How can you go after your passion without any reservations when you are always afraid to go all out?

Good morning, host.

I am seeking to assist you and to receive your feedback from letmefly.

The issue that the original poster has raised is significant and indicates that the original poster still has some expectations of himself. I would like to offer the original poster my support and encouragement at this time.

The original poster's question pertains to career planning, which is a crucial topic. It is not a straightforward matter, and there is no simple answer. However, there are a few points that the original poster may wish to consider.

In career planning, selecting the optimal path may be more crucial than simply choosing the one you prefer. In "Leapfrog, the Art of Becoming a Master," a classical teacher notes that it's essential to initially pursue a role in a high-value area, even if it's not your personal strength. This approach ensures a relatively secure position even if you don't perform to the best of your abilities. However, if a job aligns with your passion but isn't in a high-value sector, you may only have a limited opportunity for advancement, even if you excel in the role.

This is an example of a proactive mindset. With the right approach, even a seemingly unsuitable position can be an opportunity for growth.

Secondly, if you choose the correct career path, you can focus your efforts and gain deeper expertise, thereby becoming a market leader. You may have heard of the 28% rule, which states that 20% of the global population earns 80% of the income.

I respectfully disagree with your assertion that young people should pursue their passion without reservations. Passion is only meaningful in retrospect. Without experiencing it firsthand, it is impossible to determine whether a particular interest is truly one's greatest passion. Career planning literature emphasizes the importance of trying, feeling, and experiencing various interests and career options. Only through experience can one truly understand one's vocational preferences.

It is often recommended that individuals pursue careers aligned with their strengths or passions. However, both Li Xiaolai's "The Road to Wealth and Freedom" and the classical book "Leap" advocate identifying societal trends. For instance, the classical teacher who taught GRE vocabulary at New Oriental eventually transitioned to career planning. Similarly, Mr. Li Xiaolai initially focused on teaching English writing but shifted to writing about vocabulary. These career choices were not driven by passion or strengths, but rather by addressing the needs of the people he served.

Naturally, individuals have disparate plans for their lives. Some aspire to a simple, unhurried existence, which is a perfectly valid choice.

It is my hope that this will prove useful to the original poster, provide a channel for feedback, and generate attention and engagement.

Hello, question asker!

It's tough to give advice in just a few words, especially when you're trying to encourage someone to follow their heart. But I'm happy to share a few thoughts with you. I hope they'll help you see more possibilities when you're feeling confused.

Hey there! Have you ever heard of a polymath?

When I read in the article that you say you have "wide-ranging interests" and "give the impression of being multi-talented," the word "polyglot" popped into my head, which refers to an erudite person who has dabbled in research in multiple fields. Throughout the ages, there have been countless such capable and ambitious people. A little farther back, there was Leonardo da Vinci, who was knowledgeable in many fields, excelling in painting, sculpture, invention, and architecture, and well versed in mathematics, biology, physics, astronomy, geology, etc. More recently, there is Elon Musk, who is not only the CEO of the electric car company Tesla that we are familiar with, but also has loved programming since childhood, holds degrees in economics and physics, earned a doctorate in materials science and applied physics, founded a company that publishes online content, a company that provides online financial and email payments, a solar energy company, successfully launched the world's first rocket built by a private enterprise, and led the research and development of the human brain chip. Wow, what a guy!

It's totally okay if you're interested in lots of different things! "More and broader" and "deeper and more refined" are not opposites, and they are not like "the fish and the bear's paw" that you can't have both.

[You'll only know what you're passionate about after trying all the flavors of the world!]

From what you've said, it seems like you've already found something you're really passionate about! It's great that you're interested in so many different things. However, it seems like you're not quite ready to "devote yourself to it with all your strength and throw yourself into it without reservation." I think that sometimes, not devoting all your strength to something may also indicate that it's not quite as attractive as you thought, and perhaps the extent of your true passion is not what you think it is.

You didn't mention your age in the text, but it's totally normal for likes to change with age and experience. After experiencing more and making comparisons, people can more easily discover what they really like and what they're good at. So, your wide range of interests and your enjoyment of learning new things may be signs that you're on the path to discovering what you really love!

[Achievements come from having doubts]

We all love reading about characters in novels who are carefree and do things without any worries. But in reality, everything comes with a cost. We have worries because we evaluate the risks and results of doing something, taking into account our own abilities. If the cost of trial and error is acceptable, then we might as well give it a try! If the risk exceeds expectations, then being cautious is also a kind of protection for ourselves.

You mentioned that you "always find an escape route for yourself," which is also a sign of your concerns. If you'd like to be more courageous than you are now, you could try changing "escape route" to "Plan B."

If the original plan is too risky, don't give up! Instead, come up with a gradual and progressive plan to make it work.

I really hope the person who asked the question will be able to make the most of their strengths and live a wonderful life!

It would be beneficial to make sharing a regular practice. I am speaking to myself on this matter.

Today, we will discuss the topics of "interests" and "passion." Please do not think about answering the question deliberately; rather, consider this a conversation.

Interest can be defined as a positive emotional state towards a particular subject or activity.

The concept of love is relatively straightforward. It signifies that we have invested our emotions in something beyond a mere level of liking.

Interest is a key factor in achieving success in any undertaking.

It is a common experience to have different attitudes towards the same matter. Sometimes we approach it with positivity, and at other times with resistance. When we adopt a positive stance, it is not necessarily because we are enthusiastic about the task at hand. However, it is still less disagreeable than a negative approach.

When we encounter an obstacle, it is often because we have a negative perception of the task at hand. By actively addressing the matter from a constructive perspective, we can view it as an opportunity to align our personal interests.

Have you ever considered your strengths and weaknesses? You will likely excel at the tasks you enjoy. This is because you are naturally more dedicated to tasks you are interested in. It is not that you are not skilled at tasks you dislike, but rather that you are less invested in them. When faced with a task you are interested in, you will complete it without prompting. However, when faced with a task you dislike, even with encouragement, you may not achieve the same level of success.

In our lifetime, you may have many interests, just like the questioner, with a wide range of interests. This is a highly desirable quality, and a wide range of interests can make a person's life more vibrant and multifaceted.

The absence of a hobby in one's life can evoke a sense of monotony and lack of fulfillment.

It is beneficial to have a wide range of interests. However, if you focus on the fact that you cannot excel in all of them, it can lead to self-limiting beliefs. Having interests is a positive aspect of personal development. If you have the time, dedicate attention to the things that interest you and take a break from other activities.

Instead of attempting to excel in all of your interests, you are merely adding to the stress of your already multifaceted life. Furthermore, the notion of treating all of your hobbies as a serious endeavor and performing them to the best of your abilities is illogical and unreasonable.

Hobbies are an enjoyable pursuit that can be integrated into one's daily routine without compromising work responsibilities. Adding a bit of fun to one's life is beneficial, but it's crucial to maintain a balance and avoid becoming overly invested.

The term "love" is often perceived as an appealing concept. It has the potential to evoke strong emotions and feelings of passion in an instant. However, it is important to recognize that love is a quality that can only be experienced, not actively expressed.

From childhood to adulthood, we have read many articles in which the word "love" is used to describe a wide range of positive sentiments, including love of one's country, love of one's fellow citizens, love of one's work, and love of life. This naturally leads to the question of what level of achievement can be considered "love." It is also likely that you will find it challenging to identify a word or sentence that can fully capture the essence of what it means to love.

As the adage goes, "You love what you like." You have a plethora of interests and things you like, so why not settle down and embrace them?

It is essential to consider whether these interests genuinely align with your preferences. If the answer is affirmative, it is possible to pursue them with the confidence that comes from genuine interest and passion.

As the questioner stated, there is no need to be concerned about the future. There is no problem with transforming interests into skills that will allow you to succeed independently. The questioner is currently uncertain about which interest to pursue as a skill that will enable them to thrive.

If you select option A, you are concerned that you will be unable to master it.

You are not experiencing a lack of interests; rather, you have a plethora of interests and are uncertain about where to begin.

To be frank, you lack self-assessment and do not have a precise concept of your own interests. It is, in fact, a natural human tendency to turn one's interests into a survival skill if one is able to do so. However, you lack the discernment to distinguish between your interests, which you use to kill time, and those that can be built upon. If you were to put in a little effort to turn them into survival skills, you would be unable to tell the difference. To be blunt, you are full of interests and skills.

In conclusion,

Because you are enthusiastic about it, you are motivated to succeed.

I am providing you with this sentence once more for your consideration.

Please distinguish.

Please identify your interests.

Which of these interests could be transformed into survival skills?

Please determine which of these items are your interests and which can be transformed into survival skills.

I am confident that you can succeed.

Your affinity for this task is evident.

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, Coach Fei Yun.

I can see you're confused and unsure. You need to decide whether you should develop your wide range of interests and hobbies into strengths or leave room for more options.

I'm glad to share and discuss this topic with you. Let's look at it from the following two aspects:

1. Discover your talents and make your own judgments.

Your strengths are broad interests and a knack for picking things up quickly. You've found your talent—the ability to acquire new knowledge.

Talent must meet three conditions: it requires less study time than others, it is particularly fulfilling, and it is self-empowering and tireless.

"Every day you don't dance is a day you waste your life." We all come into the world with our own mission, and that mission is "talent."

Finding your talent should be a happy and exciting experience. However, "what others say" about doing something to the extreme causes internal conflict. You must decide whether to focus on doing one thing well or to pursue a wide range of interests and develop more skills.

This is a classic scenario: a husband and wife traveling on a donkey. A passerby says, "That's cruel, you're tired the donkey out," and the husband and wife walk away with the donkey. A passerby says, "Silly, you have a donkey and you're not riding it."

Life is our own, and we must take control. We can use the opinions and suggestions of others as a reference, but we must not let them affect the direction of our own lives.

2. Set a phased plan for yourself.

I want to know if your current work is related to your interests and hobbies. Is it just a simple hobby, accumulating some raw data, and enriching your life and improving your competitiveness by cultivating and learning new skills?

In your text, you mentioned your worry about not doing well in the future. I see two meanings: 1. a lack of self-confidence, or true self-confidence, where you don't need to prove yourself in everything because you are convinced of your own value, full of confidence in yourself, and naturally full of confidence in the future.

Second, you are worried that you won't be able to do it well and won't be liked or accepted by others. This is your chance to stop leaving yourself an escape route.

When we see the above phenomena and reasons for them, we have more options. We only live once, and we should live it on our own terms.

You can make a difference. Be yourself, do what you like, delve deep, or just dip your toe in. You'll feel at peace with whatever choice you make.

Morgan Freeman and another veteran actor made a very classic movie, "The Bucket List," that I highly recommend to you. Be brave and live for yourself.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you, and I love you.

If you want to continue the conversation, click "Find a Heart Coach" in the lower right corner to chat.

When I hear you say, "I can't fully commit to something I'm passionate about because I'm worried that if I don't succeed, I can always switch to something else,"

I'd say this is a bit like when a child discovers something that interests them and gets really absorbed in it. They're just curious and want to explore. They don't think about whether there'll be a brilliant result. They just enjoy being absorbed in their studies!

If a parent with realistic anxieties intrusively interrupts the child and judges what the child is doing by his own standards, this can distract the child and make them feel like what they're doing isn't valuable.

Kids can get frustrated when their parents set unrealistic expectations, which can make it harder for them to enjoy the process and lose sight of the joy of exploration.

I think your "dare not" may be due to the pressure of expecting meaningful and valuable results. If you can feel this pressure, you can try to enjoy the process more when doing something you love, and feel your growth and gains in the process, without worrying about the result.

At the end of the day, you've already gained happiness and growth, regardless of the result.

Good day, To whom it may concern,

I am a listener. I am at a loss for words at the age of 40, and I am grateful for this opportunity to meet with you.

I commend you for your diverse interests, enthusiasm, and rapid learning pace. I believe that each new skill you acquire initially seems novel and interesting, but over time, you tend to lose focus and become proficient in a wide range of areas without specializing in any one field.

There may be one or two areas of interest where you would like to gain further knowledge, but there are often concerns that prevent you from doing so. I appreciate your situation and would like to offer you my support.

First and foremost, it is encouraging to see that you already have a passion and interest in something. This puts you ahead of many individuals in terms of having a clear direction and focus.

I believe that the most crucial aspect of our lives is to first ascertain our core objectives.

It is important to note that with the acquisition of any new skill, there is a period of novelty and interest at the outset. However, as proficiency is gained, the task may become less engaging and challenging. If you are apprehensive about the prospect of repetition and boredom after the initial excitement, and are concerned about your ability to perform the task, it may be necessary to accept this reality.

We cannot predict what the future holds. Regardless of the outcome, the process itself will bring value.

Similarly, if we simplify our view of life, we see only two major events: birth and death. However, if we examine the process more closely, we find that life is filled with a multitude of experiences, both positive and negative, that contribute to its richness and vitality.

Secondly, I believe there is also a sense of urgency associated with this concern. For instance, if you are pursuing a particular interest with the intention of securing employment in the future, you may have concerns about the potential for success.

If you were to imagine that you were in this profession, continuing to learn and reaching a high level, and then three years later, what would you be doing? If you were to freeze a picture of your future, what would it look like?

Would you be interested in pursuing this path?

By employing this line of thinking and leveraging your industry expertise, you can enhance your confidence.

Finally, each of us is influenced by our family of origin. In most cases, the mentality of the questioner is due to their parents' approach to education, which is often overly positive but lacks genuine companionship. This can result in a lack of security and support, making it challenging to pursue one's true self.

If you require assistance in this regard, you may wish to consider seeking the guidance of a professional, such as a qualified counsellor or therapist, or alternatively, you may find it helpful to engage in online discussions on relevant platforms.

I am a certified Yi Xinli writer, an enthusiastic answerer, a psychological listener, an offline counselor, a health manager, a nutritionist, and a traditional Chinese medicine health preservation specialist. I am dedicated to helping you learn and grow, and to sharing my experience to support others.

I hope my answer is helpful.

The original poster is self-aware and knows her pattern: she's afraid to throw herself into something she's passionate about. You worry that if you don't do well in the future, you can always do something else. Many skills don't weigh you down.

You want to know how to go after your passion without any worries. I can show you.

Here are some thoughts you should consider:

You can become aware of this belief in yourself and discover when it started and who influenced you to have this belief.

We have these worries because other people don't necessarily have these worries.

Our worries and the thoughts that lead to them are not without reason. They are related to our upbringing, and we developed these beliefs as a result of the influence of significant others or our own personal experiences.

You can go back and review your own growth experience to find out exactly when you started to have these thoughts. Did someone in the family say something like that and you agree with them?

When you see this, you will understand yourself and why you think this way and have these worries. At the same time, you will also see that this is just a belief, an idea, and it can be changed.

2. We can and will change our limiting beliefs and thoughts and adjust them to a model that is more suitable for the current self.

You don't like the current model. You want to follow your passion without any worries.

We can adjust our thoughts and beliefs to make us behave in the way we want. It's simple: positive beliefs lead to positive behavior, while negative beliefs lead to negative behavior. Beliefs have a significant impact on behavior.

If you believe that "if I don't do well in the future, I can still do something else," you are essentially telling yourself that you are likely to do poorly in the future. This will prevent you from going deep into what you love because you don't believe you can do well.

If we adjust our beliefs and change them to "I believe I can definitely do a good job, I am safe, and I am doing something I love, which in itself is a kind of success and happiness..." it will feel different. We will be more able to persevere and become more determined in our actions.

If you want to devote yourself to what you love without any worries, you must believe in yourself and have a positive belief in it. Only then can you act more actively.

3. No choice is perfect, but we must take responsibility for our choice.

If you love something and like an industry, but don't want to go deep into it, you'll only be able to learn very superficial knowledge and skills. You'll also have a lot more time to research other things. If you choose to persist in going deep into an industry, you'll need to face the various difficulties you encounter in the process. You'll also lose a lot of time to research other things.

Some people will choose the former, knowing a little bit about everything, but not willing to delve deeply into a particular industry. Others will choose the latter, choosing one industry to delve deeply into and willing to face the various difficulties and challenges that in-depth learning requires. There is no right or wrong, just different choices.

We must understand that we cannot choose the former's ease and lack of in-depth learning and want the latter's senior experience and ability. Similarly, we cannot choose the latter's seniority and professionalism and want the former's ease and breadth.

We must choose what we want and accept the consequences. If you're willing to bear the consequences, choose that path. Mr. Yu Minhong chose Oriental Selection and is willing to accept the consequences, even if they result in a huge loss. The same is true of senior psychological mentors and counselors in our psychology community. They are willing to persist through the difficulties and challenges of this path, even if it means losing other opportunities.

That's all for now. I'm confident this will be helpful. Take care!

Hello,

Host:

After reading the post, I can tell that the poster is aware of themselves and can understand their own feelings. I also see that the poster has faced their own doubts and looked for help on the platform. This will help them understand themselves better and make changes to become a better version of themselves.

Next, I'll share my observations and thoughts in the post, which might help you gain a more diverse perspective.

1. Think about what's holding you back from fully committing to something you love.

In the post, it was noted that the poster mentioned I often find excuses for myself and am reluctant to fully commit to something I'm passionate about, worrying that if I don't succeed, I can always try something else. From this description, I noticed that the poster mentioned the worry that if you don't succeed, you can always try something else.

I'd like to ask the original poster, what does it mean to you if you don't do a good job?

I can always do something else. How does that make you feel? Does it make you feel safer?

These are things we can think about, and the answers to these questions may help us understand what's holding us back. For example, some people would rather not do something perfectly than do it imperfectly because it will protect their self-esteem.

If he does it and it doesn't go well, he'll be disappointed. But if he doesn't do it, he can say he didn't do it because he couldn't do it.

If I put my mind to it, I know I can do it. From a psychological standpoint, our actions are a reflection of our mental state. There's a psychological motivation behind our behavior.

For the host, it might be helpful to explore the hidden psychological motivation. This can help us understand ourselves better and make better adjustments.

2. The Delete Method

In the post, I saw that the poster said you have lots of interests and you learn new things quickly. It seems like the poster has a great talent for learning.

Sometimes, we may also be troubled by this because there may be too many choices and we're not sure how to make a choice.

So for you, the host, you can make a list of all your hobbies and interests and then use the delete method to get rid of the ones you don't think are that important. This might help you figure out your inner self better.

3. Take action

Our emotions are just emotions. They affect us, but not in a big way. And often what gets in the way of our emotions is what we do.

There's a saying that the best way to treat anxiety is to act. Let me tell you a story about myself. When I first started doing live broadcasts, I had a lot of anxiety and worries before the broadcast.

I was aware of it, but when we act on these emotions, after the action is over, these emotions still exist, but they don't have the same impact on me.

So for you, the original poster, you might want to consider acting with emotion. By acting and constantly investing ourselves, we can go deeper and further in our favorite fields.

I hope these are helpful and inspiring for you. I'm Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach.

If you have any questions, you can also click on Find a Coach to get in touch with one of our coaches via a one-on-one chat service.

Good day.

After reviewing your comments, I was struck by the realization that the diversity of personalities is one of the most appealing aspects of the human experience.

I perceive the questioner's envy of others' versatility, which may result in an inclination to emulate the actions of others to the greatest extent possible.

"Deeply cultivating in a field" is a strategy that many high-performing individuals employ, as evidenced by the numerous short videos you can find online.

However, it is important to note that the video is only five minutes long, which makes it challenging to fully capture the nuances of a person's life journey. While it offers glimpses of the individual's experiences, it is difficult to gain a comprehensive understanding of their background, resources, and the influence of their family of origin.

The phenomenon of the "comparative mind," which is aroused by the short video, can be described as an information cocoon.

If you can identify a solution, you will find a way forward.

As long as I maintain a positive outlook, I will continue to appreciate my strengths. If I feel constrained by external factors, I will support the visitor in identifying and addressing these issues, respecting their autonomy and decisions.

The questioner expressed concern about potential future success, indicating awareness of underlying apprehension. The questioner's primary concern seems to be the ability to perform well in the future.

The issue is not the envy of others.

The underlying reason may be that you received relatively little recognition as a child. Or that after receiving praise, you had to work hard to maintain it, and you were exhausted, and then received another negative comment with a significant shift in tone.

This has resulted in your ability to recover and adapt.

It is essential to assist individuals in identifying their own sources of confidence. This approach is not stereotypical and is a key factor in fostering genuine personal growth and development.

It is essential to tap into your own resources and seek guidance from a teacher who can facilitate an in-depth exploration of your inner self.

It is likely that you have experienced moments of fulfillment in your daily life. Could you please describe what you were doing and how you felt at the time?

I would like to hear your story in detail.

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