumes various roles in life and takes responsibility in various relationships.

Could it be that when someone speaks negatively about you, they are also limiting their own thinking? Is it worth paying for someone else's wrongdoings?

If you notice patterns in how others treat you and feel the need to prove yourself, it might be helpful to consider that everyone is entitled to their own experiences and perceptions.

It might be helpful to consider filling yourself with love and self-acceptance, as this can positively impact how others perceive you.

Consider being courageous and facing yourself, and you may discover what you have and what you have gained. Your life has infinite possibilities, and you may find the self you once lost.

Allow love to fill your heart, interact with others, and be open to sharing. Many of us are driven by a desire to move forward, to constantly surpass ourselves through trial and error.

If you can put yourself in the other person's shoes and view the problem from a higher perspective, and if you love yourself, you will find that the world will love you back.

Hello.

I'm going to give you some advice.

From your written description, it is clear that you have become quiet and withdrawn, and you lack self-confidence and an inferiority complex. You are also very concerned about what others think of you. Once others have demands or opinions on you, you immediately become alert, as if you feel you have done something wrong.

I know it seems like it's my fault, but it's not. This has become a subconscious conditioned response that makes you more and more introverted. So every day you feel confused, with no motivation inside and little strength in your body.

But the truth is, you craved the approval of others. It's likely that before being bullied and isolated, you were an optimistic and cheerful person. But these experiences brought you down.

You were young at the time, and you didn't know how to deal with other people's emotional characteristics like yours. As you grew up, you became taciturn.

From my perspective, you are a responsible person who is also very delicate and sensitive. I want to know why you were isolated by the whole class in the past.

You didn't know how to express yourself. You offended the so-called more powerful people in the class and didn't know how to handle the relationship with them, which led to this situation.

You were still young at the time, and others should have had strong emotions towards you, making you feel scared. You hid yourself, even though you could have resisted. You may think it's a habit for them to bully you, but it's not.

You were not understood when you insisted on being right, which made you feel confused about the concepts and definitions of life and interpersonal relationships.

If someone says something bad about you, don't let it get to you.

If you lack confidence, you may have been isolated by the whole class and bullied for everything you did. You may have felt that everything you did was wrong and afraid of what others would say. In today's workplace, if someone says something bad about you, they may do it in front of many colleagues.

At that time, you will feel embarrassed and ashamed, and your first reaction will be to think you've done something wrong again.

However, we must not forget that there is a way for everyone to do things. It is not true that just because someone says we are wrong, we are wrong. Perhaps there is something appropriate about what we did, but it is not necessarily really our fault.

The other person was probably thinking in a different direction, which is why they think we are bad. But in the eyes of others, what we did was very good. So, when faced with others' doubts about us, we have now grown up and have successfully entered the workforce.

We can look at things rationally and objectively.

***When others say we are bad, we don't respond with our complex emotions. We respond as a rational and objective narrator.

For example, if someone thinks we are bad, we can ask them what is wrong.

When others explain the reasons, we can also explain our reasons for doing this.

Don't get personal. Just express your thoughts. You've been bullied before, but that's in the past. You're in the workforce now, surrounded by new people, so you can gradually let go of the pressure inside.

And each of us has our own thoughts. Right? 100 people have 100 Hamlets. It is our different thoughts that make each of us a unique and special individual.

Their opinions can be used as a reference, but they cannot be used to make decisions for us.

We must take control of our own actions. If we have done our best and done a good job, and others have some opinions, we should tell them our thoughts, they should explain their ideas, and we should come up with a better solution based on the actual situation.

You must be firm in your beliefs and certain that your heart is in the right place. With an open mind and a willingness to learn, you can face your colleagues. We interact with each other on the principle of mutual equality and respect.

The past is in the past. Let it go with the wind. You must feel yourself in the present moment. I am certain that with your conscientiousness and sensitivity, you will find the job that is right for you and make a big splash in the workplace.

I wish you the best of luck.

Good day, landlord. I hope my response can be of some assistance to you.

It is possible that a lack of self-confidence may also be a contributing factor. When a person does not have inner strength and is relatively inferior, they may care a great deal about what others think and may suppress their emotions and needs in order to satisfy the needs of others. However, emotions that have been suppressed for a long time may erupt at some point, and some people may lash out, while I feel that you may sometimes lash out inwardly.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider making some adjustments in the following ways:

1. It might be helpful to recognize the effect of the "spotlight effect" on yourself.

The "spotlight effect" is a technical term in psychology that refers to the tendency to unintentionally magnify one's problems. To illustrate this, imagine you confidently go to a party, dressed neatly and looking refreshed. However, the breeze has slightly messed up your hair.

As you reach to open the door, you notice a mirror in the frame. Your reflection prompts a sense of unease. You perceive your appearance as disheveled, and your hair appears disorganized. In that moment, you feel as though you are the center of attention, and you hear whispers about your "unlucky appearance."

You may be feeling a little nervous, even though this is not necessarily the case. This is what psychology refers to as the spotlight effect.

It might be said that the spotlight shines brighter in our consciousness than in reality. In the context of people, it could be perceived that we tend to overestimate the significance of our behavior, appearance, and emotions in the eyes of others.

It is precisely because of the "spotlight effect" that you may feel nervous when talking to other people. You may think that other people pay special attention to your every move, and when you talk to other people, you may feel as though you are under a spotlight, which can make you feel nervous.

However, in reality, we are not as important as we think, and other people do not pay as much attention to us as we believe. It might be helpful to relax and be yourself.

It is important to remember that the more you can be true to yourself, the more relaxed and comfortable you will be. People who like you will like, accept, and support you no matter what you are like. However, people who don't like you may still reject and not support you no matter how you behave. It is not always possible to win everyone's approval, but we can try to be the person we like. As we become closer to our true selves, we will likely become more comfortable with who we are.

2. It would be beneficial to treat other people's comments with respect and engage in selective socializing.

How might we best respond to the comments of others?

We all have our own unique perspectives and ways of evaluating things.

When others meet our evaluation standards, we tend to feel positive towards them; when they do not meet our evaluation standards, we may feel less positive towards them.

It is often the case that when we meet the other person's evaluation criteria, they will approve of us. Conversely, when we don't meet the other person's evaluation criteria, they may disapprove of us.

It is therefore worth noting that the recognition of the other person has little bearing on the quality of your relationship. Rather, it is the alignment with their evaluation criteria that matters. However, it is not always possible to control the thoughts and actions of others. It is also not always possible to meet everyone's evaluation criteria.

Life is not easy for anyone. We all have different wants and different positions. Perhaps there is no need to practice oneself according to other people's standards, nor to force others according to one's own standards. And there may be no need to crave others' understanding and approval in everything.

For this reason, we should not feel the need to sacrifice ourselves in order to gain the approval of others, nor should we feel the need to sacrifice relationships in order to do so. It is important to remember that being liked or disliked is not a matter of great consequence, as there will always be people who like you and people who dislike you. What is of greater importance is being able to accept yourself, with all your flaws and imperfections, and to live your life according to your own values and beliefs.

It's important to remember that we don't live to satisfy other people's expectations. If we keep seeking other people's approval and caring about what they think, we might end up living other people's lives. If we hope too much to be recognized by others, we might live our lives according to other people's expectations and lose sight of who we really are. This could lead to some challenges, because it might not be the life you truly want.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider taking the initiative to evaluate yourself in a way that aligns with your own values and perspectives. You have the option to treat yourself as an impartial observer and assess your own qualities with a comprehensive, objective, and honest approach. This could help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your needs. Additionally, it might allow you to discern your genuine desires more clearly. At this stage, it's possible that the opinions of others may not hold as much influence.

When you are less concerned about what others think and are true to yourself, you may find that your relationships improve. Those relationships that you have replaced by trying to please others and suppressing your own needs may no longer cause you distress.

It might be helpful to engage in selective socializing.

It's important to remember that everyone has a need for social interaction. Social interaction can give us a sense of belonging and a certain sense of security, but it's also wise to be selective about who we socialize with. It's not beneficial to socialize with people who constantly negate and undermine you, as this can cause distress. Instead, it's more helpful to socialize with people who always give you encouragement and support, so that you can experience care and support in your social interactions.

If you feel stressed about socializing, you might consider adjusting the frequency of your social interactions until it suits you better. It's important to remember not to force yourself, and to learn to take care of your own feelings.

3. How might we best be true to ourselves and take care of our own needs?

Have you ever considered that the reason you sometimes feel like your mind is falling apart is because you are always considering the feelings of others, always thinking about how to meet the needs of others, while perhaps not giving yourself enough space to consider your own needs?

When we are unable to express our needs and present our true selves, it can naturally lead to feelings of being blocked. It may therefore be helpful to consider learning to express our feelings and needs and to be true to ourselves.

I understand that this is a challenging process for you, but I believe that with determination and patience, you will gradually become more harmonious and relaxed.

When you allow yourself to express your true self, you may find that your own energy will become stronger and stronger.

It is important to release your emotions in a timely manner.

It is important to remember that if we do not promptly release our emotions, they may build up and cause our hearts to become unstable. There are several ways in which we can release and relieve our emotions:

1. It is beneficial to surround yourself with the company of those who can offer you support and encouragement, and with whom you feel comfortable.

It is not necessary to have a great number of friends like this; just one or two will suffice. We can find the right person to confide in, spend time with people who make us feel comfortable, chat, eat, gather, talk about the worries in our hearts, feel their support and love, and find a sense of belonging in socializing.

2. Consider engaging in some form of physical activity. Whether it's a sport you enjoy or simply a walk in nature, exercise has the potential to help you relax your body and mind while also improving your physical fitness. By experiencing the strength of your body and the joy in your heart through exercise, you can help yourself restore a positive physical and mental state.

3. You might find it helpful to try the method of writing therapy, which involves writing down all your inner feelings and thoughts on paper. There's no need to worry about whether your handwriting is clear and neat, or about the logic of the content. Just express your feelings as much as you like.

4. Punch pillows and sandbags to release your anger by hitting soft objects.

5. Consider using the empty chair technique to release emotions: If you're unable to find the right person to talk to, you might consider using the empty chair technique. Imagine the person you'd like to talk to (someone who can provide support, encouragement, and comfort) is sitting in the chair, and then talk to them as much as you'd like. You can also learn from their attitude to give yourself support, comfort, and encouragement. You can also imagine the person you'd like to avoid is sitting in the chair, and then express yourself as much as you'd like (anger, avoidance, etc.).

6. Consider taking a walk in nature and allowing yourself to feel your connection with it. Allow yourself to feel that you are just a part of nature. How ordinary, yet how extraordinary, how small you are, yet how unique. When we are in nature, we may find ourselves feeling relaxed and experiencing things in a different way.

7. Consider creating a mandala. Many people find that mandala drawing can help calm their mood. You might, for instance, enjoy drawing one from The Secret Garden.

8. Consider incorporating meditation into your routine. Many find that meditation can help calm their mood. By connecting with our deeper selves, we may come to know ourselves better. With long-term practice, we may find that we reap the rewards of inner peace and joy.

5. It would be beneficial to work on building self-confidence and a sense of security.

It is often said that confidence comes from strength and hard work. When we become someone we recognize through our own efforts, we may find that our confidence grows and our hearts become more steadfast.

You may wish to consider setting yourself appropriate goals and then working towards achieving them one by one. By achieving your goals over and over again, your abilities may gradually improve, your knowledge may accumulate, and your experience may become richer and richer. You may feel more and more secure, have a greater sense of control over your life, and naturally become more and more confident.

It is often said that the most appropriate goals are those of medium difficulty. These are the goals that can be reached by standing on your tiptoes. If the goal is too small, it may not provide sufficient challenge and may lead to boredom. If the goal is too big, it may feel overwhelming and may lack the motivation to achieve it. Goals of medium difficulty are often the most motivating. When we work hard to achieve these goals, we may feel a sense of achievement and self-confidence.

For instance, if your current walking level is 4,000 steps per day, you might consider setting your daily goal at 4,500-5,000 steps, rather than less than 4,000 or as high as 10,000.

It is important to persist in action when setting goals that are suitable for you according to your abilities. This will help you overcome difficulties and truly experience your own value.

At the same time, it would be helpful to encourage yourself and give yourself positive mental suggestions. Believing that you can succeed is a good way to start. You can do it!

I can tell from the way you hugged me that you are dissatisfied with your current state and somewhat self-blame.

You were isolated by the whole class, which led to a negative perception and evaluation of interpersonal relationships. You are afraid of being hurt, so you avoid getting involved in deep relationships. Now in your work relationships, when you encounter negative comments from others, you self-negate, which in turn leads to your withdrawal and timidity in your actions.

This inferiority complex and fear affect your daily life, preventing you from devoting yourself to your work properly.

I want to give the original poster a thumbs up first because they have clearly thought about and interpreted their own questions and have a clear understanding of the state they want to be in. They want to accept themselves and become more energetic. So let's take a look at how to achieve these two goals separately.

First, accept yourself. If you want to accept yourself, you have to be dissatisfied with who you are right now.

The questioner should first identify what aspects of their current self they are dissatisfied with. They should then find a quiet time to write down all the points they are dissatisfied with, and think about why they are dissatisfied with each aspect of themselves.

If you achieve a certain level, you will be satisfied. Why would you be satisfied with that?

After constantly thinking about what you like and dislike about yourself, it is time to take another look at the series of reactions that take place inside you when others are dissatisfied with you. You said that when you are rejected, you feel bad about yourself and that you may even be fired, which prevents you from being able to deal with your work in a good state.

You will discover why other people's opinions matter so much to you. Observe how your mood shifts when someone comments on you.

You need to ask yourself why other people's opinions make you feel bad about yourself. Do you really feel bad about yourself?

If you were fired, what would you do? Asking questions like these will help you gain a deeper understanding of your own behavior.

Next, we'll look at how to become more energetic. Clearly, the questioner feels they lack energy. To become more energetic, they must first identify the state of being they want to achieve.

I want to know what the characteristics of this state are. I also want to know who around me matches these characteristics.

What feelings do you get when you sense their vitality? What qualities are you looking for?

This process will help the questioner have a clear outline of the energetic state they desire.

Once you have a clear idea of the energetic state you want, you can start actively entering the relationship and practising the elements that make up that state. I am certain that this process will help you gain better and better control over your state.

You've got this!

Dear Question Asker, I hope my answer proves helpful to you.

From your statements, it is evident that you are aware of the issue, namely a lack of confidence. It is commendable that you have identified this as a challenge and are seeking a solution. To that end, it is essential to first determine the underlying cause and then devise an effective plan of action.

The primary reason for your reserved demeanor is likely due to past experiences of being bullied and isolated, which have left you with psychological scars. The root cause of your bullying is likely your reserved nature and inability to express yourself effectively. Once you have identified this, the key question is: how do we learn to express ourselves boldly?

First, you should learn to accept your true self. Everyone has different personality traits, and being quiet is not a disadvantage; it is simply a characteristic of yours. Quiet individuals are better at thinking quietly, and many people prefer quiet people. They often perceive such individuals as more down-to-earth, reliable, and reassuring.

It is important to move beyond your current limitations, embrace your authentic self, and refrain from attempting to alter your fundamental nature. When expressing yourself, do so with sincerity and conviction.

Secondly, it is important not to be overly influenced by the opinions of others. Instead, it is essential to make decisions based on your own judgement and take responsibility for your actions. Everyone has their own ideas and perspectives, and while it is valuable to consider the input of others, excessive reliance on external opinions can hinder your ability to make sound decisions and may not align with the best interests of the organization.

If you find interpersonal relationships challenging, focus on your own performance and avoid worrying about what others think. Concentrate on doing each task well, and your achievements will speak for themselves.

Good day!

From your description, I can sense that you may be experiencing a range of challenging emotions, including feelings of insecurity, worry, anxiety, and a strong desire for change.

You say that you are a relatively taciturn person who could perhaps improve his ability to express himself. When someone rejects you, it has a negative effect on your mentality, which in turn makes you feel bad and afraid of being fired. As a result, you have become more withdrawn and submissive at work, and you have lost two jobs. Now you feel a bit lost every day, but you want to change, so you want to know how to accept the mistakes you have made and how to become more energetic.

If I might offer you three pieces of advice for your consideration:

I would like to suggest that you try to understand yourself and comfort yourself a little.

I believe that doing so will help you feel slightly better, which will then allow you to think about what you should do next.

In your description, you said that you became a relatively quiet person because you had been bullied by the whole class before, so you don't know how to express yourself very well. You easily become self-doubting in response to a negative comment from others, and you are afraid of losing your job, so you become submissive at work. As a result, you have lost two jobs. These situations are understandable, because the vast majority of people who have been isolated and bullied are likely to become introverted, timid, and lack self-confidence. Therefore, you should consider ways to negate this negation, and instead understand and comfort yourself. You might find it helpful to "see" the once-injured, timid you who now wants to change. This could give you the mental energy to think about other things, otherwise your mind will always be filled with negative emotions.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to try to rationalize your state of mind.

When you understand yourself and comfort yourself, you may find you have the mental energy to think about other things. At this time, it could be helpful to view your own situation rationally.

If I might make a suggestion, I believe that to do this rationally, you need to do the following three things:

Perhaps it would be helpful to remember that nobody is perfect, and that everyone makes mistakes from time to time.

You inquired about how to accept the mistakes you have made. It would be helpful to recognize that everyone makes mistakes, as nobody is without fault. Once you have considered this, you may be able to accept that you have made mistakes.

It is also important to understand that making mistakes does not mean that you are bad. You are a unique person who is inherently good and worthy of love. It is not necessary to be so hard on yourself.

Secondly, it may be helpful to consider viewing yourself with a developmental perspective.

It can be challenging to accept our own mistakes when we understand that everyone makes them. At times like this, it can be helpful to view ourselves with a developmental perspective.

In other words, even if you make a mistake, even a serious one, you still have the opportunity to make amends because you still have time and energy to grow and improve. It's important to recognize that time is a valuable resource and not let a momentary mistake negate your whole life.

As you mentioned in your description, when faced with criticism at work, it can be challenging to maintain a positive mindset. The next time you encounter such a situation, it might help to remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes and that you have the opportunity to learn and grow from them. With this approach, you may find it easier to stay calm and confident.

If you think this way, you may find yourself feeling a little more relaxed and motivated to make changes.

Thirdly, it may be helpful to recognise that your current self is different from your former self.

You mentioned that you became quiet and withdrawn because you were isolated and bullied. It's important to recognize that you are not that person anymore. You have grown up and are more than capable of dealing with the things that scare you. This will gradually strengthen your heart and help you to be your true self.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to try getting along with others using your true self. You might also consider expressing your true thoughts on trivial matters and seeing what happens.

When you view yourself rationally, you may find it easier to accept yourself and your mistakes. This can also give you the motivation to change. At this point, you can use your true self to get along with others and try to be yourself in small things to see what happens.

For instance, you might consider asking yourself what the most important and most worthwhile thing to do right now is. Once you have found it, you could act according to your true feelings. This might help to make you feel more energetic. If you find a job again, you could try expressing your opinions on trivial matters at work and see what happens. Once you dare to express your true feelings, you might find that you care less about criticism from others because your heart is strong. When your heart is strong, you are likely to accept your future mistakes (you will make mistakes in the future, and more often than not, people grow through the process of making mistakes). And so on.

If you allow yourself to be yourself in small things, you may gradually transfer that experience to other relatively big things, which could strengthen your sense of self-efficacy. This could then lead to greater confidence. When you become more confident, you may find it easier to continue being true to yourself, thus forming a virtuous cycle.

Of course, there is no need to rush. It is simply a matter of being patient with yourself and understanding the power of time. It is important to remember that personal growth is a process and does not happen overnight.

I hope my answer is helpful to you.

The underlying concept is, in fact, quite straightforward.

I would like to recommend the film The King's Speech to anyone who has not already seen it.

I have not viewed the production, but I will do so if the opportunity arises. My knowledge of the play is limited to the reviews I have read.

In essence, an individual who is deficient in verbal communication skills is also likely to be deficient in such skills. Ultimately, through purposeful and systematic anxiety/did-i-overthink-it-having-a-strange-colleague-in-the-training-institution-2450.html" target="_blank">training, he was able to deliver a highly impressive speech.

Therefore, all knowledge is acquired through practice.

Good eloquence is not an innate quality; rather, it is a skill that can be cultivated through dedicated practice.

A positive attitude is contingent upon a sense of gratitude.

Express gratitude to one's parents. Show appreciation to friends, classmates, leaders, and colleagues.

Express gratitude to one's parents, superiors, colleagues, and family members on a daily basis.

Such an approach will engender a positive sentiment towards the aforementioned individuals.

The boundaries of our safety zone will continue to expand.

In this manner, one will develop the courage to express oneself, speak up, and accept the consequences of one's actions.

It is important to remember that we have the right to make mistakes.

As humans, we are prone to making mistakes. However, this is not a cause for concern.

The same can be said of speaking.

It is not uncommon for individuals to utter statements that are erroneous in nature.

It is therefore pertinent to inquire as to the possibility of ensuring that every word is correct.

It is acceptable to make an erroneous statement.

It is inevitable that individuals will make mistakes and utter incorrect statements on occasion.

It is also acknowledged that individuals are prone to making mistakes and uttering incorrect statements.

It is therefore advisable to seek out opportunities to express oneself, particularly in public.

It is important to recognise that public speaking can initially be a highly anxiety-inducing experience.

With continued practice, the level of nervousness will diminish.

Once one has commenced speaking, the inclination to do so will persist.

It is imperative to speak up.

It is preferable to engage in verbal communication than to refrain from doing so.

One should not be intimidated by the prospect of making mistakes while speaking.

It is imperative to recognize that it is preferable to engage in verbal communication than to refrain from doing so.

It would be erroneous to assume that silence is always beneficial.

It would be beneficial for you to speak more and express yourself more.

This is the process by which relationships evolve into a state of harmony.

One may posit that the acquisition of friendship and a happy life are mutually reinforcing outcomes.

Provided one learns to express one's emotions and feelings.