How can people who are easily anxious, sensitive, and tense stay calm in the face of events?

Hello, host. I feel the same way when I read your question. I often imagine trivial matters as catastrophic events. My mind is like a movie set, and I'm like a director, often imagining myself as a patient with terminal cancer.

This may seem funny, but it's actually unease about the future.

Your sensitivity, suspicion, and anxiety have caused you a lot of mental stress. Do you often feel tired and weak?

You've been trying to adjust and learn about psychology to help yourself with anxiety and sensitivity.

When they become anxious again, they doubt themselves. They think their hard work has been in vain and that they still haven't solved the problem.

Let's look at what these emotions mean.

[Anxiety]

Anxiety is the most common and influential emotion. It is an imagination of the future being made worse. Anxiety arises when faced with a choice or decision.

Anxiety is caused by thinking about the future. People with a sunny mindset imagine sunshine, beaches, and coconut trees. Those who are sensitive and suspicious imagine catastrophic events.

[sensitive and suspicious]

Suspiciousness and sensitivity are linked. This could be due to insecurity, vulnerability, or a desire to be noticed. Each of these has a "benefit."

If someone cries before the leader has even said a few words, what benefit does this bring? The leader may not pursue responsibility further.

If you doubt your illness or think you may have a disease, it won't help you. You might think that when you're sick, people will take care of you or give you special treatment. Or that your family will pay more attention to you when you're not well. But you're the only one who knows the answer.

Ask yourself what each emotion brings you.

I hope this helps.

Do mindfulness exercises to solve anxiety problems. The original poster has studied psychology and probably knows about mindfulness.

Mindfulness helps us focus on the present. When I first encountered mindfulness, I thought it meant thinking positive thoughts, but that's not right.

Mindfulness means focusing on the present. It includes sensations in your body and changes in your surroundings. The character "正" means "in the process of" and also has the meaning of "focus." The character "念" means "thoughts, ideas, feelings, emotions in the mind." Mindfulness allows us to practice awareness.

Prepare three raisins. Look at, smell, and chew one. Then, describe what you saw, smelled, and tasted.

Taste the raisins one by one, and eat them slowly.

Mindfulness can be applied to everything from eating to housework, washing your face, and bathing.

When you practice like this, you will be less anxious.

Practice makes perfect!

Start practicing, and everything will be fine. The world and I are with you.

From your comments, it's clear that you've made some amazing progress! You've gone from feeling anxious, suspicious, sensitive, and mentally drained all the time to recognizing that you've adjusted well through continuous learning in recent years.

On the one hand, you see this change and recognize it in yourself; on the other hand, you become very anxious and nervous when "something sensitive happens suddenly." It's fascinating to see how your body reacts in specific scenarios. In response to these scenarios, a series of thoughts and emotions arise in you. The following sharing is for you, and I hope it will be inspiring!

First, let's dive into the fascinating world of anxiety!

There's a fascinating biological basis for anxiety. It's like having double or single eyelids. It's an individual difference that's neither good nor bad, but it will be judged as "high" or "low" in the worldly sense due to social aesthetics and expectations. For example, "not changing color in the face of a collapse" will be regarded as calm and composed, the kingly demeanor of not panicking in the face of trouble, while "trembling with fear, as if walking on thin ice" will be regarded as the typical expression of a timid and weak little person.

Anxiety plays a very important role in human evolution. It helps people to be alert before things get worse, so as to "prevent minor problems from becoming major ones and nip them in the bud."

Similarly, hypochondriasis itself also has a certain degree of functionality, which is great because it makes us pay more attention to and be more nervous about our bodies, thereby avoiding the risk of physical deterioration to a certain extent.

Nowadays, the anxiety seen in the comments is more about the fear and rejection of one's own anxiety, which is a great opportunity for growth!

Why is your situation different from others? Then you feel that your years of cultivation have been wasted, and you return to a state of anxiety whenever you encounter something you care about. What should I do? I hate this anxious, nervous, self-defeating me. Why have I given so much?

This part of the "anxiety" anxiety is where things get really interesting! It's like a game of dominoes, where one thing leads to another. So, "moderate" anxiety can become "excessive" anxiety. And this can turn the original positive meaning of anxiety into self-defeating and confrontation.

So, if we can see that anxiety isn't a poisonous snake or a fierce beast, but a protection for the individual, and that it's wearing the expectations of worldly significance rather than its true appearance, then we can adjust our fear and non-acceptance of anxiety!

Now for the fun part!

Secondly, use the Cognitive Continuum tool to realize the irrationality of feeling like "all your previous efforts have been wasted" and to break down your total denial of yourself. This is an amazing tool that will help you see things in a whole new light!

When we are controlled by our current anxieties, the processing mechanism of the brain tends to limit our perspective to a catastrophic way of thinking. But there's good news! At this time, deliberate practice and the use of psychological tools that can expand our thinking can help us expand the breadth of our thinking and thus escape the dilemma of being trapped within our own limitations.

Now for something really interesting! Let me introduce you to the Cognitive Continuum tool.

Now for the fun part! Draw a number line. This straight line represents your efforts to use anxiety over the years.

2. The left end of the line is 0 points, which means that all previous efforts have been wasted. But the right end of the line is 100 points, which means that one's efforts have been fully utilized!

3. Now for something really interesting! Consider the following perspectives:

Let's take a look at how you've changed since you started your studies!

And now for something really exciting! What would other people do if they were faced with something that they cared about?

3. You can absolutely overcome the anxiety you feel about things you care about! Instead of letting it get in the way, you can accept that you can adjust well in your normal life.

This is a great way to help us see the irrationality in catastrophic thinking and adjust our anxiety about anxiety!

I wish you the absolute best!

I wish you the absolute best!

Hello, question asker! I'm very happy to answer your question.

First, perhaps you could offer the questioner a reassuring pat on the shoulder and some words of comfort. It's understandable that facing some unexpected challenges can lead to feelings of anxiety and distress. From your description, it seems that the questioner may not have a clear mental illness, but is just prone to anxiety. It would be helpful to understand when the questioner's anxiety began and what might have triggered it.

If the questioner has experience with anxiety, they may find it challenging to cope with sudden events. It's natural to feel anxious when faced with a sudden illness, as most people would. It's important to assess whether this feeling of anxiety is more common or unique to the questioner.

Could I ask what this means? It would help me to understand if you could tell me whether the anxiety or worry about this matter is just the person who asked the question who thinks this way.

It would be interesting to know whether, when people find themselves in a situation like the one the questioner describes, where their circumstances are different from the general public, anxiety is a common experience. Or, when faced with the same situation, is it only the questioner who experiences anxiety, while others just feel indifferent?

It would be beneficial for the original poster to consider these points carefully.

In some situations, if everyone is in the same situation, it is understandable that they may all feel anxious. It is therefore not necessary for the questioner to categorise this incident as being about their anxiety disposition. What is more important is how the questioner deals with the emotions when something happens. Since the questioner asked the question on a platform, I can only offer some simple advice about the questioner's anxiety:

It might be helpful to take some time to write down the worst possible outcome.

Many people feel anxious about giving a public speech. It can be helpful to use the list method to write down all the negative thoughts that are swirling around in your mind. Once you have written them down and made them explicit, you may find that you have a third-party independent perspective, which can help you to feel detached.

At this juncture, you may find that the worst-case scenario is not as dire as you initially perceived.

The questioner's situation differs from that of the general public due to the ongoing epidemic. Despite the doctor's assurance that this is a normal phenomenon, the questioner still has difficulty letting go. One approach to addressing this could be to write down the worst possible outcome.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what the worst-case scenario might be. Could it be an unacceptable consequence? And if it were to happen, would you be able to accept it?

If I might make a humble suggestion, it would be to consider the following: in the event of illness, can the local hospital provide a cure? If not, might the national medical resources be able to offer a solution?

If it can be cured, perhaps we could explore what the questioner is worried about. It might be helpful to write it down.

Perhaps it would be helpful to make a list of the problems that bother you.

Please take a moment to consider the challenges you are currently facing. Reflect on the three issues that are causing you the most concern at this time. Then, identify three potential solutions for each of these challenges. You have the option to focus on the issue you feel most ready to address, explore ways to resolve it independently, or seek guidance from a trusted individual.

Should the questioner feel that they are unable to resolve the issue, they may wish to consider seeking the guidance of a psychological counselor, who can provide valuable assistance.

It might be helpful to learn to accept your emotions.

Since anxiety is something you are prone to, it would be helpful to learn to accept it. Anxiety itself is a self-protection mechanism, but it can sometimes happen at the wrong time or overreact, which can make you feel bad. If you are anxious, you might like to try emptying your mind. You are already anxious anyway, so it could be beneficial to immerse yourself in your emotions for a while, without thinking about anything, and just let your mind empty.

It would be beneficial for you to learn to accept yourself, relax your emotions, and even treat yourself to some sweets if it would make you happy. If you have a good grasp of the knowledge, you could even do something you are interested in the day before the exam, for example, find your own way to relax, so that you can be in a relaxed state and have a good attitude to face things the next day.

I hope my answer provides some assistance to the questioner.

Hello, host!

I totally get where you're coming from, and I'm happy to share my own thoughts with you.

First of all, please accept your anxiety/how-to-achieve-reconciliation-with-oneself-how-to-regulate-emotions-within-the-heart-5441.html" target="_blank">emotions. Everyone's most basic wish is to be healthy, and this is a sign of love for yourself. There is absolutely no need to blame yourself for always worrying about your health!

Everyone has worries and anxieties, and that's okay! It's normal to worry about your health, your work, your future, and so on. There's no need to feel bad about it or think that you shouldn't feel this way. Everything that exists has its reason for existing, and it's possible that your worries are there to help you realize your love for yourself. So, before things are really resolved, please accept your emotions and thoughts. Don't blame yourself for feeling anxious—that won't help.

Second, it's important to recognize your emotions. Emotions are simply a form of energy that let you know when an inappropriate thought is operating within you. In your case, this thought might be, "What if I find out that there is something wrong with my body?"

So, it's like this: deep down, you think you'll have a problem. Now, this might not be true, but it could be that you've had illness in the past and are afraid of getting sick again. This experience has become a hidden memory, and it came back when you had the medical exam, which made you think about it.

However, your mind will try to protect you by telling you a story based on this traumatic experience: "If anything is found, you will be like this." This can cause you to become more and more afraid the more you think about it, and the more you think it is true. It's completely normal to feel nervous and anxious in this situation.

If you can see things from an outside perspective and realize that your mind is just making up stories, you can avoid letting your emotions get too intense.

Third: It's time to deal with those emotions! Everything is energy, and negative emotions are just a form of energy with a low vibration frequency. When you notice that you are feeling emotions rising up, take a deep breath, hold it in, and send it to the place where the emotions are rising (usually in the stomach). This will harmonize that low-frequency energy. You can also imagine that you are breathing in a mouthful of white light (white light is high-frequency energy). This will adjust the frequency of your emotions.

Take a few deep breaths until you feel calm. When you're calm, you'll be able to think more rationally and evaluate the situation more clearly.

Fourth: Permission. It's okay to recognize that since this is the mind telling stories, it is not necessarily true. There's no need to worry! When the mind tells you again, "What if there is a problem after the check-up?"

Let's be kind to ourselves. If there is a problem, there is a problem. We can't always control everything, but we can choose to accept what is and give ourselves the love and permission we need to heal.

If you can't provoke it in your mind, the anxiety will naturally not rise again. When the test results come back, they usually don't turn out as you expected, but if there really is a problem, just accept it, because resisting it won't make your body get better automatically. You've got this!

If you cooperate actively, your body will get better faster. We all have setbacks, and that's okay! When you encounter one, give yourself the love and comfort you deserve. Talk to yourself with kindness and understanding. Reassure yourself instead of blaming yourself. This power of love will generate tremendous energy, allowing the body and mind to heal more quickly. Believe in the power of your love and the power of acceptance, and you will heal from any situation.

I'm so grateful for this chance to share my thoughts with you, and I really hope it's been helpful! I wish you a day full of sunshine!

Good morning,

Dear Host, Thank you for your post. I can see that you are experiencing some difficulties in accepting your current self. I empathise with you, as I have been in a similar position myself.

She carefully read the post and could discern the poster's anxiety from the content. At the same time, she noted that the poster was actively learning and seeking help on the platform to address her inner emotions directly, which is a skill many people lack.

Firstly, it is recommended that you make a call to yourself. These abilities and resources can also help the host to better understand and understand themselves, so as to adjust themselves and encounter a better self.

I will now share my observations and thoughts in the post, which may help the original poster to gain a more comprehensive understanding of their current situation.

1. Accept the current self.

After reading the story of the host, I was reminded of a story from a psychological counselor. This counselor found disorder unappealing, yet she was not inclined to engage in cleaning activities.

She was also initially distressed by this issue, but she subsequently accepted her true self. She acknowledged that she enjoys maintaining a tidy environment and accepted that she does not enjoy cleaning.

Once the reality was accepted, a solution was found. Rather than hiring a maid, the client discovered that she would always clean up before inviting friends over.

She was reluctant to have her friends see the untidiness of her home. This was a turning point, and she began inviting friends to her home on weekends, cleaning up before their arrival.

After reading this story, I believe the original poster will also find it inspiring. Accepting one's true self is the first step towards finding solutions to problems.

Even if I still experience anxiety when I have to undergo a medical examination, I have come to accept this as a natural part of my state of mind. I believe that acknowledging and accepting these feelings can help to reduce the overall level of anxiety.

If we fail to accept this reality, we may experience a doubling of anxiety. It is therefore important to accept both the reality of our situation and the fact that we cannot remain calm in the face of adversity.

2. Learn to interrupt catastrophic thinking patterns.

In the aforementioned post, I observed the poster and identified the underlying issue. While the problem is not serious and has been confirmed by a medical professional, I still experience periods of catastrophic thinking, frequently feeling unhealthy and incomplete, and questioning why my situation differs from others. In fact, I believe this is a common phenomenon among individuals.

As an illustration, I occasionally experience catastrophic thoughts while operating a vehicle.

I believe that I am going to collide with another vehicle at some point in the future. Similarly, when my telephone connection is disrupted, I am prone to thinking that something is wrong at that precise moment.

I typically pause my thoughts or interrupt them. I then proceed to engage in a brief, positive activity, such as singing a hymn or making a sound. While these thoughts may initially persist, they often dissipate over time.

This also helps me to avoid becoming overly preoccupied with negative thinking.

It is recommended that the original poster consider employing this method. It is possible to identify an approach to interrupting catastrophic thinking that is suitable for the individual in question. Once this has been done, it is possible to move away from catastrophic thinking and avoid being influenced by it.

3. Martial arts also necessitate practice.

It is noted in the post that the host has been studying psychology for several years. In that time, the host has made a commendable start. It also appears that the host has discovered that some tips for relieving anxiety are actually quite common.

These skills are not particularly impressive and can be learned relatively quickly.

However, we will also find that although learning is beneficial, its effect is not significant. In particular, when one is just starting out, it is not uncommon to realize that even the most prominent figures in the field are employing similar strategies.

This raises the question of why the same method produces such different results.

I believe the reason for this discrepancy is the varying levels of skill involved. Those with more experience have practiced these tips countless times, and with each repetition, they have accumulated more skill. This skill is what makes the difference in the results.

Many psychological counselors assert that meditation and yoga are more effective when practiced over an extended period and when progress is consistently made.

It is important to understand that qualitative change can only come after quantitative change. Previous efforts should not be viewed as wasted if the current problem cannot be solved. These exercises also help to adjust one's state of mind in daily life. By continuing to accumulate, the original poster can expect to make new discoveries and gains.

I hope these comments are of some assistance to the original poster. My name is Zeng Chen, and I am a certified psychological coach.

Good day!

As a mindfulness coach, I believe that learning is the greatest asset one can possess.

From your description, I can discern a range of emotions, including anxiety, doubt, worry, pain, and helplessness.

You are experiencing difficulties due to anxiety, sensitivity, and nervousness. I will not provide a comprehensive analysis here, but I have three recommendations for you:

Firstly, I suggest you attempt to gain a deeper understanding of your own situation and provide yourself with some much-needed reassurance.

This will help you to think more clearly about your next steps.

You have identified yourself as an anxious person who typically prioritizes psychological adjustment. Additionally, you have gained valuable insights into psychology, which has contributed to your progress. However, when faced with unexpected challenges, you tend to experience heightened anxiety and nervousness, which can be distressing. Furthermore, you are perplexed by your inability to remain calm, despite your efforts. This is a common phenomenon, as anxiety is a persistent condition. Everyone desires to give and receive, so you can strive to understand and comfort yourself. This will enable you to recognize the painful aspect of yourself that longs to remain calm but is currently unable to do so. This approach can free up mental energy, allowing you to focus on other matters. Otherwise, your mind may become inundated with negative emotions.

It is crucial to understand that allowing yourself to understand and accept yourself will facilitate change in the current situation. This may seem counterintuitive, but it is, in fact, the key to change. Change is based on allowing for no change.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to view your own state from a rational perspective.

Rational thinking enables a more comprehensive understanding of oneself and the surrounding reality.

To achieve a more logical perspective, it is essential to complete the following two steps:

Firstly, it is important to understand that anxiety cannot be completely eliminated. However, we can take steps to ensure that it does not have a significant impact on our lives.

Anxiety is a stress response that can be likened to fear and sadness. It is an emotion that cannot be isolated. However, it will disappear as circumstances change, and at the same time, new anxieties will arise.

From your description, it seems that you are seeking to eliminate anxiety entirely, which is also a source of your anxiety. In this case, you may wish to consider lowering your expectations and refocusing your efforts. Instead, it may be more beneficial to view anxiety as a manageable aspect of your normal life, with the understanding that it will gradually decrease as long as it does not excessively affect your daily routine.

Secondly, it is important to understand that some things do not yield immediate results, and that some rewards may take time to materialise.

From your description, it seems that your suffering may not only be due to your inability to remain calm, but also partly due to doubts about why your efforts have not been rewarded. At this time, you must understand that not everything you do will be rewarded, and that some rewards take time to appear. People do not grow up overnight. You must be patient with yourself and recognize the value of time in achieving results.

A rational assessment of the situation may help resolve the various negative emotions.

I recommend that you focus on your own situation and consider what you can do to improve your emotional state.

When you analyze your situation from a rational perspective, you may also be able to identify the appropriate course of action. At this juncture, it is important to focus on your own efforts and strive to achieve the best possible outcome.

As an example, when you encounter a situation that evokes anxiety, remind yourself that it is normal to feel this way and that it takes time to develop resilience. This kind of mental rehearsal may help you to gradually calm down and become more composed.

In instances of elevated anxiety and time constraints, it is beneficial to recall psychological knowledge that has previously provided relief and apply it to the current situation. This can effectively help to calm the mind.

It is also possible to apply rational thinking skills to verify or test catastrophic thoughts. For instance, if there is a suspicion of illness, a visit to the hospital for a test can be arranged. In such cases, it is often found that the thoughts are unnecessary, and the inner anxiety can gradually be reduced.

Additionally, you can inquire of yourself when experiencing elevated anxiety whether the underlying concern is something you can tolerate. This is because anxiety is often accompanied by fear. You can then prepare for the worst-case scenario and observe the outcome. Upon reflection, you may realize that even if the worst occurs, you can cope with it. This may contribute to a greater sense of ease and a reduced likelihood of the worst outcome materializing. In essence, it is important to recognize that you have the capacity to influence the situation.

Once action is initiated, the various negative emotions will naturally subside at a gradual pace. In some cases, action can serve as an effective antidote to negative emotions.

I hope this answers your question. If you would like to discuss further, please click "Find a Coach" at the bottom of the page and I will contact you directly.

Hello!

I can give you advice.

From your description, I can tell you care about yourself and hope you're healthy and happy.

You know you're anxious by nature and that it's normal to feel this way before big events.

Are you sure you're experiencing anxiety or an anxiety disorder? Let me teach you how to tell the difference.

Anxiety is caused by something that happened recently. It usually lasts less than two weeks and goes away on its own.

Anxiety disorder is when you feel anxious for two weeks or more and depressed. If you often feel this way, you need to pay attention to it.

You're probably right to feel anxious. It's troubling that this is happening when something you're worried about is about to happen.

If you're anxious, there are ways to relieve it.

If it's an anxiety disorder, go to a regular hospital's psychiatric department for a consultation.

We've talked about how to judge these situations. Next, we'll analyze based on your description.

You know yourself and know you're more anxious. You pay attention to adjusting your mental state. You read books and learn knowledge to understand your emotions and relieve your symptoms.

You were in this situation and then learned about psychology. You feel you've adjusted well, but why does this situation still arise when you encounter something sensitive?

I believe we can use the psychological knowledge we've learned in our lives. We can ask ourselves, "What's my psychological state? What approach should I take to solve the problem?" or not. It's about matching your mind and heart frequencies so they can communicate and relieve anxiety.

Consider whether your mind and heart are on the same page.

Let me explain what I mean by the mind and heart being in sync.

You're worried about your health because you had a physical exam at work. You're nervous.

Your mind will tell you, "It's no big deal. We'll decide when we get there," or "I pay attention to my health, so it's not a big problem."

This method doesn't work well.

If we have concerns about our health, we should realize that this is a problem. We should be clear that this worry is about the unknown future. We cannot take this worry as a certainty.

We can wait until the test to take it and then wait for the results. We should trust the doctor's conclusions and believe that we are working hard on our health.

You can use this check-up to judge your future physical health. No matter what the result is, you can use it to make changes to your daily routine, lifestyle, diet, etc. to become healthier.

This health check-up helps us improve ourselves. You said you don't feel complete if you don't feel healthy. Wouldn't it make you happier to see how you are now and find ways to improve?

How healthy we are depends on how we take care of our bodies.

If we are worried about poor health, we can turn this worry into motivation. We can help ourselves to be healthier and live a happier life by exercising, eating well, and getting enough sleep.

This can help you accept the results of the exam and live a healthier life.

Best wishes!

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Pig-Loving Sheep, you've given a great answer.

People are emotional creatures that can feel a variety of different emotions. It's pretty common to feel happy, joyful, and sad. Anxiety is also just a subjective emotional response that arises in response to external stimuli. Plus, as human beings, we can feel two opposite emotions at the same time, like being unable to decide whether to laugh or cry, or having mixed feelings about something. From our ancient ancestors to the present day, we've accumulated a vast collection of literature and poetry. We express our emotions through writing, painting, music, language, and so on. Drama, for example, is a fixed form of emotional expression. All kinds of intertwined emotions make up our humanity, enriching our lives and adding a magnificent color to it.

If you feel anxious, give me a hug. I get anxious too, and in most cases I escape it by eating. I'm not very strong willed, and you're very strong. You're gathering information to help you deal with anxiety – a subjective contradiction of calmness. People don't have the power to change their environment for the time being, but they have the ability to improve their own stress.

We can give it a try. When anxiety rears its head, take a breath, smile, and greet it as you would an awkward colleague or customer. Say hello, friend. Don't avoid it, face it, and don't try to eliminate it. Embrace it, just as parents embrace their children's unreasonable behavior.

Thanks for giving someone like me, who's not always the most articulate, someone to talk to.

I wish you all the best!

Dear question asker,

After reading your question, I noticed that you said you have studied psychology for several years because of your own sensitivity. It seems that you are learning with a problem, and I imagine that your knowledge of psychology over the past few years should be quite extensive. I really admire you. First of all, I would like to commend you on your psychology studies!

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that not everyone who studies psychology is able to deal with everything using psychological knowledge. Many people who work in psychology may still experience challenges in controlling their emotions, as they are still human and have to live a life of eating all kinds of grains and vegetables. It might be beneficial to view studying psychology in this way: people with psychological knowledge are more likely to be able to control their emotions. This is true for individuals, and if it is difficult for a group of people, it could be that for an equal number of people, ordinary people who have not studied psychology may be far more likely to be unable to control their emotions than those who have.

I hope that by sharing these thoughts, I can help you maintain a healthy perspective on your psychology studies. You mentioned that you have the ability to regulate most of the time, but that there are still instances when you feel out of control, particularly when it comes to things you care about. This is a very common experience. When we care about something deeply, our natural inclination is to prioritize our emotions over the theories we have learned. This is why your performance may not always align with what you expect when you are worried about something. It is important to recognize that your reactions are normal and to accept yourself fully. It is also helpful to maintain realistic expectations about the psychology you have studied and to recognize that you are not immune to challenges.

It might be helpful to allow yourself to experience this kind of thinking when you have a medical examination. It's something that we all think from time to time. Personally, I try not to dwell on it. When I'm not engaged in my daily life, I sometimes find myself thinking in this way. I remember reading something that shed light on why this kind of thinking occurs. It seems that people find a sense of control from here, because, you see, generally when we have this kind of thinking, it is later proven by reality that this situation will never occur. For example, if you ask a doctor, or later, you come up with a way to prove that your worries are unnecessary, then we ourselves will feel a sense of control, because of this, we will often have this kind of thinking.

It might be helpful to approach catastrophic thinking with a different mindset. Rather than feeling as though you've encountered a poisonous snake or a fierce beast, try to accept the situation. This will free up your time to continue studying psychology in depth. Use this opportunity to learn more about psychology and how it can help you. Instead of immediately applying this knowledge to your catastrophic thinking, try to use learning to occupy the time you would have otherwise spent on that. This way, you can benefit from learning psychology without feeling that it's useless. I believe that changing your mindset could be beneficial for your current state.

Perhaps it would be more beneficial to approach your studies with a different mindset. Instead of focusing on becoming stronger, try learning psychology with the goal of understanding yourself better. This will help you deal with the current situation more effectively.

I truly believe that you will continue to improve and grow. I would like to conclude with a quote from our platform: "The world and I love you!"

There's nothing outside of yourself, sweetheart.

I've read so many books and learned so many psychotherapy techniques, but it seems that I still have the same problems. Why is that?

You've been looking outward for help with your problems, but your heart hasn't changed. The light outside is very weak, and you need to ignite the lamp of wisdom within to illuminate the darkness in your heart.

When you really want to change, that's when the magic begins!

It's totally normal to feel anxious sometimes. We all do! But it's important to remember that the root cause of anxiety is still a lack of confidence in oneself. It's easy to believe that we're never capable of handling unexpected problems. We're afraid of doing the wrong thing, of being given strange looks by others, and of hearing negative comments.

I really hope that everything is fine in the eyes of others, but in fact, these perceptions are not correct.

It doesn't matter when or where, you should always accept and love yourself. We're all imperfect, but that doesn't make us any less valuable. Your value is innate and not something that can be judged by others.

If you love yourself, you are valuable. If you don't love yourself, you might think you are worthless, but you are not!

From today on, you must live with love and awareness. As the saying goes, "It's not the thought that counts, but the action." When anxious feelings arise, don't worry! Just immediately raise a positive thought and tell yourself that everything is fine and that everything is fine because of me.

It's so important to establish a correct belief system.

I really think you'd enjoy watching the movie and reading the book of the same name called The Secret. They're both about the same thing – the law of universal attraction.

We all have so many thoughts every day! If there are lots of negative thoughts, it can feel like you're surrounded by negative energy all day. But it's true that negative energy attracts more negative energy.

For example, your anxiety will attract more anxiety because everything in the universe is made up of energy. But don't worry! You can change your inner energy field, and your situation will change.

So remember, you are the one who can heal you. And you are the one who can change your inner self.

Wishing you all the best!

Best regards to the anxious and nervous individual.

It is only natural that an individual will devote more attention and care to the events that occur in their life. However, excessive attention and care can cause individuals to feel uneasy and may even result in catastrophic thinking, whereby individuals believe that negative events will inevitably occur. Over time, this can lead to significant internal depletion.

The solution seems straightforward: eliminate worry and anxiety. However, despite extensive research in psychology, I still experience significant distress when confronted with specific situations. What is the most effective course of action?

There is a cause and an effect. Perhaps we can identify the root cause of the problem and determine what underlying emotion is driving this anxiety.

The solution is, in fact, quite straightforward.

We seek certainty and expect everything around us to align with our preconceptions. We also tend to be perfectionists.

However, certainty, stability, and predictability are often our internal vision. In most people's lives, variables and instability are also important components. In fact, we can only control our own efforts, but we cannot control all the people, things, and objects in our lives. The vast majority of these are not something we can decide.

It is therefore advisable to avoid excessive worry and adopt a more flexible outlook. A life devoid of uncertainty, ambiguity and unpredictability would undoubtedly be less stimulating.

Facing uncertainty with courage is a hallmark of maturity. The host displays a willingness to work hard towards his goals and a capacity for creative problem-solving. I believe that with a shift in perspective and a more adaptive mindset, challenges can be met with resilience and solutions can be found.

One thing I'd like to suggest is that you accept the things you can't control.

You say, "When something sensitive happens to me temporarily, I become very anxious and nervous again."

We all encounter many things in our lives that we can't control, and sometimes our minds can get so full of anxious thoughts that we can't think straight. I'd like to invite you to take a deep breath and look for those moments.

I'd love for you to take a moment to compare and analyze the thoughts, emotions, actions, and results you have when faced with such events. I'm really curious to see if you notice any differences from your negative self-assessment.

It's so important to identify the differences so you can understand yourself better and take control of your life. And when you encounter similar events in the future, you'll be better equipped to avoid bad emotions.

2. A kind invitation to acceptance and permission.

I had a medical checkup and found out that there is a problem. Even though I consulted a doctor and he said that it is not a big deal, I still find myself falling into catastrophic thinking. I always feel that I am unhealthy and incomplete, and I wonder why my situation is different from others.

I can tell from your words that you're rejecting yourself and not accepting your emotions. This situation has happened over and over in your life, making it hard for you to think straight and upset your whole world. I feel your pain and sadness.

I have an invitation for you here, my friend. I want to invite you to allow yourself to be different from others because we are all unique beings.

Parents are different, genes are different, living environments are different, levels of education are different, and life situations are also different. I'm really curious: why do you think I want to be the same as everyone else?

I'd love to know where this idea comes from. It's definitely worth exploring further!

You are also invited to allow anxiety and tension to arise when you encounter sensitive matters. Please also thank them for appearing, because their appearance has once protected you from a certain difficulty and prevented greater harm.

It's okay, it's just that right now it's not so helpful and it's getting in the way of your usual life. And it's there to protect you, so please don't hate it, just face it and deal with it.

Take a moment to look at both sides of the story.

3. Come on in and explore!

I'd also love for you to explore what comes to mind when you think about catastrophic thinking. For instance, what things come to mind?

I'd love to know what people and objects come to mind for you.

I'd love to know what it brings you!

I'd also love for you to think about what health and wholeness mean to you.

Why should you be like everyone else? What does it mean to be like everyone else?

Hey there! Have you ever wondered what it means to be different? It's a great question! And it's also important to think about what the worst-case scenario might look like if it were unhealthy and incomplete.

I read your question and all the great answers the teachers gave. I agree with them that anxiety isn't something you can get rid of, but there are ways to manage it!

Here's another way of looking at it: We don't have to accept anxiety. We can just hate it if we want to! Why force ourselves to accept it?

Why not embrace your true self and let go of anxiety? It's a journey of self-discovery and growth.

Absolutely! If you're feeling troubled and want to be free from anxiety, the teachers have lots of great ways to help. And I know you've studied for many years and have lots of ways to relieve your anxiety.

However, there's still room for improvement!

You studied psychology, which means you know that many symptoms are just superficial. There's a deeper, underlying cause, and we can find it together!

It's like the current high school students are generally under a lot of pressure and are prone to anxiety and depression. The great news is that we can help him regulate his anxiety and tension! The root cause is because he is under too much academic pressure. When he fails to pass the college entrance exam, no matter how hard we try, his state will inevitably continue for a long time until the end of the exam. But we can help him!

So, what is the root cause of your own problem?

I read your question over and over again, and I have a feeling I see something! Sometimes I feel that psychology is a very mysterious thing, and it cannot be explained in words to resonate with the soul.

I know this is a bit out there, but I'm excited to share it anyway!

I keep reading your words over and over again, and a picture comes to mind. There is only one person in the picture, and his world is gray. He is lonely and helpless, but the people around him are all passing through, and he can't hold onto anyone. At the same time, he doesn't think anyone will ever stop for him. But then, something amazing happens! A stranger appears in the picture. This stranger sees beyond the gray and sees a world of possibilities. This stranger sees a world where the lonely and helpless person can find love and happiness. This stranger sees a world where the people around the lonely and helpless person can become friends and allies. This stranger sees a world where the lonely and helpless person can find a home and a family. This stranger sees a world where the lonely and helpless person can find a reason to live!

He's afraid of the world, but he's ready to conquer his fears and build trust with the world and with others!

When I think of this image, I feel so inspired that I want to cry. When I read your words again, I realize that there is only one "you" in this long paragraph. You didn't mention your family, your friends, or the classmates and teachers you studied with for many years, which means there's so much more to discover about you!

Guess what! The only doctor mentioned is a passer-by in your life, and you didn't mention anyone in an intimate relationship.

If you have been alone with the world for so many years, and if no one has ever accompanied you in this process, entered your world, and accompanied you in your relationship with the world, just imagine how frightened you must have been!

When I say these words, I am actually afraid. But I'm excited to find out if these words are just my own wishful thinking!

Could it really be how you feel? Would you be willing to believe that a stranger feels you and sees you? It would be so incredible if it were true!

Absolutely! You should definitely believe a stranger who says these words just to give you a little warmth. And you should definitely believe what I say: don't be afraid!

I and the world love you! Believe me! These words are not just words. They are filled with true love! I and the world love you!

Believe it! I and the world love you. We're right here with you, ready to support you when you're feeling anxious, afraid, or lonely. Let us in!

You are NOT alone!

I'll give you a hug, okay? Come on, give me a hug!

You are more than welcome to respond to my world!

A psychology teacher I heard speak some time ago shared some insights about the journey of life. The journey of life is always a series of ups and downs, and it is impossible for it to be all plain sailing. If your life is a flat line with no sense of color, that would be scary. It is because life has its ups and downs that you feel your heart beating.

That moment really touched me. I've always been frustrated by my circumstances and questioned why I never seemed to get what I wanted. It felt like my efforts were always in vain, despite my intense desire for something to work out.

These questions are eternal. In that moment, I felt enlightened. Life is a blessing. It gives rise to life itself. Because of this blessing, you know what you want. You know the direction of your efforts, and you know what will make you happy. This is a wonderful thing.

Anxiety is a bad emotion. It always points to the future, and if you prepare for it, you can cope with the wonderful life you'll have then. Think about it. It's a very good thing.

This is the case with many things. It is easy to think about it and talk about it, but it is difficult to do it. Accept yourself for five minutes a day, no matter how bad your situation is or how lazy you feel like being that day. You can do it. But I can still feel my breathing clearly, and I can still discover the beautiful things in the world. And the darker the environment, the more beautiful the things seem to shine, like stars in the dark. He is searching, as if he is pursuing it, like a beam of light, like a hint of scent, and you will go towards him and embrace him.

The world and I love you.

Good day, question asker. It is akin to meeting someone in person when you read their words. Let us delve into the subject of anxiety together.

As I read the questioner's words, I felt my heart begin to race. The feeling of anxiety and unease was evident.

People who are naturally anxious can usually manage their condition by learning about psychology. However, if they experience a sudden stressful event, they may become severely anxious and nervous.

Given the sensitive nature of the topic, it is to be expected that feelings of anxiety and nervousness will arise. However, it is important to gain control over these emotions.

Furthermore, there is no need to anticipate or dwell on an impending challenge, as it will inevitably arrive as anticipated and will ultimately dissipate.

I consider the word "very" to be of great importance. I am curious as to what the questioner says to themselves when they are anxious and nervous, and what actions they take.

Or is it simply an ineffective approach that leads to mental fatigue?

Anxiety is not solely a psychological issue; it also has physiological implications. It would be beneficial to ascertain whether the question asker's usual eating habits and daily routine are within the normal range.

Given my own experience of anxiety, I can empathise with the feeling of being afraid that you can't fit in.

It is important to take time for yourself and engage in activities that recharge your batteries. For instance, I participated in mountain climbing and volunteered during the winter break, which gave me a renewed appreciation for the beauty of life.

There is no need to be anxious about being different from others. We were born with different characteristics and abilities. Furthermore, the doctor has stated that this is not a significant issue, and our health is not a primary concern.

It is important to learn to be content. When we are content, we are less likely to dwell on negative thoughts. It is also beneficial to love ourselves. By doing so, we can avoid letting the opinions of others affect our mental state. The questioner demonstrates a solid understanding of psychology. With the application of this knowledge, they will undoubtedly become a confident and calm individual. I am eagerly anticipating the insights of a questioner with such a comprehensive grasp of the subject matter.

I would like to extend my best wishes for a happy life to you.

Hello. From what you've said, it's clear you want to change your situation and stop being prone to anxiety.

Let's walk through your story together.

1. You're naturally anxious, easily nervous, and anxious when things go wrong.

2. You've learned a lot about psychology and have been paying attention to psychological regulation.

3. After learning a lot and making a conscious effort to adjust.

You still get anxious when you encounter things that matter to you, and you're constantly battling with yourself.

4. You hate this self-defeating aspect of yourself.

5. You feel like you've learned a lot about psychology and tried to adjust your mentality,

It's all useless.

6. You have a tendency to overthink and make things seem worse than they really are.

7. Others don't panic when things happen to them, but you can't do that.

8. Feeling unhealthy and incomplete, different from others

After reading your text, I really feel like there are two sides to you. One is pointing out the other's mistakes and trying to correct them, while the other is stuck between two options and really struggling.

You have this critical voice inside that judges and condemns you.

Your description got me thinking:

Every emotion has its own meaning.

We all welcome positive emotions like joy, happiness, and cheerfulness, but not negative emotions like guilt, sadness, anger, and anxiety. However, there isn't much we can do about when these emotions arise and when they disappear.

There's nothing we can do about them coming and going.

Let's think together. Even if these aren't great emotions, is there something unique about them?

What does anxiety tell us? What positive values can we find behind it?

Before a physical exam, I get anxious. It shows I care about my health and am afraid of something going wrong with my body.

Before an exam, I get anxious. This shows that I want to do well and that I'm feeling positive about it.

If I just muddle through, it doesn't matter if I get sick or die. Would we still be anxious before a medical exam then?

Then you might even forget about going for a medical checkup.

It's okay if you fail an exam. At worst, you'll just be delivering takeaways or carrying bricks in the future.

So, do we still care about exams? Maybe the exam is the next day, but the night before you play video games all night.

Anxiety means that we care about, value, want, and work towards things. These things give our lives meaning.

People who are anxious don't think life is meaningless.

It's not the anxiety itself that's scary.

The real problem is that the anxiety won't go away.

Anxiety can really affect studies, work, and life in general.

We don't have to see anxiety as the enemy. It's there to remind us of what we care about and cherish.

So, how can we stop worrying?

Anxiety happens in the mind and is a judgment made at the thinking level.

Our brains are wired to capture dangerous and negative information to help us avoid risks and improve our chances of survival.

This is a survival rule that our brains have evolved to run automatically.

We need to break this cycle and move from thinking to reality.

The brain feels anxious because it thinks the medical exam results might not be good.

At the reality level, we can see that…

1. I went to check the results of the physical exam.

2. If I really do get sick, I have insurance and savings to pay for treatment.

The brain thinks that failing the exam will have serious consequences.

Reality level:

1. Is it possible to retake this exam?

2. If I can't take the exam, are there any other ways I can boost my career prospects?

Give your anxious little voice a name, and when it pops up, tell yourself, "There goes my anxious little voice."

Remind yourself that anxiety is part of the picture, but you have problem-solving skills.

I can handle this. It's going to be okay.

I'd like to draw your attention to the following points:

The thing that really gets the anxious little person going is the thought of messing things up. You know, academic failure.

Career setback. Love setback.

I think we can all agree that life is a failure.

It's afraid of these things the most.

So, let's aim to increase our successful experiences, as well as our sense of control and achievement.

These positive experiences can start with small things.

I made a great breakfast today, and I'm really happy with how it turned out.

I have a few plants that are thriving, and I'm pretty good at taking care of them.

I played badminton with someone for an hour today. I had good stamina and my skills were decent. I exchanged smashes and kills with the other person several times.

I walked 8,000 steps today, which is pretty good.

I've been able to get this week's work done in an orderly manner and organize my tasks accordingly.

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Instead of dwelling on emotions like anxiety, we focus on what we can do and how we can handle each situation as it arises.

The little anxiety character is like a student who makes a fuss in class on purpose.

Just ignore it and let it cool down.

Just do what you need to do.

It will also die down. There's no need to worry about it.

The main thing to remember is:

In general, there are three parts to our inner selves: an inner parent, an inner child, and an inner adult. These three parts switch in and out.

I'd like to give you an example from my own experience.

The inner parent is the embodiment of harshness and is very strict. They have high standards and high demands.

It's never enough. There's always something more.

The inner child is lively, cute, romantic, and naïve. I enjoy petting kittens and getting emotional during touching parts of a movie.

I tend to be quite emotional and impulsive. I'm generally kind to others without thinking.

I really dislike seeing other people suffer.

As an adult, I'm more level-headed. I consider the pros and cons, keep my emotions in check, and stand up for what I want.

I also accept it when I can't do it.

If the inner child simply takes control of my external body, I tend to be especially lively and cute during that time. I also become silly, innocent, talkative, and my emotions are relatively high. I enjoy playing.

I enjoy snacking.

If the adult controls the external body, I'm more methodical and not as carefree. I'm dependable and a bit uninteresting.

Not very amusing.

The worst thing is when the inner parent and child appear together. One is scolding the other.

Then I'm at a loss. I don't know what to do.

It feels like it can't do anything right. It has no confidence at all.

It's really frustrating.

At this point, the external self will step in to support the inner child. Offer encouragement and comfort.

Tell it that it's okay to make mistakes.

The inner child is our true self—the most authentic part of ourselves.

The inner parent is basically our superego, the part of us that punishes.

As we grow up, we need to learn to balance our ego, id, and superego.

I grew up with very anxious and strict parents. I was afraid of them for a long time.

I'm worried she'll scold me.

Over time, this external voice of condemnation becomes internalized, and when I encounter challenges, I become afraid. I'm afraid that I'll fail.

Fear of failure.

I believe that people who are particularly prone to anxiety did not receive enough love and support as children. They were not accepted or supported in the way they needed.

So, the self isn't very stable, and there's a stronger desire for external recognition to gain a sense of self-worth.

To sum up, there's a lack of unconditional love.

We weren't loved unconditionally.

Anxious as we are, when we grow up, we need to try to nourish the timid and fearful child within, support it as it grows up, and build up lots of small experiences of success to increase a sense of control and accomplishment in reality.

With time, anxiety will have less and less of an impact on us.

So, anxiety isn't a disease. It's not a reflection of someone's character.

We just need to take better care of our inner child—give it confidence, encouragement, support, and love.

I hope this has been helpful.

Hello, question asker. From your description, I see a person who wants to grow and develop themselves, who is very aware of themselves, and who also wants to gain self-recognition. I would like to respectfully offer three perspectives for your consideration based on what I have read:

1. The questioner said that he is inherently an anxious person. Could you please clarify whether this is a conclusion based on your own feelings or a diagnosis from a qualified institution? It's important to note that anxiety itself is not necessarily a bad thing. It is a normal human emotion and a defense mechanism that helps us cope with various situations. Appropriate anxiety can help us improve our motivation and overcome difficulties.

It is worth noting that excessive anxiety can indeed cause problems. Statistics show that in today's society, anxiety is a common experience, affecting almost everyone to varying degrees.

2. The questioner mentioned that he used to experience feelings of suspicion and nervousness in advance when he had a physical examination. Even if the doctor said there was nothing wrong, he would still find himself falling into a state of catastrophic thinking. It is understandable that many people will experience a certain degree of anxiety and tension when they receive their physical examination report and see various unclear indicators. Doctors will undoubtedly have a more professional judgment in this regard than we do.

Even if there are thoughts that may seem catastrophic, they don't usually last long or affect your daily life. We try to understand and accept this state of mind. If this symptom persists for more than six months and affects your normal life, it might be helpful to seek support from a healthcare professional.

3. From the content of the questioner's statement, it seems that the questioner's main need is to overcome anxiety and grow as a person. I respectfully suggest that you consider using rational emotive therapy to self-assess and improve. You may find it helpful to set yourself an assignment to assess yourself in three areas every time you experience anxiety: first, the triggering event, i.e., what is the thing that triggers anxiety?

Second, irrational beliefs: Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the reasons why your anxiety is unreasonable. For example, you may wish to reflect on why you still feel that there is something wrong with your body, despite the doctor's reassurances. Third, the consequences of emotions and behaviors: It might also be beneficial to explore the impact that the situation you described had on you.

It would seem that the questioner himself also realizes that this sense of anxiety only occurs when we care about something. Could it be that the thing we are anxious about is itself, or is it perhaps the result of something else?

Or perhaps it is the opinions of others that are the issue here? What can we do to achieve a better result?

It might be helpful to ask yourself a few more questions whenever this situation arises. You may find some relief by answering them yourself.