How can one cope with being worried about the family and feeling completely unmotivated?

Hello, I'm Mu Rong.

From your words, I can see that you are worried, self-blaming, and anxious. You really want to contribute to the family, and you know you can. You just need to start somewhere.

First of all, I appreciate your awareness of yourself and your concern for your family. Your parents are not in good health, and the family is also having financial difficulties. You feel your parents' suffering, and you are determined to accompany them through it together.

You say you dropped out of school for personal reasons. I want to know what those reasons are. I also want to know if this is causing you pain and suffering.

You'll feel closer to them if you get through this together.

Secondly, I appreciate your concern for your own body. Maintaining good health is the only way to have the strength to help your family and develop yourself. However, you have mentioned twice that you feel guilty and inconsiderate. It seems that you believe that if you are healthy, you cannot experience your parents' pain.

You want to help your parents escape their suffering as soon as possible, don't you?

I understand exactly how you feel. You love your parents, and they love you just as much. They want to help you escape your suffering, too.

Finally, please share your thoughts on feeling powerless. You want to earn money by working part-time to support your parents, but you're still in school, so it's difficult to achieve.

You're still in school, so learning a skill is the best option for you right now. If you want to learn a skill quickly and earn money, consider taking up auto repair, hairdressing, or something similar. The career path is clear, and you'll likely earn a decent salary.

You should complete your own education and consider earning money after combining your abilities and major. This will help you support your parents more.

I am confident that the above will be helpful.

Hello, I am Xingqi.

Your post has left me with a heavy heart.

Facing the mother's major surgery, the sequelae of a cerebral hemorrhage; the father suffering from hypertension, unable to earn money for the time being; and you having dropped out of school for a year... It seems that there are too many things in life that don't go your way, making people worry, scare, and feel helpless. But I'm here to tell you that you can't let that happen. If I were you, I couldn't relax either.

You said you want to find a job to help share the burden at home. If I were your parents, I'd be comforted to know you have such filial piety, even if life is currently precarious and difficult.

You said you have palpitations and trouble breathing. You've also had your parents spend a lot of money on tests, but there's no problem. You feel guilty and think you're being irresponsible, right?

Let me ask you this: if you hide your physical discomfort and go to work, but then collapse and are diagnosed with a physical problem, do you think your parents will feel at ease? The answer is no.

Let me be clear: if a minor illness becomes a major illness, ruining your health and future prospects, that is not an acceptable outcome.

Your lack of motivation and feelings of powerlessness are not negative emotions. They are helping and protecting you. They are preventing you from taking on more responsibilities or harm than you should. At least your parents' generation suffered from serious illnesses due to overwork.

Yes, the parents' sense of powerlessness affects you, too. But we can also see that the mother is recovering, the father is taking care of his health, and he will earn income again when the weather improves.

You are young, and you have so much potential. Anything is possible.

This is a time for the family to unite, support each other, and face difficulties head-on. When in adversity, take care of yourself and stop blaming yourself.

You deserve to be loved by yourself and your parents.

You've got this!