How can I forget something so profound that I want to commit suicide? What should I do?

Greetings! I extend to you a warm embrace from a distance.

I am gratified to observe that you have sought assistance, and it is my hope that the information I am providing will prove beneficial and helpful to you. Furthermore, I wish to acknowledge and commend you for your keen awareness of your own needs.

From your description, it is evident that you experience profound feelings of self-unacceptance, lack of confidence, and inferiority. It is likely that you are not consciously aware of this aspect of your inner self, which may result in the unintentional projection of your self-unacceptance onto those around you, leading you to believe that they may not accept your self either.

One might inquire as to the motivation behind the desire to forget what has transpired. What aspect of the self is attempting to find satisfaction through the erasure of these individuals and occurrences? Is there a more efficacious method for satisfying this aspect of the self?

With regard to past events, it is possible to attempt to accept them in a more constructive manner. This is a crucial point that should not be overlooked, given that our bodies and feelings have the capacity to retain memories. It is essential to permit and accept these occurrences without passing judgment, but rather by becoming aware of and acknowledging the underlying needs that drove our actions in that specific moment. Concurrently, it is vital to maintain a firm belief that the choices and decisions we make in each moment must be the most optimal choices and decisions we can make for that moment.

It would be erroneous to evaluate the decisions and actions taken in the past with the benefit of hindsight.

When individuals are able to accept the positive and negative aspects of their experiences without judgment, they can then direct their attention toward self-growth and self-improvement.

One can cultivate self-acceptance by enumerating one's strengths. This process allows for the identification of shortcomings and deficiencies, while simultaneously recognizing one's strengths and advantages. Another method for fostering self-acceptance is through the practice of gratitude journaling. This approach can enhance self-confidence and foster a sense of self-worth.

It is recommended that individuals cultivate a greater number of interests and passions, thereby exerting greater control over their circumstances.

My name is Lily, and I am a member of the Q&A Center staff. I extend my love and best wishes to you all.

My dear child, I want you to know that I admire your courage. Despite the challenges you're facing, you're still offering guidance on how to become a responsible child and how to navigate friendships with your classmates.

At this time, it is not necessary to be sensible children, nor is it necessary to be friends with bullies. It is important to be brave and strong children.

During my retake of the college entrance exam, I was also bullied because I was different from others. I was spat on when walking on the street, and the head of the dormitory threw all my beddings into the corridor in front of everyone, so that I had to share a bed with the security guard in the dormitory for a week. During this period, the teacher was aware of the situation but did not intervene, as he believed that as long as I had a place to sleep, it was fine. It is understandable that parents may not realize the extent of the pressure you are under, as they may not fully comprehend the difficulties you are facing. It is also challenging for people who dislike us to like us.

How might we encourage children to become brave and strong?

It would be beneficial to learn to express your emotions.

It is unfortunate when we are bullied and unable to find help. In such situations, it is important to express our feelings.

It can be helpful to take the first step of learning to cry. If you have friends, you might consider asking them to cry with you. If you don't have friends, you might find it beneficial to find a place where no one can hear you and let it all out. I once cried for five hours until my scalp went numb and my lips cracked. If you really have no one to be alone with, you can still cry on the way home (no one on the street knows you anyway). It's important to remember that there is no shame in crying. It's not wrong, and it's okay. The worst thing you can do is suppress your emotions.

The second step is to learn to sort things out. After crying, it might be helpful to take a deep breath to calm yourself down, think carefully about the people who bullied you, and consider who might be able to help you.

It might be helpful to write down your experience of being bullied. If you find it difficult to do at first, you might like to take your time and write while crying. If you can't fully recall the experience and it still makes you feel bad, you could try writing it down again and again. It's important to remember that there is no shame in being bullied and that it's okay to feel shy when recalling it. Being brave and facing your dark experiences is an important first step to becoming a brave child.

It is not necessary to forget the hurt that has happened to us, as this is not a realistic goal. Instead, we should try to face it bravely and honestly, as if we were facing a challenge.

2. It would be beneficial to learn to think rationally.

I believe that with repeated statements, we will be able to regain our own wisdom and think rationally about things.

Who might be able to help us? Perhaps our parents could play a role here.

I wonder if I might also ask how we can support teachers and school leaders in this process?

Perhaps we should consider whether the police and social media are the best options in this case. It might be helpful to seek assistance from others, even if there is a chance of rejection.

It seems that for the majority of school bullies, the shelter of any adult is a strong deterrent. It may therefore be helpful to seek help from the adults around us as much as possible. When I was bullied, my parents felt that I deserved it (they still have some reservations about my status as an outsider today), my teachers only cared about my grades, and my classmates distanced themselves from me because I was an outsider.

However, I discovered that the dorm manager was understanding of my situation, so I made an effort to converse with him frequently. Subsequently, when I was asked to leave the dorm, he not only welcomed me back, but also went to great lengths to ensure I had meals every day (I was asked to leave the dorm when I injured my knee). Eventually, he even visited the dorm and expressed his concerns to the roommates, describing them as "inadequate". He also approached the teacher and inquired about the curriculum, suggesting that it might benefit from a more holistic approach to education.

It's possible that the people bullying you feel powerful when they're doing it, or perhaps they feel different from you and want to exclude you. It's also possible that they feel that if others bully you, they should do the same or they'll be seen as outsiders too. It seems that they've lost any basic empathy for you, and your suffering doesn't seem to matter to them.

Given these circumstances, it's challenging to avoid offending them. One way to improve the situation could be to focus on our physical fitness, exercise daily (perhaps with weights), and eat a balanced diet that includes meat.

When we are offended, it is important to learn to cheer ourselves up, be brave, hold our heads high, and pretend we don't see them. If they don't let up, it may be helpful to make eye contact with them. When we are laughed at, it is good to learn to ignore their voices and keep our heads held high and our eyes calm. If we are surrounded and beaten up, it is important to learn to protect ourselves as much as possible to ensure our vital parts don't get hurt. If we encounter a life-threatening threat, it may be helpful to escape as soon as possible, ask for help, or even feign helplessness to delay the situation. When we are being bullied, it is helpful to keep evidence (recordings, find out where the school has surveillance cameras, or set up video recordings in advance).

My child, I'll tell you how I returned to the dormitory that year. I approached the dormitory head and expressed my sincere apologies.

After a considerable amount of time had passed, the dormitory supervisor was unable to continue dealing with the situation. I sought guidance from my parents and grandfather on how to proceed. My grandfather suggested that the most straightforward solution would be to apologize. When I first heard the word "apologize," I was overwhelmed with emotion and began to cry. I felt that not only did my family not support me, but they also advised me to apologize.

I wonder if it is always necessary to apologize after being scolded, beaten, or thrown out of bed.

I reflected on the situation further. At the time, I felt it was most important to swiftly conclude this matter and focus on my studies. I had a strong writing ability, so I crafted an apology letter that was not overtly offensive. I managed my feelings of disgust and highlighted his positive qualities in the letter I sent him. I also suggested that, for us to move forward, it was essential to conclude our student lives peacefully, study hard, and put the past behind us, regardless of whether it was right or wrong. Otherwise, if I persisted, I would be the one starting the conflict, which I felt was wrong. I wished him well on his exams.

He wrote back in red pen, saying, "People like you will be marginalized in the future, rejected by society, and it makes me sad to see you." But then he admitted that he was jealous of me (their class had always had the habit of having a weekly speech class in Chinese, but it stopped in the third year of high school. After I transferred to the school and repeated the year, I learned about this abandoned custom, told the teacher that I wanted to give a speech, and submitted a speech manuscript. After reading the manuscript, the teacher not only restarted the habit as an exception, but also gave me two classes to finish speaking.) He also said that he would forgive my mistakes as an adult and allow me to come back, and hoped that I would behave myself.

I am grateful for this "apology" and his reply to it. It has helped me realize that I can be proactive in solving problems. It has also helped me understand why he holds negative feelings towards me. I believe that I am seen as an outsider by him, but there are people who recognize the value in the outsider, which causes him discomfort.

I replied to thank him for his concern about my future, but I felt it was unlikely that we would have any further contact after graduation. I told him that I would be pursuing my own path and that he would no longer have any contact with me.

I'm doing pretty well now. In the eyes of my friends and my boyfriend, this experience has added a touch of legend to my life.

My dear child, I hope you can face this challenge with courage and resilience. It will all end. Those who are bullied often possess unique qualities that make them special, and it's important to embrace and nurture these traits, whether they're physical characteristics or family background. With determination and resilience, you can navigate these challenges and emerge stronger and wiser.

Please do not hesitate to ask any questions you may have in the comment section. I will do my utmost to provide you with the assistance you require.

Dear child (I'm not sure of your age), When I saw your plea for help, I felt a range of emotions, including pain, worry, anger, frustration, helplessness, and hopelessness.

If I may ask, what are you doing at this moment? I hope you are okay.

I would like to extend my hands to you in a gesture of care and concern, with the hope of offering you a sense of understanding and support.

I'm not sure what you've been through, but from what you've shared, it seems like you've experienced some difficult things that have left you feeling sad and hurt. It's understandable that you might want to move on from a place that's causing you so much pain. Have you had the chance to talk to someone close to you about these experiences?

It's natural to turn to parents, teachers, classmates, or friends for understanding and help. However, not everyone has that same experience. If you don't, it's important to understand why.

Anyway, I hope you are safe. I want you to know that there are people who care about you. For example, although we have never met, I hope you are doing well and enjoying the happiness and well-being-5598.html" target="_blank">well-being you deserve. If you are being bullied or treated unreasonably, you can tell someone. Only by speaking up will others know what is happening to you and what kind of help you need. Who do you feel safer and more trustworthy around?

Who might you typically turn to for understanding and assistance?

I am gratified that you have the courage to seek help here today. It is a sign of strength and resilience to ask for help when you need it. You have already demonstrated an important quality for self-protection: bravery.

I encourage you to be brave enough to speak up for yourself, and then be brave enough to love and protect yourself! It's important to remember that you don't have to be the sensible child in other people's eyes, you don't necessarily have to be friends with some people, and you don't necessarily have to get their approval and like them. However, it's essential to learn how to protect yourself. Kindness has power!

It is important to remember that this is something that needs to be learned and practiced. However, above all else, it is crucial to ensure your own safety and well-being. If you ever feel the urge to engage in any behavior that could potentially harm yourself, it is essential to resist that urge.

It might be helpful to take a moment to calm down and consider your next steps.

You see that despite the pain you feel, you still desperately want to "become friends with them." Who are these people? Is there anyone who makes you feel that they also want to be friends with you just like you do, but they may not know how to do it, and they may even unintentionally hurt you sometimes? Maybe they also hope that you can forget and forgive.

We all long to be affirmed, appreciated, recognized, and liked by others, to feel confident and optimistic. We also long to have someone to be our friend, to feel that we are not alone and lonely, and to have someone willing to listen to us when we are happy or unhappy. It is important to remember that not being liked, or even being beaten up or bullied, does not necessarily mean that you are not good enough. It may even be that in some ways, you happen to have something that others envy and do not have.

If we are consistently treated poorly, it's important to understand what might be attracting these individuals to treat us this way. Could it be that sometimes, when we need to say no, we're hesitant to do so, which might encourage the other person's arrogance?

Or perhaps you are hesitant to seek help from those around you, unsure of how to communicate your needs, and concerned about being misunderstood or criticized by your parents or teachers.

I truly hope that those of you who have left a comment can feel that someone cares about you, that they hope you will be well, and that you will learn to love and protect yourself.