How can one forget or stop liking someone they once deeply cared for?

Hello, question asker. I am honored to answer your question.

Since time immemorial, it has been said that one should get married and start a family. When faced with a girl you like, the questioner feels that they cannot like a girl they cannot get, and it feels like a million painful suns. But have you gotten to know the girl and found out how she feels about you?

Tell me, did she have feelings for you too? And what if you confessed your feelings and she rejected you?

The questioner needs to decide how to handle this. If the other person agrees to be with the questioner, should the questioner work hard to bring a good life to the other person?

I congratulate the questioner on overcoming 10 years of depression. After 10 years of depression, the questioner has proven they can overcome any challenge. There is no difficulty the questioner cannot face.

After 10 years of depression, the questioner will undoubtedly experience difficulties integrating into society, feeling isolated, and experiencing intense emotions. I will provide the questioner with a reassuring pat on the shoulder and a boost of strength.

Pain is a part of life. It will lessen with time.

Since the question was asked on the platform, we cannot have a detailed chat. However, we can provide the questioner with some advice on how to overcome their longing and pain.

Forget the girl.

The OP must realize that he is in a situation where he is thinking about the girl, in a situation of great pain, indulging himself and unable to sleep at night. This is the only way he can move forward and forget the girl.

You can't stop thinking about the girl.

You can't forget her. Trying to forget only makes you miss her more.

You compare every girl you know or meet to her.

You are unable to get interested in other girls, even when they say they like you.

You know you're always writing about this girl or drawing her face.

Every song you hear reminds you of her.

You check her social media a few hours a day.

You know you'll never be happy without her.

Admit your feelings for the girl.

You need to admit that you like her and think about her. Think about why.

The questioner likes her so much that he can't stop thinking about her. He needs to understand the root of the problem and solve it.

I will also list some of the reasons why I like someone else for the questioner to refer to.

The girl you know is not as good as she is. She is very special, and everything about her matches your aesthetic sense.

The questioner wants her. Be patient. People are divided into groups, and there may be a special girl by her side who better matches the questioner's aesthetic sense.

If you meet another girl who is better than her and more in line with your aesthetic tastes, you will transfer your infatuation to her. If not, your infatuation will fade.

There are plenty of other girls out there.

You need to make a plan to forget about the girl.

You need to find out why you are obsessed with the girl. Then you need to make a plan to stop missing her. It may not be easy at first, but as long as you make a plan and stick to it, you will succeed. Here are some suggestions for what to include in your plan:

1. Cut back on your meetings and contact with the girl.

2. Keep your distance from her and eliminate any opportunities for interaction.

3. Don't contact the girl. Block her messages.

4. Spend less time thinking about girls. It's that simple. The less time you spend on them, the less you'll miss them.

5. Track the time you spend thinking about girls every day. If you spend 8 hours thinking about girls today, reduce it by 30 minutes tomorrow, and continue to reduce it every day. Keep track of it.

6. Give yourself a time to forget about girls. It can be one year or six months. If you can't stop thinking about them, extend the time.

Spend more time with your family and friends.

Spend more time with your family and friends, especially those who have helped you during the 10 years of depression. Your closest family and friends will make you feel loved and needed, and they will distract you from that girl.

Spend some time hanging out with friends, or go to concerts or movies together to distract you from the girl. If you can join a new training program, do it. Set goals for yourself to achieve. As long as you achieve your goals, this state of hard work will help you get out of the obsessive state.

Tell your friends how you feel about the girl and why you're so infatuated with her.

Let them give you some advice. If your friends know that you haven't been doing well lately, they will try to hang out with you as much as possible, or even force you to leave the house.

If you're too sad to leave your home, you can also invite friends and family over for a get-together. Talking to them about your recent situation and theirs will help you feel better.

Take on a new life.

After 10 years of depression, the questioner has a lot to do. They must plan their career and life anew.

Once you've recovered, you may feel uneasy about facing new challenges. But now that you've moved on from your previous situation, it's time to break free from the shackles of the past.

You can face a new life positively and find the meaning of life. This will allow you to enter a new state, become more energetic, and, slowly but surely, you will stop thinking about the girl as much.

Use your free time to enrich your life. Try singing, sports, dancing, traveling, or photography. Find an activity you like and immerse yourself in it. This will help you release your emotions and become more comfortable in your current life, as well as making more friends.

Laugh more, watch more comedies, or hang out with interesting people. Laughing will help you put things in perspective and realize that not missing someone is really true.

You must adjust your mentality and stop relying on alcohol to numb yourself. This will only make the current situation worse. If you are unable to successfully try to forget the girl and may even experience a relapse of depression, you must seek the intervention of a professional psychologist.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am able to discern from your description a number of negative emotions, including pain, self-blame, confusion and loss. Best regards,

You have recently recovered from depression and are currently disinclined to engage in romantic relationships. However, you have recently encountered an individual with whom you have developed a strong affinity.

Furthermore, you believe that the other individual is someone you cannot have, which is contrary to your personal commitment.

You consumed a considerable amount of alcohol at the bar, an incident occurred that was unanticipated, and you are experiencing feelings of guilt.

You have not yet experienced the pain of getting over someone you like. Is that correct?

It is understandable that you feel this way. It is important to recognize that life is often unpredictable and out of our control, which can be frustrating.

Furthermore, the inability to love oneself and the surrounding sense of unworthiness can lead to feelings of desperation.

What is the best way to extricate oneself from this current situation?

It is inadvisable to make assumptions or conclusions without sufficient evidence.

You have been experiencing depressive episodes for a decade, during which time you have also fallen behind in your career and social skills. It will take time to catch up.

I believe that even the ten years of illness were ten years of struggle, and you never gave up on yourself, always trying to catch up, didn't you?

Furthermore, how can you be certain that a particular individual is not within your reach? What does it entail to "get" someone?

If you have formed a positive opinion of someone, is it necessarily the case that you should pursue a relationship with them? Have you given the matter your best effort?

Perhaps it would be beneficial to reconsider your current approach. There are numerous potential outcomes in the future, so it is important not to hastily make a decision. Allowing yourself additional time to gain experience and trust that the outcome will become evident in time.

It is likely that you have made a number of assumptions about your future. It is important to recognise that these assumptions may not necessarily be accurate. Furthermore, making premature assumptions can result in a loss of valuable time and missed opportunities.

It is important to accept the present and relinquish control.

One of the most beneficial aspects of life is the unexpected nature of its occurrences.

Furthermore, it is impossible to predict whether a situation will prove beneficial or detrimental. Anything is possible, which is one of the appealing aspects of life.

It is not always the case that one should prioritize personal growth before embarking on a romantic relationship.

Instead of resisting and avoiding it, we should adopt a more flexible approach. If you love, love well. You may get an unexpected surprise.

↗️ Believe in your own worth.

In the face of relationship difficulties, you visit a bar and consume alcohol with a stranger you have never met before.

It appears that you are intentionally demonstrating that you are undeserving of a positive relationship by engaging in inappropriate behavior.

Then, self-inflicted guilt and self-blame allow you to maintain your current mindset.

If you genuinely believe that you deserve better and that you are worthy of love, you will be more likely to encounter positive individuals and circumstances.

Best regards,

Hello!

I'm a heart exploration coach, and I believe learning is the key to a healthy body.

From what you've told me, I can see you're going through a lot.

I'm not going to get into the difficulties that can arise from liking someone who isn't interested in you. However, I do have three suggestions for you:

First, I suggest you give yourself permission to like that person.

Your problem is basically a contradiction: you like that person, but you're trying not to. That's impossible. So how do you resolve this? You can use the same approach: first "allow" yourself to like them, and then you can like them less or forget about them.

It might sound a bit strange, but it's true: change is based on allowing, not forcing.

Once you've accepted the situation, you can relax and stop letting this person influence you.

Second, I suggest you don't force yourself to forget about him.

If you can't do the above, then tell yourself, "I don't have to let go of that person. After all, they've appeared in my life and become part of my experience. I can't completely cut ties and forget about them." After you've told yourself this a few times, you'll feel less pain. You may be in a state of mind like this: Even if I can't completely forget about that person, I can still slowly get on with my life.

It's important to remember that this is the reality of the situation. There's no need to forget about him. You've already formed a connection, so it's natural that you can't forget about him. When you stop obsessing about forgetting him or not liking him, you'll feel better.

I'd like to suggest that you focus on yourself and think about what you can do to feel better.

In addition, it's a good idea to change the way you think. It's also helpful to get moving, which can be a great distraction. However, it's not a good idea to indulge in negative practices like alcoholism.

For instance, when you're feeling down, you can talk to someone you trust. Talking about it can help ease your pain. Once you start sharing your negative emotions, they'll start to flow and have a healing effect. At the same time, you might also get some advice and understanding, which will help you feel better.

You can also read your favorite books and get lost in the knowledge or plot, which can help calm you down. Plus, the content of the book might even give you the strength to change.

You can also go for a walk, run, listen to music, etc., when you're feeling down. When you move your body and come into contact with nature or something positive, it can really help to lift your mood. In short, you need to know that you can do something to improve the situation.

When you start taking action, the various negative emotions in your heart will naturally start to dissipate. Sometimes, taking action is the best way to overcome these emotions.

I hope this helps. If you want to talk more, just click "Find a coach" at the bottom and we can chat one-on-one.

Hello, question asker!

After reading your description, I feel sorry for you. You need to stop drinking those two cases of beer. It's too much. Your stomach can't handle it. You need to get help.

You have no choice but to take this measure. Protect yourself by using this method again, or the pain of missing someone will drive you crazy. I hug you again!

This method is perfectly acceptable. Going to a KTV to sing and go out to eat is a great way to relax. However, we must also pay attention to the extent. For example, we can drink beer, but we shouldn't drink too much. It's a bit excessive, and even a heavy drinker can't handle it! In the future, we must pay attention to the extent.

I believe you have added another layer of discomfort to your heart because of this method. In other words, you have encountered another woman confessing her love to you, and this has added to the discomfort in your heart. You think it is your own behavior that has caused this, but I think we shouldn't blame ourselves too much. This can also be said to be an outburst of deep emotions!

Now that we've had this conversation, I believe the emotions that were blocked and unseen have already been released. You've come here to talk about it and ask questions, so compared to the unbearable feeling at the beginning, it has been diluted a lot. What should we do next? It is more appropriate? Let me share my views with you based on my personal experience!

First, we're going to sing songs, go to a karaoke bar, and go out to dinner. And we're definitely not drinking enough beer. You can drink alcohol, but don't let yourself get too drunk. We were trying to relieve our burdens, but if we cause further damage, we'll lose more than we gain. We can go there in a more civilized manner and be mindful of boundaries when getting along with the people there. This way, we can achieve a slightly better result. I still advocate that the next time you can't control your emotions, you can still go to the karaoke bar, and I believe you will do better than this time.

Second, I think it's perfectly normal to think about that girl. Every gentleman wants to woo the lady of his dreams. I don't know what the reason is that you think this is inappropriate. Since you don't think it's appropriate, let's just wait and see what happens. Then, put aside this love and this liking for now, and then wait and see the changes in the surrounding environment, and take a look at those other girls. Didn't you say it?

There are also girls who confess their love to you. Why? Because you have great advantages. So if you have such great advantages, why don't we have the courage to do something for the girl we like?

Second, you should increase your psychological tolerance. When you do, you can get close to the girl you like and see if your views align with hers. Do your worldviews match?

We can observe him more in the dark. You can do this. Your ten years of depression are behind you. This matter is nothing compared to that. It's not even 1/10th of his experience. Believe in yourself. Put your heart into it. You can do it.

I want to be clear: when I say this will definitely work, I don't mean it will definitely succeed. What I mean is that you will definitely be able to handle this matter. We have tried our best in everything, and success or failure is not up to me. If you lose this tree, you will discover a whole forest. Think about it: if you are not always thinking about that girl, I think that girl who confessed her love for you in the KTV might gradually come into your heart. Think about all the possibilities and live your future.

I want you to remember that the world and I love you!

Hello!

Host:

Hi there! I'm Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I've read your post and I can tell that this is a really tough time for you.

I also want to say that I admire you for being so open and honest about your feelings. It's not easy to share your thoughts and feelings on a public platform like this, but you've done it bravely and I admire you for that. I'm sure that by sharing your feelings, you'll be able to gain a wider perspective and make the right adjustments.

I'd also like to share a few more thoughts on the post, which I hope will help you see things from a different angle.

1. Give it a try, and see if you can let go.

It has been observed that the host is in great pain because they have fallen for someone they cannot have. I can totally understand why!

I can totally relate to that feeling of being unable to love someone. It's so beyond words! At the same time, I also noticed that the original poster wants to dislike or forget about him.

I totally get it. From your perspective, this is a viable option.

I just wanted to check in and see if there's another way we could achieve our goal. Are there any other possibilities?

I really do think there is! For example, letting go.

Letting go is different from forgetting, and different from disliking. Letting go, as I understand it, means that the other person may still exist, but they can no longer affect us.

And whether we forget or dislike it, it may make us even more unable to forget, which is totally normal!

You know, sometimes the more you resist, the more painful it is. It's like when we can't sleep, the more we try to sleep, the less we can.

On the other hand, if you don't go to sleep, get up, and do something else to relax, you might feel sleepy again soon. So, the poster might want to try allowing his favorite things to exist, even during this period of transition.

It's so important to take care of yourself! Set a time for yourself, during which you allow your favorite things to exist.

It's so important to express your likes and let them flow! And at other times, focus your attention back on yourself and concentrate on your own things. This can really open up some new experiences for us!

2. It might be helpful to try to see the need in the relationship.

It's so often the case that relationships start because we have needs. And when there's no need, there's often no relationship.

So, it might be helpful to think about what this relationship is giving us in terms of needs. This is something the host can look into for themselves.

And see what kind of feelings he or she gives you, and what attracts you about him or her.

And then, you'll find your own needs. You'll think about whether there are other ways to satisfy these needs. For example, you could satisfy them with someone else, or you could try satisfying your own needs yourself.

Then, when our needs are met, the feelings we like might slowly fade. Our experience will be different, and that's okay!

It's so common to look outside of ourselves when we need something, but we can actually find what we need by turning inward. And when we take care of ourselves, we're taking responsibility for our own well-being.

3. Give yourself the gift of expressing your pain in a reasonable way.

From a psychological point of view, there is a term called the grieving process, which refers to the grief we all feel when we lose something. And when we allow this grief to flow, it means we have accepted the loss. It takes time for the grief to flow out, and this process is called the grieving process.

Then, for the host, you have fallen for someone who is unavailable. You decide not to like or forget about it, which is totally understandable!

In a way, this is also a kind of loss. And this loss can actually bring us great pain.

Then, in the face of this pain, the host may try to express it reasonably, and this expression is actually letting one's pain flow. When this pain slowly runs out, then naturally, the host may let go.

So, it's really important to express your pain in a way that feels right for you. There's no one right way to do it.

You can also use writing in psychological counseling to express yourself and work through your feelings. Just remember to give yourself some time and space.

4. Make your life more rich and full!

These are tough times, and there's still hope! The host can take the time to focus on themselves and enrich their life. They can pay attention to their own habits and maintain a sense of normalcy. If they have the means, they can even go on a trip to relax! They can also go to participate in some of their favorite sports, socialize, and do things they like.

It's time to refocus your attention on the here and now. Take the time to enrich yourself.

I really hope these will be a little helpful and inspiring to you!

Good day.

I was drawn to your opening sentence: "To truly depression/im-almost-crazy-about-the-fear-of-getting-fat-but-i-still-love-to-eat-and-then-i-go-and-throw-up-everything-ive-eaten-8016.html" target="_blank">love someone is actually really painful."

I am curious to know what type of love can cause such deep and unforgettable pain, and how this particular love managed to captivate you.

It is possible that this love, the girl you like and cannot forget, has a particular significance in your life experience over the past ten years.

In particular, she appeared at an opportune moment, coinciding with your preparations to embark on a new chapter following a decade of grappling with depression.

It is understandable that you would want to numb your emotions with alcohol, which led to the girl you were confiding in to confess her feelings for you.

I believe you may have been experiencing a certain degree of trepidation at that juncture. In your heart, the love for that particular girl you like is akin to the white moonlight in your heart.

Such profound and authentic love is not easily accessible to others, as it would be perceived as a transgression against the object of one's affection.

This brings to mind the character Zhuang Jiumbao in Stephen Chow's "A Chinese Odyssey."

Upon recognizing his romantic feelings for Zixia Fairy, Zhen Zhubao made the decision to save her by donning the magic band and assuming the role of the Monkey King, performing various feats to rescue her. Otherwise, Zixia would have faced destruction.

The concluding scene of the film, in which Zixia and the warrior embrace on the city wall, leaves the departing view of Baoyuan and the film's iconic closing lines.

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The regret of not achieving one's desired outcome has become a common occurrence that many individuals find difficult to forget.

On the other hand, it appears that behind this regrettable unattainable love, there may be a kind of sublimation due to fulfillment, creating an enduring effect across time and space. This may be perceived even if the individual in question is unaware.

Therefore, regardless of the circumstances that led to your separation and the reasons behind it, I am unaware of them. However, your decision to seek answers here today demonstrates your commitment to addressing the situation and moving forward.

It is commendable that you are able to love so openly and honestly. Not everyone is capable of such devotion and transparency in their emotions.

However, you have the option to be even more courageous.

As an example, it would be beneficial to address the pain associated with this regret.

It would be unwise to attempt to forget or deliberately dislike the individual in question. It is important to accept the situation as it is and move forward.

Facing challenges does not mean allowing them to persist indefinitely.

Facing pain and loss head-on is the only way to achieve true emotional relief.

Admit the importance of this relationship to you, the sense of meaning it brings, and explore what happened and what caused your sadness and misery.

This will be of immense value to you.

We all desire love and to be loved. However, if we can use this emotion to truly understand our own hearts, to treat ourselves kindly rather than harshly and judge ourselves, to respect our efforts, and to properly place the emotions we once felt,

This is also a form of emotional sublimation.

I would like to dedicate a song by Jonathan Lee, entitled "Hill," to you in particular.

There are still a number of items that require my attention.

I am saving it for future use in a song.

Allow others to sing it softly and remember it lightly.

Even if you ultimately choose to forget, it was a worthwhile endeavor.

It is possible that my thoughts on life are somewhat trivial.

A fortuitous occurrence can evolve into a significant outcome.

Then we will each be in a position to assess the situation.

Upon observing the meandering river, I have finally mustered the courage to...

Approach challenges with a positive attitude.

Ultimately, I hope you will be able to overcome the challenges you face in life, become the person you aspire to be, and achieve the happiness you desire.

Best regards,

You say it's painful to fall for someone you can't have, so you drink, flirt with strangers, and tell them your secrets. You feel guilty because you've indulged and blasphemed. You ask, "How can I stop liking this person? How can I do it without pain?"

If you choose to fall for someone who is unavailable, you may be enjoying the pain. It could be that you need to keep falling for someone unavailable to relive familiar feelings.

You say you don't like being alone, but you need to let go of your obsession with her. There are more important things to do than her. Fighting for your career, making money, and dealing with relationships will drain your energy.

You think she's the only one who can satisfy your needs and make you feel loved. This is because you've idealized her. When you grow up and your vision becomes higher, perhaps you'll see that she's just an ordinary person.

You can do it without pain. Learn, grow, find a counselor, face your feelings, release your emotions, heal yourself in a safe, stable, and reliable relationship, break the pattern, and build a new self.

Stay strong!

We would like to begin by opening with a brief overview of the proposition and solution in question.

It is, in fact, quite painful to develop a genuine affinity for another individual.

The proposition assumes that falling in love with someone causes pain and naturally leads one to consider a solution: how to forget or stop liking someone they really like.

This proposition and the corresponding solution are analogous to the question, "Eating makes me suffer; is there any way I can stop eating?"

However, as human beings, we have both social and biological natures. Regardless of the activity in question, whether eating or forming attachments, we humans are driven to engage in these activities. Even in ancient times, there was the practice of castration, which involved the removal of the body, yet it still could not sever the need for human emotions.

This is an instinctive process, not a matter of willpower.

Perhaps if we make a slight adjustment to the proposition and the solution, we could achieve a more optimal outcome.

1. Proposition hypothesis

The act of falling in love does not inherently result in distress. Rather, it is the concerns and apprehensions that emerge subsequent to this emotional state, such as doubts about one's suitability or the assumption that the relationship may not last, that lead to discomfort.

2. Solution

What strategies can I implement to effectively manage these distressing thoughts?

Following this adjustment, I am curious to know if the questioner will find this approach more feasible and relatively easier to implement.

Following this adjustment, I am curious if the questioner will perceive the situation as more feasible and a bit more relaxed.

As the questioner has mentioned on numerous occasions in the comments section,

After ten years of depression, I made a full recovery last year. Now that I'm in a better position, I'm addressing the gaps in my career and social life, with the goal of catching up.

Indeed, overcoming depression is a cause for celebration and even pride. It is akin to achieving a significant milestone victory after ten years of dedicated effort in a long-distance race. Given that this is not a feat that is within the reach of ordinary individuals, the challenges and tenacity encountered along the way become a defining aspect of one's personal history.

However, we believe that this decade has brought about a gap in many aspects, such as career and interpersonal relationships. This gap is akin to an indelible stain on life, which is brought up and lamented every time we consider pursuing something in terms of personality and emotions. Just like the Venus de Milo, while the world marvels at her beauty and supreme artistic beauty, Venus cannot accept it and just whimpers, repeatedly feeling sentimental: How am I going to start my future life with my arms broken?

In conclusion, when thoughts are not properly identified and the self is not recognized internally, it is more likely that pain will follow. This is because human instincts cannot be overcome by the will, and forcing them to be blocked causes significant internal conflict and a sense of powerlessness that the self cannot achieve.

When thoughts are not properly identified and the self is not recognized internally, it is easier to experience pain. Human instincts cannot be overcome by the will, and attempting to suppress them causes significant internal conflict and a sense of powerlessness that the self cannot achieve.

It is inevitable that there will be setbacks in every instinctive plea and every confrontation that the individual attempts to suppress.

Furthermore, the notion that the happy ending script behind liking someone is predicated on "getting" can also result in the anguish of "not getting what you want." This can lead to an escape through indulgence, with subsequent regret when sobriety returns.

If "like" can become a form of protection, akin to watering a flower in a garden and allowing it to grow and bloom at its own pace, shielding it from the elements and potential harm, and appreciating its natural beauty, rather than abruptly removing it and allowing it to wither, is it possible that such an approach could be more feasible and easier to implement?

In the above, I am not examining human nature, but rather the perspective of a therapist who is concerned with the well-being of the human heart. I wish you well.

I am not examining human nature, but rather the role of a therapist in caring for the human heart. I wish you well.

It's totally normal to like someone and not be together. It might be that you just don't see eye to eye, and that's okay! It can be really tough to move on from a relationship, but you've got this!

We all have that one special time when we fall in love for the first time. It's not because the person is so perfect, it's just because you met that person at the most beautiful time, so you can't let go. Even if you really want to leave, it will take a lot of time and energy.

You have someone you really like, but this person has caused you a lot of trouble and brought a lot of warmth, making you gradually seem like a different person. And you have been free of depression for the past ten years, which is actually a very good thing! It allows you to face life more freely, which is great.

There's so much pressure in life, isn't there? Your work plan, your life plan—they all need your attention. It can be so hard to fall in love with someone you can't get, because there's a gap between you and this person, and there are so many unstable factors between you, and there are so many things to face.

It's tough to be together, but you just happen to fall in love. Falling in love with the wrong person can lead to a painful journey. You drink and cry, slowly numbing your senses in the midst of sensual pleasures.

You might also feel a lot of guilt. It's probably best not to do this because this kind of behavior is somewhat dissolute, without too many rules and values. If you are aware of your current predicament, it would be a great idea to take the initiative to seek psychological counseling, so that you can think about what is going on. Perhaps the person you like is not as good as you think. It's very often the forbidden fruit effect that is tempting people. I really recommend psychological counseling. Good luck!

ZQ?

It's totally normal to feel this way! It's not that you don't love, it's that you love too much and can't be together for various practical reasons.

So, you want to give up, but you don't want to give up!

1. Picture this: the other person is a "scum" or someone who betrayed you. They're the reason you fell in love with them, but now you're free to move on. Transform your love for them into hatred and force yourself to forget, rather than just remembering the good things they did for you.

2. Distract yourself and find the important things in your life: I believe that apart from love, there are more important things in your life. And there are so many exciting things to focus on instead! Life still needs to go on, with your work, your studies, and your loved ones.

You can do it! By becoming better and stronger, you can achieve this. And when you do, the butterflies will come!

So, remember: Relying on a man is the least secure feeling. But there's nothing more secure than self-reliance and financial independence!

3. Talk it out! Find your good friends or loved ones, people you can talk to about your heart. If no one is worthy of your trust, then find a platform, a platform similar to a tree hole to talk!

It's time to let go of your pain and negative emotions! Surround yourself with strangers who are ready to answer your questions and relieve your stress.

OK, thanks for your question. I read it.

Read and study more to enrich yourself.

I also went through the same thing 20 years ago. I liked someone, but they didn't like me back.

I feel so sad. I didn't want to go to school and gave up on myself.

I have paid a price for this. Later, I still had the chance to study, and I have been studying for more than ten years. I feel fulfilled.

I've become a better person by reading, listening to lectures, studying, and thinking.

Now I try to help others and be good to my parents.

You are always studying, reading, working hard, and trying to save and earn money to become a better person.

Your pain comes from emptiness. You don't know what other spiritual support there is.

It's painful because I've been there.

Talk to your friends or find a counselor.

Sometimes friends don't understand your pain. Find a counselor you trust to talk to every week. Let him help you through your pain. You'll get better little by little.

It takes time to become more fulfilled. People don't change in one or two days.

You still have a long way to go. Instead of suffering from unrequited love,

Try to become a better person.

Find something you can invest your emotions in.

You're caught in a cycle of emotions. You think about being unable to love every day.

Every day I struggle with emotions. I'm also a very sentimental person. I was once proud of this, thinking that others didn't value emotions.

My thinking now is that relationships are the most important thing.

We also have other important things to think about. We need to be more carefree, more open to chance, and more relaxed when it comes to relationships.

If you are told to let go of something now, you won't be able to. So we learn to let go slowly.

Love is an intangible thing.

We can pursue something real. We have to face reality.

As long as he's happy, I'll be happy too. I can wish him well.

I can meet someone better.

Let everything be as it should be. When I become a better person,

I will meet someone better.

OK. Instead of struggling with emotions,

Instead, let's work hard to become better people.

And live a wonderful life. Wouldn't that be better?

OK, thanks for your question. You can find a heart exploration coach or a trusted counselor.

Let him help you with your heart.

I would like to suggest that we all try to gain insight into the soul and make sharing a habit. I am talking to myself, but I hope that my words will resonate with you too.

I believe that the topic of emotions is one that everyone will inevitably encounter in their lives. While everyone may encounter different people, things, and situations along the way, I think it's fair to say that the longing for beauty is more or less the same.

If I may, I would like to share some thoughts on the topic of forgetting today.

It is perhaps unfeasible to forget someone who is impossible to forget.

I believe this is a question that many people who have experienced separation and parting may ask themselves.

Perhaps the answer is to remember her and move on.

Perhaps, when we reach middle age or old age, we may come to understand that when we desperately want to forget someone,

Those who have had a profound impact on our lives are not easily forgotten. They have become an integral part of who we are, woven into the fabric of our being.

If I might suggest, the best course of action would be to remember her.

It might be helpful to recall the warmth or coldness, the beauty or ugliness, the compassion or lessons she taught. In the days ahead, you might consider nourishing yourself with the good parts and staying away from harm with the bad parts.

So, the departure of someone is not meant to make you forget, but to give you some time for yourself. Perhaps three months or three years, or maybe even longer, to not think about her so much.

Then, we have to rely on our own energy to gradually rebuild our lives after experiencing emotional challenges. We can also try planting small seeds in the scorched soil, one by one.

This seed could be about your learning, your growth, your tomorrow, and your dreams.

If you believe in your own abilities, you may find that one day, the seeds you have sown will sprout, grow leaves, flowers, and bear fruit.

When that day comes, perhaps it would be best not to thank the person who once made you cry and broke your heart.

I believe this is a fitting reward for your efforts.

Pain is a temporary experience. It is not exclusive to you, but something many of us go through.

It is, however, certain that not everyone is brave enough to face it all and believe that they can rely on their own energy to come back to life.

Could I ask you to consider whether you believe in yourself?

If you do, I believe you will eventually see the seeds sprouting from the ground, the new leaves unfolding, the flowers blooming, and the fruits ripening.

Hi, host. I'm lucky to share this topic with you. After reading your comment, I feel you're writing a secret love diary. It feels like the person inside you is experiencing the emotions of joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness.

The answerer wants to hug you. You have complex feelings. It's hard to describe them. This process is similar to being in a "one-sided love" situation. The other person is excellent. You want what you can't have. It's painful.

Sometimes when we fall in love, it's because we like being with that person. They make us like ourselves more, but we often mistake the object of our 'obsession'.

We all want to be complete. We get this from self-growth and from bonding with others.

This is how our minds protect us.

For example, we play songs we like on repeat. This makes us feel good.

The emotion in our hearts is aroused by the song's elements, creating a beautiful resonance that lets us see the beauty and excitement within ourselves.

The answerer believes you must have the same expectations for a beautiful self.

When you meet a beautiful woman, you want to get close to her and become more beautiful.

If we like a rose, we want to pick it and take it home. If we love it, we want to water it and make it bloom.

This is the difference between "like" and "love."

Our desires to possess cause us suffering because we cannot love.

True love is care, protection, and blessings.

If you want to keep this idea of "the bitterness of not getting what you want" as a premise,

After you know the difference between "like" and "love,"

Let's start again with blessings for the other person.

No matter what, you'll always be grateful and kind. Having someone in your life helps you see the way forward and become a better person.

Best wishes!

Hello, and thank you for your question. I'm learning in silence.

First of all, congratulations! You have someone you like, which is a great start.

I know you're feeling down because the person you like doesn't feel the same way.

But it doesn't matter. Love is a two-way street.

If we like each other, we can just wish each other well.

In the meantime, remember to take care of yourself. It's natural to want to indulge yourself when you're feeling down.

At the same time, it will feel even more painful. So it's important to love yourself.

If we love ourselves well, it will show in how we treat others.

You have to believe that someone out there will love you. So if you want to wait until that day,

If you want to wait until the right person comes along, make yourself happy and do your own thing.

Make yourself a better person. That way,

When you meet someone you like, you'll be a better version of yourself.

If so, you might be able to get together.

If you want to move on from him, you need to focus on making yourself better.

Make time to read and study every day, and take some time to think and reflect. Focus on improving yourself and raising your standards.

It doesn't matter if it's an image that makes you afraid to eat or an inner expression, you're good at it. This way, some people should take the initiative to chase you. If there are more people chasing you, you may also meet someone you like.

That way, you can move on from him.

Remember, if you want to love others, you've got to love yourself first. So, do you think some of the things you just described are good for you?

If you feel like you're being a bit indulgent, then I need to make sure I'm taking care of myself.

That way, you can meet someone who likes you and someone you like.

You've got to believe that you'll meet someone who likes you and you like him. The fastest way to move on is to meet someone new and better.

You are worth having.

I hope you can also find happiness. If you have time, chat with friends or go shopping with friends.

I'm not sure if you enjoy reading. Books can sometimes make people lose track of time.

Forget everything. At the same time, you can work on improving yourself.

Make the right choices.

I wish you the best. The world and I love you.

From your description, I see a victim who is suffering physically and mentally because of their emotions. The reason I say you are a victim is because from your description I can see that you blame yourself. You keep asking why you like someone, and why you like someone who can't get you.

Then, in this mood, I hear your own emotional rejection of yourself, feeling that you shouldn't like people. But on the contrary, people have all kinds of emotions, and liking and loving happen naturally!

I see that you care about yourself and are taking steps to help yourself. I want to praise the original poster for that! You are facing your issues head-on and recognizing that you love that part of yourself.

Let's dive in and figure out whether our experience of these troubles is good or bad. Then, we can decide what we want to do about it!

Let's accept the reasons for our feelings! It's because of the frustration and pain of unrequited love.

If I have never fought back, I'm excited to find out how this resistance proceeds and if it eases after it has proceeded!

So, let's take care of ourselves! It is already very painful to be unable to love ourselves, and are our blame and non-acceptance exacerbating this pain? Am I also being hurt in this kind of relationship?

And the best part is, I can take care of myself and prevent this kind of harm! I can take care of my body!

Instead of drinking and staying up late to brood, let's try something new! Let's separate me from this part of my emotions. Do I love me as a person? Absolutely! Do I take care of my body as a person? You bet! And how can I make my body feel comfortable? Let's find out together!

Second, I'm excited to explore how I can reach an agreement with myself to make my heart less troubled and painful!

Make loving your body a habit, and you'll be amazed at how quickly you achieve inner peace! You'll also see that love and unrequited love are just two states of emotion.

It is an incredible experience! I truly hope you will gradually become aware of your heart and love.

And it will ultimately improve your state!

Hello, dear host!

I'm so sorry to hear your story and see you struggling in pain!

It's clear that the host is a very emotional and sentimental person.

People who value relationships can get hurt because they care too much about the other person, which is totally understandable!

But there's another great thing about being this way: you can love completely and get the most happiness!

While some folks are more rational and tend to hide their feelings and weigh the pros and cons,

I know you'll try to be kind, but you might not get the best emotions and happiness either!

So no matter what personality trait, there are two sides to it.

But one thing I can say is that he is a little too indulgent, and this has brought him a bit of suffering instead.

But one thing I can say is that he is a little too indulgent, and this has brought him some pain instead.

People with this kind of emotion are often influenced by what they see around them.

It might feel like someone's appearance has upset you,

But the truth is, the host is more fragile at heart and can't let go, which can be really painful.

The absolute best state in love should be mutual affection. At this time, the two people are happy and won't suffer.

We can all relate to feeling afraid of a situation where "the lover is affectionate, but the concubine is indifferent." It's natural to feel this way. We can only control our own feelings, and there's nothing we can do about other people.

If you don't want to suffer in love, you can adjust your state of mind, my friend.

1. It's okay to recognize the facts and let go of a love that just isn't meant to be.

In love, the best state is mutual affection. We all know that forcing a relationship will not make it sweet.

But when it comes to ourselves, we all know reason doesn't always help. It's okay to feel the pain, we've all been there.

If you're willing to keep struggling in pain, not wanting to let go, not letting go, you'll continue to be in pain.

It's okay if you can't let go immediately. Just take your time and let go slowly.

You can focus on your studies, your career, your family, and your love life!

You've got so much going on already, so let love find you naturally.

When you become good, love will find you, my dear friend.

It's so important to find someone who is like-minded. When you do, love is only sweet, not painful.

2. When there's no one to rely on, you've got to be your own strong support.

The host is a great guy, but he needs to watch out for himself. He's got a lot on his plate, and if he doesn't take care of himself, it'll end up hurting him.

It's so hard when your heart is restless and you can't find peace. And it's really tough when you can't find someone to rely on.

It's so important to be a strong tree, standing up for yourself. And if you're not strong, you can't help anyone, so it's really important to look after yourself.

I'm not sure that's right, sweetheart.

3. Love is about completion, not possession.

The poster said something really interesting. She said that when you like someone, you see only that person in your eyes. It doesn't matter how attractive the opposite sex is in front of you. They can't compare to the person you like!

How can you stop liking this person, my dear?

Oh, absolutely! The poster just likes this person at the moment. When you like someone, it can feel a bit possessive, but love is all about fulfillment. It's not about owning someone or anything like that.

I really hope the other person is happy, even if they're not around. If you can upgrade your feelings for this person to love, your heart will be filled with joy and love, not pain.

So the host doesn't need to do it in a way that makes them dislike or hate this person to forget them.

Instead, to truly fill one's heart with love means that the poster truly understands what love is and has grown.

I really hope the poster doesn't hurt herself. It would be so great if she could learn to love herself before loving others!

I'm sending you lots of warm June love! I love you, world, and I hope you love yourself too!

Hello, question asker!

I'm Xiaobai, and I'm here to help! I'm free of worry, and I'm excited to help you get rid of yours.

After carefully reading your experience and answering the other questions from the original poster, I can see that you're ready and eager to gradually improve and move forward!

I'm excited to share some of my views and suggestions with you, hoping they'll help you!

Falling for someone who doesn't like you is probably like this: you have to wait and be disappointed, be determined and hesitant, be proactive and sad at the same time. But it's also an opportunity to learn and grow!

But in the adult world, falling in love is accidental, and being unable to love is the norm. Even if the person you like doesn't like you back, you have the opportunity to learn to get used to it and be open about it!

You know best whether someone likes you or not, and that's a great thing!

But the best thing adults are good at is not being able to wake up, but self-deception and self-comfort. You know that she didn't reply to your message because she was busy, but because she didn't care. But you lie to yourself and say that as long as she replies, she cares, and that's a great thing!

You know that if you don't contact her, she may never think of you again, but you comfort yourself by saying that it doesn't matter who makes the first move!

It's incredible how you've been saddened by her a hundred times and know she'll make you sad a thousand or ten thousand times, yet you still manage to forget all that bad stuff!

It's a bummer when someone likes you back, but they don't. You have to keep lying to yourself to find the courage to carry on, but you'll be amazed at what you discover!

❤️Embrace the love you can't have! Accept it, forgive it, and move on.

When we were young, we always talked about love for lifetimes when we talked about love. We took a lifetime, or even several lifetimes, as the duration of love. Later, we realized that the duration of love is not that long, and it may end in our early thirties, and we still haven't found love. But that's OK! There's still plenty of time for love to find us.

In life, we not only keep meeting people, but also keep forgetting and saying goodbye. There is only so much space in everyone's heart, so let the wrong person go and make room for the right person to move in! In the world of adults, there is less pretense and more excitement!

We've all learned that in this world, you can't always get what you want. But you can learn to accept regrets, tolerate imperfections, and say goodbye!

I really hope that the next time you meet, you will look absolutely amazing, be completely decent, and be truly excellent. I really hope you are worthy of love and deserve to be treated with the utmost care. Oh, and also, if you don't like a girl, don't mess with her, because she will be tempted, and that's not good for anyone.

In summary, these are some of my views and suggestions, and I really hope they can help!

Wishing you the very best!

I just wanted to say that I'm here for you. I really want to give you a hug and give you strength because I know that you really need the trust and support of others right now. I will be someone you can trust. First of all, I understand that you have just experienced the struggle of overcoming depression. You really want to become the person you want to be, and you don't want depression to affect your life and relationships. Everyone who is depressed really wants to get rid of these feelings as soon as possible. So I suggest:

First, it's important to let your emotions out, but don't be too hard on yourself or indulge too much. If you make a bad decision, it'll just add to our problems and take more effort to solve. This won't help us recover from depression (you said you're already on the mend, so don't stress and try to relax). If you can, go out with friends and sing, or if you're alone, have a good cry. Crying can be a great way to feel better sometimes, and it's a good way to let our emotions out.

Second, accept your emotions. We all encounter people who like us and people who don't like us in our lives. This is all part of life's experience. Our lives are still very long, so we still have a lot of time to experience and embrace the different processes of life. This is also an opportunity for us to grow and exercise. Perhaps at first we can't accept that others don't love us or that the people we like don't love us. These life experiences will at some point give us an understanding of loving and being loved in our own lives in the future. Everyone has the choice to love or not love. Only when we learn to accept these emotions in ourselves will we perhaps understand what it is that makes the other person not perceive our feelings. Perhaps when you truly accept your current situation, slowly feel yourself, and find problems in yourself more, the situation may turn around again.

Third, remember to cherish what you have! This could be the present moment, the depression you've already overcome, your body, your health, or the people who like you and treat you well. These things will help you find the strength to come out of your low mood and embrace the sunny days ahead!

Fourth, take a break from what you don't like, do what you enjoy, and see things from a new angle. Sometimes, life just happens, and when you accept that, you can focus on yourself. You matter most, and being your true self will make you happier.

I know it's tough, but I'm here to tell you to cheer up! The future will get better and better, I promise!