How can I improve my child's ambition and alleviate my anxiety about their studies?

Hello! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

It's not about how much time you spend learning, but having the motivation, method, and interest to learn. When you have that, the results will follow! My advice to you is:

Turn anxiety into trust. A parent's trust gives a child a great deal of motivation and support, which is so important!

It's important to remember that anxiety can sometimes get in the way of learning. When we're feeling worried about how well our kids are doing in school, it can make us think that they're having a hard time learning. But that's not necessarily true! Our kids are amazing learners, and they can do anything they put their minds to.

So, it's really important to send our kids positive signals. We need to believe in them and show them that they can improve, that they will be motivated, and that they can achieve their learning goals through their own efforts.

I used this method, often giving myself positive mental suggestions. When he was not confident in his studies or felt frustrated, I was there for him every step of the way, reminding him that I believed in him and that this failure didn't mean he'd always fail. I told him that he could make progress through his own efforts, and it really surprised me every time. I just wanted to plant a positive seed in his heart: I can do it, I can achieve my goals through my own efforts.

2. I'd be happy to recommend some good learning methods to him!

Studying requires a scientific method, especially when it comes to memory. There are so many fascinating psychological studies that have reached some pretty reliable conclusions! For instance, we can choose a time that's more conducive to memory to memorize, and we can get twice the result with half the effort.

I've found that the half hour in the morning before getting up and the half hour before going to bed are really great for memorization. There's no prior inhibition in the former, and there's no post-inhibition in the latter. When I was in high school, I memorized all the words I needed to recite for the whole semester in just these two and a half hours every day! Of course, the amount to be memorized every day needs to be set at an appropriate goal according to one's ability, and it should be repeated in time, which also follows the law of memory.

Let's take memorizing words as an example. If you can memorize 10 words a day, you're already doing great! Here's a simple routine you can follow to make it even easier: the night before, memorize ten words, and the next morning, repeat the ten words, then memorize ten new words, and repeat the morning's ten words in the evening. Also, roughly review the previous night's ten words. This simple routine will help you memorize the previous day's ten words and then, the next morning, you can just repeat memorizing the words you didn't memorize the first night. Then, you can continue memorizing all the following words, and so on in a cycle, checking for gaps and filling in the blanks. You'll find that this method of memorization is very effective, and you can memorize the most important content in a relatively short period of time. It will be very solid and not easily forgotten!

3. When we help children set reasonable learning goals and give them positive feedback when they do well, they feel a sense of accomplishment. This helps them feel confident and motivated to keep learning.

It's so important to be enthusiastic and motivated when we're learning. We need to feel that learning makes us happy and that we can experience a sense of achievement in learning. This is closely related to the learning goals we set for ourselves. It's really important that we don't set goals that are too big or too small. If the goal is too big, we might feel frustrated because we think we simply cannot achieve it. We might not want to learn and we might not have the confidence to complete it. If the goal is too small, we might feel that even if we complete it, it will be meaningless and we might not bother to complete it.

Research shows that only moderately difficult goals can really get a person excited about learning. So, we need to help him set goals that are just right for him, that is, goals that he can "reach while standing on tiptoes." And after he has achieved the goal, give him lots of positive feedback. This will help him to see that "learning" is a really fun experience and he'll want to keep doing it!

Let's say his current average is 10 words per day. It would be too easy for him if the goal were 1 or 100 words per day. But if we set it at 12-15 words per day, he'll have a good chance of reaching it. Once he's at 15 words, we can raise the goal to 17-20 words per day. And in no time, he'll be memorizing 100 words per day! But here's the best part: he'll feel more confident and accomplished along the way. He'll feel like he can do it! This is in line with Vygotsky's theory of the "zone of proximal development."

And when he really completes his goal through his own efforts, he can be given some rewards he likes, such as the food he enjoys, the stationery he likes, etc. When he has persisted for a week or has made a big improvement, he can also be given a big reward, such as a trip to a place he likes or a big meal, etc. All of this will give him motivation!

I hope this is helpful for you! Wishing you the best!