How can someone be so despondent at just 23 years old and live in such torment?

The good news is that you can live a happier life! It's often the case that people feel tired because they want too much and get too little. But everyone's definition of happiness is different, so there's no one standard to define it.

1. The great news is that most people in life are carrying heavy loads as they go forward!

For example, the problem mentioned by the questioner will arise every day, which is inevitable, because there is no end to solving problems. What an amazing opportunity to learn to coexist with problems and cultivate our ability to deal with them, rather than eliminating all problems!

It's true that some people around you lead carefree lives. Some rely on their own efforts, some on their family, and some on their own state of mind. Since the questioner feels that the whole world is against them, they can make a list—and then make another!

For example, I'd love to hear about the injustices you've encountered, your mental journey, how you dealt with and faced them, and how you can learn to separate in life.

2. When you encounter a problem, learn to break it down and don't over-amplify it!

An unexpected event can easily overwhelm us, and sometimes we even deliberately exaggerate it and doubt ourselves. But guess what? We can conquer these challenges!

People are both fearful and curious about the unknown, and that's a good thing! When you encounter a problem in the future, take a deep breath and think about why it happened, what impact it will have on you, what solutions you can think of, and whether you can ask others for help. Learn to break down problems, clear away the layers of mystery, and gradually figure out the truth. You've got this!

Many knowledge and abilities are acquired from not knowing to knowing, and then to flexible application. It is not scary to encounter problems, and you should not scare yourself. You can do it! Although it may seem foolish to move mountains, it is not impossible. You can do it! The same is true in life.

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Hello? Question owner, I can tell you're feeling confused and helpless. Let me give you a warm hug, okay?

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You're 23, which is the prime of life. What's on your mind? Are you feeling lost because you think other people are carefree and you're not as good as them?

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Just because someone seems carefree doesn't mean they aren't facing their own challenges. We all have different pressures and responsibilities at different stages of our lives. It's possible that what seems like carefree attitude is simply a facade.

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Take a moment to think about whether your biggest source of frustration and concern is your work. If you were to feel more satisfied with your work, would your overall mood improve?

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You've already noticed your state. Awareness is the first step to making a change. You're in luck because we can help. I suggest you take some time to chat with one of our listening experts on our platform. If you can, find a psychological counselor, too. They can help you release the irritability inside you! Once you've done that, you'll find your inner peace increases.

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I've been there. When you're facing a challenge, it can feel like you're stuck in a dark place with no way out. But I've found that difficulties are often just temporary. There's always a silver lining!

It's possible that this age group is experiencing pressure from relationships and work, which is totally understandable!

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Before I learned about psychology, I would get pretty wound up and confused when things happened to me. Now I can handle things better. Psychology can make a big difference. You can also watch the TV series "Female Psychologist" (女心理师) when you have time. This TV series has helped a lot of people.

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If you have a moment, I'd recommend reading the book The Power of Self-Growth. If not, you can always listen to it on audio. Either way, it's a great reminder to accept yourself for all your different sides. When you do that, you'll see that the world isn't as bad as you thought!

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We all grow in an upward spiral, and nothing is plain sailing. We've all been through storms and hardships, and nothing is ever easy. There are definitely still difficulties! If you're free, go for a run, take in the beautiful scenery, or meet up with a good friend for a chat!

I wish you the best of luck! I hope my sharing can be helpful and inspiring for you. Let's do this!

I can feel your pain, despair, and suffering, my friend. It's like a mighty river that just keeps rolling in, and there's no quick fix. At the same time, some of your character and ways of dealing with things outside of the situation may also need a little TLC.

It's totally normal to feel like you're going crazy inside! It's okay to take some time for yourself to figure out what's going on. You can find out what your current state is, whether the other person and others are giving you a hard time, and whether there are already too many cracks in your family of origin. It's important to think about all this carefully, but don't compare yourself with others too much.

Even though others may seem happy, they've probably faced a lot of difficulties too. It's all about attitude and problem-solving skills. You can really get to know your current state of mind.

It's totally normal to feel like you're going crazy inside sometimes. We all get irritable and cry when we're feeling overwhelmed. It's just your body's way of telling you that you need a break. When we're tired, it's more likely that we'll feel angry or sad, and it might make us think of some bad things.

I really think you should seek psychological counseling as soon as you can. If you don't want to do that, you can try talking to a counselor one-on-one. I also think you should take the Life Foundation Color Psychological Test to help you understand yourself better. It might be that there are still some things you need to face up to.

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