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How can I not get so angry when my neighbor is such a scoundrel?

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How can I not get so angry when my neighbor is such a scoundrel? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

A 21-year-old woman, the neighbors are very unethical, allowing their dog to use the hallway as a toilet and refusing to listen to advice, deaf and dumb, never cleaning it. I particularly dislike these things, as I have to pass by, feeling so disgusted I can't eat, so I have reduced going downstairs (I quite enjoy going down to play). A couple of days ago, while returning from picking up my package, the 14-year-old girl from the next door opened the door and let the dog into the hallway, which startled me. I called her name (in a very ordinary manner, she should have heard), but she slammed the door shut. I was very angry at her lack of respect, feeling that a girl I have seen grow up was corrupted by the phony, friendly neighbor. It makes me angrier that she doesn't respect me than the fact that I have to try and clean up those things tomorrow, and it has been constantly irritating me. I feel a bit of a hair-splitter because I feel that after she was five or six years old, we had very little interaction, but as she grew up, she treated me like a strange person, showing indifference and aversion (sometimes when I talk to her mother or brother, she looks at me with extreme coldness). How can I not get into an argument with that little girl?

Daniel Martinez Daniel Martinez A total of 2440 people have been helped

Good day. My name is Strawberry.

In light of the aforementioned confessions and troubles, it is evident that a sense of injustice has been instilled. The influence of a neighbor on one's emotional state and overall demeanor cannot be denied. The adage "neighbors are as good as family" underscores the importance of fostering a harmonious relationship. However, the actions of the neighbor in question have left many individuals at a loss for words.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether a property manager is responsible for the upkeep of the residence in question. In the absence of such a figure, it would be prudent to express one's opinion directly regarding the aforementioned behavior. Additionally, it would be valuable to ascertain the attitude of the other party in this matter.

In fact, allowing their dog to defecate in the hallway is sufficient to illustrate the quality of this family. Consequently, even if the questioner explicitly expresses their concerns, they may not undergo significant changes.

Such behavior can be considered unhygienic. The other party does not consider the impact of their actions on others or the host. The host has the option of involving the community or calling the police to address the situation. The host can inform the police that there is a potential health risk posed by the other party's dog and request their assistance in addressing the situation.

The child whom you have observed from infancy has also become apathetic as a result of the influence of their adult counterparts. It is possible to envisage the environment and atmosphere that has been created within their domestic setting.

One might be forgiven for questioning whether it is possible to feel anything other than anger towards that young girl.

1. Perform a thorough introspective examination.

One might inquire whether the questioner is truly displeased with the child, or if her displeasure stems from a sense of frustration with the child's upbringing. It is also possible that the questioner harbors feelings of helplessness, recalling the child as once being at least innocent and spirited, yet perceives her personality to have taken on a different form that seems unamenable to change. These sentiments evoke a sense of pity.

2. Gain an understanding of the sense of distance between people.

In other words, the relationship between the two parties in question can be considered to be that of neighbors. Even within the context of a family, there is a certain degree of distance between loved ones. This distance is arguably even more pronounced in the case of neighbors. If the other party does not respect the feelings of the first party and does not consider their feelings, then there is no cause for concern regarding the potential consequences of offending such neighbors.

It may be possible to expose the family's bad behavior through online reports, allowing morality to inform them of the consequences of their actions. Neighbors are not of significant importance in this context. They are the individuals who initially feel a sense of distance from the subject, so there is no need for the subject to attempt to foster closer relationships with them.

3. Passivity is an ineffective approach to this situation.

From the description, it appears that the questioner is angry about the behavior in question but unable to resolve it. It seems that the more one accommodates the behavior, the more it will continue. It is therefore unlikely that the behavior will change without some form of intervention.

It is recommended that warning notes be posted and that scents that are aversive to dogs be used to deter further urination and defecation in the hallway. It is sufficient to take an active role in addressing this matter to convey the family's expectations. It is the responsibility of the family to modify their behavior, and the questioner should not alter their routines or lifestyle as a result of their actions.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the individual who posed the question. Best regards,

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Arkady Davis Forgiveness is a step towards inner peace and harmony.

This situation is really upsetting and it's understandable to feel frustrated. It seems like communication has broken down between you and your neighbors, especially with the young girl next door. Perhaps a calm conversation could help clear some misunderstandings.

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Warren Jackson The erudite are those who have traversed the forests of different knowledges and found the hidden paths of wisdom.

I can see why this would make you so upset. The lack of respect and hygiene from your neighbors is unacceptable. Maybe reaching out to the building management could offer a solution that doesn't involve directly confronting the girl or her family.

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Berkeley Anderson The fortress of honesty is impregnable against the arrows of false accusations.

It's infuriating when people don't take responsibility for their actions. This 14yearold's behavior reflects poorly on her upbringing. It might be worth considering if there's a way to address the issue without escalating things further.

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Cassidy Davis A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops.

Your feelings are completely valid. Living in such conditions can really affect one's quality of life. Have you thought about organizing a meeting with all the residents to discuss common area etiquette? That might be a constructive way forward.

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Willis Davis Learning is a way to honor the pursuit of knowledge.

It sounds like you've been dealing with this problem for a while. It must be really hard to witness someone you've seen grow up act in such a disrespectful manner. Sometimes, people change, and it's not always easy to understand why. Trying to talk to her parents might be a step towards resolving this.

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